Step 1 of the Nar-Anon Program: We admitted we were powerless over the addict - that our lives had become unmanageable. In this episode, questions 18 - 40 are discussed:

1. Are most of my waking thoughts consumed with worries about the addict?
2. Have I let go of things there were important to me, like hobbies and friends?
3. Have I lied or covered up because of the addict? Explain.
4. Do I have trouble sleeping at night?
5. Am I having financial problems?
6. Am I having health problems?
7. When was the last time I did something fun?
8. How has the addiction of a family member or friend changed my life?
9. Do I think the following emotions or behaviors indicate an unmanageable life? Anger, fear, guilt, obsession, anxiety, pride, jealousy, control, frustration, denial, sadness, distress, dishonesty, manipulation, resentment, hate, negativity, low self-esteem, shame.
10. Which of these emotions or behaviors stand out for me? Why?
11. Am I able to accept that my life might be unmanageable?
12. How has denial played a part in my life with regard to my life being unmanageable?
13. Do I feel responsible for the addiction of my loved one and/or do I blame others?
14. What am I currently doing to help or enable the addict because of these feelings?
15. Do I feel responsible for other people’s actions?
16. Do I have a strong need to be in control? In my own life? In others’ lives?
17. What do I fear will happen if I let go?
18. Do I allow other people or circumstances to control my life?
19. How does this keep me from taking care of myself?
20. Have I accepted as fact there are situations in my life over which I have no control? Explain.
21. Do I understand addiction is a disease that cannot be cured?
22. Do I try to work the addict’s program instead of my own?
23. In what ways do I feel pity and/or compassion for the addict?

Visit https://www.nar-anon.org/ for helpful resources or to find a meeting.

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