Many are struggling with mental health. But if you're in a relationship, or the parent of a child with mental illness, you should be considering your mental health as well. The Helper Needs Help - and that includes you!
Your job is to love. You can't be your spouse's or family member's therapist. You can't solve their problems. Peter, in 1 Peter 4 says, "Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything." And to be that helper to others you must remember to love yourself, take care of yourself, create and maintain good boundaries. And if they become abusive, it might also mean that you get out!
The person who is diagnosed may actually feel some relief to be able to put a name to what they're going through. Or they may feel embarrassed. Communication is critical - which above all means listen to understand. It could be the greatest gift you give to one who is struggling.
You may need to become increasingly flexible as you navigate their mental illness. You may have to assume more financial responsibilities, do more of the parenting, or running the household. If this is you, it is even more important to remember that you need to care for yourself as you do more. Do what you can: sleep, eating well, socializing, engaging in activities you enjoy. Find small carveouts to nurture your soul. You can't rescue the drowning man if you too are drowning.
Refrain from diagnosing your loved one. Let the professionals do what they do what you focus on being a great spouse, parent or friend.If you are a support person for one with mental illness, consider sources of support that you need.
Burnout is common for caregivers. And you can't give what you don't have. God says, "Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Getawaywithme and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk withme and work withme—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company withme and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” {Matt. 11-28-30, The Message].