From the Ashes: Recent Episodes
Marc Azoulay
Meet triumph and disaster and treat those two imposters the same.brbr As a culture we have been lied to about what it truly takes to be great. We are inundated with stories of natural-born heroes and overnight successes. Triumphs are magnified while defeat is hidden. We are sold on this idea that either we are talented, or we are not, either we have grit or we do not and either we are going to make it or we will not. Our heroes and celebrities seem so distant from us and represent an unattainable goal.brbr So often we are hamstrung by their own mental models and emotional barriers. They are constantly holding ourselves back from blossoming into the people we are meant to be. In this program you will hear raw stories of triumph and defeat from people just like you who have beaten the odds and have gotten back up, from the ashes. From the Ashes is broadcast live every Friday at 11 AM Pacific Time on the VoiceAmerica Empowerment Channel.
In today's episode of Men's Therapy Podcast, host Marc Azoulay sits down with Dr. Robert Glover. He is the renowned author of "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and a leading expert on men's issues. Dr. Glover discusses his transformation from a "nice guy" to promoting genuine masculinity. He now advocates for building healthy relationships based on authenticity.
Dr. Glover's story begins with his relationship struggles. He realized that being "nice" wasn't serving him well. He shares how his second wife's ultimatum pushed him to seek help. This experience inspired him to write his groundbreaking book. As a therapist and through personal experience, Dr. Glover noticed patterns in men who were "too nice." He saw how these behaviours held them back. To address this, he developed strategies to help men break these self-defeating habits. His work now focuses on empowering men to embrace authentic masculinity.
The Shadow Side of Nice Guy SyndromeDr. Glover delves into the darker aspects of Nice Guy Syndrome. He explains that nice guys often aren't as nice as they believe themselves to be. This leads to the development of toxic masculinity over time. He explains that behind their pleasant exteriors, these men often conceal resentment. They may also display passive-aggressive behaviour. Some may even struggle with violent impulses. The root of this behaviour lies in toxic shame and anxiety developed in childhood.
"Nice guys have this shame and this anxiety. And what they do, the way that it, the way there, the particular neuroses of nice guy syndrome shows up is through two ways. One, trying to become what we think other people want us to be, to be liked and loved and get our needs met. So, we're chameleons," Dr. Glover explains.
Identifying Needs and WantsOne of the key challenges for nice guys is recognizing and expressing their own needs and wants. Dr. Glover offers practical advice for men struggling with this issue. He advises men to start by recalling activities they enjoyed as a child. He guides them to focus on their basic needs as well as emotional needs. Men need to understand the distinction between needs and wants. By practising giving to yourself instead of always giving to others, this can be achieved.
Dr. Glover emphasizes the importance of "cooperative reciprocal relationships" in meeting one's needs. He encourages men to surround themselves with people. And resources that can help them fulfil their needs and wants in a mutually beneficial way.
Role of Women in Men's DevelopmentWhile the focus is primarily on men's growth, Dr. Glover addresses the role women can play in supporting nice guys' development. He suggests that women can offer constructive feedback when necessary. They can be supportive and reinforcing when men make efforts to change. They can work on being better listeners and more attentive to men's emotional cues. But, Dr. Glover stresses that the primary responsibility for change lies with men themselves.
Future of Men's DevelopmentDr. Glover expresses optimism about the future of men's development. He notes the increasing availability of resources and communities for men seeking growth. He envisions a new generation of men who are more conscious and open-hearted. They are powerful and fierce, yet connected. They are in touch with their dark side and are joyful and receptive in life.
"We're gonna make a fucking dent in the universe. We're gonna make a difference in this world. And, I see that happening," Dr. Glover enthuses.
ConclusionThis episode of the Men's Therapy Podcast offers invaluable insights for men looking to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome. It offers guidance to develop healthier, more authentic relationships. Dr. Glover's decades of experience and wisdom offer hope for men struggling with these issues.
He highlights the importance of taking responsibility for one's needs and wants. Men must recognize the value of cooperative reciprocal relationships. This allows the need for men to step into their role as conscious, open-hearted leaders. Dr. Glover's optimism about the future of men's development is infectious. He envisions a generation of integrated men who can make a significant positive impact on the world.
As we look to the future, it's evident that the work of overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome is more relevant than ever. There is a rise in passivity among younger generations. Hence there's a growing need for resources and communities. Ones that can guide men towards a more authentic and fulfilling expression of masculinity.
By seeking out supportive group therapies, men can work towards becoming more integrated. They can become authentic versions of themselves. This will benefit not only their own lives but also their relationships and the world around them.
About Dr. Robert GloverDr. Robert Glover is a renowned psychotherapist, author, and speaker. He has dedicated his career to helping men overcome Nice Guy Syndrome. He guides them to develop healthier relationships. His groundbreaking book, "No More Mr. Nice Guy," has sold millions of copies worldwide. It has been translated into many languages.
With over 30 years of experience in the field, Dr. Glover has become a leading voice in men's personal development. He holds a Ph.D. in Marriage and Family Therapy. He helps men healthily tackle relationship dynamics. He has worked with thousands of men to help them break free from self-defeating patterns. And embrace their authentic selves.
Besides his clinical work and writing, Dr. Glover leads workshops, seminars, and online communities. This includes his men's program called 'Integration Nation'. His approach combines psychological insights with practical strategies. This helps men to become more confident, assertive, and fulfilled in all areas of their lives.
Resources Discussed"No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover
Integration Nation men's program
Dr. Glover's website
No More Mr. Nice Guy Website
Connect with Dr. Robert GloverLinkedIn
YouTube
In today’s episode of Men's Therapy Podcast, host Marc Azoulay sits down with Mauricio Verduzco. He is a therapist specializing in men's issues and cultural dynamics. Verduzco has a unique background. Having lived in both Mexico and the United States, he provides a rich perspective. He discusses the complexities of masculinity across different cultures.
Verduzco shares his personal journey: "I never quite felt like I fit in for various reasons. My family moved around a lot when I was growing up... Before I landed in Austin, Texas, I had lived in like 17 different cities, bouncing around between the U.S. and Mexico." This experience of straddling two cultures shaped Verduzco's understanding of masculinity. It helped in understanding its cultural variations.
He recalls, "The examples I had of masculinity at home were very healthy ones. My dad was not a man's man... I was kind of allowed to express my masculinity, but I felt I needed to." Yet, Verduzco notes that the world outside his home was not as accepting. He highlights the tension between personal expression and societal expectations of masculinity.
Cultural Dimensions of MasculinityVerduzco's presentation on machismo sparked interest in masculinity across cultures. It led to broader discussions on global masculinity. He explains:
"In Mexico, in the bigger cities, masculinity was much more... metrosexual. The more masculine guys were guys with really well-neat and done hair, their button-up shirts were done quite nicely... It was normal for dudes to have like manicured hands."
This contrasts sharply with his experiences in Texas: "The more masculine guys are the ones who don't appear to put as much effort into the appearance... Seeing somebody with muddied up boots was usually more of a status symbol."
These observations highlight how cultural context shapes the expression and perception of masculinity.
Toxicity of Traditional MasculinityVerduzco breaks down toxic masculinity into three key tenets:
- Power and Dominance: "You have to use whatever tools you have at your disposal to get power. To be a dominant figure in whatever space you're in."
- Toughness: "Men have to be tough, tough it out. We have to be self-sufficient. We're not allowed to ask for help."
- Anti-Femininity: "Everything that isn't overtly masculine is feminine, so it's bad."
He emphasizes how these rigid expectations can be harmful. Mauricio highlights, "Unfortunately, some cultures ingrain the toxicity of masculinity. Into our cultural identity."
Redefining Masculinity for Better Mental HealthVerduzco advocates for a more inclusive and expansive definition of masculinity. He emphasizes the need for support groups. Mauricio says, "I would love for masculinity to be redefined as one where it's... not restrictive. Where if you want to wear nail polish, it's masculine. If you want to have a very traditional appearance, it's masculine."
Mauricio highlights the importance of emotional intelligence. Men and emotions go hand in hand for a healthy life. Emotions must not be ignored. He stresses the importance of recognizing both achievements and the journey towards them. One should encourage human connection and emotional awareness as integral parts of masculinity.
ConclusionAs society continues to evolve, so too must our understanding of masculinity. Mauricio Verduzco's insights offer a path forward. It honors cultural heritage. And also embraces a more inclusive expression of manhood. Challenging harmful stereotypes and promoting genuine self-expression helps men build healthier relationships. This leads to improved mental wellbeing. It benefits men across all cultures.
About Mauricio VerduzcoMauricio Verduzco is a licensed therapist. He specializes in men's mental health and cultural issues. He has a unique background spanning both Mexican and American cultures. Verduzco brings a nuanced perspective to his work on masculinity and emotional well-being. He currently practices at the Tree of Life Counseling Center. He focuses on helping individuals from marginalized backgrounds. Particularly men who struggle with traditional notions of masculinity.
Verduzco draws on his own experiences with different cultural views of manhood to shape his approach. His work aims to challenge toxic masculinity while honoring cultural heritage. He is promoting a more inclusive expression of masculinity. Verduzco helps men build healthier relationships with themselves and others. He promotes emotional awareness and genuine self-expression. His work is done through therapy and education. He is committed to improving men's well-being.
Resources MentionedTree of Life Counseling Center
Root of It (nonprofit)
Psychology Today (Mauricio’s profile)
Connect with Mauricio On:Email: mauricio@treeoflifecounselingcenter.org
Website
In a world where the role of fathers is constantly evolving, Larry Hagner stands out as a beacon of wisdom and guidance. He is the host of the popular Dad Edge podcast and author of "The Spirit of Fatherhood." Larry has spent over a decade exploring the intricacies of modern masculinity and parenting. In today's episode of the Men's Therapy podcast, Larry shares his journey. He offers a candid look at the challenges and triumphs of fatherhood.
Larry's story begins with a tumultuous childhood, marked by divorce and abusive relationships. "I started thinking, I was like, wait a second. Like I know about the birds and the bees and this dude came around when I was four. So like, where did I even come from? I had no idea," Larry recounts. This early experience shaped his determination to break the cycle and become a better father and husband.
Larry's journey to becoming a parenting expert wasn't smooth sailing. He admits to breaking promises he made to himself about being a good father. "I spanked my four-year-old who's 16 now and I did a total anger and a reactionary. I just lost my patience," he confesses. This moment became a catalyst for change, pushing Larry to seek knowledge and resources to improve his parenting skills.
Creating Psychological SafetyLarry emphasizes the importance of creating an environment where children feel safe to be themselves. "We call it an environment of psychological safety where kids can be themselves. They can be fully who they are without fear of blame, pain, judgment, or guilt," he explains. This approach fosters open communication and trust between parents and children.
The Marriage-First ApproachOne of Larry's controversial yet powerful insights is prioritizing marriage over parenting. "I'm married first and I'm a father second," he states. Larry believes that a strong marital relationship sets the foundation for effective parenting. It helps to model healthy relationships for children.
Tailoring Parenting StylesLarry stresses the importance of understanding each child's unique needs. He focuses on adapting parenting styles accordingly. "We have four boys, and all parented differently," he shares. Larry highlights the need for flexibility and observation in parenting.
Power of ConnectionThroughout the interview, Larry emphasizes connection's crucial role in parenting and marriage. "Without connection, we have no influence," he explains. Larry underscores the importance of building strong relationships with both children and spouses.
Embracing SpiritualityLarry's journey also includes a deepening of his spiritual life. He credits with enhancing his role as a father and husband. "I finally understood all these things that my kids were asking. All the questions that I had that I didn't know the answers to," he reflects on his spiritual growth.
ConclusionLarry's journey and insights offer a compelling roadmap for modern fatherhood and masculinity. He emphasizes the importance of continuous learning, emotional intelligence, and adaptability in parenting. Fathers can nurture their children's growth by building strong connections. Adapting their parenting to each child's unique needs helps meet individual needs. Prioritizing the marital relationship also strengthens the family dynamic. Hagner's story shows that becoming a better father is an ongoing process of self-reflection. It also involves continuous learning and personal growth.
The spirit of fatherhood, as Hagner describes it, is about more than just being present or providing for your family. It's about creating a nurturing environment where children feel safe, loved, and guided. This involves being vulnerable enough to admit mistakes. And strong enough to keep learning. It is about recognizing the profound influence fathers have on their children's lives. By embracing these principles, fathers can break negative cycles. They can create a lasting, positive impact on future generations.
Hagner's insights remind us that being a great father isn't about being perfect. It's about building strong connections and growing as a parent. Above all, it's about staying committed to your family. By prioritizing our marriages and embracing spirituality, we can build strong families. Modelling positive behaviours helps raise resilient children. This prepares them to face life's challenges with confidence and compassion. The journey of fatherhood is challenging, but with the right mindset and tools, it can be one of the most rewarding experiences a man can have.
About Larry HagnerLarry Hagner is the founder of the Dad Edge, host of the popular Dad Edge podcast, and author of "The Spirit of Fatherhood." He has over a decade of experience in the masculinity and parenting space. Larry has interviewed countless experts. He has helped thousands of men become better fathers and husbands. He has done this through his podcasts, books, and coaching programs. His journey into fatherhood education began from a place of personal struggle. Having grown up in a challenging family environment with many divorces and abusive relationships. This background fueled his determination to break the cycle. It made him become a better father and husband than the models he had growing up.
Larry's approach to fatherhood focuses on personal growth and emotional intelligence. It also emphasizes spiritual development. He emphasizes the importance of creating psychological safety for children. He emphasizes prioritizing marriage while parenting. He focuses on tailoring parenting styles to each child's unique needs. Larry's work extends beyond just fatherhood, encompassing marriage, personal development, and spirituality. Larry continues to guide men in their journey to become more present, connected, and effective fathers and partners.
Resources MentionedThe Dad Edge podcast
The Dad Edge website
"The Spirit of Fatherhood" book by Larry Hagner
Connect With Larry OnEmail: larryh@thedadedge.com
Website: https://linkin.bio/thedadedge/
Ryan McKelley is a professor at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse. He is at the forefront of men's mental health research and education. McKelley's expertise in clinical psychology, adds valuable insights to discussions on masculinity. His coaching focuses on men's emotional well-being. In this episode of the Men's Therapy podcast, host Marc Azoulay explores McKelley's journey. He shares McKelley's insights on modern masculinity.
McKelley's personal story highlights the challenges many men encounter with masculinity. His experience reflects the complexities of these struggles. As he grew up, he experienced both traditionally masculine and feminine activities. Despite this, he felt pressure to conform to certain ideals. The expectations around him shaped his view of masculinity. He focuses on internal gender roles. Ryan says, "I was an athlete, but I wasn't in like the team baseball or football or basketball," he shares. "I think I was always even aware that those weren't even kind of as masculine sports go."
McKelley became aware of gender expectations early in life. His struggles with depression deepened this awareness. These experiences motivated him to research men's mental health. "I suffered a pretty significant depressive episode in seventh grade," he reveals, "and probably about every 10 years... I would have benefited from seeking help."
Unpacking Male DepressionMcKelley's research shows how men experience and express emotional distress. His work emphasizes the distinct challenges men face in dealing with their emotions. He explains, "Girls and women are socialized to internalize their mood symptoms... Men tend to externalize." This externalization can manifest as:
- Distraction through video games or overworking
- Substance use
- Irritability and anger
- Denial of emotional struggles
"Nobody knew I was depressed," McKelley admits, reflecting on his own experiences. "I was a master at hiding it." This ability to mask depression is common among men. It often leads to a buildup of emotional distress that can have serious consequences.
Challenges of Male VulnerabilityMcKelley focuses on the challenge many men have in showing vulnerability. He introduces the concept of the"male emotional funnel." He explains that societal expectations limit the emotions men feel comfortable expressing.
"We all come to the world with a full range of human emotions," McKelley states. "And then through adolescent development, it's like a funnel at the end. There's only like a couple that we, society let them have."
This restriction of emotional expression can lead to what McKelley calls "mask depression." Men become adept at hiding their emotional struggles, often at great personal cost.
Redefining MasculinityMcKelley advocates for a more flexible, or "malleable," approach to masculinity. He explains, "Masculinity has just gone in all these different directions... it changes based on all these different levers." This understanding allows for a more nuanced and compassionate view of men's experiences.
He emphasizes the importance of teaching men mindfulness and self-compassion. He says, "Being able to experience physical sensations, thoughts, emotions, and then even our physical surroundings non-judgmentally and with curiosity." This approach can help men develop greater emotional intelligence and resilience.
The Way ForwardMcKelley emphasizes the importance of a more compassionate approach to men's mental health. He argues that viewing emotional growth as bravery, not weakness, can encourage more men to improve themselves.
"We need to figure out ways to develop that," he says. He refers to compassion and empathy for men's experiences. He advocates for teaching men self-compassion. This involves showing them how to apply self-kindness. And a sense of common humanity to themselves. "By doing this, men can better practice self-compassion," highlights McKelley.
ConclusionRyan McKelley's insights provide a guide for understanding the unique challenges men face today. His work helps address these issues. He promotes a flexible view of masculinity. He emphasizes emotional intelligence can improve men's mental health. Emphasizing self-compassion is also crucial. Together, these approaches create a healthier, more supportive environment for men's personal growth.
About Ryan McKelleyDr. Ryan McKelley is a professor at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse. He specializes in men's mental health and masculinity studies. He has a PhD in clinical and counselling psychology. Dr. McKelley has dedicated his career to understanding the challenges faced by men. His coaching and research focus on male depression. He guides on resistance to help-seeking behaviours. He emphasizes the development of more flexible approaches to masculinity.
Besides his academic work, Dr. McKelley is an accomplished speaker and educator. He has delivered a TED talk on men and masculinities. He also works in the corporate sector. He has collaborated with major companies like Google and Walmart through Lyra Health. He aimed to improve workplace mental health initiatives. Dr. McKelley uses a multifaceted approach to men's mental health. He combines academic research, clinical practice, and corporate consulting. This blend of methods establishes him as a leading expert in masculinity studies. His work focuses on men's emotional well-being.
Resources Mentioned1. Helping Boys Become Connected Men -Ted Talk by Ryan McKelley 2. University of Wisconsin-La Crosse - where Ryan teaches 3. "The Masculine Self" by Chris Kilmartin and Andrew Smiler - Ryan uses in his courses 4. Ryan's website 5. Ryan's LinkedIn
Connect with Ryan On:Website
In this episode of the Men's Therapy Podcast, we sit down with Eric Gee. He is a renowned author and a life coach. He developed a groundbreaking personality types system based on "animal personality types’. Eric has a diverse background, including experience with major companies like Disney and Hulu. He is running a creative space called, Utopia Creatives in Los Angeles. He offers valuable insights into understanding personality types. He focuses on how they influence personal and professional lives. His expertise helps people leverage these insights for meaningful transformation. Eric discusses the importance of recognizing neurodiversity in the workplace. He highlights its crucial role in understanding different personality types.
"People are different than how society or your social circle of friends reads them," Eric shares. His early lessons from his father sparked his lifelong interest in personality. This foundation led Eric to develop a system that goes beyond the popular Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). It is based on the ‘Animal personality types’. It offers a more dynamic and accessible approach using animal archetypes. His book, "The Power of Personality" explores this methodology. That makes such personality types relatable and actionable for all.
Understanding Personality Types in the WorkplaceOne of the central themes of Eric’s work is understanding the impact of personality types on teamwork and leadership in the workplace. Recognizing how different people process the world helps teams work together efficiently. This understanding fosters cohesion, even when members disagree.
"When you know why someone is acting a certain way, it makes it easier to work with them," Eric explains. His system categorizes people into four main "packs" based on core values. Such as safety, excitement, self-knowledge, and information. These packs are further divided into sixteen personality types. They help leaders and team members alike navigate complex workplace dynamics.
Eric explains that "Foxes," who thrive on excitement and risk, differ from "Beavers," who value rules and structure. Understanding these differences can prevent misunderstandings. This insight fosters a more productive work environment. This approach is particularly valuable in diverse settings like the tech industry. Places like these recognize neurodiversity as a strength.
Role of Personality in Self-Awareness and Mental HealthEric's system provides valuable insights for personal development and mental health. These insights extend beyond the workplace. It is particularly for men who may struggle with societal expectations around masculinity. "The stag personality type is what men are told they should be. Confident, structured, responsible," Eric notes. Yet he emphasizes that this archetype only fits about 12% of men. This may leave many feeling inadequate or lost.
Eric's work encourages men to embrace their true personalities. Whether they align with the "Stag," "Fox," or even the more introspective "Shaman" or "Smith" types. This self-awareness can be transformative. It can help men to understand their strengths and weaknesses. It can guide them to approach life with greater confidence and authenticity.
Creating a Space for Personal GrowthEric's Project Utopia is a physical manifestation of his philosophy. It’s a place where people can explore their personality types. It allows people to work on personal development in a supportive, community-oriented environment. Whether you're a "Butterfly" seeking artistic expression or a "Shark" looking for a new challenge, project Utopia offers a space where all personality types can thrive.
ConclusionEric Gee's personality typing system is more than just a tool for understanding others. It is a pathway to self-awareness and personal growth. Recognizing and embracing our true selves helps us build stronger relationships. It helps us lead more effectively. It also makes navigating modern life easier.
About Eric GeeEric Gee is a multifaceted professional with a background in life coaching, writing, and corporate team dynamics. He is the author of The Power of Personality. It is a book that explains his unique system of personality types. It uses animal archetypes to make complex psychological concepts more accessible. Eric's work has been implemented in major corporations like Disney and Hulu. He has helped teams improve their efficiency and communication. He has done this by better understanding each other's personalities.
Besides his corporate work, Eric runs Project Utopia. This creative space offers workshops and events. They are designed to help people explore their creativity. They help them connect with their true selves. Eric's approach to personality types is not only about categorizing people. It is about helping them grow and thrive in both their personal and professional lives.
Resources Mentioned* The Power of Personality: Unlock the Secrets to Understanding Everyone in Your Life - Including Yourself by Eric Gee * Project Utopia
Connect with Eric On:LinkedIn
Website
Discover how dog psychology can lead to anxiety relief and personal growth. Brady Foulk discusses positive reinforcement and mindfulness for dogs and people.
Today's episode of the Men's Therapy Podcast features Brady Foulk. He is an innovative dog trainer revolutionizing our relationship with our four-legged friends. Foulk's journey into dog training began with a personal challenge. It was a mischievous puppy that seemed impervious to traditional training methods. "I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't give him up," Foulk recalls, reflecting on his early struggles. "Like I would do whatever it takes to find the trainers. And to find the thing that's aligned with me of who I am and what I wanted to train."
This commitment led Foulk to discover a unique approach to dog training. It not only transformed his relationship with his pet. But also offered profound insights into human behaviour, emotional support, and personal development. Foulk explains, "I empower puppies, dogs, and their owners. To have more success at home and around town while having fun while playing games." Brady Foulk's methods emphasize positive reinforcement and mindfulness. These techniques extend beyond pet training. They offer lessons for anxiety relief, leadership, and parenting. His approach provides valuable insights into various aspects of life.
Psychology Behind Effective Dog TrainingBrady Foulk roots his dog training approach in understanding canine psychology. He emphasizes clear communication and positive reinforcement. He avoids using intimidation or bribery. "Positive is not permissive," Foulk states, addressing a common misconception about his methods. "There's still rules and routines."
Foulk's training philosophy centres on three key pillars:
- Coming when called (for safety)
- Place and crate training (for security)
- Walking on a leash (for generalization of behaviours)
Foulk helps dogs and their owners build strong communication. This foundation fosters mutual understanding. This approach improves the dog's behaviour and enhances the owner's leadership skills. It also boosts the owner's emotional intelligence.
Applying Dog Training Principles to Human RelationshipsFoulk's work is intriguing because it applies dog training principles to human relationships. This approach is particularly useful in parenting and leadership. It shows how skills learned with dogs can benefit interactions with people. "If you can recognize your patterns and again, find this stimulus gap and response. And that's all a pattern is, is there something that triggers you. And then there's a response and there's a consequence," Foulk explains.
This pattern recognition is crucial in both dog training and human interactions. Understanding these patterns helps people improve their responses and relationships.
Dog Psychology as a Tool for Anxiety ReliefFoulk's methods have shown remarkable potential for anxiety relief. They work not only for dogs but for their human companions as well. He describes how to train dogs to provide emotional support. Brady highlights, "I train a lot of dogs only to lick people's hands when they start feeling anxiety. And dogs can smell anxiety."
This support can help people with anxiety or PTSD. Foulk is partnering with organizations to provide emotional support animals to veterans. He focuses on the therapeutic potential of the human-canine bond.
Mindfulness and Personal Growth Through Dog TrainingThe process of training a dog can also be a powerful tool for personal growth and mindfulness. Foulk highlights that caring for an animal helps people focus beyond themselves. This is crucial for overcoming suffering and achieving personal development.
"As soon as you can start getting your mind on like, what does this animal need? What do other people need? You get out of suffering because you're thinking bigger than yourself," Foulk explains. This shift in focus can be transformative. It can help individuals develop greater empathy, patience, and self-awareness.
ConclusionBrady Foulk's innovative approach to dog training offers far more than well-behaved pets. Understanding dog psychology provides insights into personal behaviour. It helps develop stronger leadership skills. It also offers effective tools for anxiety relief. Foulk's methods improve relationships between dog owners and their pets. They also offer valuable insights for personal growth and mindfulness. His approach highlights the link between animal behaviour and human psychology.
About Brady FoulkBrady Foulk, a pioneering dog trainer, has transformed canine psychology and behaviour modification. His unique approach has revolutionized the field. Foulk has a background in personal development and a passion for animal welfare. He developed a training method that transforms dogs. It also enhances the lives of their human companions.
Foulk's journey into dog training began with his challenges as a pet owner. It started with him training a very difficult puppy. This experience led him to explore innovative training techniques. He developed a system based on positive reinforcement and clear communication. It fosters mutual understanding between dogs and their owners. His approach goes beyond traditional obedience training. It incorporates elements of mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and leadership development.
Today, Foulk is a respected dog trainer. He is also a thought leader in animal-assisted therapy and personal growth. He partners with organizations to provide trained emotional support animals to veterans. His work highlights the impact of the human-animal bond on mental health. This partnership showcases the benefits for veterans' well-being. Foulk shares his insights through training programs, online courses, and public speaking. He shows how dog psychology principles apply to human relationships. His work also covers personal development and anxiety relief.
Resources Mentioned:New Direction Dog Training (website)
YouTube
Connect with Brady on:Instagram
YouTube
In a world where young men often struggle to find their place, Patrick McHeyser is blazing a trail through the wilderness. He is the founder of Odyssey Adventures. Patrick is on a mission to help young men connect with their masculinity. He aims to guide them in developing crucial life skills. His approach focuses on the power of nature and survival training.
On the latest episode of the Men's Therapy Podcast, host Marc Azoulay sits down with Patrick. They discuss the transformative impact of wilderness experiences. The conversation focuses on how these experiences affect mental health and personal growth. Patrick has a background in primitive skills training and a passion for mentoring. He shares his journey from being a troubled youth to becoming a respected leader. Today, people recognize him for his work in male mentorship programs.
"I was that kid who was always getting into trouble," Patrick recalls. "But when I discovered wilderness survival, it was like finding a key to unlock my potential. Suddenly, I had purpose, direction, and a sense of accomplishment that I'd never experienced before."
This revelation led Patrick to dedicate his life to helping other young men find their path through the challenges of modern life. Through Odyssey adventures, he offers a unique approach to personal development. He combines elements of life coaching, rock climbing, and primitive skills training. This blend sets his program apart from others.
Power of Survival Skills in Building ConfidencePatrick emphasizes the impact of learning survival skills. He highlights how these skills can boost a young man's self-esteem. The development of these skills plays a crucial role in building confidence. "When you can start a fire with nothing but sticks and your own determination, it changes how you see yourself," he explains. "These skills translate into everyday life, giving guys the confidence to tackle any challenge."
Connecting Mental Health and Outdoor AdventuresOne of the core principles of Patrick's approach is the connection between mental health and time spent in nature. He notes, "There's something about being in the wilderness that strips away all the noise of modern life. It forces you to confront yourself and your issues head-on."
This confrontation, while sometimes uncomfortable, proves to be therapeutic for many participants. The combination of physical exertion, skill-building, and natural surroundings is powerful. It creates an environment that fosters personal growth. This setting also encourages self-reflection.
Role of Male Mentorship in Personal DevelopmentPatrick stresses the importance of positive male role models in the lives of young men. "Many guys today are growing up without strong father figures or mentors," he says. "Our programs aim to fill that gap. Providing guidance and support through the challenges of becoming a man."
Odyssey provides one-on-one mentoring and group activities. This creates a supportive community for young men. In this environment, they can learn from each other and from experienced leaders. This approach helps participants develop emotional intelligence. It leads to building communication skills and a sense of belonging.
Bridging the Gap Between Primitive Skills and Modern LifePatrick focuses on wilderness skills but also highlights their relevance to everyday life. "The lessons learned in the wild don't stay in the wild," he asserts. "We see guys taking their newfound confidence and applying it to their relationships, careers, and personal goals."
The program includes elements of life coaching. This helps participants translate their wilderness experiences into practical insights. These insights then become actionable plans for personal and professional growth.
ConclusionAs our conversation with Patrick McHeyser comes to an end, one thing is clear. His unique approach to male mentorship is making a significant impact. His work in personal development is also leaving a lasting mark. Patrick combines survival skills, wilderness immersion, and mental health support. Through this approach, he helps young men navigate the challenges of modern life. His work empowers them with confidence and purpose.
For those interested in personal growth, Patrick's programs offer a path to self-discovery. They also provide opportunities for empowerment. This innovative approach can help individuals explore their potential. As he puts it, "Sometimes, you have to get lost in the wilderness to find yourself."
About Patrick McHeyserPatrick McHeyser is the founder of Odyssey Adventures. It is a program dedicated to empowering young men through outdoor adventures and survival skills training. Patrick has over two decades of experience in primitive skills and wilderness survival. He has become a respected figure in experiential education. His work in male mentorship has also earned him recognition.
Patrick’s transformative experiences in nature have inspired him. He has made it his life’s mission to guide young men. His goal is to help them achieve self-discovery and personal growth. His unique approach combines traditional wilderness skills with modern personal development techniques. This creates a powerful framework for building confidence. It boosts resilience, and emotional intelligence in today's youth.
Resources Mentioned:Odyssey Adventures
NOLS (National Outdoor Leadership School)
Connect with Patrick on:Website
Explore the impact of terminal illness on men and mental health and relationships. Learn from Sheila Clemenson about coping with terminal illness.
When life falls apart, our resilience makes us rise again. In today’s podcast,we dive into the complex intersection of men and mental health and terminal illness with guest Sheila Clemenson. She is a certified career and grief wellness coach. She explains about the mental health retreat for grief and loss. Clemenson reflects on her personal journey of supporting her first husband through his battle with ALS. She discusses various aspects of ALS support. She offers a raw and honest look at the emotional toll of caregiving. She focuses on how to keep a relationship strong in the face of a devastating diagnosis.
"I married him knowing that he was sick," Clemenson reveals, highlighting the depth of her commitment. Her story is one of love, resilience, and the harsh realities of being a spouse caregiver. She recounts her experiences, from the initial shock of diagnosis to the gradual progression of her husband's illness. Clemenson describes the emotions and relationship challenges of caring for a terminally ill partner.
The conversation is touching on crucial aspects of men's grief and vulnerability. Clemenson describes her husband's struggle to maintain his identity and independence. She says, "Grant did not want anyone to know in our community that he was ill. He did not want people treating him differently," She sheds light on the common tendency among men to conceal their struggles. Even in the face of terminal illness.
Navigating Life's Transitions Clemenson is guiding listeners through the various stages of her journey. She highlights the importance of therapy and support systems in coping with grief and loss. She shares how these resources were crucial in her own healing process . And how they helped in rebuilding life after loss. She discusses the impact of such transitions on her and men and their mental health. She offers guidance and support for all who go through grief in a relationship.
"I had an amazing therapist," Clemenson states. She highlights the importance of professional support during life's most challenging transitions. Her story is serving as a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit. It is an epitome of the transformative power of love and support in the face of unimaginable hardship.
Emotional Toll of CaregivingClemenson shares her caregiving experiences. She highlights the emotional challenges that are often overlooked. "I had gained a dependent child, man child, so to speak," she says. She describes the shift in her relationship dynamic. This honest admission shows the complex emotions caregivers often feel. Such as frustration, guilt, and exhaustion. She focuses on finding strength after loss.
Clemenson is also addressing the importance of maintaining one's identity while caregiving. "If I could go back and do it over again, I would have been Grant's wife instead of his caregiver," she reflects. She emphasizes the need for balance and self-care in caregiving relationships.
Men, Vulnerability, and Terminal IllnessThe podcast is exploring the unique challenges men face when confronted with terminal illness. Clemenson's account of her husband's attempts to push her away near the end of his life is illustrating the complex ways men may struggle with vulnerability and dependence.
"He tried to push me away like seriously, like three months before he died," Clemenson recalls. This behavior, she suggests, stemmed from his desire to protect her from his pain. It was his way of shielding himself from the discomfort of being dependent. The discussion is shedding light on the need for greater understanding and therapy for men. Especially for those who are grappling with serious illness and end-of-life issues.
Men and Mental Health: Highlights of Today’s podcast1. Sheila emphasizes the crucial role of support systems in navigating grief and loss. "If I hadn't built the support systems that I did, including a phenomenal therapist, I would have never made it through to where I am today," she states. This underscores the need for comprehensive support. Especially professional therapy, during times of crisis. 2. Clemenson's experience highlights the difficulties of keeping a terminal illness secret. "Keeping something so devastating a secret is challenging," she admits. This point shows how secrecy can add extra stress for both the ill person and their caregiver. She urges for people to focus on therapy for men. 3. Despite the hardships, Sheila's story is one of remarkable love and resilience. "It's a testimony to resilience and the power of moving forward, but the pain of moving forward." She explains as she describes her journey of rebuilding her life after loss. 4. Clemenson’s honest thoughts on being a wife and caregiver reveal the complex dynamics in these roles. Clement states, "I would have been Grant's wife instead of his caregiver." She underscores the importance of maintaining relationship identities even in caregiving situations. 5. The podcast shows how men often find it hard to be vulnerable in relationships, especially during illness. Sheila's account of her husband's attempts to push her away near the end illustrates this challenge. She highlights the need for better support and understanding for men facing terminal illness.
ConclusionSheila’s story of love and loss provides insights into the complex interplay between men's mental health, caregiving, and grief. Her experiences underscore the importance of support systems. She focuses on therapy and open communication in navigating life's most challenging transitions. As society continues to grapple with issues of men's mental health and terminal illness, stories like Sheila's serve as both a guide and a source of hope for those facing similar challenges.
Resources Mentioned"Over the Rainbow: From the Depths of Grief to Hope"
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Our guest, Carlos Davidovich, has run men's groups in Argentina and Spain for decades. He comes on the show to talk about cultural differences in masculinity and how Spanish cultures gel with the messages in Iron John. Carlos's Links:www.carlosdavidovich.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/carlosdavidovich/Get the Book! Iron John by Robert Bly:https://amzn.to/4fixRPr
Across all cultures spiritual and philosophical texts talk about the importance of uniting the internal masculine and feminine energies. An awaken person has access to the multitude of their humanity rather than being confined into an emotional box. Our guest, Dené Logan, comes on the show to ground this spiritual concept and provide step-by-step direction on how to access the entirety of your being.Dené's Links:https://denelogan.com/https://www.instagram.com/dene.logan/Get the Book:https://amzn.to/3W8R0uv
On this episode of the podcast our guest, Philip Botha, comes on the show to talk about building a healthy workplace culture. He'll detail how to cultivate a culture from hiring, to policy creation, meeting structure, and incentives. The workplace of the future looks more like a community rather than a military unit and Philip is on the cutting edge of bringing humanity to the workplace without sacrificing productivity. Philip's Links:https://cultureadvantage.co.za/https://www.linkedin.com/in/rpbotha/Book a Free Coaching Intro w/ Philip:https://calendly.com/time_with_philip/30min
While this show focuses on depth psychology and coaching there is a role for more traditional mental health treatment in an individual's healing journey. Our guest, Max Higa, is the clinical supervisor at Peak View Behavioral Health - a psychiatric hospital. He'll share how the industry has modernized and when to pursue hospitalization when in a mental health crisis. Max's Links:https://peakviewbh.com/https://www.facebook.com/PeakViewBehavioralHealth/
Beth Kurland has helped people overcome and work through difficult emotions for the past 30 years. She has developed a system that build 6 inner vantage points within the psyche to analyze and work through problems. On this episode she'll detail each of these vantage points and help you to access them during times of stress.Beth's Links:https://bethkurland.com/Twitter: @drbethkurlandInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.bethkurland/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beth-kurland-ph-d-b2a7a7115/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BethKurlandPhDGet the book!https://amzn.to/3VojrUQ
Beth Kurland has helped people overcome and work through difficult emotions for the past 30 years. She has developed a system that build 6 inner vantage points within the psyche to analyze and work through problems. On this episode she'll detail each of these vantage points and help you to access them during times of stress.Beth's Links:https://bethkurland.com/Twitter: @drbethkurlandInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.bethkurland/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beth-kurland-ph-d-b2a7a7115/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BethKurlandPhDGet the book!https://amzn.to/3VojrUQ
MTO therapist, Desmond Cohen, comes back on the podcast to provide commentary on how reality TV can be a vehicle to study gender norms. He'll describe how the contemporary ideals of masculinity have changed over the years by analyzing different seasons of The Bachelor. Tune in for a humorous, yet poignant, look at how the media portrays men.
Our guest today is 3x Memory Champion John Graham. He's competed and won in memory competitions all over the world. However, he has struggled with panic attacks and anxiety that almost cost him his title. In this episode we'll hear John's story of how he overcame his panic attacks and how he helps other high performers do the same.John's Links:https://releasepanic.com/https://www.instagram.com/memoryjohng/https://www.youtube.com/@JohnGrahamUSAMemoryChampion
Mentors can be hard find. So many of the guys that we work with struggle to connect and learn from older men. In this episode, Park Harris, the founder of Junto Global, comes on the show to share about the value of mentorship and how to find a mentor that you respect.Parker's Links:https://junto.global/
Mentors can be hard find. So many of the guys that we work with struggle to connect and learn from older men. In this episode, Park Harris, the founder of Junto Global, comes on the show to share about the value of mentorship and how to find a mentor that you respect.Parker's Links:https://junto.global/
What is grit? And, how does one develop it? Many men are embarrassed by our lack of grit, determination, and discipline. We think it comes naturally and that we either have it or we don't. Our guest, David Ask, turns all of that on it's head and teaches guys how to build grit in their lives - it's a skill that you can learn just like any other. Tune in and learn just how to build more grit in your life.David's Links:https://www.davidask.com/https://statguardplus.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedavidask/https://www.facebook.com/david.ask.18https://www.instagram.com/thedavidask/https://www.instagram.com/statguardplus/
We are not an island. Men need support from other men. Our guest, Rashad Sutton, is a peer recovery coach and works as a business development professional for Raleigh House, a substance abuse treatment center in Denver, CO. He is passionate about connecting men in recovery with other guys who are on the same path. Join us as we talk about the importance of community in the healing process.Raleigh House of Hope:https://www.theraleighhouse.com
We are not an island. Men need support from other men. Our guest, Rashad Sutton, is a peer recovery coach and works as a business development professional for Raleigh House, a substance abuse treatment center in Denver, CO. He is passionate about connecting men in recovery with other guys who are on the same path. Join us as we talk about the importance of community in the healing process.Raleigh House of Hope:https://www.theraleighhouse.com
Each of us carry limiting beliefs - we're not smart enough, strong enough, or skilled enough. Our mind is full of can't, won't, and never. Our guest, Max Rosencrantz comes on the show to show us how to break through these mental barriers and become the man that we know we are meant to be.Max's Links:coachmaximum.com. rockymountainrites.combouldermenswork.comBreak through the belief - I'm not good enough:https://maximum-rosencrantz.mykajabi.com/opt-in
The authoritarian style of leadership is on it's way out. People just expect more. They want someone that inspires them, motivates them, and cares about their success and wellbeing. In this episode, our guest Donald Bialkowski, will share how to become a relational leader - someone who leads by influence and compassion.Donald's Links:www.onpurposementoring.comwww.facebook.com/alignedonpurposewww.instagram.com/aligned_on_purposewww.youtube.com/@alignedonpurposewww.tiktok.com/@aligned_on_purpose
On this episode we'll take a cold, hard, look at the reality of drug addiction and recovery. Our guest, Ryan Penley will share his story of reaching rock bottom and having to build back from nothing. You'll learn some of the lessons and wisdom that Ryan gleaned from this experience and why it's important to look into that brutally honest mirror.Ryan's Links:Ryanpenley.orgmyrockbottomrecovery.comhttps://www.facebook.com/myrockbottomrecovery
On this episode we'll take a cold, hard, look at the reality of drug addiction and recovery. Our guest, Ryan Penley will share his story of reaching rock bottom and having to build back from nothing. You'll learn some of the lessons and wisdom that Ryan gleaned from this experience and why it's important to look into that brutally honest mirror.Ryan's Links:Ryanpenley.orgmyrockbottomrecovery.comhttps://www.facebook.com/myrockbottomrecovery
Shadow Work involves confronting the parts of ourselves that we deny - our aggression, our sexuality, our grief, or our sensitivity. Our guest, Jason Lange, is a men's coach that specializes in helping guys access and heal their shadows. Through men's groups and retreats he brings a light to the darkest parts of ourselves.Jason's Links:https://evolutionary.menhttps://www.instagram.com/evolutionarymen/
As our understanding of neuroscience grows we are discovering that there are significant differences in how people perceive and process the world. This is called Neurodiversity and it covers things like Gifted, 2e, ADHD, Autism, and Dyslexia. Our guest, Dr. Matthew Zakreshi is an expert in this field and comes on the show to shed some light on this emerging field.Dr. Matt's Links:https://vimeo.com/drmattzakreskiwww.facebook.com/drmattzakreskihttps://www.theneurodiversitycollective.com/
The Hero's Journey has resonated with men for time immemorial, it's a map for men to follow on their path towards meaning. Our guest, Bodhi Aldridge, specializes in guiding men through the trials and tribulations of becoming. He shares his background in yoga, men's work, and the lessons that he learned from his divorce. Tune in to hear how one man became a hero.
On this episode we're joined by Joel Bouchard, the host of the philosophy podcast From Nowhere to Nothing. We'll lean into his philosophical roots and try to understand the concept of masculinity from the bottom up. What is masculinity? How do we create it? And how do we give it meaning?From Nowhere to Nothing Podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/7fmjw6bjyuz4uCictzjbZlJoel's Music:https://open.spotify.com/artist/4k3k07P0kUJScZmGZJLtEm
On this episode we talk with Alain Dumonceaux, the Founder of the Awakened Man Movement. He uses the wisdom from story and myth along with his experience of competing in the Culinary Olympics to help guys begin their own personal hero's journey. Tune in to hear how to embrace your Inner King and start taking back your life.Alian's Links:Web: https://www.theawakenedman.net/FB: https://www.facebook.com/theawakenedman.netIG: https://www.instagram.com/theawakenedman2020/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCg8DCH78anx-r7KZEU8Eclw
On this episode we'll interview Dr. Steven Lesk who has a groundbreaking theory that weaves evolutionary evidence with neurological findings. His conclusions promise to forever change the lives of the mentally ill by generating much-needed cultural dialogue about this stigmatized illness, and ultimately by provoking new psychiatric and pharmacological research.Steven's Links:https://stevenleskmd.com/books/footprints-of-schizophrenia-the-evolutionary-roots-of-mental-illness/
On this episode of the show we chat with Dr. Erik Korem, a High-Performance thought leader that introduced sports science and athlete-tracking technologies to collegiate and NFL football. He has worked with the National Football League, Power-5 NCAA programs, gold-medal Olympians, Nike, and the United States Department of Defense. He'll share how to build, maintain, and cultivate agility in both body and mind. Erik's Links:https://www.instagram.com/erikkorem/https://www.linkedin.com/in/erikkorem/https://www.aim7.com/Adaptation Newsletter:https://2phy5spjj37.typeform.com/to/LByA2Oj7
As our society and culture are rapidly changing many men are left confused about their role. What seemed so simple - advance your career, make money, protect your family - no longer works. Men are being asked to be more emotional, more nurturing, and more flexible. Our guest, Magda Kay, is an intimacy expert and certified Tantra teacher that helps men evolve and expand their definition of masculinity.Magda's Links:https://magdakay.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/magdakayhttps://www.instagram.com/magdakayofficial/
Our guest, Nico Lagan, is the powerful voice for traditional masculine values. He pulls from ancient wisdom and religious texts to provide a tried and true definition of masculinity. What makes Nico stand out is that he shares this traditional view without being toxic. He speaks to the male role of provider, protector, and leader in a way that inspires rather than shames. Nico's Links:https://nicolagan.com/
In this episode our guest, Jocelyn Eve, will talk about male survivors of trauma. We'll break down how toxic masculinity seeps into this world as well - with the only valid trauma victims being soldiers or first responders. Jocelyn aims to make space for men who have been victims of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, and physical abuse. Join us as we talk about this important subject.Jocelyn's Links:www.jocelyneve.comhttps://www.instagram.com/jocelyneve28/https://www.facebook.com/jocelyneve28/
So many of us have the fantasy of picking up our life, packing and RV, and traveling the country. Well, Rand Wilson did it! In this episode we'll hear about his story and more importantly, the lessons that he learned along the way about fatherhood, minimalism, and adventure. Rand's Links:https://www.thepathtowellbeing.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFkZeHt0MYnLXZ_OnkhS9kQ
In this episode, our guest Aaron Eigler a sex, family, and relationship therapist helps us to breakdown the myths and realities of male sexuality. This taboo topic is overshadowed by locker room talk and the porn industry. We'll talk about the reality of male sexuality, sexual satisfaction, and sexual trauma.Aaron's Links:https://kenosiscounseling.com/
In this episode our guest, Amy Novotny, will teach us about the autonomic nervous system and how to reduce fight or flight in our bodies. Mental health and physical health are deeply intertwined - getting a handle on our bodies will increase calm, stability, and motivation. Join us as we present some bottom-up techniques that can help you beat anxiety and return to center.Amy's Links:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dramynovotny/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-amy-novotny/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anovotn/Twitter: https://twitter.com/amynovotnyazwebsite: https://pabrinstitute.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrAmyNovotny
In this episode returning guest Mitchel Adler opens up about his journey of Masculinity. Over the years he's refined his definition through decades of psychotherapeutic work, organizational consultation, athletics, and fatherhood. Join us as we continue to thread on the definition of modern masculinity.Mitchel's Links:www.mitcheladler.com
In this episode our guest, Zack Blakeney, shares his journey to overcome a 16 year porn addiction. In order to make this change Zack had to take a deep look at himself and make a holistic transformation to not just overcome the addiction but heal through the shame. He'll share his 4 walls of dishonesty: hiding, lying, denying and trying. Zack's Links:https://www.iambornfree.net/freegrouphttps://www.iambornfree.net/getfreenowhttps://www.instagram.com/zackblakeney/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2mGZdzWZ9uS5akeHrQEUVw
In this episode returning guest, Jim Benson, presents a holistic view of male sexuality. We dive into the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of sex and sexuality. Jim's mission is to help men level up their sex life and connect deeper with their partners. Tune in to get the education that you didn't in High School.Jim's Links:https://awakenedmasculine.com
Returning guest and friend of the podcast, Bre Wolta, returns to talk about how men can build safety in their relationships. As a coach that helps women get out of toxic relationships Bre has tons of examples of what NOT to do. In this episode we'll chat about what TO do in order to create a loving and safe environment in your relationship.Bre's Links:IG: lucid.living.with.breFacebook: Lucid Living with Brewww.brewolta.com
Our guest, Nate Riggs, comes on the show to talk about how he used his experience in the Navy to become a leader. He left the 9-5 and started his own business as a real estate agent. He strives to balance the role of provider with the role of father. Tune in to hear how to make it all work. Nate's Links:nateriggsofficial.comyoutube, facebook, instagram, and linkedin all @nateriggsofficial
This is episode we'll interview one of Men's Therapy Online's therapists - Desmond Cohen. We'll not only chat about his journey with Men's Work but his fathers. We'll also dive into how Desmond's experiences with therapy and as a therapist inform his role as a father. The work that we do not only benefits us but carries down the generations. Desmond's Links:https://desmondcohencounseling.com/
This in episode our guest, Aaron Trahan, shares his story of finding meaning after success. Once you've attained the job, the money, and the home - what's next? Aaron will share how a mindset shift is required to find meaning and happiness beyond the external expectations of men.Aaron's Links:https://linktr.ee/aarontrahan
So many men have an unhealthy or compulsive relationship to pornography. In this episode our guest J.K. Emezi shares the story of his porn addiction and presents a pathway out of the cycle. He'll talk about how a full life reboot is required to make meaningful change and reset your sexuality. J.K.'s Links:https://elevatedrecovery.org/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbqaPKeiNW6R6LECHwQkRughttps://www.facebook.com/jkemezi1
Returning guest Silvia Dutchevici, the founder of Critical Therapy, joins the show to talk about Male Privilege, Money, and Power Dynamics. In this episode we talk about redefining and expanding the definition of masculinity to be more inclusive. The goal is to help men expand out of their traditional roles and into more connection and community.
In this episode returning guest Christina Dixon and I chat about some of the challenges men face when entering therapy. We talk about the emotionally suppressive conditioning that men are working against and the challenges in working with a female therapist. We'll also provide some suggestions and solutions for the men out there that are curious about therapy but don't know where to start or what to do.
In this week's episode our Guest Peter Taylor - trainer, business owner, and mentor - talks about building discipline. We discuss how men need challenge to grow and how important it is to do difficult things. Peter shares his story of overcoming porn addiction and grief. He went from a skinny, insecure kid to a competitive body builder; along the way he practiced discipline, resolve, and grit.Peter's Links:https://www.instagram.com/pete_taylor/https://www.awakenedman.org/
Join us for Men's Therapy Podcast Episode 1!I couldn't think of a better guest to have on than my friend and colleague Brad Wetzler. He's traveled the world from Amazonian jungles, Greenland's melting ice cap, the high-tech industrial parks of India, the Indonesian archipelago, and Star City, Russia's center for space travel. He comes on the show today to share his story of growth, healing, and belonging.Brad's Links:bradwetzler.comhttps://www.facebook.com/bradwetzlerwriterInstagram: @bradwetzlerTwitter: @bradwetzler
In this week's episode our Guest Peter Taylor - trainer, business owner, and mentor - talks about building discipline. We discuss how men need challenge to grow and how important it is to do difficult things. Peter shares his story of overcoming porn addiction and grief. He went from a skinny, insecure kid to a competitive body builder; along the way he practiced discipline, resolve, and grit.Peter's Links:https://www.instagram.com/pete_taylor/https://www.awakenedman.org/
Returning guest Susan Bratton, sexologist to millions, comes back on the show to demystify performance anxiety in the bedroom. In this episode we dive into the biological and sociological causes including low testosterone and pornography use. Then she presents some solutions and inspiration to become more connected with your partner, creating a sexual space, and practicing clear (and sexy) verbal communication. Susan's Links:susanbratton.combetterlover.comsexlifebucketlist.com
Join our guest Benjamin Owen, as he talks about overcoming self-sabotage. We'll dive into all the sneaky ways self-sabotage can show up, how to notice it, and what to do about it. We'll hear Ben's journey from the fitness world to co-founding The Awakened Man Project, a community that helps guys level up their lives.Benjamin's Links:https://www.instagram.com/coachbenjaminowen/https://twitter.com/benlloydowenhttps://www.youtube.com/@theawakenedman/videoshttp://www.innerenemy.com
In this episode of the Men's Therapy Podcast returning guest Melissa Barbash is talking directly to the dads out there. We make the case for dads to go to therapy to heal the wounds and trauma of the past. I think it's our responsibility as parents to try to provide the best life possible for our kids. And that's not just material - it's emotional too!
Melissa's Links: www.recovermecounseling.com
In this Episode of the Men's Therapy Podcast our guest Constantin Morun joins us to talk about overcoming barriers to vulnerability. In immigrating to Canada from Romania he had to reexamine his upbringing, his family, and his cultural norms. He noticed how men were ingrained with a fixed mindset and how fear kept them stuck. Constantin learned to unleash himself by adopting a growth mindset.
Constantin's Links: https://unleashthyself.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@unleashthyself https://www.instagram.com/unleashthyselftoday/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unleashthyself https://www.linkedin.com/in/constantin-bo-morun/
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I couldn't think of a better guest to have on than my friend and colleague Brad Wetzler. He's traveled the world from Amazonian jungles, Greenland's melting ice cap, the high-tech industrial parks of India, the Indonesian archipelago, and Star City, Russia's center for space travel. He comes on the show today to share his story of growth, healing, and belonging.
Brad's Links: bradwetzler.com https://www.facebook.com/bradwetzlerwriter Instagram: @bradwetzler Twitter: @bradwetzler
I'm a big fan of designing spaces that invoke a feeling, boost productivity, or create a sense of calm. Our guest, Shana Francesca, is an interior designer that takes this to the next level. She applies what she's learned to life design - creating systems, habits, and patterns that will set you up for success. Join us as we bridge the gap between interior design and life design.
Our brains are constantly being programmed and reprogrammed. Whether it be by our parents, our culture, or ourselves; we are constantly changing. In this episode Janet Elaine Schmit will talk with us about how to use neuroscience and quantum mechanics to hack our brains for success.
Janet's Links https://www.janetelaineschmidt.com https://www.instagram.com/janetelaineschmidt https://www.linkedin.com/ca/janetelaineschmidt
As men, we don't talk candidly about sexual health and performance. We joke and we jab each other and make light of the situation but it's rare to have a meaningful conversation. In this episode of the podcast we'll sit down with Jim Benson, men's sexual health expert, to talk about performance anxiety, sexual dysfunction, and how to take your sex life to the next level.
As men, we don't talk candidly about sexual health and performance. We joke and we jab each other and make light of the situation but it's rare to have a meaningful conversation. In this episode of the podcast we'll sit down with Jim Benson, men's sexual health expert, to talk about performance anxiety, sexual dysfunction, and how to take your sex life to the next level.
Returning guest Corey Flanders joins the podcast to chat about his recent experience with MDMA. He went into the session hoping to clear the PTSD he had from a bad acid trip he had when he was 18. He was asking the question: could a drug help with trauma caused by a drug? Tune in to hear his answer. Corey's Linkswww.coreyjflanders.com
Sam Smith has come back from the ashes. As an alcoholic he hit rock bottom a few years back and had to rebuild. He pulled himself up by his bootstraps and built a marketing agency from scratch! Now, he helps others to do the same. Sam is all about helping progressive companies get their messages out there - tune in to hear his story and get some pointers on how to increase your platform. Sam's Linkssmallbusinesssurgeon.cominstagram.com/smallbusinesssurgeonfacebook.com/smallbusinesssurgeon
In long term relationships it is so common for sexual intimacy to flounder and fade. The spark just seems to die out over time and sex can feel more like a chore than an adventure. In this episode, sex therapist Tara Galeano will join us to talk about how to rekindle that spark. She'll share how to reconnect with your partner and get back to those exciting early days.Tara's Linkshttps://www.facebook.com/TaraGaleanohttps://m.facebook.com/RediscoveringMyBodyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/taragaleano/https://mobile.twitter.com/BoulderSexTherahttps://www.instagram.com/tara.galeano/https://m.youtube.com/user/BoulderSexTherapy/featured
In long term relationships it is so common for sexual intimacy to flounder and fade. The spark just seems to die out over time and sex can feel more like a chore than an adventure. In this episode, sex therapist Tara Galeano will join us to talk about how to rekindle that spark. She'll share how to reconnect with your partner and get back to those exciting early days.Tara's Linkshttps://www.facebook.com/TaraGaleanohttps://m.facebook.com/RediscoveringMyBodyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/taragaleano/https://mobile.twitter.com/BoulderSexTherahttps://www.instagram.com/tara.galeano/https://m.youtube.com/user/BoulderSexTherapy/featured
We were born to move. But, so many of our bodies lose that ability over time as we fall into a sedentary lifestyle. Lindsey, the owner of MOVE Studios Denver, joins us on the show to talk about how dance and movement can heal our bodies and minds. She has facilitated holistic transformations of countless dancers and will share how dancing can bring us back to life. Lindsey's Links:Movestudiosdenver.comFB @MoveStudiosDenverIG: MoveStudiosDenverYouTube: Move Studios
We were born to move. But, so many of our bodies lose that ability over time as we fall into a sedentary lifestyle. Lindsey, the owner of MOVE Studios Denver, joins us on the show to talk about how dance and movement can heal our bodies and minds. She has facilitated holistic transformations of countless dancers and will share how dancing can bring us back to life. Lindsey's Links:Movestudiosdenver.comFB @MoveStudiosDenverIG: MoveStudiosDenverYouTube: Move Studios
Trust is a tricky thing. For some it can be trusting in our abilities, for others it's spiritual surrender. Trust is something that I've personally had a tough relationship with - I struggle to trust others and my environment. Through a ton of therapy work I've come to trust myself but that took time. In this episode, returning guest Melissa Ryan will talk with us about trust, imposter syndrome, and getting too attached to a vision.
The working world is rapidly changing and the traditional 9-5 job is phasing out. People are gravitating more towards, freelancing, consulting, and gig work. Our guest, Rai Cornell, will share her story of creating her freelancing career and then helping others to do the same. She'll also share how she weaves her personal spirituality into her work and retains her sense of individualism and identity in the world of work.
Psychotherapy is a powerful tool that can drill down to an individual's core, examining past trauma, conditioning, and beliefs. However, it can fall short when looking at societal factors such as race, privilege, power, and oppression. In this episode we'll interview Silvia Dutchevici and hear how she expanded psychoanalytic theory to include these larger systemic concepts.
Psychotherapy is a powerful tool that can drill down to an individual's core, examining past trauma, conditioning, and beliefs. However, it can fall short when looking at societal factors such as race, privilege, power, and oppression. In this episode we'll interview Silvia Dutchevici and hear how she expanded psychoanalytic theory to include these larger systemic concepts.
In this episode we sit down with Jacob Winkler to chat about Spiritual Seeking and finding purpose. Jacob has always been a seeker and has studied Eastern Religion, Orthodox Judaism and New Age Mysticism in search of the big Why?
Marriage is a big commitment and a life-changing choice. In this episode returning guest Melissa Barbash, talks about her decision to get married and what it means for her relationship and her deeply held beliefs. Tune in to hear an honest account of her journey to allow and accept love and to value commitment.
We can build mental prisons of our own creation with walls and bars out of limiting beliefs about ourselves and assumptions about the world. Welcome Lion Goodman to the show, who has blasted past his own limiting beliefs and broken out of his mental prison. He'll speak about how to reset your mindset and clear your beliefs.
In this episode we'll sit down with Jem Fuller and talk about the importance of emotional communication for men. As guys, we aren't trained and typically don't value emotional intimacy. We struggle identifying and speaking our feelings and frankly, push away opportunities to express ourselves. Jem will share how he opened up his emotional bandwidth and how he helps other guys to do the same.
In this episode, returning guest Christina Dixon dives into taking the next step in relationships. The two of us are on similar paths of moving in with a partner and considering a life-long commitment. We'll chat about the transition from dating to family, how to keep sexual connection alive, and how we open up that next level of intimacy and trust.
In this episode, returning guest Christina Dixon dives into taking the next step in relationships. The two of us are on similar paths of moving in with a partner and considering a life-long commitment. We'll chat about the transition from dating to family, how to keep sexual connection alive, and how we open up that next level of intimacy and trust.
As I move into the Men's Community space I'm inspired to see that proven models already exist out there! Churches and other religious organizations have been getting men together for centuries and building in initiation and bonding experiences. On this week's episode Miguel Lewis joins us from Florida to talk about his Christian men's group and how they've shaped his life and made him a better person.
How do you know if your relationship isn't working? The new year is a great time to reflect on the important relationships in your life and make meaningful changes. Returning guest and relationship expert, Bre Wolta, comes back on the show to help us to ask the difficult questions. She'll guide us through a relationship audit that will shed light on toxic behavior.
Christine Malek helps women recover from abuse and oppression. Her goal is help them unlock their SASSI - Strong, Assertive, Smart, Sexy, and Independent selves. As a survivor herself, Christine has been through the fire and recovered her independence. Join us as we learn about her story.
One of the biggest leverage points that we can work is our mindset. Our perspective and self-talk can dramatically change our reality. Mindset shapes how we make meaning from vague and chaotic stimuli. In this episode we'll chat with Victor Manzo about how you can create your own idealized dream life from the inside out.
Returning guest Susan Bratton comes on the show again to talk about having a better sex life. In this episode we'll dive into creating your sex life bucket list - peak experiences that you'd like to have in order to be fulfilled. Let's keep talking about sex and dispelling the taboo around this critical topic.
Ex-firefighter paramedic Nick Wingo shares about overcoming PTSD through his breathwork practice. He'll dive into how he learned to build grit and resilience in his life. Tune in to hear from a first-responder hero on how to incorporate grit into your daily life.
Since the late 1990s, the fate of Nazi stolen art has become a cause célèbre. In Belonging and Betrayal, historian Charles Dellheim poses a question at once obvious and overlooked—a question that has, for decades, gone unasked: How did the owners of the stolen art come to have it to begin with? Tune in to learn a bit about Jewish History and how WWII impacted an entire culture.
On this show we talk a lot about mindfulness - paying attention on purpose - and how it's a surefire way to better your life. Imagine if you had learned mindfulness while you were growing up! We'll be chatting with Lindsay Miller who helps children and parents learn mindfulness skills that will benefit them for a lifetime.
In this post-pandemic world the classical structures and norms around work are changing. Companies are adopting the hybrid model, employees are advocating for a better work-life balance, and customers are expecting more. Lynda Gratton, Professor of Management Practice at London Business School, comes on the show to talk about the future of work, what we've learned from the pandemic, and how to adapt to changes in technology and in culture.
So many of us are driven by ambition. And under that ambition is fear - fear of failure, fear of disappointing others, fear of being alone. Our guest, Dr. Mitchel Adler struggled with these drives personally and has spoken about them professionally. In this episode you'll hear about how his childhood stories around success lead him to seek fame and fortune. Then, when the temptations and pressure to sacrifice his values became too much he walked away to keep his soul. Tune in to this week's episode to hear about leadership development, emotional intelligence, and the shadow side of ambition.
In the Buddhist tradition compassionate action is depicted as a sword - a powerful force that cuts through delusion. Wendy brings this sword of compassion to business owners and leaders. After recovering from her own narcissistic tendencies she is more clearly able to see it in others. Tune in to cut through the lies that we tell ourselves.
In the modern world technology management is a critical skill. It's so easy to get pulled into the spin of phone overuse, email addiction, and busyness. Without space in our lives we can be consumed by repetitive behaviors and screen addiction. Daniel Sih works with individuals and organizations to cut through the noise and make more space in their lives. In this episode we'll talk about the importance of solitude, self-reflection, and peace.
Neil McKinlay found meditation during his first career as a swim coach and joined a spiritual community. After committing to the practice and going full-bore into the community he became disillusioned with some of the hierarchical traditions imposed by the leader. In this episode he'll share how he overcame this corruption and struck out on his own path.
Michael Harris has been through it - from a horrible waterskiing accident to a drug addiction to a rare condition where he almost lost his legs! But he kept getting up and moving forward. He learned how to use guerilla tactics to stay agile and make rapid change in his life. In this episode we'll talk about perseverance, spiritual strength, and the power of stories.
It's one thing to talk about diversity on the corporate level but another thing to live in. In this episode Genesis shares her story about encountering organizational racism and seeking to make a change. As a whistleblower, she put herself out there to speak up against unfair hiring and advancement practices. Tune in to hear what organizational racism truly looks like firsthand.
It's crazy how correlated entrepreneurship and neurodivergence are. So many business owners have ADHD, mental illness, or are on the autistic spectrum. Carolina herself has ADHD and she works with leaders that want to create a more neurodivergent-friendly workplace. Tune in to see how you can make your business work for you!
Greg Wieting healed a 3 inch curvature of his spine through a combination of energy work, yoga, and somatic psychotherapy. Now he's a healer himself that guides people in overcoming the trauma that is stored in their bodies. In this episode we chat about the mind-body connection, spirituality, and why leaders need help.
Kirk Nurmi was the defense attorney assigned to the infamous Jodi Arias case. A case that was not only emotionally and physically taxing but challenged his perspective of the law. He had to contend with being thrust into the public eye, receiving death threats, and working with a client that had committed murder. In this episode we'll talk about his experience in the case, his subsequent bout with cancer, and the wisdom he gained along the way.
In this post-pandemic world the classical structures and norms around work are changing. Companies are adopting the hybrid model, employees are advocating for a better work-life balance, and customers are expecting more. Lynda Gratton, Professor of Management Practice at London Business School, comes on the show to talk about the future of work, what we've learned from the pandemic, and how to adapt to changes in technology and in culture.
In the modern world technology management is a critical skill. It's so easy to get pulled into the spin of phone overuse, email addiction, and busyness. Without space in our lives we can be consumed by repetitive behaviors and screen addiction. Daniel Sih works with individuals and organizations to cut through the noise and make more space in their lives. In this episode we'll talk about the importance of solitude, self-reflection, and peace.
Steve Adams invented a character, Waldo Mellon, who set him free. Playing the role of an advice columnist, Waldo tackles a wide range of topics from love, to sex, to death. Under this pseudonym Steve is able to bring a lightness to life and a sense of humor to the serious topics. In this episode we'll hear about the creation of Waldo and hear some of his worldly wisdom.
Back by popular demand! Bre Wolta returns to continue her discussion and exploration of toxic relationships. In this episode she'll share about the power community and how creating a network of emotionally supportive people can counteract gaslighting, emotional abuse, and fear of change.
To any outsider, D. Neil Elliott was highly educated, owned a profitable consulting firm, and had a successful career and an amazing wife and family. But things were not all they seemed to be, Neil was facing a lot of challenges, he was in a dark place. Quite by accident, he discovered a Higher Road. As he traveled that road, he found the key to transforming his life. In this episode we'll discuss the intersection between science and spirituality.
Addiction is a dark place. It drives us to lie, cheat, and steal - to hurt the people closest to us and to explain away the consequences of our actions. Terri has been to that hell realm and back. She's coming on the show to share her story of recovery and rebirth. Buckle your seatbelts for this one folks - it's going to be a wild ride.
Ann's story has been a quest for inner peace, because she recognized she was too reactionary, and her mind was very busy and very negative. Ann had a challenging childhood and young adulthood that she suppressed and buried in her body. She used a technique called Emotional Freedom Technique and began to peel back the layers of suppressed emotions. In this episode, she'll share about EFT and teach our listeners how to understand and feel through their emotions.
Ann's story has been a quest for inner peace, because she recognized she was too reactionary, and her mind was very busy and very negative. Ann had a challenging childhood and young adulthood that she suppressed and buried in her body. She used a technique called Emotional Freedom Technique and began to peel back the layers of suppressed emotions. In this episode, she'll share about EFT and teach our listeners how to understand and feel through their emotions.
It's so difficult to find real, practical sexual education. So many people learn how to have sex with their partners by watching porn - which we all know is just fantasy. Join our special guest Susan Bratton, author and sex educator, as we take a deep dive into the world of intimacy. You'll walk away with practical tips on how to simply be a better lover.
It's so difficult to find real, practical sexual education. So many people learn how to have sex with their partners by watching porn - which we all know is just fantasy. Join our special guest Susan Bratton, author and sex educator, as we take a deep dive into the world of intimacy. You'll walk away with practical tips on how to simply be a better lover.
Rick Tivers and I both specialize in helping men become more emotionally intelligent, having deeper experiences, and shedding historical trauma. In this episode we'll dive into our own personal definitions of masculinity and common places of emotional resistance that hinder men from growth. Men need mentors and Rick has been one of mine for a long time, I can't wait to share more from him with you.
When I got sober I knew that I had to get rid of drugs but I couldn't give up fun. I refused to give up partying, concerts, and music festivals. This took me deep into the belly of the beast during my early recovery that definitely put me in harms way. I WISH that I had a company like Sober AF Entertainment in my life. Their founder, Duke Rumely, works tirelessly to create sober sections at music and sporting events. He understands that sobriety happens through community, his nonprofit has saved lives.
Poet, writer, medical oncologist, and art collector Marc Straus joins the show to talk about memoir - One-Legged Mongoose: Secrets, Legacies, and Coming of Age in 1950s New York. He'll share some of his stories about the contemporary art scene in New York City. Through the trials and tribulations of the art world Marc has worked to showcase older artists who have not for decades, or in some cases ever, been looked at in the proper light.
So many of us are driven by ambition. And under that ambition is fear - fear of failure, fear of disappointing others, fear of being alone. Our guest, Dr. Mitchel Adler struggled with these drives personally and has spoken about them professionally. In this episode you'll hear about how his childhood stories around success lead him to seek fame and fortune. Then, when the temptations and pressure to sacrifice his values became too much he walked away to keep his soul. Tune in to this week's episode to hear about leadership development, emotional intelligence, and the shadow side of ambition.
The word toxic gets thrown around a lot, especially when it comes to relationships. It's something that seems so clear and oblivious from the outside but is rarely noticeable from the inside. Why is it that people in toxic relationships either can't notice it or find their ways out of it. Join our returning guest, Bre Wolta, as she talks about how she extracted herself from a toxic relationship and how she helps other women to do the same.
Trauma and oppressive childhood conditioning can shut us down and stamp us out. Without healing our wounds we can spend our entire lives hiding from our true selves. Join us as we sit with Harmony Kwiker, a therapist, coach, and professor that specializes in trauma recovery. She'll help you to break free from the shackles of trauma and emerge into your true self.
Power and Influence are two different ways to lead, one from the top-down and other from the bottom-up. As traditional power structures are being challenged and dismantled people are developing a real allergy to authoritarian, punishment-based leadership. In this vacuum there is a real opportunity to cultivate quiet leadership and inner confidence. Leading through influence, collaboration, and shared alignment are going to be critical skills for the future. Join returning guest Qiana Torres Flores as she shares her experience and expertise in cultivating inner strength.
In this episode we interview returning guest Melissa Barbash about her shift from surviving to thriving. Multiple times in her life she has been forced to take stock of her life and ask for something more. From transitioning out of a toxic workplace to leaving a toxic relationship Melissa has done the hard work of shedding her suffering to make room for more success. Tune in to hear how setting boundaries and dissolving shame can help you to take a meaningful step towards the life that you want.
Dating is hard and breakups suck. Join me as I sit down with returning guest, Christina Dixon, to talk about how we each found love in our 30s. You'll heard some stories about how we navigated the dating apps, changed our expectations, and clarified our values. We'll also talk about our next steps as we move in with our respective partners and contemplate the next phase of our lives.
Rick Tivers and I both specialize in helping men become more emotionally intelligent, having deeper experiences, and shedding historical trauma. In this episode we'll dive into our own personal definitions of masculinity and common places of emotional resistance that hinder men from growth. Men need mentors and Rick has been one of mine for a long time, I can't wait to share more from him with you.
Recovery is an ongoing process - it's something that you constantly have to manage while on the journey of self-growth. Bobbie Malatesta comes on the show to share her experience of hitting rock bottom again after years of recovery. As a recovering gambling addict Bobbie was challenged during the early years of the pandemic. While she didn't use, she was brought to her knees by a series of unfortunate events. She had to use her inner strength to pick herself up from rock bottom.
Sura Hertzberg returns to talk about the intersection of psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy and sex therapy. On this developing frontier of our field there are powerful stories of transformation and of trauma. Tune in as we share our thoughts and experiences with altered states.
Eliot Andre returns to speak about his experiences with Polyamory - having multiple relationship partners. In this episode he'll talk about his story of moving away from monogamy and offer practical advice on how to make it work. Tune in to hear a detailed look at this emerging relationship style.
I'm a firm believer that emotional growth leads to spiritual growth. As we progress down the path of emotional healing we start to awaken to more nuanced experience and a deeper connection with the present moment. We start to develop our personal ethic and morality. Amie Dean is a spiritual teacher and psychotherapist trained in the Akashic records, an esoteric sect that provides a path to metaphysical accession. Join us as we dive into her beliefs, experiences, and practices.
Becoming a better leader hinges on emotional intelligence and doing inner work. Technical skills can only take you so far. At some point you need to dive into your past, understand your psyche, and resolve your childhood trauma to reach that next level of brilliance. Join us as we talk with Nicolina Werther, an executive coach that works with entrepreneurs. She'll share how she overcame her embedded stories to become a leader and business owner.
The brain is a muscle, we have to feed it, train it, and keep it fluid and flexible. It's important to maintain our brain throughout our life and rehab it as needed. Darcy Luoma has created a six-sided model to develop mental fitness: stillness, strength, endurance, flexibility, balance, and ability. Join us for this episode for some tips and tricks to turn yourself into a mental athlete.
Mark Vonnegut has had his share of struggles. Living with Bipolar, he has had to balance manic episodes while building his medical career. As the son of famous author Kurt Vonnegut Jr. he had an eccentric childhood and can trace mental illness and substance abuse all the way back up the family tree. Now he's an advocate for mental health treatment, supplemental vitamins, and holistic health care. Join us as we dive into his harrowing and inspiring story of recovery.
Each of us has a shadow side - the parts of us that we disown, hide, and bury with shame. Rick Tivers returns to talk about how he works with his client's shadows. He shares some powerful stories from his work with CEOs, therapists, and leaders. Tune in for more of that Rick Tivers magic!
In 2008, on his way home after a launch party in New York City for a magazine he had founded, Ravi Shankar was pulled over on the pretense of a minor traffic violation. He was subsequently arrested on a warrant for a 150 pound 5’10” white man and kept in jail for 72 hours. Shankar weighs 200 pounds and is 6’2”. He is a dark-skinned man of South Indian descent. As any writer would, Shankar turned to words to make sense of what had happened to him. Tune in for a dissection of American race politics, privilege, and one man's trip through the correctional system.
Because every drug certified by the FDA must be tested using the horseshoe crab derivative known as Limulus lysate, a multimillion-dollar industry has emerged involving the license to bleed horseshoe crabs and the rights to their breeding grounds. The story of the horseshoe crab is a sobering reflection on the unintended consequences of scientific progress and the danger of self-regulated industries controlling a limited natural resource. In this episode William Sargent will share his experience and perspective on this niche of our economy.
Do you frequently say “yes” to people and events to keep those around you happy? Do you often find yourself emotionally exhausted and physically drained? Do people describe you as a pushover or “too nice”? If so, it’s time to discover the joy of being selfish and reclaim your life through the art of setting boundaries. Join us as we interview the Queen of Boundaries, Michelle Elman.
For awhile Maureen was lost, she was one of 6 children and learned to keep her head down. She developed a herd mentality that taught her to repress her voice and her emotions - she believed that she was happy as a follower. As she got older she continued to push down her voice with alcohol and other drugs. However, her inner voice would not be silenced! After a rock bottom experience she had to take control of her life and emerge from her cocoon. This painful process challenged her to get in touch with her inner landscape. This transformation inspired her to become a coach and help others to emerge, evolve, and lead.
Quitting isn't giving up. Sometimes a tactical retreat is the key to victory. This week's guest, Anthony Dellascio, shares his story of switching careers and taking on risk. He's taken a leap of faith from something that was secure to an exciting new opportunity. He'll share when to know when you're getting complacent and getting stuck in the comfort zone. Tune in this week to hear when to make the big leap!
Jeremy Sherman is the world's leading specialist on assholes. He's studied narcissistic personality disorder, cult indoctrination, and child trauma to come up with a unifying theory of why people become assholes. Why they double down at every opportunity, bully those who they see as weak, and fall for conspiracy theories and cults. In this episode we'll seek to understand how someone's rock bottom experience can lead them to become an asshole instead of a phoenix. You don't want to miss this one!
Melissa Raddatz, our resident relationship and marriage expert, returns for another episode to talk about making friends. I can't tell you how many of my clients struggle with making adult friends. With the decline of community groups and organized activities we are becoming increasingly more and more disconnected. Finding friends requires work, confidence, and emotional openness. Tune in to hear about Melissa's experiences and tips on making friends as an adult.
For many, chronic illness is an invisible illness. It's nearly impossible to tell if someone is struggling and our culture doesn't talk about them openly. Christina Dixon has lived with an autoimmune disorder her entire life. Flare ups can humble her and knock her down for a few days. In this episode we'll hear how Christina manages her illness, how it's informed her relationship with her body, and how she rises from the ashes every day.
Sometimes our traumas give us superpowers. Monique had a rough start, early childhood abuse, teen wedding, and addictive behavior. By any measure she had the deck stacked against her. But, she pushed on and climbed. While ascending the corporate ladder she started seeing things that triggered her past. Microtraumas, aggressive tones, and toxic patterns. Her early life experience gave her a sixth sense for abuses of power. Now she's an executive coach that helps companies to create a healthy and trauma-informed workplace. Tune in to today's episode to see how she turned her wounds into strength.
Debbie and David Mathews founded Spark of Life in 2009 following the loss of their grandson, Josiah. Recognizing the complexity of grief in all its facets, they decided to focus their lives on helping those who had experienced loss – of any kind. Their program pulls from their backgrounds in pastoral counseling, grief coaching, and their own personal losses. In this episode we'll talk dive into the grief process and help you to generate hope.
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. The only way to grow is to overcome appropriate challenges - not too hard but not too easy either. This adversity inspires us to be better, work harder, and develop new strategies. In this week's episode we'll sit down with Steve Gavatorta, coach, speaker, and author, to talk about how failures help us to grow. Steve will share the story of his Summer from Hell where his home fell into a sinkhole and he stepped up to run the family business. Tune in to hear how one man literally dug himself out of a hole and set his life's course towards success.
In the premier episode of season 2 the tables are turned as Melissa Raddatz returns to interview the host, Marc Azoulay. You'll hear what inspired Marc to overcome addiction, study Buddhism, and become the psychotherapist and leader he is today. After a nearly fatal overdose Marc had to choose to fight for his life instead of watching it slip away. That experience has inspired him to create a life worth living and to hopefully inspire and support others to do the same. Tune in to learn more about our host and learn what makes him tick.
Why do some people fail while others succeed? What is that X factor that helps people change? Our next guest, Clint Mally, has an idea. According to Clint, it is the relationships in our lives that inspire us to grow. It is the people around us that make the difference. In this episode Clint will share his story of being raised by addicts, entering the foster system, and reinventing his life. Be sure to tune in to this one, we all need each other.
Quitting isn't giving up. Sometimes a tactical retreat is the key to victory. This week's guest, Anthony Dellascio, shares his story of switching careers and taking on risk. He's taken a leap of faith from something that was secure to an exciting new opportunity. He'll share when to know when you're getting complacent and getting stuck in the comfort zone. Tune in this week to hear when to make the big leap!
Seeing your child succumb to an addiction is a harrowing experience. The paradox of both feeling helpless and responsible is an intense form of suffering. In this week's episode we'll sit down with Christine Naman, author of About Natalie, to hear her story of witnessing her daughter's opiate addiction. Be prepared to be moved and hopefully inspired by her journey.
Falling in love with an addict is falling in love with a fantasy. The fantasy of their potential. Those moments of lucidity, intimacy, and clarity. The love can be a rollercoaster of awful fights, passionate sex, and quiet desperation. In this episode, Melissa Barbash comes on the show to talk about her relationships with addicts. She'll share what kept her in it and how she got out. In her psychotherapy practice Melissa helps other women recognize, cope with, and exit toxic relationships in order to reclaim their own lives.
Being sober doesn't have to be boring! When I got clean I didn't want to give up the party scene, I wanted to be able to dance, flirt, and hang out with my friends - just without drugs and alcohol. Victoria Olson had the same idea, didn't want to change her life, just remove alcohol from it. In this episode we'll hear how she continues to have fun, be adventurous and party down while staying sober. From raves to Burning Man, Victoria has stayed connected to the party without any of the negative effects.
Many of the parents that I work with tell me that the hardest part of parenthood is watching your children fail. It can be excruciating to see your children make different decisions than you. Not to mention make some of the same mistakes. In this episode we have a returning guest, Marian Salley, on to talk with us about her journey as a single parent and how she has had to adapt her parenting style as her daughters become adults. Tune in, to learn how to overcome this hurtle and transition into a more egalitarian mode of parenting.
Food is Medicine. What we regularly eat has a massive effect on the health of both our body and our mind. In this episode we'll be sitting down with Executive Chef, Author, and Nourishment Coach Maria Cooper to talk about how nutrition influences mental health. Maria was diagnosed with Bipolar I at an early age and has used that struggle to prioritize her wellbeing. She strives for balance through a combination of a nourishing diet, mindfulness practice, and embodied movement. Be sure to listen in to hear an inspiring story about the power of holistic health.
For many women, sexuality is a place of shame, oppression, and confusion. Our society does an awful job of educating and supporting sexual growth and empowerment in young women which leaves many of them to act out or be put into dangerous situations. This week's guest, Melissa Sladin will share some of her own experiences of female empowerment and sexual development. She'll also share how her pursue of Native American spiritual arts includes sweat lodges, vision quests, and peyote ceremonies helped her to reconnect and reclaim her sexual self.
Melissa Raddatz, our resident relationship and marriage expert, returns for another episode to talk about making friends. I can't tell you how many of my clients struggle with making adult friends. With the decline of community groups and organized activities we are becoming increasingly more and more disconnected. Finding friends requires work, confidence, and emotional openness. Tune in to hear about Melissa's experiences and tips on making friends as an adult.
Psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy is a rapidly growing field that aims to treat stubborn symptoms that are inaccessible through simply talk therapy. MDMA specifically is being studied to treat early childhood trauma and PTSD. In this episode, we'll talk with Tamra Sattler a psychotherapist who has undergone her own course of MDMA therapy. She'll share her experience as a client and her opinion as a professional on this divisive topic.
Imagine keeping a secret so big that you couldn't even admit it to yourself. Something so scary that if it was even hinted at it could destroy the fabric of your life. Secrets like that can control your life, secrets like that can make you act out in self-destructive ways. Our guest, Rick Tivers, kept his sexuality a secret due to significant losses early in life which led him to believe he would be punished for being gay. This distortion caused him to be in an inauthentic marriage for 18yrs to a woman, which then triggered a severe sex addition. After some traumas, he tackled his closeted fears and sex addiction. Now, Rick Tivers is a highly sought after therapist and speaker based in Chicago and Palm Springs California. He is married to the man of his dreams. In this powerful interview, we will be unravelling the impulse control, shame and addiction recovery that is the fabric of Rick's journey.
All good therapists are in therapy. But were you ever curious about what treatment looks like for us? In this episode of From the Ashes we bring back Jeff Grossman to talk about how we stay on top of our own mental health. We'll share some stories from the American Group Psychotherapy Association and the Center for Group Studies that highlight the work that we do to stay on top of our game. From fighting with famous group leaders to having air sex Jeff and I will be pulling back the curtain on some of the weird and wonderful experiences we've had in the pursuit of excellence.
Back by popular demand is Randy Bonnom continuing his conversation from episode 9 - Relapse: When it All Comes Crashing Down. In that episode, Randy was presenting a pathway for our listeners to develop their own personal Spiritual practices as he was inspired to do after his relapse on alcohol. Tune in to learn how to connect to nature, create rituals, and develop a moral and ethic code from which to live your life by. Randy pulls from a wide variety of spiritual traditions to craft a framework that supports and expands his life.
For many, chronic illness is an invisible illness. It's nearly impossible to tell if someone is struggling and our culture doesn't talk about them openly. Christina Dixon has lived with an autoimmune disorder her entire life. Flare ups can humble her and knock her down for a few days. In this episode we'll hear how Christina manages her illness, how it's informed her relationship with her body, and how she rises from the ashes every day.
Meditation isn't what you think it is. In this episode we'll sit down with Corey Flanders, psychotherapist, poet, and ex-monk to talk about his experiences in a Buddhist community. Be prepared to dive into the depths of the mind as we point a microscope at the nuances of existence. This conversation with Corey will challenge your preconceived notions about meditation and present an unfiltered look at spirituality from the ground up.
As a child of Holocaust survivors, Françoise E Netter endured emotional and sexual abuse as a result of intergenerational trauma. This horrific experience led her down a path of exploring the body/mind connection and a life of creative service. She both learned, and experienced, how toxic and negative patterns of behavior and beliefs can be locked in the body. Through movement, the arts, meditation, yoga and dance Françoise was able to unwind these patterns, release her trauma, and free herself. Everything was going well until the COVID-19 Pandemic hit and Françoise was knocked on her back again. Tune in this week to hear how she used her creativity, spirituality, and focus on personal growth and wisdom to get back up again and again.
Not all therapy is for everyone. In this episode I sit down with my good friend Anthony Dellascio to talk about our therapeutic journeys. We'll discuss how we found a therapist, what worked and didn't work for us, and where we are today. We'll also share our experiences as men working in the field and how our masculine clients respond to different types of therapy. Tune in to hear about non-traditional therapy and how to find a therapist that works for you.
After sustaining five decades of unresolved trauma the person Leslie thought she was collided with the person she was to become. At 54 years old she was diagnosed with a rare spinal disease and sustained a brain spine injury. She was told life was over as she had known it with no chance of recovery. Leslie was terrorized, sad, confused, depressed and alone, and worst of all, completely physically disabled. However, this breakdown led to a breakthrough. She began a profound, life-changing journey, which as hard as it was, had to be done, if only to prevent her passing on her trauma to her children.
Therapists love to talk about boundaries. But setting and holding boundaries are so much easier said than done. To truly cut the cord it takes an immense amount of emotional resiliency and courage. Bre Wolta takes us a step further and discusses the spiritual implications and skills required to detach from toxic relationships, patterns, and substances. Join us as we talk about how to create and protect your body, mind, and perhaps even your soul.
Although miscarriages are incredibly common, they happen in nearly 40% of first time pregnancies, they are not talked about or held with the same weight as other losses. Society's minimization of this loss can result in disenfranchised grief in women. Their loss can be seen as insignificant or not important compared to other socially recognized losses. In this week's episode we'll speak to Melissa Tilleman Ryan who rose from the ashes of a miscarriage, business failure, and global pandemic to learn more about herself, women's health, and the meaning of love.
In the premier episode of season 2 the tables are turned as Melissa Raddatz returns to interview the host, Marc Azoulay. You'll hear what inspired Marc to overcome addiction, study Buddhism, and become the psychotherapist and leader he is today. After a nearly fatal overdose Marc had to choose to fight for his life instead of watching it slip away. That experience has inspired him to create a life worth living and to hopefully inspire and support others to do the same. Tune in to learn more about our host and learn what makes him tick.
From the Berlin underground to pop up shops in New York, from San Francisco's Victorians to warehouses in London, Sura Hertzberg has embedded herself in alternative communities across the globe. She's had experiences that pushed her, challenged her, and shaped her into the creative person that she is today. And all throughout this journey she's deeply studied the human character. Sura has developed insights into the darker sides of human behavior, opening herself up to love, loss, and that which connects us all. In this episode we'll talk to her about her evolution from performance artist to psychotherapist as well as the emerging fields of human sexuality and psychedelic assisted psychotherapy.
Music is the gateway to the soul. It can help us to find words for emotions that we didn't even know that we had. It can unlock and solidify memories. Music has been with humanity across time and cultures for all of recorded history and, it is just as powerful now as it was then. As a biracial and bireligious child, Marlys struggled to find her place. She felt stretched between two worlds. On the surface she appeared happy-go-lucky and put together, but inside she was lonely and afraid. Music helped her to find the words for her internal experience and to start to find her voice as a performer and a therapist. She now shares this gift with her clients. Tune in to this episode of From the Ashes as we hear how Marlys found her rhythm and got in tune.
Standing up for yourself takes courage, boldness, and practice. At a young age Dr. Julia Bain learned to defend herself and her friends against the bullies in her school. She stepped into conflict in order to protect those who were less fortunate than her - she wanted her friends to know that they were never alone. These early experiences with bullying inspired Julia to study mental health and focus on violence in the workplace. She now teaches people to stand up for themselves, set boundaries, and practice being the sheriff's of their own Me Town.
We are unafraid of the unknown. How do you make a plan when you can't see the entirety of the problem? How do you confront the void when you're not sure what's in there? With courage. Facing uncertainty requires surrender, adaptation, and confidence. In this episode, we'll talk with Francesco Marsili about how he faced a dramatic job change coupled with the diagnosis of a chronic disease of his partner. You'll hear how he leaned into meditation, stoicism, and chaos theory in order to find the tools and the strength to face the unknown.
Qiana was drawn to the ritual of Catholicism but did not agree with it's positions on social issues so she explored other avenues for her spiritual practice. She tried Wicca, Paganism, and a spiritual yoga community but none of them quite fit. Then, after the loss of a dear friend to cancer her views about life and death were challenged. She found herself adrift, without an anchor. This inspired her to seek out a Christian community, reconcile her religious beliefs, and get back in touch with her spiritual center. Join us this week as we take a journey down one woman's spiritual path.
It's staggering to me how common Imposter Syndrome is! Almost all of my clients under 40 feel like they don't belong at their jobs, their families, or even their culture. They feel as though they are faking it until they make it every day of their lives. So, today on the show we've found a real-life Millennial to tell us all about Imposter Syndrome. Jordan is a nice midwesterner who has charmed her way into an interesting, upper-middle class life. She’s accomplished this by being unwaveringly friendly, and just hard working enough to accrue a couple of postsecondary degrees. She followed a non-traditional trajectory to arrive at her current role and reluctant identity as a “tech bro”. This semi-retired hairstylist and former bar maven shares tales of hard earned personal growth through the humiliating moments that come with functional imposter syndrome.
Randy is one of the most spiritual people I've ever met - no exaggeration. He lives his life with a sense of unity, connection, and presence that is staggering to behold. He is in constant relationship and communication with the world around him. But, it didn't used to always be this way, for much of his life Randy was a wanderer. He ran with a biker gang, a truck driver, and a musician. While he recovered from alcoholism early on it was a relapse 7 years later that brought him to his knees. That later relapse made him question the life that he built for himself and challenged his thoughts about substances, mental health, and even reality as he knew it. Even through Randy was sober, he wasn't yet recovered. Join us as we take a trip through Randy's life and, more profoundly, through his mind.
At a young age, Adi knew that she would be be childfree. She wasn't drawn to motherhood or to starting a family. However, even though she was clear in her convictions she walked head first into society's expectations, pressures, and messaging. She was confronted with the questions: What does it mean to have a regret? Who will take care of me when I'm old? and What is my statement around no having children? This early childhood decision challenged her to look more deeply into her own internal landscape and to grow. Join us on this week's episode of From the Ashes where we'll talk about regret, social conditioning, and one woman's journey to be child free.
Disappointment is an experience that just doesn't get spoken about enough. Investing our hopes and dreams into the future only to have it fall apart. In these moments we can be reminded about how fragile we are and how much we depend on others to get by. In this episode of the podcast I'll be talking to Donna Peters, executive coach and organizational developer, about her dark night of the soul. She'll share the story of when her consulting career and her life started falling apart. This sobering experience forced her to question her values, purpose, and meaning. She choose to rise from the ashes and create a new life that was more in line with who she is and what she wanted to bring into the world.
Imagine keeping a secret so big that you couldn't even admit it to yourself. Something so scary that if it was even hinted at it could destroy the fabric of your life. Secrets like that can control your life, secrets like that can make you act out in self-destructive ways. Our guest, Rick Tivers, kept his sexuality a secret due to significant losses early in life which led him to believe he would be punished for being gay. This distortion caused him to be in an inauthentic marriage for 18yrs to a woman, which then triggered a severe sex addition. After some traumas, he tackled his closeted fears and sex addiction. Now, Rick Tivers is a highly sought after therapist and speaker based in Chicago and Palm Springs California. He is married to the man of his dreams. In this powerful interview, we will be unravelling the impulse control, shame and addiction recovery that is the fabric of Rick's journey.
In this episode of From the Ashes Marc will be interviewing Marian Salley, his long-time friend, colleague, and work wife. Marian is a social worker in Boulder, Colorado that specializes in working with trauma, attachment and neurobiology. She carries every professional license under the sun: Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Licensed Addiction Counselor (LAC), Certified Group Psychotherapist (CGP), Approved Clinical Supervisor (ACS) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing International Association (EMDRIA) Certified Therapist. Her clinical style is a blend of modern psychoanalysis, contemplative psychology, and group work.
We'll be talking about infidelity and cheating in relationships with Marian speaking both as an expert and as an past cheater herself. She discuss what factors led up to her cheating on her partner, what that experience was like, and how she recovered and learned from it. Be prepared for a deep dive into the darker side of relationships. We'll be addressing jealousy, insecurity, and loneliness.
Also, as the premier episode of From the Ashes you'll hear from Marc about his background and intentions for the show. Join us as we embark on this journey!
I met Melissa during my internship at the start of my career. We were working at a court-mandated treatment center with clients who were charged with DUIs and drug possession charges. We were both starting out on our journeys to be psychotherapists and working in that intense environment was a wakeup call to us! We were confronted by the brokenness of the justice system and the corruption of the treatment industry. We bonded immediately while trying to make progressive change and to stick to our ethics. In this episode you'll hear about Melissa's past experiences with substance abuse and PTSD. Coming from a military family, Melissa had a very rigid childhood and grew up with her father and brother who have PTSD. She'll share how that experience shaped her and broke her heart wide open so that she could be able to help others. Growing up in an unhealthy family dynamic, Melissa had to find ways to survive and connect with others. Throughout all of that she maintained her incredible sense of humor, razor sharp intellect, and disciplined focus. She's now a couples counselor in Boulder, CO who helps her clients create powerful and intimate bonds that can last a lifetime. Join us as we take a trip through the darkness of addiction and into the hopefulness of love.
When I first met Jeff at a group therapy conference I immediately felt a sense of kinship. I saw someone who had a no nonsense style and wanted to help people through tough conversations rather than enabling them. As a 2nd career psychotherapist Jeff found this work after being dissatisfied managing a Chevrolet dealership. He choose to walk away from a successful business and focus on something that meant more to him. In this episode we'll be talking about masculinity, narcissism, and bringing business know-how to the healing professions.
Throughout the course of this year we've all been challenged. We've experience failures in our jobs, relationships, or physical health. Some of us have gotten back up while some of us have stayed on the ground - why is that? Why is it that some people seem to have more perseverance or grit than others? Where they just born that way? This week's guest, Eliot Andre says no! Perseverance is something that can be trained, practiced and perfected. Listen to this week's episode as we talk about some of Eliot's struggles and triumphs. He's an engaging guest that will charm you with stories that blow your mind with insights in human nature and tenderness.
In this episode of From the Ashes Marc will be interviewing Marian Salley, his long-time friend, colleague, and work wife. Marian is a social worker in Boulder, Colorado that specializes in working with trauma, attachment and neurobiology. She carries every professional license under the sun: Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Licensed Addiction Counselor (LAC), Certified Group Psychotherapist (CGP), Approved Clinical Supervisor (ACS) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing International Association (EMDRIA) Certified Therapist. Her clinical style is a blend of modern psychoanalysis, contemplative psychology, and group work.
We'll be talking about infidelity and cheating in relationships with Marian speaking both as an expert and as an past cheater herself. She discuss what factors led up to her cheating on her partner, what that experience was like, and how she recovered and learned from it. Be prepared for a deep dive into the darker side of relationships. We'll be addressing jealousy, insecurity, and loneliness.
Also, as the premier episode of From the Ashes you'll hear from Marc about his background and intentions for the show. Join us as we embark on this journey!