Day 23 April Intentional Healing

Why you react or has the need to act on something urgently

Anxiety, Urgency and Control

Do you need to do anything right now. To decide right now. Or to take action right now. Is this a life and death situation or is it your anxiety? Can you not wait or can you allow time to process the situation? To act from a place of clarity. Aggression towards a partner or children. Being reactive towards children. Do they benefit or do you even benefit from this behaviour? What are you teaching, what are you inspiring in a partner? Is your behaviour promoting love and connection. Or are you pushing people away and making your children fear you?

1. Daily Evaluation Ask yourself these questions What have you done differently today? What creativity have you explored? Who inspired you today? How did you love yourself with five love languages today? What can you do differently tomorrow?

2. Grounding activity today

Counting backwards before bed or when triggered

To anyone new

Start self-care with SIFTSEM. Morning Gratitude , meditation, deep breathing, Carthartic shake, affirmations, self-hugs, tapping, cathartic shake and setting an intention.

Throughout the day Mindfulness Segment intending Boundaries Less complaining Laughter Forgiveness. Kindness Healthy eating Exercise SIFTSEM

Night Bed time reflection What can you improve, learn from your day.

Welcome to SIFTSEM

Siftem number. Date 23/04/2022

Evaluation of last SIFTSEM

Letting go of guilt and writing a reflection.

Intention of the week

Significance or accomplishments of the day:

Intention for the day :

Self-care needs met: Gratitude. Meditation. Affirmations. Deep breathing. Vision Board. Catharsis. Exercise. Socialise. Boundaries. Journal. Random Kindness.

1.Pause and take 15 deep breaths. 2.Distress temperature from 0 (calm) to 10 (very distressed)

3.Trigger

4.Pre-triggers Old. History . Recent triggers List self-care today? S I F T Root cause- One to 5 whys. Up to 3 quite useful

Why to your key issue or dominant thoughts=A Why to answer to A = B Why to answer to B= C Why to answer to C= D Why to answer to D =E E & X = Root cause = Unmet need 10.Meeting needs.

Immediate solutions:

5 love languages and 5 senses : hugs, rocking, calming oils, gratitude, affirmations, thought replacement and role reversal

Intermediate Solution.

Love on three levels Self-care

Second level

Third level

Long-term Solutions.

Distress temperature

Evaluation on intention and developmental needs

SIFTSEM TOOL- Sensations, Images, Feelings, Thoughts, Soothing, Endorphin Release, and Meeting Unmet Needs.: A solution focused emotional-regulation and cognitive restructuring tool for triggers. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08TQCYC7G/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_XXRY91QWKMGGNXE0ESMX

Heal your inner child to connect with yourself!: Self-reparenting to strengthen the self-connection for quality life! https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08W3F34WG/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_76CBEMWTNGCESPRA0HWX

Love on three levels: Finding love in the right places https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08W7SQ5HY/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_1AWP8NGYT7ZSGJKS25PV

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