Parashat Yitro tells of Ma’amar Har Sinai – Hashem’s revelation to Beneh Yisrael at Mount Sinai, and the Aseret Ha’dibberot (Ten Commandments). Rashi, in his commentary to Shir Hashirim (4:5), makes a fascinating comment about the Aseret Ha’dibberot . He writes that the two sets of commandments – the first five, and the second five – correspond to one another. Meaning, there is a connection between the first commandment of the first group, and the first commandment of the second group; there is also a connection between the second commandment of the first group, and the second commandment of the second group, and so on. For example, the first commandment of the first group is אנוכי ה' אלוקיך , the belief in Hashem, and the first commandment of the second group is לא תרצח , the prohibition against murder. These mitzvot are connected, Rashi explains, because every human being is created in the image of Hashem, and so killing a person diminishes, in a sense, from Hashem’s presence in our world. According to this parallel, the fifth commandment, the mitzva to honor parents ( כבד את אביך ואת אמך ), corresponds to the tenth of the Aseret Ha’dibberot , the command of לא תחמוד , the prohibition against coveting, desiring something which somebody else has. Rashi explains that these two commands are connected because החומד סופו להוליד בן שמקלה אותו ומכבד למי שאינו אביו – somebody who is jealous of other people will have a child who disrespects him, and instead respects other people. How does this work? Why does jealousy have the effect of causing one’s children to disrespect him? The answer, in truth, is quite simple. If children see that their parents are always upset and dissatisfied because they don’t have what other people have, then the children will want to be like those other people. If the message they learn from their parents is that they’re disadvantaged, that other people have it better than them, then they will respect those other people, and not their parents. They will look to their parents as failures, and nobody is going to respect or try to emulate somebody who they see as a failure. The way we avoid this problem is by understanding that Hashem has given us everything we need, and He has given other people exactly what they need. What somebody has or doesn’t have has absolutely nothing to do with us. We have precisely what we’re supposed to have, and other people have precisely what they’re supposed to have. We don’t need to feel jealous, because other people’s assets have no connection to us whatsoever. This is the vibe we should be giving our children – that we are very fortunate and blessed by Hashem, and other people are also fortunate and blessed by Hashem, because He gives each person exactly what he or she needs to succeed. If this is the attitude and mindset, that we have been given a great deal of berachah , then our children will feel grateful and respect us. They will look to us as winners, not losers, and we will gain their respect. They will feel proud and happy to have received these berachot , and will grow to be grateful to Hashem and to their parents who have given them all these wonderful blessings.