Bad examples of physical aggression can lead many men to avert from the idea of it entirely.

Phrases such as 'I will never be like that' on the surface seem like a healthy rebellion against their toxic experience of masculinity, but deeper down this mindset ends up doing them more harm than good.

I am a prime example of this.

Years of cowering away from masculine conflict caused me to silence my opinions, avoid groups of men and freeze whenever I was dragged into physical altercations.

It wasn't until, by chance, my teenage friendship group became fanatics for Mixed Martial Arts shows (Back in their infancy), and decided to turn that recreational obsession into actually learning how to fight, that I really felt what it was like to own my masculine aggression in a healthy way.

I learned to walk taller, speak louder and actually voice my controversial opinions without as much fear of potential conflict with other guys.

Most men in the early stage of my story have create a narrative that it's better to be harmless than it is to be the reckless embodiment of the bad role models they have witnessed in their lives.

What they fail to realize that somewhere in the middle lies to perfect embodiment of a man.

A harmless man is not a good man.

A reckless man is not a strong man.

What makes a good man is he who has learnt ways to channel his anger and sharpen his physical tools in healthy environments around other likeminded men; and then, through choice, has learnt to control it.

A good man, therefore, is a dangerous man who has it under control.

In this episode I go into this evolution from my own experience.

I hope you enjoy.

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