LAW 2 — CHAPTER 2: The Law of Awareness

You Must Know Yourself To Grow Yourself

LEARN IT

“Who Are You?”

I. Do You Have A Sense Of Direction? (You have to know who you are)

A. Recount the story of Henry M.

  1. While this is an extreme story, is it possible that many live their lives as if what they just experienced didn’t really matter?

B. To grow yourself, you must know the following:

  1. Your Strengths

  2. Your Weaknesses

  3. Your Interests

  4. Your Opportunities

C. Knowing these four critical areas of your life tells you “Where you are”

D. To reach your full potential, you MUST know where you are, and where you want to be.

II. There are three kinds of people when it comes to finding direction:

A. People who don’t know what they would like to do

  1. They are confused

B. People who know what they want to do, but don’t do it.

  1. They are frustrated

C. People who know what they want to do, and do it.

  1. These people are fulfilled.

LIVE IT

“Becoming Aware Of Your Own Identity”

III. How To Find Your Passion and Purpose

A. Discuss the need for personal “awareness”

  1. What does it mean to be personally aware?

Explore these following questions regarding finding your passion and purpose.

B. Do you like what you are doing now?

  1. If you are not enjoying what you do for a living, you need to take some time to explore why?

  2. Consider this example: If a person sets out to run a mile, and three quarters of a mile ahead there is a cliff, should that person try to finish running the mile just because he started out to do so?

a. What is what we are doing right now is simply the wrong direction?

  1. Changing what you are doing is a risk, but what if you don’t change? Which risk would you rather live with?

C. What would you like to do?

  1. This is the question of direct passion.

  2. There is a definite connection between finding your passion and reaching your potential.

a. Discuss the reasons passion helps one reach their potential

  1. You can’t go where you hate going

  2. Passion gives you an advantage over those who have none.

  3. Passion gives you energy

  4. Finding your passion requires listening to your heart. Feelings matter!

D. Can you do what you would like to do?

  1. Dreams are necessary for success. But not every dream is possible due to natural limits.

a. Do you know the difference between what you want and what you are good at?

b. Do you know what drives you and gives you satisfaction?

c. Do you know what your values and priorities are, and what are your organization’s values and priorities are?

d. What happens when your values and priorities differ with the organization of which you are a part? Are you willing to change yours?

  1. Discuss this quote by Samuel Johnson: “Almost every man wastes part of his life in attempts to display qualities which he does not possess.”

a. What are your unique talents and gifts?

E. Do you know why you want to do what you would like to do?

This is the Motives question.

  1. Even good things done with the wrong motive can become a disaster.

F. Do you know what to do so you can do what you want to do?

This is the “What now?” question

1. Awareness – Becoming very conscious of every choice you make.

2. Action – The major difference between those who do it and those who don’t do it, is those who do it, do it.

3. Accountability – This can be shared accountability with a friend or coach, or personal accountability

G. Do you know people who do what you’d like to do?

This is the question of mentors and coaches – do you have one or more?

Discuss these “BE” Principles:

  1. Get Committed – if you have to, pay people for their time and advise

2. Be consistent – Meet regularly with someone who can help you.

3. Be creative – Learn from people even if you can’t meet them.

4. Be purposeful – Prepare for every interaction: don’t wing it!

5. Be reflective – Reflect on each encounter and discover what you are learning

6. Be grateful – ALWAYS show appreciation for what you are learning from others.

H. Should you do what you would like to do with them?

If you find a mentor, you have some responsibilities to this relationship:

  1. Possess a teachable spirit

  2. Always be prepared

  3. Ask questions

  4. Demonstrate learning from them

  5. Be accountable

If you are a mentor, you should focus your teaching on the following areas:

  1. Strengths

  2. Temperament

  3. Track Record

  4. Passion

  5. Choices

  6. Advice

  7. Support and resources

  8. Feedback

  9. Encouragement

In the mentoring relationship, it is important for the mentee to explore his/her own learning by observing this process:

Here is what I asked you…

Here is what I heard you share with me…

Here is what I did

Now, can I ask your more questions?

The goal is to find a mentoring relationship that is mutually beneficial.

I. Will you pay the price to do what you want to do?

  1. Explore this notion: “What will it cost to change? It will cost everything.”

  2. Read the poetic quote on page 30-31 – Remember, most people are not willing to pay the price for change.

J. When can you start doing what you’d like to do?

  1. Talk about the idea of starting scared and unprepared.

  2. Ask your group this question: When will you start doing what you want to do? Look at your watch and tell me when it strikes “Someday”?

K. What will it be like when you get to do what you want to do?

This is the question of defining success

  1. What does success look like?

  2. Explore this statement: “The two greatest days in your life are when you are born and the day you discover why.”

LEAD IT

“When you live this law, you will show others the way and they empower them to learn it and live it too.”

IV. Applying the Law of Awareness to your Life

Facilitation Questions Options

OVERCOME GROWING PAINS

(Specific Steps to Amazing Growth)

• Spend some significant amount of time and answer these questions for your own life:

• What would you like to do?

• What talents, skills and opportunities do you possess that support your desire to do it?

• What are your motives for wanting to do it?

• What steps must you take (beginning today) to start doing what you want to do?

• Awareness

• Action

• Accountability

• What advice can you get along the way?

• What price are you willing to pay?

• What will it cost in time?

• Resources?

• Sacrifices?

• Where do you most need to grow?

Start with strengths and the future more than weaknesses and the past.

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