Lifeis like a game of tug of war, in most, if not all our relationships andinteractions, we all have our own agenda and hopefully, we all strive to befair too. Confidence is a learned and developed habit, with this being thecase it is super important that we create the right lines in every area of ourlives, and then we can just “hold the flag” over everyone we interact with.  But there is a fine line between give andtake; one we need to uphold in balance for ourselves if we are striving to be moreconfident. Overgiving is just as bad for ourselves as undergiving is badfor others, neither way is the right way. If we overgive then it's a sign ofweakness to our primeval minds and this will cause us to lack confidence. Ourminds from the caveman days have all seen the importance of survival and thatwe need to protect and take care of ourselves to survive. Don’t get me wrong, givingselflessly is a great thing to do, but if this is something we do all the timeat the expense of ourselves, then this will be too much to sustain over longperiods. If we go on too long this way, we could run out of energy completelyso then we are no help to others or ourselves, which is not a great place toend up.  The people we are helpingwouldn't want us to break ourselves in the process of helping them, so it'sabout finding the balance between give and take.