The Happiness Thief tells you that you're stupid, unworthy, sick, unlovable or that you could die, and no one will even notice. Of course, you’re so attached to it that it uses the first person. I’ll never change. How could I think this would help? This formula is stupid. I’m a loser.

In P – Pledge and E – Evaluate, we work to first make a habit of noticing these types of thoughts and second, to be honest with ourselves about our patterns. We talked about how we unintentionally develop our field of reference starting from birth, creating defaults, patterns, habits, and neuroses from our TEF that we later return to. Here, we would do well to realize that our field of reference will turn into our field of resistance once we try and change it.

Change itself is a practice. Like everything else, it's a pattern. It may be foreign to you. At first, your ego will fight change. The Happiness Thief is not going down without a fight. So be warned. Things could get worse before they get better with this process.

Your mind will trip you up in your efforts to change. Literally, it throws up roadblocks. I can’t tell you how many times I made an effort to change, only to be challenged without hesitation. And for good reason. One spends years, decades pouring millions of negative thoughts into their system, creating an arsenal of emotions and feelings to defend it. As it turns out, negative TEF has a greater impact on your mind than positive thoughts, emotions, and feelings, making it all the stronger.

Dr. Joe Dispenza, tells us that nerve cells that fire together wire together, forming a neuro-net, developing long-term relationships, and making whatever we consistently think about seem very real.

The R in PER LOVE is RECOGNIZE. Here, your job is to RECOGNIZE what we’ve habitualized, seeing negative TEF when it comes up in your daily life. In this part of the formula, you’re improving your ability to see your bullshit thoughts, feelings, and emotions for what they are, not blindly accepting them as a reality you can't change.

This intro podcast for R reveals two paths to aid you in recognizing your TEF. The direct way: A+B=C or, in this case, P+E=R. And the indirect way which may be a surprise to you....