I was talking with my friend, and he was telling me how his father didn’t care whether you want to become a footballer or a singer that once you’re of age and you’re filing your jamb form, they will tell you the course to study because it’s lucrative. There was nothing like passion. It’s all about being able to provide. It's even worse when they feel your passion is not tangible enough. 

Why am I telling this story? Why am I saying this? I'm saying it for you listening to me. You might not have a cordial relationship with your father because both of you are always in disagreement. 

Our fathers have this mentality to firmly setup their children to be independent. To the point that even as they are not there, you can be able to thrive in any environment. My father would always say, ‘nwuo kita inoruru onwe gi’ meaning ‘if I die now you will have to be on your own’. That is the mentality that pushes them to raise you to be able to stand for yourself. 

Yes, my darling, please forgive your father. 

I made a couple of observations from the posts on Father’s Day that I’d like to talk about. 

Another lady wrote about how she was confused about how to feel about her father. Her father loves her so much, but he consistently hit her mother. So she wonders how to feel about him. Then we have to realize that being a good man; a good husband; and a good father are three different qualities. The girl in question was made to understand that her father is a good father but a cruel man and a bad husband.

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