Personalities, Parenting and Partners: Recent Episodes
Kate Mason
Our relationships are fuel for the soul. They keep us laughing, loving and crying. Relationships can be triggers. They can hurt. They also heal. Author Kate Mason has spent her career in relationships. Of course she has. Now she hosts her own podcast. In Personalities, Parenting and Partners, Kate shares her insight, intelligence and instructions on why relationships work... and why some don't. She also looks at how our personalities impact our relationships – whether they be with partners or as parents. Personalities, Parenting and Partners is a podcast that allows you to listen, learn and laugh about life and love.
Personality types affect your family dynamics. The ISTJ is typically the dutiful parent offering their kids consistency, routine, and organization. But the ESTP parent is usually more adaptable and able to go with the flow.
Understanding not just your own personality type but your partner’s and those of your children is important to keeping the home harmonious.
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Hey that mine.
I saw it first.
Too bad. Finders keepers. Losers weepers.
No need to even ask if this sounds familiar. It does. But there are ways to manage sibling rivalries. Actually understanding your children’s personality types and preferences can go a long way to keeping the peace.
Guest: Sandra Etherington
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When traveling do you prefer to be highly organized and structured? Loose and available for what catches your whim? Or somewhere in between.
It’s all good when it’s just you traveling. It gets complicated when you have traveling companions, particularly if they don’t share your preferences.
Guest Co Host: Tracy Noon
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The most important tenet of Attachment theory is that young children need to develop a relationship with at least one primary caregiver for normal social and emotional development.
But in a world where parents, not just teenagers, are constantly distracted by mobile apps, social media, email and text messages, how do we ensure our kids are ok?
Guest: Megan Gallagher (PG Dip Teaching, M.Ed.)
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More than 40 counties and territories around the world have banned the physical punishment of children. New Zealand is on the list, but not Australia. Less than 10% of children under the age of five are living in countries where corporal punishment at home is fully prohibited.
For years, different studies have indicated smacking or spanking is linked with an increased risk of negative outcomes for children such as aggression, adult mental health problems, and does little to change undesirable behaviours.
A new study published in Australia in May 2023, recommends law reform to make corporal punishment illegal, initiate a campaign to make the public aware of its negative impacts, and help parents learn about alternative evidence-based strategies to assist in parenting.
Guest: Sophie Havighurst, (BA Hons, Dip Clin Psych, Ph.D.)
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In many ways the role of “Mother” has changed in the last couple decades. Since Mother’s Day was first conceived in the 1800’s, the role of mother can now be filled stepmothers, same sex couples, transgender mothers, gender neutral mothers, and fathers.
But in other ways “Mother” hasn’t changed at all. It is the person who, typically, bears the ultimate responsibility for the health and wellbeing of a child, and forges the child’s earliest and most powerful emotional bond.
In this episode Kate shares what “Mother” means to her, and collects viewpoints from others around Adelaide.
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Think about the haircut from a young child’s perspective.
They’re brought to a new place, sat in a tall chair and told to sit still. There’s a strange adult standing above them, holding a pair of scissors. They’ve probably already learned at home scissors are dangerous. They hurt if they get cut. How does the child know getting their haircut is actually painless?
On top of this some kids genuinely have sensory issues.
In this episode Kate talks with the hair stylist she’s known for 30 years, the one who knows her children and many others. John DiCicco shares his insights into how he makes children more comfortable when they’re “In the Chair.”
Guest: John DiCicco, Hair Stylist
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You don’t need to be opposites to attract. Sometimes two very like-minded people with like-personalities people find mutual attraction.
But it does seem odd that it’s often two people are not the same in many, many ways who find attraction.
For example, why does the introvert find attraction in the extravert? Do they help them learn to speak up more and join the party? And why does the extravert fall for the introvert? Do they help them learn to listen and reflect?
Kate and Tracy are coming at this from experience. Grab a cuppa and join.
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Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
ME/CFS as it’s known.
The World Health Organisation classified ME/CFS as a disease, not a psychological issue, back in the 1960’s but we still know so little about it.
It’s a complex disabling disease affecting the brain, the muscles, and digestive, immune and cardiac systems. About 60,000 people in Australia are housebound or bed bound from ME/CFS. It’s become the forgotten disease, costing the health system in the country $15.5 Billion annually. The health system has failed those who suffer from ME/CFS but one of the leading voices, and advocates, Emerge Australia, represents the patient voice for this disease and it’s speaking up loudly.
Guest: Anne Wilson, CEPO Emerge Australia
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Grandparents teach young children. They bring a special enthusiasm that helps a child grow. They teach them by sharing stories, traditions, conversation, reading… and time together.
Many families rely on grandparents for trusted childcare, but many surveys also show many grandparents feel some level of disagreement or tension about approaches to childcare. And many also say the job of caregiving is tiring.
In this episode Kate talks with several grandparents about what they love about the role, how they go about it, and the potential mine fields they manage to avoid.
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Cindy and Brian in their 30’s when they became parents so they thought they were ready to handle pretty much anything it brought them.
They weren’t.
In High School their son was honest with them, he was having suicidal feelings… constantly. Local professionals didn’t seem able to help. Frantic, Cindy took to sleeping at the foot of her son’s bed in case he got up in the night “and wanted to make a bad decision.”
Finally, they found a residential treatment centre that specialized in Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT). It was on the other side of the continent.
Thankfully their son responded well. But there was more to it. As part of the treatment, Cindy and Brian began a journey of self discovery for themselves. This is the part that really made the difference.
In this episode they share their family’s deeply personal story.
Guests: Cindy and Brian Gerdes
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What does Easter mean to you? For some it’s a devout and important part of the Christian faith. For others it’s a tradition that developed in the northern hemisphere to mark the coming of Spring. And for others, it’s about chocolate!
In this episode Kate roams the neighbourhood talking with friends about how they grew up marking Easter, and what they do now.
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Growing up and understanding your place and your voice in this world isn’t easy. A personality trait tool that can help people understand and codify themselves is the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI).
For example, Tracy Noon was an introverted child in a family mixed with introverts and extroverts. She always found it was tough to get her voice heard. By the time she’d though through what she wanted to say, the conversation had moved on.
Kate was an extroverted child in an introverted family. Both parents were librarians. She was always told she was too bossy and had a secret feeling the introverts were judging her.
In this episode Kate and Tracy connect for coffee and brew up some analysis.
Guest: Tracy Noon
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Children need boundaries. Well we all need boundaries.
Boundaries, essentially, are a form of self care. They create clear guidelines/rules/limits of how people should be treated. Boundaries honour our needs and wants so we feel respected and safe. They build self-esteem, help bring focus, enhance mental health, and develop independence.
In this episode – the benefits of boundaries with our children.
Guest: Kari Sutton, Author, Researcher, Parent Educator
Kari has helped over 25,000 parents, educators, and others who care for kids to develop the skills and confidence to promote positive mental health habits.
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No one likes to fail and no one wants to see their kids fail. But failure plays an important role in life. It helps us learn, grow, and develop resilience. It allows us to develop a growth mindset and build confidence.
In this episode Kate talks with Kari Sutton who has worked with thousands of parents and educators to plant the seeds of resilience and emotional wellbeing in kids.
Guest: Kari Sutton, Author, Researcher, Parent Educator
Kari has helped over 25,000 parents, educators, and others who care for kids to develop the skills and confidence to promote positive mental health habits.
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Tuning in to Kids® (TIK) is a suite of parenting programs that focus on the emotional connection between parents/carers and their children, from pre-schoolers to teens. The evidence-based programs have proven success in improving parenting, parent-child relationships and children’s emotional competence and behaviour.
They began in 1999 as group sessions but with the pandemic have successfully made the shift to online training which means the programs are available to everyone.
To date, more than 100,000 parents have attended TIK programs in Australia
Guest: Sophie Havigshurst, (BA Hons, Dip Clin Psych, Ph.D.)
Leader of the Tuning in to Kids® Research and Dissemination
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Imagine you live downstream from a factory that makes widgets. You keep seeing widgets in the river near where you live. Your natural solution to this problem would be to go upstream to the factory, make them aware of the problem, and insist or help them fix it.
We don’t do that with our children. Instead, to solve behavioural issues we often resort to spankings, detentions, timeouts, suspensions, even restraint.
Collaborative & Proactive Solutions is an evidence-based model of psychosocial treatment that doesn’t focus on kids’ challenging behaviours but on the problems causing those behaviours. A solution that goes upstream, not downstream.
Guest: Kim Hopkins-Betts, LICSW, Lives in the Balance Director of Outreach
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Imagine your child still hasn’t cleaned their room although you’ve asked them to numerous times. You probably don’t need to imagine. You remind them again, this time in a stronger tone, perhaps even demanding. And they either don’t or they do but the communication between you is strained.
Another approach to this might be the “Curiosity Approach.” Your child doesn’t care about a clean room, they care that it’s THEIR room. They care about the ownership of it. So imagine interacting with your child on the possibilities they could do with THEIR room. Possibilities they realize for themselves can only happen if they straighten some things up.
The Curiosity Approach is just one of the tools Life Coach Ellie Bambury uses working with parents and their kids to help them forge real communication.
Guest: Ellie Bambury, The Big Sister ProjectInstagram: @thebigsisterproject_
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Dr Stanley Greenspan was a specialist in children’s social / emotional health. He proved it’s our social and emotional systems that drive childhood development. Not just our emotional health but also our neurological and physical health. Dr Greenspan went on to create a model to identify what social / emotional health is.
His son Jake became involved as he became older and started his career as a teacher working with children who had developmental challenges. Jake saw that the systems in place to help, weren’t helping at all. Instead, they were built to work around the child’s challenges.
In this episode Jake explains that with a better understanding of neuroplasticity we now understand that we don’t need to “work around” the challenges children have – they can genuinely take on those challenges and overcome them.
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Much maligned are New Year’s resolutions. But that overall idea of setting time aside to plot life goals, specifically goals that are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely, is a good one.
In this episode Kate and guest Tracy Noon talk through the ideas of goal setting at year-end, and how that concept may or may not work for specific personalities.
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When it comes to Christmas… and your kids… and Santa...
Do you believe in magic? Or do you believe honesty should prevail?
In this episode Kate checks in with several previous guests to learn their family traditions and preferences when it comes to Santa and kids.
Ho Ho Ho?
or No No No?
Guests:Caitlin Samson
Evangeline Mantzioris
Rebecca English
Sara Best
Sarah Wallwork
Stephanie Pinto
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There's nothing like giving or receiving a gift where the first words that come to mind are “Is this returnable?”
Gift giving is actually pretty hard. You need to know the person. What do they like? Dislike? What do they use? Do they like practicality in a present? Romanticism?
In this episode Kate chats with family members and some close friends to understand their favourite gifts received… and their worst.
Guests:Camille Austin
Jack Mason (Kate’s son)
Cassie Mason (Kate’s daughter)
Mary Ann Lomax
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They’re different things stress and anxiety. In general stress is a response to an external cause, anxiety is a person’s reaction to stress – it’s internal.
The most important thing is to recognize the signs of anxiety in your children and in yourself.
In this episode Kate talks with emotional intelligence parent coach and paediatric anxiety therapist Stephanie Pinto.
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What are you feeling right now… and why?
Such a simple question but a complex answer and even more elaborate is the way our emotions and our reactions impact those around us.
Emotional Intelligence or EQ is the ability to understand, use, and manage your emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict.
This episodes, guest, Stephanie Pinto, helps parents bring back calm and connection with their kids
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The trickiest times for communication with our children are when we’re stressed or angry. What’s happening during those moments in our brains? What’s happening inside our child’s brain?
Sarah Best joins Kate to talk about effective communication, how to be both firm and kind, how to offer ideas to our children, and even how to say “No” effectively.
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Freely chosen play is when a child decides and controls their play following their instincts, imagination, and interests. No adult leadership. No right or wrong way to play. Just play.
Play improves the cognitive, physical, social, and emotional well-being of children and young people (little secret, it helps adults too).
It is play that helps children develop confidence, self-esteem, physical fitness, agility, and social skills like exploring their feelings and how to express themselves.
In this episode Kate talks with author Sarah Best, an early childhood change activist, conscious parenting advocate in New Zealand, and founder of Children Change.
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Advocates can find the advantages; critics can easily point out the flaws.
In the wake of the COVID experience, more parents are choosing the path of home education (that’s the preferred term). While a precise definition differs, there are some key elements to home education that separate it from distance education and pandemic schooling.
In this episode, Kate talks with Rebecca English, a senior lecturer in the School of Teacher Education & Leadership in the Faculty of CI, Education & Social Justice at Queensland University of Technology.
Guest: Rebecca English, Ph.D.Ph.D. in Philosophy from Griffith University. Masters from Queensland University of Technology (QUT). Post Grad in Education from QUT. Graduate Certificate in Research Management from Southern Cross University. Bachelor of Business from QUT.
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Any restaurant food server will tell you/ Table of four? Four different food intolerances and allergies. One is gluten free, the other is dairy free, another might be a vegetarian or allergic to nuts, or something else.
Food intolerances are different from allergic reactions, they don’t involve the immune system.
In this episode Kate talks with Dr Evangeline Mantzioris from South Australia University. She’s dedicated a lifetime to understanding food intolerances, whether they’re really increasing as they seem to be, and what we can do about them.
Guest: Dr Evangeline MantziorisProgram Director of the Nutrition and Food Sciences Degree at the University of South Australia. Dr Mantzioris is an Accredited Practicing Dietitian (APD) and Sports Dietitian (ACCSD).
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Your son trips and grazes his knee.
Your daughter bumps her head on the table.
There’s that moment of silence before the tears flow. Often, they sneak a glance at you for your reaction. Do you make a fuss? Or tell them to “walk it off”?
Sarah Wallwork is a physiotherapist and clinical pain neuroscientist at the University of South Australia. She and her team in Adelaide conducted a study asking 18 international experts from child health, psychology, development, resilience, as well as parents and educators, what parents and caregivers can do to promote recovery and resilience after minor pains or injury.
How parents and caregivers communicate with their children about pain and injury is important to how well they’re able to recover. We can help children become active participants in their recovery which leads to stronger resiliency.
Guest: Sarah Wallwork, Ph.D. (clinical pain neuroscience)
Dr Wallwork is a Post-doctoral Research Fellow in the Body in Mind research group at the University of South Australia. https://people.unisa.edu.au/sarah.wallwork
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Our kids are going to grow up just like us – sick and tired of being sick and tired.
Digestive wellness, chronic wellness, food intolerances – these can all begin when we are children. As parents we can help our kids get the best start.
In this episode Kate talks with Caitlin Samson, a Clinical Nutritionist and Exercise Physiologist with over ten years experience in the health and wellness field.
Guest: Caitlin SamsonCaitlin has a master’s degree in Applied Clinical Nutrition and another in Exercise Science. She is the author of two bestselling cookbooks on rheumatoid arthritis. Her own healing health journey is what started her interest in nutrition. She no longer suffers from autoimmune disease, digestive issues, PCOS or fatigue. She is the owner and founder of True Food and Wellness in Atlanta, Georgia providing nutritional services to all ages with specialties in digestive wellness, autoimmune conditions, and women and children’s health.
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In August 2017, Chris Yandle wrote a short little note to his grade 8 daughter and slipped it into her backpack.
“Dear Addy, treat everyone like they are the most important person you’ll ever meet. Love Dad.”
She liked the note, so he kept writing them.
“Dear Addy, right is right, even if no one does it. Wrong is wrong even if everyone does it. Right isn’t always going to be popular but it’s better than wrong. Love Dad.”
“Dear Addy, you’re a diamond, dear. No one can break you. Love Dad.”
The notes hit the right note. Four years later Chris realized he had 900 notes – enough for a book.
Lucky Enough: A Year of a Dad’s Daily Notes of Encouragement and Life Lessons to His Daughter, has now sold globally, it’s being translated into Korean, and it’s sparked a media blaze of coverage throughout the United States on national television and newspapers.
What is it about these notes that make them so relatable for all of us?
Guest: Chris Yandle, Ph.D.https://www.bychrisyandle.com/
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The MBTI can be a useful tool for understanding and even raising our children. Just like us they have preferred personality tendencies. Some children fall under the J for Judging. They prefer structure. Others fall under the P for Perceiving. They prefer feelings and emotion.
Overall, most children are balanced but understanding their preferred or initial tendency can help you understand your children a lot.
In this episode Kate continues her conversation with Jan Terkelsen who has used the MBTI to understand work situations, her relationships, and even her children.
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Dr Seuss once wrote “You are the youiest you.” It’s a great phrase reinforcing there is no one else completely like you. In our relationships we forget that sometimes. We expect our children and partners to be as excited as us about something or respond just as quickly (or slowly) as we had hoped.
But they too are the “youiest,” versions of themselves.
For our spousal, parenting, and even friendship relationships to success, we need to embrace how people naturally are.
In this episode Kate talks with Jan Terkelsen. Jan has spent two decades working with leaders and their teams. One tool she uses often is the MBTI. It can offer insight into your personal preferences and help you identify why some relationships are clicking, and others need more work.
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Attention is critical to children in the development of cognitive skills – it’s the development of their ability to process sensory information which leads to better memory, problem solving, and general thinking. It makes sense “Attention” needs to be regarded like vision or hearing.
Attention training has been around for years, but a new method is emerging that’s having success. Digital therapeutics – Licensed professional counselors available more often, accessible from your home (just like a house call).
Over the last five years TALi Health in Australia has been developing technology based on more than a quarter century of behaviour and cognitive science research.
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Every habit you have, good or bad, follows the same three-stage pattern. First, something reminds you have an action you’ve taken before which triggers the habit. Second is the route of the action – you’ve done this before; you can anticipate the reward. And third is the reward itself which create future anticipation.
With a bad habit that could unfold as you walk by the cupboard, spy a bag of chips, decide to just have a couple but end up eating half the bag. Replace that with a good habit and it may unfold as you see the bag of chips and congratulate yourself they haven’t been opened yet or you haven’t indulged. Bad habits tend to be rewarded more quickly than good ones.
We are creatures of habit and our family members are too. In this episode Kate talks with Peter Daniels of Lead Australia, a specialist personality and development company.
Guest Peter Daniels
With 40+ years business and sales experience, Peter is head of Lead Australia, a specialist Personal and Business Development company providing one-on-one and group coaching programs for businesses large and small.
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Persuasion is important in our relationships, particularly with family. If we have no say, we're forced to go along with what others want all the time. And finding a happy blend is always possible if we listen and share.
In this episode Kate talks with Peter Daniels, a natural-born salesman. Peter shares a positive approach to sales that builds relationships.
Guest Peter Daniels
With 40+ years business and sales experience, Peter is head of Lead Australia, a specialist Personal and Business Development company provi9ding one-on-one and group coaching programs for businesses large and small.
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Bel found her expression through Art Therapy only after a career that began with an interest in film making but then evolved into working with youth in schools and women in children in paediatric and palliative care.
Art Therapy became the perfect tonic for her mixing personal passion with a profession that makes a difference.
Bel finds some to who enroll in her art therapy classes have little confidence in their artistic abilities – but they’re often the ones who need precisely that kind of therapy the most. It’s been missing from their lives. People find reflection, insight, and expression.
Corporations hire her to provide classes for their teams. And what begin a team building exercises through art, sometimes become powerful experiences that help shape business strategies as people embrace the use of hands-on experience with creative exploration to express things they can’t normally express. Problems are uncovered and solutions found.
Art helps people go beyond the cognitive.
Bel shares her story in this episode hoping it might help you find how your passion and your profession can become one.
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The imaginary door on the imaginary fire truck won’t open.
You cut the toast… wrong.
The cat cheated to win the game.
These are some of the things toddlers have tantrums over.
Most young children have tantrums and they aren’t an indication your parenting skills are lacking. You can try to prevent them by observing your child’s emotions and helping them reduce stress but when it comes to reacting? Well that’s the trickiest part.
In this episode Kate talks with Maryann Lomax with some strong ideas on how to prevent and respond to the tantrums our children throw… without throwing our own tantrums.
Guest: Maryann Lomax
Maryann has a Bachelor of Teaching degree with a major in drama and music. She was the inaugural director of a private school early learning centre in Adelaide, leading that team for 26 years. For 12 years she headed up a multi-disciplinary team at Regency Park Centre in Adelaide. today she also works with children with special rights and adaptations to curriculum.
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We want them to be strong. We want them to succeed, to be self-aware, optimistic and calm under stress.
We want them to know the difference between they’ve bumped their elbow and when they really need to ask for help.
Teaching our kids to be resilient will help them now and forever as they grow into strong adults, and maybe help their own kids learn resilience some day to succeed in the World
In this episode Kate talks with Maryann Lomax about ways to help our kids learn resilience, and maybe a few ways we can become stronger too.
Guest: Maryann Lomax
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These are the Five Parenting Styles currently used in Child Psychology today based on the work of Diana Baumrind, and Stanford researchers Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin.
The Supporting and Nurturing parent.
The Authoritarian parent.
The Permissive parent.
The Disengaged or Uninvolved parent.
The Overinvolved or “Helicopter” parent.
These are the five styles identified by child psychologists. Of course, we all think we’re the supporting and nurturing parent… most of the time…
If we’re honest though we know we have weaknesses or weak moments.
How do we detect these behaviours in ourselves and how can we make the adjustments we need to make?
In this episode Kate talks with an expert in early learning and development about the parenting styles that can be the most helpful for you.
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Normy sure knows how to live. He grew up in Canada, well no it was the United States, but then Canada again, then Europe, then the Middle East, then Korea, then Australia…
While most of us find a comfortable rhythm to what we’re doing that kind of lifestyle where you’re always changing thing does sound kind of … exotic? It appeals most to a certain personality type – an ENFP.
In this episode Kate talks with her pal Normy who dared to imagine living the kind of life he really wanted to live. Even when he was a teenager, in Grade 11 he forged his parents’ signatures so he could travel to Europe. They finally tracked him down in Greece.
Normy hasn’t been everywhere… but it’s on his list.
Guest: Norman Jalbuena
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One of the easiest ways to do this is to understand yourself, how you learn, and how your child learns. In this episode Kate continues her conversation with New Zealand’s Karen Tui Boyes about how she helps parents in their role to encourage their kids in lifelong learning.
We’re not all built the same and once we understand one another’s personal preferences, magic can happen.
Guest: Karen Tui BoyesKaren is a former teacher and now an international speaker based in New Zealand. But her love for teaching has never waned. She provides presentations for educators, study skills for students and helps businesses achieve corporate success. In 2019 she was named New Zealand’s Speaker of the Year.
Karen’s podcast Teachers Matter
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Learning Styles. Lots has been written about these and you’ve probably read more than a few articles about them.
For teachers, learning styles of their students is critical for the success of their students. Same goes for parents and their children.
In this first episode of two parts, Karen Tui Boyes shares nine ideas for how you can help your student, or child, do better in school – ideas that align with their personal preferences for learning.
Guest: Karen Tui BoyesKaren is a former teacher and now an international speaker based in New Zealand. But her love for teaching has never waned. She provides presentations for educators, study skills for students and helps businesses achieve corporate success. In 2019 she was named New Zealand’s Speaker of the Year.
Karen’s podcast Teachers Matter
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The Four Temperaments. Almost sounds like a popular Motown group from the 60’s doesn’t it? It’s a actually a proto-psychological theory the Greek physician Hippocrates to describe personality types.
Melancholic personalities are precise, conscientious, and cautious. They make good surgeons.
Phlegmatic personalities are steady and supportive. Calm and unflappable in a crisis
Sanguine personalities are influential and inspiring. They bring personality to the table.
And Choleric personalities are the people who make things happen. Leaders. Sometimes very dominant.
In this episode Kate looks at the four Temperaments and describes how sometimes they can even overlap,
Here's the personality quiz Kate mentions
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Grace under pressure.
What a skill to have. Some people have it, many don't.
When life throws you a curve how do you respond? Stress impacts us all differently. And stress, handled the wrong way, is difficult and in some cases, dangerous.
In this episode of Personalities Parenting and Partners, host Kate Mason discusses how to navigate life's landmines, without lasting or devastating repercussions.
Remember, it's a skill, and just like any other skill, it needs to be refined, reworked and sometimes reinvented.
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We ALL have a story to tell.
We all have a story in us. Our story.
But, putting pen to paper, or really, putting fingertips to keyboard, isn't easy. In fact, it's work.
That said, crafting a manuscript can be one of the most rewarding things you could ever do.
In this episode of Personalities, Parenting and Partners, host Kate Mason introduces us to Kelly Irving. She takes listeners on a journey of life, laughs and the written word. And how to manage your manuscript.
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Kelly Irving helps change makers author work that matters and makes an impact. As a bestselling-book coach, editor, and creator of The Expert Author Academy she nurtures writers from idea to implementation, with camaraderie and (firm but friendly) butt-kicking built into every step. Her work results in global book awards and major publisher deals (she has never had a book pitch rejected), and transforms businesses from 6- to 7-figure turnovers. Most importantly, it empowers authors to produce work that enriches both their life and others.
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Why wouldn't you "play" your strongest card in the game of life?
Of course you would!
But, here's the thing... do you know exactly what card that is ? That's the real trick.
Leaning into your character strengths and virtues is something all of us should be doing.
In this terrific episode of Personalities, Parenting and Partners, host Kate Mason speaks with Stephanie Noon, a former public relations professional, turned parent, turned Life Coach.
Together they take listeners on an impactful journey on how to stop, listen and lean into your Character Strengths and Virtues.
The Via Character Strengths Survey: https://www.viacharacter.org/
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It’s a landmine. A language landmine.
We're talking about the difference between advice and coaching. For example, how many times have you said or heard these words… “I don’t want your advice, but I sure could use some coaching.” Or visa versa. You can see the two just aren’t the same.
In this episode, Kate helps us navigate through the subtle, but strategic differences between offering coaching and giving advice. She explores the impact of identifying what advice or coaching sounds like and how to effectively leverage one or the other.
Guest: Tracy Noon, Director, twelve ten consulting
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We are all in Sales. Whether your job requires you to sell goods or services or if your sales strategies are focused on selling ideas – we are all salespeople at different points in each day.
The key to sales of course is knowing the needs of the person(s) you’re selling to, knowing your good, service, or idea, and making them match.
Knowing the different personality types and their preferences through the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) can make a world of difference in our success rate.
In this episode Kate walks us through how to use the MBTI to make sure our ideas are clearly understood in someone’s preferred style of thinking, and she talks with Catherine Plumb who works as an Interior Designer. She shares her approach to selling ideas to her clients and how the MBTI makes all the difference.
Guest: Catherine Plumb
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It can happen so easily. You have something in mind… whether it’s an event, an interaction or even leaving simple, like instructions for someone to follow. But when the result isn’t what you expect, then resentment can easily follow. It happens, right? In this episode of Personalities, Parenting and Partners, Host Kate Mason offers easy, effective, and memorable tips on how to reduce resentment when we explore the world of expectations.
Maree Burgess can be reached at: maree@mareeburgess.com
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Is there a right way and wrong way of dealing with conflict? What do you think? Of course there is.
The problem with dealing with conflict is you’re likely in conflict when dealing with it. How’s that for chasing your tail? No matter how hard we try to avoid it or welcome it with open arms, conflict is part of life, right?
In this episode of Personalities, Parenting and Partners host Kate Mason talks about the importance of awareness of personality type differences, especially in conflict. And how to try to avoid the conflict that escalates and creates rifts in relationships.
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You’re easy going, light and lively and as carefree as they come. You’re daily planner changes with the wind. Who’s kidding who, you don’t have a daily planner.
But your partner is as detailed as an architect’s drawing. Everything daily chore meticulously managed and mapped out.
In this episode of Personalities, Parenting and Partners host Kate Mason looks through the lens of J and P…. judging and perception. And explains how the two can not only survive, but thrive!
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We continue our discussion about a topic that’s worthy of a closer look. The fact is, if you and your partner want to take your relationship to a level that’s lasting, you need to know the languages of love, and what language each other speaks.
In this episode of Personalities, Partners and Parenting, host Kate Mason continues her talk with Karen Tui Boyes. Together, they explore the skills in how to use the languages of love to the best of your ability.
Guest: Karen Tui Boyes
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You may know what love feels like, how it impacts you, how this powerful emotion takes you on a wild roller coaster ride of highs and lows. But do you know how to speak or use the various languages of love? Do you know what it looks and sounds like?
In this episode of Personalities, Partners and Parenting, host Kate Mason talks about the Language of Love. She explores the skills in how to use it and recognize it in you and in your partner. What language of love do you speak?
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Life erupts, and you’re faced with a decision. Which lens are you looking through? What’s your 'go-to'? Are you a Feeler or are you a Thinker? It makes a big difference on the road to problem-solving, especially in a relationship.
In this episode of Personalities, Partners and Parenting, host Kate Mason walks listeners through the process of how Feelers and Thinkers handle life’s landmines differently. Not right or wrong... just differently.
Guest: Ariana Cannan
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You’re practical, well, somewhat. Your partner is not, at least not as much as you’d like.
If opposites attract, why are you driving each other crazy and how is it you’re not able to connect when it comes to your thinking.
In this episode, host Kate Mason looks at Sensing and Intuition. Depending on which category you fall under, will also depend on how you view the world.
The question is, how do you ensure you’re in tune with the “other person’s views”, even though you may never really agree?
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The reality is, many of the things you found attractive in your partner in the first phase of love...don’t last. The work begins in the next stage of the relationship. That’s how it works.
In this episode of Personalities, Partners and Parenting, host Kate Mason says that depending on your energy, your outlook, even your approach, your next steps will vary. It all comes down to one question: Are you an extrovert or an introvert?
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We perceive the world, and the people we know in it, in our own unique way. There are lots of social inputs such as our culture, our religion, our friends, what we engage with on social media, education, and our learned life biases.
The truth is we’re not always right. We know that. But understanding our own innate personality, as well as the personalities of those we engage with, can help us create harmony in the places we work and live.
In this episode, we look at the ways we communicate (beyond the words we use) and the ways we understand - and misunderstand - every moment of our lives.
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Have you heard of it? The Egg Story?
It has nothing to do with the chicken or what came first. This story is about that powerful, impossible and life-changing emotion, we all call Love. And how that four-letter word...that feeling...that place...can scramble our thoughts, our behaviours...our everything.
In this debut episode of Personalities, Partners and Parenting, your podcast host and author Kate Mason takes you through the first moments of love and what we do when we’re in it. And then reminds us all, that true love doesn’t really begin until the “in-love” experience ends.
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