How can you pursue meaningful goals without getting caught in stressful striving? How can you aim high without burning out? We all want to be successful and achieve our goals, but when our striving is driven by experiential avoidance, sometimes, our pursuits can lead to feeling dissatisfied, depleted, and burnout. In this episode, Diana shares a talk she gave to a group of high achieving women attorneys of the https://dallaswomenlawyers.org/mentoring-circles/ (Women’s Mentoring Circles Program). She explores signs of unhealthy striving and shows you how to use fierce self-compassion, values and committed action to go from stressful striving to skillful striving. https://drdianahill.com/extras/ (Go here for the handouts) that go along with this talk. About Dr. Diana Hillhttps://drdianahill.com/ (Diana Hill, Ph.D.) is a clinical psychologist, speaker, and co-author ofhttps://drdianahill.com/book/ ( ACT Daily Journal: Get unstuck and live fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.) Diana encourages clients to let go of https://drdianahill.com/striving-thriving-summit/ (unhealthy striving) and build psychological flexibility so that they can live more meaningful and fulfilling lives. Diana blogs for https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/striving-thriving (Psychology Today), is on the clinical advisory board of http://lightfully.com/ (Lightfully Behavioral Health), and is a guest teacher at InsightLA, Mindful Heart Programs, PESI and Praxis CE. Go tohttps://drdianahill.com/ ( drdianahill.com) or her channels onhttps://www.instagram.com/drdianahill/ ( Instagram),https://www.facebook.com/drdianahill/ ( Facebook),https://twitter.com/drdianahill ( Twitter),http://youtube.com/drdianahill ( YouTube) (@drdianahill) to learn more.. About Women’s Mentoring Circles ProgramThe Women’s Mentoring Circles Program is a joint program created by the Dallas Women Lawyers Association and the Dallas Association of Young Lawyers. Since its inception in 2016, the goal of the WMC Program has been to foster a community for women lawyers in Dallas who are united in the common goal to see women succeed in the legal profession. The program promotes the development, advancement and retainment of women lawyers through mentorship, education, and community-focused programming. To learn more, https://dallaswomenlawyers.org/mentoring-circles/ (visit their website.) Key TakeawaysStriving towards goals is part of being a successful high achiever. On the flip side, these actions can become overwhelming and create stress when driven by experiential avoidance. Notice when striving has become unhealthy for you. Are you neglecting important parts of your life? Do you avoid certain activities or experiences? Skillful striving involves being present and allowing for discomfort as you flexibility move towards values Three processes that support skillful striving are: fierce self-compassion, values, and committed action. 

Relevant Resources Mentionedhttps://insightla.org/ (Learn More about Insight LA) https://drdianahill.com/extras/ (Download Your Daily Practice for Episode 12 Here) https://drdianahill.com/ (Learn More about Dr. Diana Hill) https://drdianahill.com/striving-thriving-summit/ (Watch Kristin Neff at the From Striving to Thriving Summit) https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-test/ (How self-compassionate are you? Take this test) https://www.sonyalooney.com/podcasts/page/2/ (Check out Sonja Looney’s Podcast) https://serendipitism.com/goodharts-law-and-measuring-success/ (Read More about Goodhart's Law) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AdKUJxjn-R8 (Watch BJ Fogg talk about Tiny Habits) https://drdianahill.com/events/ (Diana’s upcoming events) Thank you to my team Craig Schneider, Angela Stubbs, Ashley Hiatt, Abby Diehl, and to our sponsor https://lightfully.com/ (Lightfully Behavioral Health) for making this podcast possible. Thank you to Benjamin Gould of https://bellandbranch.com/ (Bell & Branch)...