On today's podcast, we are going to talk about all or nothing thinking.
We are conditioned to think in absolutes. It's something we all struggle with at times. Our brains are kind of wired that way. It either IS or it ISN'T. It's BLACK or it's WHITE. We want to know if something's either GOOD or BAD. We want to know if other people are good or bad.
And in this episode, I'll be diving into why it's worth leaning into what psychologists call cognitive dissonance, or the space in between the black and white, where things feel a little more fuzzy or gray. And it is in this space that we grow. We try new ideas. We understand others on a deeper level. And we create a safe place for ourselves, even when we don't have all the answers.
And even more importantly, we can allow the discomfort of this gray area to take place and to create new questions around our lives. That's when healing can take place. If we can believe that someone who hurt us is both good and bad. It becomes possible to heal the relationship and to give ourselves that same consideration and grace.
So listen to gain a deeper understanding of where you may be stuck in all or nothing thinking and what you can do to create some space and broaden your view. And I do want to say it's worked and it can be really helpful to each of us when we start to examine the ways that all or nothing thinking holds us back in our lives and our relationships, our goals and moving forward and healing after divorce in particular.
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