The further issue is that because the ego is involved, eventually the individual around the giving or helping finish (better) will resent you if you do not appreciate what they're doing in the manner their ego thinks you need to. Within the reverse, the individual around the receiving finish will resent the giving or helping person (better) for the limitations choosing the "kindnesses" which aren't receiving so freely. We are able to clock with an egg timer how quickly it goes from the special like to a unique hate relationship.

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