The Relationship Guy: Recent Episodes
John Kenny
Looking at the world of relationships - their importance to living a fulfilled life.
Their impacts on all areas of life.
Where our ideas of relationships come from.
What and why we attract them.
How important the relationship with yourself is.
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching Professional People Who Want to Create Healthy Loving Relationships, Author, Documentarian and Speaker.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose, not one they always have or think they should.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
www.johnkennycoaching.com
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In the final episode of The Relationship Guy podcast, host John Kenny reflects on the past three years of creating the show and announces a hiatus to consider the future format. He expresses gratitude to his guests, listeners, and supporters, highlighting popular topics such as attachment styles, narcissism, and gaslighting.
John shares his personal journey and reasons for focusing on relationship coaching, emphasising the importance of understanding and navigating complex human connections. The episode encapsulates the show's mission to give relationships a voice and empower individuals to create healthy, intimate connections.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- John has decided to take a hiatus from the podcast to consider the future direction of the show.
- The most downloaded episode over the last three years was about attachment styles, followed closely by a discussion on passive-aggressive behaviours.
- The episode on Relationship Breakdowns and Narcissists with Elizabeth Goddard became the most listened to guest episode.
- The podcast has covered various topics such as matchmaking, star signs, astrology, energy, hormones, and body chemistry in relationships.
- John Kenny's personal journey of transforming his own relationship beliefs and patterns has led him to become a relationship coach and host of the podcast.
BEST MOMENTS
"I love attachment styles. I think they're amazing things. If you can understand them about yourself, they can be so insightful."
"Gaslighting is an insidious behaviour that can cause you to challenge your own sanity. It's a disgusting way of behaving to get your own way, to manipulate others."
"Relationship Breakdowns and Narcissists with Elizabeth Goddard. This has only just overtaken in the past week, the one that I posted about on my socials a couple of weeks ago with ME14."
"Gaslighting is an insidious behavior that can cause you to challenge your own sanity. It's a disgusting way of behaving to get your own way, to manipulate others."
"Although we can't go back and make a brand new start, we can start now and make a brand new ending."
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
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LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
This episode features an insightful conversation between John and Vinko Anthony from Beau Brummell Introductions, a matchmaking agency for gay men. Vinko shares his journey of founding the agency with his husband, emphasising the importance of long-term, monogamous relationships in today's fast-paced dating world dominated by apps like Grindr. They discuss the significance of authenticity, vulnerability, and genuine connection in relationships, highlighting the role of personal engagement and understanding in successful matchmaking. Vinko's approach focuses on individualised attention, transparency, and commitment to helping clients find meaningful connections.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Commitment and Transparency: Vinko highlights the importance of commitment and transparency in relationships, both in personal connections and in the matchmaking service provided by Beau Brummel Introductions.
- Authenticity and Vulnerability: Allowing yourself to be authentic and vulnerable in relationships means genuine connections will form.
- Mirror Imaging: The energy and engagement you put into a relationship are often reflected back to you.
- Personal Growth: Personal growth and self-awareness are essential in preparing oneself for a successful and fulfilling relationship.
BEST MOMENTS
"I think authenticity is a word that's thrown around quite a lot, but it's actually being you and being comfortable, like you said, being you, getting someone to get to know you and who you really are and hoping that they like that."
"But I think you take the time out to actually really offer that service to people is actually what does this person really want? What do they really need? What's the what will be a good thing for them?"
"But you have to stay in that zone of commitment because, but generally people are engaging and financially contributing to this, it means that they're committed."
"And for that, you've got to love people, right? And so if you do and you work with people that you choose to give your time to those who compliment you and who you are as a person, then it's wonderful because we all have a story and we all have a book in us."
"I think without that, it's virtually impossible, but it is to achieve success for my clients. But also it's a tricky thing because of the time that and how much time I have, and I give to all the new clients and get to know them and understand them."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: https://beaubrummellintroductions.com/
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode, John is joined by Marilyn Horowitz, an award-winning author, writing coach, and professor. Marilyn discusses her innovative writing method, the "Word of the Day," which helps individuals uncover deep-seated issues and gain self-awareness. Listeners are encouraged to check out Marilyn's book, "Word of the Day," available on Amazon, and participate in her bi-weekly webinars to experience the power of this unique approach to self-discovery and healing.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Marilyn Horowitz is an award-winning author, New York University professor, TV show creator, and writing coach.
- She discovered that her techniques, initially developed for writing, also have significant healing potential. She shared stories of how the "Word of the Day" practice helped individuals overcome personal traumas and make transformative changes in their lives.
- The Word of the Day is a writing system Marilyn has developed, which helps people uncover deep-seated issues and improve self-awareness.
- The Word of the Day practice involves journaling with a specific word each day, leading to emotional literacy and self-acceptance.
- The practice can be transformative in relationships, helping individuals understand their patterns and make positive changes.
- Marilyn emphasises the importance of self-acceptance over self-esteem. She argues that self-acceptance, which can be cultivated through practices like the "Word of the Day," is crucial for healthy relationships and personal well-being, as it helps individuals stop judging themselves and others unrealistically.
- Marilyn offers a free bi-weekly webinar where participants can engage in the Word of the Day practice and work on various topics like clearing clutter.
BEST MOMENTS
"The word of the day is a journaling practice that takes either five or 15 minutes a day, depending on whether you want to do it, it's taking two parts."
"The definition of true happiness is you judging your own self to be worthy of having it."
"The word of the day goes right in. I don't know how it does it. I'm just, as I say, consider it a gift."
"The moment you turn to it, as soon as you look at that circle, it's all based on neuroscience. It's a long, boring conversation."
"It definitely gets to the point, doesn't it? And it definitely, again, it could stop people having years and years of therapy."
Link: marilynhorowitz.com
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode, John is joined by Jamie Johnston, the founder of Mattr Dating App. Jamie discusses the inspiration behind creating a revolutionary dating app that prioritises mental health and neurodiversity accessibility. They discuss the challenges faced by neurodiverse individuals in the online dating world and the importance of transparency, authenticity, and fostering genuine connections in a world dominated by superficiality and overwhelming choices.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Creating a Safe Environment: Jamie highlights the importance of creating a safe environment on dating apps, especially for individuals who are neurodiverse or struggling with mental health issues. Safety measures such as email verification, phone verification, and facial recognition were mentioned to ensure a secure platform.
- Limiting Choices: John and Jamie discuss the overwhelming nature of dating apps due to the unlimited choices available. Mattr Dating App aims to limit the number of profiles users can connect with to avoid overwhelming users and prevent addiction to the platform.
- Transparency and Communication: Mattr Dating App emphasises transparency and communication in online dating. Users are encouraged to be honest about their strengths and weaknesses through the "honesty box" feature, allowing for open communication about personal traits and preferences.
- Nurturing Relationships: The app focuses on nurturing relationships beyond just matching profiles. It offers offline capabilities by recommending places to go based on shared interests, providing a more meaningful and engaging dating experience.
- Empowering Users: Jamie highlights the importance of empowering users to be themselves and embrace their strengths and weaknesses. By promoting self-awareness and authenticity, Mattr Dating App aims to create a supportive and inclusive community for all users.
BEST MOMENTS
"I went from being the head of sales for a marketing tech platform to being locked in my flat during the pandemic. My mental health deteriorated, and I was diagnosed with ADHD, which didn't come as a surprise."
"It's like a sales page, isn't it, mostly? You have a background in marketing PR as well. So I guess you know what it's like to try and have to sell something to somebody in the first place and what you think people are going to like."
"We did a lot of research into the space, into seeing all different types of groups from neurotypicals to neurodiversity, to different genders, races, marginalised communities. Overwhelmingly, we found negativity across the board."
"No one listening to this or anyone in the world is great at everything. It's actually physically impossible. So if you say that you're a liar, probably not the best platform for you to be on."
Links: App download - mattr
https://www.mattr.social
LinkedIn : (4) Jamie Johnston | LinkedIn
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
This episode features Laurel Stewart, an acupuncturist and yoga therapist, discussing the importance of energetic anatomy and traditional Chinese medicine in maintaining overall health and well-being. Laurel explains how imbalances in the body's energy can lead to physical and emotional issues, and she provides insights into how specific acupuncture points and practices can help address these imbalances.The episode offers valuable insights into how understanding and working with our energy can positively impact our relationships and overall health.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Acupuncture Points: Acupuncture points, such as bladder 20, can be used to alleviate headaches, improve focus, and relax muscles in the neck and shoulders.
- Organ-Emotion Connection: Traditional Chinese medicine connects specific organs to emotions, such as kidneys to fear and lungs to sadness and grief.
- Preventative Measures: Traditional Chinese medicine offers preventative measures, such as consuming black foods for kidney health and practising Qigong to stimulate energy flow.
- Colour Association: Black foods, like black sesame seeds, are recommended for kidney health due to the colour association with the kidneys.
- Energy Cultivation: Practices like Qigong can help cultivate energy and stimulate specific organs, such as the kidneys, for overall health and well-being.
BEST MOMENTS
"So life can disrupt the energy in our bodies. Different things can disrupt the energy in our bodies in different ways."
"I think it can influence the type of relationships we have quite a lot because maybe we find ourselves attracting a specific energy."
"Quite often, knee pain is tied to the kidneys in traditional Chinese medicine."
"I think that's a gift and maybe sometimes also a curse."
"I do notice when I do, I do dig around sometimes around that area as well, just to try and loosen things up a little bit because of the pains I get."
RESOURCES
Links: www.dracumassage.com
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
This episode features relationship coach Jessica Myers-Adams discussing the importance of relationships and her book "What to Do When You Do Give a Fuck."
Jessica shares insights on elevating relationships to a higher purpose and the concept of being a relationship visionary. Jessica highlights an exercise called the "paper exercise" to help couples navigate decision-making and prioritise each other's needs. Listeners can connect with Jessica through her website www.couplespeak.com and access her book on Amazon for practical relationship guidance.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Importance of Communication: Clear and respectful communication in relationships is essential to understanding oneself and one's partner.
- Conflict Resolution: The paper exercise discussed in the episode demonstrates a practical way to navigate conflicts and make decisions in relationships by understanding each other's perspectives.
- Self-awareness and Self-reflection: Self-awareness and self-reflection in understanding one's own behaviors and patterns in relationships are important for a successful relationship.
- Balancing Needs: It's important to learn to balance individual needs and desires with the needs of the relationship as a whole, promoting mutual understanding and compromise.
BEST MOMENTS
"I think the key is, for me, what I aspire to give a fuck about is what is best for both of us."
"It's too hard. I don't want to do that."
"I think the other thing that happens for the person who's receiving is they know it's not genuine."
"It takes a lot of work, doesn't it? But hey, so worth it in the end."
Links: www.couplesspeak.com
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
This episode features an insightful conversation between John and guest Jill Carr, author of "Astrolations." Jill discusses her lifelong interest in astrology and the creation of her astrological guide. She delves into the importance of understanding astrology in relationships and the episode covers topics such as the influence of astrological signs, the significance of elements in personality traits, and the balance of yin and yang energies.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Jill Carr, has a deep passion for astrology and has been studying it since a young age, leading her to write a book called "Astrolations."
- Jill believes that astrology can help people understand themselves and others better, leading to more harmonious relationships and a greater sense of meaning in life.
- Jill's book, "Astrolations," combines Western and Chinese astrology to provide a comprehensive guide to understanding one's character and relationships.
- Jill Carr emphasises the importance of balance in astrological elements and how they influence personality traits and relationships.
- The moon can have a big impact on emotions and behaviours, lunar cycles have been found to affect human experiences and interactions too.
BEST MOMENTS
"I think astrology helps a lot with knowing ourselves. Find out everything that influences you. Find out what makes you angry, what makes you joyous, things like that."
"I never thought of it like that, to be honest. I never thought of it being something to believe in something to, like you said, something tangible to hold on to."
"I think astrology is important in our lives and our relationships because I think we're looking for a meaning, and I think astrology, you know, our planet Earth."
"I think people are looking for a soulmate, and I think the practice involved for me is about yin and yang, being, you know, the Western signs of negative and positive."
"I think people can look at this astrolations on many, many levels. I think some people, it's quite a hefty book, it will be a good textbook, I think, for students of astrology."
RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
Links: www.astrolations.co.uk
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
This episode features an insightful conversation between John and guest Monica Esgueva, a spiritual guide and author. Monica shares her journey of spiritual awakening and transformation, emphasising the importance of expanding consciousness and cultivating inner peace. They discuss Monica's new book, "The Seven Levels of Wisdom," and Monica highlights the significance of relationships in personal growth and the interconnectedness of body, mind, and spirit.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Monica has been dedicated to guiding individuals on their journey towards expanding their consciousness, cultivating inner peace, and living a life of deep fulfilment for more than 15 years.
- Monica's new book, "The Seven Levels of Wisdom," focuses on how to raise one's level of consciousness and is suitable for those starting a spiritual path or wanting to go further in their personal development.
- Working on yourself consciously and willingly is essential to progress in personal development, achieve serenity, harmony, and inner calmness.
- Relationships are an excellent path to work on unconditional love, altruism, and personal growth.
BEST MOMENTS
"The best way to earn serenity is to collaborate unconditionally with what is inevitable."
"It's never too late because we needed all the past experience to be able to learn things that we need right now."
"The only ceiling is how much you are willing to put into the work."
"It's about not just how you think, it's not about how you feel, it's the whole thing of putting it all together and being sort of one with yourself."
"We are one out of time, I'm afraid."
RESOURCES
Links: www.monicaesgueva.com
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John is joined in this episode by Mel Clarke, a soul relationship coach. Mel shares her personal journey of self-discovery and healing, highlighting her experiences of being in a toxic relationship and the importance of setting boundaries. She reflects on the challenges of dealing with narcissistic behaviour and the impact it had on her self-worth and relationships. The episode delves into themes of empathy, boundaries, and the complexities of navigating toxic relationships while prioritising self-care and personal growth.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Boundaries are essential for self-healing, self-love, and self-worth.
- Recognising patterns and defence mechanisms in oneself and others is crucial for understanding behaviour.
- Empathy and understanding can sometimes lead to tolerating abusive behaviour for longer than necessary.
- Setting boundaries and prioritising self-care is important, even when it means letting go of toxic relationships.
- Personal growth and spiritual development often involve facing difficult situations and learning from them.
BEST MOMENTS
"I have a real passion to help men and women that are settling in their relationships predominantly because millions, if not billions of people are doing that every day."
"It's all love and light, right? Higher consciousness and energy and the universe and all the rest of it. The rest of it is like ego-based defence patterns, things that we've learned from a kid when our own needs weren't getting met as a child."
"Mel, stop putting everybody else's feelings before your own. Get your fucking boundaries in place, love. And, you know, practice what you preach, basically."
"It's interesting about your character, isn't it, that you keep trying to, or you kept trying to see his side of things. You kept trying to put yourself into his shoes, that empathy, yeah, kind of was well kind of too far, too much empathy."
"But again, without prying too much into your personal life. Have you fallen out of it now? Because something that he's accusing you of that you've done wrong that he can't face up to?"
Links: www.melclarkecoaching.com
(3) How To Live a Life of Purpose with True Love and Passion | LinkedIn
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
This episode features relationship coach and therapist, Maxine Clancy, discussing the importance of conscious uncoupling and healthy relationships. Maxine shares her personal experiences with divorce and growth, emphasising the significance of self-compassion and understanding in navigating challenging relationship dynamics. Maxine's approach focuses on empowering individuals to take responsibility for their emotions and actions, fostering a compassionate and accepting relationship with oneself and others.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Self-Relationship is Key: Maxine emphasises the importance of having an empowered self-relationship as a foundation for creating happy, healthy, and loving relationships with others.
- Divorce Specialisation: Maxine has specialised in helping people through divorce for the past eight years, guiding them to find love again and create fulfilling relationships post-divorce.
- Conscious Uncoupling: The concept of conscious uncoupling is discussed, which involves divorcing in a way that honours and respects both individuals and any children involved, aiming for an amicable future relationship.
- Impact of Voice in Relationships: Maxine shares a personal insight about the importance of a potential partner's voice in the context of dating, suggesting that it can be a significant factor in attraction and connection.
- Vulnerability and Intimacy: The conversation touches on the role of vulnerability in relationships, highlighting that being open and vulnerable is essential for deep connections, despite the risk of pain or rejection.
BEST MOMENTS
"I help people to have an empowered self-relationship so that they can go on to create happy, healthy, loving relationships."
"I remember when I first got divorced, I found out my ex-wife was having an affair. And I went to my first coaching session afterwards. And they said to me, 'What was your responsibility?'"
"Conscious uncoupling is really about how do we divorce consciously, how do we divorce well with the intention to honour and respect yourselves, your children, your family that you have created."
"I had this dream one night because it was very bizarre what actually happened. One of the women that my ex-husband had an affair with, who also he had the affair with her in South Africa, and then she happened to move to England."
"I can't trust anybody because the person I trusted implicitly has now someone I can't trust and that I am not good enough for anybody at all."
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
Links: www.maxineclancy.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
Join John as he interviews Jacky Wood, a licensed menopause champion and relationship coach. Jacky shares her personal experience with perimenopause and how it impacted her life, relationships, and mental health. She emphasises the importance of understanding hormonal fluctuations during perimenopause and menopause and offers guidance on how to support oneself through this transition.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Menopause can have a significant impact on a woman's life, affecting her physically, emotionally, and mentally.
- It is important for women going through menopause to seek support and guidance to cope with the hormonal fluctuations.
- Hormonal changes during perimenopause and menopause can lead to various symptoms affecting different parts of the body.
- Communication and understanding between partners are crucial during menopause to maintain intimacy and support each other.
- Seeking help and knowledge about menopause can empower individuals to make informed decisions and improve their quality of life.
BEST MOMENTS
"Perimenopause is not an age thing. It's a hormone thing, and it can happen to people at any time."
"I think there must be something so that's the kind of person that lights me up."
"I think my missus is going through this, you know, what, what do you advise? and we can set off a conversation."
"I think that's really important, isn't the openness and honesty. Sharing."
"Although we can't go back and make a brand new start, we can start now and make a brand new ending."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: helpwithmenopause.net
Facebook group: Your Menopause Mentor
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode, John interviews Feng Shui consultant and Chinese astrologer Janine Lowe. Janine discusses her expertise in helping people with relationships and wealth using Chinese astrology. She delves into the significance of Chinese astrology in understanding individuals' characteristics and relationships. Janine also talks about her book, "Date, Love, Marry, Avoid," which provides insights into compatibility based on Chinese zodiac signs. The conversation explores the importance of intuition, personal characteristics, and the dynamics of different animal signs in relationships. Janine also shares personal anecdotes and insights into her own experiences with relationships and impulsive decisions.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Chinese Astrology and Relationships: Janine Lowe, a Feng Shui consultant, uses Chinese astrology to help people understand relationships better. She explains that based on one's birth year, which is associated with a specific animal in the Chinese zodiac, you can discern a lot about a person's characteristics and compatibility with others.
- Triads and Compatibility: In Chinese astrology, certain animals are grouped into triads or compatible groups. For example, the rat, dragon, and monkey form a triad and naturally get along well. Understanding these groupings can help in determining relationship dynamics and compatibility.
- Peach Blossom Animals: Janine mentions "peach blossoms" in astrology, which are animals that people are naturally drawn to. These include roosters, rabbits, horses, and rats. Individuals born in the year of these animals tend to be engaging and can attract others easily, sometimes leading to multiple engagements or marriages.
- Personal Year Analysis: Each year can bring different energies and opportunities based on one's Chinese zodiac. For John, Janine predicts that the current year is good for self-employment and making money, and she advises him on auspicious times to launch new ventures.
- Metaphysics and Practical Application: Janine emphasises the practical side of metaphysics, explaining that it's not just about intuition or "woo-woo" but about having a solid foundation and predictable outcomes. She uses metaphysics to provide concrete advice, such as the best days for making decisions or starting new projects, and even in predicting outcomes in shows like "Strictly Come Dancing" based on the contestants' zodiac signs.
BEST MOMENTS
"I started as an intuitional person. You have to find a way that you can use your intuition."
"I have had a number of copies which I've given to people and I've stood in front of them. And instead of sort of reading it, they immediately go to what their partner is or whatever to see if they actually get on."
"I think there's so much more to people. It's just people just don't, do not get around to watching or not watching. Yeah, they watch, but they don't see what's underneath."
"I think you need to, for you to be in the kind of best relationship possible, you need to be willing to look underneath, don't you?"
"Thank you for playing along with me." (8 words)
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: https://www.janinelowe.co.uk/
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John is joined by Jael Kay, the founder of Yes Love, an online platform focusing on love and mental health. Jael shares her journey of discovery, realising the impact of her upbringing on her relationships and mental well-being. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, understanding one's worth, and breaking free from unhealthy relationship patterns. The conversation delves into the complexities of relationships, cultural influences, and the need for individuals to prioritise their own happiness and fulfilment.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- It is important to shed light on topics like love, mental health, and relationship dynamics to create a safe space for discussion.
- Self-awareness and understanding one's own triggers and patterns are crucial in maintaining healthy relationships.
- Therapy and coaching can help individuals explore themselves, improve self-worth, and make better relationship choices.
- It is essential to have a sense of self-worth and fulfilment outside of a relationship to avoid dependency and maintain a healthy perspective on relationships.
BEST MOMENTS
"I think these things are the things that make it difficult for people to get out of unhealthy relationships because you just assume this is what the work is."
"I think just not being aware can cost you so many years."
"An important point to understand is that the relationships aren't hard, they just take work."
Links: https://yeslove.co.uk/
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
This episode features an insightful conversation with Kyle France from Causeway, a national charity dedicated to supporting marginalised and vulnerable individuals, including survivors of modern slavery and those caught in cycles of exploitation and crime. Kyle discusses the important work that Causeway does in providing safe houses, outreach support, and assistance with the asylum process for victims of modern slavery. The episode explores the various forms of exploitation within modern slavery, the challenges faced by survivors, and the need for awareness and support from the community.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Modern slavery can take various forms, including human trafficking, forced labour, debt bondage, child exploitation, criminal exploitation, and sexual exploitation.
- Men, especially those aged 18 to 35, are vulnerable to modern slavery due to factors such as lack of positive male role models, broken homes, and the need for belonging.
- Re-trafficking is a significant issue, with individuals sometimes returning to traffickers as it may seem like the safest option in their minds.
- Causeway offers support services for survivors of modern slavery, including safe houses, outreach support, and long-term assistance through telephone support.
- Getting involved with Causeway can include financial donations, fundraising activities, volunteering, and spreading awareness through social media.
BEST MOMENTS
"It's fascinating, isn't it, that, you know, obviously not really having anything to do with this myself at all throughout my life, that there is so much of this that goes on and in plain sight."
"The reality is that traffickers and people who do this are a lot cleverer than we give them credit for sometimes. That's the unfortunate truth, which is why this is such a difficult thing to tackle."
"I think the male thing is interesting because a lot of the men, it's actually the things that you'd probably consider to be masculine in nature that's used against them."
"I think one of the things that a lot of people are worried about is talking to somebody and it's like maybe about a neighbour or something, and they're worried that they'll be found out."
"Thank you for reaching out to me because this was something that wasn't really on my radar at all, but it's a fascinating topic and the work that you're doing is amazing."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: https://www.wearecauseway.org.uk/
https://www.wearecauseway.org.uk/news-campaigns/causeway-campaigns/hidden-men-of-modern-slavery/
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John delves into the concept of clearing sessions with guest Elizabeth Goddard, an author, speaker, and woundologist. They explore the idea of emotional wounds and how they can manifest in our bodies, often stemming from past experiences or ancestral trauma. Through a deep dive into John's personal experience of feeling unworthy after a potential opportunity, Elizabeth guides him through a clearing session to address these underlying emotions. The conversation touches on the impact of childhood experiences on adult beliefs and behaviours, highlighting the importance of healing and self-awareness. Elizabeth also shares information about her healing services, inviting listeners to explore their own emotional healing journey.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Emotional wounds can be like physical wounds, sitting in the body and needing healing.
- Trauma and emotional wounds can be passed down through generations and affect individuals from a young age.
- Clearing sessions involve identifying and removing emotional wounds by visualizing and releasing them.
- Trauma and stress experienced by parents can affect children even before birth.
- Honest conversations with oneself can help challenge and change limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns.
BEST MOMENTS
"I'm never going to amount to it. That strikes as soon as that subconscious sources, but they're not going to choose you. That's projecting out that actually, well, you're not going to amount to anything."
"I work with 18 core wounds, or it's three core wounds, but I work with 18 wounds and the rest of branches of okay. And, and I do it as a distance healing."
"I've got a distance healing thing that's going on, which is called Quantum Glow. And I work with 18 core wounds, or it's three core wounds, but I work with 18 wounds and the rest of branches of okay."
"I'm also doing something very similar to this, but it's a 30-minute session. Again, it's a really, really silly low price. The rest of them are on my website."
"Although we can't go back and make a brand new start, we can start now and make a brand new ending."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode, John interviews Sonya Morton-Firth, known as the "Queen of Transformation." Sonya shares her journey of leaving a successful corporate career to pursue a more fulfilling life focused on health, mindset, and financial freedom. She discusses the importance of mindset in achieving goals, the significance of personal growth, and the shift from working for money to making money work for you. Sonya emphasises the value of living a life aligned with one's values and the power of taking control of one's own life.
- Focus on Mindset: To achieve personal growth and success it's essential to shift perspectives and beliefs and alter your mindset.
- Value of Health and Fitness: Sonya shares her journey of transformation, emphasising the significance of prioritising health, fitness, and nutrition in leading a fulfilling life.
- Financial Freedom: Learn to make money work for you, rather than being solely reliant on traditional employment.
- Self-Reflection and Personal Growth: Reflect on all of your life choices, take risks, and pursue personal growth, even if it means stepping out of your comfort zone.
- Empowerment through Choices: Take control of your life, make choices that align with your values, and strive for a fulfilling and purpose-driven existence.
BEST MOMENTS
"I put it out into the universe that one day you will be a guest on my show."
"I think the biggest critic we have is our own minds."
"Do you believe life happens for you or to you?"
"I believe we all have a purpose. And sometimes we don't find our purpose right away."
"I think it's all about, have you got, how do you look at things? How do you perceive things?"
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: https://www.sonyamortonfirth.com
https://www.youtube.com/thesonyamortonfirthshow
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John welcomes Sue Schneider, an author and integrative health coach, who delves into their background as a medical anthropologist and their research on global health and healing practices. Sue discusses the importance of mindfulness, traditional healing practices, and the impact of mindfulness on relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Cultural Anthropology and Mindfulness: Sue's background in medical anthropology and mindfulness sheds light on the intersection of traditional healing practices and modern mindfulness techniques, offering a unique perspective on health and well-being.
- Global Health Practices: Sue's research in Mexico reveals how different cultures approach health and healing, showcasing the importance of incorporating ancient wisdom into contemporary lifestyles for optimal health.
- Mindfulness in Relationships: Sue's personal experience with mindfulness and its impact on relationships emphasises the power of mindfulness in fostering understanding, compassion, and communication within partnerships.
- Mindful Communication Protocol: Sue shares a structured communication protocol based on mindfulness principles, highlighting the value of mindful listening, gratitude, and open dialogue in nurturing healthy relationships.
- Practical Application of Mindfulness: Sue's insights on integrating mindfulness into daily life, including a weekly mindfulness practice with their partner, offer tangible strategies for cultivating mindfulness and enhancing relationship dynamics.
BEST MOMENTS
"I've always been super interested in how other cultures do health and healing, knowing that there is so much wisdom and knowledge from our past."
"This experience changed my life. When I finished up with that research a year later and went back home, I immediately sought out a Sangha, a meditation group that I could practice with formally every single week."
"Anxiety is my number one teacher. But how have I done that process? And what have I learned along the way?"
"I feel like you said, it gives you that clarity within your own space as well, doesn't it? Of what's bothering you, whether it's got anything to do with your other or not."
"Thank you for listening. Please subscribe, follow and review the show. That is very much appreciated."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.meetingthemoment.org
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode, John welcomes John Campbell who shares insights from his life experiences and his book "Miracle Relationships: A Path to Freedom and Joy." Born in India and raised in Africa, Campbell reflects on his journey and the impact of his upbringing, including having an alcoholic mother. Tune in to discover how his unique perspective shapes his approach to maintaining peaceful and harmonious relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Importance of Self-Reflection: John emphasizes the significance of self-reflection in understanding one's beliefs and behaviours in relationships.
- Power of Positive Thinking: The episode highlights the impact of thoughts on our experiences and encourages a shift towards positive thinking for personal growth.
- Joy as a Natural State: John discusses how joy is our natural state and shares insights on how to cultivate joy through changing perceptions and beliefs.
- Communication in Relationships: The importance of clear communication and language in relationships is underscored, emphasizing the need to be mindful of the words we use.
- Seeking Growth and Healing: The episode touches on the journey of personal growth and healing, showcasing the power of willingness to change beliefs and patterns for a more fulfilling life.
BEST MOMENTS
"I always feel when I found the pot of gold, I always wanted to share the pot of gold."
"The solution is always what I talk about a lot in the books about forgiveness."
"The minute you hear that voice in your head saying those things, don't try and shut it down. Just say quietly, I hear what you say, but thank God it's not true."
"I always say that's why I'm writing a book about football now as well with all this stuff."
"When I change the way I see things, the things I see will change."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: miraclesrock.com
email: john@miraclesrock.com
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John Kenny interviews Nicole Goott, an author, thought partner, spiritual mentor, and facilitator. Nicole shares her insights on discovering joy and inner peace within oneself, drawing from her book "Yoga and the Five Elements: Spiritual Wisdom for Everyday Living." She explains how the five elements (earth, water, air, fire, and space) can be used as a framework for personal growth and self-discovery. Nicole emphasises the importance of integrating these elements to achieve balance and fulfilment in both our physical and spiritual selves. The conversation delves into the significance of relationships and how they can serve as catalysts for personal transformation. Nicole also highlights the role of self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own reactions and actions in relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The book "Yoga and the Five Elements" by Nicole Goott offers practical exercises and prompts to help individuals discover joy within themselves and bring balance to their physical and non-physical selves.
- The five elements (earth, water, air, fire, and space) are a framework for understanding and working with different aspects of ourselves and the world around us.
- Earth represents embodiment and grounding, water represents flow and moving through obstacles, air represents the perspective and the ability to see things from a higher point of view, fire represents transformation and aligning with one's unique path, and space represents integration and interconnectedness.
- Relationships play a significant role in our lives, shaping our growth and self-discovery. They provide opportunities for learning about ourselves, breaking patterns, and finding alignment with others who share similar beliefs and worldviews.
- Taking responsibility for our own reactions and actions in relationships is essential for personal growth and healing. It involves letting go of blame, forgiving, and focusing on our own healing and self-care.
BEST MOMENTS
"I help people really discover joy within themselves."
"When we're in touch with the soul's point of view, we really are elevating ourselves to a higher perspective."
"It's never really about the other person. We're responsible for our actions and reactions."
"Help is always around us. It's always available to us and there's grace around us."
"Every moment is an opportunity to realise yourself, practice kindness to yourself and others, and live as lightly as you can on the earth."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: https://www.nicolegoott.com/
https://www.nicolegoott.com/book
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John interviews Mike Goldstein, a dating expert with over a decade of experience. Mike shares his personal journey of struggling with dating in his younger years and how he became passionate about helping others create healthy and fulfilling relationships. He discusses his unique dating strategies, including his 50-12-1 system, which focuses on sending well-crafted messages and being discerning in choosing potential partners. Mike also emphasises the importance of self-love and what to prioritise in a relationship.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Focus on building a healthy single life and enjoying yourself before entering into a relationship.
- Be discerning in your choices and don't settle for less than what you truly want and deserve.
- Use online dating strategically and efficiently, sending a higher volume of well-crafted messages to increase your chances of finding a compatible partner.
- Prioritise compatibility and connection over superficial qualities like physical appearance.
- Have no shame in pursuing what you want and taking the necessary steps to find a fulfilling and lasting relationship.
BEST MOMENTS
"I've had 15 people married and countless more life partnerships, you know, folks don't always want to get married. But of the 15 marriages, we have zero divorces."
"I want women who, you know, has a good job, has family friends, like has things going for her, has finances totally taken care of. Then give me a shout."
"I want ladies, I want you to have no shame in what you're trying to accomplish. It's so powerful. I have no shame. If I want something, like it's a salesman mindset of no shame."
"I had to learn that, you know, we're equal and women deserve respect."
"I've never in the 10 professional years I've been doing this had someone say that they'd be okay with 75%. I was actually in shock."
Links:
https://www.ezdatingcoach.com/
Free gift: https://ezdatingcoach.activehosted.com/f/3?HIDDEN_FIELD=Me
www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
Join John as he interviews Nicola Amadora who is a spiritual teacher and holistic psychologist. They discuss the importance of relationships and how spirituality and psychology can be combined to create healthy and fulfilling connections. Nicola shares her extensive experience working with people around the world and their insights on love, healing, and awakening. They also delve into the challenges of living a spiritual life in the midst of everyday pressures and offer practical advice on how to navigate relationships with presence and love.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The book "Love Unleashed: How to Rise in a World on the Edge" by Nicola Amadora is about creating healthy, intimate relationships and offers a mix of spirituality and psychology.
- The book is divided into four sections: life, self, relationships, and the world. Each section explores different aspects of love and connection.
- The author emphasises the importance of presence and kindness in relationships, and the need to bring spirituality and psychology together for healing and growth.
- The book includes real-life stories and practical advice on how to navigate the challenges of relationships and live love in the midst of a chaotic world.
- The author encourages readers to shift from a mindset of taking to one of giving, and to connect with the stream of love within themselves and pour it into the world.
BEST MOMENTS
"I felt like spirituality without psychology is not a good idea, because we're human."
"Love is not something somebody can even give you unless, you know, they give it freely, but it's not."
"I think 90% of all relationships, the pain is like, I'm not heard. I'm not seen. I'm not met."
"I think people love, and it's about them. And it's the choices we make, the way of how we can follow the fire of passion inside."
"Let me love you all the way, just as you have been yearning for, while so often others, feeling separate, have looked out for themselves alone."
Links:
https://www.nicolaamadora.com/
https://www.nicolaamadora.com/shop/
www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
Join John as he interviews Elliot Kay, an ADHD business coach and consultant. Elliot shares his varied and wild history, including his entrepreneurial ventures, time spent in prison, and his journey to becoming a successful business owner. He discusses the challenges of living with ADHD and the impact it has on relationships. Elliot also delves into the concept of rejection sensitive dysphoria and how it affects individuals with ADHD. He emphasises the importance of understanding and embracing one's strengths and challenges in order to create healthy, fulfilling relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The guest has a varied and wild history, including entrepreneurial ventures, legal troubles, and experiences in the business world.
- The guest has ADHD and has become a coach and trainer to help others with ADHD gain clarity, take action, and leverage their strengths.
- The guest discusses the concept of rejection sensitive dysphoria, which is a heightened fear of rejection that can be common in people with ADHD.
- The guest shares personal experiences with toxic and narcissistic relationships, highlighting the importance of self-worth and healthy boundaries.
- The guest is focused on personal growth and aims to inspire and motivate others through his radio show, podcast, and coaching work.
BEST MOMENTS
"I want to be the Tony Robbins of ADHD neurodiversity."
"I picture myself stood on a circular stage in the middle of... a big arena. And they were there for me, not just me, but they were there for whatever I would create."
"I genuinely think having the right people around you, relationships, family, friends... having those around you... that's a great way of feeding, feeding that dopamine."
"I find myself in a space now that... I can have that impact. And I sort of thank everything... good, bad, whatever's happened in life, I thank everybody."
"Adopt, Adapt and Improve... if you carried that and the other mottos with you... you can go far."
ABOUT THE GUEST
Links:
www.elliotcbrowne.com
ABOUT THE HOST
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
Roxana Dragusel, author of "The Ten Principles of the Feminine" joins John in this episode. Roxana shares her journey of rediscovering her feminine side and the importance of embracing feminine energy in relationships. She discusses the societal stigma surrounding feminine energy and the need for both men and women to cultivate it. Roxana highlights key principles such as attraction, manifestation, beauty, flow, and compassion. She challenges traditional notions of romance and encourages listeners to approach relationships from a place of healing and authenticity.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Feminine energy is a state of being that involves relaxation, enjoyment of life, and connection to the spiritual aspects of life.
- The principles of attraction and manifestation are important in understanding and harnessing feminine energy.
- Understanding and appreciating one's own assets is crucial in creating a fulfilling life and relationships.
- Beauty is not just about physical appearance but also about perceiving and experiencing beauty in oneself and others.
- Compassion, or the feeling of oneness with others, is a key aspect of feminine energy and can lead to more fulfilling relationships and connections.
BEST MOMENTS
"The feminine means knowing that you're worthy of it without really doing anything."
"Love is not a verb, love is a state of being, full stop."
"Being in your feminine energy, you are going to attract all the good things in your life."
"Flow is the ability to let go of expectations and live life without having a second agenda."
"Love is happy when it is able to give something, and the ego is happy when it's able to take something."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Title: What is Feminine Energy with Roxana Dragusel
Links: https://theinsidemonarch.com/
https://theinsidemonarch.com/books
ABOUT THE HOST
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John interviews Serge Beddington-Behrens, an Oxford-educated transpersonal psychotherapist and spiritual educator. Serge shares his personal journey of growing up in a world of opulence and privilege, feeling like he didn't belong, and eventually finding his own path of spiritual transformation. He discusses the importance of letting go of false narratives and becoming more honest and open-hearted.
Serge's book, "Amazing Grace," is a memoir of his transformational journey and offers insights into creating a more peaceful and compassionate world. Reach out to Serge for further discussions or support.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The guest, Serge Eddington-Berenson, shares his personal journey of transformation and finding his true self.
- He emphasises the importance of connecting with one's inner heart and opening up to others in relationships.
- Serge discusses the need for a new value system in the world, where honesty, kindness, and generosity triumph over corruption, indifference, and greed.
- He highlights the connection between war, violence, and the suppression of women in certain societies.
- Serge invites listeners to reach out to him for support or to engage in conversations about the topics he discusses in his book and work.
BEST MOMENTS
"I was in the wrong part or, you know, it wasn't my tribe."
"I fitted into that world where we were a bunch of hooligans who were a member of that dreadful Bullingdon club."
"I decided to go on a spiritual path... that other kind of life drew me in more and more."
"I found my tribe... I wanted to become an ordinary, simple human being."
"I felt you see me... because I feel you see me."
EPISODE RESOURCES
https://sergebeddingtonbehrens.com/books/amazing-grace-memoirs-of-a-transformational-journey/
https://sergebeddingtonbehrens.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
Join John as he interviews Mel Murphy, an elite divorce coach who specialises in supporting high-net-worth individuals during and after their separation or divorce. Mel shares her expertise in helping clients navigate the emotional and practical aspects of divorce. She also discusses the importance of trust for her clients, as well as the challenges of financial control and maintaining a separate life within a high-net-worth relationship.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Mel focuses on healing, self-sabotage, and limiting beliefs in her coaching sessions with clients.
- She runs retreats in five-star castles in Ireland, where clients can engage in well-being, relaxation, and healing activities.
- Mel emphasises the importance of finding one's inner child and working towards a positive future after divorce or separation.
- She also offers training through the Divorce Coaching Academy, where individuals can become certified divorce coaches and receive comprehensive training in various aspects of divorce coaching.
BEST MOMENTS
"I focus on my high net worth clients. I run retreats in five-star castles around Ireland."
"Coercive control runs rampant in the high net worth community, especially financial control."
"It's around how they live a separate life. They might need to continue the public relations show to others, but live a separate life anyway."
"It's around unravelling some of that without necessarily going into counselling, but going back along the timeline."
"What if our best times are ahead of us? What if some changes happen in the world that lead us to actually become better people and have better lives than we have in the past?"
EPISODE RESOURCES
thedivorcecoachingacademy.com
https://www.divorcecoachingireland.com/
https://melmurphyinternational.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode, John interviews Mark Yegge, a wealth architect and founder of Light Circle. Mark shares his journey of personal development and how it led him to create Light Circle, an organisation dedicated to helping people maximise their potential in all areas of life. They discuss the importance of relationships, self-love, and holistic growth. Mark also introduces the upcoming event, "Your Greatest Year," where participants can learn from experts, engage in hyperlearning, and join a supportive community.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Mark Yegge is the founder of Light Circle and is known as the wealth architect.
- Mark's passion is helping people make the most out of their lives in all areas, including relationships, personal development, and financial success.
- Light Circle focuses on six foundational principles: pure relationships, fulfilling travel, magical self-connection, profound spirituality, balanced abundance, and youthful health.
- Mark emphasises the importance of surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people who uplift and encourage you.
- Light Circle offers expert education, empowered thinking, and a supportive community to help individuals achieve their goals and live their best lives.
BEST MOMENTS
"Life wasn't about anything really other than relationships with humans."
"We've got it wrong. We've got to teach people these things."
"If you don't love yourself, you don't love who you are."
"Your environment is everything."
"Never give up your power in your health, your wealth, or your time."
GUEST LINKS
https://www.lightcircle.org/
https://www.lightcircle.org/yourgreatestyear
ABOUT THE HOST
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode, John interviews Elizabeth Goddard, founder of the Divorce Sanctuary and author of the book "Divorce Matters." Elizabeth shares her expertise in dealing with divorces involving manipulative and emotionally abusive partners. She discusses the importance of emotionally divorcing from a narcissistic ex-spouse and offers practical advice on navigating the divorce process, including financial considerations and negotiating assets. Elizabeth also introduces the concept of "woundology," a healing approach that addresses past life wounds and ancestral trauma.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Elizabeth Goddard's book, "Divorce Matters," is a comprehensive workbook and healing guide for individuals going through a divorce with manipulative and emotionally abusive partners.
- Emotional divorcing is an important aspect of separating from a narcissistic or manipulative partner, as it involves managing your own emotions and reactions to their behaviour.
- Woundology is a concept that Elizabeth specialises in, which involves healing past life wounds, clearing ancestral trauma, and addressing current life wounds that may be affecting relationships.
- The book "Divorce Matters" covers practical aspects of divorce, such as finances and asset splitting, while also addressing the emotional side of the process and providing tools for healing and moving forward.
- Elizabeth's work with wounds and trauma can be beneficial for individuals who have experienced emotional abuse or have unresolved wounds that are impacting their relationships. Her website, Divorce Sanctuary, provides more information on her services and how to work with her.
BEST MOMENTS
"It's a workbook healing book. It's an encompassed everything to help people who are divorcing through or divorcing manipulative people, people that are going to manipulate the process, hide things."
"Financial control is huge. So, and it happens and this is something that continues after the divorce as well. There is an element that they will control the day it gets paid."
"It's about letting them think they've won. I had a bonus when I was working quite a few years ago and I bought this huge TV and surround sound TV and DVD player. And it was my ex-husband like he was in heaven."
"It's about healing some of those wounds, not just those, but other stuff as well. There might be money stuff that comes down, there might have been abuse stuff or trauma that comes back down through this ancestral line."
"I was able to contact that part of me that wanted that attention that needed that attention that was in pain. And I was able to talk to her, calm her down. And it just changed everything."
GUEST LINKS
https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self-sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode of the Relationship Guy podcast, John is joined by Dr. Kira Markoff, a licensed clinical social worker and relationship expert. The topic of discussion is loneliness, particularly during the holiday season. Dr. Markoff shares her personal experience of feeling disconnected and explores the different types of loneliness, including external aloneness and internal barriers to connection. They discuss the impact of social media on loneliness and the importance of fulfilling social needs. The episode also delves into the causes of loneliness, such as grief, and offers strategies for overcoming loneliness, including reaching out to others and engaging in opposite action. The episode concludes with a discussion on the consequences of loneliness, highlighting its impact on mental health and overall well-being.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Loneliness can have significant negative impacts on mental health and well-being, including an increased risk of early mortality and higher rates of depression and mental distress.
- It is important to differentiate between loneliness and being alone. Loneliness is a craving or desire for connection, while being alone can be a choice or a temporary state.
- Strategies for addressing loneliness include seeking out social interactions, whether through spending time with friends and family, joining classes or groups, or simply being in the presence of others in public spaces.
- Internal barriers, such as past trauma or negative relationship experiences, can contribute to feelings of loneliness. It is important to address these barriers through therapy or self-reflection in order to cultivate meaningful connections.
- Grief can also contribute to feelings of loneliness, especially during holidays or special occasions. Connecting with others who have experienced similar losses can provide a sense of understanding and support.
BEST MOMENTS
"Loneliness is a craving or a desire for connection."
"Sometimes psychology gives us the words to be more specific about our feelings and to understand them within ourselves."
"Humans are social creatures. We need to be in a social group to be healthy, to thrive, to live our best life."
"Loneliness can increase the risk of early mortality by 26%."
"The key factor to happiness in fulfilling someone's life is the quality of their relationships."
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
https://www.campaigntoendloneliness.org/feeling-lonely/
https://www.campaigntoendloneliness.org/feeling-lonely/helpful-links/
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
At this time of year it's far more normal to spend time with family member, perhaps for longer periods than you may be used to. But this proximity can throw up several issues, and as John discusses in this show, there are ways to make sure that our relationships with those we love do not suffer.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- In general, we tend to look to our mothers for love and affection, and to our fathers for sense of pride and self-worth.
- We must take time to reflect upon and recognise the relationships that we currently have with our family members.
- One issue could come from the angle of gifts. Often we give gifts not just to make others happy, but also to gain acceptance.
BEST MOMENTS'It's the season of goodwill to all, no matter how you might feel about things'
'Do you notice that things only seem to go well when you're doing what they want?'
'There are ways in which you can feel empowered'
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John welcomes back Kira Markoff, a mental health therapist and researcher, to discuss the results of her study on mindfulness and romantic partner conflict. Kira shares that her research focused on the correlation between different facets of mindfulness and various conflict behaviours. She found that acting with awareness, intentionality, and non-judgment were key factors in reducing interactional reactivity and domination during conflicts. Kira emphasises the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and effective communication in creating healthy and fulfilling relationships. She also highlights the need for boundaries and self-protection when dealing with relationships that may be harmful or unresponsive to mindful approaches.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Acting with awareness, intentionality, and control over our behaviours during conflict can lead to lower levels of interactional reactivity and domination.
- Describing our thoughts and feelings skillfully and mindfully can improve communication and increase the likelihood of compromise in conflicts.
- Non-judgment, both towards ourselves and others, is important in creating a safe and open space for resolving conflicts.
- Taking time for self-soothing and self-care before engaging in conflict discussions can help regulate emotions and promote more productive conversations.
- It is essential to set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships, prioritising self-protection and well-being when necessary.
BEST MOMENTS
"So my focus was mindfulness and romantic partner relationships."
"It's important to be able to offer those repair attempts and then for your partner or whoever to be able to accept them."
"If you're a person who experiences that kind of anxiety, you also need to do that physiological soothing."
"It's important to know that we can do that for ourselves."
"It's about finding ways to help soothe yourself so that you can come from a calm and centred place."
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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John interviews Sassy Smith, the founder of the Aphantasia Coaching Academy and a prominent voice for neurodiversity in coaching. Sassy shares her personal experience with aphantasia, a condition that affects her ability to create mental images on demand. She discusses how this condition has impacted her coaching practice and relationships, as well as the challenges she faces in accessing memories and emotions. Sassy also highlights the importance of understanding and accommodating different cognitive processes in relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Aphantasia is the inability to create mental images on demand.
- Aphantasia can impact communication and memory in relationships.
- People with aphantasia may have difficulty accessing their inner world and emotions.
- Understanding and accommodating different cognitive processes can improve communication in relationships.
- The Aphantasia Coaching Academy offers support and training for coaches working with individuals with aphantasia.
BEST MOMENTS
"Aphantasia is the inability to create mental images on demand."
"I couldn't find a coach who could get the same transformative results that I was able to get with my clients."
"I have no inner monologue, which I didn't even know was a real thing."
"I can't access any of my internal senses at all. So my internal world is pretty much a black hole."
"I must have left a mark if he remembered me, but I didn't remember him at all."
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode, relationship coach John Kenny welcomes Rob Wykes, a former charity CEO and railway chaplain, and author of the book "It's Not About the Furniture". Rob shares his journey from an ordinary upbringing in Coventry to his spiritual awakening within the church. They discuss the importance of looking beyond surface appearances and uncovering the hidden depths within ourselves and others. Tune in for an insightful conversation on the true essence of relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The importance of recognising and accessing the spiritual dimension within ourselves: We have to understand that we are more than just our thoughts and physical bodies. It encourages individuals to explore their spirituality and recognise the depth and uniqueness within themselves.
- The power of pausing and being present: Taking moments of pause and being present in the current moment can have a profound impact on our relationships and overall well-being. It allows us to connect on a deeper level and access a sense of peace and clarity.
- The value of self-reflection: Engaging in self-reflection helps us understand ourselves better and recognise our own growth areas. It allows us to approach situations with a different perspective and improve our relationships with others.
- The need for creating personal practices: Developing personal practices, such as meditation, contemplation, or mindfulness, can help us access our spirituality and connect with our inner selves. Consistency and dedication to these practices can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our spirituality.
- The recognition that spirituality is separate from religion: Spirituality is not exclusive to religious beliefs. It encourages individuals to explore their spirituality regardless of their religious affiliations and to focus on the spiritual dimension within themselves rather than external factors.
BEST MOMENTS
"There's hidden depths and there's a story that's not so obvious until you dig into it."
"There was something more in the universe than just my intellectual capacity and my physical presence."
"There's a part of us as human beings that is very often crying, 'Can you give me some attention?'"
"Being present is really, really important. It allows people to know there's something about them that is so special and unique."
"Your natural senses cannot possess God or unite you to God. They can only reach after God."
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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
Cori Josias shares her journey from a difficult divorce to becoming a source of hope and advice for people wanting to create fulfilling partnerships. With over 30 years of experience as a Buddhist leader, Cori leverages her deep understanding of human connection and conflict to help women over 50 navigate their long-term relationships. She discusses the importance of making decisions and taking responsibility in relationships, as well as the role of archetypes in understanding personality dynamics. Cori's approach focuses on empowering individuals to step into their authentic selves and create healthy, transformative relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Cori emphasises the importance of making decisions in relationships. Whether it's deciding to stay or go, making a decision is crucial for personal growth and transformation.
- She uses the concept of archetypes to understand personality types and their impact on relationships. By recognising and understanding these archetypes, individuals can work on the parts of their relationship that aren't working and find a meeting point closer to the centre.
- Cori highlights the significance of authenticity in relationships. She shares her personal experience of trying to be someone she thought her partner wanted her to be, which ultimately led to the deterioration of the relationship. Being true to oneself and embracing authenticity is essential for a fulfilling partnership.
- Cori also incorporates Buddhist principles into her coaching approach. These principles include self-awareness, cause and effect, and the potential for personal transformation. Buddhism provides a framework for understanding oneself and navigating through life's challenges.
BEST MOMENTS
"I realised I had a passion for helping people because what unfolded in my life is that I became more of the person I was meant to be at the outset."
"The thing that started the relationship often becomes the problem."
"You have this person, because they're sort of an opposite, what we call a dynamic tension opposite, they're helping you fill in. It's like they fill in the gaps where you fall short."
"Even if you're in corporate and you're making a lot of money, you are going to need emotional support, because that's not easy."
"The Buddhism I practice, it's called the Buddhism of Nichiren Daishonin. And, you know, with 35 years practice, I've learned a lot."
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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John interviews Jacqueline Kemp, a relationship coach and expert in human design. Jacqueline shares her journey of self-discovery and empowerment, discussing how she found her way out of a failing marriage and into a life of fulfilment. She explains the concept of human design, a powerful system that combines elements of astrology, chakras, and quantum physics to help individuals understand their energy type and how they interact with the world.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Jacqueline Kemp helps midlife women find their way out of limbo using coaching and human design.
- Human design is a powerful system that combines elements of chakras, astrology, Kabbalah, I Ching, and quantum physics to create a body graph that reveals an individual's energy type and how they interact with the world.
- Understanding your energy type can help you make empowered choices and align with your true self, leading to a more fulfilling life.
- Jacqueline's own journey of self-discovery and healing led her to embrace her own needs and make choices that supported her well-being.
- Jacqueline offers individual readings and coaching sessions to help clients understand their human design and embark on their own personal experiments to live a more authentic and aligned life.
BEST MOMENTS
"I'm somebody who helps people find new perspectives on things, find ways to look at what they're going through and where they're at in a slightly different way so that they can start to think about it from a perspective that means they get to try something different."
"Helping people start to really put the pieces together about who they are and what they want is, well, it's life-changing, you know, it's transformational work that really helps them feel like they're connecting with who they are on a level that they hadn't previously been able to do."
"If you can start to think about you and move you higher up the list, the other stuff will fall into place."
"I know this is not what I want going forwards. However, I have no clue what the future looks like. And when this life coach that I started working with said to me, tell me about your life. I just wanted to laugh because I thought if I don't laugh, I'm just going to be crying for the next hour."
"I just remember thinking, you know, this is totally I'm not doing this to fix myself for somebody else. I'm doing this because I feel like I need to get back in touch with me and what I want."
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If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John interviews author Glenn Sandifer about the importance of relationships and how they impact our personal and professional lives. Glenn shares his personal journey of going through a painful divorce and the two years of therapy that followed, which led him to explore the dynamics of relationships and dating outcomes for busy professionals. He discusses the six types of men and women in the dating world, ranging from boys and city boys to high-value men and women. He addresses the sense of entitlement and lack of effort seen in some individuals today, highlighting the importance of putting in the hard work and commitment to create successful relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Understanding the different types of men and women in relationships: There are six types of men (boys, F boys, guys, males, modern or traditional men, and high-value men) and six types of women (girls, city girls, gals, females, modern or traditional women, and high-value women). Recognising these types can help individuals make better choices in their relationships.
- The importance of self-reflection and personal growth: Glen shares his personal experience of going through therapy and doing the work to understand his own role in his failed marriage. He emphasises the need for individuals to assess themselves and identify areas for improvement in order to have successful relationships.
- The impact of personal life on professional life: The quality of one's personal relationships can affect their professional performance. He explains that unresolved issues in personal relationships can hinder success in the workplace.
- The need for intentionality in dating and relationships: Approach dating with the intention of finding a long-term partner and building a healthy, committed relationship.
- There can be the tendency for some individuals to have high expectations without putting in the necessary effort or self-reflection. Glen emphasises the importance of understanding oneself and being realistic in expectations when seeking a compatible partner.
BEST MOMENTS
"The misalignment is we pick incorrectly. I picked what I wanted at 16. What I wanted at 16 is not what I need at 65."
"High-value men are 100% focused on their legacy. They're 100% focused on progress and their purpose."
"You have to know who you are as a man in order to get the outcome that you want. You have to know who you are as a woman in order to get the outcome that you want."
"The one thing that I don't tolerate is entitlement. If you come onto my team, if I feel it in an organisation, I'm out of the organisation."
"The relationship outcome has become the expectation without the input. If I'm going to be with a man, I need him to be six feet, make six figures. What?"
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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode, John Kenny interviews Mark Singer, a professional mindset coach and keynote speaker who shares his incredible story of resilience and overcoming adversity. Mark spent six years in prison for a crime he didn't commit, losing his family in the process. Using this experience as a catalyst for personal growth and transformation, Mark now helps others navigate through challenges, develop resilience, and create the life they desire. He discusses the importance of mindset, the power of choice, and the impact of energy levels on our lives. This inspiring conversation highlights the potential for personal growth and finding fulfillment even in the face of extreme adversity.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Mark Singer is a professional mindset coach and keynote speaker who helps people navigate through challenges and build resilience.
- Mark's own experience of spending six years in prison for a crime he didn't commit and losing his family in the process has shaped his approach to coaching and helping others overcome adversity.
- Mark's coaching philosophy is based on the concept of creating a mental and emotional foundation in life, where individuals have control over their thoughts, emotions, and actions.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing limiting beliefs that may be blocking personal growth and success. By changing these beliefs, individuals can create a more positive and empowering mindset.
- Mark also introduces the concept of energy levels, where individuals can operate at different levels of energy ranging from victimhood and conflict to empathy, reconciliation, and non-judgment. By consciously raising their energy levels, individuals can experience greater fulfillment and success in all areas of life.
BEST MOMENTS
"I found coaching because I was having therapy. It wasn't really cutting the ice with me in terms of helping me move forward."
"It's about learning how you can find these drains, manage them, repair them, fix them, and then increase that energy in those different areas."
"It's not about visualizing and then create, you got to have that belief in you to create whatever it is that you want in your life."
"We're all hardwired to be cynical, to doubt stuff, to judge stuff, to question everything."
"I was pushing myself so bad. I was working 12-hour days, seven days a week. I wasn't really living a very healthy lifestyle."
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To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
Relationship expert Hayley Bystrom joins John to discuss the importance of relationships and how her exclusive matchmaking agency, Bose Line Partnership, helps people find long-term committed relationships. Hayley shares her approach to matchmaking, which involves taking a more old-fashioned, personal approach by meeting members in person and hand-pairing them based on their compatibility. She emphasises the importance of communication and feedback in the matchmaking process and highlights the need for individuals to be open-minded and willing to step out of their comfort zones. Hayley also addresses the challenges of modern dating and encourages proactive and intentional efforts to find meaningful connections.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The matchmaking agency focuses on creating opportunities for individuals to meet their like-minded equal partner for a long-term committed relationship.
- The agency takes a personalized and old-fashioned approach to matchmaking, prioritizing in-person meetings and hand-pairing members together.
- The agency aims to mitigate the risks and challenges of online dating, such as screen saturation, lack of seriousness, and difficulty in establishing genuine connections.
- The agency encourages members to be open-minded and explore potential matches outside of their comfort zones, as rigid criteria and assumptions can limit opportunities for finding a compatible partner.
- Relationships are seen as a significant aspect of life, and the agency aims to bridge the gap in communication and interaction that has been impacted by technology and societal changes. Proactivity and taking action are emphasized in finding meaningful connections.
BEST MOMENTS
"We do not have our profiles online, our members are not in a book for people to access, their privacy and confidentiality is of strict importance."
"We're, again, it sounds a little bit unromantic, but we're having a pool of potential and we're funnelling it down to the right person." -
"It's amazing how whatever age, and I've got members that range from 30 up to 80, how we make assumptions about things."
"It's just a sort of cut through that level as well and give that sense of perspective where an assumption is, you know, can be wildly incorrect, and making you miss an opportunity."
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If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
Relationship coach John Kenny interviews Angie Tomlinson, a student of the science of the mind. Angie shares her personal journey of overcoming tragedy and finding her true identity. After experiencing multiple deaths in her family and feeling lost and unfulfilled, Angie discovered the power of the natural universal laws and began studying with Bob Proctor. By changing her mindset and embracing the law of polarity, Angie transformed her life and achieved incredible success, turning her annual income into a monthly income of 50k. She shares her insights on the importance of self-study, reprogramming beliefs, and creating a new reality.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The power of mindset: Angie's journey highlights the importance of changing one's mindset and beliefs in order to achieve success. By shifting her mindset and adopting new beliefs, she was able to transform her life and achieve her financial goals.
- The law of polarity: Angie learned about the law of polarity, which states that things just are until we assign meaning to them. By consciously choosing to focus on positive thoughts and feelings, she was able to attract abundance and success into her life.
- Taking inspired action: Angie didn't just visualise her goals, she took inspired action towards them. She wrote a story as if she was already making 50k a month and made changes in her life to align with that vision. She hired a housekeeper, stopped doing certain tasks, and focused on activities that brought her joy and fulfilment.
- Overcoming limiting beliefs: Angie had to overcome limiting beliefs that were ingrained in her from her upbringing and religious background. She had to challenge the idea that she had to work hard for her money and that wealth was somehow negative. By reprogramming her beliefs and embracing her own worth and empowerment, she was able to achieve financial success.
- Embracing personal growth: Angie's journey involved a deep exploration of herself and her own identity. She realised that she had never truly studied herself and had been living according to other people's expectations. Through personal growth and self-discovery, she was able to find her true desires and create a life that aligned with her authentic self.
BEST MOMENTS
"I started studying with Bob and I started listening to his stuff, which is so interesting, because my paradigm or my way of thinking is, especially growing up in the church, you don't listen to outside voices."
"I made the decision, I'm going to pursue this goal. I want to turn my annual income into a monthly income. And my husband threw a birthday party for me. And I had a bunch of friends there. And they asked me, what did I want to do this year around the sun? And I said, I want to turn my annual income into a monthly income."
"I remember people were like, oh, yay, well, good luck with that. And everybody just kind of ignored me. And I was like, wow, this is interesting. And so I realised I couldn't share my goal with other people."
"I had been working and doing what I was doing so much and working on my mindset that the physical, I didn't know how to live in the physical life yet. I've been living in the spiritual and the intellect part of it, but I didn't know how to really live in the physical."
"You're this person, let's get on with it. I kept studying myself. I kept going forward. And pretty soon I started making 50,000 a month, every single month. And then I thought, what happens if I could do it twice a month? Then what happens if I could do it three times a month? And before I knew it, I was a millionaire and I had no idea I had become a millionaire."
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John interviews Sharon Strickland-Clark, a leadership and business coach. Sharon helps ambitious leaders prioritise their own well-being while achieving their goals and creating strong team cultures. She emphasizes the importance of managing time, energy, and motivation to protect one's well-being and sustain high performance. Sharon also discusses the three key components of successful relationships: love, illusion, and optimism. She shares insights on how to navigate challenging relationships, set boundaries, and cultivate kindness and authenticity. Listeners can also access a free resilience masterclass on Sharon's website to develop resilience in leadership and personal life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Prioritising self-care and well-being is essential for productivity and success in business and relationships. It is important to manage time, energy, and motivation in ways that protect well-being.
- Understanding and leveraging individual strengths within a team can lead to increased productivity, efficiency, and happiness. Recognising and utilising each team member's signature strengths can create a strong team culture and support success.
- Effective leadership involves seeing the bigger picture and creating an environment that sets individuals up for success. This includes understanding team members' strengths, providing support, and fostering a positive and optimistic mindset.
- The concept of flow, or being in a state of deep focus and productivity, can greatly enhance performance and satisfaction. Learning to optimise flow and prioritise deep work can lead to better results and a sense of fulfilment.
- Kindness, love, and optimism are key components of successful relationships. Being open to receiving love, maintaining an illusion of positive intent, and cultivating an optimistic mindset can greatly impact relationships in all areas of life.
BEST MOMENTS
"If you're fundamentally not prioritising yourself as your top priority, then you'll not achieve all the things that you want to achieve in life."
"The body that you walk around in is your vehicle. If you're not looking after that, to the best of your ability, then you're not going to be able to sustain the journey that you take it on."
"Kindness is about being lovingly honest and authentic and open."
"Not all problems are yours to fix. If someone is behaving in a way that's not okay, and you believe it's part of a much bigger part of who they are, then it's their responsibility to manage that, it's not yours."
"Resilience has long been flagged as being one of the key factors in success."
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The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John interviews Angela Ambrosia, an energy healer and spiritual coach from Sydney, Australia. Angela shares her journey into dance and how it has helped her connect with others and herself on a deeper level. She discusses the power of dance in transcending barriers and creating a sense of unity and connection. Angela also explores the role of dance in relationships, emphasising the importance of presence, compassion, and self-acceptance. She highlights how dance can help individuals tap into their true essence and experience the joy of being in the present moment.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Dance can be a powerful tool for connecting with oneself and others. It allows for a sense of oneness and connection that transcends race, gender, and cultural backgrounds.
- Dancing can help us tap into our true essence and experience a sense of love and joy that goes beyond our personality and insecurities.
- The dance can support the development of self-appreciation, self-acceptance, and compassion, which are essential for healthy relationships.
- Dancing with others can help us feel and understand their energy, leading to a deeper connection and empathy.
- Even if someone doesn't consider themselves a dancer, there are other movement practices, such as Qigong, Tai Chi, or interactive exercises, that can help them explore their energy and connect with others.
BEST MOMENTS
"The dance was a very easy way to get that connection. You didn't need to speak. You didn't need to even have a similar cultural background." - Angela Ambrosia
"The dance gives you that sense of self that's beyond your personality, that then supports that capacity of the witness self to come in and go, hang on, what's going on here?" - Angela Ambrosia
"The dance is where you get to experience it with improvisation and surrendering of those parts of yourself that you may not feel so comfortable about." - Angela Ambrosia
"We all feel insignificant and we're craving significance. So that's part of our human condition. And the heart connection in the dance for me was able to manage that craving for significance." - Angela Ambrosia
"Movement is much more about how do we feel each other's energy. So the more anything you can do to just feel, breathe, that to me is dancing because you can just even an in-breath and an out-breath is incredible." - Angela Ambrosia
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Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
Relationship coach Laura Bedo joins host John Kenny to discuss the importance of understanding the female menstrual cycle and its impact on relationships. Laura explains how different phases of the cycle can affect a woman's energy, mood, and productivity, and how being aware of these changes can lead to better self-care and communication within relationships. She also touches on the perimenopause and menopause stages, highlighting the need for women to address any unresolved issues during this transformative time. Overall, this episode provides valuable insights into the connection between the female body, hormones, and relationship dynamics.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Understanding and tracking your menstrual cycle can help you optimise your productivity and energy levels throughout the month.
- The different phases of the menstrual cycle (menstruation, follicular, luteal) have different effects on hormones and mood, and being aware of these changes can help you navigate them more effectively.
- During menstruation, it's important to give yourself time to rest and rejuvenate, as your energy levels may be lower.
- The follicular phase is a time of increased energy and creativity, making it a great time to pursue goals and projects.
- The luteal phase, characterized by hormonal fluctuations, can bring up limiting beliefs and emotions that need to be addressed. Getting curious and working through these beliefs can lead to personal growth and transformation.
BEST MOMENTS
"Women are designed to run on a 28 to 34 day cycle. To get their peak performance in life, in dating, in all of the things, understanding that is the biggest game changer."
"Women can have a literal rebirth every single month of who she is. If she's able to release physically, spiritually, mentally, that block, she's rebirthed as that new version of who she is.
"Knowing somebody's love language in any relationship is fascinating. If you don't know your love language, I would definitely advise to go and learn it."
"The perimenopause is when the veil thins, which basically means your hormones and dopamine are flatlining. The things that need to be addressed will be coming up and it will be blocking you from living your full potential."
"In the menopause, that's when you're in your wise woman phase. Everything has synchronicity and when you can anchor in that safety and be present, it's a game changer."
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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
This is a rerun episode - and a hugely significant thing to know about yourself and those you have relationships with - enjoy !
In this episode, John talks about the language of love itself, which communicates itself through many varied means, including subconscious, physical, psychological, sensual and of course, verbal.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- We have learned through our life experiences, the way we wish to be loved, respected and cared for by others. We each have a different means of listening to the language of love.
- An act of service refers not to servitude, but rather that actions speak louder than words. It is when others recognise your need and show love voluntarily.
- We have a primary way of feeling loved, and the people we're with will have methods, too. These may differ between people, so we must recognise this.
BEST MOMENTS'If this is your love language, then you like positive words of affection'
'If someone gives you something that means something to you, it's not about what is costs, but the thought they put into it'
'This is where a lot of problems seem to occur, especially in the dating world'
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The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
In this episode, John Kenny interviews Helene Davidian, a spiritual healing channel, intuitive counselor, and life coach. Helene shares her journey from various careers to discovering her gift as a healing channel. She explains how she connects with spirit to channel healing energy through her head, arms, and hands. Discusses her work as a past life regressionist and stress management consultant. She shares fascinating stories of how past life regression has helped people overcome relationship and fertility issues. Helene's intuitive abilities and empathetic nature have made her a trusted source of support and healing for many.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Helene Davidian is a spiritual healing channel, intuitive counselor, and life coach specialising in stress management and empowering people to be their unique selves.
- Helene is a channel for healing energy, allowing it to flow through her during sessions. She prays and tunes in with the spirit to be used as a vessel for healing.
- In addition to healing, Helene also practices hypnotherapy and past life regression therapy. She helps clients explore past lives to uncover unresolved issues that may be affecting their current lives.
- Helene has a strong intuition and empathic abilities, allowing her to feel and understand the emotions and pain of others. She uses this gift to provide guidance and support to her clients.
- Trusting your gut and intuition is important, as it can provide valuable insights and protect you from potential harm. Helene emphasises the importance of listening to your instincts and following them, even if you don't fully understand why at the time.
BEST MOMENTS"If everybody trusts their gut, not the brain, the brain fools you. But if you use your gut, and even if you don't know what it's about, just trust it. You'll find out later.""Not every somebody came for me for a past life session. His wife brought him and he said to me, 'I don't believe in this.' So I said, 'Don't worry, your imagination will bring something up.' He brought one of the most amazing lives that I've ever heard up, and he said at the end, 'Where did that come from?' I said, 'It's your imagination.' And it solved his problem, which is why we do it.""Everything's happened for a reason, and my mum is now, believe it or not, up there looking after little children, you know, ones like my age that I would have. That gave me a lot of comfort to know that's what she's doing.""The gut or intuition is very important to me. It saved my life. If everybody listens to that, the brain gives you false information. When you meet somebody for the first time, check out in your gut, your intuition, what you feel about them because sometimes the brain will say they're fine and they might not be. So check it out, and you'll find out later which is right.""If you get a very strong feeling not to go somewhere, please listen." GUEST RESOURCES
Email: helenedavidian@gmail.com
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
What is the power and, the limitations of our gut instincts in making decisions? John explores this topic and explains that whilst gut instincts can provide valuable insights and help us navigate complex situations, they are not always accurate or reliable. John delves into the connection between gut instincts and emotional intelligence, emphasising the importance of observing and managing our feelings effectively. He also discusses how our past experiences and beliefs can influence our gut instincts, leading us to make choices that may not serve us in building healthy and fulfilling relationships. John offers insights on how to recognise and challenge these patterns to attract better relationship outcomes.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Your instincts are important for paying attention to relevant aspects of our environment, but they may not always be right. They provide a sense or intuition about a situation, but they do not give a clear indication of a right or wrong answer.
- Feelings of unease, clarity, tension, or tightness in the body, goosebumps, butterflies, or even nausea can all be related to your gut instincts. They can also be accompanied by thoughts that keep returning to a specific person or situation, or feelings of peace, safety, happiness, or fulfillment.
- The brain is connected to your gust instincts, where brain cells lining the digestive tract evaluate and decode non-verbal cues like body language and energy. They help the brain analyze patterns and probabilities before the conscious mind has time to catch up.
- Gut instincts are not paranoia or anxiety. They arise in specific situations that require intuition and decision-making. Paranoia is an unjustified suspicion or mistrust, while anxiety involves negative future outcomes. Gut instincts, on the other hand, provide subtle signals about a situation or person.
- If our overall emotional intelligence (EI) is low then we can easily be misled by our gut instincts. If we haven't developed the ability to observe and manage our own feelings effectively, our gut instincts may lead us astray in relationships. Our past experiences and beliefs about ourselves can also influence our gut instincts and lead us to make poor choices. It is important to recognise and challenge these patterns to attract healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
BEST MOMENTS
"Your gut instinct is very important to ensure that you're paying attention to the most relevant aspects of your environment."
"Gut feelings are not paranoia and neither are they anxiety, although you may get similar bodily reactions and sensations."
"Without your gut instinct, you are likely to forever be stuck in what's called analysis paralysis at times, as you just can't think your way through making a choice or how you need to act."
"Your gut instinct could be leading you astray and you will continue to make bad choices for your life and the future of getting the healthy and fulfilling relationships you want."
"Although we can't go back and make a brand new start, we can start now and make a brand new ending."
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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John is back with Joseph Maguire, an expert in reading body language and a negotiation whiz. Joseph spills the beans on how our looks and those little gestures we make can totally shape how we connect with others. Joe talks about checking out people's usual behavior and cluing into the messages our faces send – you know, the raised eyebrows, the nose scrunches, the smiles – they all say something! And guess what? The sound of our voice matters too! Joseph lets us in on how it can spill the beans on our true emotions and what we're really after.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The lines between the eyebrows indicate a perfectionist side and a tendency to be self-critical. It is important to recognize and let go of the need for perfection.
- The eyebrows being relatively straight and thick suggest that logical and rational explanations are preferred, while abstract or vague language may be off-putting.
- The rounded face shape creates a friendly and approachable impression, making it easier for others to let their guard down and feel comfortable around you.
- The well-formed nose and rounded nose tip indicate a strong ability to express oneself and communicate in a friendly manner.
- The wide mouth suggests a talkative and chatty nature, with a preference for engaging in conversation. Silence can be uncomfortable, and speaking is an integral part of self-expression.
BEST MOMENTS
"Zen mind, beginner's mind, always recognize you're always in that fresh place of learning again."
"When we see somebody with rounded facial features like that, we automatically feel that this person's okay."
"Your mouth is relatively wide, so it tells me you're naturally very talkative, very chatty."
"Your chin is well formed and slightly prominent, so you're a very determined individual."
"Your eyes are naturally quite big, so there's a big element of being heart on sleeve."
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The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
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Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
John meets Dr Ricky Arenson, a leading Australian endocrinologist, husband, podcaster, stand-up comic, and author of ‘Women Are Superior to Men: The REAL Secret to a Fantastic Marriage, Joyful Parenting & Better Sex!’ in which he points out the important truths that couples are missing out in their relationships. John and Ricky discuss his early medical experience and his expertise, his move into the relationship field, and his advice on handling the marriage relationship and all important relationships in life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Many people think they have a relationship problem but actually have a hormone problem.
- Ricky eventually moved from the medical side to the relationship side of medical practice.
- ‘Women are Superior to Men’ is about the typical male/female differences in a marriage.
- The thing we regret is not taking the opportunity to fix relationships.
- The secret of longevity is incredibly boring. It is to eat less, exercise more and don’t fill your body with toxins.
- Women are designed to have children and there is a skill set specific to women that comes with that.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I was an outdoor South African boy by nature and moved out to Australia and did all my specialist training here.’-Ricky
‘You don’t manage diseases most of the time in medicine you manage people.’-Ricky
‘Mothers are amazing and I wanted to celebrate the fact that we have these wonderful mothers.’-Ricky
‘Relationships can actually be really easy. They don’t need to be so difficult if we work on those things that get covered in your book.’-John
‘If it’s a hormonal issue I can identify that, and if it’s a marital issue, depending on its complexity, sometimes it needs to be referred on to someone but sometimes there’s simple things that I can deal with.’-Ricky
‘Masculinity and femininity were the tools we were given to attract each other and survive.’-Ricky
GUEST RESOURCES
Links: drrickyarenson.com
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Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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With much of people’s dating habits being conducted using dating apps, online safety and well-being have often been a secondary concern for many of the more successful platforms. Meet Jay Dodds, the creator of the Bonkers dating app, a dating platform designed to not only be inclusive with all sexual orientations welcome but also open to casual and long-term relationship seekers alike. With safety as a primary concern, Jay has a refreshing new offering on modern dating and relationships to share.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Jay has previously worked in sound design for theatre and live productions of all kinds from musicals to stunt shows.
- Other dating apps tend to go for a large volume of users to meet their investor’s needs primarily through advertising. Bonkers has a full verification process and many added safety features.
- Bonkers is split into two sections, a casual and a long-term relationship section so the two aims cannot cause conflict.
- A star rating system encourages people to be polite and respectful.
- The app allows for video calling, phone calls and voice notes. With verified photos, you can feel assured before you commit to a date that you have seen the real person.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Our whole mission is to put the fun back into dating while keeping people safe.’-Jay
‘That’s when we really started to drive it in the direction of becoming the Uk’s safest dating app.’-Jay
‘Being a relationship coach, the nightmare stories I hear about people going onto apps and looking for relationships and they end up being ghosted and all manner of things, led down the garden path by people that say they want relationships.’-John
‘We’ve had to brainstorm on what all the issues are that users are currently facing and continue to face and how do we address it because, again, I think that all the other apps are just growing they’re not really thinking about this.’-Jay
‘You’re paying to constantly create this false sense of yourself of what you think you should be giving to the world.’-Jay
‘When you can really genuinely start to like yourself, you then get that confidence where you can love someone else.’-Jay
GUEST RESOURCES
bonkersapp.com
VALUABLE RESOURCES
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The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
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If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
This show was brought to you by Progressive Media
John explains what a Relationship Coach does and what they can provide for you. He offers advice on finding a coach that meets your needs, what you should look for, what you can expect from coaching, online or live coaching, personal experience, and what you can hope to achieve from a relationship with a Relationship Coach.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- To find your best type of coach, identify your needs before you start to look.
- A trained coach in relationship coaching is preferable.
- Some personal experience in relationship issues is also desirable in a coach.
- There are different types of relationship coaches such as marriage coaches, work coaches and dating coaches.
- Relationships affect all areas of our lives, so relationship coaching covers a massive area of your well-being.
BEST MOMENTS‘One thing I would definitely look for is someone who has some kind of qualifications in coaching too.’‘As relationships are very emotive, very personal things have come up for these people and the coach has had no idea how to deal with what’s come up.’‘If you’re looking for a relationship coach that is going to help you then it’s maybe better if you find someone who has had similar experiences to you.’‘When I’m with my clients I can use my experience, I can use my knowledge to make a very educated guess on what they’re going through and what might be able to help them move forward.’‘Ultimately, a coach is there to help you along the way and to ask those great questions but to hold you accountable for the changes that you need to make in order to get to the space that you need to get to.’
VALUABLE RESOURCESLinks: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
This show was brought to you by Progressive Media
John talks to Allison Jayne Ewing, EFT Practitioner, Dating Coach, Author, and Founder & Owner of Inspired Life Tapping LLC. As with many other therapies, EFT works on the premise that the body contains energy channels that become blocked or unbalanced, which leads to emotional and physical illness. Using tapping techniques, the Emotional Freedom Technique corrects these imbalances. By clearing these blocks, Allison provides her clients with the ability to manifest the life of their dreams. Using her own personal experiences and knowledge, Allison co-founded Dating After Your Divorce to help women find single, available men to love and adore them.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Allison was divorced herself and at that point was a Psychotherapist and decided to specialise in Relationship Psychology.
- Using her unique perspective, Allison has written ‘Find Love Again: Learn to Date like a Goddess’.
- Tapping is the technique of stimulating particular acupressure points to prevent the fight or flight reaction of the amygdala to stress points.
- Combined with the identifying of false beliefs this method can change someone’s dating habits, mistakes and assumptions.
- Women are afraid to hand over control and should be open to receive what their male partners want to give.
BEST MOMENTS‘At some point this occurred to me I should really put all this into a book because I knew I had this unique perspective and knowledge as a therapist and had all this real life story.’-Allison‘What I feel makes the book magical is that I have this very unique third ingredient of EFT Tapping and my whole theory behind dating and what is the basis of the book is you can magnetise to you anything that you want in life as long as you clear what’s blocking you.’-Allison‘When we are actually looking to date someone if we’re focusing on people that we think want to date younger women then the only guys that we are going to end up talking to are also going to be the ones that want to date younger women.’-John‘Gratitude is a natural state, but if you have bitterness or resentment in the way you can write 3 things you’re grateful for all day long and it’s not going to shift if you’re feeling all these yucky things that are blocking.’-Allison
VALUABLE RESOURCESLinks: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
This show was brought to you by Progressive Media
John explains how important it is to value and accept ourselves to be able to create successful relationships in our lives. How can you be sure that you have fully embraced yourself moving forward?
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- It is an ongoing process to reprogram and uncover false beliefs about oneself.
- Self-acceptance can help with your moods and demeanour and improve your inner contentment and happiness.
- If you are not self-accepting, you will constantly be seeking external approval.
- Appreciate your appearance for what it is and do not constantly compare to others.
- Having boundaries in your life and being positive about your decisions is all about having trust in yourself.
BEST MOMENTS‘How do I know that my relationship with myself has improved?’‘What is self-acceptance? In a nutshell, it’s the process of recognising and embracing and affirming yourself including your strengths and weaknesses, and your individuality, as well as the part you play in the bigger picture of life.’‘It can be difficult to avoid comparing yourself to others especially when scrolling through social media.’‘If you need to make a life-changing decision then that’s no problem as you trust yourself.’‘With self-acceptance, you become comfortable in your own company, you don’t need the company of others to feel comfortable.’
VALUABLE RESOURCESLinks: www.johnkennycoaching.com/resources
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
This show was brought to you by Progressive Media
Meet Joseph McGuire, the owner of Clearsight Communications, a Behavioural Negotiation Consultancy. Clearsight provides you with a means to accurately and precisely read non-verbal cues in real-time to ensure clear communication and enable you to build exceptional relationships. Their services provide a range of options to help you gain impact, trust and respect in all your relationships, professional and personal.
Joseph and John discuss how these techniques work, and how they can be utilised in the area of personal relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Joseph has been learning the ancient art of face-reading since 1985 and has combined this with FBI techniques for reading body language during negotiation.
- We can tell a lot about a person’s communication style, stress triggers and responses, personality traits and history using these techniques by studying someone’s face.
- During negotiation it is important to read the room in real time but also stay on plan and stay calm at all times also.
- We all have habitual, perhaps stress based responses to situations which may not be the best option for the negotiation or situation we are in. If we can learn to pause and examine our responses before we react, we can make calmer more informed decisions.
- Public speaking is the most common fear amongst people.
BEST MOMENTS‘I learnt that in China they’ve been using it in business and politics for at least 3000 years.’-Joseph‘For example, my right side reveals the influence of my mother, genetically and otherwise, and the left is the fathers side. Then there is the merge between the two and that makes us the individual we are.’-Joseph‘It’s amazing how you can do that by helping people just to read others. It would great if we could all read other people and take the time out and didn’t feel that we need to be in our own space, maybe a defensive space.’-John‘The reality is none of us would be here if our ancestors had found a way to get on together, to collaborate, to come together.’-Joseph‘Many of the people I’ve met over the last 2-3 years are certainly having very open conversations and that’s almost been from the get-go.’-Joseph
GUEST RESOURCESLinks: https://clearsightcommunications.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/clearsightcommunications/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU3OmzwBLYFjwgAloLv8jpA
VALUABLE RESOURCESLinks: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
This show was brought to you by Progressive Media
John chats with Dr Veronica Anderson, an Intuitive Guide and Relationship Coach. Dr Veronica Anderson leverages Human Design and Energy Readings to reveal your authentic self, deliver transformational clarity, and empower high-achieving women to thrive both personally and professionally.
She leverages her background as a licensed physician, practising psychic, and Kolbe Certified™ Consultant to deliver meaningful insight surrounding your health, relationships, career, and beyond. In turn, she offers a way forward through seemingly impassable obstacles, leaning on intuition to help you achieve your lifelong aspirations.
In this episode John and Veronica discuss how to improve all types of relationships, both personal and business, utilising all areas of human experience including intuition and spirituality.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Through her experience with burnout, Veronica left behind her medical career to concentrate on her Relationship Coaching utilising her intuitive abilities.
- The relationship guidance that Veronica offers also can be applied to help form high-performing teams for business settings.
- Reflecting on the fact that you are responsible for the position you are in is the first step.
- When you are in a relationship with someone it is important to understand your own spiritual perspective as well as theirs.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I loved dealing with and helping my patients, I hated the business of medicine. But also just running around all day every day was not my particular energy.’-Veronica
‘That’s one of the hardest things to do, I think, is to look at yourself.’-John
‘I like to jump off the ledge. I like to do, then ask questions.’-Veronica
‘Everybody that you come across is in your soul journey and meant to teach you something and your romantic relationship is the closest in and so it’s going to be a crucible, the nature of it.’-Veronica
‘I had moulded myself into what I thought he would find pleasing. Because isn’t that what we’re taught to do?’-Veronica
GUEST RESOURCES
https://drveronica.com/
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
This show was brought to you by Progressive Media
Hugs and kisses can sometimes be socially awkward for some less comfortable with human contact, but John points out the connective nature of touch and how for most of us it can not only help form and maintain a secure relationship but also keep us healthy and connected to the wider community.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- It is through touch that we can experience the deepest forms of human connection, intimacy and trust.
- Physical contact plays a crucial role in our development, social connection, communication, health and well-being.
- Human touch allows for the communication of a wide range of emotions including support, compassion and empathy without the need for words.
- Consent is key to receiving any benefit from touch-based communication.
BEST MOMENTS
‘One of the reasons for allowing people to be closer to you is the significance of human touch itself. We saw the fallout of this for some people during the pandemic when we weren’t supposed to get close to anyone.’
‘The results showed that by having their hand held even by a stranger lowered the stress response significantly in the brain when compared to no one holding their hand at all.’
‘Incorporate as much as possible into your daily life being aware of respecting cultural and personal norms when it comes to touch and make it a positive and consensual experience.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
This show was brought to you by Progressive Media
John interviews New York-based Actor, Recording Artist, Film Producer, Director, Writer and New York Press Columnist Stephanie Sellars. She is the Artistic Director and Founder of Immortality Productions LLC and with her latest film release ‘Lust Life Love’, Stephanie tells a love story examining the nature of polyamory and the difficulties in finding a relationship within the frantic and busy setting of New York City.
John and Stephanie discuss non-monogamous relationships, what polyamory means, the benefits of polyamory, and the communication skills needed to make the relationship successful.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Stephanie is experienced in writing about taboo subjects and having honest discussions about her relationships.
- Polyamory is engagement in multiple romantic and sexual relationships with everyone’s consent.
- Polyamory acknowledges that we are attracted to more than one person at a time throughout our lives and allows us to be open and honest about it.
- Non-monogamous relationships can come in a myriad of forms so honest communication between all parties is paramount throughout.
BEST MOMENTS‘I wrote about my experiences with non-monogamy as a very personal column. Some people have compared it to Sex in The City, an edgier Sex in The City.’-Stephanie‘A lot of relationships are complex at the best of times with only two people involved. What do you see as the benefits of a polyamorous relationship?’-John‘(Polyamory) magnifies the need for trust and communication, all the skills that you need in monogamy as well. It forces you to be more accountable, to know yourself and your own boundaries.’-Stephanie‘If it becomes challenging in the couple you can seek out a therapist or relationship coach such as yourself. There are people that actually specialise in polyamory coaching.’-Stephanie
GUEST RESOURCESwww.LustLifeLove.com
https://www.facebook.com/LustLifeLoveMovie
Instagram: @the_stephaniesellars - @lust_life_love_movie
VALUABLE RESOURCESLinks: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
This show was brought to you by Progressive Media
Patti Oskvarek has over 25 years of experience as a supervisor and business leader. She inspires others to pursue their passions in life through their relationships, careers, business, and leadership development. As a multiple author and podcast host, Patti became a Professional Coach and Reiki practitioner to help people follow their hearts, use their talents, and live purposeful, balanced and fulfilling lives, making her coaching and Reiki Therapy unique and inspiring.
John and Patti discuss how a chance meeting facilitated her move into coaching, the importance of listening at work, self-care, work life balance, and life after work.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- A coach provides a healthy advisor to prevent the toxicities and over reactions often so prevalent in the workplace.
- It is very important to commit time for self care that works for you.
- Listening to others' points of view and understanding them and clearly explaining your position is important as a leader.
- Security and stability is important to most people but can confine people in careers in which they feel unfulfilled. Taking a close look at other options and making the leap can be very worthwhile.
BEST MOMENTS‘I felt if I had a coach during my career as a manager and supervisor, what a difference that would have made, how my career and how my relationships with others would have probably excelled.’-Patti‘I find people bring all this baggage with them, they’ve got issues going on here, there and everywhere and a lot of the time the issues that we have at work aren’t anything to do with work at all.’-John‘The things that are important to you, you need to schedule those in because if you don’t everything else is going to be there but there will be no time for what is truly important.’-Patti‘If you can journal about what happened, come up with solutions for it. Say, yes I made a mistake. I'm not going to do this again, how can I correct it? If you need to apologise to someone, apologise.’-Patti
GUEST RESOURCES
Email: CoachingforInspiration@gmail.com
Website: www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com
Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLXTGfZ1hZqGaKJ24hfnyWA
Building Better Relationships at Home & Work with Angela and Patti Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rVQIdCNrMoU3gRhZsvLt9
Online course - https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/on-line-courses-by-coaching-for-inspiration-with-patti/
21-Days Optimal Work-Life Balance Program - https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com
VALUABLE RESOURCESLinks: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
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John explains the stages and reactions to dealing with the loss of a relationship. Many have residual beliefs, emotions and resentments that can make finding and forming a new relationship difficult, but understanding these reactions to past experiences can help you move through or circumvent them.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The reaction to the loss of a relationship can easily be as serious as a bereavement. The seven stages of grief can still fully apply.
- If you are willing to examine what happened with the loss of the relationship and look at how you can move forwards you can survive and even thrive.
- Once past the stages of grief, you reach acceptance. You can see the relationship more objectively and with an open mind and examine the circumstances that caused its failure and learn valuable lessons.
- Do not self-blame but knowing where you were responsible can help you be more forgiving and help you understand the role you play in your next relationship.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Some may have coping mechanisms in place that mean they just shut down and move on either with someone else or just by shutting everything away.’
‘There is evidence that forgiveness may not only allow you to let go of a lot of the pain that you may be experiencing but is helpful for your own peace of mind.’
‘You allow all that has passed to be in the past and set your sights on a new future.’
‘With my coach, that was the first question they asked me when I separated from my ex-wife; ‘What was your role in why this relationship didn’t work?’’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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John speaks to Kira Markoff (LCSW-C,CCTP,YTT200) owner and operator of Connections Mind-Body Wellness, author, yoga, social work, mental health therapy and well-being expert. Kira is passionate about learning and then transforming what she has learned into something that she can share with others through Connections and her book ‘Mindfulness and Me: A Practical Guide for Living’. She hopes to bring peace, hope and positive change to as many as possible with practical applications of meditation, yoga practices and mindfulness as a method of empowerment.
John and Kira discuss the main skill set required for successful relationships, the true power of mindfulness, the considerable components of mindfulness within relationships, the important factors to be actioned first and providing children with good guidance on relationships early.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Two of the skill sets that are most predictive of success in a romantic relationship are partner responsiveness and emotion regulation.
- Knowing your partner’s responses, sensitivities and when is a good time to communicate can improve smooth communication.
- The five components of mindfulness are observation, description, awareness, being non-reactive and non-judgmental.
- Feeling safe is the most important and actionable need to be considered.
BEST MOMENTS
‘They talk a lot about the word attunement which is just being able to hold space, listen to your partner and hear the needs and the emotions underneath of what they’re saying.’-Kira
‘We have reactions, everybody has reactions, we can’t stop it. Honestly, the more you try the bigger they get because you’ve been holding them back.’-Kira
‘That’s what we are hoping for, that wanting to engage in a space where you are able to offer something of yourself to make your partner feel better rather than worrying about how you’re feeling.’-John
‘It’s almost never just about the shoes on the floor. Most people are able to say objectively that that is not a big deal.’-Kira
‘From an early age I didn’t have the words to describe it the way I’m describing it to you now but I knew the kind of people that I wanted to be around.’-Kira
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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Welcome to the 100th episode of The Relationship Guy! John revisits a recurring thread that has been referred to throughout the past 99 episodes and is an intrinsic part of John’s six-part course, The Six Things You Need to Know in Order to Attract a Healthy, Loving Relationship, Attachment Styles and how they can make a major positive impact on your life.
Refresh yourself on Attachment Styles and become aware of one of the most effective ways to understand how you relate to your partner and how they relate to you.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- We fall into two attachment types in general, secure and insecure.
- Your attachment style develops in your early childhood and then is reinforced throughout your life depending on your relationship experiences.
- The 4 definable attachment styles are Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganised and Secure.
- By matching and understanding compatible attachment styles we can attract the type of relationship that will prove to be most successful for ourselves.
BEST MOMENTS
‘It impacts on your life in so many other ways if it’s not understood and addressed. It can stop you finding the right kind of relationship, it will keep you stuck in the wrong types of relationship, it can make you self-sabotage in other areas of your life because you don’t understand how it is stopping you from living the life that you want.’
‘Secure people are rarely going to look for a relationship with somebody that’s insecure. It’s not to say that they don’t but they also won’t stay in that relationship for very long if it’s too difficult because they are used to the healthy type relationship.’
‘When two anxious people get together you will probably notice them as the couple that are arguing all the time, they like to scream and shout at each other a lot then they make up and it’s all ok, but they like a bit of chaos between them.’
‘It’s a fascinating topic. It explains a lot about how and why we do relationships the way that we do.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Find out your own attachment style here:
https://john-2e6mdruf.scoreapp.com
Find out more about my six week online and online plus course here:
www.johnkennycoaching.com/get-relationship-ready
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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Due to the complexity of relationships and the danger of over-attachment, many are often unaware that their relationship is unsatisfactory. The signs that you are not happy are often ignored or unnoticed because of your pace of life or your desire to stay within a relationship to avoid upsetting others that are reliant upon it. John describes a few of these signs to watch out for so you can make an informed decision moving forward.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Watch out for breakdowns in communication. Good communication is essential in a healthy relationship.
- Make sure you are not using denial as an avoidance strategy. You may just be providing an image for others to see or possibly for yourself to see.
- You or your partner may constantly criticise. This is a sign of a resentful relationship.
- Projection onto others of your unhappiness may well be a way of you coping as you may feel more comfortable shifting focus from your issues.
- Difficult intimacy may pinpoint problems between you. You may be avoiding being alone together or creating blocks to spending time.
- Unconscious or conscious compartmentalisation of your life to protect yourself or other sections from an unsatisfactory relationship can be a coping strategy to avoid confronting your unhappiness.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Communication is one of the biggest issues in relationships when they aren’t working out and as I have likely said on many podcasts and has been said many times by my guests, this is an essential in relationships.’
‘On the whole, denial will make things a whole lot more difficult and things will just escalate and bite you on the bum when you least expect it.’
‘This means that you are able to keep your own unhappiness at arms length and it’s no longer you that has the problem as the problem is theirs.’
‘Feeling appreciated and valued by your partner is another essential of the relationship.
‘Maybe you are changing and they aren’t on the same journey as you any longer or no matter how much you communicate and try to work on this journey together it seems that you are drifting further apart.’
VALUABLE RESOURCESLinks: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
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Cinthia Hiett has been practising for the past thirty years, specialising in life coaching, family relations, personality inventories, image consulting, public speaking and conflict resolution. Also, an experienced Radio Host, Podcaster and Author, Cinthia helps you become not the person others expect you to be, not the person you thought you should be, but the unique, joyful person you were made to be and she achieves all of this from a Christian perspective. Accessible to all, Cinthia's faith-based approach is not only helpful to those who share similar beliefs to her own but also to those who are grounded in their own views.
Cinthia and John discuss her education and upbringing, her introduction to counselling, her work with organisations, family life and influence, adoption, and her new book ‘War to Peace: Keeping Relationships from Going Nuclear’.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Cinthia was introduced to counselling through treatment of a severe eating disorder when she realised she has an affinity for insight and understanding.
- While working with organisations Cinthia teaches them how to reorganise their staff to ensure they are all in the most suitable positions.
- Cinthia was adopted and believes you can decide what you want to be by using the strengths of your DNA to your best advantage.
- You have one life and it belongs to you. Your beginning in life does not dictate its journey or its end.
- Cinthia’s new book ‘War to Peace: Keeping Relationships from Going Nuclear’ addresses our modern losses in the new technological age and our lack of grounding and informs people of what works in relationships.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I originally was not interested in psychology or education. My poor parents, you know, they’re highly educated people and they kept saying ‘what about your education?’ and I kept saying ‘I don’t need an education I’m gonna be a rock star!’’-Cinthia
‘I was the Pastor in the sorority so everybody would come and talk to me about their problems.’-Cinthia
‘Adopted families, they’re tough because there’s a lot of information that you would assume you have and you don’t have it. You’re going to have to find your own way in some ways.’-Cinthia
‘That take that you’ve got on adoption. A lot of the clients that I have worked with in the past have been adopted and it’s been a very different space where they’ve felt a little bit more lost or hard done by because they’ve never known their biological parents.’-John
‘I really had this book focus on the nuts and bolts of things that we’ve lost along the years. Things that were just natural, like being polite.’-Cinthia
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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John chats to Dr Jennifer Thomas, a Motivational Speaker specialising in the 5 Love Languages and Communication. She is a Business Consultant, Psychologist, TedX speaker on ‘The 2 Essentials for Healthy Relationships.’ and Co-author of ‘The 5 Apology Languages’ and ‘Making Things Right at Work’. Her passion is to help people to find the match between how they are trying to express love and appreciation, express apologies, and what the other person in the relationship is looking for.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Relationship solutions and communication techniques are also very useful in the workplace.
- The 5 Love Languages are the 5 types of communication that we use within loving relationships, and understanding the dynamics between them can facilitate better communication.
- The 5 Apology Languages are the different ways in which we make and accept apologies.
- Regular maintenance is important in relationships including holidays, breaks and events spent with partners only.
- It is not good communication to use the words ‘always’, ’never’, ’every’, ’all’ and ‘none’. They can result in sweeping generalities that can cause offence.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Too often we tire ourselves out trying to guess what our partners want. My passion is to help people actually learn to ask those questions like ‘What do you need from me? What really lands with you?’-Jennifer
‘We have profiles for both Love Languages and Apology Languages and then we give the whole team the results of the profile so that they can refer back to it.’-Jennifer
‘You can lose sight of your own dreams and your own ambitions and what you want with your relationships as well.’-John
‘It really boils down to two simple things and that is that we need to be able to express love and appreciation to the people that are closest to us. That fills up the love tank. But there is a threat to love tank and that is when we mess up so the second essential is the Apology Languages.’-Jennifer
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
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John believes that to live fulfilling and happy lives we must cultivate the best relationships possible. In this episode, he will explain some of the best ways to achieve this, whatever type of relationship it is including partners, family members, friends, colleagues or acquaintances.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Be present and intentional. The modern pace of life can hinder spending time with others and distract you if you do.
- Do not interrupt, and clarify what you hear. This requires empathy which is another component in building connections.
- Communicate openly and clearly. This is the foundation for a successful relationship. This can bridge any gaps in wants and needs in the future.
- Validating and empowering each other through being generous in response can be essential in making each other happy.
- Celebrate your successes. Joint achievements and celebrating your partners successes will increase the bond between you.
- Learn how to self-soothe. If you can manage your own wellbeing you can then be more present with others.
BEST MOMENTS
‘As human beings we have developed as a species to need, crave, in early life to survive through connecting with others.’
‘Make a conscious effort to be present and focused on your interactions. Put away your phone and anything else that could distract you.’
‘If you are putting yourself into a perceived vulnerable space then you don’t feel safe and rather than being able to be present your mind will be racing off into another space entirely.’
‘One word that I don’t really like when it comes to finding a healthy balance in relationships is ‘compromise’. On the whole this is seen as a word that means you are giving something up and in your brain this can trigger all sorts of resistance.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to another podcast episode: New Year, New Relationship? How to Attract The Relationship You Want. - The Relationship Guy - Omny.fm
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
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John interviews Karen Roberts, creator of the 6 Figures and Beyond Academy. She helps women who are overstressed, overwhelmed and underpaid. After 27 years in the fitness industry, owning her fitness studio in the Algarve and running numerous sports injury clinics across London, Karen left in 2016 to work as a coach for an online education company.
After working on many coaching teams selling programs for others, she created her own, now she focuses on helping struggling coaches get their messages heard, grow their audience and get more sales as the owner of Mintwave radio station and creating the Raising Vibrations podcast network.
John and Karen discuss how she came to be helping the coaching industry, keeping fit fun and fitting it in, her relationships and how they have influenced her career, and the importance of being open-minded.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Karen created The Directory to help the public identify the right coach for their needs.
- Karen also offers an outlet for coaches through her radio station, Mintwave and through the Raising Vibrations podcast network.
- Realising that she enjoyed the energy from addressing groups, Karen set up her coaching program and arranged during lockdown a multi-speaker event with 20 different coaches from different specialities.
- Relationships are crucial to Karen and have motivated almost all the decisions she has made throughout her career.
- Be open to advise and information, even if at first it seems a bit ‘woo woo’!
BEST MOMENTS
‘I had this idea of creating a directory really for the public as well, to come and find the right fit for them.’-Karen
‘Rather than have a ‘one size fits all’ it’s ‘what do you want’? Do you want to come and be a guest to get your message heard? Do you want to have your own show? Do you need help with the tech and the boring stuff?’-Karen
‘It was for my own mental health, I think, I needed something to focus on and something to offer.’-Karen
‘I think that’s one of the things that keeps me interested in life and that’s learning all the time.’-John
‘We all need help. To think that we can do everything by ourselves is crazy, really, and there’s really no need.’-Karen
GUEST RESOURCES
Website : www.karenrobertscoaching.com
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
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Dating can be quite nerve-wracking for many but John has a few ways to make the whole experience much calmer and easier to approach as well as make the changes needed to attract the right kind of relationship partner to suit your needs.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Find your centre before you date, a routine, perhaps, to help you feel calm and collected.
- Affirm how you are going to feel to manage your triggers and keep yourself in a good headspace.
- Know what you want in a partner and consider it to focus your mind on any positive or negative signs that may arise.
- Be honest with your date about your interest or lack of interest in them.
- Consider topics of conversation or open-ended questions that can allow you to get to know them.
- Consider eventually being open with how you feel, what you want and need can deepen connection.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Even if you are a serial dater and have it down to a tee, there may be things that you can do that will make you feel more comfortable about the whole experience.’
‘Practice positive self-talk. Focus on your strengths and why people are lucky to have you in their lives and possibly how lucky this new person will be too.’
‘Dressing to impress in ways that build your confidence, makes you feel comfortable and actually makes you feel yourself will help you to feel good when you walk into any situation.’
‘Part of my coaching is to help people overcome these blocks of giving of themselves in relationships because it can be a big barrier to creating fulfilling relationships.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
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John talks to Relationship Therapists Matt and Rebeca, founders of Aligned With Love: Relationship Breakthrough, specialists in guiding couples and individuals through their journey to have the loving, passionate relationship of their dreams. Matt works with men and Rebecca works with women, and they combine forces to work as a couple with couples. Matt & Rebecca are Certified Coaches, Clinician Hypnotherapists, Master NLP Practitioners, Cognitive Behavioural Therapists, Emotional Freedom Therapists, Psychotherapists and EMDR practitioners. They also co-host The Relationship Breakthrough Podcast, available on all major platforms.
John, Matt and Rebeca discuss the varied models of their counselling style, limiting beliefs and how we acquire them, how our parents affect our later actions and working as a couple.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Being a couple and working with couples is an advantageous model as the challenges of working with men and women can be quite different but communication one on one is critical also.
- Male and female group events help discussion of different issues with peers and allow new friendships to form.
- Clearly defined boundaries and aims are essential to a functional relationship.
- Limiting inaccurate beliefs assumed during our upbringing often restrict our choices within relationships.
- Humility and humour are key in a relationship when working together.
BEST MOMENTS
‘A lot of people when they hear about that can be a bit surprised (counselling as a couple) but a lot of people also feedback on how well it works because of the danger when it’s one or the other of us it could feel a bit unbalanced.’–Matt
‘In the journey that we take people through, there are some points where we speak to individuals separately which is critical. At the end of the day it all boils down to the relationship we have to ourselves, so that’s why it’s critical to work individually as well.’–Rebeca
‘I think that’s an important point, isn’t it? That you in your mind did what you thought was the thing you needed to do because that’s what you were used to, without realising at that time that you had a choice.’–John
‘In our business relationship, there’s a level of accountability. If we say we are going to do something we follow through and we try to hold ourselves and each other accountable.’-Matt
‘Ideas come in the shower. They don’t come when you are rushing and you have a deadline.’-Rebeca
GUEST RESOURCES
Website: https://alignedwithlove.net/
Link to Video Course
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
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John delves into one of those age-old questions that are discussed throughout life; ‘What is happiness?’ He sheds some light on what happiness looks like, feels like, and how it can be attained.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- A meaningfully led life is not necessarily a happy one without some focus on one’s wants and needs.
- Temporary ‘fixes’ of happiness such as excitement and achievement of goals tend to not be sources of long-term happiness.
- Happiness is not a destination to be reached.
- Research has found that pleasure, engagement and connection, quality relationships, and meaning of purpose provide consistent happiness.
BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s obviously a very personal thing to feel or be happy and we are all very different and complicated beings and therefore we will have our own ways and feelings and thoughts about what is right for us.’
‘Have you heard of toxic positivity? This is where you try to put a positive spin on things all of the time and ignore the fact that you have negative feelings or address the issues that aren’t very good for you.’
‘Practice gratitude or appreciation. My program suggests a gratitude diary so that you keep on top of things that you are grateful for or appreciate all the time.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Noleen Sliney is a former Treasury Analyst turned Global Organic Makeup Artist, Video Confidence & Personal Power Mentor. She is the creator of Charismatic Impactful & Unforgettable On Camera, founder of the Video Confidence & Selling Society and judges at the Natural Health Beauty Awards. She has been called "The Organic Makeup Queen" by Natural Health Magazine and named a Top Beauty Eco Influencer and works virtually with professional women worldwide teaching them how to show up powerfully and confidently for success in business and life.
John and Noleen discuss the journey towards her chosen career, the fear of visual media, the difference video can make to a business, deconstructing childhood conditioning, mentoring, and the place and importance of connection in your life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Noleen helps her clients overcome their nervousness and increases their confidence when on video media.
- A video presentation can revolutionise a business. Energy and passion can be expressed much more efficiently visually.
- To differentiate between you and your competitors, a visual presentation can communicate who you are and your values, allowing a strong initial connection between you and your potential client.
- Noleen helps fix the damage done to people’s self-esteem and confidence by damaging childhood conditioning.
- Relationships should not include abuse of you, even your relationship with yourself.
BEST MOMENTS‘With the video confidence and personal power mentorship what I do now again also really stems from my own experience. I had real blocks around being visible, even photos.’ – Noleen‘Business now is more about relationship building and building those connections to those people. And again, I know I keep using that word connection, but it is.’ – Noleen‘I was brought up in a household where if I was trying to appear to be something and boost myself, I was a ‘show off’ or being arrogant. It was very much crushed and you’re not allowed to do that type of thing.’ – John‘When you go on these journeys yourself and level up, there are going to be people who are going to be triggered by that. What I realised was that it wasn’t necessarily about me.’ – Noleen
GUEST RESOURCESFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/noleen.sliney
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/noleen-sliney
Freebie: https://noleensliney.ck.page/3-ways- to-sell-on-video-with-ease
VALUABLE RESOURCESLinks: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta: https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse: @relationshipguy
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John interviews Mindset and Performance Coach Mandy Evill. She coaches entrepreneurs and business leaders to improve their mindset, leverage their unique skills and abilities and improve the profitability of their businesses. Through her organisation The Infinite Mind Company she has helped clients meet their maximum potential. She is also Co-founder and Director of Africa Transformation Centres Foundation which, through mindset training, provides the tools, education, and awareness for the young men and women of Africa to transform their thinking and beliefs, empowering them to create sustainable and thriving economic futures for themselves, their communities, and their country for generations to come.
In this episode, John and Mandy discuss her beginnings in personal development, of what her coaching method comprises, and how mindset relates to achievement, relationships and our own emotions.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Mandy has been working in personal development for over 20 years, starting like many coaches, from a crisis point in her life.
- Everything comes from how we think and what beliefs are, so that is the area that Mandy’s coaching method concentrates on in a sixth-month program taught to her by her Mentor Bob Proctor.
- If we just have negative beliefs then we begin to manifest those beliefs in reality just simply by constantly focusing our attention on them.
- Everyone can make the shift to challenge their core beliefs but not all are willing. The change has to be conscious and you have to be willing to confront difficulties out of your comfort zone.
- All relationships are significant because we do not operate in isolation.
- Our conscious mind is the only place where we have absolute control. Do we want to react to an external circumstance or a person, or do we want to respond? If we react, we are giving our power away.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Success and achievement is a system, not hard work.’ – Mandy
‘It was interesting because I actually still ended up about 15 years later getting stuck which didn’t figure. I was very successful, I’d got my own business, but I still knew I could do more’ – Mandy
‘If they know what they don’t want, people start focusing on what they don’t want. When you are focusing on what you don’t want, you begin to create more of what you don’t want.’ - Mandy
‘That’s a really interesting point that you made there, that your energy goes to where you focus so if you focus on everything you’re trying to avoid you just keep finding everything you’re trying to avoid.’ – John
‘I love that. That’s just beautiful. “How you’re interacting with yourself.” And given you’re a relationship coach. If you’re not interacting well with yourself, how the hell are you going to go out there and have great relationships with other people?” – Mandy
‘My attitude to anything is a measure of who I’m being. That’s how I like to continue to live my life and expand my life.’ – Mandy
‘That’s a massive lesson to learn when you’re a lot younger. I’m not responsible for how you feel, you are. I might do something you don’t like or that you do like, which then elicits some kind of emotional response, but it’s still your emotional response.’ – John
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
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Most people know someone who is referred to as having passive-aggressive behaviour, but what does it mean and what negative effects can it have on our relationships? John explains why so many people resort to passive aggression, how it is utilised and how you can identify and address your own behaviour.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Passive Aggression can be defined as ‘sugar-coated hostility’. It is aggression presented in a passive way which makes it easily missed, difficult to define and easily denied if pointed out.
- Passive Aggressive people take advantage of the behaviour’s plausible deniability, direct aggression is very much more quantifiable by the target whereas passive aggression always has the option of ‘that’s not what I meant’.
- Look out for sulking and silent treatment, very common behaviours in someone who employs passive aggression. Huffing, sighing, tutting and slamming doors are also ways of expressing aggression without actually addressing the issue.
- Do you find yourself avoiding people that you’re upset with? Do you punish others by putting things off, turning up late or just not doing things? Then you may have passive-aggressive traits.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Passive-aggressive behaviour is a pattern of expressing negative feelings indirectly instead of addressing them openly.’
‘It’s not, in itself, a mental illness but gets people’s needs met in a maladaptive way.’
‘They may use sarcasm, or ‘banter’. I personally very much dislike the word ‘banter’ as to me it always seems to mean ‘I’m insulting you or being rude, but I’m only joking.’
‘Bearing a grudge is a common passive aggressive trait.’
‘Recognising your own behaviours is the first step to change but give yourself some time to implement the changes as you are likely to meet some resistance within you when you do so.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Tom Nash is Mr Divorce Coach, an internationally certified coach specialising in divorce, separation and family. Divorce and separation matters are often well served by solicitors but so often the emotional aspect is overlooked and under-supported. Tom guides his clients from their decision to separate through the difficult practicalities and responsibilities including children’s reactions to the situation, keeping a beneficial non-acrimonious relationship with an ex-partner and dealing with the changed dynamic involved with the dissolution of a partnership.
His expertise places him regularly in the media from BBC Radio to The Times and recently, an appearance on ITV’s This Morning.
John and Tom discuss his beginnings in Divorce Coaching, modern blended families, guilt and self-resentment, co-parenting and role models.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Tom originally comes from Business and Life Coaching but has become a specialist in Divorce and Separation Coaching due to his own experience with divorce.
- He is trained in Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Timeline Therapy and Hypnotherapy.
- Stepfamilies and blended families are another area in which Tom specialises. A huge number of families are now categorised as blended by the Office of National Statistics with over 3.7 million included.
- Sometimes co-parenting can be impossible and then parallel parenting is the only option, with very strict boundaries and rules in place but most co-parenting arrangements can be formed to create maximum benefit to all involved.
- Each person involved in a divorce has a different viewpoint of the events and emotions involved in separation.
BEST MOMENTS
‘It was due to personal lived experience of going through a divorce, separation, family courts, child arrangement orders or custody. I was originally going to use those coaching skills in the corporate world where I come from but due to the experience of going through my own divorce and separation, it was actually my partner I have to give credit to who said one night ‘You could use these skills to help other people.’’ – Tom
‘My parents divorced when I was 9 and step mum and my mum got a new partner and stuff with their kids but it wasn’t the norm.’ – John
‘You have to work backwards and start somewhere and first of all, it’s about identifying what the true emotions are, what the true feelings are behind that. The behaviours that come from thought plus feeling equals behaviour.’ – Tom
‘I felt so much shame and self-resentment. It was the one thing I’d always said to myself when I was younger, my one personal vow to myself , that I would never break, and did.’ – Tom
‘I’m one of those very weird people in life that loves ironing. At 3-4 o’clock I put something on TV or I put my headphones on and iron the kids' uniforms. That’s come from the relationship with my dad of actually seeing, in the 80’s, a male role model doing his fair share of the housework.’ – Tom
GUEST RESOURCES
Email : tom@mrdivorcecoach.co.uk
Website : www.MrDivorceCoach.co.uk
45 min consultation:
https://calendly.com/mrdivorcecoach
VALUABLE RESOURCES
links:
www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect:
https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Video Course with 1-2-1 coaching -
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607138
Video Course –
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607134
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode in John’s series on narcissism, he will discuss the causes of narcissism, how to manage a narcissist if you choose to or find yourself in a relationship with one and if a narcissist can change for the better. The origin of the narcissist is rarely discussed, the damage that they do much more so. Is it genetic, environmental or parenting that causes someone to grow up with narcissistic traits?
Related Episodes:
From Codependent to independent
Codependency
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Not everyone that has narcissistic traits is a narcissist. We all have some traits of narcissism and it is considered a spectrum
- The environment you grow up in will determine if you have narcissistic tendencies or not. If you are placed on a pedestal as a child or were overly controlled you may develop a grandiose or vulnerable type of personality.
- A narcissistic parent does not necessarily create a narcissistic child. A lack of empathy can create a person with the same trait, but can also cause hyper-vigilance creating an empathic individual.
- Grey rocking, or the grey rock method, is a tactic some people use when dealing with abusive or manipulative behaviour by keeping dialogue to an absolute minimum to reduce their interest, giving short answers and asking closed questions, sticking to facts only, and creating physical distance if possible. Never ask for favours, and never refer to the past.
BEST MOMENTS
‘As someone who craved attention and validation and love, this was my way of seeking it out in order to feel better. I don’t believe I was actually being a narcissist, just reaching out to be seen.’
‘We can’t determine if a child is narcissistic or not as nearly every child will be selfish and self-focused trying to get their needs and wants met at all times.’
‘It is important to put yourself in a head space where they can’t disturb your thoughts or feelings.’
‘Work on your own self worth so you can’t be easily influenced. Set your own uncrossable boundaries, be assertive and confident in your own space. Don’t react to put-downs or even big-ups as this will just feed their manipulations of you.’
‘Please do remember that they will only change something if they see it as a problem and want to change it which, with a narcissist we know, is quite rare.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links:
www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect:
https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Video Course with 1-2-1 coaching -
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607138
Video Course –
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607134
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Mindfulness is the practice of tuning into our inner world so we can understand how it controls our lives. Anna Zannides is a Mindfulness Coach for those suffering a difficult separation, illness or those experiencing work stress. She offers her advice to businesses and clients on how to identify inner habits and beliefs that may be negatively affecting our outer emotions, actions and decisions.
John and Anna talk about her work in Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy, how she came to coaching, her past relationship, inner habits and limiting beliefs, breakups and recovery, and the reality of long-term relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Anna has worked in education and has used her qualifications to work in cancer support and school and youth projects such as Tottenham Hotspurs and Enfield council dealing with mental health and stress.
- Mindfulness is a long-term sustained practice enabling us to respond differently and bypass our habitual learned responses that are unhelpful.
- Everyone is different in how long it takes to move forward after a loss or breakup but often we are put under pressure by the people around us to recover more quickly than we should. This leaves unresolved issues that still need to be addressed and Mindfulness Coaching can achieve this.
- Indoctrinated ideas can fade throughout life and this is what may cause changes in long-term relationships.
- The expectation that you are going to meet one person who is going to fulfil your needs throughout your entire life is unrealistic.
BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s about helping us to build awareness of ourselves so that we are better able to respond in life rather than react to our external conditions.’ – Anna
‘The first thing that I did when I separated was to actually take myself to Nepal but don’t ask me why because I have no clue! Somehow I said to myself, yes, I’m going to check myself into a Buddhist monastery and I’m going to learn all about this thing that I’ve been interested in since I was very young.’ – Anna
‘I’ve recently worked with someone and they divorced five years ago and they were still experiencing these bouts of anger.’ – John
‘I can honestly say without it sounding really negative, I’m not a big believer in relationships anymore, in the context of how we grow up believing in them, let’s put it that way.’ – Anna
‘The idea that you have to have a body next to you so that you’re not lonely is wrong. Loneliness comes from inside, loneliness is a feeling we have when something is lacking in us.’ - Anna
GUEST RESOURCES
Links: www.annazannides.com
Email: anna@annazannides.com
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links:
www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect:
https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Video Course with 1-2-1 coaching -
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607138
Video Course –
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607134
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In our current era we fully accept that the Narcissistic personality is amongst us affecting us in all walks of life, but especially in our relationships. In this episode John advises on how you can spot a Narcissist before they attach themselves to your life and begin to apply their self serving, toxic methods.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Narcissists aim to make a great first impression and come across as arrogant or pretentious.
- Bragging about achievements, a tendency to finger-point at others for their failures can be signs of a narcissist.
- ‘You’re just too sensitive’ and ‘I know you’re upset but don’t blame me’, are the kinds of things a narcissist will say.
- Asking questions and then ignoring your reply and speaking only about themselves is another danger sign.
- Narcissists may use illnesses to create practical explanations for shortfalls in their personalities, perhaps to explain away irritability or lack of interest.
BEST MOMENTS
‘They will hide under a charismatic veneer with the aim to manipulate you into believing that you can trust them, that they have your best interests at heart and are highly moral individuals.’
’The narcissist has a tendency to communicate differently to others as their words are tools and weapons and are disingenuous.’
‘Keep an eye out for them trying to isolate you within your relationship, turning you against your family and friends as though they are the only ones that truly care about you.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
links:
www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect:
https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Video Course with 1-2-1 coaching -
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607138
Video Course –
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607134
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This episode's guest is Ashlee Whiteman, one half of Yes2Fitness couple Ashlee and Nicky. At Yes2Fitness, Ashlee offers comprehensive fitness coaching based on the premise that you do not have to sacrifice all aspects of your life to achieve your desired level of fitness. With comprehensive health guidance in fitness and exercise, mindset, nutrition and lifestyle, Ashlee helps his clients achieve complete transformations in confidence and lifestyle for good.
John and Ashlee talk about his move into the fitness industry, online training including life coaching, relationship challenges and support with fitness goals, understanding and shared interests in partnerships and how you can start your fitness journey with Yes2Fitness.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Ashlee attained all his fitness qualifications with online training during lockdown which began his love of the fitness industry.
- Yes Fitness online training is fully tailored to the individual through bespoke goal setting and a full understanding of the clients requirements, be they starting out in fitness, readying themselves for a specific fitness presentation event or progressing into full bodybuilding competition.
- If life coaching is necessary when blocks to training occur, Nicky is a fully trained life coach and can help deal with relationship problems caused by family or partner reactions to the clients change of lifestyle.
- Ashlee and Nicky’s shared interest allows for a better home relationship for them and an improved service for their clients. The fitness and bodybuilding industry has specific considerations and pressures that are surmountable with the support offered by their relationship.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I understood that I didn’t have that knowledge but I thought I’d start and help friends and family and if I could help them then I would venture into the business myself.’ – Ashlee
‘We try to make the process as easy as possible with apps and video tutorials and really going back to simplifying it. Everything is tailored to the individual.’ – Ashlee
‘The relationship that you need to build with your clients has got to be hugely significant as well. With the ones I have to build with my clients, mine need to trust me that I’ve got their best interests at heart and I want them to get the best results from the coaching programs that I offer.’ - John
‘Your main interests have to align or be understood very much by the other partner.’ - Ashlee
GUEST RESOURCES
Links:
Instagram - @yes2fitness_couple
Youtube: (6) Yes2Fitness Couple
Website: Online coach | Yes2Fitness |
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Continuing with his series tackling narcissism and its effect on modern relationships, John asks who are the people that are drawn to a narcissistic personality? What is displayed by narcissists that draws a potential partner in, why are they not immediately visible as a narcissist and what sort of personality do narcissists target?
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- A narcissist will offer generosity and kindness to draw a person in only to withdraw it later, returning to it if they sense their target pulling away.
- If you are not in a good place when you meet them a narcissist will target you in the role of rescuer or saviour.
- An emotionally healthy individual is perceived as a threat by a narcissist to their sense of self resulting in them fault finding or fault creating to cement their sense of superiority.
- Narcissists create a trauma bond with their victims by alternating idolising one moment and devaluing the next.
- To regain a lost relationship a narcissist will revert to old behaviours, offer previously refused gifts or become temporarily emotionally present.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Thinking that a narcissist actually cares about them because of the good moments, these good moments are, however, false and manipulative and the mask of these will drop more and more frequently.’
‘Initially, a truly kind and open-hearted person can be appealing to a narcissist as they think they can get them on their side to be able to use them for their own needs. As time moves on, however, the narcissist realises that they are genuinely nicer and better than they are and this threatens their sense of self.’
‘As time goes on they lose their sense of self, feel inadequate and become dependent on the feedback they receive from the narcissist.’
‘if you had a parent that you wanted to please and accepted a level of behaviour that made you feel you didn’t deserve much more you are more susceptible to the narcissist.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to previous episode - What is Narcissism? - The Relationship Guy - Omny.fm
links:
www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect:
https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Video Course with 1-2-1 coaching -
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607138
Video Course –
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607134
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode, John chats to Luke Burrows who is dedicated to raising consciousness for all, a mission that has driven him to create and become the Founder of Raising Consciousness, a lifestyle brand and podcast that combines passions for personal growth, health, spirituality, sports, and leadership & business to inspire people to reach their goals and live their life to the fullest.
John and Luke talk about how he has made such great strides at such a young age, the skills and knowledge he shares with others to help them follow him on his experience, self-improvement and growth, consciousness in relationships and the service he offers through Raising Consciousness.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Luke hopes for a better tomorrow by raising the consciousness of all to create a more connected and spiritual future generation.
- Raising Consciousness offers coaching, consulting and public speaking as well as the podcast.
- After issues with depression and anxiety and altering and redirecting his life, Luke knew that he could share his knowledge and experience to help others.
- Reflection is a powerful tool that can be utilised by everyone to recognise difficulties within their own lives. Daily journaling can be a lifelong habit that will constantly improve and reveal positive changes that can be enacted.
- Intention setting to pay attention, perhaps be kinder, more generous, or set boundaries are all part of self-improvement within relationships.
- A slow reaction, a delay in response can lead to a more thoughtful interaction that, instead of being driven by emotions of the moment, can be inspired by a more thoughtful response, resulting in better relationships.
- Raising Consciousness The Podcast contains in-depth conversations on such topics as health, environmental issues and personal growth.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I always knew that I wanted to impact people and help people in a positive way to make progress and move things forward. It was really coming to the realisation of what that is for me and that I can bring my strengths and skills into the world to serve and help people.’ – Luke
‘It’s fascinating that you were able to make such a big leap within yourself.’ - John
‘For me, consciousness is in everything that we do. It’s a part of becoming a better version of ourselves which is the ultimate goal.’ – Luke
‘I keep my circle very small. When I was starting my entrepreneurial journey that was a very challenging time because I was experiencing anxiety as well and I grew up with people who were very much more into the traditional youth stuff.’ - Luke
‘So maybe my family doesn’t get what I do; ”go get a normal job”. Beforehand I would feel hurt by that, now I’ve come to the realisation that they’re just operating from their level of consciousness and so I am just going to show gratitude and kindness towards them’ – Luke
‘If you’re able to be self-aware and be, ok, I can feel what I feel right now but if I can just take a breath, take some time to respond rather than react I think that’s an amazing quality to be able to have.’ – John
GUEST RESOURCES
Website: https://lukeburrows.com/
Podcast: https://anchor.fm/raisingconsciousnessshow
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/reallukeburrows
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/reallukeburrows
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reallukeburrows
VALUABLE RESOURCES
links:
www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect:
https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Video Course with 1-2-1 coaching -
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607138
Video Course –
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607134
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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A word commonly used in the discussion of modern relationships is ‘narcissism’ and is frequently brought up in John’s sessions with clients. As the awareness of narcissism among us grows, John is going to offer insight and clarity on its various aspects and dangers and how it can affect our search for a meaningful relationship. In this episode, John will explain the different types of narcissism that present themselves within society and their associated dysfunctions.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Narcissism is based on fragility and insecurity. It results in a grandiose sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, superficiality and a tendency to manipulate and exploit other people.
- Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is rare, affecting an estimated one per cent of the population. It is suspected when narcissistic traits affect a person’s daily functioning.
- Grandiose Narcissism involves overestimating one's abilities, exerting one's dominance over others and having a generally inflated sense of self-esteem.
- Overt Narcissists can be charming but lack empathy. In conversation, they don’t relate to people but aim to ‘one-up’ them. This may be because they crave attention or enjoy seeing others hurt or confused.
- Covert Narcissists tend to be shy and self-effacing despite being highly self-focused. They can appear highly sensitive, crave recognition and are envious. They cannot take criticism and believe their suffering is beyond anyone else’s.
- Malignant Narcissists are manipulative and malicious. They are sadistic and aggressive and are often mistaken for sociopaths or psychopaths.
- Seductive Narcissists use praise, gifts and outright flattery to gain attention and affection in return, but will drop someone and move to the next as soon as that attention diminishes.
- Communal Narcissists see themselves as highly altruistic but behave in the opposite way. They are outraged by injustice but do not apply it to their own actions and behaviours.
BEST MOMENTS
‘’Narcissism is the second-hand smoke of our time. If you stand too close to it you are going to get sick’ – Dr Ramani Durvasula’
‘There is a hunger for appreciation or admiration, a desire to be the centre of attention, an expectation of special treatment, a perceived higher status.’
‘A pathological narcissist naturally views everyone else as inferior and may be intolerant of your opinions if you disagree or ask questions.’
‘They are predatory in their seeking of vulnerability in other people, highly competitive and show aggressive tendencies.’
‘Competitiveness is a personality trait that is associated with many narcissistic types but is especially noticeable with the Antagonistic Narcissist. A low level of trust in others creates a tendency to see the people around them as rivals, arguing frequently with others and regarding most social interactions as a competition.’
‘A sexual narcissist feels entitled to have their needs met. They have a self-centred view of sex and tend not to be skilled at emotional intimacy and are therefore not very interested in their partner's needs.’
‘In small amounts, it (narcissism) may even give you a healthy edge in getting ahead in the world and this is termed as Healthy Narcissism.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
links:
www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect:
https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Video Course with 1-2-1 coaching -
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607138
Video Course –
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607134
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Happy New Year! Are you stepping into the New Year with a new relationship in mind? If so, you may want to listen to John’s 6 things that are essential to understand if we want to attract or create the healthiest relationships possible. From understanding your Attraction Style and Relationship Beliefs to what you need to do to avoid repeating all the same mistakes over again, John explains clearly how to identify and eliminate self-sabotaging habits to ensure a brighter, happier New Year.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Attraction Style is created throughout your life from the early relationships you had as a child right the way through to now, including your friends, acquaintances and colleagues. Early experiences inform your attitudes to a relationship into adulthood and how you approach them.
- Attachment Style, proposed as Attachment Theory in the 1950s, is the idea that as a child we learn how to emotionally and physically attach to someone through our primary relationships. Knowing your attachment style can inform you why you choose repeated situations and encounter similar problems from relationship to relationship.
- Relationship Beliefs are your core beliefs about the nature, function, and validity of relationships. They are assumptions held due to your past experiences, for example, a dysfunctional relationship between parents can lead a child to grow assuming that such dysfunction is normal or expected in relationships.
- Relational Patterns are formed by childhood experiences, for example, the forming of ‘safe spaces’ that you construct alone to escape from the potential abuse you expect within a relationship.
- Implementing changes can be difficult and result in resistance. Referred to as ‘The Bicycle Affect’, it is the difficulties encountered when trying to effect change, or to further the analogy; ‘put on the brakes’. John explains via the link in VALUABLE RESOURCES.
- Consider what you want in a relationship and what you want to give to a relationship. Do not consider only what you don’t want as you will miss occurrences of what you do want.
BEST MOMENTS
‘When you interact with your caregivers as children they will give you signals on your importance to them and behave in ways that will make you decide how you are going to gain affection from them.’
‘If this is healthy, loving, caring, supporting and encouraging we will likely develop what is called a secure attachment. If, however, we feel unloved, unworthy, and/or rejected or unwanted we will develop what is called an insecure attachment.’
‘The thing about beliefs is that they then determine the kind of relationships you then have in your life, they are, in all essence, your truths but are really just your ideas about things.’
‘Have you always chosen a certain type of person ending in the same or similar outcome? Have there been lots of bickering, arguments? Verbal or even physical abuse? Do you find they don’t attend to your needs or are pushovers and give you too much?’
‘As you’ve listened to this podcast today you may have even noticed that you dismiss certain things out of hand immediately. This could mean that you don’t resonate with them or it could be that you aren’t allowing yourself to hear the things that I’ve said.’
‘Your energy is constantly being picked up by others and if you have a closed energy or an energy that is anti-relationship in any way, still in a negative space from your past, you will likely attract people who are interested in this energy.’
VALUABLE RESOURCESlinks: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect:
https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Video Course with 1-2-1 coaching -
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607138
Video Course –
https://the-relationship-guy.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=3607134
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode, John talks with Stacey O’Callaghan of SJS Coaching Services who helps others to achieve outstanding improvements in their lives by using a blend of psychological techniques to empower them to own and adjust their behaviour, so they feel confident to take meaningful actions so that their ideal becomes their reality. Utilising her skills as a distinction-accredited cognitive behaviour therapist, personal performance and corporate executive coach, Stacey guides individuals in their personal lives and corporate teams in the working world to realise and action the true definition of thriving within their environments.
Stacey offers a rich variety of self-coaching tools, tips and insights including personal development tools and her gifted coaching experience within her online community as well as offering a bespoke coaching service to all her clients including her Surviving to Thriving Framework, her trusted method to improve quality of life.
Stacey and John discuss how people become stuck in unfulfilling and detrimental lifestyles, what they can do to improve their situation and the nature of relationships and external pressure on one's ability to thrive.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Stacey helps people understand why they are living their current lifestyle, what core beliefs they have that are keeping them caught at that point and then replace their external influences to create their own, personal, sustainable idea of thriving.
- Someone in survival mode is living from day to day with just tasks that they feel they ‘should’ be doing and have very little fulfilment or satisfaction to place alongside it.
- To live with intention, ask yourself a few simple questions daily. How am I feeling today? Why am I feeling this way? What can I do to make today just that little bit better than yesterday?
- Develop a toolkit of behaviours that counteract any negative responses you may be having on a bad day. Knowing which actions you can take in a given emotional situation can be the solution to feeling stuck. Be aware of the things in your life that cause good days and do more of them.
- Stacey’s coaching journey started with one coaching session for herself that changed her life where her core belief at the time that those around her expectations had to be fulfilled was challenged.
BEST MOMENTS‘I support people to develop and build a greater understanding of who they are and what it means for them to strive instead of just survive. I believe that so many of us live our lives from day to day reacting from one thing to the next thing and we can very often fall into a life that we either didn’t want or didn’t think we would fall into.’ – Stacey‘Just those tiny little changes that you can make in your life can really start to make a difference. That then puts you on the path from surviving to thriving.’ – Stacey‘I found that myself actually when I was working at the NHS as a counsellor. It was just trying to keep people’s heads above water all the time.’ – John‘Even when you’re thriving you’re not thriving all of the time. Thriving is a mindset that means that you develop that resilience and that self-awareness so that when you’re having a tough day you know what you need in order to get through it.’ – Stacey‘Fundamentally you are your own person, you have your own life, you make your own decisions and you need to aspire to build a network of people around you that will respect that, even if they don’t agree with the actual decisions you’re making.’ – Stacey‘As a coach our clients have their freedom to choose and create their own tools.’ – Stacey
GUEST RESOURCESLinks:Email: stacey@sjscoachingservices.comWebsite: www.sjscoachingservices.comInstagram/Facebook: @sjscoachingservicesVALUABLE RESOURCESLink to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Ryan Hartley is Chief Heart Officer at Always Better Than Yesterday (ABTY), which exists to help develop heart-centred leaders, teams, organisations and communities to reach their potential and make a positive impact on the world. ABTY is a heart-led organisation built on the belief that real leadership is the act of putting your own needs aside to serve others. ABTY shares this philosophy through coaching a heart-centred model and developing courses to lead its clients from the heart to how we think and make decisions through how we serve people and onward to how we leave a positive impact on our communities.
In this episode John and Ryan talk about how he came to be a coach, the definition and modern placement of the word ‘love’, the modern absence of heart-sensitive men in the workplace, his relationship problems, finding faith, love languages, self-care and self-love.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Ryan took a job with his police force as a Dispatcher and became a parent as well as a Manager. Through these two roles, he developed his enthusiasm and interest in Leadership which he felt was about serving other people rather than the rank-and-file type established in the police force.
- From coaching part-time Ryan is now training people full-time through consulting, coaching, community leadership and podcasting in the concept of helping people be better than yesterday.
- Our workplaces are full of self-serving leaders. That is an abuse of power, true leadership is about serving and protecting.
- Our panic-based fight or flight response restricts our ability to choose a response in situations. Constant stress means unconsidered decisions based on emotion.
- If we can bypass our childhood learned patterns we can understand others’ learned patterns also and see things more clearly and respond in a more logical, thoughtful manner.
- Time to ourselves is essential to be the best version of ourselves to other people.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I guess I just describe myself as a curious human being. When I was a kid I must have watched all of the serial killer profiles. It led me to want to know more about people. I’ve always been curious about his topic of psychology.’ – Ryan
‘In a lot of cases it seemed like following orders for the sake of following orders and that didn’t sit with me very well either. Tell me about that and how it may have impacted on you.’ – John
‘I think that is what a masculine man when he has love in his heart is willing to do. He is honourable, he is noble, he will create safety for those around him and he will be willing to serve and sacrifice himself should he be required to.’ – Ryan
‘Isn’t it funny that we don’t say “I love you with all of my mind”? So I’ve come to understand that emotion and love is deeper than thinking. I can’t force myself to think I love you. I can’t force myself to think that I value the company values.’ – Ryan
‘The mind is never supposed to be the leader. The mind is always supposed to be the servant. It is the heart that leads the way.’ – Ryan
‘The minute we wake up someone wants something from us. So we have to factor in some time, particularly as men and as dads, and in doing so realise that other people get a better version of us.’ – Ryan
‘That’s the problem with human beings, they’re so conditional. When we try to receive love from another human being it's generally conditional and yet self love and acceptance needs to be unconditional.’ – Ryan
GUEST RESOURCES
Website: www.abty.co.uk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alwaysbetterthanyesterdayuk/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ABTYUK
Podcast: www.abty.co.uk/podcast
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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John meets Maria Gavriel, a full-time mum of 2 and a part-time lifestyle and business coach. Having grown several six-figure businesses over the last 15 years, Maria has gathered knowledge on how to be successful and thrive without experiencing burnout. She helps her clients discover little-known methods to increase their productivity, joy and time without costing them what matters most, their peace and happiness. By allowing her clients’ higher selves to emerge, Maria shows them how to live their hearts’ desire without the overwhelm.
Maria and John talk about how she assists her clients, the old work systems that are harmful, how her burnout occurred, her ideas on constructive teamwork and delegation, effective communication and the disastrous result of not honouring one’s own needs.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The first step is to identify the problem, but especially for women, talking about stress and burnout is frowned upon.
- Women in business feel pulled in many directions between work, relationships and childcare and these pressures result in burnout.
- Maria helps them simplify their life, build teams, scale their business and move to a two or three day work week.
- Emulating the old ‘masculine’ version of success with no emotion and no concern outside the workplace does not function for anyone including women.
- Maria teaches her clients to bring in a team at home and to bring in a team at work. At home, a family based support network can be established and at work a collaborative team that frees the client from the mindset that they have to complete everything themselves.
- Effective communication is just as important at home as at work. Team exercises and meetings are a helpful function for family support systems too.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Just recently I was reading that the WHO actually declared burnout officially as a disease now, a fatal disease. Burnout is now officially killing people.’ – Maria
‘So I introduce systems and structures and usually within six months they move to a shorter work week and start to see a difference just because they are honouring themselves more they start to see a difference in their personal life too.’ - Maria
‘There are so many different relationships that we have that can impact on our own emotional, mental and physical health.’ – John
‘My son taking on all these tasks now means he’s contributing. He’s empowered and at the same time I also know that he’s equipped for when he goes off to college.’ – Maria
‘If the lifestyle we’ve created at work is sabotaging our relationships in our personal life we walk away from that business, that dream, that vision because it will just break our heart.’ – Maria
GUEST RESOURCES
Link - https://mariagavriel.com/
Workshop -
www.mariagavriel.com/workshop
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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There may be many reasons that you have fear of commitment, not least your attachment style, your beliefs about relationships and your relationship with yourself. If you are scared of commitment, John is here to detail how you can identify the nature of your fear and also, possibly, its source.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- You may have commitment phobia if you prefer to keep your relationships on a superficial or casual level
- An insecure attachment style called ‘dismissive avoidant’ or ‘fear avoidance’ may be a sign of a problem.
- You may find it difficult to consider or discuss the future of a relationship. To overcome this, small steps are required so as not to trigger you to flee the situation.
- Fault finding and constant doubts can also be a pointer to this problem. Usually, the faults and doubts reach a little, being picky and inconsequential, so concentrating on your partners’ strengths can circumvent this.
- Sharing and explaining your emotions may seem like a very vulnerable position, so you may avoid this by switching off or escaping when the subject of you is approached.
BEST MOMENTS
‘To keep every relationship in the ‘friends with benefits’ space means you struggle to be with people at a deeper level and only comfortable in surface relationships.’
‘By understanding your attachment and working on overcoming these barriers you can start to entertain the idea of closer relationships without your brain jumping in and trying to protect you.’
‘One thing that can cause a lack of trust is a lack of belief in yourself, that you don’t deserve good things, that you are bound to be disappointed by people so be nice to yourself as well as the person that you’re in the relationship with.’
‘Being vulnerable means that you are being open, you are being brave and that emotionally open people are strong, that they have emotional intelligence.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode, we meet ‘The People Mechanic’, Gary De Rodriguez. He is CEO of Peopleistic LLC, who partner with small to mid-level organizations to resolve and evolve their people-centric issues in strategy, leadership, operations, team performance, and project execution. He is also Associate Professor at The Business Education Institute, is a Master Trainer in Humanistic Neurolinguistic Psychology and has coauthored ‘Humanistic Business: Profit through People with Passion and Purpose. His knowledge and skills in Business and Psychology allow him to offer services in Business Consulting, Brand Consulting, Training, Change Management, Leadership Development, Team Building, Public Speaking, Corporate Training, and Life Coaching.
John and Gary talk about how his career developed, familial trauma and relationships, alignment with our true selves, the nature of partnership and limiting beliefs.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Gary started out running the first AIDS educational seminars in San Diego during the early days of the epidemic in the 80s. This is when he started studying Hypnosis, Psychology and then Humanistic Neurolinguistic Programming.
- Our trauma is often triggered in a partnered relationship as this is where we become most vulnerable.
- If we are out of alignment with ourselves we start to seek outside of ourselves for the something or someone to make us feel whole.
- The role of the villain in relationships always shifts back and forth as we search for a hero to heal our trauma.
- Own the fact that you are the architect of your emotional states.
- We are all here to be loved, seen, appreciated and made psychologically safe.
- Challenge your belief systems. If you think you don’t deserve it, then you will only see evidence to support that preposition.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I was so driven to try to find something that would help because so many people were dying and no one was doing anything. The Government did nothing, they never funded any kind of research for about seven years into the epidemic.’ – Gary
‘Wherever love is present, everything unlike it shows up. At some point in time, we get triggered by being in a one-on-one, partnered relationship because that’s where we show up in our most vulnerable states. Our original wounding always comes from our family of origin.’ – Gary
‘It’s really getting into that aligning with yourself and understanding who you are as a human being.’ – John
‘You have to own the fact that your emotions are your construction because you created the meaning that you're ascribing to the outside circumstances.’ – Gary
‘When someone drops the light for themselves you have to hold up the light for them so they can remember who they are rather than look at them and condemn them.’ - Gary
‘One of the things we have to remember in our relationships is if we do not have our own self-leadership, we don’t learn how to manage the complexity of how we are creating our day-to-day subjective experience.’ – Gary
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This episodes guest is Emmi Fortin, a Breakup and Relationship Coach and Author who helps her clients process and recover from ended relationships or difficult relationships that are keeping them stuck and helps them move on to a happy and healthy partnership in which they can live the life that they want for their future.
John and Emmi talk about her coaching program and the three R’s, how we develop unhealthy relationship patterns in childhood, the confrontation of bad relational habits, her past relationships and break ups and her journey to recovery.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Emmi increases her clients confidence and self value so that they can create the relationship they want in the future.
- Emmi’s coaching program ‘Wake Up from Your Break-Up’ is based around what she calls her three R’s. Reflect. Release. Reinstall.
- Reflect. Emmi and her clients will spend a few weeks doing exercises that get the client to identify all of the current emotions, thoughts and patterns.
- Release. The client is asked to challenge the current situation and ask questions like ‘Is this serving me? Is there a way that I could change this to serve me better?’.
- Reinstall. The client is encouraged into forward thinking about who they want to be, where they want to be and how to get there.
- If you don’t have a healthy example in your childhood of a relationship it is no surprise that people grow up unable to see the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.
- Emmi’s book ‘Who Is Your Red Dress? : One Woman’s Quest to Break Up with a Love Addiction’ is the account of her past relationships and her struggle to break her patterns of choosing unhealthy relationships.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Similar to what people have heard about the grief process there’s really no linear way to go about it, but I kind of stick to what I call my three R’s and I’ve created this whole coaching program around layering these three ideas.’ – Emmi
‘People come to me and say, I’ve been in a bunch of relationships but even though they’re with different people they all seem to be the same.’ - Emmi
‘We are not taught any of this stuff about relationships growing up at all. We go to school and we learn about Maths and English etc, but no one actually sits down and says ‘these are the signs of a healthy relationship, these are the signs of an unhealthy relationship.’’ – John.
‘You would go from feeling completely broken, I remember literally lying on my living room floor in the foetal position, clenching my heart and crying to then having these euphoric highs.’ – Emmi
‘There were times when I would make advances and times when I would fall back. I would even tell myself, like, Oh, another relapse! However, there was that very clear moment for me and it was the one where I was lying on my floor heaving, crying, but I stopped because I all of a sudden got this clear message that said ‘you are keeping yourself here.’’ – Emmi
‘Even just giving myself that three weeks to totally focus on my own stuff and not constantly spend every minute of my day worrying about what that other person was doing or what was going on with us. Bringing the focus back to me for that allotted period of time was tremendous.’ – Emmi
GUEST RESOURCES
Links:
www.emmifortin.com
Relationship Cheat Sheet [free download]
www.emmifortin.com/whoihelp
Book
book.whoisyourreddress.com/author 6 Things You Can Do NOW to Get
Over Your Ex [freedownload]
www.emmifortin.com
Breakup Support & Connection
Group
www.emmifortin.com/about
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode John chats with Vadim Strots, Life and Career Coach and Engineering Consultant. Vadim specialises in coaching leaders in engineering, technology and science to navigate life or career decisions in these difficult and ever changing fields of expertise. Bringing a wealth of experience and expertise in Industrial Chemistry and as a trained and certified coach, Vadim helps intellectual introverts unlock the potential of their powerful minds, aids those stuck at career crossroads to develop a clear vision of their life and future to enable them to take confident steps forward and guides busy expats and international workers in unfamiliar cultures to become more at ease with dealing with the unfamiliar.
John and Vadim discuss how he moved into coaching and how his skills can be applied to his chosen area of clientele, his experience moving from country to country, how freedom to express and communicate can not only be more efficient but also make someone happier and how he approaches coaching on an individual level to ascertain the complicated issues at work.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- After quitting Chemical Engineering, Vadim was offered job coaching by the German authorities to discover a new interest and found his niche in communication, leadership and coaching.
- Vadim’s experience in the technical fields helps him and his clients to get in touch with the different, less intellectually based, side of themselves.
- Vadim moved from the Soviet Union as it was collapsing, to the US and so has experience in adapting to a different culture and can advise others in this area.
- You cannot learn how being an expat is going to be until you spend a good amount of time in your adopted country.
- Being able to converse openly and being emotionally communicative can provide a sense of freedom. It is not always the most intelligent people who are successful, it is often those who can communicate ideas effectively.
- Vadim does not use a set method approach to coaching, he uses individual approaches for each of his clients.
BEST MOMENTS‘I ended up in Germany in Berlin doing highly sophisticated work on diesel engine exhausts until I hit the spot where I realised that, oops, I have no more interest in that.’ – Vadim‘We share similar traits, we spend a lot of time in our heads, less in our bodies and emotions. We tend to forget about our capacities that exist and are beyond.’ – Vadim‘So you’re helping people see completely and get in touch with a completely different side of themselves?’ - John‘I must say my family and I, we had a very easy transition in terms of finances. We had been well supported at the time. That has been a culture shock. It was probably the strongest for my daughter. She was 7 years old.’ – Vadim‘During all this process you pay attention to what is going on. What’s going on with the coaching? What’s going on with you. What’s going on in the space between you. And in this space in between you, sometimes miracles happen.’ – Vadim
GUEST RESOURCESWebsite and Contact: http://vstrots.tilda.ws/
VALUABLE RESOURCESLink to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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It’s that time of year in the Northern Hemisphere where the nights are closing in, the temperatures dropping and we are all wrapping up and bedding in for the winter. Cuffing Season is this time of year when people get together so they don’t have to spend the cold nights alone. John asks you to consider a few things before embarking on or ending such a relationship.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Cuffing season lasts all the way through to Valentines Day so people are not alone for that too.
- Just because this is a temporary thing for you, do not settle for just anyone. Clarify and set expectations clearly to avoid being disrespectful.
- Be mindful of your natural behaviour in relationships when embarking on a temporary relationship.
BEST MOMENTS‘The relationships do tend to end as soon as spring arrives and people go their separate ways. But that isn’t always the case, sometimes they will carry on because they have reached a new level.’‘Be authentic, put your best self out there and don’t just go for the first person that’s up for it.’‘If one has more feeling than the other then it isn’t going to be a comfortable space when it comes to an end.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This episodes guest is Cathlyn Melvin, a coach and copywriter who helps mission driven businesses and experts by providing not only bespoke copywriting services but also by TEDx Coaching, designed to guide her clients to create the TEDx Talk that will inspire and inform their target audience of their true and heartfelt motivation and message.
With a degree in theatre performance, a minor in writing, and over a decade as an educator, professional actor, and entrepreneur, she draws on diverse experiences to lift the voices of mission-driven leaders.
John and Cathlyn discuss the TEDx forum and how Cathlyn helps her clients access it effectively, preparation and nerves, theatre performance, introversion and social anxiety and the importance of cultivating business relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- TEDx talks are a maximum of 18 minutes and are on average about 12. Cathlyn helps clients distil their talk into an ‘idea worth spreading’.
- When giving a talk, preparation is key to defeating nerves. In TEDx talks, the only rules are timescale, no pseudoscience or religion and no promotions so the opportunity to express your individuality is available.
- Acting gave Cathlyn her skills and confidence in performance and presentation. Cathlyn is actually introverted and has social anxiety so it is perfectly possible to work in fields of public performance with these issues.
- The significance of relationships to find business is important.
BEST MOMENTS
‘The work that I do really is all about that message that is on your heart. I help my clients get that message out into the world because so much of the time as business owners we know what’s important to us, we know what we have that can really make an impact on the world, but we’re not sure of the words to use to channel that.’ – Cathlyn
‘The whole reason that you get up and talk is to connect. Is to share your feelings, not just your intellectual ideas but the feelings that those ideas are rooted in.’ – Cathlyn
‘For about eight years I also owned my first business which was touring children’s theatre. We would send theatre educators to all different communities across the United States.’ – Cathlyn
‘What made you change? It sounds to me like it was quite fulfilling and was a good space for you to be in, what made you move away from the acting?’ – John
‘Even in a situation like this where, John, you and I are having a conversation where people are going to listen in later, those relationships are still being built. Even if I’m never aware of Susie who’s out there listening right now.’ – Cathlyn
GUEST RESOURCES
Links
www.rightcatcreative.com
Freebie
www.rightcatcreative.com/firststepsplaybook
Cathlyn's talk on YouTube: TEDx Coaching — RIGHT CAT CREATIVE
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop -
https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode John's guest is Jennifer Fanning, a YouTube strategist whose aim is to help coaches who want to scale their business using YouTube utilising her simple and fast framework for success. From guidance on being confident on camera and keeping your audience engaged, to converting those viewers to customers or clients, Jenn covers the full spectrum of what you need to know about presenting and selling on the video format. She presents a private 6 month YouTube coaching program and video editing service to guide you towards scaling up your business with well placed, creative, informative and binge-worthy presentations.
Jenn and John discuss the origin of Jenn’s business, the importance of honesty, presentation, long distance relationships and life changes.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Originally using YouTube as a way to escape from her career in Pharmaceuticals, Jenn has become an expert in presentation and the technical side of YouTube and is now applying it to her own business clients.
- Jenn focuses on coaches as clients due to her shared desire to help people. She likes to ‘help other people to help other people.’
- Jenn believes that honesty is important for her clients especially on live platforms and in business generally and this is also true for relationships.
- Jenn talks about her past relationships and has learned that she may overreact and that a moment of pause is more advantageous.
- Long distance relationships are possible if the end result is important enough to those involved.
- Being part of a community is important and understanding that relationships are very different to each other but that’s still ok.
BEST MOMENTS‘That’s why I focused more on coaches because I feel like they have a lot to share.’ – Jenn‘Tell me a little bit about what kind of message you think is important for your clients to put out in the world?’ – John‘In your normal day to day life you might have a conversation just sitting like this, that’s how we talk. When you’re on camera and you’re talking this way, the camera de-energises you so then you’d have to bring yourself up a little bit. You’re not changing who you are, you're just bumping up that energy a little bit.’ – Jenn‘If I ever write a piece about long distance relationships I think I’m going to come to you for some expertise.’ – John‘The people in my life are the ones I always go back to whenever things are rougher when I’m celebrating something, it's very important to me.’ – JennGUEST RESOURCESWebsite: https://www.jenniferfanningva.comBook a Free Call: https://calendly.com/jenniferfanningva/15minVALUABLE RESOURCESLink to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
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Gaslighting is a term that has become more commonplace in the media and in general conversation about relationships and is often overused or misused to describe manipulative or controlling behaviour. Gaslighting is an insidious and coercive type of manipulation usually from one person to another. However, there is a self destructive behaviour that we can practice on ourselves utilising the voice in our head to belittle and manipulate that can result in and be described as Self Gaslighting.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- You can criticise and doubt yourself so much that you can make yourself dismiss your own emotions and question your own reality. You may even tell yourself to take the blame for any issue regardless of where the real responsibility lies.
- These behaviours follow two categories, minimisation and self-invalidation.
- You may have developed this in childhood where you were constantly blamed for things, told things that clearly did not happen or were constantly informed that your experience of a situation was not as you perceived it.
- This can result in emotions of anxiety, depression, confusion and shame, yet even these emotion’s validity can be questioned.
- Get to know and understand yourself. Recognise what triggers you and the patterns of behaviour that this causes.
- Journaling your feelings can be helpful to allow you to see clearly changes in your emotions, attitude or comprehension of trigger situations.
- Do not judge your thoughts. Show yourself compassion and honour who you are, what you think and what you feel.
- Change your relational pattern of those that you invite into your life and spend less time with the people that trigger you and who are responsible for these issues in the first place.
BEST MOMENTS‘Do you ever hear yourself ask these types of questions when something is going on that you are uncomfortable with? “Maybe it wasn’t as bad as I thought.””They didn’t mean to hurt me.””I’m being overly emotional.” Or “I am making something out of nothing.”’‘I have clients that believe this about themselves based on their childhood experiences and in some cases are being reaffirmed over and over by family members to this day.’‘In the most extreme of cases it can create a split in your personality as though you are two or more different people. The person who knows what is happening or has happened and who knows that they aren’t wrong or to blame but have to be responsible regardless.’‘You may have learned to self gaslight in times of stress and when you were in survival mode. It could have become your protective mechanism, so tell your brain that you no longer need it to protect you in this way, that you are safe to look at things and not use this technique to keep you stuck any longer.’VALUABLE RESOURCESLink to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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John interviews Cherri Forsyth, who helps CEO's, business owners and businesses to uplift their company's Emotional Intelligence for stronger people at home and work, increasing their profit. Cherri specialises in Personal Coaching as well as corporate, as well as Grief Counselling, helping her clients to develop emotional resilience and mentoring and supporting other life coaches.
Cherri and John discuss her move into life coaching, her experience of grief and move into counselling, the similarities in the different spheres of coaching and her marriage and its near dissolution and final resurrection.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Starting out as a Sports Coach, Cherri now is an Emotional Intelligence and Resilience Coach, Grief Counsellor and Mental Trainer for Elite Athletes.
- Emotional Resilience coaching is helping people deal with hardship and crisis and come through it in a very positive way.
- The skills and tools taught as a one on one coach are also the same as those taught in businesses and to elite athletes.
- Emotional Intelligence means having the skills and resilience to react to others in a positive way as opposed to more negative responses.
- Cherri’s Grief Counselling came from the experience of losing her daughter and her husband's extreme reaction to grief which ruined their marriage. However, through psychology and counselling the marriage has continued successfully.
BEST MOMENTS‘I am very passionate about what I do and I think the variety is really good because it keeps everything fresh all the time.’ - Cherri‘If we are criticised and we react by being really defensive that’s not going to achieve much. But if we can realise, though criticism might not be delivered in a great manner and might make us want to feel really defensive, I’ve got a choice how I can deal with this.’ - Cherri‘It really stops you from going into one of those unwanted emotions that don’t really help any situation.’ – John‘I had to put my own grief of losing our daughter completely to the side and concentrate on the relationship because our elder daughter was still at home and I didn’t want her to be in the situation of having lost her sister and then her parents getting a divorce.’ – Cherri‘It’s really difficult for some people to look at themselves and say ‘I actually did do this’. The whole fragility around that frame is really difficult for people to step into.’ – John‘With the affair and me kicking him out of home and him losing his job, all of those things together still didn’t kick him out of the denial.’ – CherriGUEST RESOURCESLinks: www.cherriforsythcoaching.comemail: cherriforsyth@gmail.comVALUABLE RESOURCESLink to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode we meet Anna Tomkins, creator of ‘Handbook for Today’, a set of guided journals to introduce tools and positive mindsets to encourage wellbeing and personal growth. Also, as the creator of the ‘Handbook for Getting Hitched’ journals, Anna is perfectly equipped to discuss and advise on all things relationships. John and Anna talk about her journals and how they can help to achieve wellbeing, how couples can invest in their future together by asking the right questions at the start, Anna’s own romantic relationships and tips about how to communicate effectively.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- ‘Handbook for Today’ prompts the user to journal thoughts, be guided into positive thinking by noting learning opportunities gained and incidents of uplifting events that occurred throughout their day and gives them tools to achieve a healthy mindset.
- Small occurrences, (smiles, interactions, pleasurable experiences), can be noted as enjoyable experiences that can increase our sense of well being.
- ‘Handbook for Getting Hitched’ encourages couples to discuss important things before getting married or embarking on a long term relationship that would normally be quite awkward to approach, or simply overlooked.
- Anna finds being comfortable in one's own company allows you to make better decisions based less on need to be partnered and more on aspects like compatibility and mindset.
- The significance in communication is evident in the need to verify if both parties are ready for a discussion at all, for instance. Asking if someone is ready for a serious discussion and identifying a good time to do so is part of a good level of communication.
BEST MOMENTS‘It’s about recognising those very small things that maybe we would overlook or don’t recognise but actually that touching of nature and stuff brings something up that we really enjoy.’ – John‘The Church (of England) gives you a nudge to do a wedding preparation course or read some kind of manuals. I really enjoyed doing that. I really thought it was a great idea.’ - Anna‘In a couple everybody is entitled to ask those questions and there is not that much help and the workbooks are really just something to guide through these questions.’ – Anna‘In retrospect I consider myself very lucky because I’m quite ok in my own company so I was not always looking for a partner to bring something into my life.’ – Anna‘I wasn’t prepared to meet anyone, which was brilliant, because there was no ‘performance’ on my side and I don’t think on his side either.’ – Anna‘People that don’t really have that (support network) do really struggle to break away from these unhappy spaces that they're in, even if it’s a work one as well.’ – JohnGUEST RESOURCESContact: www.handbookfortoday.comInstagram: @handbookfortoday to get the freebie offerVALUABLE RESOURCESLink to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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What do building a personal brand and building a relationship have in common with each other? More than you would think. In this episode John speaks to Leila Singh, expert in Career Development Coaching, Executive Coaching, Life Coaching, Public Speaking, Brand Consulting, Corporate Training and Leadership.
Author of ‘Success Redefined: How to Leverage Your Natural Talents to become Limitless!‘, Leila is also the host of the podcast Mi-Brand, helping people define and present their personal brand in the best way possible.
John and Leila discuss her career so far, the concept of personal branding, public speaking, speaking up, making things happen for yourself and the importance of your relationship and understanding of yourself.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- From accountancy through recruitment to a corporate role in a tech company, Leila developed her confidence and experience in sales and eventually moved into coaching.
- After training in Neuro Linguistic Programming and many other disciplines, Leila decided she could show people how to create their own personal brand to facilitate the kind of life they really want.
- To create freedom within your life a solid personal brand is invaluable. How do you want to be perceived? How do you achieve a positive mindset to prevent yourself holding you back? Leila deals with all these questions to move you towards your goals.
- Being different from your peers in a work group doesn’t have to be seen as a disadvantage, it can be seen as an opportunity to shine.
- A confident and skilled public speaker, Leila has spoken for TedX and many other forums.
- Asking for a pay rise is a hurdle that Leila often coaches people for. Its about realising that speaking up is key and understanding that things are within your control if you take action.
BEST MOMENTS‘A lot of my decisions in my life have been based on intuition and gut instinct. My decision to leave accountancy was a huge one, because I then took a 50% pay cut to go and become a recruitment consultant.’ – Leila‘I’ve always been into personal growth. I’ve always invested in reading books and looking at online courses.’ – Leila‘Understanding and owning your values, your brand identity. How do you want people to see you, what do you want to be known for? Those are the things that, for me, reflect personal branding and brand identity.’ – Leila‘That relationship that you’ve built there, you can really have that ‘know, like and trust’ way with you that has enabled you to keep those relationships going and also find those people that really want to work with you and what you do now.’ – John‘That’s where my coaching comes in because for me it's all about not being the victim and blaming everything outside of you that you cannot control, but actually what can you control and what can you do?’ – Leila‘I think everything you’ve said shows the significance of the relationships that you cultivate outside, but there’s also that massive significance of that relationship that you cultivate with yourself.’ - JohnGUEST RESOURCESContact - http://www.mi-brand.comhttps://uk.linkedin.com/in/leila-singhFreebie - https://leila-singh.aweb.page/playbook-aVALUABLE RESOURCESLink to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email –john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
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Some of the questions John is commonly asked are “How do I know if they are the one for me?”, “How do I know what to look for in a partner?” And “What can I do as I'm having second thoughts about my relationship?”. There are no guarantees when it comes to finding the right person for a partnership and you cannot make people love you no matter how hard you try. So what do we know, with certainty, amongst the complexities of loving relationships?
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Science, in fact, dictates that opposites do not attract when it comes to healthy relationships. Being too similar can be as big an issue. One thing that is essential in a secure relationship is that each feels that the other is committed to them.
- Reward theory argues that attraction stems from satisfying people's basic needs for self enhancement, connection and self expansion.
- Evolutionary theory argues that women are attracted to the more industrious and ambitious type partners while men are attracted to beautiful, chaste or innocent partners.
- Instrumentality theory argues that attraction depends on whatever goals people most hope to achieve when dating somebody.
- Being authentic is essential and giving up or being forced to give up on any part of yourself destroys what you are trying to build and is also unsustainable.
- The law of attraction says that if you focus on what you want in a relationship fully then your reticular activating system will focus on what you want to bring towards you on a subconscious level and will filter out what you don’t focus on.
- Understanding who we have attracted in the past and understanding why we have attracted that type of person is a great start.
BEST MOMENTS‘They put it that the sweet spot is when the couple have a bedrock of similarity. There are enough similarities that work together, but enough nuances that compliment the relationship and bring something to the relationship that the other one doesn’t.’‘It depends on how you look at attachment theory that can argue either way that people with opposing attachment styles are attracted to one another or people with similar attachment styles.’‘Never believe that you have to please someone into liking or loving you.’‘Did you realise that you do not need to be perfect for someone else either? Maybe a perfect fit, but not a perfect person.’‘If the person that you’re with doesn’t match up to what you want and need in a relationship then it may be time to sit down and think about how you can address this with them.’VALUABLE RESOURCESLink to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOSTI am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHODFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode John talks to The Speaker with the Orange Tie himself, Steve Beckles-Ebusua.
Steve is a school motivational speaker of over 20 years experience, who has reached over one million people. He also had a career in secondary school education and was a coach before specialising in the educational environment. He has spoken in many countries, including Sweden, Germany, Holland, Belgium, Italy and the USA. His organisation also delivers soft skills training to organisations throughout the UK.
As well as being an Amazon bestseller, Steve was recently on an expert panel assembled by the Enfield council to discuss exams and revision techniques to support and aid parents in the Enfield area.
Steve has his own fortnightly Motivational radio show, which helps people to look beyond their beliefs and exceed their expectations in life. He has special guests who speak about personal development, mental health, physical health, and developing a growth mindset.
John and Steve chat about how they met, how Steve’s job came about, learning habits, the story of the orange tie, communication, childhood experience informing beliefs and family.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Steve started in Mentoring, Support Work and Teaching before deciding he would like to have his own company as a vehicle to spread his positive mindset.
- Read more books if you want to learn. Even if you are not into reading, use audiobooks and turn your car into a university. Always learn something new everyday.
- Steve splits his tasks into 15 minute segments, giving himself a quarter of an hour to achieve each one. In this way momentum is kept up and interest is maintained.
- The title The Speaker with the Orange Tie came about through a mistaken purchase. Steve was actually hoping for a red tie! This has since expanded to shoes, socks, belts and cars! It is now a uniform to Steve that allows him to present his best self.
- Communication and interest and interaction with other people is an excellent way of creating good relationships with those around you. It is not dishonest to present a different aspect of your personality to each person, everyone does it.
- Our belief systems are formed in our formative years. The things we hear about ourselves become truth.
- We often mistake our feelings of dislike for circumstance with a dislike for people. Our negative feelings sometimes bleed into interactions surrounding the circumstance we are uncomfortable with.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I think one of the things John, that I always start by saying is I think it’s so important in life to know our purpose and I think you’ve heard that said many times.’ – Steve
‘I’m often saying to people, if you ever want to learn anything, don’t try to reinvent the wheel. Just get a good book, even if you’re not into reading.’ – Steve
‘All of this stuff is stuff I’ve learnt from somewhere else. You know, I’m always reading articles and I’m not much of a book reader myself although I do have my own book. I like to read articles, like short snippets of information, that’s how I learn best.’ – John
‘The reality is we are kaleidoscopic people and personalities and do not want to adjust!? I mean, you’re a coach, you know this better than me.’ – Steve
‘I guarantee you that you will hold some memories of experiencing something in those early years that, if they’re not challenged, become stronger and stronger as each year goes on and develops into a belief.’ – Steve
GUEST RESOURCES
Website and Contact :
https://www.thespeakerwiththeorangetie.com/
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
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John Speaks to Gemma Margerison, Staff Development and Corporate Trainer, Coach, Speaker, Author and Trauma and PTSD support advocate.
With almost a decade of experience researching and working in wellbeing and resilience, including 3 years delivering training for BAE Systems, Gemma works with staff in public and private organisations to increase their resilience, self-care, inner strength, and confidence to reduce burnout and increase self-empowerment through her business Connected.
John and Gemma discuss how her organisation, Connected, helps individuals and workforces develop resilience and teaches wellbeing, her book ‘Connected’ and how and why it was written and her own journey with anxiety and how she overcame it.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Connected provides one to one coaching focusing on resilience, and also delivering corporate training to help workforces move away from ‘bounce back’ thinking of recovery towards a proactive and preventative tool.
- The book, ‘Connected’, was developed as part of Gemma's doctorate in coaching and mentoring. Within the book are twelve areas that are an expansion on the four spheres of connection which we need to live a holistically healthy life. These are connection to ourselves, connection to others, connection to the world around us and connection to a sense of purpose.
- The book is filled with advice and guidance from different wellbeing and coaching experts in all different areas of expertise along with their contact details to provide further access to their skills if required.
- During Covid much of the coaching field switched to online, but a good proportion of clients now feel more comfortable with this method so it endures.
- Gemma has suffered anxiety in her past and coached herself out of it by reengaging with herself and setting goals to break her anxieties.
- Self care is a part of taking care of everybody else as you cannot bring your best self to a situation if you are tired and broken. If you want to help as many people as you can, you need to be in a good space.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I do training for groups of all shapes and sizes and this helped us to win our brand's Health Hero award earlier this year based on the feedback that we got from that training.’ - Gemma
‘That’s where I shifted over the last couple of years with coaching as well. Its prevention rather than cure kind of space.’ – John
‘While a good coach can coach you on anything I think, probably, an even better coach is one of those who could at least signpost you to people who specialise in different areas.’ – Gemma
‘This has, kind of, driven me to step into that spotlight a little bit purely as a means of helping others. It's not something that comes particularly naturally to me, I’m perfectly fine with public speaking, but when it comes to the social media side, the slightly more vulnerable side of it and sharing parts of who I am, it's something that I haven’t found particularly easy.’ – Gemma
GUEST RESOURCES
gemmalouisecoaching@gmail.com
Website
https://iamconnected.co.uk/
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
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Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
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It is ok to be an optimist! John’s guest today is Steve Ody, creator of The Travelling Optimist podcast in which he meets incredible people from all walks of life from all over the world, offering stories and advice on how optimism can be the driving force towards your goals and happiness. With a background in the travel business and currently a Mortgage Advisor, Steve is no stranger to motivation and advising people on moving towards their dreams.
John and Steve discuss his early influences, his career and family life, his COVID experience and his childhood's influence on his own parenting and life choices.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Steve inherited his outlook from his paternal grandparents who showed optimism even in the face of disadvantage and serious illness.
- Starting his own travel business freed him from long hours which allowed him to spend more time with his family.
- When COVID destroyed the travel business Steve used his optimism to create new opportunities for himself as a Mortgage Advisor and to start The Travelling Optimist podcast.
- Steve has found his childhood has influenced him to approach parenting in a different way to give his own children a different experience.
BEST MOMENTS
‘She was just generally such a happy person. She realised that life is short and she was one person that I always used to go to whenever I had issues at school when I was younger for being bullied.’ - Steve
‘Basically, travel hit a brick wall. No one was going anywhere and it's been a complete nightmare for most of my friends in the industry.’ – Steve
‘It seems really interesting what you said about not sitting back because my question was going to be ‘how was your optimism when the travel industry just completely disappeared?’’ - John
‘I speak to people and try to go into a little bit of depth into their lives and their backgrounds and their backstory and add some context to what they’re doing now, talk about insight.’ – Steve
‘There are so many people out there with fabulous stories and incredible insight.’ – Steve
GUEST RESOURCES
Listen to The Travelling Optimist podcast
https://www.deezer.com/en/show/1057392
Steve's LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/thetravellingoptimist
VALUABLE RESOURCES
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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John's guest today is Andree Funnell, who has spent over 20 years working as an HR and training manager in large corporate organisations. In 2002, she left full-time employment to start her own business consultancy, Aspiring Future Competence (AFC) who are based on the Essex/Hertfordshire border. AFC is a triple award-winning learning, development and coaching consultancy created to help others aspire to reach their full potential.
Andree believes that core values and living authentically are the essence of an individual’s personality and behavioural traits. Andree works to support clients who are seeking to improve their self-confidence, self-belief and personal impact.
Andree and John discuss how she helps her clients, her corporate experience, how she broke away and her successful career move into coaching.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Andree helps women to achieve their goals within their career by increasing their confidence and clarity. She helps them achieve things like equal pay or promotion if this is indeed what they want.
- Having experienced high corporate stress and direct bullying in her job and then escaping it, Andree is perfectly placed to help women realise that they may be in a career that neither empowers or fulfils their needs and that maybe it is time to leave.
- By increasing our understanding of ourselves and others, our ‘Emotional Quotient’, we can perceive our own life requirements and fulfil them and also recognise others as well.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Many of these ladies that I’m working with have either been put down by a dogmatic boss or in an environment that’s toxic, which is exactly what happened to me.’ – Andree
‘Sometimes you felt that you very much didn’t have a voice. It was very much ego driven. In those seven years I had six different General Managers.’ – Andree
‘If you stop communicating, if you stop talking to each other, if you stop treating each other as human beings and respecting one another and sharing stuff, emotional things, you do grow apart.’ – Andree
‘It was sort of controlling your own outcomes to a degree but also living more purposefully in your space.’ – John
‘My father died not long after I left my job and so did my Uncle. I had two years of sheer hell but I wouldn’t have been able to cope with that whilst I was working seventy hours a week.’ - Andree
GUEST RESOURCES
Book links:
www.behind-the-mask-book.com
or on Amazon
https://www.amazon.co.uk/s?k=behind+the+mask+andree+funnell&crid=2DYRZIJS6G0TU&sprefix=behind+the+mask+an%2Caps%2C140&ref=nb_sb_ss_i_1_18
Free ebook - How to Stop Self Sabotaging Your Life –
www.afcconsultants.co.uk
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To get in touch - email –
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Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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This episode's guest is Eugenia Gomez, who through coaching helps to raise humanity’s vibration, guiding women into mastering their thoughts and emotions through introspection, embodiment and creative expression. She also helps women to master their intentions and thoughts and to raise emotionally intelligent children.
John discusses her method of coaching, how we are conditioned to be emotionally numb, the emotional differences between men and women, how our relationships inform our coaching and embarking on the difficult task of self reflection that frees us from our patterned behaviour.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Eugenia coaches women to become aware of the workings of their own emotions and how their behaviours are moulding their children.
- Coaching starts at the dating stage to find the ideal partner, moving on to the important stage of pregnancy and its hormones and cravings and finally onwards into parenthood.
- We need to understand how society conditions us to be emotionally numb and the effect this can have on our children’s development. Children are over-stimulated by technology in an attempt to keep them entertained.
- Eugenia has learned from early mistakes in her own dating life to inform her coaching style. Choosing safe partners because she felt unworthy of more is a trap many women fall into.
BEST MOMENTS
‘What I want to do is help women embrace all of their emotions, everything, even the dark ones so that they can be truly present in their bodies, in their soul mission, with their soul partner and raising children that are also emotionally aware .’ - Eugenia
‘When we say that children are hyperactive it’s just because they’re being raised with the “laptop” having 1001 tabs open, with a phone beeping constantly. We are born directly into that kind of environment. That’s their normal.’ – Eugenia
‘I think one of the facts that male suicide is higher than female suicide is the fact that they can’t cope.’ – John
‘He was one of the boring ones, 6 years. I knew already after 2 years that I should break up with him but It took me 4 years of facing my fears.’ – Eugenia
‘I always need to point out to people this is not an overnight change. It takes a lot of self reflection, a lot of work to be able to shift away from all of these patterns that are keeping you stuck in these really negative spaces.’ - John
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
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When discussing sex within relationships with clients John has found there is often problems with who initiates it, how often it takes place and mismatches in the level of sexual interactions. In this episode John discusses differing sexual motivations and triggers, the misconceptions of sex and the different types of arousal that most of us experience.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- If we take the media and entertainment view of sex we would mistakenly be under the impression that it is always motivated by desire.
- Desire is not a prerequisite to arousal.
- The two types of arousal most commonly discussed are ‘spontaneous’ and ‘responsive’.
- Spontaneous desire is an episode of sexual arousal without any external stimulus.
- Responsive desire is a reaction to a stimulus, a growing interest in sex based on something triggering, such as touch or physical contact.
- Be aware that like all things that we try to give a label to there would also be a spectrum.
BEST MOMENTS
‘This portrayal can lead us to believe there is only one type of desire, but if we look at the sex life of most people it is nothing like this at all.’
‘Learning which kind of desire that you lean towards and which your partner leans towards can help in creating a sex life that works for you both.’
‘You either have a body that is sex ready, or a mind that needs to be in the right headspace for sex.’
‘The reason most people struggle with arousal and get performance anxiety is because they are in stress, fight or flight mode, and your brain can’t do both states at the same time.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
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Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
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John talks with Doug Bennett, the director of Financial Freedom™, Work Optional Lifestyle Financial Planner™, a mortgage broker, coach, mentor, author and renowned international speaker. He’s been doing financial planning for over 30 years and has been working with well-respected executives, entrepreneurs and business owners in the financial industry and other business realms. He is also the chair of a board of trustees for a charity which helps severely handicapped people connect with the outside world.
John and Doug chat about his goal based approach, his charity work, his life experience, counselling and coaching and some of his philosophies on mental well being.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Doug puts his success down to goal setting and writing goals down on a consistent basis.
- The charity goes into care homes and communicates with the severely disabled and brings a social element into their lives.
- Doug has set his goal setting philosophy down in his book “Think Simple, Win Big”.
- Writing goals on a consistent daily basis without referring back will keep focus.
- Keep those goals at least in the realm of realism and prepare to work hard to achieve them.
- Doug has a mindset coach. Even with all his success Doug still needs and recommends professional psychological help to assist with any unforeseen personal blocks to your progress.
- If anyone gives their opinion on something they’re right. In your head they might be wrong, but in theirs they’re right. You have not followed their path to get to that position so arguing is pointless, explaining your perspective is more useful.
BEST MOMENTS
‘In 2019 from being six figures in debt with a massive mortgage in 2010 I managed to sell my business for seven figures.’ - Doug
‘I think with mental well-being having goals will help people. Very often we meander through life and if you’re meandering and you’ve not got anything to go for it’s very easy to think about all the things that aren’t going well.’ – Doug
‘The law of attraction will help but you have to work.’ – Doug
‘If you set yourself a massive target you are leaving yourself open to being let down.’ – John
‘Having reflected on that I’ve decided you get me, there’s not two mes, I’m just me. I found out that being me is so much easier because if you try to be somebody else or try to be what other people expect you to be, it’s an act.’ - Doug
GUEST RESOURCES
From Financial Struggle to Financial Success free PDF link –
https://bit.ly/Struggle2Success
Website:
www.dougbennett.co.uk
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To get in touch - email –
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or book a complimentary call –
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If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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Award-Winning and MMI-Accredited Matchmaker Lara Besbrode is Founder of The Matchmaker UK. Following a successful 30 year career in PR and marketing, she reimagined her passion for people and networking, creating her own exclusive matchmaking service in the process.
Lara takes an interdisciplinary approach to matchmaking, masterfully blending her skills and collaborating with UK and international matchmakers to find the most suited match.
No stranger to the realm of love, dating and relationships, Lara is intimately familiar with the intricacies of her calling. Lara approaches each matchmaking engagement with a vibrant aura of passionate energy and empathy.
Lara is a regular guest as Dating Expert on TalkRadio, BBC News & Radio, Real Housewives of Cheshire and MTV Catfish UK. She often makes global media appearances on television networks in the UK and US.
In this episode she talks to John about her methods in matchmaking, how she got into the business, the complications of dating, wants and needs and the journey taken when searching for a life partner.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Lara’s Matchmaker UK is the elite of matchmaking services, experts in their field working to industry safety standards, where clients can go if they have tried all the traditional methods, including the modern digital apps. Preferences, demographic, cultural background are all factors Lara and her team take into account when they are head hunting for a potential suitor. There are 30 different factors to indicate a match. Lara worked for 30 years in the celebrity PR business but her interest in helping people drew her to matchmaking, and after her divorce and moving back to he uk, she decided to do what she loved. Matchmaking uk unravel the complex issues involved when someone has an ideal potential partner in mind often seeing past the clients initial need to seek someone that previously they would never have considered. You must have a dating strategy to find a partner. If you haven’t considered what you desire and need to the fullest extent you are unlikely to meet an ideal partner just through luck. Matchmaking UK have a guide on how to formulate a dating strategy to increase your chances.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I have qualified to be able to make personal introductions to people observing the international code of conduct within the dating industry, it’s a dating industry standard.’ - Lara
‘Its not really something we think about with all the dating websites and apps, but for you to be a certified matchmaker..’ – John
‘I am the lawyer of your heart.’ – Lara
‘My business grew and flourished based on the fact that I had already had that PR marketing skill set and was already armed with all the tools.’ – Lara
‘If you can’t answer yes to the dating strategy, you are not ready because you haven’t thought about it.’ – Lara
‘I think if someone is willing to accept that journey may not meet its final destination but you embrace that it’s a journey for development, potential change because not everybody wants to change or is able to change or ready to change.’ - Lara
GUEST RESOURCES
Website:
www.thematchmaker.uk
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Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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In this episode John follows on from his podcast about signs to identify a toxic relationship with his tips on signs showing you may have experienced emotional abuse in the past. One of the reasons why we find ourselves in a toxic relationship cycle is due to emotional abuse experienced in our childhood, but how can we identify when this is the case?
KEY TAKEAWAYS We can repress what we went through as a way of coping. By understanding and acknowledging how your experience can affect you know you are more able to move on and the following are markers that suggest you have been a victim of emotional abuse in the past. You are not good at making your own decisions. You are a people pleaser. You minimise toxic behaviour. You get angry or frustrated easily. You often feel defensive. You view yourself negatively. You find it hard to cope when people are upset or angry. You continue to inadvertently choose toxic partners. You constantly question if you are loved. You have difficulty accepting affection. You have nightmares about relationships.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Some examples of this may include humiliation, manipulation, verbal aggression, belittling and intimidation.’
‘This is often the case for people who are highly focused on the needs of others. People pleasing, for example.’
‘You could deny that it's actually that bad, that they don’t really mean it as you try to rationalise your past experiences to yourself.’
‘If you find yourself feeling particularly tense whenever people around you erupt, it may be because you used to deal with that a lot in the past.’
‘You were just never really made to feel that positivity either existed or lasted.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
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If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
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John talks to Ana Ruiz, Transformational Relationship Coach and Demartini Method specialist dedicated to maximising human awareness and potential in individuals and groups. She helps couples to do a ‘different dance’ and turn around their relationships.
Ana and John discuss Ana’s childhood and her resultant trauma, her disorganised attachment style, her first relationship experiences, her discovery of bi-polar disorder and her resultant therapies and how her search for healing led to a career in Relationship Coaching.
KEY TAKEAWAYS A resident of the US and Mexican by birth, Ana originated specialising in Computer Science. As a child she lost her older sister to drowning which resulted in a depressed mother and absent father and her care being handed over to a nanny. She developed a disorganised attachment style. Ana ended up in Seattle via San Francisco after her relationship ended after her move to the US. This left her intent on independence. After a nervous breakdown after being diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and being informed it was untreatable, Ana embarked on a 17 year long struggle to heal through therapy. This began her expertise in healing and therapy after searching for different treatments. Ana became an energy healer, then a yoga therapist then onwards onto relationship theory, psychology, attachment theory and neurobiology. She now uses all of her experience in her relationship coaching practice.
BEST MOMENTS
‘As someone who grew up with a disorganised attachment style it means that my Mom was there physically but not emotionally because she was grieving. So I grew up creating connections but feeling afraid of connection, feeling afraid of being left alone.’ - Ana
’It was painful for me to watch them arrive into the office together in the same car and eventually he went on to marry her and have three kids.’ – Ana
‘And those kinds of triggers where you’re already disorganised attachment, so then having a relationship where you’re cheated on. How did that trigger your disorganised attachment, how did you react to that, do you think?’ - John
‘That’s why I call myself a ‘Transformational Relationship Coach’ because it's all there and powerful.’ – Ana
‘Most of us did not learn relationship skills either at home or at school. And that just makes it really hard for people to have healthy long lasting relationships.’ - Ana
GUEST RESOURCES
Complimentary One Hour Clarity session here:
http://anaruiz.life
- mention the show when contacting her.
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
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If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
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John talks to Eva Hunt, a consciousness coach and soul alchemist who helps people to connect with their soul, to love and thrive. For more than a decade she has combined her intuitive skills with the law of attraction principles, energy healing and spirituality to guide those in need.
John and Eva discuss how she became a spiritual coach, her father and his influence on her, living in Hungary as a child under Soviet occupation and her own journey to becoming the healer she is today.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Eva is from Hungary and by profession was a commercial economist. After moving to the UK and establishing her holistic healing practice in 2010 she has found her purpose in energy healing and spiritual coaching. Eva was very close to her father and believed they were soulmates. People generally associate the idea of soulmates to a romantic connection, but soulmates can occur with any positive connection available between people. Growing up in occupied Hungary had an extreme influence on Eva. Torn between the secrecy of her religious mother and her fathers desire to be a good citizen, Eva got used to a turmoil of emotions. Eva had her own spiritual healers and coaches who helped guide her towards the coaching career and showed her how much she had to offer as a healer.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Most of my clients are struggling with either their health, relationship or money issues. So relationship is a quite big chunk of my work.’ – Eva
‘You mentioned that when when we spoke previously your father had quite a big impact on you growing up.’ – John
‘There was a lot of different emotions. Fear and love and lack of things, but at the same time, the abundance of love.’ – Eva
‘I think that’s the hardest thing to see, to see our own limitations. That’s why its so important to have a mentor, a guide who is outside of our life and looks in.’ - Eva
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
GUEST RESOURCES
Eva Hunt - website - https://spiritual-wonders.com/Freebie - email her - eva.maria.hunt@gmail.com mentioning the podcast.
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
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Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
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When John works with his clients in coaching sessions one topic that often arises is the difficulty in finding and achieving an easy and healthy relationship. This is most likely because they are exhibiting habits that attract them to a particular pattern of behaviour that they are used to.
How do we realise that it is actually ourselves that are maintaining and seeking these toxic relationships and break the cycle?
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Often our choice of relationship is a subconscious choice that fulfils our needs based on our learnt patterns of behaviour. There are ten signs to look out for that denote that the relationship you have chosen is really not good for you. Is being around someone hard work or draining? Do you need to recover from time with them? Do you need to be careful around your partner to avoid upsetting or angering them? Do you feel exhausted and drained a lot of the time? Do you invest love and attention to your partner that is not returned? Try taking the relationship questionnaire listed under valuable resources below.
BEST MOMENTS
‘For example, that loving, caring relationships are not to be trusted because love is always removed from them at some point. If that’s your belief then you will seek out the evidence to make this true every single time and won’t know what to do with yourself if it doesn’t happen.’
‘Does being alone for the weekend put a smile on your face? Do you feel excited looking forward to the day that you’ll get away from your partner? If so then this is a huge red flag.’
‘If its reached the point that you have to constantly watch every move you make, you are in a toxic relationship. So, for example, you may feel nervous talking about something that may make your partner angry.’
‘If you try to take time for yourself to recharge and its not allowed, you can’t regain your energy.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To take the test for signs of a toxic relationship:
https://signsofatoxicrelationshipjkc.scoreapp.com/
To get in touch - email –
john@johnkennycoaching.com
or book a complimentary call –
https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
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Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Alexandra Van Shaik is an international holistic life coaching expert in personal, business and brand development helping hundreds of clients kick start their lives and businesses in a different direction. Using a holistic approach to each client she utilises transformative techniques such as yoga, breath work and meditations as well as group travel experiences to transform and empower with positivity. Her brand work finds her helping you to tell your business story and create your vision using her skills in web design, graphic design and photography. John and Alexandra discuss coaching methodology, cultural, peer and family imprinting, breaking emotional habits, travel, morning routines and child rearing.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Alex has spent ten years guiding people to become yoga teachers which led her to her holistic coaching methodology. As individuals we need to decide for ourselves what our lives should work towards or entail without feeling we have to live up to our parents or peers' plan or expectations for our futures. Our childhood experiences form who we are and how we respond to the world around us as adults. Many of us become hyper vigilant peace makers in confrontational situations if we were brought up in high tension households and this was true in Alex’s case. Be aware of what nourishes you from within. What uplifts you? If you check the news every morning with its attached carefully curated world horror scenarios you are not going to have a positive day. Choose actions that empower you. As children we need to play. A high powered itinerary forced on a child with a thousand activities may enrich them but can also stress and leave them little time to actually be children
BEST MOMENTS
‘I just love to see people thriving in their life, in their businesses, just in general. There has been a thread throughout my whole life myself. Automatically myself I became drawn into this aspect of being a coach.’ – Alexandra
‘Or maybe you got into a job and after ten years you’re, like, ‘is this it?’ Am I really good and comfortable here or is there more?’ – Alexandra
‘We weren’t sure where we were going to be speaking today were we? I mean you’re in the Netherlands at the moment I believe? You could have been in Nepal but you’re off to the Caribbean.’ – John
‘I just love to get up in the morning and just do some reading, have some coffee. After that I do my Yoga practice and don’t do it the other way round! Never!’ – Alexandra
‘If a child is hyperactive, ya know, they have got all these terms for it right now. I think the root cause is because there is too much pressure on their shoulders.’ - Alexandra
GUEST RESOURCES
WEBSITE:
alexandravanschaik.com
INSTAGRAM:
Www.instagram.com/alexandravanschaik/
FACEBOOK:
Www.facebook.com/alexandravanschaikofficial
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode John interviews Jim Hughes, the founder of Untamed, the company who serves their audience through a unique brand of coaching, speaking and events. They have helped entrepreneurs, business leaders and top performing professionals all around the world move ‘from the grind to aligned’. John and Jim discuss what Jim’s organisation Untamed actually achieves for its clients, how Jim himself found his way, childhood embedded triggers and habits and living a life serving others without losing yourself.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Untamed help people who are frustrated and burnt out, ‘in the grind’, uncover what’s causing their setbacks and allow them to become ‘aligned’. Jim found what he was truly good at and provided himself with an environment where he could flourish and express rather than feeling frustrated, stilted and suppressed. The same principle can work in personal relationships as well as professional life. The bulk of our personality is informed by our childhood and we are often installed with untrue or distorted beliefs about ourselves that need to be addressed and unlearned. If you are your best self you have more energy and ability to offer to help other people.
BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s a never ending journey, but the main bulk of it where the real low hanging fruit was picked, so to speak, was about an eighteen month process.’ – Jim
‘Nobody was there to say “maybe you’re just better at the bigger picture, the strategic. You’re better at starting things than you are at finishing things”’. – Jim
‘That’s what my documentary is about. My documentary is called “Forget Me Not – The Child You Left Behind” about those parts of us ourselves as children that we believe don’t fit into the environment that we grow up in.’ – John
‘Muting was a word that kept coming up. I felt like I was being muted, I feel like I’m not allowed to, I’m not being encouraged to thrive here.’ - Jim
GUEST RESOURCES
https://www.becomeuntamed.com/
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Dufflyn Lammers is a women’s relationship and recovery coach. If you find yourself at the end of a difficult relationship including those complicated by addiction and control issues or contemplating the end of a relationship, Dufflyn can teach you the skills needed to move through this phase and support you as a ‘Big Sister’ while you do it. John and Dufflyn discuss what it takes to keep a relationship healthy and happy using Dufflyn’s methods.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Dufflyn works from the ‘outside in’ and ‘inside out’. ‘Outside in’ is the coaching part about goals, plans and accountability and ‘inside out’ is the use of Ideal Parent Figure Protocol. Ideal Parent Figure Protocol is an attachment based intervention for people who are struggling with attachment injury. It involves imagining ideal parents different from their real parents or anyone they know. With these new ideal ‘parents’ new healthy internal working models can be formed. Sometimes we forget that the skills we learn in dating are just as applicable within a relationship. The relationship rarely lives up to the ideal vision in your mind. Attachment issues commonly lead to an addiction situation and Dufflyn hopes to break the cycle permanently. Dufflyn ended up in Paris after discovering a love for travelling alone and a handsome Frenchman.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Each of us has a sort of love map inside of us and that love map determines how we operate in relationships and also how we see ourselves and how we see the world.’ – Dufflyn
‘So you’re giving them alternative choices to subconscious behaviours?’ - John
‘I know that I myself came from being single for a long, long time, 12 years. And I came from this idea that once I found that perfect other person that everything was gonna be ok, ya know, unicorns and roses and puppy dogs.’ - Dufflyn
‘Now I’ve been living in Paris for a little over four years which has been a huge adjustment too. But, again, forcing me to develop more and more of those inner resources and resilience.’ - Dufflyn
GUEST RESOURCES
Www.dufflyn.com
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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When is it appropriate to take a selfish stance within a relationship? Is it ever appropriate? Some people may say never, but being constantly providing for others needs and not looking to ourselves can be self destructive.
KEY TAKEAWAYS There are reasons why we may find it difficult to put the needs of others before our own. Fear of being used or hurt could be reasons. A lot of the time we label a difficulty in saying no as guilt. But saying no is not always something to feel guilty about. The next time you think of putting yourself first, understand if there are any barriers in your way and the nature of them. Define for yourself if you are being positively selfish or negatively selfish.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Selfish is defined as only being focused on yourself or acting that way. Concern chiefly or excessively for oneself and having little regard for others.’
‘We might do that for a variety of different reasons. What would drive us to only serve ourselves? What kind of need does this meet?’
‘Most of the time we’re not doing anything that we need to feel guilty about. And I like to challenge that feeling of guilt.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Johns guest is a newborn care and breastfeeding specialist, founder of The Amazing, Pain Free Birth and Beyond, new mother coach and podcast host Viviane Schima. She is a professional doula and has helped and guided mothers through their pregnancy, birth and after, supporting physically and emotionally.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
A doula is a person who can support you through pregnancy, labour and birth, or after you have your baby. Viviane supports her clients to ensure the mother gets the best birth experience and represents her interests against the often dissenting voices in the medical field and close family. After the birth is a delicate time due to sleep deprivation, lack of time to relationally communicate with a partner and previous problems being exacerbated. For this reason Viviane coaches the partner as well. When dealing with single mothers Viviane becomes the main support. Becoming a doula really helped Viviane work out some of her own relationship issues and helped her realise and put right some mistakes in her own partnership.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Even with family support, sometimes family just don’t agree with what the mother wants to do around childbirth.’ – Viviane
‘I blend not just the evidence based information that I provide to them but I also blend coaching into it as I open the door for them.’ - Viviane
‘Sometimes its just the baby, they put everything into the baby and I understand it’s the maternal instinct but we cannot forget that half of that genetic material is the fathers.’ – Viviane
‘It is life changing. The thought of just having a baby can do significant things to the mind, the emotions that can completely throw you, make you think differently.’ – John
‘Well I would say from a scale from 1 to 10 I’d say I’m definitely a 13 or 14. This not only helps other people to achieve their goals and where they want to be but also helped me figure out a lot of things before I started doing this.’ - Viviane
VALUABLE RESOURCES
May being International Maternal Mental Health Month
Ebook:
https://www.aislingbeo.com/freebie
Website:
https://www.aislingbeo.com/
YouTube:
https://youtube.com/channel/UCCIHgLH3aV18YIYakr2V_Hw
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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John chats with serial entrepreneur, author and coach Stevie Kidd. With experience leading several different businesses from startup to seven figures and a comprehensive understanding of what it takes to succeed, Stevie discusses the priceless role of mindset to acquire your true potential in all aspects of your life. John asks him about himself and his work with his clients.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Stevie works with clients over a two year period and at the end of that period he is able to assess who they are and if they will be able to reach their chosen goals. Using the strength of his own support network Stevie builds closeness and rapport with his clients to facilitate engagement. Pace is very important in the clients journey. Stevie is careful not to hurry, pushing beyond the level that the client is comfortable with. There is nothing Stevie won’t do to motivate his client to make improvements, even presenting them with the inevitability of their own death. When approaching relationships with others the first goal must be self understanding, and this is a long term ongoing effort. Stevie has written three books ; “The 1% Mindset : The Stevie Kidd Pathway”, “How To Go From Being A Non-Runner To Climbing Kilimanjaro and Running A Marathon A Day Later” and “How To Run The Third Hardest Marathon In The World – From A Non-runner.”
BEST MOMENTS
‘My life has brought me to this point that the business itself is designed in a two year frame of taking an individual to get them to assess and understand where they came from to where they are. In that two year journey they’ll absolutely discover how far they can go.’ – Stevie
‘The most important part of supporting any human being is..I’m an entrepreneur and a coach but I’m also coached, and with the people that support me, I have to build rapport with the people who are supporting me or I’ll never get off the blocks.’ - Stevie
‘By allowing him that space to talk and explore you’ve enabled him to create where he is right now in his head, but actually motivated to the space he wants to get to and he’s gone away with all that energy knowing that he’s now created something in his own head that he’ll be aiming towards’ – John
‘I then became aware of how to master emotions. That’s why I’m obsessed with stillness and orchestrating my senses.’ – Stevie
GUEST RESOURCES
https://steviekidd.com/about-stevie-kidd/
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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John chats with Nadija Bajrami, a Dublin based award winning empowerment specialist, mind coach and psychic medium. In 2021 she was included in the Brainz Magazine Top 500 Award for outstanding entrepreneurs and business owners and is also Hypnotherapist of the Year 2021/22 Dublin in The Republic of Ireland Prestige Awards. John and Nadija discuss how she became an empowerment specialist, the power of the mind, dealing with loss as a child, relationships and learning to say ‘no’.
KEY TAKEAWAYS After losing her father as a child Nadija took on the role of care giver to everyone around her. This is how she developed her skills as counsellor to others. After a health crisis, Nadija changed from a corporate career to hypnotherapy. Nadija’s family experiences shaped her life including the loss of her father and the influence of her brother who, as a coach himself, taught her the power of the mind and the freedom to choose the right path to make herself happy. In being a ‘fixer’ and feeling she needed to protect others from harm, Nadija created codependent relationships where her partners relied on her for their emotional needs. Hypnotherapy was incredibly helpful to Nadija as a therapy which led her to become a practitioner.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Meeting different cultures really gave me a very nice taste of helping people. Whatever the culture is, wherever you go people always need someone to talk to.’ - Nadija
‘When you work with someone you see what they are bringing to you rather than having a specific approach you can then tailor all of your expertise, all of the things you know, to give them the best service possible.’ – John
‘I had that feeling of ‘I need to fix peoples life’. I need to help them in case something happens to them.’ – Nadija
‘So I said ‘go and fix yourself. Stop the pattern.’ – Nadija
‘In the past I had big problems saying ‘no’ because ‘no’ was, they need me, I cannot say ‘no’’ – Nadija
‘Actually if someone’s not reciprocating or someone’s not appreciative of the fact that you’re there for them what do you do with those now?’ - John
GUEST RESOURCES
5 minute meditation link –
https://aw16c05d.aweberpages.com/p/35e5ec3a-cf34-4a02-9ef0-720bcd720b54
Website –
www.nbhypnotherapy-mindcoaching.com
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Do you find yourself doing things for those that claim that you are more suitable for the task than they are? Or perhaps you find yourself passing off jobs to others because “they can do it better than you”? A common manipulation is to claim incompetence within relationships to achieve the relinquishing of responsibility. John discusses this and details the methods and effect this situation can have on relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS There are two types of incompetence, the first being weaponized incompetance and the second, malicious incompetance. Weaponized incompetence is pretending to be incompetent as an excuse or a “get out”. You may see examples of this when your partner doesn’t want to complete a chore and does a bad job so they don’t get asked again. Malicious incompetence is when it is used to deliberately irritate, manipulate and manoeuvre the other party. An imbalance in shared tasks can cause long term resentment so it is best to discuss the behaviour to try to resolve the situation.
BEST MOMENTS
‘A good example of someone feigning incompetence recently is Boris Johnson and the whole party gate debacle. So for Boris to suggest that he was unaware as to whether he was breaking the law or not, to most seemed like a very flimsy excuse, but to others it could appear to be a legitimate reason why he attended several parties during the pandemic lockdown.’
‘It’s a passive aggressive way of getting someone to do something you really just don’t want to do.’
‘A child may also have witnessed this in their parents' relationship. Seeing that one will shirk responsibility and get away with it.’
‘If you think that you may have high expectations and so this is something you perceive to be happening rather than a real problem, then speak to a non judgemental honest friend, colleague or someone you trust, as you may be placing too much pressure on someone to be as you need them to be.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOS
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This episode's guest is clinical hypnotherapist and transformation coach, Marcus Matthews. He helps people suffering from anxiety and PTSD improve their self esteem and confidence without the long term use of therapy or medication.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Marcus came to his career after seeking help for suicidal thoughts led him to coaches and the mental health forum. When we are in fight or flight mode we lose our reasoning, logical parts of our minds and refer to our base narratives that we have learned. Marcus helps people learn about themselves and discard old programmed behaviours based on old information and act and behave from new attitudes and behaviours. Our brains love familiarity and will resist change so the process can be difficult. Positive affirmations work if you back them up with evidence. Unfortunately, we have to make the leap before we see the result. 80% of who we are is built by the time you are 8 years old. By the time you come to the age of 35 this starts to strain. Lessons we learn as we grow, such as vulnerability is weakness, need to be disproved and discarded for new knowledge to be resolved.
BEST MOMENTS
‘That’s my big thing, helping people understand that things like anxiety, PTSD and suicide are not actually that bad, They’re good.’ - Marcus
‘We believe that all of the answers are outside us and they’re not. I think great coaches, great therapists don’t tell you what to do, they allow you to find those answers yourself. So that’s kind of my mission..’ – Marcus
‘We look at meaning rather than the thought itself. What meaning do you give to the thought that creates the emotional reaction within you?’ – John
‘I help you to create the environment where you can start to heal that break.’ - Marcus
‘When you can sit in the darkness of fear and know that everything is ok then that’s fine. When you actually look at fear it's never the thing, it’s the thought of the thing that drives the fear.’ – Marcus
GUEST RESOURCES
Website:
www.makeyourlifecount.co.uk
The Free Course is
https://mylc.thinkific.com/courses/theuniversehasmyback
Coupon Code RGPC22
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook –
https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn –
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta –
https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter –
https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube -
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Every environment that you are in creates its own hierarchy of power and within relationships it can dictate how you feel and the level of control that you have. There are five bases of power in every psychological power dynamic no matter where you are or situation that you are in. Recognising power dynamics prepares you to be able to decide how much power you have, how much you hand over and how you can overcome the control others have over you.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Reward power. When someone has something you want from them. Coercive power. Utilising punishment, common in abusive relationships. Expert power. This is deference to others due to their knowledge or skill. Legitimate power. Power which is granted by position and rank. This can also be linked to expert power, but rather than coming from your respect for their knowledge, it comes directly granted by structure. Referent power. This is when someone desires what someone else has. For instance, someone who desires a physique, social position or income of someone else and often wants to be close to and different to that person.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Understanding power has a much more significant purpose. It allows you to reflect and understand why you listen to certain people and allow them to hold power over you.’
‘It depends entirely on how much expertise you think someone has and how much that you think they have more than you.’
‘Ignoring legitimate power can come with risk but it only works in a healthy way if both sides of the dynamic agree that it works for both sides.’
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John’s Guest is an emotional release practitioner and self healing expert, specialising in the energetics of mind-body healing. Jen Russman, a New York State resident, helps people clear their emotional blocks and release their energetic attachments to allow full healing of their physical bodies and minds. Trauma is stored in the body and blocks the correct flow of spiritual energy and needs to be cleared to fully realise potential mind and body health.
KEY TAKEAWAYS When we realise that everything is energy and that trauma itself is an energy, we realise that these emotions have not been properly cycled out of the body. Carrying enough trauma can cause dysfunction in the body resulting in emotional imbalance, physical pain and illness. Emotional blocks effect all areas of our lives from personal relationships, work relationships, personal resilience and physical wellness. Jen recalls the experiences that caused her own trauma and her journey in clearing her personal blocks. Jen offers Frequency Meditation called ‘A Return To Love’. This is available by messaging Jen Russman on her website, details below in the shownotes.
BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s really about, as you know and probably most of your listeners know, that one change of perspective can change everything, right?’ – Jen
‘Looking back now I clearly recognise that it was not just my body falling apart randomly, it was my body’s cry for help. My body had been carrying the weight through cellular memory and through emotional suppression.’ – Jen
‘It was a catharsis, it was a kind of an emotional dump, a release of so many restrictions and things that were holding me back.’ - John
‘It’s energy. The victim; that's energy. Like attracts like when it comes to energy.“ – Jen
‘I kept hearing ‘a return to love’ for 2021 for the collective, but it also ended up being for me as well.’ – Jen
GUEST RESOURCES
Contact details –
jenrussman.com
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We all have our own ‘apology language’ which denotes the nature and style of the apologies we give and receive. However, there are those who find it very difficult to apologise at all. John explains the reasons why some people find this fairly regular social and relational occurrence so difficult.
KEY TAKEAWAYS People can feel courageous and less passive if they refuse to offer an apology. They feel they are ‘standing their ground’. Some people cannot deal with being seen as at fault. They see an apology as humiliating. Many are never told they are in the wrong as children so are untrained at being able to navigate an apology scenario. Also, constant humiliating apologies as a child may result in an adult refusing to repeat that experience. The fight, flight or freeze stress response can see them adopting one of these three actions in a confrontational situation, none of which will result in an apology.
BEST MOMENTS
‘So you’ve probably experienced times when people have found it really hard to say sorry and I know that can actually be quite annoying, upsetting, distressing and difficult to accept.’
‘So they may have seen it modelled, but problems are not resolved. Things just get swept under the carpet. No apologies were ever offered to them, it wasn’t something that ever happened in their lives.’
‘To hold the upper hand in a relationship is crucial to some people because to them it can literally mean their emotional survival. Yes indeed, survival is the right word because those who need to be in control or a position of power will manipulate a scenario in order to maintain a sense of self.’
‘Gaslighting is a term widely used to describe how someone will try to make you responsible for everything and to question your own sanity in order that they can feel exempt themselves from any responsibility.’
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ABOUT THE HOST Looking at the world of relationships - their importance to living a fulfilled life. Their impacts on all areas of life. Where our ideas of relationships come from. What and why we attract them. How important the relationship with yourself is.
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose, not one they always have or think they should.
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This episode's guest is a former professional footballer who has coached world champions, Hollywood actors, entrepreneurs, CEOs, Olympians and royalty from all over the world on their physical and mental performance. Paul Webb consults with and advises clients on their own spiritual practices using his metaphysical qualifications and knowledge.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Paul suffered a career ending injury very early in his youth. He found this difficult to accept and traumatic to change roles. Paul started out after his football career coaching as a strengthening and conditioning coach, first in America then back in the UK. Curiosity and coaching took Paul into the area of science and a degree in Quantum Physics but changed to Metaphysics after being inspired by ancient studies and texts from philosophers and theologians. Metaphysics is classed as a religious science in the USA, so when Paul gained his degree he also earned the title Reverend. There is a link throughout human history through some of the world's greatest thinkers that bears resemblance to current Quantum Theory, and metaphysics tackles these areas. To express the best of your creativity you have to be quiet and focused. The peace of your state of mind and positivity will attract positive things to you.
BEST MOMENTS
‘I built a big and successful fitness business over the course of about 20 years before I sold it to concentrate mostly on metaphysics, spirituality, mind set, and so on. But I still do a couple of days of strength coaching.’ - Paul
‘It was so traumatic for me , John, that it took me a long time to tell people I was a footballer, I just completely blocked it out of my life.’ – Paul
‘I really resonate with that idea of fitness because I had always been fit. I’d always done sports as a kid and then did athletics. And then when I couldn’t pursue my career as an athlete any longer my identity was very much wrapped into sport and keeping fit.’ – John
‘It talks about how reality works. How the very fabric of the universe unfolds and evolves without attaching to any sort of dogma or religious practice.’ - Paul
‘And I always recommend that if you read a book, don’t try to read 100 books a year. Read one book 100 times and contemplate it, study it, get to grips with it.’ - Paul
‘Whilst building relationships with people around you is incredibly affirming and valuable. You have the ability because of books and videos and information, you can build relationships with people that have lived hundreds if not thousands of years ago.’ - Paul
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Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
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John carries out a live coaching session helping Alex to understand how she has built up her own relational patterns, relationship beliefs and attraction style. She is going to be discussing relationships in her own life to try and create a different outcome by implementing change.
KEY TAKEAWAYS First of all John asks Alex about her previous relationships and the kind of people she usually draws towards herself. Drawing on Alex’s recently ended relationship experience triggered by a period of personal growth, John defines the common occurrence of transformation of self development and the incompatibility it can produce. Parental relationships are discussed to show how Alex’s attitude to partnerships were formed. As the session continues John offers insights into Alex’s relational patterns, explaining repeated habits and the connections to her experiences. In conclusion John explains how Alex can change her habits to perhaps begin to build stronger, different relationships within her life by opening her mind to circumstances she would normally have avoided.
BEST MOMENTS
‘8 years together. We were engaged for the last year of that too. That for me looking back, I can see why we’re not together and I’m happy that we are not together. But looking back on that I can still see that there were positive aspects of it.’ – Alex
‘That’s quite common in relationships isn’t it? When you get together with somebody as you try and change yourself throughout that journey, they’re quite comfortable with the person you were when you got together. They prefer you to stay in that space.’ – John
‘I’ve never felt a deep and loving connection to either of them. I think really in hindsight there were a lot of mental health problems there between the two of them. A lot of sadness.’ – Alex
‘That maybe explains the relationship that you did have through someone that was very dominant and you were dependent on to function and they ran that relationship. You didn’t have your voice, you followed what they wanted. You can understand why that came to an end when you decided to change that dynamic.’ - John
‘Every time I feel someone that I’ve connected with move away from me it’s like a wound that rips a little deeper each time.’ – Alex
‘Am I going to thank myself for these decisions that I’m making now? I know the answers “no” when it comes to this particular person.’ – Alex
‘You have this dreamy idea about what a relationship could be like and actually relationships can be that dreamy, but I don’t think you really buy into that scenario completely.’ - John
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I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose. www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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John interviews dating coach, family therapist, author, family business psychologist and all round expert on the properties of love, Dr Diana Kirschner. They discuss her childhood, getting her PhD in Clinical Psychology, finding her ‘fairy godmother’ and finding real, passionate, lasting love.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Diana was born into a family where she was the fifth girl in a family that only wanted boys. This created difficulties that saw her find solutions and ways of living which she shares with millions today. Her ‘fairy godmother’ was a coach who was a mentor in helping her find the real Diana through all the trauma. He saw her ‘diamond self identity’, your unique inner self and potential. Diana now works with a team of coaches, all trained ‘fairy godmothers’ who are skilled and knowledgeable in leading people through their problems with finding love, and dissolving their negative self identity, to the point of renaming themselves. A really good coach can be internalised like a good parent and become an ever present guiding inner voice. You can have a healthy relationship with your child self through this journey and this will allow you to find your soul mate.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Well I like sunshine, what can I say. But I love the people, that's part of the reason I was so excited to be on the show today.’ – Diana
‘Out of that I had this sense that true love had to really exist because the poets must be talking about something. People talk about it, but I had never actually seen it in my very chaotic family.’ – Diana
‘It’s about being able to create that identity of our chosen self, isn’t it?’ – John
‘When I was born my father said ‘Oh, not another girl, I don’t want to go to the hospital” when he heard it was a girl. He didn’t bother visiting. He actually said “I love you” only once to me but he was drunk when he said that.’ – Diana
‘It’s like snowflakes. Each one is completely unique. You are completely unique and completely amazing.’ – Diana
‘That’s the problem I think isn’t it.? A lot of the stuff that we’re brought up with we are taught to think negatives because most of the time we’re not praised. Not given that “well done. That’s great. You’ve done an awesome job there.” A lot of the stuff we experience is all about picking on, we haven’t done a good enough job there,” you could have done better.”’ - John
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Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
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Did you realise that we have an apology language? This is the way we express and like to receive things that are difficult to say, including the phrase “I’m Sorry”. People's preferred apology language can be different from person to person, both giving and receiving apologies, and can fluctuate depending on different circumstances. John discusses the nuances of apologies and offers some support on communication in these difficult circumstances, defining the five different apology languages that we employ.
KEY TAKEAWAYS The phrase “I’m sorry” can be enough for some people to move on, but for others their apology language can have more complex or precise requirements. Expressing regret. This apology needs to be expressed with understanding of what you are apologising for and acknowledgement of the pain that has been caused. Accepting responsibility. This is when someone openly admits they were wrong in their actions. They name this action clearly to show that they are aware of this. Making restitution. This includes a way to try and make amends and search for a way to correct the wrong when perhaps something has been broken, damaged, lost or forgotten. It includes restitution to the offended person. Genuinely repenting. Here the person will need to review their actions, have genuine regret for them, and make a commitment to prove they are changing. Requesting forgiveness. This allows time for the person to process their hurt before things can go back to normal. They cannot move on straight away, they need to feel they have the power and the time to decide if things move forward. Some studies have concluded that there are a specific six steps to an apology and it won't be effective at all if these are not completed; Expression of regret, explanation of what went wrong, acknowledgement of responsibility, a declaration of independence, an offer of a repair, and a request of forgiveness.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Expressing remorse or regret, taking responsibility, making restitution and asking for forgiveness need to be delivered in a well meaning and sincere way.’
‘You may want to hear something like “I feel ashamed of how I hurt you.’
‘To them there is a significant difference between saying “you’re right” and “I’m wrong”. They have a completely different meaning.’
‘This could be your apology language if you need someone to show they are willing to correct an issue, put their money where their mouth is, for example.’
‘You may want to hear something like “I can only imagine how much pain that caused you. I’m very, very sorry and I won’t do that again. Next time I promise I’ll do it differently.”’
‘As mentioned we all have a preferred apology language but will likely require a bit from each in order to feel satisfied by the “sorry” that comes our way.’
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I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
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John talks to Dominique Brits, a family centred life coach based in Johannesburg. Her passion is developing and deepening relationships within a family setting. As a teacher in both mainstream and special needs settings she has learnt how much we have in common when it comes to family and how a strong, effective, and emotionally healthy family dynamic can increase the quality of life of all those within it. Dominique discusses her own experiences with family and later relationships, and how she has developed and learned to deal with negative habits and experiences.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Dominique became a life coach after her teaching career and learning from her clients has helped her own family relationships. She facilitates honest communication with her clients by creating a safe space for them to be honest without being judged. Our biggest critic is ourselves. There are lots of things that can inhibit us from speaking out, but self critical thinking is among the most common. Boundaries within family, the amount of freedom of expression and movement, are different from family to family. What we see in other families can make us question our own upbringing. Coaching can help people to see there is no quick fix for changing habits, thought processes and neural pathways.
BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s just a safe space for them to talk. It’s a safe space for them to really open up and not have that feeling of judgement around something that they’re embarrassed about, something that they’re too afraid to speak about, something they can't find the words for.’ – Dominique
‘Maybe the fear of the reaction of what the outcome is going to be because I've actually told someone what I want or what I need at this moment.’ - John
‘My ‘core wound’ is ‘I am below average’. Having three older sisters where they were doing all of these other things and I couldn’t. Not because I wasn’t able to, but because of that age gap of seven years.’ – Dominique
‘My aim to achieve is really about getting families to communicate. Really, actually listen to each other and understand. A lot of parents when their teens come to me go ‘here’s my teen, she’s 16 and now listen to me.’’ - Dominique
‘When you’re triggered or when something happens when you would have usually done this, you’ve now got another way of saying, ‘ actually do I want to do this anymore?’’ – John
GUEST RESOURCES
Website Www.lifecoachjohannesburg.com
E-mail Dominique@lifecoachjohannesburg.com
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I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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Many people have never had counselling or coaching of any kind, so in this episode, to provide a comprehensive insight into what this involves, John allows us to sit in on a session with a client. By listening in, you will be able to gain an understanding of the interaction in a coaching session and how much progress and clarity can be achieved.
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KEY TAKEAWAYS John starts by asking the client why he is there and what he hopes to get out of the session. In this case it is low self-esteem, leading to trouble finding relationships due to, what he refers to as, ‘low emotional intelligence’. Self revelation is very prevalent in this session. “Wow, that is interesting looking at it like that.” In this discussion you will be able to see how coaching allows you to take a detailed look at how you behave and feel about yourself. John leads his client through memories of his past, allowing him to make his own links to patterns of behaviour he uses in his current life and relationships. At the close of the session John summarises what has been discussed and achieved, and sets out a plan for progress in the future.
BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s a fear of upsetting other people. Yes, thank you for teasing that out of me, it wasn’t on the tip of my tongue. Yeah, but I'm so desperately bending over backwards to make sure that I don’t upset anybody.’
‘Would you say that’s what your general self-talk is? I mean it comes back to you not feeling worthy?’
‘It’s natural for them to want me to be what they thought of as happy.’
‘I felt like I wanted to be honest with one of my parents about that aspect of me while one of them was still around.’
‘There’s that sort of silent expectation that you’ve always experienced with your parents, even though they weren’t overly controlling and demanding of you. There did seem to be something that you developed, a sense within yourself that there was an expectation from them, that maybe led to a difficulty with acceptance from yourself.’
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose. www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
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A passionate conversation with Janie Charlot, the definition of a self-made, universe-directed woman. Janie went to university with dreams of becoming a pharmacist but became a nurse practitioner instead. Not wanting to compromise who she was for any job, she created and founded NP (Nurse Practitioners) For Hire, a collaborative effort between many medical professionals to bring consulting and health advice and management to the metro Atlanta area and beyond.
Janie grounds her medical practice in a deep spirituality. She has also authored two different books and has a seemingly boundless well of energy.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- the universe has a vibration and if you act in “I am” statements, the universe will acknowledge that vibration and bring you a future more aligned with that energy.
- That traditional medicine numbs our pain but doesn’t treat the cause. We need to look at our wounds more holistically and take physical, mental, and spiritual paths to heal them. Coming from financially very little, but having a parent who loved her unconditionally, taught Janie a lot about service and about doing things with no expectation of anything done in “return”. She has a She wants to educate and empower people to take charge of their own health and well-being through the experience she has had both with becoming a nurse and becoming attuned to love.
BEST MOMENTS
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“If we could also look to nature to clear the disease, then we could stop relying so much on pharmaceuticals. It is a balance. Sometimes we do have to take medication until we are emotionally and mentally equipped with the resources to tap into nature and tap into healing those parts of ourselves. Because that does require going deeper. It requires going deeper and healing.”
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“We are programmed that way (to fear). And I think if we could get to unconditional divine self-love within, … we're wide open, because now you can be who you need to be…and I don't have to control you, I can allow you to grow at your own time, in your own space.”
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“But when you put something out to the universe, it conspires to bring it to you. I started to experience in awakening to I would call it a love vibration. When I walked outside, I was seeing things that has always been there, but I was seeing the love in it.”
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“We must speak from a space of I am or already have it. So: I have a divine love. I am divine love. And then the more I did that, that vibration took over me internally and then I was a magnet for it.”
ABOUT THE GUEST
Janie Charlot proves that “though she be but little, she is fierce”.
Born to a single mother in Church Point, Louisiana, she graduated high school at the top of her class. She enrolled at the University of Louisiana at Monroe, originally with visions of becoming a pharmacist, but changed her major to nursing when she was not accepted to her program of choice. After graduation she wanted to continue to innovate the healthcare field, so she was inspired to start NP Hired, an Atlanta-based company that provides healthcare services on a national and international level.
They use technology to provide all types of medical services, including treatment of minor conditions and management of chronic illnesses.
Janie has spun her passion for healthcare advocacy and helping others into a successful business.
On top of that, she is the author of two books, and lives her life from a place of spiritual strength.
Janie’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nursepractitioner_hired/
Buy Janie’s Book https://www.amazon.com/CAPACITY-LOVE-Awakening-Unconditional-Love/dp/B09K1TWQH5/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=janie+charlot&qid=1636739364&qsid=135-1785597-0786416&sr=8-1&sres=B09K1TWQH5,B08RTJMG79,B001V9IVE6,B08FF2ZH33,B07HPBCTY9,B00DU5SRIY,B000LC3JV4,B08SBWZKYT,B01CNZMMV4,B07MQJRK7N,B01IEDSU2E,B07C2YF4FB,B08MLJ22K5,B07KCD2MYZ,B07D1J89YQ,B0043XDZF2 Janie on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsZvEjF_739dD8-Ozgb5K7Q
NP Hired’s Website https://nphired.com/
NP Hired on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nphired/
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose. www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
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Today John reads from his book “The People Programme”. PEOPLE is an acronym for the six titles of the modules of his coaching program; Problems, Emotions, Operate, Patterns, Likelihood and Enhance. It helps us to understand the current occurrences in our lives based on past events, understanding those around us, any programmed patterns of behaviour we have and how we can change and move forward.
KEY TAKEAWAYS John reads about how his past experiences from childhood led to his current thoughts and opinions on relationships. Lacking attention turned John into a bit of an extrovert and his parents examples left him confused on how relationships were supposed to be. A favoured brother, the responsibility to apologise and being second all created coping strategies that John used to navigate his environment efficiently. Children learn at a deeper and more permanent level and these lessons are very hard to shift in later life.
BEST MOMENTS
‘ What is not funny and is completely overlooked from reciting this story is that I’m a young child out late by myself in the dark. I had not been seen for hours, obviously I had missed my dinner, and my brother is all tucked up in bed and I haven’t even been missed.’
‘When anything happened where I was told off, I would always be the one made to apologise and make things right. Otherwise I was just ignored and made to stay in my room until I had.’
‘My brain was learning how I could survive. That’s right, survive. My young brains only job at that age was to learn how to keep me alive, how to cope with all the things that were happening and for me to get through it all.’
‘If something feels unknown or uncomfortable I must check in with myself and give it a go before I dismiss it immediately.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose. www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach} YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In todays episode John discusses how to increase intimacy between you and your partner using relaxing massage techniques. He chats with Denis Merkas, founder of Melt Massage for Couples which teaches couples how to use massage techniques in their own homes and has specialised in this field for a number of years. Denis has taught over 50,000 couples on how to use massage in their daily lives and talks about how his experiences have led and influenced him in his profession and private life. They discuss the nuances and complications of relationships and offer insight into keeping them fresh and exciting.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Denis has moved his teaching online to reach a maximum number of couples at a time. This creates a good atmosphere of a shared experience. His background and upbringing informed his decision to start teaching couples massage. Physical touch is a lot of peoples ‘Love Language’ and massage can facilitate this. Massage can be utilised to initiate a sexual interaction but can just be used as relaxation and stress relief so its versatility within relationships is useful. New experiences are the key to keeping relationships fun.
BEST MOMENTS
'I was thinking how do I really woo this girl with my massage technique and how do I do it differently to what I do at work?’
‘You forget that there are other people in the room, if someone moans, the rest of the class is like “oh I’m a little bit jealous” and people are laughing and the energy is great in the room.’
‘We need to find out ways to keep it exciting, to keep it new and fresh and it’s really, really hard. Easily 99% of the listeners here will do the same date night on a regular basis just because we know what it is.’
‘After that you take your time. The classes get harder, the techniques get more difficult. We start looking for knots, areas of tension. I show you how to use your thumbs, how to use your hands effectively so your hands don’t get tired.’
GUEST RESOURCES
Contact
https://couplesmassagecourses.com
denis@couplesmassagecourses.com
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach} YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode, John talks about a recent blog he wrote that gained wide attention and generated a lot of conversation, ways to improve your confidence and what signs to show when you think you have met that special someone.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Non verbal indications of showing interest in who you desire, can be just as important as verbal ones. With the world seemingly reopening, noticing the signs that someone could be using will become more and more relevant. Noticing not only the signs someone could be sending you, but also the ones that you project, is vitally important.
BEST MOMENTS
'Being around someone who likes you, has a physical impact on their state. It can make them nervous and that can lead to a form of good stress'
'When you’re looking in their eyes, if their pupils are dilating, it’s been scientifically proven they do dilate when we see something we like '
'People have a tendency to take your side when they like you…they will want to see you’re ok and will want to defend you wherever possible'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode, John talks about how we, as human beings craving connection, we may not be as selective as we are led to believe when it comes to building new relationships and creating new connections.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Studies show that people are not always selective when it comes to choosing a partner. During speed test studies, people said yes to 40% of their dating options. People often experience guilt-like feelings when making the decision to remain with a partner, which can lead to them simply staying put so as not to cause offence. Even after a relationship is dissolved, these decisions don't always stick, leading to an on-again, off-again situation, instead of us striking out and finding someone new.
BEST MOMENTS
'Romantic relationships are a very emotionally charged aspect of people's lives'
'The path that leads to a long term relationship seems easier than the path that leads us to being single'
'It's hard to walk away for good'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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We often tell ourselves and others that our relationship with our partner is far stronger than it really is, but as John discusses in this first show of the year, it might be time for a reality check.
KEY TAKEAWAYS As we move through a relationship, we tend to accumulate more and more in the way of emotional anchors, such as children or financial arrangements. These can act as a block when it comes to motivating ourselves to leave an unhappy relationship. Often, when we are unhappy, we lose ourselves in other tasks such as work or physical activities. This is known as an avoidance tactic. When we look for external reasons to rationalise or justify our situation, we end up bypassing the root cause of the problems. Projection is something that is often used to shield us from difficult feelings that may overwhelm us. This causes us to remain in a denial space where we are simply trying to convince ourselves to remain.
BEST MOMENTS
'People stick together even though they are unhappy'
'We go into what is known as an ego defence'
'These strategies help us to minimise our emotions'
'Denial is a great avoidance strategy'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week John is in conversation with a special guest - one who has lived through a codependent relationship, and who has emerged as independent from the other side. It's a rare, highly personal conversation from someone with a unique perspective on this particular compulsion, and which may help to empower those who may not yet realise that their own relationship may be an unhealthy one.
KEY TAKEAWAYS When we become codependent, we lose part of ourselves - our identities. We hand control to a person, and thereby give part of ourselves away. Previous generations have always associated their development in life by their attachments. These days, we are encouraged to be more independent, and gender roles in society help to promote this. Codependency can creep in without realising it. We begin a certain way, and then one day find that we have become unrecognisable to ourselves.
BEST MOMENTS
'The root of codependency is the loss of the self'
'It was a very gendered experience'
'It's as though you somehow believe you are rooted with each other'
'It was like I'd created a Frankenstein'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Signs Of A Toxic Relationship Questionnaire - https://signsofatoxicrelationship.scoreapp.com
What Is Self Actualisation - What is Self-Actualisation? | John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
Lisa A Romano - https://youtu.be/Pv90LrLyMew https://youtu.be/G2DvWdrXnBw
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie - Codependent No More (Part 1) - YouTube
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, John looks at codependency - a circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed - how it manifests within relationships, and how we can identify this compulsion.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Codependency is typically discussed in the same terms as substance abuse. It is the reliance of one person upon the other in order to keep this addiction going. Codependent people tend to form and become dependant upon unhealthy, emotionally harmful relationships. This state may feel like an addiction, but it is in fact a compulsion. It is the coming together of two people with maladapted needs that need to be met.
BEST MOMENTS
'Two people become so invested in one another that they can't function independently'
'Your mood, happiness and identity are defined by another person'
'This is often referred to as a relationship addiction'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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At this time of year it's far more normal to spend time with family member, perhaps for longer periods than you may be used to. But this proximity can throw up several issues, and as John discusses in this show, there are ways to make sure that our relationships with those we love do not suffer.
KEY TAKEAWAYS In general, we tend to look to our mothers for love and affection, and to our fathers for sense of pride and self-worth. We must take time to reflect upon and recognise the relationships that we currently have with our family members. One issue could come from the angle of gifts. Often we give gifts not just to make others happy, but also to gain acceptance.
BEST MOMENTS
'It's the season of goodwill to all, no matter how you might feel about things'
'Do you notice that things only seem to go well when you're doing what they want?'
'There are ways in which you can feel empowered'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, John talks to Gemma Nice, a Relationship Coach and Yoga Teacher who specialises in working with professional women, with a focus on how to have fulfilling, loving and healthy relationships.
Gemma joins John to talk about her work, and the surprising way in which yoga contributed to the health of her own relationship.
KEY TAKEAWAYS By removing the stresses of life, we can be better placed to repair a relationship that may have gone stale and which may be suffering from a lack of closeness. The best and most effective way to repair a fault in a relationship is to bring it out into the open and talk about it. If we fail to do so, then the problem will decay and grow worse. For many, the only validation they receives comes externally, which makes it incredibly difficult to foster internal self-belief. Relationships are a source of strength. My harnessing our respective strength we become even more fundamentally solid as a unit.
BEST MOMENTS
'We felt closeness that we hadn't felt for ages'
'Having more communication in the relationship helped a lot!'
'No one gets on with everyone 24-7'
'It makes you stronger as a couple'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy intimate relationships in your life? Then join John on Monday 6th December for a free workshop, where he will be discussing what you can do to make this happen: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/what-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-intimate-relationship-tickets-203718677047
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Easyoga - https://www.easyoga.co.uk
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, John discusses modern relationship terminology, and how certain ways of describing or phrasing things can help us to better understand the places from which we have come in life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS One of the most important red flags you can have in a relationship is the fact that you really know nothing deep about your partner, and they they are reticent to share their innermost hopes and dreams. This can indicate that they are not in this for the long haul. Stashing is the process by where someone almost hides you away - storing you for when they want you, but not really sharing you with anyone important in their lives. Catfishing is a term to describe someone who has an online relationship, but has misrepresented themselves for some reason. Sometimes the intentions are far more sinister than we might think. Ghosting has become very common in avoidant types of people. It manifests in a total break in communication without explanation.
BEST MOMENTS
'Someone who isn't really committed is unlikely to tell you much about themselves'
'There won't be any trust because you're not sharing anything with each other'
'Listen to your trusted friends and loved ones'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy intimate relationships in your life? Then join John on Monday 6th December for a free workshop, where he will be discussing what you can do to make this happen: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/what-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-intimate-relationship-tickets-203718677047
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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John talks to Cordelia Kate, the founder of The Rebellious Business Network, devoted to helping entrepreneurs achieve their full potential through revolutionising approaches to communication and engagement.
Being a rebellious entrepreneur is about building breaking the mould and building relationships. Cordelia joins John to discuss her approach, and why being an entrepreneur and being a rebel require such similar attitudes.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Rebelliousness goes hand in hand with being an entrepreneur. Taking chances in business requires an act of rebellion against the path that society usually plans for us. It's no good making goals for ourselves based on what other people want. True happiness and freedom come from recognising what we ourselves want, and working towards it. Loving ourselves begins with realising that we are not bad at our core. We are worthy. We are good enough. By the simple act of exploring self-development, we admit to ourselves that we are worth more. If we go into marketing with the mind-set of purely building relationships, instead of simply looking for sales, then success comes far more easily.
BEST MOMENTS
'In order to be an entrepreneur you have to be a bit of a rebel'
'Create goals that give you more happiness and more freedom'
'I was too scared to look inside myself and tune into who I am'
'I wanted to put something together to keep business owners connected'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE GUEST
Cordelia Kate left her job as an Emergency Nurse to focus on her side-hustle and work from home with her three children. After a very turbulent start in the business world, including divorce, a major car accident and accumulating £60k in debt, she managed to turn everything around, launching Rebellious Business. She went from zero to six figures during the pandemic, and is now supporting other emerging entrepreneurs' rise to success.
https://join.rebelliousbusiness.com/network
https://www.instagram.com/cordelia.kate/
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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We all dream of the perfect relationship, but as John discusses in this week's show, sometimes there is beauty to be found in the imperfect. Sometimes, perfection can come with its own set of risks...
KEY TAKEAWAYS When it comes to developing relationships we can often become far too hung up on the faults we wish to avoid than the positive things we need for enrichment. Expectations for relationships today are higher than ever. Relationships are a choice, so mediocrity is no longer acceptable. We have arrived at an all-or-nothing way of thinking. Perfectionist personalities will tend to exhaust all options and explore many possibilities in order to secure their flawless partner. This might sound ideal, but in reality there are huge downsides. Perfectionists report more regret and depression and feel threatened by others that they perceive as doing better. They also report less optimism and satisfaction.
BEST MOMENTS
'We overemphasise the negatives and under-appreciate the positives'
'If you could build the perfect relationship, what would it look like?'
'There is a myth in perfection'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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John talks to positive changes expert, author and podcaster, Shelley F Knight, whose works include new book 'Good Grief: The A to Z Approach To Modern Day Healing'.
Shelley and John discuss the concept behind the book, Shelley's own experiences with loss and grief through her life and career experience as a nurse, and the many ways in which grief can manifest.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Loss can cause us to become stuck in a place and time - grief can lock us in place - and only through recognition and guidance can we free ourselves and move on. Life is about moving forwards, never looking too long back behind us. We must move on if we hope to grow, and if we hope to heal. Grief is not just restricted to death and losing a loved on. Grief can arise through losing anything to which we have an emotional connection, including jobs, finances, freedoms, health, or even loss of control. Relationships, and self-regulation are not things that are taught in our current education system, and yet they are skills and tools that we all must reply upon. We must therefore do all we can to help the next generation to better understand themselves.
BEST MOMENTS
'I've gone from a clinical mindset of understanding into a spiritual one'
'We're more than the doctors tell us. We are beautiful beings with so much potential'
'I've not come this far to only come this far'
'We must allow ourselves to speak about how we're feeling'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Shelley F Knight Twitter - https://twitter.com/ShelleyFKnight
Shelley F Knight - https://shelleyfknight.com
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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John talks to master coach and women's health advocate, Laura Applewhite, about the work she does in helping women heal their hearts, bodies and souls after a hysterectomy, and why this physically and emotionally costly procedure requires us to develop the strongest of relationships with ourselves.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Approximately 55,000 women in the UK alone will have a hysterectomy this year. In America, the number grows to 660,000, meaning that although the issue is widespread, the conversations are not out in the open. When women in the world are happy, then the world itself is a happier place. By doing all we can to heal women, we create a better society. A hysterectomy is an isolating experience, and one that comes with a set of preconceptions due to a lack of dialogue and plentiful misinformation. It is incumbent upon us as a society to right these views, and to support all women going through this experience, with care, love and guidance. In this life, and especially in relationships, we must not take ourselves too seriously. The key to fostering strong bonds with others, and with ourselves, is to find the light amid the darkness.
BEST MOMENTS
'This is not spoken about enough'
'My mission is to help women heal, so that they can help to heal the world'
'We must give them the tools and the space to help them go through what they're going through'
'The most important thing in a happy, loving relationship is a sense of humour'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Laura Applewhite Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/laura_apples_/
Hysterectomy Healing - https://www.facebook.com/groups/349062779847540/
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, John discusses curiosity, and how cultivating it can lead to more fulfilment when it comes to relationships, and a more fulfilling life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Humans are built to be curious. This is how we have managed to evolve since the dawn of time, and what drives us as children to learn about the world around us. When curiosity is piqued, our brains release dopamine, triggering our rewards system, and encouraging us to dig deeper into the pursuit at hand. Curious people are more open to new social experiences, and are more willing to embrace uncertainty. This makes them far more adept in social situations. Through becoming more curious about our potential partners, we strengthen our connection to them. When building new relationships, try to be less afraid of uncertainty.
BEST MOMENTS
'Curiosity can override anxiety, boredom and can deepen social connection'
'Curiosity has given us the capacity and desire to learn about our lives'
'Our brains actually reward us for exploring'
'By taking a more inquisitive to our lives and relationships, we may even be able to overcome social anxiety'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, John talks to multi seven-figure business strategist, Lisa Johnson, who has dedicated herself to helping entrepreneurs scale using passive and semi-passive income. Lisa is also a passionate anti-bullying campaigner, and a proponent of the message that anyone can become a success, no matter where they start in life.
Lisa talks to John about her own experiences at the hands of bullies, and talks about how we can rise above to find happiness and success.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Sometimes we become so focussed upon our careers that we fail to see the negative impact this can have upon our personal relationships. We must strike the right balance. The purpose that pushes us forward is our "why", but we must allow that this can change. It's okay to set new goals and aim for different things as we go through life. Adversity can fuel success if we use it in a positive way. The desire to prove our detractors wrong can act as fuel to push us higher. When we lift others up alongside our own success, then we raise society as a whole, instead of a piecemeal hierarchy that serves only the few.
BEST MOMENTS
'I went through two marriages because my career was so important to me'
'Your "why" can change'
'Eventually you stop caring about what other people think. You start realising that actually, it's nonsense'
'Negative voices are always louder than positive'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Lisa Johnson - https://www.lisajohnson.com
Lisa Johnson Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/lisajohnsonstrategist
Lisa Johnson Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lisajohnsonstrategist
Bullies Out - https://bulliesout.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Despite what many believe, there is a truly positive power in saying "no". By doing so we are setting boundaries in every part of our lives, and as John explains in this episode, the setting of boundaires is not just healthy, but essential.
KEY TAKEAWAYS When we say no, we are setting a boundary - line between what is and is not acceptable to you in any given situation. We live in a society where putting ourselves above others is deemed as a selfish act. We must consider others, but we must also live life as not detrimental to us. We must examine the relationship we have with ourselves. Low self-confidence or self-esteem play a major part in our boundary-setting capabilities.
BEST MOMENTS
'Such a small word, and yet so very powerful'
'When we do not set healthy boundaries for ourself, it will impact our emotional, mental and physical wellbeing'
'Be good to yourself'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Mary McClung is a fitness and mindset coach, who uses her experience and knowledge in working with world-class athletes, coaches and teams, combined with NLP and neuro-science to create her own unique approach.
Mary joins John this week to discuss the power of neurolinguistic programming, and how she is using it each day to help people achieve their goals.
If you find yourself affected by any of the subjects raised in this show, please visit the following resources for more help or guidance:
www.nspcc.org.uk
https://thecpsu.org.uk/help-advice/introduction-to-safeguarding/child-abuse-in-a-sports-setting/
KEY TAKEAWAYS Neurolinguistic programming has profound effects upon the brain and the way our bodies operate. By harnessing its power we can unlock a new level of performance. If we are conditioned to believe in ourselves only to a point, to hold back upon the advice of others, then the effects can cause a ripple effect throughout the way we live In the world of sport, you are only ever important so long as you are operating to your full potential. This means that when you are hampered in any way, the effects are not just physical but emotional.
BEST MOMENTS
'I knew I was good, but I wasn't allowed to be good enough'
'I wanted somebody to tell me why the heck I should not run as fast as I knew I could run'
'It was when I studied NLP that I got the lightbulb moment'
'It's helped me to understand myself better'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Mary McClung - http://www.marymcclung.co.uk
Mary McClung Facebook - @marymcclungofficial
Mary McClung Instagram - @marymcclungofficial
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, John talks about affirmations and how they can help to establish a far more positive internal relationship with ourselves, thereby allowing us to create far more meaningful relationships with others.
KEY TAKEAWAYS If we foster a negative viewpoint or perspective internally, then it is far more unlikely that we will ever be able to create a positive relationship with others. If we establish a higher sense of self-worth, then the benefits are not just emotional. It has been shown that physical positives can emerge if we treat ourselves well. Hermetic philosophy states that we cannot simply say the opposite of what we believe in order for it become our truth. In childhood our brains are in foetus state. We absorb information far more easily, and becomes embedded far more deeply. If we seek to change these things later, then we must do so by embracing methods that also help us to reach this foetus state.
BEST MOMENTS
'The most important relationship you're ever going to have is the one you have with yourself'
'We are able to change the way we think about ourselves and see ourselves if we start to have different conversations with ourselves'
'If we are able to manage our thoughts, then we are able to create our reality'
'Positive affirmations target a conscious level of your mind'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, John welcomes to the show, Nick James, the founder of Expert Empires, to discuss the importance of constructing successful relationships in business, and how by doing so we can achieve far more in the business world and in life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS By building up our relationships with others, we make ourselves and others stronger. Our skills and strengths can compliment the weaknesses of others, and vice versa. People are attracted to those they can trust, and to those who can help them to achieve their own goals. This is why it is essential to establish that rapport with those around you. We must remember that each separate area of our lives has a knock on effect upon others. It is up to us to mitigate these effects when they begin to affect other areas of our lives. Trust is the crucial glue that reinforces and fortifies the relationships between us. But we must never discount the value in trusting in ourselves.
BEST MOMENTS
'Your greatest strength will always be your greatest weakness'
'I've been studying and learning about personal development since I was a kid'
'I've always known, unconsciously, that building relationships was important'
'The quality of the relationship you have with yourself is based upon how much you trust yourself to do the right thing'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE GUEST
Nick dropped out of university at the age of 21 and failed spectacularly with his first coaching business, which forced him to take a £16k/yr telesales job.
Within 12 months he was the top performer and left to start his second business at 24. This time he discovered a winning formula and before long had a multi-six-figure company. He then made a huge mistake which nearly put him out of business and cost him £50,000 in personal cash! Fortunately, Nick kept it afloat, turned it around, and sold that business 2 years later in a seven-figure deal.
He then co-founded a multi-million-pound marketing company, which he exited in 2015, and created Expert Empires. Today, Expert Empires is known as the UK's number one business event for Experts, with world-renowned celebrity speakers like Gary Vaynerchuk, Grant Cardone, Chalene Johnson, David Goggins, and Lewis Howes gracing the stage.
Nick also specialises in helping Coaches, Consultants, Speakers, Trainers, and Authors take their businesses from zero to six figures and beyond through his Expert Empires Mastermind programme.
Expert Empires - www.expertemipres.com
Expert Empires Facebook - Expert Empires Community | Facebook
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Looking for a new relationship, or experiencing the "getting to know each other" phase of a new relationship, can seem like a daunting prospect, especially since there are certain signals we should remain vigilant in spotting. But how best can we make sure that we're identifying these so-called "red flags" when it comes to people? In this episode, John talks about how best to make sure our relationship radar is functioning as it should.
KEY TAKEAWAYS It's a sad fact that some people out there are looking for perceived flaws in your character so as to take advantage, or ways they can leverage in order to break a relationship. We can control the pace at which a relationship moves, as well as constructing boundaries that allow us to keep certain interactions and personalities at bay until we are fully sure of how we feel. When someone lacks consistency, it's easy to spot. We need to adhere to people whose actions best match their words and intentions. Listen to your instincts and your subconscious. It may be that it is picking up on an imbalance in your energy and that of a potential partner.
BEST MOMENTS
'Unfortunately there are people out there who could just be looking for weaknesses'
'Set a better pace and set some boundaries'
'You are allowed to release these people from your life!'
'You need to be with a partner who wants to fortify a relationship with you through time, but understands that it's going to take some work'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, John is joined by emotional abuse therapist and author Elizabeth Goddard, the founder of The Divorce Sanctuary.
Elizabeth joins John to talk about the effects of relationship deterioration, including the sometimes unexpected loneliness that occurs in its aftermath. Elizabeth also discusses where abuse can begin, how we can identify the red flag traits in a partner, and how we can learn to move past the effects of a relationship breakdown.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Often, the person presented at the beginning of a relationship can be very different to the reality of a person. It's a painful and conflicting revelation to come to terms with. Abusive behaviour in relationships can imprint upon impressionable minds. If children are taught that abuse is normal, then there is good chance that this will be carried on in their own lives. Narcissists feed upon their partners both emotionally and financially. They suck their partner dry, and when there is nothing left to give, they move on. Narcissists and sociopaths are by their nature, not good at taking responsibility for their behaviours, and so do not feel the innate desire to seek help to overcome their condition. This can make therapy and treatment almost impossible.
BEST MOMENTS
'If we've grown up in an environment that's been abusive, then we will see that behaviour as normal'
'They tune in to where your wounds are and then they use it to hurt you'
'They play with people and it's a great game for them. They want to see how powerful they are'
'It's important to remember that their condition comes from a place of pain'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
For more information about Elizabeth Goddard:
https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com
https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/healingonadeeplevel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMYt8qcisYTqjDLLj56HfSA
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
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This week, John discusses love itself - how it manifests itself, why it's so important, how love has evolved across generations, and why it is the driving force behind so much of what takes place in the world.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Love is generally divided into two categories - being in love, and the simple act of loving somebody. Both are valuable, but very different. Love has evolved as society has evolved. Whereas once all attraction was built upon the desire to procreate, societal trends and shifts have led to a broadening of what love can mean and the forms it can take. Relationships and sexuality are drastically different, depending on our geographical location, and the societal acceptance of the communities surrounding us. Many believe that love is the source of all things. To some, love is our essential nature - a true representation of who humans are at their very core.
BEST MOMENTS
'Love is a very complex emotion'
'The story of love is an ever-evolving drama'
'The roles of relationships have evolved drastically'
'It is the force that creates worlds'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, John talks to Teresa Brooks, a transformational business coach and strategist, as well as the founder of the COACH magazine and podcast.
Teresa joins John to discuss the art of coaching itself, and how it is built upon connecting relationships, the founding tenets of all successful relationships, and why we should think about accountability.
KEY TAKEAWAYS We cannot hope to coach anyone unless we establish a secure relationship, built upon trust and faith in each other. Relationships are about responsibility. We must hold ourselves accountable for the roles we play when relationships work, but also when they break down. Safety and trust are deeply connected to any successful relationship. Without them, we cannot feel truly connected and secure. If we feel that we must ask for direction in a relationship, then there must be something fundamentally wrong at the heart of matters
BEST MOMENTS
'Relationships are one of my favourite subjects'
'Connection is one of my values'
'It's about safety and trust'
'It always takes two. What it is about me that has changed this space?'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Teresa Brooks - www.teresabrookscoaching.com
COACH Magazine - https://www.coach-magazine.com
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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We believe that love is the only thing that can keep a relationship alive, but as John discusses on this week's episode, there are also other things that are equally as crucial in keeping the flame burning.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Understanding is a vital tenet of relationships. Empathy for another is a deep understanding that allows us to truly connect and understand. We must teach the next generations how to gain a better sense of understanding, so that they can form authentic and lasting relationships. Empathy is the art of putting ourselves into the shoes (emotionally) of someone else. It is allowing ourselves to take their perspective in full.
BEST MOMENTS
'Many relationships can break up or are torn apart because the people didn't understand one another'
'Knowing something about somebody doesn't always lead to understanding'
'Sometimes love just isn't enough'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, it's a meeting of minds as John talks to coaches and relationship experts, Nicki and Tony Vee, for discussion about the nature of coach itself, the power of relationships and how they have led them to where they are today, and their groundbreaking system of guidance, known as the Couples Intimate Relationship Education programme.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Relationships and intimacy are not taught in any kind of curriculum, and yet they make up a huge part of our lives. Guidance in these areas is crucial sometimes. The first step is recognising your contribution to a relationship. Only then can we identify the things we need from another. Human beings are complicated machines and unique in so many ways. We react and adapt to different forms of input - emotional, physical or spiritual. The energies of the masculine and feminine are out of balance in today's society, which prevents emotional progress in many ways
BEST MOMENTS
'Nobody teaches you this stuff at school'
'The universe kept throwing us together'
'We're about intimate relationships, but our purpose and vision is to have healthy, happy and fulfilled life'
'Human beings are a chemistry set'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Nicki Vee LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/nickivee/?originalSubdomain=uk
Nicki and Tony Vee - https://mastercoach.training
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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People in negative relationships are often asked why they don't "just leave"? But is it always just as easy as walking away?
In this week's show, John examines the causes of abuse in relationships, its effects, and the complex reasons why it's not always an easy decision to turn our backs and walk away.
KEY TAKEAWAYS According to surveys, one in four women, and on in nine men, are in relationships that contain some form of sexual, physical or emotional violence. It's far more widespread than we realise. Love can still linger in a relationship, even when it's begun to decay. It is entirely possible to be in love, even though it is unhealthy to do so. If abuse and violence arrive in a relationship slowly, and not in a sudden burst, then it can have a conditioning effect, slowly becoming normalised, until only an outside perspective can make us realise that something is truly wrong. Manipulation and abuse can come in hitherto unrecognised ways. This usually drip-feeds in slowly, and gently removes power from one party, and gives to the other. it can be as simple as controlling the finances in the relationship, causing one to have to ask the other, thereby switching the power balance.
BEST MOMENTS
'There are other reasons why someone might persist with a toxic relationship'
'Love is the ultimate connection'
'Hope is something we have instinctually. We can perpetually hope that things get better'
'Manipulation is key with an abuser. They are often smart, charming and magnetic'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week, John talks you through the phenomenon of gaslighting - the practice by where minds are manipulated through negative means - how this can affect relationships and what we can do if we find ourselves on the wrong side of the practice.
KEY TAKEAWAYS "Gaslighting" comes from a 1938 play called Gaslight, and used to describe a type of manipulation designed to invalidate you as a person. If you find yourself on the receiving end of comments that fly against the things you believe are true, then you may be a victim of gaslighting. Gaslighters are often not on a crusade to destroy you. They are merely using a nefarious strategy in order to make things easier for themselves. Gaslighters have a "window of comfort" - a narrow, blinkered gap that is beneficial to the gaslighter as it restricts our view of the wider world. We can overcome by pushing to broaden this window.
BEST MOMENTS
'You may recognise such statements as "That never happened - you must be imagining it"'
'In essence this is a form of emotional abuse'
'You only remember a memory based on the last time that you remembered it'
'The law of attraction is at play here'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
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This time, John talks about the language of love itself, which communicates itself through many varied means, including subconscious, physical, psychological, sensual and of course, verbal.
KEY TAKEAWAYS We have learned through our life experiences, the way we wish to be loved, respected and cared for by others. We each have a different means of listening to the language of love. An act of service refers not to servitude, but rather that actions speak louder than words. It is when others recognise your need and show love voluntarily. We have a primary way of feeling loved, and the people we're with will have methods, too. These may differ between people, so we must recognise this.
BEST MOMENTS
'If this is your love language, then you like positive words of affection'
'If someone gives you something that means something to you, it's not about what is costs, but the thought they put into it'
'This is where a lot of problems seem to occur, especially in the dating world'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
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John talks to Matt Elwell, the found of the Elite Closing Academy, a place built for entrepreneurs, business owners and sales teams who want to dramatically increase their sales without coming across as hard sell, pushy or manipulative.
Matt discusses the importance of building relationships when it comes to sales, and how the art of sales itself is built upon establishing and developing connections with others.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Sales is a three-way relationship - healthy for your client, a good win for yourself, and a positive impact upon the universe itself. We must start with the end in mind. If we can see the perfect ending for both parties, and work back from there, we're guaranteed to provide the wins we all need. Life and our futures are never doomed by past experiences, so long as we have the will to want to change our destiny. Don't look back - look forward. We are in control of what comes next. Being coached by an expert in relationships allows us a different perspective. Never discount the guidance that others can provide on life.
BEST MOMENTS
'I believe that life is all about the relationships you have with others, but also the relationship you have with yourself'
'Sales should be the perfect relationship'
'When humans are successful, the universe wins'
'Our experiences have led us here. Now what do we want to do about it?'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Matt Elwell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-elwell-974943118/?originalSubdomain=uk
Elite Closing Academy - https://eliteclosingacademy.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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John discusses your attachment style, and how if they are not addressed and recognised effectively they can lead you to the wrong types of relationships, and can ultimately lead to your self-sabotaging other areas of life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Attachment styles develop in early childhood, and are reinforce in later life depending on the relationships you build and the style you have adopted. The two main types of attachment are secure and insecure. Secure is found in people who have experienced love and acceptance. Insecure is generally found in those who have not experienced these things. Anxious people are generally guarded at the beginning of a relationship. They need reassurance, and require proof of trust in someone. Choosing a relationship and entering into it, is a subconscious act of matching our attachment style to that of someone else.
BEST MOMENTS
'It impacts on your self-confidence, your self worth, and your self belief'
'People with insecure attachments tend to choose people with insecure attachments'
'It's all about what's going on inside of you'
'When you're looking for a partner, subconsciously you're looking for fulfilment'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This time, learn more about your host, John Kenny - what fascinates him about relationships, the personal experiences that led him to become "The Relationship Guy", coaching people, and the impact that relationships can have upon every area of life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Relationships are the act of two complicated entities coming together and trying to find common ground. They can be difficult, but are worth working for. Our outlook upon relationships are formed from an early age. These nascent experiences in life shape the way we see ourselves and relationships in general. If we cannot accept ourselves, then the belief that anyone else can accept us is severely limited. We must accept ourselves if we wish to be accepted by others.
BEST MOMENTS
'Relationships are complicated and complex, because they are the coming together of two complicated human beings'
'The security was missing - the certainty was missing - and therefore I learned to shut down my emotions'
'My acceptance of myself has been key to turning my life around'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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Welcome to ‘The Relationship Guy’ podcast with John Kenny, a regular look at the world of relationships and their importance in living a fulfilled life, the impact they have upon all areas of life, and how and why we attract them.
In the first episode, meet your host, John Kenny, who tells you exactly what you can expect in the coming episodes.
KEY TAKEAWAYS The show aims to discuss all things relationships – how they impact life, how you can find quality intimate relationships, and how you can improve them all round. If you can nurture a healthy relationship with yourself, then you’re far more likely to make positive choices In others.
BEST MOMENTS
'It’s going to be such an exciting journey’
‘This is the most important relationship you’re ever going to have’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy intimate relationships. John is an Author, Documentarian and public speaker.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
CONTACT INFO
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach} YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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