This Is How It Always Is: A Novel

There are three conversations within every conversation.

But what does this mean?

We can identify three different conversations whenever we have any interaction, even the most mundane ones.

In the first place, a whole world is happening inside of you.

When talking, you bring up your past experiences, identity, values, belief systems, and feelings.

At the same time, the other person does the same. They, too, bring their whole world when arguing or discussing an issue with you.

Concurrently, there is also a third conversation taking place.

And in this third space, more nuances and shades of gray exist.

Accessing the third level of conversation is vital to stop the cycle of repeating the same things over and over again.

In this week's episode of Your Brain on Trauma, I will unpack the characteristics of the three conversations so you can start observing them.

Once you have these resources, you can master the third conversation.

And this awareness will allow you to develop a superpower that will undoubtedly put the world in your palm.

In This Episode:

01:22My daughter had many play dates this week

02:41 A fiction book that I’m reading right now

03:28 There are three conversations within every conversation

04:54 Characteristics of the first and the second conversations

07:01 Intentions that we ascribe to someone else

08:20 Characteristics of the third conversation

10:09 Persistence is important as long as it is well-directed

11:14 Getting a point across in a collaborative way is a superpower

12:15 Anything worth doing involves other people

15:06 How to start identifying the three conversations

17:00 Remember that you are not alone in the world

Resources:

  • Book “This Is How It Always Is: A Novel” by Laurie Frankel - https://www.amazon.com/This-How-Always-Laurie-Frankel/dp/1250088550

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