Jesus said, "I did not come to change the law but to fulfill it".  When He spoke of the commandments and love, He is not giving us anything new, he is quoting Deuteronomy and Leviticus.  Our understanding of love should not be about attraction and desire but more importantly for the good and betterment of the other individual.  If you really love someone you would do anything that would keep them from their own good.  Do not lead the one you love into sin.  Listen to this episode to learn more.