In this week's episode, I teach you a fundamental tool, created by my teacher Brooke Castillo from the Life Coach School where I was certified, however it’s based in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. And it’s really this universal truth, it’s a helpful tool to help manage our minds so we’re not just believing everything we think and feel. It’s essential for any type of personal growth, however for binge eating in particular, it really helps identify those binge-causing thoughts, which is key to recovery.
The tool is called the self-coaching model, or what we often refer to as simply ‘the model’, and it’s this truth that in the world, there are circumstances that occur. Things happen or just exist. And all of these things are actually neutral and don’t innately have a bunch of moralistic meaning to them, until we give them meaning with our thoughts. These neutral circumstances are things that are factual with no opinions or hyperboles brought in. They could be proven in a court of law. And they just are. For example, there is a cup of coffee on my desk. The sun is shining. Those are what we’re calling circumstances. When the circumstance happens, or even if we just remember an existing circumstance, our brain offers up some thoughts. Often these thoughts are subconscious, they happen without us really being aware of them. But when we think these thoughts, we have feelings because of the thoughts – not because of the circumstance itself. And when we feel a certain feeling, often that will drive us to act or not act in a certain way. And that action or inaction, creates certain results in our lives. So the process is: a neutral circumstance exists, then we think a thought about that circumstance, that thought causes a feeling, that feeling drives an action or inaction, and that action or inaction creates the results in our lives. Zooming out, we can infer that our thoughts create our results, our circumstances do not. This universal truth greatly impacts our lives and empowers us to not be at the mercy of our circumstances and our feelings. Tune in to learn it!
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