Today's Focus: Recent Episodes
Shevonne Curtis
Today's Focus gives you something to focus on in your life. This podcast is brief and has topics I have thought about or addressed in my life. It will give you things to evaluate in your life. Also I will talk about how the topics have affected my life and some action steps I have taken to change things.
Which one are you? Do you need to do a self examination? I talk about both topics and how I feel about myself when I look at Self Love and being Self Absorbed.
Who you associate with is very important. I talk about my experience with my association and enviroment.
Have you ever been disappointed in yourself? If you have do you know why? I talk about how I have been disappointed in myself, why, and what I do now to help me not to be disappointed in myself.
Mourning-The act of sorrowing. We can mourn over a death of a loved one or it doesn't have to be that but something else. I talk about what I have been mourning about and how I cope with it everyday.
Have you ever had a setback in life? What do you do when you have a setback? I talk about my recent setback in my life and the adjustment I had to make.
We never know who it will impact by telling our story. I share my life with others my struggles as well as good things that happen to me. It helps me with my depression and anxiety but also helps others. What are some things you do that make an impact on others or you didn't expect it to impact people or someone but it did.
Have you ever had to make a difficult decision? Possibly you had to sacrifice something to change your life or something else? I had to make several of difficult decisions in my life and made many sacrifices in life. This last decision/sacrifice I have made was good. I am well pleased with the decision I made. What about you? Were you pleased with a sacrifice or difficult decision you have or had made in the past. In this segment I talk about my sacrifice/difficult decision and how it made me feel.
Sometimes in life we think things happen for a reason we met someone or something happen to us. Have you ever thought well this must be why I met this person or did this thing but really it's not the reason we thought. Possibly it could be a reason but not necessarily what we thought the reason was. It gives us something to think about...I talk about my experience just recently and what my intake was on the UNEXPECTED THING.
Segment 2 on depression. I talk about how I cope daily with others and some of the remarks I get. I also talk about emptying your cup everyday to release your emotions so you can start fresh the next day. I failed to mention prayer in the things I use to help me cope daily with my illnesses but it is my #1 thing I do to just make it through each day. What about you?
In this segment I will be talking about my depression and how I have been coping with it. If you have depression do you have an outlet? What I mean by that is a way to release your emotions, sadness, and feelings within? I believe everyone should have a way to release their emotions even if you have not been diagnosed with depression but we all have sadness at some point in our lives.
Our confidence starts with us and not with others. We should already have confidence in ourselves but what we should look for from others is encouragement, inspiration, kindness, and love.
Have you ever been at a point in your life where you just needed to pause? Giving yourself time to rest and reflect on a situation or life in general. This segment I will talk about where I am at this present moment and why I needed to pause.
Self Work is hard, it is a continual process. I talk about how I have been working on myself and the changes I want to make and the things I use to help me with my self work.
Which one have you done? Well I have done them all. In this segment I will explain what each one of them mean and tell about my experience as well. Overcoming obstacles can be hard but we can do it if we stay strong, have faith, and do the things necessary that we have to do.
Have you ever felt regret? If so let it go because it will hinder your progress. You cannot change the past. I talk about some ways I have felt regret and how I am in the present and not looking back at the past.
We always have been taught think before we speak it's easier said than done. Most of the time we speak and then think. I talk about how my words have affected others and how I need to be mindful of what I say and how it affects others.
Have you ever thought about how your relationships affect your enviroment and also how your enviroment affects your relationships? I talk about my experience with my relationships and enviroment. How both affected me and what changes I had to make.
Do you accept yourself for the way you are? Your look, dress, talk, and everything about you? I talk about my struggle with acceptance and where I am at today with accepting myself.
What does being happy or happiness mean to you? I use to tell myself I don't know what it is to be happy. I want to be happy but don't know how. In this segment I will talk about what happiness means to me and how I learned to create my own happiness.
Do you have patience? With yourself or others? Patience is hard for me. I have been a very impatient person in the past and it has cost me time, money, and being disappointed. In this segment I will be talking about areas in which I need patience and have had patience. Also areas we all need to have patience.
Are you wanting more and getting less? We as human tend to want more things but are not willing to put in the work. In this segment I wil be talking about why you are getting less for the things you want or need.
Do you love your existence? Do you love the person you are today? If not is there some changes you can make? I talk about what helped me to love the things about myself and also acknowledge the things I needed to change. I also learned to aknowledge the positive things about myself and embrace them as well.
"You can do anything but not everything." This is a quote by David Allen what does this mean to you? In this segment I will talk about what this quote means to me and my takeaways from meditating on this quote.
In life we are sad, we cry, we are in fear of what's next for us or something else. Alot of times we laugh and smile as we are hurting inside. We never know what others are going through. I'm here to tell you I have been through alot I am sad days, I cry days, I worry and am in fear of what's next for me but the one thing I can say is I continue to fight those battles each day. I want you to know it's ok to release your emotions but never allow your emotions to have such a hold on you that you are not healing, progressing, and moving forward.
My Oct. 11, 2022 Podcast 2023 Focus. This is a continuation of that Podcast. I was thinking about my Focus Word for 2023 and also telling you how I use my Focus Word for each year. If you do New Year's resolution then is similar to that but more effective. I also have created a workbook to help you plan or define what you want to accomplish in 2023, also what you don't want to take into 2023 from 2022. It will help you reflect on 2022 as well, what accomplishments/changes you have made and more. If you would like a copy of the workbook please get in touch with me my email is curtispcmk@yahoo.com. I am also on facebook as Shevonne Curtis, Instagram as Infinitely_You_With_Shevonne.
What is your view point on this quote Nothing is impossible, the word itself says "I'm possible!"? I really love that quote it is the reason I chose this topic to discuss in this segment. How can you reframe the negative in your life to positve?
I Know your thinking 2023? We are still in 2022 but we are only a few months away from 2023. To prepare for 2023 we want to start thinking what will my FOCUS be for 2023. So this segment I will talk about how I focus on the next year coming and the things I do. Hope you enjoy it.
How do you deal with negativity? Do you let it stop you? Do you worry about what people will say? This segment is about not letting negativity stop you from achieving a goal or doing something you've always wanted to do because of what others may think!
How would you define your life? I don't mean write a book about it but in a short phrase, sentence, or paragraph. This will help you look at your overall life and see what you think or how you feel about it. When you have created your phrase, sentence, or paragraph write it down and reflect on it. You maybe surprised at what will come up for you.
Do you believe in yourself or do you let others decide for you? if you don't believe in yourself how is anyone else going to believe in you. So start believing in yourself and tackling those goals!
If you want to achieve your goals you have to put the work in. Noone said it would be easy but it can be done. How bad do you want to achieve your goals?
Find that thing that you love and stick with it. When we do things we love to motivate us there will be more consistency. Use your knowledge, skills or whatever it is to the best of your ability to stay motivated! If you want change you have to work for it!
When you make a mistake do you consistently think about it all the time? Do you allow it to feel bad about yourself? Well we are not perfect and we are going to make mistakes. It happens! We can't erase it but we can move forward.
Do you feel like you have to validate yourself to anyone? What I mean by that is prove yourself. I have felt like that but I had to realize that I don't have to prove myself to anyone. You will find yourself exhausted from trying to be something to or for someone. Let me tell you my experience with validation.
Are you playing the blame game or holding a grudge? Is it stopping you from progress? We feel so much better when we let things go instead of holding grudges and also playing the blame game for our circumstances. Listen as I discuss how these things can keep you stuck and not moving forward.
Sometimes when things don't go right we tend to blame or question are abilities, skills, and overall self. Do you do this? I use to and still today it creeps up. I answer those questions by reframing my thoughts.
Please be kind, compassionate, and loving to others. We never know what a person is going through. I cope with depression and anxiety everyday. It is hard! I have to have a daily routine, medication, and therapy. Listen to my thoughts on these illnesses and experience with them.
Should you stay in a situation that is bad for your health mentally, physically, or possibly spiritually? If you are not happy and know some changes need to be made whatever the situation maybe don't just settle for the way things are going make some changes so you can be happy, peaceful, and calm. This is a bonus I just wanted to share and maybe encourage someone to evaluate their circumstances and see where they could change some things and not settle for unhappiness or unhealthy situation.
Never let someone else's success define yours. I use to compare what I do to others, even when I felt I had achieved something there was always someone that has been there and done that thing. One day I said I have to stop defining sucess by whatever they were doing and accomplishing and start focusing on what I was doing. For instance, the goals I was achieving and the wins I needed to celebrate no matter how small or big. So today start focusing on your success and define it by your achievements and not others.
Staying motivated is a daily job. It's never a one and done thing. We have to find out what motivates us which sometimes can be a process. Once you do find that thing that motivates you keep pushing or moving forward. Motivation is one of the keys to help us reach our goals.
Sometimes we set a goal and want results right away or we are doing to many things at once. To achieve goals we most slow down and choose one goal at a time. Take that goal and break it down into steps because small steps or goals leads into big results and changes which in turn your goal will be achieved. So pick one thing and FOCUS on that and when it's achieved move to the next.
To love yourself is always to think about the positive things about yourself. It's not about what others like about you but what you love about you. To love yourself you must embrace all aspects of you, your uniqueness. Self Awareness is important if you are saying negative things about yourself then Stop! and focus on the positve things.
Do you ever take the time to be in the present moment? To focus on you, what you need or want at the present time? This podcast will help you to understand the importance of slowing down and taking the time to feel what or embrace what we need in the moment.