Depression noun

: a state of feeling sad: low spirits : MELANCHOLYspecifically: a mood disorder that is marked by varying degrees of sadness, despair, and loneliness and that is typically accompanied by inactivity, guilt, loss of concentration, social withdrawal, sleep disturbances, and sometimes suicidal tendencies

To anyone who has ever experienced any type of loss, these symptoms are all too familiar. Add in a traumatic life event like the loss of a baby and it is a dangerous situation for those who are experiencing it. Depression and anxiety are common following a loss with about 20% of women still reporting it 1-3 years after. This episode discusses how loss affects depression and what you can do about it so you are able to heal properly.

If you are listening to this and have someone in your life who is experiencing a pregnancy loss or stillbirth I would love to give you some advice on what NOT to say to them:

1. Anything that starts with "at least..." at least you can have another baby, at least it happened early, at least you are young, at least you already have a child, etc.
2. There must have been something wrong with the baby (then explain all the deformities, illnesses, and other things children are born with)
3. God must have needed an angel (I needed one more)

There is a whole litany of phrases that aren't helpful and in fact, are actually damaging to someone who is emotionally fragile. I go into more detail about this in my e-book "The 10 Questions You ask Yourself When You Lose Your Baby". You can download it for free on my website. So I am pleading with you to just say things like this instead:

1. I hate that you are going through this
2. I am here to listen
3. What can I do to make you feel a little better?

Resources mentioned in this episode-

"10 Questions" e-book- https://jennifersenncoaching.ck.page/questions
"Things I wish They'd Say" PDF- https://jennifersenncoaching.ck.page/things-i-wish
website-https://www.jennifersenn.com

Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/navigatingbabyloss/

In this short 3 part video series, I begin by telling my own story so you know you're not alone. I'll talk about topics like how to quiet your mind, release the guilt and get back on the same page with your partner even though you may be grieving differently, and some other helpful tools that you can start using today. To help in your grief journey. Go to Jennifersenn.com/help To download your videos.

Please leave a 5-star rating and review in order to promote this podcast to more stillbirth loss parents to find it. You can find all my contact info and show notes on my website and grab some helpful, free resources while you're there at https://www.jennifersenn.com/podcast