There’s a moment after leaving a marriage that is hard to prepare for...

It’s quiet. Disorienting. And often filled with a question that feels impossible to answer:

“Did I just make a mistake?”

In this episode, I’m joined by Nicole Sodoma, a marriage-loving divorce attorney with over two decades of experience—someone who has seen behind the scenes of thousands of relationships, and lived through divorce herself.

Together, we unpack one of the most misunderstood emotional experiences in divorce:

👉 The difference between regret and divorce grief

Because what many women interpret as:

• “I should go back.”
• “Maybe I gave up too soon.”
• “What if I ruined everything?”

…is often something else entirely.

Something that deserves to be understood—not feared.

This conversation goes beyond emotion and into the real patterns that keep women stuck or second-guessing themselves:

• Why financial fear quietly keeps women in unhappy marriages
• How not knowing what you want can feel safer than choosing change
• The subtle ways women misread their own capabilities and choices
• Why so many couples wait until it’s too late to use the tools that could have helped
• What divorce attorneys see every day that most women never realize until they’re in it

And maybe most importantly:

How to recognize whether you’re being called to pause… or move forward

This episode will help you name the thing under the thing—so you can stop questioning yourself and start understanding what your body is actually trying to process.

In This Episode, We Explore:

• Divorce grief vs. regret: how to tell the difference
• Why leaving a marriage can feel like a mistake—even when it isn’t
• The role of the nervous system in post-divorce doubt
• Financial dependence, fear, and the cost of staying too long
• Identity loss in marriage—and how it impacts decision-making
• What women consistently underestimate about themselves in divorce
• The power of choice (even when it doesn’t feel like you have one)

As you listen, notice:

Am I actually regretting my decision…
or am I grieving the life I thought I would have?

There’s a difference.
And understanding it could change everything.

Read Nicole's Book:

Please Don't Say You're Sorry: An Empowering Perspective on Marriage, Separation, and Divorce from a Marriage-Loving Divorce AttorneyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawn

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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