Step 1 of the Nar-Anon Program: We admitted we were powerless over the addict - that our lives had become unmanageable. In the final part of step 1, questions 41 - 61 are discussed:
- How can practicing acceptance in all my affairs contribute to a better way to life my life? 42. How can I allow my loved ones to find their own life paths as I am finding mine?
- If nothing changes, nothing changes. What does this statement mean to me?
- In what ways am I beginning to see that expecting perfection in myself or others is unrealistic?
- Am I ready to stop punishing myself for past failures and start now with a new beginning? Explain.
- Am I able to accept myself for whom I am?
- What can I do to accept myself for who I am?
- How did I feel when I heard addiction is a disease?
- Am I able to accept that addiction is a disease? If not, why not?
- As a person who loves an addict, what do I need to understand about addiction?
- If I am able to accept that addiction is a disease, how will this change the way I feel and react to the addict in my life?
- How has accepting this fact changed my perspective of addiction?
- What is the difference between detaching with love and attaching with love?
- Does detaching mean I just don’t care anymore?
- Is my emotional well-being in any way dependent on the behavior of another?
- What is causing me to feel stuck or trapped and unable to detach?
- Detaching also means letting go of fear, of the need to control, of trying to do too much, or of holding on too tightly. In what way does detachment from the addict’s problems give me freedom?
- Are there activities I find interesting that would help me to detach? What are they?
- Am I ready to set boundaries?
- Am I learning to set my boundaries for the right reasons, not to manipulate the addict into recovery, but to restore myself to sanity?
- Can I be flexible if it becomes appropriate to change a boundary?
Visit https://www.nar-anon.org/ for helpful resources or to find a meeting.
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