Are You Being Selfish? Or Is Your Self-Interest Being Weaponized?

"You're selfish" or "Stop being so selfish" or "You have to share!"

These are phrases I heard a lot in response to me saying no, to having a boundary, or wanting to keep something of mine, mine.

I was also raised to believe that sharing was the ideal and that having boundaries or saying no meant I was doing something "selfish" or mean because it "deprived someone else of something they wanted".

This kind of treatment of our autonomy and boundaries taught us to feel shame and to discount and ignore our self-interest, boundaries, and desires.

Learn how to start freeing yourself from this trap of inverted power and begin to occupy your sovereign space and autonomy in today's episode!

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[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Starts May 14, 2023]

This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:

• Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work
• Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"
• Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healing

There are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:

• Safety
• Sanity
• Personal Sovereignty
• Trust Yourself
• Know Yourself
• Love Yourself
• Be Yourself
• Share Yourself

I will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting May 14, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".

This includes:

• Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care
• Capacity & Emotional Care
• Foundations of Personal Power
• Foundations of Self-Trust
• Fantasy and Reality
• Foundations of Worth
• Foundations of Knowing Yourself
• Detecting Safe People & Building Resources

These eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.

You'll be empowered to create these results because:

• You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality
• You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions
• You'll be cultivating trust in yourself
• You'll be discovering your real worth
• You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others
• You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe people

Students that have learned these skills report:

• Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves
• More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge
• More peace because they can see what is really happening
• Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!

Course Details:

Here's the Class Details:

Class start date: Sunday, May 14, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain Time

Class times: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain Time

Where: Via zoom

End date: July 2nd, 2023

Recordings of each class available the evening of class day.

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