Hi guys!

Today I'm talking about learning to be assertive. I started my journey to healing as a doormat and had to learn to be more assertive. At my first therapy session, my counselor gave me a handout titled, "Ten Things To Do To Be More Assertive". Today, I read that handout to you and talk about each point. It's time to learn to be strong, confident, and an advocate for yourself.

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Here's the list of personal rights:
You have the right to ask for what You want.
You have the right to say no to requests or demands you can't meet.
You have the right to express your feelings, positive or negative.
You have the right to change your mind.
You have the right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect.
You have the right to determine your own priorities.
You have the right not to be responsible for others' behavior, actions, feelings, or problems.
You have the right to expect honesty from others.
You have the right to be angry at someone you love.
You have the right to feel scared and say "I'm afraid."
You have the right not to give reasons for your behavior.
You have the right to make decisions based on your feelings.
You have the right to your own needs for personal time.
You have the right to be playful and frivolous.
You have the right to be healthier than those around you.
You have the right to be in a non-abusive environment.
You have the right to make friends and be comfortable around people.

Another tip I forgot to mention in the podcast is to notice assertiveness in the characters you watch on TV shows and movies. You can watch and learn techniques they use, what they say, and how they react to others infringing on their rights. Look for good and bad examples of assertiveness. This is another gentle way to get your mind and emotions comfortable with the thought of being assertive.

You can do this! Rember you have the right to live in freedom and peace. Have a wonderful week learning to live free.

Love,
Julia