selfreparenting

A raw truth about relationships

You might meet someone who promises you forever after. Somewhere along the lines they drop the dream for another. It is not personal. It is relational. Something they did not want showed up in the system. It is something for you to learn from.

Someone you meet might spend time with you and say they do not want a relationship. After breaking up with you, they might get married to the next person. It is not personal. They did not see a future with you specifically!

Your partner might not be willing to accept some of your choices. When you break up they accept the same choices from a new partner that they did not accept from you.

You might be with someone who cannot give up something you dislike. Yet, the moment you break up, they give that thing up for the next relationship.

You might want something that your partner says they are not interested in. Then when they move on, they will be immersing themselves in this thing with another person.

All these situations depend on inspiration! The inspiration depends on the dynamic and timing. The dynamic or the way people show up can affect the decisions partners make in a relationship. It therefore helps to be conscious of how we are showing up in any situation.

Upon reflecting and following observations, people can change their minds.

A partner might meet someone who inspires them rather than make them feel compelled to do something.

They might meet someone who is not attached to outcomes and therefore want to pin them down!

The bottom line for any aware person is to look for a situation where they maintain peacefulness.

If a situation with you is not promoting peace of mind, a partner might want to escape. Peacefulness does not only require healthy communication. It also takes into account conflict of choices, pressure, freedom of choice and timing.

Your partner might not want something with you, but that does not mean they might not want this at all with someone else. They might just be looking for the right situation not a person.

What helps is not to feel as if this is a reflection of your worth. It is a lack of compatibility, coupled with lessons you can learn about loving yourself, learning to do healthy relationships, letting go and trusting the process. If you are in a situation where you are not on the same page about something, take the initiative to leave. Yes, initiate a break-up now! You do not need to wait for them to look for their forever after while you still entertain them.

Value yourself and open up the space for the right situation.

Meanwhile focus on your relationship with you, with your immediate circle. You will meet your person! No one person is your last chance!

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