This dilemma of when to try to make changes versus trying to get others to accommodate your needs is relevant in lots of situations. If you think about this question with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), common questions arise around whether it is better to get extensions when you can't complete tasks on time versus working on better implementing tools to get tasks completed within the expected time frame next time. Obviously constantly relying on exceptions being made may make it harder to view deadlines as actual deadlines. At the same time, if you keep trying to meet deadlines and cannot make them, that is also a problem. This issue is also relevant with deciding when you stand up for yourself to get your needs met with a co-worker, spouse, child, or other person versus letting them get their way if it has negative consequences for you (i.e., letting a co-worker schedule a meeting with you that interferes with your ability to attend your son's basketball game). The goal of this podcast episode is to raise awareness of this dilemma and help you to think about your mindset in different situations. Finally, by understanding where you stand on different issues that arise, you can begin to make decisions on what situations you keep trying in different ways to meet external expectations versus trying to get other people to accommodate to your needs.