Fear is a powerful force that feeds stagnation, and it prevents many of us from pursuing opportunities.
But if fear is holding you back from living the life you envision, courage exercises can help.
The most rewarding decisions you will ever make—embarking on a new career path, going after your passions, starting a family—require facing your fears through acts of courage.
This means being bold despite your fears, stepping out of your comfort zone, taking risks, and facing challenges head-on.
Over time, bold decisions reinforce self-confidence, making it easier to approach future situations with certainty and poise. This mindset fosters personal growth by exposing you to new experiences and perspectives, while also inspiring others to take similar steps, creating a positive ripple effect.
The more you develop your boldness and courage, the stronger it gets, just like any muscle.
Below, I’m going to walk you through 10 practical exercises to develop courage and mental toughness so you can create the life you want.
Originally published on February 10, 2020, this article was republished on May 16th, 2024.
In some ways, fear can be healthy. Fear triggers your nervous system and the survival instincts that keep you safe from real danger. For example, there are good reasons not to walk down a dark alley at night.
Other kinds of fears are unhealthy. They can develop in response to trauma, stress, or negative experiences. If you go through a toxic relationship, for example, your fear may block you from trusting people and finding love again.
Many people fear not having enough, living with a scarcity mindset instead of an abundance mindset.
Fears can also reveal your core values and beliefs. You may feel afraid to start your dream company because you might fail. You get scared of public speaking because you might make a mistake. These fears show us an opportunity for courage.
For this exercise, make a list of every fear that you have.
By writing down your fears, you can identify which are healthy and which are holding you back from fully participating in your life. You can also reveal opportunities for growth, healing, and some goals that feel important, yet scare you.
Rather than denying your fear, or minimizing it, speak openly and share the fears that are holding you back.
In this courage exercise, take the time to express your fears in detail — first by writing them down, and then by speaking with a supportive friend, coach, or mentor.
By describing exactly what you are afraid of, you are empowering yourself to act with courage in the face of even your worst fears.
It might sound silly, but science shows how small controlled steps can develop the courage muscle that you’ll need for bigger challenges.
Make a tiny change to experience something unfamiliar.
Change up a habitual pattern such as brushing teeth with the opposite hand, finding a new route to work for three days in a row, or ordering a totally unknown menu item.
Small changes to break out of a comfortable routine are a way to practice experiencing discomfort, without taking any real risk.
Take a medium-sized risk. Find something that makes you nervous, and do it anyway.
Wear that funky outfit, bold neck-tie, or bright lipstick. Talk to someone you’d love to meet but haven’t found the nerve to approach. Take a weekend trip to a city you’ve never visited and do it solo.
Who knows the opportunities that will come your way?
First, I want to point out a distinction between acts of courage and doing something bat-shit crazy. The difference lies in what’s behind the action.
Courage means doing something bold, in line with your core values, in the presence of fear. Risks of this kind are an essential component of living with passion and purpose.
Taking a risk in life is an essential part of thriving and pursuing your long-term goals. Success is virtually impossible without taking any risks.
But bat-shit crazy is taking big risks when the motivation is bravado, ego, or simply showing off.
Remember the deep-rooted fears you identified in the first exercise? Refer back to them to identify ways to face one of those big fears, that will bring you closer to something you want in life.
Think of something big you’ve always wanted to do but felt too afraid, and begin steps to pursue it.
Because these are big moves, they are not accomplished in a single act. But you have to begin with the first step to put the whole thing in motion.
Here are some examples of how you might begin to pursue a big act of courage:
Visit a personal trainer and start training to run that half-marathon.
Connect With a MentorMentors matter. People who work with an experienced mentor:
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As someone further along the journey, your mentor knows what it takes to achieve success. They can provide insight and awareness around an area of your life that could use a fully developed courage muscle.
Ask a mentor or coach to support you to fully clarify “that thing” which could use an adjustment.
Work with your mentor, a coach, or other safe individuals who can support you to assess the dynamic of your strengths and weaknesses and your desire to change. Hold regular accountability meetings with your mentor.
Learning how to identify your strengths is a key factor in personal and career development.
When you acknowledge your skills, you are far more confident in your ability to succeed — and more willing to go all-in on those big acts of courage.
Create a list of your competencies that you can leverage, and identify weaknesses to work around.
This exercise can give you the confidence to flex your courage muscle and move past irrational fears. Working on what you’re already good at, instead of focusing on your weaknesses, also leads to more successes and reinforces motivation.
In William Bridges’ Transition Model, the time when you feel lost and unsure is called the Neutral Zone. It looks like this:
The exercise is simply to look at this chart, and identify where you are in your transition.
So when things feel scary and uncertain, you can remind yourself that fear is natural and normal when navigating new situations. It doesn’t mean you have to turn back or give up.
With the right strategies to refocus your life, unstable emotions shift into feelings of confidence and accomplishment — eventually boosting your motivation and leading to success.
This holds you back from experiencing a full life, expressing your creativity, and connecting with others authentically.
Research suggests that vulnerability is actually the secret to connection.
“We love seeing raw truth and openness in other people, but we’re afraid to let them see it in us. We’re afraid that our truth isn’t enough — that what we have to offer isn’t enough without the bells and whistles, without editing, and impressing.”
Brene Brown
For this exercise, I challenge you to practice any activity that allows you to show up and be seen.
Apply for the Ted Talk, write that book, attend that party, paint that portrait. These activities strengthen your courage muscle through transparency and vulnerability.
Accept that your raw truth is enough, without trying to edit or impress. Find a way to speak it, live it, and come out to it.
Whenever something scares you, and you make a courageous choice to do it anyway, congratulate yourself!
Hold regular accountability meetings with your mentor, coach, and team. Make sure to celebrate your victories. Reframe the low points as learning experiences. Keep at it.
When you make courage exercises a regular practice, you will have many reasons to celebrate — and you will see your life shift from fear to fierce!
So even if you’re afraid, put it all on the table. If you need support on how to begin to do this, give us a shout.
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