Hunting for hookups or needing him to do certain things, and behave certain ways? Or he faces the consequences of your reactions? You're not liberated. That is not empowerment. It's a need for "other" before connection to Source and self, and it is a loss of connection to deep feminine potency--all disguised as progressive partnership. And it's an epidemic of false artificial glares over the steadfast practice of being lit from within and connected to God.