Often, the pain that we want to avoid, centers around our worthiness; specifically when we start to doubt or question our worthiness. When we’re born, we can all agree that we’re 100% worthy, right? Babies are worthy. And we’ve done nothing to earn it. We just exist. And we’re enough. And then, somewhere along the way, we pick up all these messages that make us question our innate worthiness. And a lot of our suffering comes from this mistaken belief that we’re actually not as valuable anymore, that we can somehow lose some of our worthiness because we don’t do or say or look exactly the way we’re taught we should. We’re taught these implicit or sometimes explicit messages from our family of origin, from society, from our dominate culture’s narrative, from the media, from our friends and bullies. We subconsciously pick up messages, often completely unaware that it’s happening, that say if we don’t do something or appear a certain way, we somehow, lose some of our value. It’s like we have to keep striving or maintaining this “thing”, this category that our brain has deemed very important, to be considered worthy or even of equal value to others.

I call these things worth hangers – things that we hang our worthiness on. These are categories that our brains have deemed so important that we’ve hinged our entire value as a human on them. Things that, if we act or appear a certain way (if we deliver on the worth hanger), we feel more valuable and if we don’t, we feel less valuable as a human.

We don’t think this consciously, of course, it all happens subconsciously. I think a lot of us would say, “Yes, I’m worthy” – intellectually we believe that, however that’s rarely the case when we look under the hood. And that’s why we want to bring it to the surface so we can address it today.

There are lots of worth hangers that we as humans hang our worthiness on. But in my experience with binge eaters, there are 5 that really rise to the top and today I share them with you on the podcast.

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