Codependency results as a constant pressure of being tied down to rules that limit us. Whether it is in a romantic relationship, a familial relationship, and/or a friendship, any situation where we don’t fully express ourselves because of limits includes a level of codependency.

In this episode of Notes To Our Younger Selves, we explore codependency, what it is, how it shows up, and ways we think about those relationships now. Exploring our early childhood, we share examples of healthy and unhealthy dependency before heading into how unhealthy relationships create detachment. From our conversation on detachment we dive deeper into its impact on intimacy and relationships. We end the episode sharing our thoughts on how embracing self-love as an ongoing process helps reframe codependency in our lives from a place of internal power.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Defining codependency and what it means to you (3:40)

The impact of detachment on intimacy and relationships (18:20)

Learning from codependency, revisiting relationships and victimhood (29:45)

Embracing self love as an ongoing process to reframe codependency (45:00)

Questions answered:

What examples can you draw on from moments in your life where you saw healthy dependency? (6:45)

What are your experiences with creating healthy or unhealthy detachment? (14:15)

When did you realize you had codependent behaviors? (25:10)

How has victimhood played a role in your relationships and friendships (39:15)

**Resources referenced:

“Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie**

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