Speaking of Teens: Recent Episodes
Ann Coleman
Host, Ann Coleman is a former family law and adoption attorney who, after counseling hundreds of clients through difficult situations, found herself lacking when it came to parenting her own struggling teenager. In 2018, she founded neurogility.com and began picking apart hundreds of scientific studies, academic journal articles, and stacks of books to learn everything she could about adolescents and the best ways to guide them to adulthood. In this podcast she’ll help you better understand your teen or tween and explore what it takes to guide them to adulthood (spoiler alert: it’s more than money and patience!)
In this episode, I'm breaking down one of the most emotionally charged challenges parents face...teen friendship drama...and sharing exactly what to do (and what not to do) when your teenager comes home in tears over a falling out with their friend group.
You'll also learn why social rejection genuinely feels life-threatening to the adolescent brain, how boys and girls navigate friend conflicts differently, the ins and outs of "popularity" and more.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
3-Session Coaching Package - 3, hour-long one-to-one coaching sessions with me, Ann Coleman to help you through whatever issues you are currently expereincing with your teenager.
1-hour of One-to-One Coaching - If you just need a quick, 1-hour coaching session to figure out a specific issue with your teen, book a call with me.
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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In this episode, I'll completely flip your understanding of teen discipline — because if grounding, taking the phone, punishing, and lecturing haven't worked, it's not because you haven't tried hard enough, it's because those approaches are working against your teen's developing brain.
Today I'm breaking down exactly why traditional punishment backfires every single time, what teen brain development actually means for your parenting approach, and what discipline is truly supposed to accomplish.
I'll walk you through why your teenager's impulsive, emotional, and sometimes baffling behavior isn't defiance — it's a skill deficit rooted in an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex — and I'll show you what actually works instead.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
3-Session Coaching Package - 3, hour-long one-to-one coaching sessions with me, Ann Coleman to help you through whatever issues you are currently expereincing with your teenager.
1-hour of One-to-One Coaching - If you just need a quick, 1-hour coaching session to figure out a specific issue with your teen, book a call with me.
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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In this episode, I'm sharing some of the most powerful, science-backed strategies you can use to help motivate your teen to change their relationship with substances — without the yelling, punishing, lecturing, or ultimatums that likely haven't been working.
Drawing from the highly regarded book Beyond Addiction, I walk you through two of the most effective tools available to parents of teens struggling with drug or alcohol use: motivational interviewing and the CRAFT method (Community Reinforcement and Family Training), which research has shown to be more effective than traditional intervention approaches and Al-Anon.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
3-Session Coaching Package - 3, hour-long one-to-one coaching sessions with me, Ann Coleman to help you through whatever issues you are currently expereincing with your teenager.
1-hour of One-to-One Coaching - If you just need a quick, 1-hour coaching session to figure out a specific issue with your teen, book a call with me.
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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Today I’ll explain exactly what to do when you discover your teen is drinking, vaping, or using drugs. You’ll learn how to have a calm, connected conversation with your teen, how to understand why your teen is using substances, how to approach them with empathy instead of confrontation, and practical strategies to keep them safe while maintaining trust.
I also review the critical mistakes we parents make in this situation, and how to set boundaries without pushing them away. This step-by-step guide will help you navigate this scary situation with science-backed strategies that protect both your teen's wellbeing and your connection with them.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
3-Session Coaching Package - 3, hour-long one-to-one coaching sessions with me, Ann Coleman to help you through whatever issues you are currently expereincing with your teenager.
1-hour of One-to-One Coaching - If you just need a quick, 1-hour coaching session to figure out a specific issue with your teen, book a call with me.
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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In today's episode I break down the neuroscience behind why teens are so vulnerable to substance use—and explain what you can actually do about it.
If you're worried about your teen using alcohol, vaping, or marijuana, this episode is for you.
I explain how the adolescent brain's reward system, weak prefrontal cortex, and neuroplasticity create the perfect storm for risky behavior.
But here's the good news: the majority of teens do NOT use substances, and I'm sharing 4 science-backed strategies to help your teen stay in that majority.
You can watch this episode on YouTube as well!
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
3-Session Coaching Package - 3, hour-long one-to-one coaching sessions with me, Ann Coleman to help you through whatever issues you are currently expereincing with your teenager.
1-hour of One-to-One Coaching - If you just need a quick, 1-hour coaching session to figure out a specific issue with your teen, book a call with me.
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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Today I'm going to share why your teenager seems so lazy and unmotivated, and what you can actually do about it that won't backfire.
I'll explain what's happening in that unmotivated brain of theirs and why punishment, rewards, and nagging to get them to do their homework or study are only making things worse.
Plus, I'll walk you through Dr. Adam Price's (author of "He's Not Lazy") proven 8-step framework for helping unmotivated teens develop internal drive.
Listen to learn how to motivate your teenager without destroying your parent-teen relationship.
You can watch this episode on YouTube as well!
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
3-Session Coaching Package - 3, hour-long one-to-one coaching sessions with me, Ann Coleman to help you through whatever issues you are currently expereincing with your teenager.
1-hour of One-to-One Coaching - If you just need a quick, 1-hour coaching session to figure out a specific issue with your teen, book a call with me.
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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In this episode, I explain how you may be unwittingly overparenting (aka, helicopter parenting) your teen—and why doing too much for or controlling your teenager actually sets them up for failure as a young adult.
I'll explain what helicopter parenting really looks like and the psychological damage it causes to our teens, young adults, or college-age kids. You'll also learn practical strategies to stop overparenting, reduce parent-teen conflict, and raise confident teenagers who can handle life's challenges.
You can watch this episode on YouTube as well!
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
3-Session Coaching Package - 3, hour-long one-to-one coaching sessions with me, Ann Coleman to help you through whatever issues you are currently expereincing with your teenager.
1-hour of One-to-One Coaching - If you just need a quick, 1-hour coaching session to figure out a specific issue with your teen, book a call with me.
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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It seems reasonable and logical that drug testing your teenager at home could keep them safe or at least keep them accountable.
However, the opposite is actually true.
Today I discuss the damage we cause when we drug test our teens at home and why drug testing is simply not practical and isn't the solution you may think it is.
I'll also explain what you should do instead if you want to decrease the likelihood of your teen participating in risky behaviors.
This episode (here on YouTube) will be helpful for you whether substances are an issue with your teen or not. The general principals I talk about can be applied to any similar situation.
Listen to episode 178 (having a conversation with your teen about their substance use)
Listen to episode 183 and 184 on the CRAFT Method
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
3-Session Coaching Package - 3, hour-long one-to-one coaching sessions with me, Ann Coleman to help you through whatever issues you are currently expereincing with your teenager.
1-hour of One-to-One Coaching - If you just need a quick, 1-hour coaching session to figure out a specific issue with your teen, book a call with me.
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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Today is the eighth and final episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series.
If your teen shuts down around you, keeps things from you, has big emotional reactions to everything you say, or is acting out in risky ways, you probably have a connection problem.
In today's episode, I explain exactly what connection means, why it's critical for parenting emotional teens, and how to build it (even when your teenager wants nothing to do with you).
Listen and learn science backed strategies to build your connection, strengthen your relationship and gain more influence in your teen's life.
You can also watch this series on YouTube.
Emotion Coaching episode on YouTube or listen to episode 239
Free parenting guide "Emotion Coaching"
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Today is the seventh episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series.
If you're dealing with a teenager who seems to push back against everything you say, punishment or consequences aren’t the answer and will probably make things worse.
In this episode, I'll explain why traditional discipline backfires with teenagers and what actually works instead.
You'll learn why punishment creates rebellion in teens and what to do instead. You can end the constant power struggles by learning how to support your teen’s autonomy while staying connected and improving their behavior.
You can also watch this series on YouTube.
Check out episodes 14 and 91 for more about backing up and allowing natural consequences.
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Today is the sixth episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series.
Do you feel helpless in the face of your teen's emotional meltdowns?
Today, I'll teach you a scientifically proven technique for helping your teen actually calm down. It's called emotion coaching and it will transform how you handle your teenager's big feelings and emotional outbursts.
We're going to discuss the 10 steps I believe are crucial for you to get this right and see major change in your teen.
You can also watch this series on YouTube.
Download the free parenting guide: "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Today is the fifth episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series.
Want to stop the power struggles with your teen? The secret isn't changing them—it's changing YOU. In this episode, discover how your thoughts, emotions, and reactions directly influence your teenager's behavior.
I'll show you how to reappraise situations, manage stress, and create the space you need to respond thoughtfully instead of emotionally.
You can also watch this series on YouTube.
And be sure to listen to the following helpful episodes as well:
Episodes 30, 102, 120, and 127
Download the free parenting guide: "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Today is the fourth episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series. (Previous episodes in the series: 234, 235, and 236)
If you're constantly battling with your teenager and their behavior seems to be getting worse instead of better, the problem might not be your teen—it might be your approach.
In today's episode I'll explain why supporting your teen's autonomy is the key to reducing conflict, staying connected, and actually improving their behavior in the long run.
I'll give you 8 actionable strategies to support their autonomy while also keeping them safe...including what to do instead of punishing them.
You can also watch this series on YouTube.
And be sure to listen to the following helpful episodes as well:
Episodes 15 16 22 94 and 148
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Today is the third episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series. (Previous episodes in the series: 234 and 235)
Why do teens do such “stupid” things? Why do they take such risks? In this episode I explain the science behind why your teenager does dangerous, stupid, or reckless things—from driving too fast to sneaking out to experimenting with drugs and alcohol.
Learn how your teen's reward system and "social system" of their brain are turbocharged during adolescence, making them willing to take risks with friends that they'd never take alone.
I'll explore why lecturing your teen about risks doesn't work, and instead share proven strategies that actually help teens avoid dangerous situations.
You can also watch this series on YouTube.
4-part audio podcast series on Connection:
Episodes 104, 106, 108, and 110
Episode 95 on Emotion Coaching
Free guide, "Emotion Coaching"
Episode 114 on Vaping Refusal Skills (applicable to many behaviors-be sure to check out the resources at the bottom of this page)
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button,
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Today is the second episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series. If you're struggling with your teen's anger, emotional outbursts, and irrational behavior, this episode will help you understand and manage better.
I'll explain the neuroscience behind your teenager's emotionally driven misbehavior...including how your teen's overactive amygdala (the brain's threat detector) and underdeveloped prefrontal cortex create the perfect storm for emotional dysregulation, impulsive reactions, and daily meltdowns.
By the end of this episode you'll have more compassion and empathy for what you're teen's going through so that you can manage your own emotional reactions to their behavior.
You can also watch this series on YouTube.
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
Download my free guide, "The Challenging Adolescent Brain"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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Thanks so much for listening!
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Today is the first episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series. I'm revisiting this series that I first published back in episodes 130 through 137.
I'll be walking you through the basics that we cover in my course, The Field Guide for Teens, that you get inside Parent Camp. This is the framework I formulated over thousands of hours of research , which has helped change the relationship between so many parents and their teens.
If you need help getting back to the basics and renewing your determination to change things with your teen, then jump into this series today and stay tuned for the rest over the next several weeks.
You can also watch this series on YouTube.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
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Thanks so much for listening!
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Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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I made some critical mistakes with our teenage son when we were struggling with his behavior issues. Some of us are so deeply entrenched in certain parenting strategies that we don't even recognize they're not effective (and may actually be making things worse).
Life is so busy that we're usually in "reaction" mode and have little time to think in advance or look for a better way to do things. In today's episode, I'll help you understand at least some of the mistakes that you should avoid at all costs.
From not fully understanding their behavior...to thinking "consequences" will do the trick, these are some of the most common mistakes parents make while raising teenagers.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
Thanks so much for listening!
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Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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Are you struggling with difficult teen behavior, constant conflict, and feeling like nothing you do actually works?
In today's episode I explain that the secret to better teen behavior isn't administering the right consequences or enforcing stricter rules—it's developing your own emotional regulation skills. Your emotions and your emotional reactions directly impact your teenager's behavior and mental health.
Listen to the episode to learn the science-backed techniques that will help you become more emotionally aware and regulated. Mastering your emotional world is the parenting skill that changes everything.
Grab my free Emotional Awareness Strategies guide to start implementing these techniques immediately.
Read the related Substack, Your Mindset and Your Teen's Behavior, dated 9-23-25.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Are smartphones and social media really destroying teen mental health, or are we panicking as we have many times in the past?
From novels, radio, and comic books, to TV violence, and violent video games...they've all been blamed for corrupting teenage minds and harming their mental health.
Listen to today's episode to understand why the current research on teen mental health, smart phones, and social media is far from definitive and discover a more balanced approach to helping your teenager navigate their digital world safely.
Read the related Substack, A Different Take on Teen Screentime, dated 9-16-25.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
A calm, structured, predictable home life is as important for teens and tweens as it is for children. Scientific research shows that the opposite will have a negative effect on adolescent's mental health and overall wellbeing and could lead to behavioral issues.
In today's episode I talk about 5 ways you can interject more calm into your home with teens to help alleviate their stress (and yours) and improve their chances of avoiding negative outcomes.
These tips will not only help reign in the chaos but will improve the relationship with your kids and teens.
Read the related Substack, Creating a Low-Stress Home for Teen Mental Health, dated 9-9-25.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Struggling to get your teen or tween to school? You're not alone.
If your teen is refusing to get out of bed for school, constantly leaving early, or complaining of physical symptoms like headaches and stomach aches when it's time for school, this isn't laziness or defiance—it's likely school refusal, a real emotional and physical response that affects up to 25% of teens aged 13 to 18.
Listen in as I explain the difference between school refusal and truancy, reveal the underlying issue driving this behavior, and provide actionable strategies for parents feeling pressured by schools and unsure of their options.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen.
Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
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SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Thoughts lead to emotions, which lead to actions. If we don't take time to examine our thinking, we can become stuck in some very unproductive cycles in parenting our teenagers (and in other relationships).
Just because we think something doesn't make it true or correct. And if our thoughts are untrue, what does that mean for our emotions and behavior?
Today I talk about how cognitive biases, distortions, assumptions and shortcuts in our thinking can keep us in some very negative cycles of emotions and behavior. The more you think about your thinking, the more emotionally aware you become, which leads to greater emotional regulation.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
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SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Neurotypical teens, teens without any mental health disorders at all, experience emotional dysregulation from time to time (some more than others). This is simply a byproduct of their changing brain and an oversensitive threat detector (the brain's amygdala).
But teens with ADHD, certain mood disorders, and personality disorders are much more likely to experience intense mood swings and even more pronounced emotional dysregulation. And that's not the only symptom overlap between these disorders.
As you can imagine, this can cause real issues for a professional diagnosis and for parents trying to find an answer and help for their teens and tweens.
Today I'm going to talk to you about the problem with getting a definitive diagnosis. Plus, I want to tell you about one seldomly mentioned symptom of ADHD that only adds to the confusion and baffles many mental health professionals.
It's critical for you to be aware of these confounding issues so you insure your teen receives the proper treatment.
Free parenting Guide - "Giant Book of Parenting ADHD Teens"
Free parenting guide - "Your Teen and Anxiety"
Free parenting guide - "Emotion Coaching"
Free parenting guide - "Understanding Your Teen's Brain"
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
I talked about parenting out of fear in the very first episode of this podcast. Because my own fear is what led me down such a long hard path with my son, I wanted to make sure you were aware of the issues it causes. Now that I've been able to work for a couple of years on refining this message, I'm back to share again why we must not let our anxious thoughts derail our parenting.
This issue comes up over and over in the Speaking of Teens Facebook group and in Parent Camp. Fear for our Teenager's future, about how they're messing up, and screwing up their life, etc. - it's something so many of us have dealt with at one time or another. And that fear causes us to feel like if we don't do something major or do something right this minute, we're going to lose our child, let them down, allow them to mess up everything and ruin their life.
And guess what happens when you start thinking that way? You question, assume, lecture, snoop, track, yell, punish, and overreact. That behavior, in turn, builds an impenetrable wall between you and your teen and increases their negative behavior.
In this episode, I’ll help you figure out if you are parenting out of fear, explain how it impacts the relationship with your teen and their behavior. Most importantly, I'll explain how to turn things around if your fear has already caused a backlash with your teen.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be r
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
When someone hurts your child, physically or emotionally, no matter if they're 10 or 25, you want it to stop immediately.
And bullying is one of those things you may not even be aware of. You won't see it and you won't likely even know about it unless your teen or tween tells you.
In this episode, I'll tell you what to watch out for, how to talk to your teen about their bullying problem and give you step by step instructions for dealing with the issue.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
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SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Your teen's autonomy, the level to which they are allowed to make their own decisions, their ability to handle mistakes and the natural consequences from those mistakes - all of this has a huge impact on their later independence, and ability to cope as an emerging adult.
Today I’m going to talk to you about how, despite your best intentions to protect your child from all the bad stuff, keep them out of trouble, make sure they’re successful, that they make good choices, that they don’t fall flat on their face, you could be doing just the opposite and making them more dependent on you and less able to handle life as young adult.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Most of us sail on through life without ever stopping to examine our own thoughts, emotions and behavior...without doing some deep introspection to discover why we think and feel the way we do about things.
But if you want to change, you want to bring more calm into your life, you have to truly know yourself. You need to know the why behind your behavior (which lies in your thoughts and emotions!)
We're talking about emotional awareness and emotional regulation today - how you can acquire a bit for yourself!
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Did you know that 98% of teens lie about at least one issue or another? And guess what? The general consensus among researchers and mental health professionals is that this is not only normal, but it would be a little worrisome if they didn’t lie a bit.
The good news is, this is not a character flaw or a sign that they’re going to grow up to be a liar. By the time people reach adulthood, about three-quarters are consistently honest. The big spike in the chart during adolescence is normal, but why and how do you deal with it?
Jump in and have a listen so you’ll understand this phenomenon better and be equipped to handle it when it happens (because it likely will).
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
If you're like every other parent of a teen or tween, you've dealt with your share of attitude, disrespect, snarky comments, and maybe even a hefty does of mean digs.
Why do teens and tweens act this way and how can you manage it without causing even more conflict between you?
Join me today to discover just how to approach your teen's smarty pants comments and help them learn to turn it down a few notches.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Teen and tween behavior can be maddening, frustrating, and confusing for parents. Those feelings can consume you and cause you to miscommunicate, scold, lecture, and punish.
Understanding why your teenager behaves the way they do, will not only help you manage your feelings about it but will help you respond to them more appropriately.
Join me today as I explain some of the most common teenage behaviors that parents often misunderstand.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
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SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
ADHD in teens and tweens is much more complicated than you may understand. Yes, it can have a major impact on your teenager’s ability to focus and do their schoolwork, but the social and emotional fallout can be even more problematic.
Today I’ll talk about how ADHD is not only a skills-based issue, but one that causes additional stress in your teenager’s daily life, affects their ability to regulate both their negative and positive emotions, causes them to become bored more easily that other teens, makes them more likely to engage in risky behaviors, makes it harder for them to get proper sleep, and more sensitive to rejection.
If you have a teen or tween with ADHD, your life is frustrating, but your teenager needs you to understand how very frustrating it is for them as well.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!
Check out the podcast on YouTube!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Getting your teen to do what they're supposed to do (or not do what they're not supposed to do) is a sticking point for so many parents. You probably feel like a broken record most days and then still can't get the cooperation you want (and many times end up in arguments and power struggles).
Well, in this episode I review a) the basics that you need to understand even before you try to get cooperation, b) what you shouldn't do and, c) different methods you can try for cutting back on the conflict and getting them to cooperate. You'll want to listen!
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Today's episode is the 3rd and final installment of my 3-part Teen Anxiety Series.
In episode 215, I talked about the signs and symptoms of Teen Anxiety. In episode 216, I talked about the diagnosis and treatment for Teen Anxiety. And today, I'm discussing a variety of strategies and tools parents can use to help their anxious teens and tweens (alongside therapy).
Helping your teen manage their anxiety goes far beyond teaching them breathing exercises.
Listen in and learn how you can change your home environment to increase the likelihood your teen or tween will be able to decrease their anxiety symptoms.
And be sure to check out today's Substack post (6-10-25) where I give you a bit more insight into these issues.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
How do you know if your teen is experiencing normal, everyday anxiety or their symptoms indicate an anxiety disorder?
And, as the parent of an anxious teen, who do you reach out to for help? Which professionals do what and how does it all work?
Today I'll explain everything you need to know about having your teen or tween evaluated and treated for an anxiety disorder, including the roles of various providers, and the best treatment options available.
And be sure to check out today's Substack post (6-3-25) where I give you a bit more insight into these issues.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Anxiety in our teens and tweens is far too commonplace. Understanding how it happens and being able to spot the signs and symptoms is extremely important for parents.
Parents often mistake anxiety symptoms for typical teen misbehavior. If you treat your teen's anxiety as something to be "disciplined" out of them, you will make their anxiety, your relationship, and their behavior so much worse.
Today's episode is the first in a series on teen anxiety so I'm starting with how it manifests and what to look for in your teen.
Following episodes will include information about getting a proper diagnoses, treatment options for teen anxiety, how to manage their anxious behavior, and more.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
In today's episode I talk about the things I find myself repeating most in live sessions with parents of teens. These are changes you can make that will make an enormous difference in much influence you can maintain in their life.
I'll talk to you about:
a) remembering that your teen doesn’t think like you do,
b) staying calm when you engage with them, and
c) discussing issues with them rather than making unilateral declarations.
I focus on these ideas because I know if you can make positive changes in these areas, you’ll decrease animosity between you and your teen and give them the opportunity to trust you and let you into their life.
And be sure to check out today's Substack post (5-20-25) where I give you a bit more insight into these issues.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Today's episode was first published at the beginning of this school year and is worth a second listen if you've already heard it.
At the time I recorded it, I had just coached a parent who needed help talking to her teenager about her friendship issues, without getting too involved in the drama and causing disconnection with her teen.
What do you do or say when your teen shares with you that a friend has done something horrible to them? How do you acknowledge their feelings about the situation without giving an opinion or looking like you'll hold a grudge against the friend if the teens mend fences in the future?
Listen to this episode to learn how to navigate these issues plus, how to repair the situation with your teen if you accidentally cross the line and how to change your mindset around these "bad friends".
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
We parents have been led to believe that for our teens and tweens to learn to behave appropriately, we must instill a little fear in them.
At the very least, we have to "show them we mean business" when they fail to meet our expectations or do something wrong.
But discipline, it turns out, is not about retribution or fear or punishment (especially when it comes to parenting teenagers).
If we want our teens and tweens to listen to us, cooperate, and ask for our advice and opinions, we have to get discipline right.
Listen in to today's episode as I answer 3 big questions about teen discipline:
- What are we actually trying to accomplish when we "discipline" our teens?
- Why does punishment backfire? and
- How can we discipline effectively without damaging the relationship with our teens?
And be sure to check out today's Substack post (5-6-25) where I give you some specific guidelines on issuing logical consequences for your teen or tween that will keep them out of the realm of "punishments".
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Parenting a teenager means dealing with new and often complicated issues on a daily basis.
There are constant requests to do something they've never done before and requests to change the current house rules, breaking the rules, their inability to live up to certain expectations, and on and on.
This is all part of parenting a teen or tween--but it's exhausting and often produces more arguments and power struggles than you'd like.
Listen in today as I explain 5 core concepts that will help you manage all these anxiety-provoking interactions with as little conflict between you and your teen as possible.
And be sure to check out today's Substack post (4-29-25) where I walk you through a conversation with your teen to demonstrate these concepts.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
The conversations your teen or tween initiates are an opportunity to connect. But you often you miss that opportunity because of your own agenda to turn everything into a teachable moment.
Your need to constantly correct how your teenager thinks, feels, and acts, interferes with your ability to connect with them on a deeper emotional level.
You're inadvertently creating arguments and power struggles because you fail to understand the conversation your teen is trying to have with you.
Listen to today's episode and learn to ditch your agenda (and the conflict) and start connecting with your teen.
And be sure to check out today's Substack post (4-22-25) where I give you even more tips on communicating better with your teens and tweens.
Supercommunicators (Charles Duhigg)
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
What's the scientific truth about ultra-processed foods? Kids and teens often survive on foods that would easily fall into this category.
Additives such as preservatives, artificial sweeteners, and food dyes can negatively impact a teenager's, a tween's, or a child's mental health and emotional regulation and behavior.
Listen and learn how substances in foods and beverages your child may be consuming every day, may be to blame for their emotional outbursts or may contribute to their anxiety or ADHD.
And be sure to follow up with today's Substack post, Who's Protecting Your Teen From Ultra Processed Foods? where I explain more about the U.S. FDA and how it falls short in protecting our kids and teens.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
You know all those emails, texts (or even calls) you receive from your teen or tween's school about their assignments or grades?
How do they make you feel? How do they influence your parenting?
Join me today as I advise you on how to avoid the issues these communications can cause between you and your teen.
And you'll want to read today's Substack post where I talk about the mistakes you may be making in trying to motivate your teen or tween to do better in school.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
I have a special mini-episode today based on my time away in the mountains of Virginia this weekend with my stepdaughter and her boyfriend.
My stepchildren are so very similar in intellect and temperament but their personalities and lifestyles couldn't be more different.
This weekend's experience left me pondering (once again) the way we teach our teens the meaning of success or having a successful life.
How do you define success? More importantly, how do you think your teenager would define success, if it was solely left up to them? Have a listen and see if this strikes a chord.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
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Having talked to Casie Fariello (Other Parents Like Me) on the podcast last week about her son’s mental health struggle and their experience with his inpatient treatment, followed by a Substack post about getting insurance to pay for residential treatment—I realized I still had more to say on this topic.
So, on today’s episode, I explain that sending your teen away from home for treatment for their mental health and/or behavior should only be considered as a last resort, with the biggest consideration being their safety or the safety of others.
According tothe prevailing opinion in the child and adolescent mental health field, kids and teens should be kept at home and all other treatment options should be exhausted before considering residential treatment, wilderness, a therapeutic boarding school, etc.
In this episode, I also argue that parents must take a hard look at their parenting practices and their mental health to insure they are not exacerbating their teen's mental health or behavior problems, before making this big decision.
Today's Substack post takes the topic even further as I discuss how to prevent fear (often caused by the "troubled teen industry") from driving your decision to send your teen away from home for treatment.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
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In today's episode I'm speaking with Casie Fariello of the parenting support platform, Other Parents Like Me.
All three of Casie's teens struggled with their mental health but it was her middle child that required a residential treatment center and a therapeutic boarding school. Her experience navigating these issues led her to launch her company to help support other parents like her.
Anytime you can hear another parent give an honest account of the challenges they faced with their teens, it helps you feel less alone. And when their story turns out as well as Casie's does, it also gives you hope for the future.
Today's Substack post takes the topic even further as I discuss 8 lessons I learned while negotiating our insurance company's payment of benefits for my son's stay at a residential treatment center...if you'd like to check it out.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
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Parenting a teenager can be difficult--full stop.
But parenting a teen or tween with ADHD often presents next-level issues that we often don't associate with ADHD. These issues have more to do with an inability to manage their emotions than focus on schoolwork.
Emotional dysregulation is an often overlooked symptom of ADHD that can wreak havoc in adolescents' (and parents') lives.
Today I'll explain the negative social and emotional consequences of emotional dysregulation, the role of medication and therapy, and how you can help at home.
Today's Substack post takes the topic even further if you'd like to check it out.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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Human behavior is complicated and depends on many factors including our own thoughts and emotions (which are impacted by the behavior of those around us).
Adolescent behavior is further complicated by neurobiological changes. Their thoughts and emotions are not at all like ours and they don’t have the self-control that we have.
So, while we’re not necessarily at fault when our teen misbehaves, we do play a critical role in their behavior by virtue of our own behavior. Accepting this truth is a significant step towards seeing the changes you desire.
Listen today as I explain how you can influence your teen’s behavior by changing how you think, feel, and respond to them.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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If you just knew what to do to avoid all those arguments, power struggles and temper tantrums with your teen, right?!
Well, that's what I'm hear to tell you about today. As parents of teens and tweens there are a handful of really big mistakes most of us make that cause us so much grief and we don't even realize it.
Listen in and learn how to avoid so much of the conflict, the temper tantrums, the disconnection and chaos.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
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In today's 201st episode of Speaking of Teens, I'm sharing the framework I teach inside Parent Camp, how I developed that framework, and why Parent Camp may just be the answer you've been looking for.
If you've been listening to the podcast but you're still trying to figure out how to implement some of the strategies I discuss, you just might need the extra help you'll get in Parent Camp.
Registration for Spring 2025 Parent Camp is now open until Tuesday, February 25th at 7 pm CST.
If you've ever been interested in Parent Camp, this is your chance to learn all about it.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
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There's no world in which, after punishing, lecturing, or yelling at your teen for their misdeeds, they will say:
"Thank you for that. I now understand the error of my ways and I will henceforth endeavor to adhere to your behavioral standards." Not gonna' happen.
In this 200th episode of Speaking of Teens, let me help you understand why authoritarian, obedience-first, behavior-focused parenting doesn't work with teens (or with any kid, for that matter).
"Putting the fear of God" in your teen, will actually cause more dysregulated, risky, bad behavior than you can handle. Let me tell you why and what works instead.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
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If you're at the end of your rope with your teen, feeling lost, anxious, wondering where you've gone wrong--this episode's for you.
Maybe your teen's using substances, not listening, angry all the time, getting in trouble, or really struggling with their mental health. It's easy to become overwhelmed, anxious, angry, or to feel completely lost.
I know exactly how you feel because I've been there. And in today’s episode I’ll explain why the people and places we often depend on for help in these situations, can’t fully resolve the situation (and how you have much more power to change things than you realize).
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
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"Why doesn't my teenager share anything with me? They just won't talk to me."
It's a common refrain among many parents of teens and tweens.
Why is it that it often seems like your teen would rather do almost anything than give you any information about themselves or come to you as their confidant?
There are two major reasons: adolescent development and your behavior.
Listen today as I explain why this issue is both developmentally appropriate and influenced by their lack of trust in your potential response.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
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One of the toughest issues about parenting a teen may just be trying to agree on how to parent said teen, with your spouse.
If you're having a hard time agreeing on teen parenting issues with your spouse, this episode's for you.
Today, I’ll explain how to have a few key conversations with your spouse that will help you get on the same page and present a united front to your teen and decrease conflict in your home.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
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For many generations, parents in Western world have focused on the very short-sighted goal of stopping unacceptable behavior in their kids and teenagers. This has generally been accomplished through harsh parenting tactics such as punishment.
Additionally, when parents become afraid or nervous about the behavior their teen or tween is exhibiting, they tend to employ similar harsh parenting tactics.
Listen today as I explain how super-strict, harsh, controlling parenting backfires with your teenager and makes their behavior even worse.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
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Today I'm re-publishing an episode from about 6 months ago that has been extremely popular (and apparently very helpful).
As the parent of a teen or tween we often feel frustrated (or even worried) about our kid's behavior. If they would just do what they're supposed to do - if they'd just listen - we wouldn't have any issues.
It's hard to imagine any of their behavior is actually due to the way we engage with them...the way we respond to their behavior.
In fact, so many of the arguments and struggles we have with our teenagers could be remedied by modifying our own behavior.
Join me in this second episode of four, to talk about some of the things we do that make our teens' behavior worse (and what to do about it).
Today I'll talk to you about how we make their behavior worse by a) failing to truly listen to them, b) being unable to manage our own emotions, and c) issuing unilateral rules and consequences.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Today I'm re-publishing an episode from about 6 months ago that has been extremely popular (and apparently very helpful).
As the parent of a teen or tween we often feel frustrated (or even worried) about our kid's behavior. If they would just do what they're supposed to do - if they'd just listen - we wouldn't have any issues.
It's hard to imagine any of their behavior is actually due to the way we engage with them...the way we respond to their behavior.
In fact, so many of the arguments and struggles we have with our teenagers could be remedied by modifying our own behavior.
Join me in this second episode of four, to talk about some of the things we do that make our teens' behavior worse (and what to do about it).
Today I'll talk to you about how we make their behavior worse by constantly reminding and questioning them and invalidating their feelings.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Today I'm re-publishing an episode from about 6 months ago that has been extremely popular (and apparently very helpful).
As parents of a teen or tween we're often frustrated, concerned, or even downright anxious about their behavior. We just want them to listen to us and do what they're supposed to do. Is that really too much to ask?
Well, it turns out, it just might be. A lot our teens' unpleasant behaviors are unfortunately a side effect of the way we respond to their behavior to begin with.
In fact, so many of the arguments and struggles we have with our teenagers could be remedied by modifying our own behavior.
Join me in this first episode of four, to talk about some of the things we do that make our teens' behavior worse (and what to do about it).
Today I'll talk to you about how we often misinterpret our teen’s behavior, address their rudeness inappropriately and even treat them with disrespect.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
SeeMy Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Teasing is a big part of many parents' communication toolbox. But when it comes to teasing teens and tweens, it's easy to accidentally overstep.
Teenagers are notorious for misinterpreting parents. Their brains often don't hear what we think we say.
You may mean to tease them in a playful manner but they may hear it as criticism.
Listen today as I explain the difference between playful teasing and bullying and which topics you should delete from your teasing roster (because they can cause long-term negative effects).
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack
Join ourFacebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)
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Are you stressed out about your teen’s or tween’s online life? Have recent discussions of banning social media until age 16 making you feel like a horrible parent? Are you constantly fighting over screentime with them?
Parenting is 1,000 times more stressful today than it was for our parents thanks to smart phones and social media.
And it certainly doesn’t help when there seems to be a new study or new book published weekly talking about how phones and social media are responsible for the decline in adolescent mental health.
What are you supposed to do as a parent? How do you make decisions about these issues for your teen and your family?
Join me today as I put things in perspective and give you some advice that will not only calm your nerves but help you manage these issues more realistically (and without the guilt).
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You could be misinterpreting your tween or teen's unpleasant attitude, their emotional meltdowns, their angry tirades, or their rude, entitled, and disrespectful behavior (or you may be at least interpreting it from an uninformed point of view).
And the way you think about and interpret your teen or tween's behavior impacts how you feel about it and how you parent them.
So, if you don't truly understand why they act the way they do, you're probably not handling the situation for the best possible outcome. You could, in fact, be making matters worse.
Join me today to hear about some of the most common teenage behaviors that parents often misunderstand.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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Our mindsets--the way we think about things--impact the way we feel and behave. And there are some particular ways of thinking that make it especially hard to parent teens and tweens.
Becoming more aware of a handful of these mindsets can help you change them (and therefore, change your feelings and your parenting behavior). Simple changes can make all the difference in your family dynamic.
Join me today as I discuss how to change your mindsets and the way forward with your teenager.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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I'll bet you're like most other parents of tweens and teens and keep a keen eye on their school's parent portal. You're looking for missed assignments, late projects, etc. so you can help them stay on top of things, right?
Well, today I'm going to challenge your thinking and your methodology. Is this strategy really helpful? Does it teach your teen or tween to do their work...or does it build animosity and actually keep them from learning the lessons they should be learning? Let me help you find a better way to help them.
Additional Helpful Episodes:
2, 8, 14, 30, 77, 91, 93, 115, 120, 130, 131
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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The holidays are incredibly stressful for most of us. And much of this stress is self-imposed.
We expect too much of ourselves and we often expect too much of our teens (and we don't even realize it until the disappointment sets in).
Join me today as I discuss how to manage your expectations and modify your mindset about your teens so things can be much more relaxed and enjoyable for you and your family this holiday season.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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In today's episode I talk to co-founder of Not Therapy Coaching, Hayley Caddes (you may recall episodes 168 and 169 that I spoke to her co-founder, Colin MacDonald)
Hayley, like Colin, is a former "troubled teen" and together they coach teens and young adults through the same trials and struggles they had as teens.
Hear Hayley talk about what it's like as a teenager coming out of treatment, the mindset shift you need to make, and the actions you need to take to help them be successful.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
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Some of us are just less aware of our emotions and less able to manage them well. I'm raising my own hand here!
In this episode I "coach" a mom through her emotional dysregulation and try to bring more awareness to where it's coming from so she can manage it better.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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Today's episode wraps up the series on teen substance use and is a continuation from last week's episode on the methods discussed in the book, Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change.
If your teen or tween is using substances and you want to know how to best motivate them to change their behavior, this episode and last week's episode 183 is for you.
Today I'll discuss the importance of collaborating with your co-parent, using positive reinforcement to see the behavior you want to see and natural and negative consequences to discourage the substance using behavior you don't want to see.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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Today's episode is all about the methods discussed in the book, Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change.
If you're teen is using substances and you want to know how to best motivate them to change their behavior, this is the episode for you.
I talk about motivational interviewing and the Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) method of communicating with a loved one who's using.
You'll probably be surprised by what you learn.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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What the heck is going on down at the convenience store or corner vape shop? They're selling something that looks a whole lot like marijuana, cannabis, or weed. And this stuff (otherwise known as "gas station weed") can get people even higher than the marijuana sold at the legal dispensaries that contain the high-producing, delta-9 THC.
Even worse, this stuff is being sold legally to teens in many states! What is it? It's delta-8 THC, delta-10 THC, HHC, THCA, THCO and other chemically extracted hemp derivatives, which are mostly unregulated (and contain no telling what).
I'll explain what these substances are, where they come from, how they're legal and what you should do if you find your teen is smoking it or "real marijuana".
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Other episodes that will help you deal with your teen and substances
Episode 16 Collaboration and Cooperation
Episode 22 Discipline and Consequences
Episode 39 Lying
Episode 42 and 43 Drug-proofing Your Teens
Episode 60 Substance Use and Abuse
Episode 122 When Your Kid is using drugs
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
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It's such a frightening thought; "Does my teen or tween have a substance use disorder? Is this more than occasional use or experimentation?"
How are you supposed to know when your teenager has crossed that line? Who can help you determine if their substance use rises to the level of an "addiction"?
Today I'll clarify some terminology, tell you how to figure these things out and help you understand what level of care your teen might potentially need, if they do indeed have a substance use disorder.
See the list of other episodes and resources in the Show Notes
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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Fentanyl is still a danger to teens and tweens and now there are even other chemicals being thrown in the mix of counterfeit pills that could be even deadlier. However, some expert are saying that it appears there may be less fentanyl in the supply chain in recent months.
Additionally, although overall illicit drug use among teens has been decreasing for years, opioid use disorder among adolescents has greatly increased (according to the American Academy of Pediatrics).
I'll walk you through the latest information in today's episode.
See the list of other episodes and resources in the Show Notes
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
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If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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There's no doubt that teens do risky things around their peers.
But just how much influence do those peers have over your teen's use of substances?
Can you do anything about the bad influences your teen is hanging out with?
What factors do you need to consider?
What about your influence? Can you counteract the influence your teen's peers have on them?💯
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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As a parent, perhaps you've been confronted with this issue: you've found evidence that your teen or tween is vaping, drinking alcohol, smoking marijuana, or using other substances and you have no idea what to do next.
You can't think. You're upset, angry, anxious, confused, disappointed, etc. Do you give consequences? Do you call a therapist? What do you even say?
I'll tell you the best way to approach this issue including guidelines for the conversation and the actual mechanics of the conversation. This episode will help you make it through this very tough situation with your teenager or tween.
See the list of other episodes and resources in the Show Notes
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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Research tells us that teens whose parents employ effective monitoring are less likely to engage in risky behaviors like having sex at an early age, smoking, drinking, using drugs, skipping school or being physically injured – they’re also more likely to have better mental health.
So "monitoring" works but what does it even mean and how do you do it "effectively"? I'll break it down for you in this episode.
I'll also go over some very specific signs of substance use that you can keep in mind. Plus I have lots of resources for you.
See the list of other episodes and resources in the Show Notes
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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This is the second episode in our series on teens, tweens and substance use. Today I want to make sure you understand the risk factors for teen and tween substance use and substance disorders.
Familiarizing yourself with the risk factors gives you the opportunity to empower your teen or tween to be proactive in avoiding substances, provide supports systems for them if they need it, and to stay vigilant as possible.
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This episode kicks off a series on teens, tweens and substance use that will continue each Tuesday and Friday until I've exhausted issues to talk about!
Today, I'll talk to you about the adolescent brain, why it's so prone to risky behaviors like using substances, why it's so much easier to become dependent on those substances, and many of the reasons teens use substances like marijuana, alcohol and nicotine.
I also discuss some of the things you can do to try to prevent your teen or tween from using substances.
Future episodes in this series will cover risk and protective factors, what you can do when you discover your teen may be using, and what to do if they appear to have a real problem with substances.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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What do you think about allowing your teen or tween a mental health day off from school when they ask for it? How do you decide? What should they do with that day off?
I'll answer these questions and more in today's episode.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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This episode was prompted by a recent conversation with a parent. This parent needed help validating her teen's feelings about friendship issues, without inserting herself and causing problems in the connection with her teen.
What do you do or say when your teen shares with you that a friend has done something horrible to them? How do you acknowledge their feelings about the situation without giving an opinion or looking like you'll hold a grudge against the friend if the teens mend fences in the future?
Listen to this episode to learn how to navigate these issues plus, how to repair the situation with your teen if you accidentally "step in it" and how to change your mindset around these "bad friends".
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If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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None of us come to parenting without our own mindsets, core beliefs, and past emotional experiences. All of this informs us as parents and shapes our thoughts, emotions and behavior related to our kids and teenagers.
But too many of us fail to recognize this side of parenting, even when we're desperate to change the dynamic in our home. Very often, parents must address their own emotional wounds - unresolved trauma from their own formative years - in order to become the parents they want to be.
Listen to my conversation with today's guest, Stacey Uhrig, a trauma specialist, working to help heal people from the all-too-often overlooked issues from their past. What is it that could be preventing you from being the best parent you can be?
Tracy's podcast - Flip Your Mindset
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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Today I'm sharing the findings from a recent study out of New Zealand, and a report on a new survey out of the U.S.
The study sheds light on teens' use of devices before bed and in the bed. And the survey finally gives us some good news about vaping and teenagers.
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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Teenagers want their parents to understand them. They need to feel heard and seen in the worst sort of way.
But as parents, we often do a really crap job of actually listening - much less truly understanding them. Today's episode (pulled from the 2022 "best-of vault") gives you the inside scoop on what your teen's thinking and what they really want you to understand. Listen up!
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
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In today's episode I continue my conversation with Colin MacDonald, co-founder of Not Therapy - a high-touch coaching program for young people.
Colin told his story as a former "troubled teen" in episode 168. And today he outlines the "4 Pillars of Transition" for teens and young adults moving from residential treatment, wilderness programs and other therapeutic facilities back to "the real world".
This is a must-listen episode if you have a teenager or young adult currently in treatment or recently discharged.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
TAP HERE to receive 25% off your first order of PHYLA
Or go to PHYLA.com and use the coupon code SPEAKINGOFTEENS
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If you struggle to believe there's hope for your teenager because of their behavior, mental health issues, substance use, etc. then you want to hear what this young man has to say.
Colin MacDonald was a "troubled teen" himself. He has a story to tell and advice for you as the parent of a struggling teenager. Colin is a certified young adult coach and the co-founder of Not Therapy along with his partner, Hayley Caddes. They coach teens and young adults to help them transform their lives after treatment.
This is the first part of a 2-part series with Colin. So, please listen today and come back for episode 169.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
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Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
In today's episode I talk to a mom about the transformation her family experienced from Parent Camp.
Listen to her describe where they were, the changes they've made, and where they are now. Plus, she has some advice for you!
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
TAP HERE to receive 25% off your first order of PHYLA
Or go to PHYLA.com and use the coupon code SPEAKINGOFTEENS
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
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Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
If you have a teen or tween who has ADHD, anxiety, depression, uses substances, doesn't talk to you, refuses to go to school, doesn't seem to be phased by logical or natural consequences, etc...this episode is for you.
Join me today and let me explain why you can't skip over the basic parenting strategies even if you feel your teen isn't "basic".
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
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So many of us have been there. Your teen isn't listening to a word you say. As a matter of fact they're doing just the opposite. You've issues consequence after consequence. You've lectured, warned, threatened, pleaded, begged, and cried on the bathroom floor.
Counseling hasn't helped (or you can't get them to go). What's the problem and where do you go from here? Is it residential treatment? A wilderness program? Or is there something you can do right now to get things headed in the right direction without going that far?
Join me today and I'll give you a roadmap for finding your way back to a calmer family life and a healthier teenager.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
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Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Investing the time (and the money) to learn the skills you need for parenting your teen without all the conflict and disconnection is one of THE best investments you'll make in your life.
Making the time now to learn how to change the dynamic between you and your teen, improve their behavior (and calm your nerves about it all) will save you so much more time and money in the future.
Listen and learn what I mean.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
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This is a very special episode of Speaking of Teens. I'm joined by a mom who's going to tell you about her journey in Parent Camp and where her family is today thanks to the knowledge and skills they've gained.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
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Today I want to tell you a little bit about why I want to help you strengthen the connection with your teenager and stop arguing so much (while also changing their behavior).
I'll explain how I know what I know and how I teach you what I know! I'm taking you into my brain a bit and giving you a taste of Parent Camp.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
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Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
There's nothing like parenting a teenager to bring out the parenting differences (that haven't been that difficult to navigate up until now).
If you and your spouse are not on the same page about how to deal with teenage risk-taking behaviors, giving consequences, schoolwork, chores, dating, etc., it can make for a very contentious atmosphere at home.
Listen to today's episode where I a) walk you through several negotiation tactics to help your spouse come around to your kinder way of parenting, and b) give you some tips on how to decrease the arguments and make things more consistent for your teenager (even if you can't get them over to your side).
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
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Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Maybe you don't insist your teens or tweens get all As or take the harder classes. But do you check Google Classroom daily or weekly? Do you ask them about all that unfinished work? Do you remind them of each test, quiz and project? Do you scold them when they seem unmotivated, lazy, or forgetful?
Well, today I'm going to give you some really good reasons to back off a bit, stop worrying so much, and give your teenager a break.
Grades, GPA, and "getting into the right college" is making both you and your teen miserable. Try something different.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
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Today I'm talking about how changing your parenting style or the strategies you use when parenting your teens or tweens can feel insurmountable or even impractical...but you can do it.
If the current situation isn't working for you and your family, you're constantly arguing or stressed out or your teen is not living up to your behavioral expectations, what do you have to lose by trying something different?
Nothing is harder than being stuck and not taking the steps to move forward.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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We must change our own behavior if we hope to change our teens'. In this episode I talk about how we let our emotions or our controlling parenting style take over and just blow things out of the water. It's a good one so have a listen.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Send Me A Text Message (Note: I will not have your phone number to respond) but you can email me at acoleman@speakingofteens.com if you'd like a response.
As the parent of a teen or tween we often feel frustrated (or even worried) about our kid's behavior. If they would just do what they're supposed to do - if they'd just listen - we wouldn't have any issues.
It's hard to imagine any of their behavior is actually due to the way we engage with them...the way we respond to their behavior. In fact, so many of the arguments and struggles we have with our teenagers could be remedied by modifying our own behavior.
Join me to learn some of the things we do that makes our teens' behavior worse and what to do about it.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Send Me A Text Message (Note: I will not have your phone number to respond) but you can email me at acoleman@speakingofteens.com if you'd like a response.
Have you ever thought about how often you vent your anger or frustration? And when you do, who do you go to? What do you expect of them?
Now, what if your teen or tween needs to vents a little bit? What do you think they expect of you?
How is it any different when a parent expresses their negative feelings and when a teenager expresses theirs? Should parents expect more from their teens than they expect of themselves?
Listen today and make up your own mind.
Show Notes
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Send Me A Text Message (Note: I will not have your phone number to respond) but you can email me at acoleman@speakingofteens.com if you'd like a response.
As the parent of a teen or tween we often feel frustrated (or even worried) about our kid's behavior. If they would just do what they're supposed to do - if they'd just listen - we wouldn't have any issues.
It's hard to imagine any of their behavior is actually due to the way we engage with them...the way we respond to their behavior. In fact, so many of the arguments and struggles we have with our teenagers could be remedied by modifying our own behavior.
Join me to learn some of the things we do that makes our teens' behavior worse and what to do about it.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Send us a Text Message.
Show Notes
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
As the parent of a teen or tween we often feel frustrated (or even worried) about our kid's behavior. If they would just do what they're supposed to do - if they'd just listen - we wouldn't have any issues.
It's hard to imagine any of their behavior is actually due to the way we engage with them...the way we respond to their behavior. In fact, so many of the arguments and struggles we have with our teenagers could be remedied by modifying our own behavior.
Join me to learn some of the things we do that makes our teens' behavior worse and what to do about it.
Show Notes and Transcript
Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
TAP HERE to receive 25% off your first order of PHYLA
Or go to PHYLA.com and use the coupon code SPEAKINGOFTEENS
TAP HERE to receive 25% off your first order of PHYLA
Or go to PHYLA.com and use the coupon code SPEAKINGOFTEENS
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
As the parent of a teen or tween we often feel frustrated (or even worried) about our kid's behavior. If they would just do what they're supposed to do - if they'd just listen - we wouldn't have any issues.
It's hard to imagine any of their behavior is actually due to the way we engage with them...the way we respond to their behavior. In fact, so many of the arguments and struggles we have with our teenagers could be remedied by modifying our own behavior.
Join me to learn some of the things we do that makes our teens' behavior worse and what to do about it.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
TAP HERE to receive 25% off your first order of PHYLA
Or go to PHYLA.com and use the coupon code SPEAKINGOFTEENS
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Are you mortified by your teen or tween's behavior these days? Are you worried that this behavior may be directed at other adults or worried that it might "stick"?
Come on in and let me explain what's going on and what you do about it.
Show Notes
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
ADHD is frustrating for parents, teachers, and teens and tweens themselves.
But the issues with school and homework often pale in comparison to the social and emotional fallout related to this disorder.
Not understanding all of the symptoms related to ADHD (and especially those that overlap with common mental health disorders) can lead to confusion and lots of conflict and disconnection with your teenager and cause issues with a proper diagnosis.
In this episode I'll address some of these lesser known symptoms to help you, parent your teen with ADHD with more empathy and understanding.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
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You do not want to tangle with a teen or tween over their devices (if you haven't noticed that yet). You also don't want to reach for the phone or game console every time your teen does something wrong or makes a mistake.
One issue a lot of us parents misunderstand is DISCIPLINE.
It's so much easier when they're little. But by the time you have a teen or tween, you'd better understand how to teach them skills for adulthood, without punishing them. If you don't, there's going to be a lot of drama.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
TAP HERE to receive 25% off your first order of PHYLA
Or go to PHYLA.com and use the coupon code SPEAKINGOFTEENS
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
There’s no struggle during adolescence quite like friendships and navigating social groups. It’s all encompassing. But this is simply the way it has to be - their brain is wired to seek acceptance. Because of this, to be shut out of the group feels like the end of the world.
In this episode I explain what your teen or tween goes through in their fight for survival among friend groups, how girls and boys differ in the aggressive behaviors they display in their quest for “popularity”, and how to help them deal with it all.
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
TAP HERE to receive 25% off your first order of PHYLA
Or go to PHYLA.com and use the coupon code SPEAKINGOFTEENS
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
When our teens are not doing well (maybe they've made some poor choices or are experiencing mental health issues), we usually don't run out and seek support from friends with kids the same age.
Although most of us struggle with parenting at some point, we somehow feel we're more at fault when our teens or tweens mess up.
Why do we feel such shame? Is there a different way of looking at this?
The Guardian article that prompted this episode
Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
If your teen has ADHD, a learning difference or a mental health disorder and they are planning on going to college, you need to listen up!
Today I talk to Dan Jordan of Accessing College, who gives some excellent advice about supporting your teens as they enter college and need to obtain accommodations.
Dan is a licensed therapist and former college accessibility professional (I didn’t even know there was such a thing!) He worked in the college/university setting for over 10 years making sure students received the accommodations they needed. On top of that, he’s gone through the exact same thing with his own son – a college student with dyslexia, dysgraphia, and dyscalculia.
Grab Dan’s College Accommodations Checklist and check out his courses for parents and students (including one on time management for college students)
Show Notes and Transcript Here
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
TAP HERE to receive 25% off your first order of PHYLA
Or go to PHYLA.com and use the coupon code SPEAKINGOFTEENS
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
Screentime is the subject of so much parental anxiety and so many arguments for families around the globe. And in this episode we tackle it head-on with Emily Cherkin, MEd (aka: The Screentime Consultant) and author of the fabulous book (and Amazon best seller), "The Screentime Solution: A Judgment-Free Guide to Becoming a Tech-Intentional Family".
Emily is a former middle school English teacher and mom of two who consults with parents, offers school presentations and professional development training, and writes about parenting and screentime to bring her tech-intentional approach to as many people as possible.
She’s been featured everywhere from the New York Times to the Today Show and has the best advice I've heard for parents trying to find a healthy balance for their kids and teens in the age of screens.
Show Notes and Transcript Here
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
TAP HERE to receive 25% off your first order of PHYLA
Or go to PHYLA.com and use the coupon code SPEAKINGOFTEENS
Check out PARENT CAMP - a monthly membership where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Plus, expert advice on everything from drug use to screen time and everything in between.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!)
Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram
Get the FREE GUIDE, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
If you need help now, call the National Dating Abuse Helpline at 1-866-331-9474 or go to loveisrespect.org to receive immediate confidential assistance.
If you've not been in this situation yet, you've been lucky so far. It's a terrible position for the parent of a teenager to find themselves. It's hard to imagine but your teen may just have different tastes in romantic partners than you'd expected (and you may not like this person one bit.)
Maybe you can't even put your finger on it...there's just something about them. So, what do you do? Listen and find out.
Show Notes and Transcript Here
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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Who would your teen talk to if they were having issues with their mental health? Their friends? A trusted adult? You? If they're hesitant to reach out for help, why? Does stigma play a role?
The Jed Foundation (JED) recently published a report called Exploring Barriers to Mental Health Support Among U.S. Teens (see a summary here if you want a shorter read). The report outlines what young people say stands in the way of reaching out for help when they are struggling.
Today, I'm talking to Dr. Kamla Modi, Senior Director of Design and Impact at JED about this latest research on adolescents and what they see as barriers to mental health support.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Today I'm talking to Beth Syverson, an adoptive mom, host of the podcast Unraveling Adoption and mother to a son who struggles with his mental health and substances.
Beth discovered that her son's issues stem from trauma (which is quite common). His trauma however, is one many people don't think about; adoption relinquishment.
What Beth and I discuss is relevant to you whether your child is adopted or not. But if you're like me, and adopted your child, it will be eye-opening indeed.
You can find Beth's Free Community for adoptive parents (and parents through foster, kinship, surrogacy, etc.) at APtitude. This is her free "start here" resource for adoptive parents who really want to learn more about adoption trauma. And you can join her email list here.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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As it turns out, teens and tweens across the globe feel there’s a lot that parents just don’t understand.
Today I’m bringing you the most common and often repeated of these issues that I’ve gathered from therapists, teachers, and various adults who've worked with teens for decades. Plus I’ve found much written by teens themselves including some very colorful comments from Quora and Reddit.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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Today, I'm talking to you about your teens and alcohol. I'll answer LOTS of questions for you, including:
- Does allowing your teen or tween to have a sip of wine or beer with you, prevent them from being problem drinkers?
- Does providing a place for your teens to drink with friends, keep them safer than they would be out partying elsewhere?
- Should you expect that your teens are going to drink alcohol and try to teach them "responsible drinking"?
- Should you drink in front of your teens or keep alcohol in your home?
I cover all of this and more in today's episode.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Did you know that 98% of teens lie about at least one issue or another? And guess what? The general consensus among researchers and mental health professionals is that this is not only normal, but it would be a little worrisome if they didn’t lie a bit.
The good news is, this is not a character flaw or a sign that they’re going to grow up to be a liar. By the time people reach adulthood, about three-quarters are consistently honest. The big spike in the chart during adolescence is normal, but why and how do you deal with it?
Jump in and have a listen so you’ll understand this phenomenon better and be equipped to handle it when it happens (because it likely will).
Listen in and I’ll tell you how.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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Today is the final day - Day 8 - of my series explaining the foundational principles you need to understand about parenting teens (so you can spend less time arguing and more time enjoying them!)
I’ve talked about the importance of maintaining the connection with your teen throughout this this series. And today, I’ll explain why that connection is critical to keeping your teen safe and mentally healthy. Plus, I’ll tell you how to accomplish this “connection” (especially if your teen won’t give you the time of day).
Let’s wrap up this series and give you the final piece of the puzzle – the “glue” that pulls it all together.
Episodes in this series 130, 131, 132, 133, 134, 135, 136, 137
Connection Series - Episodes 104, 106, 108, and 110
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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We’ve talked about how your teen’s brain works, we’ve talked about how to deal with their big emotions and teach them emotional intelligence, we’ve talked about the importance of controlling your own emotions and how your parenting style must change during adolescence because your teen desperiately needs to establish their autonomy.
And today, I want to talk to you about something I KNOW you want to know about – discipline
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What do you do when your teen or tween is acting like a toddler - when they're spewing their unpleasant emotions all over the place? Do you ignore them? Tell them to calm down? Get upset yourself?
Well, today I want to talk to you about how you can use this opportunity to help your teenager develop their emotional intelligence - specifically, their emotional awareness and emotional regulation. This technique is called emotion coaching and it not only helps your teen calm down in that moment, but it gradually helps them learn how to manage those emotions themselves.
This technique not only works for teens and tweens but younger children as well. Join me today and learn how to bring more peace into your family.
Other episodes in this series 130, 131, 132, 133, 134, 136, 137
Related episodes 6, 78 and 95 (emotion coaching)
Emotional Coaching FREE parenting guide
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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Understanding your own thoughts and emotions and how they impact your behavior, will help you manage your emotions so you can be the parent you want to be.
If you don’t know why you get so upset about certain things, and don’t know how to articulate your feelings, your emotions will consume you. And I’m guessing you’ve realized what happens when you allow your emotions to consume you.
In this episode I’ll talk about how to get a grip on your emotions instead of allowing them to keep you in a chokehold.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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Have you realized yet that you can't parent a teenager the way you parented them as a child? It's a hard truth. After your kid hits puberty, if you keep trying to manage them and parent them the way you did when they were a child, things will not go well.
Parenting a teen or tween the way you parented them as a child, will guarantee years of power struggles and behavior problems. Instead, you must learn to pivot and give your teen or tween more control, more respect and more power to make decisions (as well as mistakes).
So many parents get this wrong and then struggle for years trying to figure out how to get their teenager to behave the way they want them to. The answer? Change your own behavior.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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Why? Why? Why? Why do teens do the things they do? As the Parent of a teenager, you're probably used to asking yourself this question. If your teen or tween has ever done anything they've always promised they'd never do, you're in good company.
The way the adolescent brain works...well, let's just say, it can be baffling for parents. So, learning the "Why" behind your teen's thoughts, emotions and behavior is extremely import. It allows you to have more empathy, regulate your own emotions about their actions and therefore reign in the conflict. Join me in this episode and you're going to be ahead of the game!
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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This is Day 2 of an 8-part series to explain the foundational principles of parenting teens. These are the "basics" that you need to understand to parent your teenagers with less conflict and more connection (plus have more influence in their lives and even change their behavior).
Today, I continue talking about the changes occurring in your teenager's brain. Specifically, I'll explain how their brain's reward system is in hyperdrive, which can cause them to become involved in activities and situations that you never would have thought possible when they were younger.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Do you ever think, "Why would they do that?" "Why are they so irrational?" "Why can't they just do what they're supposed to do when they're supposed to do it?"
You and every other parent with a kid between the ages of 10 and 25 have, no doubt, had these thoughts several times a day, most days of the week! It's baffling and frustrating to think your teen or tween could do better and chooses not to. But is that actually what's going on?
Join me in this first episode of an 8-part series to explain the foundational principles you need to understand to parent your teenagers with less conflict and more connection, plus have more influence in their lives and even change their behavior. I kick off the series explaining why your teen has less control over their thoughts, feelings and behavior than you think.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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The number of things we have to warn our teenagers and children about these days can be overwhelming. And when it comes to the wild, wild, west of the internet, it seems there's something new every few months.
As much as we'd like to think these things can't happen to our teens, they can and do - everyday. There are many extremely depraved individuals online who make it their job to target, groom, and extort kids and teens. They pose as someone your child's age, gain their trust, trick them and then either force them to do things online or extort them for money. It's unthinkable, but very, very real and happening across the globe.
Don't think it can't happen to your teenager or your child. It happens every day to families who felt the same way. Join me today as I explain what's going on, how to talk to your teens about it and what to do if the unthinkable happens.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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It seems that there's just no end to the things that parents of teens and tweens have to worry about these days. And technology seems to always be up there at the top of the list, somehow.
Well, today I'm going to talk to you about something that's probably not even on your radar (but really should be); AI generated child pornography. Your teenager could literally be walking down the hall at school, minding their own business while a classmate generates a pornographic image of them, using their fully-clothed and totally innocent image.
Listen in to learn what AI generated porn is, how it happens, what the laws says and what you can do about it.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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Thoughts lead to emotions, which lead to actions. If we don't take time to examine our thinking, we can become stuck in some very unproductive cycles in parenting our teenagers (and in other relationships).
Just because we think something doesn't make it true or correct. And if our thoughts are untrue, what does that mean for our emotions and behavior?
Today I talk about how cognitive biases, distortions, assumptions and shortcuts in our thinking can keep us can keep us from parenting with intention. The more you think about your thinking, the more emotionally aware you become, which leads to greater emotional regulation.
Other Episodes Related to Parent Emotions
1, 8, 10, 30, 65, 77, 78, 96, 100, 102, 107, 120
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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What the heck is going on down at the convenience store or corner vape shop? They're selling something that looks a whole lot like marijuana, cannabis, or weed. And this stuff (otherwise known as "gas station weed") can get people even higher than the marijuana sold at the legal dispensaries that contain the high-producing, delta-9 THC.
Even worse, this stuff is being sold legally to teens in many states! What is it? It's delta-8 THC, delta-10 THC, HHC, THCA, THCO and other chemically extracted hemp derivatives, which are mostly unregulated (and contain no telling what).
I'll explain what these substances are, where they come from, how they're legal and what you should do if you find your teen is smoking it or "real marijuana".
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Other episodes that will help you deal with your teen and substances
Episode 16 Collaboration and Cooperation
Episode 22 Discipline and Consequences
Episode 39 Lying
Episode 42 and 43 Drug-proofing Your Teens
Episode 60 Substance Use and Abuse
Episode 122 When Your Kid is using drugs
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Today's episode has been a long time coming. Getting your teen to do what they're supposed to do (or not do what they're not supposed to do) is a sticking point for so many parents. You probably feel like a broken record most days and then still can't get the cooperation you want (and many times end up in arguments and power struggles).
Well, in this episode I review a) the basics that you need to understand even before you try to get cooperation, b) what you shouldn't do and, c) different methods you can try for cutting back on the conflict and getting them to cooperate. You'll want to listen!
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Today's episode is a "feed drop"! Lauren Wolfe, host of Your Zen Friend, is dropping into our podcast feed to bring you a special episode of her podcast, addressing an issue you likely know all too well; attitude, disrespect, eye rolls, etc.
Lauren has graciously agreed to let me air this fabulous episode as I am still dealing with my ailing mother this week. So, listen up because Lauren is going to talk about the best ways to respond to your teenager's "back talk" and explain why the way you may usually respond, is not so helpful. You're going to get a lot out of this episode.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Today’s episode is an interview with Dr. Mercedes Oromendia, the clinical director of Manatee, an online therapy and parent coaching platform. Dr. Oromendia does a great job of explaining typical adolescent behavior and how, as parents, we need to respond to them for the best possible outcomes.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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If your teen is experimenting with weed, alcohol, or other substances, it’s a very scary feeling. For some of us it’s downright terrifying and triggering.
Well today’s guest went through it all with her son and it was as bad as it gets. Brenda Zane almost saw her son die from his drug abuse.
Thankfully, he is now drug free, in college and helping others with their struggles. Brenda shares so much helpful information today; what to do and how to think about it, if you find that vape pen or bottle of liquor in their room, how to talk to them about it, how to get to the root of the problem, and how to educate yourself.
Brenda has committed herself to help other parents with this struggle. You can check out her podcast, HopeStream and her membership, the HopeStream Community. She also has a wonderful free guide called “Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Misuses Drugs and Alcohol”
You don’t want to miss this conversation because even if your teen has not experimented with drugs or alcohol, you want to have these skills at the ready, if they ever do.
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Neurotypical teens, teens without any mental health disorders at all, experience emotional dysregulation from time to time (some more than others). This is simply a product of their changing brain and an oversensitive threat detector (the brain's amygdala).
But teens with ADHD, certain mood disorders and personality disorders are much more likely to experience intense mood swings and even more pronounced emotional dysregulation. And that's not the only symptom overlap. As you can imagine, this can cause real issues for a professional diagnosis and for parents trying to find an answer and help for their teens and tweens.
Today I'm going to talk to you about the problem with getting a definitive diagnosis. Plus, I want to tell you about one seldomly mentioned symptom of ADHD that only adds to the confusion and baffles many mental health professionals.
It's critical for you to be aware of these confounding issues so you insure your teen receives the proper treatment.
Free parenting Guide - "Giant Book of Parenting ADHD Teens"
Free parenting guide - "Your Teen and Anxiety"
Free parenting guide - "Emotion Coaching"
Free parenting guide - "Understanding Your Teen's Brain"
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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I talked about parenting out of fear in the very first episode of this podcast. Because my own fear is what led me down such a long hard path with my son, I wanted to make sure you were aware of the issues it causes. Now that I've been able to work for a couple of years on refining this message, I'm back to share again why we must not let our anxious thoughts derail our parenting.
This issue comes up over and over in the Speaking of Teens Facebook group and in Parent Camp. Fear for our Teenager's future, about how they're messing up, and screwing up their life, etc. - it's something so many of us have dealt with at one time or another. And that fear causes us to feel like if we don't do something major or do something right this minute, we're going to lose our child, let them down, allow them to mess up everything and ruin their life.
And guess what happens when you start thinking that way? You question, assume, lecture, snoop, track, yell, punish, and overreact. That behavior, in turn, builds an impenetrable wall between you and your teen and increases their negative behavior.
In this episode, I’ll help you figure out if you are parenting out of fear, explain how it impacts the relationship with your teen and their behavior. Most importantly, I'll explain how to turn things around if your fear has already caused a backlash with your teen.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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When someone hurts your child, physically or emotionally, no matter if they're 10 or 25, you want it to stop immediately.
And bullying is one of those things you may not even be aware of. You won't see it and you won't likely even know about it unless your teen or tween tells you.
In this episode, I'll tell you what to watch out for, how to talk to your teen about their bullying problem and give you step by step instructions for dealing with the issue.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
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Whether you’re married, divorced, or happily cohabitating with your partner, if you have teenagers, you’re not only dealing with them but with your coparent’s (and possibly your partner’s) opinion on how to parent them.
Why do we all bring such differing views into our parenting and what can we do when we don’t agree? And, by the way, what role does your new partner play in it all?
Join me for a conversation with Aurisha Smolarski, a Los Angeles based licensed marriage and family therapist with a special affinity for helping parents get along and parent in a more united way. Aurisha has negotiated coparenting with an ex-spouse herself and understands how difficult it is. And she’s recently published a book called, Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids: The Attachment Theory Guide to Raising Kids in Two Homes.
There’s something for you in this episode no matter with whom you share parenting duties.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
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If you're like every other parent of a teen or tween, you've dealt with your share of attitude, disrespect, snarky comments, and maybe even a hefty does of mean digs.
Why do teens and tweens act this way and what should you do in response?
Well, that's what I'm talking about today. And the answers may actually surprise you.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
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I don't believe there are many parents of a teen or tween who hasn't dealt with some struggle over getting their kid to go to school. School refusal happens for all sorts of reasons, from mental health disorders like anxiety or depression to dealing with a bully or learning issues. But whatever the reason your teenager refuses or avoids going to school, you must come up with a solution. And often that solution isn't as easy as the school and other parents think.
In today's episode I talk with Cynthia Coufal, the host of The Teen Anxiety Maze and a retired school counselor who has all sorts of ideas about getting your school to help you get your teen back to school. And in the last portion of the episode I talk to you about taking charge of the situation and the best way to handle advocating for your teenager.
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Your teen's autonomy, the level to which they are allowed to make their own decisions, their ability to handle mistakes and the natural consequences from those mistakes - all of this has a huge impact on their later independence, and ability to cope as an emerging adult.
Today I’m going to talk to you about how, despite your best intentions to protect your child from all the bad stuff, keep them out of trouble, make sure they’re successful, that they make good choices, that they don’t fall flat on their face, you could be doing just the opposite and making them more dependent on you and less able to handle life as young adult.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
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Today, in the final instalment in this series on vaping, I discuss how to talk to your teen or tween about vaping, how to help them avoid it if they haven't started, and how to help them quit if they already have.
I highlight refusal skills that can work for almost any situation where they need to avoid a negative or risky activity. I also explain the reward system, the adolescent decision making process and how you can use the findings from a scientific study to hopefully influence them to avoid or quit vaping (without threatening their autonomy.) I'll explain a little about the quitting process and hook you up with some excellent information and resources that will help them.
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Today's episode is a bit of a bonus. I've been really confused as to why there are still all these fruity, desert-flavored vaping products, vape pens and e-cigarettes on the shelves in the US, when I thought Juul was told to remove theirs the market. So I did some major digging into the backstory of vaping regulations and where things stand today. I actually think this is an important episode for you to hear so you can explain to your teenager how vaping goes the disposable, desert or fruity flavored vapes is even more risky than we thought.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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How "up in your teen's business" do you get? How much is too much monitoring, snooping, digging and tracking? Do you let them know you're going to be doing checking on them up front? Or, are you more of a covert operator? Do you know what difference it all makes? A lot. One of the most important things to a teenager (or a tween) is their autonomy. And if you threaten that, you'll be locked in never-ending power struggles. Find out how to navigate balancing your parental control with their need for autonomy and privacy.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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Today, I continue the series on vaping that we started last week with my interview with Daniel Ament in episode #109. I hope you shared Daniel's episode with your teen (and maybe even gave his information to someone at your school so he could speak to all the students.)
Vaping is ubiquitous in high school and more and more middle schoolers are taking up the habit every single day. Just because you've not seen evidence that your teen vapes or your teen has not admitted it to you, or they've promised you they'll never do it, does not mean that it isn't happening.
This week I'm explaining how the serious risk of lung damage associated with vaping and e-cigarettes didn't end right before COVID when the CDC stopped tracking the EVALI (e-cigarette or vaping use-associated lung injury) epidemic. Simply put - COVID took the spot light off this other serious risk to public health.
But in fact, there have been thousands upon thousands of cases in the US alone of vaping related lung injury or illness due to vaping, e-cigarettes or dabbing since then. As a matter of fact, there have been two additional double lung transplants for vaping related lung damage.
I'll explain what's going on here and debunk some of the myths that vaping is "healthy" (that your teen may still be hanging onto.)
Next week I’ll be addressing how to help your teen resist starting vaping and how to help them stop.
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You have to admit that you never knew another human being could evoke such a broad range of emotions from you. You love your teenager more than anything on the planet, you'd go to the ends of the earth for them (you pretty much already have) but...good God can they ever make you mad! It's like they know just the right amount of tone and attitude to throw in with their emotional meltdown, to bring out the very worst in you.
You can do better. And you can help them do better. Today we're going to talk about how your connection with your teen greatly depends on your awareness and understanding of both your teen's emotions and your own.
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Today’s episode will be as significant for your teen’s to hear as it will be for you so please share. It may even be more important to share it with your younger kids who’ve not considered vaping yet.
21-year-old Daniel Ament shares some much-needed insight into the world of teens and vaping (whether it’s nicotine or THC.) You’ll learn how easy it is for them to vape without you ever knowing, why it’s so difficult to avoid vaping to begin with and why punishing them or taking their vape away doesn’t solve anything.
Daniel talks about vaping a lot. He’s talked about it at schools, in print, television and on podcasts. That’s because Daniel suffered major life-threatening physical injuries from the less than 12-month time period that he vaped. His story is a cautionary tale but should also prove motivational for your teens (he speaks their language.)
This is the first episode in another series: Vaping. I have at least 2 more episodes coming over the next couple of Tuesdays because I know this likely impacts your teen even if you aren't yet aware.
Daniel's 501-(c)(3) (non-profit) Organization is called Fight4Wellness
Contact jrt@jrturnbull.com to schedule a virtual or in person presentation with Daniel Ament
Donate to Daniel's organization via PayPal or by check: To Fight4Wellness and mail to, PO Box 36928 Grosse Pointe, MI 48236
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This is the 3rd episode in a series on connecting with your teen.
First episode in the series #104
Second episode in the series #106
This question comes up all the time, "I know I'm supposed to connect with my teenager, but how do I do it when they don't talk to me and ignore everything I say?"
Teenagers aren't usually that keen on talking to their parents on a regular basis, no matter what. But if your tween or teen feels like you treat them like a child, have no respect for their opinions, decisions or input, and feels like all you do is nag, scold, correct and lecture them...guess what? They're not going to want to be around you much at all. Think about it. Would you?
Today I continue the series on connecting with your teen or tween by discussing what it means to support your teen's autonomy and what's going on in their brain that makes this so very important.
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Of course, the way we were raised influences the way we parent our own kids. Did you know it also has a major impact on our romantic relationships? Even friendships and work relationships?
The way our parents interacted with us, beginning in infancy, (specifically, the way in which they did or did not meet our physical and emotional needs) forms the template for all of our relationships. It's something researchers call attachment style and it's not only fascinating but crucial to understand about ourselves.
If you have an insecure attachment style, luckily, there are steps you can take that will not only change things for your family now, but for future generations.
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This is the 2nd episode in a series on connecting with your teen.
First episode in the series #104
If the relationship with your teen or tween is suffering, I want you to consider something. How close would you feel to someone who you believe treats you like a child, constantly reminds you to do things you already know to do, complains about every tiny infraction, and makes no attempt to understand the stress you're under?
Well, that's likely how your teenager feels pretty regularly. Their brain perceives so many things as negative (even when neutral!)
Reminders, questions, corrections, statements, a tone of voice, a facial expression, all can be very negatively interpreted by your teenager (even if you don't really intend it that way.)
You've got some work to do to maintain your connection with them. Let's get to it.
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In today's episode I'm talking with Lainie Liberti about the concept of "partnership parenting." Lainie's parenting philosophy is that parenting, especially during the teen years, should be a collaboration between you and your teen, based on a set of core values; both the parents' and the teens'. The point of this effort is to build a strong connection, mutual respect and openness.
If you don't know who Lainie is, she's a teen mentor, co-founder (with her 24-year-old son, Miro) of Project World School and the author of Seen, Heard and Understood: Parenting and Partnering with Teens for Greater Mental Health, in which she discusses the concept of partnership parenting and so much more. Lainie traveled the world with her son while "schooling" him, and is considered a pioneer in the "worldschooling" movement" and very much practiced what she preaches (wait until you hear what her son says about her!) She's mentored hundreds of teens and studied parenting, psychology, emotional intelligence, etc. for years and really knows her stuff. You're going to appreciate her fresh perspective on parenting your teens.
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This is the 1st episode in a series on connecting with your teen.
Second episode in the series #106
Third episode in the series #108
Connecting with your teens is not just a nice sentiment - it's critically necessary to have any influence in their lives. Without connection, it will be extremely difficult to keep them physically safe or mentally healthy. Connection might not be what you think but it's probably easier than you've imagined.
Listen to this first episode in a continuing series on building connection with your teens as I discuss one simple thing you can do to "start the ball rolling."
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Today, I’m joined by Aly Pain to discuss how most of us are still parenting using an outdated model from several generations ago, which is derailing the connection with our teenagers and fueling their misbehavior.
Unfortunately, we don't even realize how we’ve simply accepted many of these parenting myths and attitudes as truth, despite the mounds of scientific evidence to the contrary. And when we attempt to make the necessary changes with our teenagers, we’re often met with disapproval and push-back from family and friends.
We’re talking about these misconceptions to set the record straight on common concerns like respect, connection, compliance, and living up to their potential. Aly explains how you can begin parenting your teenager in a way that leads to increased connection (yes, she’s going to explain what that really means!) and lasting change in their behavior.
Aly's passion is empowering parents to build healthy, respectful relationships with their teens without giving up or giving in. She's been featured in the New York Post, ABC Nightly News and the Rachael Ray Show.
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Most of us sail on through life without ever stopping to examine our own thoughts, emotions and behavior...without doing some deep introspection to discover why we think and feel the way we do about things.
But if you want to change, you want to bring more calm into your life, you have to truly know yourself. You need to know the why behind your behavior (which lies in your thoughts and emotions!)
We're talking about emotional awareness and emotional regulation today - how you can acquire a bit for yourself!
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Even if your kid is still in middle school, you'll want to tune in to today's episode to help ease your mind a bit. I'm talking with my friend and fellow podcaster, Sonia Cacique, of the College and Career Ready podcast about some of the most important steps in career and college planning. Hint: we're not talking about grades, college and university tours, or working on the dreaded application.
The initial steps your teens need to take to get ready to pursue college and/or a career is much more personal. We can't expect young people to have their future all figured out before leaving for college or entering the workforce. The most important part of this journey to adulthood is learning about what's possible for themselves. You're going to really appreciate this one!
If you’d like your teen to work with Sonia one-on-one, she has a program called Discover U where she coaches your teen on all of these issues we just discussed and more
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Warning: I say Sh*t a few times in this episode (and there may even be an a$$ here and there.)🤭
In this one hundredth episode I'm just telling you straight up what I wish someone had told me when I was struggling to figure out why my teenager was acting out in a hundred different ways and wouldn't listen to a word I said!
See also episodes: 1, 3, 4, 6, 8, 14, 15, 16, 22, 26, and 57
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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Since it’s the start of a new year I thought I’d do a show about change; how you can make 10 specific “little changes” that will go a long way in improving the communication and the relationship with your teenager.
These are very simple modifications in how you say things, how often you say things, and how you respond to things they do or say. I also discuss a couple of little things you can do in just a couple if minutes per day that can change so much for your own mental health as well as the relationship with your teen or tween.
These tiny changes are all very doable, take minimal effort (well, maybe some mental effort), and once you get going, they can lead to such a huge difference. Give them a try!
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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This is a re-share of Episode #84 and I didn't even have time to record an introduction to tell you that! But this is important and worth hearing again. So plug in and listen.
How "up in your teen's business" do you get? How much is too much monitoring, snooping, digging and tracking? Do you let them know you're going to be doing checking on them up front? Or, are you more of a covert operator? Do you know what difference it all makes? A lot. One of the most important things to a teenager (or a tween) is their autonomy. And if you threaten that, you'll be locked in never-ending power struggles. Find out how to navigate balancing your parental control with their need for autonomy and privacy.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.
If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!
Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app.
You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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Once adolescence "sets in" if you don't adjust your mindset and your parenting you're setting yourself up for years of conflict, lying, trust issues, rebellion and heartache. Parenting a child is much different from parenting a teen or tween and if you fail to understand that or refuse to make these adjustments, all of your efforts to gain compliance and cooperation and good behavior will be for nothing - actually, they will totally backfire.
Listen to this episode to understand how you can support your teenager's autonomy while retaining the right amount of control to assure their better behavior.
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!
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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!
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This is a quick episode that will hopefully blow your mind a little and set you on a path of greater emotional awareness and regulation (and all sorts of other positives.) And who doesn't need that? I'm talking about mindfulness today and my very Zen friend and fellow podcaster, Lauren Wolfe of the Your Zen Friend podcast, is going to bring you a 5 minute guided meditation!
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In less than 15 minutes you're going to understand what mindfulness is, how important it is to you as a parent and a human, and why it's important. Plus, having actually done it, you'll know how easy it is and you can do it regularly - either guided or solo!
The science behind what mindfulness can do for your mind, body and soul is well documented and undisputed. Learn with me.
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This is one of the first things I learned when I was trying to get things "right" with my adolescent son. When your teenager is having an emotional tirade or a meltdown or is just stomping around the house and seems out of sorts, you need to know what to do and what to say to help them calm down and regulate their emotions.
Teens are naturally emotionally reactive because of the changes taking place in their brain right now. The problem is, they have very little awareness of what they're actually feeling and very little ability to regulate those emotions (again, you can blame their brain!) So, it's your job to help them calm down and coach them through these emotional moments so they will build the emotional intelligence needed to eventually handle it on their own. You'll learn how in today's episode.
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See also, episodes 22 and 26
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If you’ve ever had the thought, “Why can’t he/she just put forth the tiniest bit of effort in school?”, then today’s episode is for you. You are not the only one dealing with this – actually, quite far from it. And there’s a really good reason for this phenomenon, which usually occurs more with boys than girls.
In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Adam Price, clinical psychologist and author of the book, He’s Not Lazy: Empowering Your Son to Believe in Himself and it’s an eye-opening conversation to say the least. Dr. Price explains why boys (and plenty of girls) just “opt out” or stop trying in school. If you struggle with your teen to get them to do their homework, study for tests and make decent grades, you really must listen (you’ll come away with a solid plan for moving forward with your teen.)
Dr. Price's Blog on Psychology Today
Practice Website
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When our teens "misbehave" or make mistakes (as the vast majority of teenagers do), why do we feel the need to keep that information such a secret?
Most of us struggle at some point in our role as a parent. But why does it feel so catastrophic when we see our teens messing up? Why do we feel such shame, clam up, and not want anyone to know? And what do we think about other parents whose teenagers are visibly causing issues? Is there a new way we can think about all of this? I believe there is.
The Guardian article that prompted this episode
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Officially counting down to the 100th episode...coming in at #91, I'm bringing you an episode full of practical and therapeutic wisdom from Keri Cooper, LCSW, NBCCH (Licensed Clinical Social Worker and National Board of Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists). She can be reached at keri@kericooperholistictherapy.com and on Instagram at @kericooperholistictherapy
Keri works with teens and young adults to help them with their stress, anxiety, depression and ADHD. And she's not only a mom of 4 but has a very no-nonsense, tell-it-like-it-is, approach to teach parents how to help their "kids" grow into competent adults. In this episode we dig into a few of the foundations she discusses in her book, Mental Health Uncensored: 10 Foundations Every Parent Needs to Know. Want to know how stepping back will help your teen step forward? Have a listen.
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According to a study published last year, between 2000 and 2020, the U.S. Poison Control Centers (the 24-hour-a-day hotline staffed by toxicology experts) have seen a 245% rise in cases involving marijuana in 6 to 18-year-olds! Over 80% of those calls were kids 13 to 18.
And although since 2014 cannabis cases in general have exceeded alcohol poisoning cases, edibles “showed the highest average monthly increase.” So, despite the fact that cannabis vaping products have also seen a major uptick, it appears teens may be moving away from smoking and towards edibles.
Today we talk about edibles, - cannabis edibles - you know, the kind with THC! What makes them so dangerous for teens, and how does THC really impact a teenager's brain anyway? And how the heck do we talk to our kids about all this stuff? Listen and find out.
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As soon as our kid reaches puberty, we’re no longer the center of their universe and we no longer have as much direct control over their life. Our influence now lies in our emotional connection with them - in the way they give credence to what we say, trust us with their secrets, ask for our opinion, align themselves with our values, etc.
Maintaining a deep emotional connection with our child throughout adolescence is not only important for our relationship, but also critical in keeping them mentally healthy and physically safe.
Today we’ll talk about some of the most import ways to maintain your emotional connection with your child throughout adolescence.
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Parenting Teens isn't that radically different from parenting children...if you learned a few key components of parenting early on. Unfortunately, so many of us learned parenting from our own parents, who learned from their parents and so forth and so forth...and well, researchers have learned a lot about parenting since 8-year-olds were working in factories! The problem is getting the word out to everyone. Yes, manuals handed out at the hospital (maybe even a seminar and a test or perhaps a certificate of completion!) would be a wonderful idea.
In this episode I'll explain why your teen is not really "lazy", how they're doing the best they can with the brain they have, why they're in "emotional overdrive", that they're more stressed out than you realize, that they need instruction and guidance rather than control and punishment, and that you need to treat them with respect.
Other referenced episodes:
58, 3 , 4, 16 , 30, 6, 2 , 19, 27, 66, 38, 15, 22, 39, Bonus 8-11-23, 26, 28
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Warning – you’ll get a few “colorful” words in this episode.
Self-harm is such a scary topic and one that understandably freaks parents completely out. So, if your teen’s been self-harming/cutting, has anxiety or depression, has experienced trauma, has a difficult time managing their emotions…basically, if you have a teenager you need to listen to today’s episode. Being aware of this issue before it arises may help you prevent it.
My guest, Dr. JJ Kelly, literally wrote the book on self-harm and teens (Holy Sht My Kid is Cutting*) and is an expert in using Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to help teens and young adults replace self-harm with the proper tools for dealing with their feelings.
All of Dr. Kelly's Courses
All of Dr. Kelly's Books
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Do you realize how many guns are confiscated at schools all over the country every day? I certainly didn't. Teens and tweens are going to school every day feeling like they're entering a prison, complete with major security protocols, police officers, etc. and being urged to keep their eyes and ears open for "threats." Are laws the answer? Additional security measures?
Washington Post article
The Daily - New York Times podcast
Everytown USA
Sandy Hook Promise
Moms Demand Action
U.S. Youth Attitudes on Guns (joint report)
New Mexico incident
Ohio incident
Red Flag Laws
Maine's Law
About the "Yellow Flag Law"
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Do you have an athlete at home? A soccer player? Hockey player? Runner? Maybe your kid’s not into sports or maybe it’s not been their thing yet. Whatever the case, you’ll want to hear my conversation with Linda Flanagan, author of Take Back The Game: How Money and Mania are Ruining Kids’ Sports - and Why it Matters. The youth sports industry is worth over $19 billion dollars and counting (that’s up 90% since 2010!) What’s going on? Why, by age 13, have 70% of kids given up on sports altogether? Hint: because we’ve taken all the fun out of it and replaced it with an emphasis on excellence, success, and scholarships. Listen in and learn how to make sure your teens get the best of what athletics has to offer them.
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How "up in your teen's business" do you get? How much is too much monitoring, snooping, digging and tracking? Do you let them know you're going to be doing checking on them up front? Or, are you more of a covert operator? Do you know what difference it all makes? A lot. One of the most important things to a teenager (or a tween) is their autonomy. And if you threaten that, you'll be locked in never-ending power struggles. Find out how to navigate balancing your parental control with their need for autonomy and privacy.
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Internet PORN. Yep, that cell phone your kid has in their hand at all times – it’s where they’re getting their sex education. By the time your kid is 9, 10, maybe 11, they’ve either accidentally or intentionally seen some sort of pornography online. And we’re not talking the innocent porn of a few decades ago. Nope, some of this stuff is nightmare-inducing and can be very damaging to kid and teens. What do you do? Well, today’s guest, Amy Lang, a sexual health education expert, podcaster, author, and all-around wonderful human, is going to lay it out for you. And, you HAVE to give her podcast, Amy Lang’s Just Say This, a listen immediately! OMG – just the best thing ever to listen to for understanding how to talk to your kids, tweens and teens about sex (like EVERYTHING about sex!!!)
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Has your teenage son or daughter asked you to let their boyfriend or girlfriend sleep over all night? In their bedroom? No? Well, it might just happen yet. And if it does, you don't want to be caught off guard. You want to know what to consider before giving your answer - no matter what side of the fence you're learning towards right now.
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When you’re struggling with your teenager’s behavior (they’re acting out, angry, sneaking out, smoking weed, drinking, getting in trouble at school, etc.) you just want it to stop. So, you try consequences, you yell, you lecture, you punish, you take their cell phone away, over, and over and over again. And at some point you may reach out to a therapist, an organization or a treatment facility to do something to “straighten your teen out”. The problem is, you’re focused on the wrong thing.
Listen as Aaron Huey (a powerhouse of support for parents of kids who struggle) explains what he's learned from 25 years of experience in helping teens and families heal.
Beyond Risk and Back Podcast
Beyond Risk and Back Parenting Masterclass
Aaron's Parent Coaching Packages
Contact Aaron
BRAB on Insta
BRAB on Facebook
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Full transparency: This important episode, aired first on August 11, 2023. It's worth hearing again if you've heard it before!
If you’ve never heard the term authoritarian parenting, it’s just a way of parenting where the parent generally insists on blind obedience to strict rules. It may involve physical punishment like spanking or hitting, usually harsh non-physical punishment (like taking property or privileges for long periods of time or for the slightest infraction), and psychological control like shaming, threatening, yelling, intimidating.
THIS is not the type of parenting that instills trust, connection and long term "good behavior" in your teen. As a matter of fact, it will only do the opposite.
See also, Episode 1 and Episode 10
Parenting Science: Authoritarian parenting outcomes: What happens to the kids?
About Gwen Dewar
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This episode deals with suicide and suicide prevention but contains no specific stories of suicide. It’s a crucial topic for parents but, of course, please listen with care.Suicide Hotlines:
USA Lifeline 988
USA Crisis Text 741-741
USA Suicide Prevention Lifeline and Chat for the Deaf or Hearing impaired. Or use your preferred relay service, or dial 711 then 1-800-273-8255
Canada 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom 116 123
Australia 13 11 14
International suicide hotlines
Teen suicide is obviously not something we like to think about. But because it happens all too often in young people, we must be educated and face it head-on. On today’s episode I talk to AnneMoss Rogers, amental health keynote speaker, mental health and suicide education expert and suicide loss survivor . AnneMoss lost her 20-year-old son to suicide in 2015, but rather than telling her story today, she focuses on what you can do to become more aware and proactive regarding your teen (and even their friends.) Listening to the show today could literally save someone’s life. Be sure and share❣️
To connect with AnneMoss:
http://emotionallynaked.com
https://mentalhealthawarnesseducation.com
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Oh, we've all been there. Those giant explosions of teenage emotion. Those moments when you want to run out the door, get in your car (alone) and head to a country with no extradition treaty. Well, either that OR you want to body slam your kid (just kidding of course...), maybe scream at them though, cry or take that dang phone away like forever!
Let me help you with this just a little bit. We're going to talk about gaining a little empathy for your teens that will, in turn, help you keep from losing your $h*!.
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child (Gottman)
Ep 6
Ep 8
The Social Neuroscience of Empathy
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence” (now called "Emotion Coaching")
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
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Okay, don't say you don't. Well, maybe you don't if you have one of those teenagers you never have to remind about homework or studying because they just love school and love reading and love studying... count yourself lucky! The rest of us out here are worried our unmotivated or uninterested teen will be lucky to get into any college, much less the "college of their dreams" (if they even "dream" about college at all!)
But that worrying and stressing and fussing and punishing - it's not doing you or your teen any good. And there are tons of reasons you should back off. I'm going to give you several today.
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It happens all too often. And it's scary for parents. Teenagers, in middle school and high school, are pretty likely, at one time or another, to sneak out of the house in the middle of the night. Yes, it's dangerous but try telling them that. How do you make sure your teen is not the one climbing out the window and down the gutter to go take a joy ride with a friend at 1 am? Well, there are actually several things you can do (and none of them involve surveillance cameras or bells on their bedroom windows.) But what if they've already snuck out? Then what should you do? Well, if you think more monitors, grounding them for life or hiring a security guard will do the trick, I've got news for you...
Edited to Add:
YouTube Video on the brain
Ep #15
Ep #16
Ep# 22
Ep #7
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I’ve mentioned secure attachment in several previous episodes. We sometimes lump this very scientific concept under general terms like having a “good relationship” or “strong connection” with our kids and teens. This concept of secure attachment is the basis for these more general terms. It’s about first understanding and then meeting our kids', teens' and tweens' needs. If we don’t meet those needs, we see dysregulation, anxiety, depression, mistrust, etc.
In today’s episode I talk to Laurie A. Couture, a licensed mental health counselor, child trauma specialist, child advocate and author. Laurie drives home the concept of secure attachment and how unmet needs and trauma (small and large) can lead to insecure attachment with your teen…and how you can repair it.
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https://laurieacouture.com/
https://laurieacouture.substack.com/p/young-male-suicide-the-epidemic-no
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If you need help now, call the National Dating Abuse Helpline at 1-866-331-9474 or go to loveisrespect.org to receive immediate confidential assistance.
If you've not been in this situation yet, you've been lucky so far. It's a terrible position for the parent of a teenager to find themselves. It's hard to imagine but your teen may just have different tastes in romantic partners than you'd expected (and you may not like this person one bit.) Maybe you can't even put your finger on it...there's just something about them. So, what do you do?
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Do you have a teenager dealing with a mental health issue? Maybe you have a teen who’s cutting or self-harming in some way or one who’s depressed or anxious or just can’t seem to cope with daily life. Maybe you’re just hoping and praying they hang in there until they reach adulthood. It can be so hard to imagine they’ll ever be okay again when you’re in the middle of this battle. If you’re feeling the weight of your teen’s mental health struggle, Sadie’s story will not only give you hope, but will also provide you with guideposts for the journey. You may also want to suggest that your teen listen (and listen to her podcast as well!)
Sadie Sutton's podcast, She PersistedMore about Sadie
She Persisted on Instagram, on TikTok, YouTube
Show Notes for resources (including information regarding McLean Hospital's 3East DBT Program) and Transcript
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative.
Today's episode is about communicating with your teenager. Parenting a teen is far from easy. But remaining calm when they open up to you about something critical - well, it can be extremely difficult (but so important if you want to remain their primary "influencer.")
Related episodes: 8, 26, 57
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
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If you've ever been curious about "tapping", now's your chance to learn everything you need to know about this evidence-based, therapeutic self-help technique. The Emotional Freedom Technique, otherwise known as "EFT" or "EFT Tapping" has been scientifically shown to help children, adolescents, and adults with all manner of mental, physical, and emotional pain. Have you ever heard of it or seen anyone practice it? It looks a little bit odd, and I was admittedly skeptical, but the evidence is clear – it works! It helps with anxiety, panic attacks, depression, PTSD, weight issues, physical pain and so much more. So, join me today to learn more about this extremely simple practice that may just be able to help you and your teen break through some complicated obstacles.
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative. Today's episode is all about rules about rules!
Related episodes: 15, 16, and 22
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If you haven’t listened to episode #70, you might want to go back now and listen before returning here.
Perhaps you’ve been there; sitting on the edge of your 15-year-old daughter’s bed while she cries and pleads with you not to make her go to school because she “just can’t.” Or maybe you’ve stood outside the bathroom door while your 13-year-old son intermittently throws up and yells that he’s “never going back to that school!”
Statistically speaking, you may have had an experience like this or you may just be in the position before it’s all said and done. School refusal or school avoidance – different terms for the same thing – simply means your kid will not go to school or will not stay at school all day long. It’s a horrible position for a parent to be in and the schools generally don’t make it any easier.
Enter Jane Demsky and her School Avoidance Alliance. Jayne has certainly been there with her son – around four years was spent with her trying to figure out how to get her son back in school.
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Normally, Friday is a bonus episode, but you've been waiting on this one! Today is the first part of the recent conversation I had with Jayne Demsky of The School Avoidance Alliance and you don't want to miss this or the second part coming Tuesday 9-19. If you've ever dealt with a stressed out, anxious or depressed teen or tween that just couldn't go to school, we've got some great information for you in these two episodes!
The following resources are from Jayne:
- School Avoidance Master Class for Parents (includes Parent Peer to Peer Support Group)
- Educator Professional Development course, Everything You Need to know to Get Your Kids Back to School
- Our private FB group for families
- For School Avoidance Families; The Ultimate Guide to Working with Your School (Provides guidance on how to work with your school and includes simple explanations of special education and disability laws, 504 plans, Education Plans- IEPs and School Intervention teams)
- Our website: www.schoolavoidance.org
Helpful places to find therapists who are experienced in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, some will be trained in exposure therapy:
www.Abct.org
www.iocdf.org (even though this is the OCD foundation, mental health providers that treat OCD are usually trained in CBT w Exposure. These listings may be mostly partial and inpatient programs)
Beck Institute Cares-clinician directory
We have a partnership with leading school avoidance clinicians at www.lumatehealth.com They are experienced therapists that do CBT w Exposure via telehealth. Say referred from Jayne from School Avoidance Alliance. Right now, only for the states of NY, CA, FL, and NJ, and coming soon to NC , CT, MD, NC, and PA
Other good places to find anxiety clinics who may be experienced in CBT are hospitals and universities in your area.
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Middle school sucks for most kids. They feel awkward, embarrassed by everything, want more than anything to fit in and be part of the crowd. And navigating friendships can be ridiculously difficult...but when you throw smart phones in the mix, it's next-level.
On today’s episode I talk to Jessica Speer, the author of three wonderful books for kids and teens, who has two teenage daughters herself. She has a masters in social sciences, but what really makes her an award-winning author is her knack for writing that connects with her readers. Her books Middle School (Safety Goggles Advised), BFF or NRF (not really friends), and The Phone Book, are packed with quizzes, choose your ending scenarios, stories, and secret codes…because she knows what she’s competing with.
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
Mattering Movement
Never Enough, When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic-And What We Can Do About It (Jennifer Breheny Wallace)
Greater Good Magazine article
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"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
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While it's impossible to be a “perfect parent” to your teen or tween, there are certain mistakes we can avoid...and it's crucial to your relationship with them, their overall wellbeing and their eventual success that you learn them now.
The parenting mistakes I talk about in this week’s episode lead to lots of unnecessary conflict between you and your teen and can cause or increase a teenager's bad behavior. I’m talking about issues that impact the way we interpret and understand their behavior, the way we handle ourselves during stressful interactions with our teenagers, our mindset and approach to discipline and how much deference we afford them in how they live their lives.
Show Notes and Transcript
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal). Check out these guides to help you go deeper:
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
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How well can we really know our teens? Of course, when they’re little we know everything just by default - we know them to their core. But when they become adolescents, our relationship naturally shifts, they want and need more privacy and it becomes much easier for them to hide bits and pieces of themselves from us. Do you think you’d know if they had an enormous secret? One they feel might be just too hard for you to understand and accept (like being gay)? Tune in today for my interview with Heather Hester, another mom who’s really been through the ringer with her son, who came out as gay during his teen years – and learn how they handled this “secret.”
You can learn more about Heather’s speaking, corporate consulting and coaching at chrysalismama.com and check out her podcast Just Breath: Parenting your LGBTQ+ Teen and the Just Breathe community
Show Notes and Transcript
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions at acoleman@speakingofteens.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
See also, episodes 22 and 26
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday and Friday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at acoleman@speakingofteens.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Teenagers are experiencing anxiety today more than ever before. Yet, as a parent, you may have no idea what teen anxiety looks like or how to help your kid if you suspect they may have it. Teen anxiety doesn’t look like adult anxiety, and often teens and tweens don’t have enough self-awareness to even understand that’s what they’re feeling. So, it falls on you to figure it out, give them the support they need and find the right kind of help for them.
On the show today is Lauren Wolfe, licensed professional counselor, and host of the Your Zen Friend podcast. She works with kids, teens, and their families when anxiety makes life difficult. She explains what teen anxiety looks like and what you can do (and shouldn’t do) to help your teen if they’re living with this overwhelming disorder.
See also:
Episode #19 You Teen and Anxiety: How to Spot it and How to Help
Episode #27 Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking
Parenting Guide: "Your Teen and Anxiety"
Parenting Guide: "Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
About the 26th Amendment
Age Requirements History
See also, Episode 62 and Episode 63
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Parenting is a stressful journey, and the teen years can be a major challenge when we don’t understand what role our own emotions play in our day-to-day interactions with our kids.
On the show today is Hunter Clarke-Fields, the Mindful Mama Mentor and host of the Mindful Mama podcast. Hunter is also the bestselling author of Raising Good Humans and has just released her second book, Raising Good Humans Every Day: 50 ways to press pause, stay present and connect with your kids. She talks about how, as parents, we bring our past into our parenting journey with us and how becoming more mindful will not only bring more calm to our home but will help us not to pass along our own “emotional baggage” onto our kids.
Mindful Mama Mentor
Mindful Mama Podcast
Raising Good Humans (book)
Raising Good Humans Every Day (book)
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
See also, Episode 1 and Episode 10
Parenting Science: Authoritarian parenting outcomes: What happens to the kids?
About Gwen Dewar
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Details on the LIVE TRAINING: Why Teens Can Be So Infuriating And What You Can Do About It - August 15th!
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Details on the LIVE TRAINING: Why Teens Can Be So Infuriating And What You Can Do About It - August 15th!
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!) And add your name to the Waiting List to be notified of the launch for the next Parenting Course from neurogility.
Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
See also, Episode 8 and free parenting Guide, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Details on the LIVE TRAINING: Why Teens Can Be So Infuriating And What You Can Do About It - August 15th!
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!) And add your name to the Waiting List to be notified of the launch for the next Parenting Course from neurogility.
You know it's true! We should all just have "what the hell were you thinking?" tattooed on our foreheads! We not only have to watch out for their wildly emotional behavior but we have to worry about them doing things they've always promised us they've NEVER do. Afterall, they know better. We know they know better. And if you gave them a true/false test, they'd get it right every time: Drinking is bad - TRUE, Vaping is bad - TRUE, Smoking marijuana is bad - TRUE, Driving 75 mph with a car full of other teens singing a long to the latest hip hop hit is bad - TRUE.
The problem isn't with what they know to be true - it's so much more complicated than that and requires just a bit more knowledge about the changes going on in the adolescent brain. If you didn't listen to episode 62, it would be better to go back and listen now then come back for the rest of the story here.
Go HERE for Show Notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and link to full transcript).
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime with the voicemail app on the website. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
Today: How do you manage your own emotions when your teen is testing your patience at every turn?
See also, Episode 8 and free parenting Guide, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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As parents, we have a lot of expectations of our kids (and we should). The problem is, once they start looking more like an adult, we start expecting them to act like one. The "funny" thing is - that's not the way this works. Just because they have to shave or they're allowed by the state to practice driving doesn't mean they can show empathy for us or can do their homework when they should or can stay calm when something's upset them. We assume they can do things they can't. We assume because they can do one thing, they should be able to do another. We assume, they could if they just wanted to.
Well, you know what they say about making assumptions, right?
Go HERE for Show Notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and link to full transcript).
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
Today: There are so many things about parenting teens and tweens that are uncomfortable. Too many to even begin to list. It's time to get comfortable in your discomfort.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get immediate access to all the parenting guides above!) And add your name to the Waiting List to be notified of the launch for the next Parenting Course from neurogility.
Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
Today, we address the following questions:
1. Can you discuss Hip Hop’s origins with your teen?
2. What are the chances your son or daughter has been approached by a sextortionist online?
3. Have you seen or experienced TikTok’s Bold Glamour filter?
Sources and Resources for today's episode:NPR on Hip HopWeProtect Global Alliance on sextortionBold Glamour
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Today’s episode is our 60th and we zeroed in on this topic because recently, I’ve been seeing more questions about teen drug and alcohol issues in online groups and forums. These questions cover everything from punishments to at-home drug tests. Learn the answers in this episode featuring Richard Capriola, author of The Addicted Child, A Parents Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse (or available on Amazon)
Go HERE for Show Notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and link to full transcript).
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
Today, we address the following questions:
- Is your teen more or less likely to develop a substance use disorder if they take stimulant medication for their ADHD?
- What is it about your voice and the way your teen reacts?
- Is your teen such a picky eater that you’re really concerned about them?
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
Sources and Resources for today's episode:
About ADHD Stimulant Medication
Study on ADHD Medication and Substance Use
Mom's Voice
Tone of Mom's Voice
ARFID
ARFID
Other Resources on ARFID:
Child Mind
NEDA
Professionals in Your Area
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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“What do you want to do when you grow up?” It’s the question kids become accustomed to from the time they can talk. They’ll give answers like astronaut, doctor, teacher, veterinarian or maybe artist, dancer, singer. But as they move through middle school, they begin to understand a little more about the “practicalities” of some of those careers as the adults in their life begin to wield more influence. And the closer they get to graduating from high school, it can seem that’s all anyone around them is talking about. That “little kid question” has now become much more of an “adult question”, which looms so large it can start to cause them major stress. What do they want to do for the rest of their lives? How do they decide? What should they consider and when do they really have to know? Today’s episode addresses how parents can help their teens move closer to deciding their initial career goals, without steering them in the wrong direction.
Go HERE for Show Notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and link to full transcript).
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Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Guess what? Your teen’s not staying up late because they make poor choices. They’re not fighting to stay asleep in the morning because they’re lazy. It’s not their fault - it’s not a conscious decision.
Just like other fallout from adolescent brain changes (you know, the ones that make them more prone to unpleasant emotions, more likely to do risky things like party and have unprotected sex, move away from you and towards their friends, etc.), their sleep patterns take a hit as well.
And teens are chronically sleep deprived because of a combination of neurobiology, modern life, and an education system that asks too much of them after they go home and takes far too long to accept what research says is best for kids.
Go HERE for Show Notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and link to full transcript).
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens!
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
Today, we're asking the questions:
Can helping someone else improve your teen’s mental health?
What kind of driving are you modeling for your kids and teens?
Is Junior college a good option for your kid?
Check out the show notes for resources and sources for the podcast this week.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
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Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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We just don’t know how much we don’t know when we’re trying to be the best parents we can be. So many of us learn later that we should have done things differently. That’s me. I should have done so many things differently. And that’s what drives me to help you learn now so you don’t have to correct course later.
The mistakes I talk about in this week’s episode are those that lead to lots of unnecessary conflict and drama between you and your teen and exacerbate a teen or tween’s poor behavior. I’m talking about issues that impact the way we interpret and understand their behavior, the way we handle ourselves during stressful interactions with our teenagers, our mindset and approach to discipline and how much deference we afford them in how they live their lives.
It’s impossible to be a “perfect parent” because it’s impossible to be a “perfect human” but if we can avoid making the biggest mistakes, we can save ourselves and our teens and tweens a lot of needless pain and suffering and help ensure they live their best life.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/57.)
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Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Please note – although this episode is not about suicide, Our discussion does contain references to a relative’s suicide. Listen with care.This week’s episode is an interview with someone who has a very interesting story to tell and I’m honored she decided to tell it to me. If you’ve ever worried that your teen’s heading down the wrong path, hanging out with the wrong people, or making the wrong choices, this episode is going to give you such hope. And if you’ve never contemplated the mind-body connection or even if you doubt there is such a connection between our emotional world and our physical body, well, this episode may change your mind. O’tion has made a pretty amazing journey in her still very young life and one of the discoveries she made along the way has helped so many others find their own peace. Just listen.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/56.)
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Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
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Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).
Check out the show notes for TONS of resources and sources for the podcast this week.
Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens!
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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This week’s episode is a continuation from last week, episode 54: “Big Social Media”, The Surgeon General And Teen Mental Health. You may want to go back and have a listen to that episode first.
We know that social media’s not all bad for our teens but it’s certainly easy to blame these platforms for the adolescent mental health crisis. Afterall, continuous scroll, targeted algorithms and the like make it all too easy for teens to mindlessly stare at their phones for hours on end. And so many teens’ body image and self-worth is based on their comparison to influencers’ filtered and photoshopped images.
But luckily, there are steps you can take to help preserve your teen’s mental health as they navigate life through social media. The scientific research tells us that keeping them safe is not only about the external controls you place on their social media use but also the ongoing conversation, guidance, and coaching you provide.
If you’re the parent of carer of a kid on social media, you really should join me for this week’s episode as I review the recommendations included in recent national mental health advisories by both the American Psychological Association and the Surgeon General. You’ll walk away with actionable advice and resources to help you, help your teen.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/55.)
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Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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This past week the Surgeon General’s Advisory about Social Media and Youth Mental Health has been all over the news. Mostly, people have hit the highlights and chimed in with their own opinion.
But let’s dig a little deeper. Why are so many of our kids in a position of having to choose between their mental health and their social connection with peers?
The Surgeon General’s Advisory highlights the most important science to date but still leaves parents without a lot of assistance or direction. Can the government step in and resolve any of the issues teens face on social? What about the Social Media companies – they made this mess; can they fix it? Or is up to parents to continue to try and police their teens (and the teens to police themselves)?
Join me this week as I try to answer these questions by digging into leaked documents, teen mental health advisories, the science, and the laws many federal and state politicians are looking to pass.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/54.)
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Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (but a little less formal).
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Even if your teen has never suffered in the past and isn’t currently suffering from depression, you need to educate yourself on this very serious topic.
Because the risk is so great and the statistics for teen depression and associated harms are currently so high, you simply can’t take a chance. Depression in teens can escalate way too fast and when we’re desperate, we tend to not make great decisions.
We simply don’t have the luxury these days of assuming our kids are going to be okay. The risks associated with teen depression are as devastating as they get. And the statistics are such that it appears more girls and gay, lesbian, and bisexual teens are depressed than aren’t.
This week’s episode is the second in a series on teen depression. In episode #51, we talked about the myths, the truths and signs and symptoms of teen depression. Today, we’re talking about what you can do if you suspect your teen is suffering from depression and how you can support them.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/53.)
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Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"
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Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Today, I have a "bonus episode" for you. Honestly, I'd rather it just be a surprise, but I think you can tell by the title what I'm talking about (and those are 3 separate topics, btw!)
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Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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On this one-year anniversary episode of Speaking of Teens, I’ll share with you what it has taken me the better part of the last 4 years to extrapolate from the science: A 4-part framework that will help you avoid conflict with your teen, build a stronger relationship with them and positively influence their behavior.
Back in 2017 and 2018 our family was struggling. Our son was experiencing horrible anxiety and major depression on top of ADHD and other learning issues. These issues then morphed into substance use, trouble at school, and trouble with the law. My husband and I did not have the skills to deal with his issues properly.
We sought help from many different sources but never really understood the underlying issues until I began reading and studying the science of adolescence.
As I began learning more about emotions and how to communicate with him better (my husband really knew better), things started to turn around. The arguments began to dissipate, our relationship improved, and our son’s trajectory completely changed. I haven’t stopped reading and studying since then.
I deeply regret that it took me until his 18th birthday to get things right. I regret that I wasn’t more emotionally aware and better able to regulate my own emotions. I regret that I was more concerned about controlling his behavior than learning why he was behaving the way was. I regret that I didn’t know how to communicate with him properly.
I sincerely do not want you to have any such regrets and I don’t want your teenager to go through anything near what my son went through. Join me this week for the big picture.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/52.)
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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This episode discusses depression and suicide – listen with care. If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, call or text 988 to reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline or go to SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources for a list of additional resources.
Teens’ mental health has been in decline for years. The pandemic was then responsible for pushing the statistics into oblivion. The fact that teens and tweens in the US are experiencing records rates of depression and suicidality should put all of us on alert. This isn’t just a crisis for the teens themselves – it’s a familial and a societal crisis. We should all be concerned about an entire generation of young people in pain.
So, join me this week for the first episode in what will become a series of episodes on adolescent depression. I’ll start this week with the basics - the myths, truths, signs and symptoms of adolescent depression. This information could save your child or another teenager in your sphere from misery and despair or worse. Equip yourself and become a valuable asset in the fight against the rising numbers of depressed and suicidal teens.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/51.)
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Some people think Artificial Intelligence (AI) is the best thing ever. It scares other people to death. Then there’s the rest of us who’ve been happily unaware of why we should feel either way.
Well, join me this week for a foray into a topic that used to be reserved for dystopian and sci-fi movies: AI. After listening, you may have a little better idea of where you stand on the subject.
If you haven’t played around yet with ChatGPT, it’s absolutely incredible. Equally incredible is that AI software is extremely accessible – even to criminals. But perhaps even more concerning is how the social media giant, Snapchat, is choosing to use it in a grand social experiment that includes children and teens. It’s just one more poor decision in a very long list of poor decisions made by Snapchat management (and one more discussion you’ll need to have with your kid).
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/50.)
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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It seems everywhere you look lately, TikTok is in the news; exposés on the algorithm and sneaky search terms, the story of another teenager dying because of a TikTok challenge, investigative reports on data privacy, and the alleged threat to national security.
TikTok’s CEO has made the rounds to defend the company; in front of Congress in March, at the TED2023 conference in Vancouver last week. Many in the federal government want to ban the app in the US. and Montana actually did that very thing just days ago. The app has already been banned on federal employees’ work phones and several states have done the same.
Is all this hype about TikTok just good fodder for sensational news stories and political grandstanding? Or is there something truly nefarious about TikTok? Is it more than just an app for people to get lost in endless scroll and dream of becoming online influencers?
In this episode I’ll break down the claims being made against TikTok, examine the facts, and give you a clear picture of whether or not you can expect to see a US ban anytime soon.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/49.)
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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It’s hard to overemphasize the importance of emotion in our lives. Our emotions give us direction, they tell us what’s important to us – they can even change our physiology and make us sick, not to mention to huge impact they have on our relationships, including those with our teenagers.
Some of us are more aware of our emotions as we’re experiencing them, than others. But there’s a big difference in being aware of our emotions in the moment and understanding why that emotion cropped up to begin with. Emotionally charged situations and traumatic events from our past can subconsciously impact our thoughts, our current emotions, our body, and our interactions with family and friends as well.
Are there certain interactions with your teenager that make you angrier than you think reasonable? Are there certain things they do or say, or certain situations that upset you or make you more nervous than others, but you don’t understand why? Do you have weird unexplained physiological symptoms or chronic pain? We can go through life unaware and confused about so many of the reasons we think, feel, and behave the way we do (and even why we have these weird illnesses, physiological issues, and mental health disorders).
Join me today as I talk to Vincent VanOhm, expert on the mind-body connection and co-creator of a trauma healing modality called the Subconscious Imprinting Technique. V (as she prefers to be called), along with co-creator and wife, O’tion, has helped people all over the world discover the emotional root cause of their mental, emotional and physical suffering so they can heal themselves.
Today’s show is a call to action to work on your emotional health, not only for your sake, but for those you love.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/48.)
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please share this episode with another mom and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com.
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Experts agree that social media is to blame for the huge increase in the decline of teen girls’ mental health over the past few years. While boy’s mental health has also suffered, especially due to COVID, it’s the girls’ which has taken a nosedive. Cyberbullying, competition between peers and the constant barrage of unrealistic and sexualized images of influencers to compare themselves to.
Sexualization of young girls and adolescents is a huge problem in our society and has been for decades. But social media has made it much more prevalent and pervasive.
The never-ending stream of filtered and perfected images of young women and teens in their social media feed makes it impossible to escape. Influencers and even “beautiful friends” put endless pressure on girls to be skinny but curvy, with flawless skin, plumped lips, and long silky hair. These images create the belief that their sole value rests in their looks and sex appeal. For many girls, their entire self-worth rests on this belief.
And if social media wasn’t enough sexualizing and objectification for them, their school drives the message home. For wearing clothes, they buy at the mall, girls are in danger of being “coded”, sent home, or forced to cover up. They’re made to feel their bodies are nothing but an object that drive men and boys to distraction at best or sexual assault at worst. Either way, it’s their fault.
Join me this week to discuss the sexualization of girls and find out how you can help your daughter or your son combat this pervasive and harmful issue.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/47.)
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Therapists and other professionals often use a style of communication with their patients, called motivational interviewing. The method uses open-ended questions and reflective listening to help people find their inner motivation for change. It was originally developed back in the 1980s to help patients who were ambivalent about addressing their substance use disorders. Since then, it has been used in many different professional settings.
Dr. Emily Kline, a professor at Boston University School of Medicine felt motivational interviewing could be used in the family setting and through her research with hundreds of parents has shown that indeed it can be extremely beneficial.
Join me as I talk to Dr. Kline about these conversational tools that can be used with your adolescent (whether a teen or young adult), to discuss any issue and encourages them to solve their own problems. She outlines her 5-step guide for parents in her new book, The School of Hard Talks, with a simplified version contained in her free online e-course at The School of Hard Talks Online.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/46.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
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Does your teenager dream of making millions by playing video games? Streaming to millions of adoring fans and landing huge sponsorship deals? Do they play on an e-sports team or dream of going to a top e-sports college? No doubt our job as moms got a little harder when gaming became a “sport” or something you could make millions of dollars doing. The argument that they’re “practicing” or “working” when asked to shut down the game and go to bed has become all too common. And even if they don’t have those lofty aspirations, gaming can still become all-consuming for many teenagers and can cause plenty of friction in the family.
How do you know when enough is enough? Does their single 8-hour bender of Fortnight indicate a real problem? An (gulp) addiction even? If you’re threatening daily to throw the gaming console into a wood chipper, is that just your issue? Should you just buy a headset and learn to play Call of Duty and chill?
This week I’m talking to Jeremy Edge, a licensed professional counselor specializing in problematic screen use…including gaming. We discuss all things gaming including boundaries, when you should worry, and what you should do if there’s a real problem.
Jeremy's online courses for Parents and Video Game Players, Summer Program, and tons of resources.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/45.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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How does your teen or tween feel about the amount of homework they have? Are they staying up late to get it done and constantly playing catch up on the weekends and complaining because it takes time away from other activities or socializing? And how much time do you spend thinking about and talking to them about homework? For many families it's a major source of conflict, drama, and stress.
This week, I’m talking to Christine Kaplan, LCSW, ADHD life coach, about the endless mountain of homework under which so many of our teenagers seem to find themselves these days. How many hours a week should adolescents be expected to go to school and do work outside of school?
Much of the scientific research on homework focuses on academic achievement and standardized test scores. But if we’ve learned nothing else since 2020, surely, we’ve learned life isn’t all about “achievement”. Why are we still so willing to sacrifice this generation’s mental health for college bumper sticker? What changes do we need to make to the school work load to allow our teens to experience life more fully and to maintain their mental and physical health?
Grab Christine’s “4 Tips to Reduce Teen Stress”
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You can find the show notes, resources and transcript at https://neurogility.com/44
Click here for the rest of my "post show" candid conversation with Christine Kaplan
Download our FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
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This week’s episode is the second part of the conversation we began last week in episode #42 with my guest, Kriya Lendzion, an addiction and prevention specialist and adolescent clinician.
Last week we discussed how today’s substances are vastly different from those of our youth, why our kids try them to begin with (despite all our warnings), how easily they can become addicted and how we should try to keep them from using any addictive substance for as long as we can.
In this week’s episode Kriya helps us understand boundaries around using substances, tells us how we can use “creative consequences” to help replace their desire to use substances, how to help them refuse substances and keep their “cool points” and most importantly, perhaps, how we should respond to them when we discover they’ve used substances despite all of our efforts.
Download Kriya's Grown Ups Guide to the Adolescent Brain (and How to Parent It) and read, How to Respond When We Discover our Kids Drinking or Using Drugs and 10 Tips for Becoming a Teen Communication Jedi. See resources for parents here
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/43.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
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New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
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One of the most significant and potentially troublesome issues we face as the parent of an adolescent is their potential use of substances (alcohol, nicotine, weed, party drugs, etc.)
Depending on our background, our upbringing, our experiences with those substances, we can develop vastly different perspectives and attitudes about our kid’s potential use. Some parents see drinking or smoking weed as a harmless rite of passage. However, according to science, there’s nothing harmless about it and the risks are far too great to adopt that attitude.
In this week’s episode my guest, Kriya Lendzion, an addiction and prevention specialist and adolescent clinician, we take a closer look at the latest versions of substances our teens and tweens are exposed to today. And we discuss how their brain is wired in such a way that makes substance use all too common and misuse and addiction a very real possibility for many.
We’ll continue the conversation in next week’s episode where we discuss exactly what to do when we discover our kid’s used drugs or alcohol and how to head it off in the first place.
Download Kriya's Grown Ups Guide to the Adolescent Brain (and How to Parent It) and read, How to Respond When We Discover our Kids Drinking or Using Drugs and 10 Tips for Becoming a Teen Communication Jedi. See resources for parents here
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/42.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider sharing with another mom and following it where you're listening now.
New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
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Parenting the neurotypical teenager is not a job for the faint at heart, but when your teen has an ADHD diagnosis, it can feel downright daunting. In this week’s episode, although my guest, Dr. Mark Bertin, (a board certified developmental behavioral pediatrician, on the board of directors for the American Professional Society of ADHD and Related Disorders) specifically addresses parents of teens with ADHD, much of his wisdom applies to most parents of teens and tweens.
As the parent of an adolescent, it can be so frustrating to deal with the daily homework battles, checking behind them, constantly reminding, not to mention the emotionality and the behavior issues that often intensify beginning in middle school.
But for parents of a teen with ADHD, these issues are 10-fold because of the additional delay your kid has is self-management skills. Add in IEPs or 504s, evaluations, doctor visits, medication issues, communications with the school…and you have a recipe for major stress, overwhelm and exhaustion.
Learning to manage your reactivity to your teen’s behavior is crucial for their wellbeing and yours. This is true not only for parents of a teen with ADHD, but for parents of any teen. And so much of our behavior as parents, depends on our own thoughts and emotions – expectations for ourselves, judgment from others, questions about our teen’s behavior, etc.
Dr. Bertin gives us guidance for reframing the way we think about these issues, discusses mindfulness and its impact on our reactivity, and addresses specific ADHD-related concerns as well.
Dr. Bertin's book - Mindful Parenting for ADHD
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/41.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you!Listener
New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com.
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This episode is marked explicit because of language contained in soundbites and quotes from Andrew Tate. I believe it’s absolutely necessary to hear the exact language to understand the totality of his dangerous message.
Andrew Tate - or “Top-G” as his legions of fans call him - has also been called the "King of Toxic Masculinity” by those who are not as easily duped. Teachers know about him and his message because they deal with it daily from “radicalized” middle and high school boys. And many teen girls and grown women know him as the guy who tells their boyfriend, classmate or co-worker that it's okay to treat women as property, to slap them around or otherwise put them in their place.
You need to understand who he is, the message he’s spreading, and the vile and despicable things he’s been accused of doing so you can discuss it intelligently with your teens and tweens.
Get ready to be shocked and baffled by his meteoric rise to one of “the most Googled men on the planet” and the #1 influencer of teens in 2022, someone who’s managed to amass a fortune on the backs of trafficked women and adolescent males who willingly spread his message and increase his influence for money.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/40.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, anxiety, depression and all the associated behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Lying. It’s always up there with “Cheating and Stealing”. And none of it sounds too good when we’re talking about our own teenager.
No one wants to believe their kid could lie to them. And once it happens, it’s terribly hard to for us to trust them again. They may directly lie to us, conveniently leave out specific information, or even avoid our questions entirely by steering the conversation.
Why is it that teenagers seem to lie so frequently and about so many different things? Is it rebellion? Is it a character flaw? And can the way we parent impact their need to lie to us? The answer is yes, it can.
Join me this week as we examine why teens lie, what we can do to help prevent it and how to talk to them when we’ve caught them in a lie.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/39.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, anxiety, depression and all the associated behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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There’s never a shortage of news stories about someone in a position of power or authority who has physically, emotionally, or sexually abused a child or an adolescent in their care. We’ve seen it in schools, churches, sports organizations - anywhere adults are in charge of young people.
And for all the high-profile cases, there are thousands more that perhaps involve fewer kids or a not-so-famous organization and still more than go unreported.
When one of these stories come to light, our questions are always the same. How did this happen? Why did these kids not say something? Why didn’t they tell someone? Why didn’t they ask their parents for help?
I believe the answer’s pretty simple: it’s because we’ve taught our kids to keep their mouths shut. We’ve taught them to “respect authority”, to “obey their elders”, to “not talk back”, to “do what they’re told”...and by doing so, we’ve put them at great risk for harm.
Join me this week as I examine how we can change the narrative with our kids about “respecting authority” to do a better job of keeping them safe from predatory and abusive adults in positions of power or trust.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/38.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, anxiety, depression and all the associated behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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For many people food is a non-issue. They eat regular meals, snack when they feel the need, indulge now and then but don’t beat themselves up about it. But some people develop a strange relationship with food – often one that started in adolescence. It may start innocently enough – a fad diet, a decision to go “gluten free” or become a vegan. But, as we learn in our discussion with Dr. Marcia Herrin in today’s episode, for kids with a genetic predisposition for eating disorders, it doesn’t take much to set the wheels in motion. She gives us advice on what we can do to help keep an eating disorder from “taking hold” of our teens and tweens and what to do if despite those efforts, we find our child in the grips of a disorder.
Dr. Marcia Herrin is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist with a Masters of Public Health from UC Berkeley and a Doctorate of Nutrition Education from Columbia University. She’s a Fellow of the Academy of Eating Disorders, having been bestowed the honor for significant contributions in the field of eating disorders. Dr. Herrin is a Clinical Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at the Geisel School of Medicine at Dartmouth, teaching future pediatricians about eating disorders and is the founder of Dartmouth College’s nationally renowned eating disorder treatment program for college students. She also runs a private practice in New Hampshire for the treatment of eating disorders in adolescents and adults. She’s also the author of The Parent’s Guide to Eating Disorders and Nutrition Counseling in the Treatment of Eating Disorders.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/37. Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com.
FREE GUIDES :
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
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The broad range of violence that teenagers inflict on one another is staggering. Dating violence, sexual violence, bullying, cyberbullying, physical assaults, gun violence, suicide, verbal violence, hate speech and emotional abuse.
Of course, the physical violence is most terrifying for parents. Middle schoolers carrying guns and knives. Fights breaking out at ballgames, parties and in the halls at school. What’s going on here? How is it that someone so young is capable of inflicting such harm on another person? What causes this seemingly callus behavior? What can we do to protect our kids from becoming involved or falling victim? What do we say beyond, “be careful”, and what can we do as parents and as a community to help decrease this violence?
Join me in this episode for a look at teen violence; how it originates, how it perpetuates, how to help stop it (and protect our kids and others in the process).
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/36.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Self-compassion may not yet be a household term, but it turns out there’s some very persuasive research regarding the positive impact of this fairly simple practice. It appears to be a powerful way to combat “self-negativity”.
And who among us tends to be the most self-critical, filled with self-doubt, and internalized negativity? That’s right, adolescents. Their brain is changing in such a way that makes them super self-conscious and prone to negative emotions. They also face enormous stress, which often leads to anxiety and depression. But perhaps worst of all, they think they’re the only one who feels the way they do.
Today in episode 35, I talk to Dr. Karen Bluth, a researcher at the University of North Carolina who studies self-compassion and how it influences adolescents’ emotional wellbeing. Listen in and learn how this simple yet powerful practice can potentially help your teenager flip the switch in their brain to become more positive, resilient and motivated and less stressed, anxious and depressed.
For show notes (including Dr. Bluth's books, courses and resources, and a full transcript, go tohttps://neurogility.com/35.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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If you’ve never been bullied, you’ve at least known a bully or seen one in action. And a teenage bully with the internet and a cell phone at their disposal is about as bad as it gets. Teens and tweens are still gradually learning to have empathy for others – it’s not an innate ability. That’s one of the reasons we see kids treat each other so badly, so often. And, again, the internet just makes it that much easier to be a bully.
The statistics are pretty grim. At least somewhere close to half of all adolescents have been the target of cyberbullying. Kids telling each other to “just go kill themselves” seems almost commonplace.
Would you know if your teen was bullying someone online or was the target of such cruelty? Do you know what your school’s policy is on cyberbullying or what the law says? Would you know what to do if your child were being bullied online? And what role do you play in preventing your child from being the bully?
Join me this week to learn what you need to know about cyberbullying to make a difference in your teen or tween’s life.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/34.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Be sure to first listen to episode 32, Teens, Sexting, Revenge Porn, and Sextortion (Yikes), before coming back here to episode 33. Last week we learned about teens, sexting, revenge porn, and sextortion. And in the first part of today’s episode, we’ll discuss how to talk to them about these issues (see download below). In the second part of the episode, we’ll talk about the potential legal ramifications for teens who choose to sext, including the very real possibility of being charged with possession or distribution of child pornography.
Grab the Episode 33 Free bonus download: “Talking to Your Teens About Sexting”. The Guide discusses 3 things you need to remember if a sexting issue arises, specific things to tell your teen about sexting, how to handle different sexting scenarios (like finding a nude photo on your teen’s phone) and the signs to watch for in case your teen is being cyberbullied (sextorted or revenge porn). Be sure to click the link above and grab the download today - it's time to talk.
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For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/33.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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It appears that at least 15% of teens have sent a "sext" and at least 27% have received (at least) one. And 90% of teens and tweens believe that most everyone else is sexting. The scientific data on this issue is still in its infancy (as is the phenomenon itself) but from all appearances, many teens accept this new form of communication as part of their sexual exploration.
It also appears our teens are fully aware of the risks but continue to do it anyway (like many other risky activities). Revenge porn and sextortion are a couple of significant consequences that have devastated too many sexting teens.
We can’t guide our teens through these sexting, cyberbullying and criminal issues unless we’re well aware and familiar with them ourselves. Join me in this episode as we discuss the prevalence of sexting among teens, why they do it, the specific risks involved and how we should think about it and deal with it as parents.
For show notes (including resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/32.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Becoming the parent we want to be can seem daunting when we’re learning a new way of thinking or feeling or acting (or all three). Learning to parent without fear, remembering to acknowledge their feelings, to listen to their opinions, to negotiate, to hold back on our advice and our instinct to jump in and fix things for them…it can be extremely difficult for some of us. Just remembering what to do or say in the moment can be confusing and cause us just to give up and default to our “old ways”.
I don’t want that for you. Listen in to this unscheduled “minisode” and download the cheat sheet I’ve designed to help you parent the way you really want to (and can!)
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/31.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Our various mindsets, the lens’ through which we interpret our world, not only influence our parenting but greatly impact the relationship with our teens and tweens and the way they think and behave.
There’s a lot of talk about how important a “growth mindset” is for our kids and teenagers. But what about our mindsets? A parent’s mindsets are critical to their kids’ overall wellbeing. We’ll talk about the specific mindsets we should adopt, and many we need to ditch to parent adolescents successfully.
Beyond mindsets, we’ll discuss how our mental shortcuts often result in flawed thinking (cognitive biases), which also impact our parenting and our teen’s emotions and behavior. Specifically, we’ll examine confirmation bias, which not only puts the relationship with your teen at risk but can drive your teen to the very behavior you desperately want to avoid.
Join me in episode 30 to learn about these parenting mindsets and how to avoid confirmation bias. Let’s think about the thinking that you never think about!
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/30.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/ep-announcement-3.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. When we finally got on the right track, I decided to learn everything I could about the science of parenting adolescents so I could help you avoid the common parenting mistakes I’d made.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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How much faith should you have in your teen’s mental health diagnosis? Exactly how does someone diagnose a mental health disorder like generalized anxiety, major depression, or bipolar disorder in a tween or teen? Who can make these diagnoses and upon what basis do they make these weighty decisions?
When we ask a professional to assess or evaluate our teen or tween for a possible mental health issue, we simply trust that they’ll give us the correct diagnosis – that they have the training, the experience and the knowledge necessary to consider (whatever it is they’re supposed to consider). But that’s not necessarily the case. As a matter of fact, there are many experts who even question the validity and accuracy of the very tool they’re supposed to use to make such a diagnosis (the DSM-5-TR or the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders).
Join me in this episode as I examine the fallibility of the mental health diagnosis and reveal what you can do to assure your teen or tween’s diagnosis is as accurate as it can be.
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/29.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning. I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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I’m recording episodes every other week between now and the end of the year, but I wanted to tell you what’s been on my mind this week. I’ll be back next Tuesday the 29th with another full episode. If you’re in the US, have a Happy Thanksgiving and thank you for listening!
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/28.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. When we finally got on the right track, I decided to learn everything I could about the science of parenting adolescents so I could help you avoid the common parenting mistakes I’d made.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Giant Book of Parenting ADHD Teens"
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Have you ever wanted to peer into your teen’s brain and see exactly what they were thinking? While they can be pretty darn “vocal” when they’re upset, they’re most often unable to fully articulate what they really want you to understand.
Often, however, they’re able to write about it later or talk to another adult about it…and that’s what I’ve got for you today - the skinny on what our teens and tweens really want us to get through our thick skulls!
I scoured the blogosphere and read posts written by teens themselves plus many by therapists, teachers, and various people who've worked with teens for decades. I also dove into Quora and Reddit for additional (very colorful) comments by teens when they were asked the question, "what do you wish your parents understood?"
Today, you’ll hear the most often repeated issues that teens really wished you understood (including a few of those candid comments!)
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/28.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. When we finally got on the right track, I decided to learn everything I could about the science of parenting adolescents so I could help you avoid the common parenting mistakes I’d made.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Teens, tweens and “young adults” (all adolescents) are some of the most emotional creatures on earth! Not only is their brain wired for automatic negative emotions (with no thinking required) but they are also very prone to automatic negative thoughts, which also lead to negative emotions. And negative emotions lead to negative behaviors like the typical sulking, yelling, door-slamming (and worse) we see quite often.
These negative thoughts can be totally irrational and just plain wrong and are referred to as “cognitive distortions”. Join me today as we discuss negative thinking and how we can help our kids overcome negative thinking patterns.
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript), go to https://neurogility.com/27. Also in the show notes today, you’ll find a special downloadable guide to help you remember the cognitive distortions and ways to challenge and reframe negative thoughts.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. When we finally got on the right track, I decided to learn everything I could about the science of parenting adolescents so I could help you avoid the common parenting mistakes I’d made.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening.
New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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I was going to try and push through my flu to record an episode for today but I just couldn't do it. Instead, I have a quick personal message. Thank you for your patience and I'll be back next week (fingers crossed).
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. When we finally got on the right track, I decided to learn everything I could about the science of parenting adolescents so I could help you avoid the common parenting mistakes I’d made.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
"The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
"Your Teen and Anxiety"
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening.
New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Maintaining a deep emotional connection with our child is not just important for our relationship, it’s critical in keeping them mentally healthy and physically safe. Our influence with them now depends on that connection. We no longer have as much control over their life. All of our influence in the way they think, feel, and behave lies in our connection with them.
Today we’ll talk about some of the most import ways to maintain your emotional connection with your child throughout adolescence.
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/26.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. When we finally got on the right track, I decided to learn everything I could about the science of parenting adolescents so I could help you avoid the common parenting mistakes I’d made.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
"The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
"Your Teen and Anxiety"
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening.
New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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NOTE: If you haven’t listened to Part 1 - Episode 24, I recommend that you stop here and go back and listen and then come back and listen to this Episode 25.
Last week in Part 1, we examined the backdrop of societal and cultural issues, social norms, gender stereotypes and the justice system that combine to make sexual harassment and sexual violence the norm among our teenagers.
Today we’ll dig deeper into the level of sexual harassment in our schools, the discussions we’ve overlooked having with our kids, federal and state law and how this all plays into the issue of sexual consent (or the lack thereof) among our teens and tweens before discussing exactly what “consent” looks and sounds like and how to talk to your teen about it.
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript), go to https://neurogility.com/23
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. When we finally got on the right track, I decided to learn everything I could about the science of parenting adolescents so I could help you avoid the common parenting mistakes I’d made.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Your Teen and Anxiety”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page).
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening.
New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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The topic of consent is so multifaceted and complex, one episode just won’t do it justice. Before we can talk to our teenagers about consent, what it means, how you get it and how you give it, we really need to understand the bigger issues at play and what we’re up against.
We must examine the backdrop of societal and cultural issues, social norms, gender stereotypes and the justice system that combine to make sexual harassment and sexual violence the norm.
Our teens not only operate within this culture, but their biases and their attitudes about one another are intensified by their developmental stage and need for acceptance by their peers.
Sexual harassment and sexual assault among teenagers is rampant and to have better conversations with them – to help them understand how to treat one another, we need to see their behavior in the larger context.
Join me as we discuss these issues leading up to our conversation about consent in Episode #25: Part 2 - Teenagers, “Rape Culture”, Sexual Assault, and Consent, next week.
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/23
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. When we finally got on the right track, I decided to learn everything I could about the science of parenting adolescents so I could help you avoid the common parenting mistakes I’d made.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Your Teen and Anxiety”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you!” Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening.
New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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23: Popularity, Friend Groups, and “Mean Girl Behavior”
For adolescents, especially younger adolescents (tweens, middle schoolers, and even younger) being accepted into “the group” is THE most important thing on their radar. Their brains are wired to seek acceptance from their peers, and it literally feels like a life and death situation. These social issues are extremely complicated for teens and tweens. From individual manipulation, social maneuvering, and constant stress – they deal with it daily.
Decades of scientific research reveals the teenage struggle for “popularity” causes aggressive behavior, which manifests differently between the sexes. Girls tend to use more relational aggression or “mean girl behavior”, while boys generally favor more physical and verbal aggression (but use relational aggression as well).
In this episode we’ll discuss social stress, friend groups, “popularity”, and zero in on relational aggression. You’ll learn what it looks like and how you can help your teen or tween deal with it, while keeping your relationship with them intact.
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/23
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. When we finally got on the right track, I decided to learn everything I could about the science of parenting adolescents so I could help you avoid the common parenting mistakes I’d made.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you!”
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New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
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“Discipline” is actually not what most of us think. It’s not about control, obedience, punishment or focused on consequences. Discipline is actually about teaching – teaching our kids the skills they lack and those they’ll need to be independent, mentally stable, and “successful” adults.
It’s about setting high expectations, clear and consistent limits and boundaries, in a respectful and loving way, being empathetic, listening to them, acknowledging their feelings, and connecting emotionally before correcting their behavior.
As parents of teenagers, we must reframe the meaning of discipline, learn the difference between consequences and punishment, the role natural and logical consequences can play in discipline, and when and how to use them effectively with teens and tweens.
Listen and learn some very important guidelines you can begin using today with your teenager.
For show notes (including other episodes and resources mentioned in the podcast, source documents and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/22
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, an organization I founded after our family went through a couple of difficult years with our teenage son who struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the associated academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. When we finally got on the right track, I decided to learn everything I could about the science of parenting adolescents so I could help you avoid the common parenting mistakes I’d made.
FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence”
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Over the past three days, I have been binging your podcast, just finished with episode 14 and will get all caught up in a couple of days. It's wonderful what you are doing and what you are willing to give away for free. I just wanted to thank you! Warrior On!”
Speaking of Teens Listener
If you enjoy the podcast, please consider rating it and leaving a review in Apple podcasts (at the bottom of the main podcast page) or Spotify (at the top of the main podcast page)
Please be sure to share this episode with another mom you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening.
New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Risky behavior is inherent in teens and tweens. Risk taking is a necessary part of growing up and learning to be independent. But many of these risks could literally cost them their life.
Using drugs is one of those life endangering activities, especially with more and more illicit fentanyl being introduced into the drug supply by Mexican drug cartels. According to the DEA, these cartels illicitly manufacture the extremely potent, and potentially deadly synthetic opioid in clandestine “laboratories” and smuggle it into the US in the form of powder (for “cutting” into heroin and cocaine) and counterfeit pills. They do this because it’s extremely cheap to make, and very potent so a little bit goes a long way to stretch the other drugs out – and it’s extremely addictive and makes for repeat customers (if they don’t die first).
These counterfeit pills are made with a mixture of fentanyl and other chemicals and manufactured to look like the drugs teenagers gravitate towards (for parties, experimentation, and self-medicating). Fentanyl has been found in fake Adderall, Oxycontin, Percocet, Dilaudid, Xanax, MDMA (molly or ecstasy). And the amount that would fit on the tip of a pencil can be lethal…and has been for way too many.
From 2019 to 2021, deaths from fentanyl overdoses tripled in teenagers. And teens don’t have to look too hard for the deadly pills. Snapchat and other social media platforms are teaming with dealers who seek your kid out and market to them. Please take the time to learn about the danger fentanyl poses to your teen or tween and how to talk to them about it so they will actually hear you.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after our family went through a couple of difficult years. Our teenage son struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the accompanying academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I wanted to dedicate myself to making sure you’re better equipped that I’d been.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
For show notes and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/21
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Not exactly a deep topic but anxiety-provoking, nonetheless. Of course, teens need money, but should we just hand it out on an “as needed” basis or actually give them a certain amount each week or month (an “allowance”)?
If we give them an allowance, how much do we give? Should the allowance be tied to performance (chores, grades, behavior) or paid completely independently? How often should allowance be paid? How should it be paid? Do we tell them how to spend it? What if they run out? What if they have a job?
I answer these questions and more on today’s episode 20.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after our family went through a couple of difficult years. Our teenage son struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the accompanying academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I wanted to dedicate myself to making sure you’re better equipped that I’d been.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
For show notes and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/20
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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There’s just no other way to look at it. It’s a horrible, potentially debilitating monster that grabs hold of someone and hangs on for dear life.
And if that someone is your child…it can completely turn your world upside down. If you or one of your kids has suffered from it, you know what I mean. If not, then you’re still wise to listen to this episode because the likelihood you’ll have a brush with this disorder at some point is pretty high.
Today, we’re going to talk about why anxiety happens so frequently in teens, how to spot it, how to explain it to your teen, and how to help them power through it with confidence.
This is a long one – but I promise you it’s full of actionable advice.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after our family went through a couple of difficult years. Our teenage son struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the accompanying academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I wanted to dedicate myself to making sure you’re better equipped that I’d been.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
For show notes, the free “Your Teen and Anxiety” Checklist, and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/19
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Last week I decided I wanted to draft a “Bill of Rights” for adolescents – a set of overarching guiding principles for parenting them effectively (with less drama, fewer power struggles, more autonomy, independence, and emotional intelligence).
As I searched the topic, I found a New York Times article from 1945 that was amazingly on point (and very entertaining!) With just a few minor updates, I’ve managed to bring expert guidance from over a three-quarters of a century ago, into the 21st century.
Join me in this episode as give you a present-day “Teenagers’ Bill of Rights”. You’ll come away with clear guidance for your relationship with them throughout their adolescence.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after our family went through a couple of difficult years. Our teenage son struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the accompanying academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I wanted to dedicate myself to making sure you’re better equipped that I’d been.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
For show notes and a full transcript, go to neurogility.com/18
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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National Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474
It’s far too likely that your son or daughter will, at some point in their teens, be in a relationship with someone who abuses them emotionally, or in which they abuse their partner emotionally.
We often think of abuse as only physical or sexual - but it’s the emotional abuse that is the most common and works behind the scenes to keep the victim under the perpetrator’s control.
And although this type of abuse is extremely harmful to a teen’s mental health and erodes their self-worth, they often don’t recognize it for what it is. It can be very subtle and can leave a teenager feeling completely stuck in a toxic relationship.
Be sure to check out the show notes at neurogility.com/17 for tons of links to brochures to help you talk to your teen about dating violence.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after our family went through a couple of difficult years. Our teenage son struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the accompanying academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I wanted to dedicate myself to making sure you’re better equipped that I’d been.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
For show notes and a full transcript, go to neurogility.com/17
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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In last week’s episode we discussed the inevitable conflict with your teen or tween is as they push for more autonomy while you try to maintain the correct amount of parental control. And we discovered the element of relatedness is the key to finding balance.
If you’ll recall, relatedness simply means (in a nutshell) that your teen feels free to give their honest opinions and share information with you and that you will listen, empathize, and consider what they have to say without freaking out or getting mad, etc.
This week’s episode digs into the “how to” of relatedness. How do you adopt relatedness to proactively settle conflicts with your teen, including negotiating rules and dealing with challenging behaviors? This episode is chock full of great tips you can implement today – get ready to take notes!
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after our family went through a couple of difficult years. Our teenage son struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the accompanying academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I wanted to dedicate myself to making sure you’re better equipped that I’d been.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
For show notes and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/16
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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One of the primary indicators that your child has become an adolescent is the increase in the amount of conflict you begin to have with them. Some conflict is inevitable as they begin pushing for more and more autonomy while you try to maintain a certain level of control.
It can be a real challenge to balance your desire to keep them safe and help them be successful with their ever-growing need to have a say in their own life. They key is the way you handle the conflict. In this episode I’ll explain how to not only support their autonomy while retaining the right amount of control but also insure their continued healthy attachment to you.
Join me to find out what the scientific research says about optimally navigating this transition from your teen’s manager to their consultant.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after our family went through a couple of difficult years. Our teenage son struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the accompanying academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I wanted to dedicate myself to making sure you’re better equipped that I’d been.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
For show notes and a full transcript, go to https://nuerogility.com/15
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Overparenting (aka “helicopter parenting”) might not be exactly what you think. It’s much more common now, in our high-pressure society, than ever before. You may be doing it and not even realize. Afterall, you’re an involved and supportive parent, what’s wrong with that?
Join me as I tell you:
· how science draws the line between supportive parent and helicopter parent,
· why we “hover” over our teens,
· what effect it has on our teens as they move into adulthood,
· how to stop, and
· what to do instead
After listening, jump over to the show notes to download the bonus content, “You Might Be Overparenting If” at https://neurogility.com/14
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after our family went through a couple of difficult years. Our teenage son struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the accompanying academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I wanted to dedicate myself to making sure you’re better equipped that I’d been.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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Am I the only mom who didn’t realize many of my son’s emotional outbursts were symptoms of his ADHD? The doctors and psychiatrists don’t talk about it and “emotional dysregulation” isn’t even listed as a symptom of ADHD in the DSM-5.
We focus so much on the way ADHD impacts their academic performance, but emotional dysregulation takes an enormous toll on every facet of their life. So, it’s crucial that we address this issue and help them learn how to become more aware of and how to regulate these overwhelming emotions.
In this episode I’ll discuss:
· the role emotional dysregulation plays in your ADHD teen’s world,
· other issues that tag along with ADHD that can add to their emotional dysregulation,
· the problems emotional dysregulation (and other ADHD symptoms) can cause for your teen, and
· what the research says you can do to help them with their emotions and the fallout from them.
In the show notes this week you’ll find a free download: “Giant Book of Parenting ADHD Teens” – don’t miss it!
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after our family went through a couple of difficult years. Our teenage son struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the accompanying academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I wanted to dedicate myself to making sure you’re better equipped that I’d been.
For show notes and a full transcript, go to neurogility.com/13
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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NOTE: If you haven’t listened to episode #11, it’s not completely necessary but does provide an excellent foundation for today’s episode.
Many parents struggle with how to best handle alcohol use in their teenagers. It’s hard not to feel that drinking alcohol is simply inevitable at their age. This mindset leads some parents to attempt to teach their kids “responsible drinking” at home (See episode #11).
In fact, a large number of parents decide to turn a blind eye when alcohol is present at their teens’ parties on their property. Some are happy to provide the alcohol themselves. Generally, these decisions are made to try and provide a safer environment for teenagers who they feel are going to drink anyway.
In today’s episode #12, I’ll discuss the scientific research and the law surrounding this issue. Should you let your teen have a party at your house…with alcohol? Listen and decide for yourself.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after our family went through a couple of difficult years. Our teenage son struggled with ADHD, learning issues, horrible anxiety, major depression and all the accompanying academic, social, self-medication, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I wanted to dedicate myself to making sure you’re better equipped that I’d been.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow the show right here where you’re listening. New episodes are uploaded every Tuesday morning.
For show notes (including resources) and a full transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/12
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to make sure I’m bringing you the insight and information you need the most!
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In Western societies it seems teenagers are almost expected to drink at some point. While most parents don’t approve, some do feel it’s best if they’re the one to introduce alcohol to their kid rather than leaving it to someone else. What do you think?
Don’t jump to any conclusions. Join me as I review the science and then you can decide for yourself.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after my teenage son went through a couple of really difficult years dealing with anxiety, major depression and substance use with all of the accompanying academic, social, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I needed to help other moms like me, who needed information and direction for parenting teens and tweens.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow me right here where you’re listening. If you enjoy the show, please consider rating the show on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and leaving me a review on Apple Podcasts. I would really appreciate it!
For show notes and transcript, go to https://neurogility.com/11
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to bring you the insight and information you need the most!
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Our son struggled with anxiety and major depression during his teen years and began self-medicating and acting out in ways that literally put his life in danger. His behavior completely baffled us. We just couldn’t understand what was happening or how to help him change course.
Whether you have a child who’s exploding with negative emotion, having a difficult time with their mental health, misusing drugs, or alcohol, or is simply difficult to communicate with, this episode’s for you.
When we were in the middle of trying to figure out how to help our son, I constantly searched the internet for stories of transformation that would give me just a little hope. At the time, there was just not much out there.
I want you to know….there’s so much hope! We worked hard and found our happy ending and so can you.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after my teenage son went through a couple of really difficult years dealing with anxiety, major depression and substance use with all of the accompanying academic, social, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I needed to help other moms like me, who needed information and direction for parenting teens and tweens.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow me right here where you’re listening.
For show notes and transcript, go to neurogility.com/10
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to bring you the insight and information you need the most!
Ann Coleman
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Adolescent mental health has been in steady decline for years and we all know the pandemic was the cherry on top. Schools are in a prime position to help improve our teens’ mental health by integrating the right programs and services and eliminating harmful policies.
· Schools need more mental health professionals on staff
· Gaps should be filled by teachers educated in mental health issues and techniques to improve emotional regulation in their students
· Students should receive social and emotional training in addition to mental health education
· Schools should consider mental health days off for students that need it
· “Zero tolerance policies” and exclusionary discipline practices should be banished
· “Restorative practices” should be adopted to replace antiquated discipline practices that fill the school to prison pipeline
· We should rethink school resource officers who tend to turn regular disciplinary, and behavior matters into criminal offenses
Learn what studies and surveys say about these issues and how you can change things at your teen’s middle or high school and help all students increase their chances of better mental wellbeing.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after my teenage son went through a couple of really difficult years dealing with anxiety, major depression and substance use with all of the accompanying academic, social, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I needed to help other moms like me, who needed information and direction for parenting teens and tweens.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow me right here where you’re listening.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to bring you the insight and information you need the most!
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Studies show that our level of emotional intelligence (“EQ”) directly affects our parenting skills and our relationship with our children and teenagers. The greater our EQ, the better our relationship is with them, the better adapted they are and the better their emotional development, mental health, and wellbeing. And foundational to EQ is emotional awareness and emotional regulation.
Listen as I explain:
· emotional intelligence
· emotional awareness and regulation
· EQ’s connection to parenting teens
· the emotional experience
· factors that determine our emotions and our responses
· a few “awareness-raising” facts about our emotions
· how thoughts, emotions, and behavior are interrelated
· how to determine your general level of emotional awareness
· 2 important strategies for becoming more emotionally aware (plus many more in the download in the show notes)
Thankfully, studies show it’s never too late to start working to improve your emotional intelligence. So, what are you waiting for?
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after my teenage son went through a couple of really difficult years dealing with anxiety, major depression and substance use with all of the accompanying academic, social, legal and behavior issues. After finally finding a positive path forward, I knew I needed to help other moms like me, who needed information and direction for parenting teens and tweens.
Please share this episode with other moms you think may find it helpful and follow me right here where you’re listening.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to bring you the insight and information you need the most!
Ann Coleman
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Whether you’re currently in panic mode about your teen or tween who’s spiraling out of control or just seeing the first glimpses that they may require more than weekly counseling, this episode is for you. Understanding the different levels of mental health and/or substance abuse care for your child and how to navigate that world is not something you want to learn on the fly. Just becoming familiar with the options and the terms can give you a potentially life-changing advantage.
Listen in as I explain
· Factors involved in the decision to seek a higher level of care for your child
· How insurance may impact your decision
· Which level of care do they require?
o Psychiatric hospitalization
o Residential Treatment Centers (“RTC”)
o Partial Hospitalization Programs (“PHP”)
o Intensive Outpatient Programs/Treatment (“IOP/IOT”)
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after my teenage son went through a couple of really difficult years dealing with anxiety, major depression and substance use with all of the accompanying academic, social, legal and behavior issues. After finding a path forward, I decided I had to help educate other moms about parenting their teens in a more respectful and emotionally intelligent manner.
Please share this episode with another mom you think it may benefit and follow me right here where you’re listening. And, if you could take a minute to rate and review the podcast, it would certainly help me reach more moms like you.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to bring you the insight and information you need the most!
Ann Coleman
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We know that because of their changing brain, teens and tweens are much more likely than adults or children to succumb to their unpleasant (“negative”) emotions like frustration, anger, nervousness, and gloominess. For the same reason, they’re much more likely to engage in risky behaviors like substance use, reckless driving, posting inappropriately online and sex. The part of the brain that helps make good decisions and use self-control is much weaker than those emotional and risk-taking parts! So, how can we help? We can help them strengthen this weaker part of the brain by modeling and by coaching them through emotional moments. This helps develop their emotional awareness and emotional regulation skills, two important elements of emotional intelligence. Increasing emotional intelligence is critical in helping our kids respond appropriately in emotional and/or risky situations.
Listen as I explain emotional intelligence, the ways it helps teens succeed and most importantly, how you can help your teen increase theirs.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after my teenage son went through a couple of really difficult years dealing with anxiety, major depression and substance use with all of the accompanying academic, social, legal and behavior issues. After finding a path forward, I decided I had to help educate other moms about parenting their teens in a more respectful and emotionally intelligent manner.
Please share this episode with another mom you think it may benefit and follow me right here where you’re listening. And, if you could take a minute to rate and review the podcast, it would certainly help me reach more moms like you.
I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you, and I want to bring you the insight and information you need the most!
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Unfortunately, when you have kids (especially teens or tweens), getting through the divorce is merely the beginning. Studies show that what happens after the divorce can have a more negative impact on your kids than any conflict they witnessed during the marriage. Learn how to manage life after divorce keeping your teen's best interest in mind.
I’ll discuss 6 specific areas where many parents miss the mark and how you can make sure your kid doesn’t suffer needlessly:
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The details shared with your teen about the divorce
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How you discuss the other parent with your teen
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Visitation
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Communication with your ex-spouse
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Rules and consequences between households
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Dating after the divorce
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find lots of wonderful resources for parents of teens and tweens. I founded neurogility after my teenage son went through a couple of really difficult years dealing with anxiety, major depression and substance use with all of the accompanying academic, social, legal and behavior issues. After finding a path forward, I decided I had to help educate other moms about parenting their teens in a more respectful and emotionally intelligent manner.
Please share this episode with another mom you think it may benefit and follow me right here. And, if you could take a minute to rate and review the podcast, it would certainly help me to reach more moms like you.
Finally, I would love to get your feedback and ideas for the show. Reach out to me anytime at 864-313-7277 or acoleman@neurogility.com. This show is for you and I want to bring you the insight and information you need the most!
Ann Coleman
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Adolescence descends on us so fast! Not only do tweens get bigger and stinkier, they get ruder, moodier, emotionalier (more emotional!) and grumpier. You can blame most of this on the changes taking place in their brain . These neurobiological changes impact their thoughts, feelings, and behavior. They’re learning to navigate life at the mercy of a brain in flux…and it’s not easy for them. So, we must adjust our mindset regarding our child, who’s no longer a child…but not yet an adult. Just listen!
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find additional parenting resources.
If you could take a minute to rate and review the podcast (5 stars, I hope), it would certainly help me to reach more moms like you. And be sure to follow the podcast wherever you listen to your podcasts!
Please feel free to reach out to me at acoleman@neurogility.com I’d love your feedback and ideas!
The scariest thing we will ever do, is to be a mom. And as our kids get older, the fear seems to intensify. We’re afraid of doing it wrong, messing them up, making them hate us, being too strict, being too lenient. And as they move into adolescence, our fear can truly steer us wrong. As soon as they start to make more serious mistakes, we begin pushing for more control, demanding obedience, using restrictions and “consequences” or punishments. Unfortunately, more often than not, our attempt to make sure they don’t make more (or worse) mistakes, is counterproductive and leads to rebellion and a breakdown of the parent-child relationship. In this first ever episode of Speaking of Teens, I’ll explain how and why we let fear and control take over, and what we can do to prevent it.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find additional parenting resources.
If you could take a minute to rate and review the podcast (5 stars, I hope), it would certainly help me to reach more moms like you. And be sure to follow the podcast wherever you listen to your podcasts!
Please feel free to reach out to me at acoleman@neurogility.com I’d love your feedback and ideas!
WARNING: Although this episode is not about suicide, I do read a portion of a teenager’s suicide letter at the beginning of the show. If you’d rather, you can skip ahead approximately 1 minute.
You’re likely well aware that overall teen mental wellbeing has been in decline for years, and the pandemic has made it that much worse. But even before the pandemic one area of research has, over a period of several years, uncovered a surprising trend. More and more teens feel tremendous pressure to not only succeed academically but to excel in as many ways as possible to secure a spot at a "good college". Our narrow view of success is taking an enormous toll on our high achievers. Is it time to redefine “success” to improve our teens’ mental health and wellbeing?
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find additional parenting resources.
If you could take a minute to rate and review the podcast (5 stars, I hope), it would certainly help me to reach more moms like you. And be sure to follow the podcast wherever you listen to your podcasts!
Please feel free to reach out to me at acoleman@neurogility.com I’d love your feedback and ideas!
Our kids not only become more emotional during adolescence, but they may also begin doing things we never thought they would. Vaping, drinking, smoking weed, having sex…these are all very risky behaviors that they may be all too willing to try. Why does a kid who grew up saying they’d “never do XYZ” suddenly do XYZ?! Understanding what’s going on in our teen’s brain that causes them to do the things they do, allows us to shift our mindset so we can parent them more appropriately.
Speaking of Teens is sponsored by https://neurogility.com, where you can find additional parenting resources.
If you could take a minute to rate and review the podcast (5 stars, I hope), it would certainly help me to reach more moms like you. And be sure to follow the podcast wherever you listen to your podcasts!
Please feel free to reach out to me at acoleman@neurogility.com I’d love your feedback and ideas!
Being the mom of a teen or tween can be complicated, confusing…even scary. We’re no longer the center of their universe…friends slide into that position…and we have to learn a new role…one as trusted guide. And, as you know, Guiding is not easy.
Their behavior, their choices now have more serious implications…and so do OURS.
I’m Ann Coleman, Welcome to Speaking of Teens, a weekly show from neurogility.com, to help you better understand and parent your teen or tween.
As a former family law and adoption attorney, I counseled hundreds of clients as they navigated really difficult situations.
But it wasn’t until I had a teenager, struggling with anxiety, depression, and behavior issues, that I truly understood the phrase, “family turmoil”. I discovered how alone, anxious, and desperate you feel when your child is in pain. It took 2 long years to figure out how to turn things around.
That’s when I decided I had to help other moms like you, parent your teens and tweens with more clarity and skill than I had.
That was 2018 and since then I’ve picked apart hundreds of scientific studies and academic journal articles, and stacks of books to learn everything I can about adolescents; their changing brain, their emotions and behavior and the best ways to guide them to adulthood.
In this podcast you and I will explore together, the issues that impact our teens and tweens lives, our relationship with them, and the daily decisions we must make to help insure their future.
I’ll work hard, each week to give you something to inspire, educate, and motivate you, through a combination of solo shows, expert interviews, some healthy debate…and even some teenagers themselves.
My goal is to make sure you feel supported, equipped and confidant in parenting your teenager.
We’ll drop a new episode every Tuesday, so please be sure and follow the show on your favorite platform - and if you find it helpful, please share with your friends so they can learn along with us.
And I’d love your ideas and suggestions for the podcast. Please reach out to me at acoleman@neurogility.com or DM me @neurogility on Instagram.
Now, go dive in!