This episode, an interlude between our cardinal virtues episodes, is a casual and genuine conversation on the “nice guy” phenomenon.

Show Highlights:

• “Nice guys” make a show of being nice in order to get something in return and are angry if they are subsequently denied what they “deserve.”
• A real man doesn’t use people as means to an end, and definitely doesn’t whine because his attempts to manipulate someone fail.
• Frustrated with lack of success, “nice guys” resort to being passive-aggressive and acting like a jerk, which is a vision of manhood formed by nothing more than TV and one’s juvenile peers.
• Here at Vital Masculinity, we encourage men to first work on themselves and become better men, whose can focus on something besides get-a-girlfriend-quick schemes.
• If you are not the man that you want to be, you are not going to meet the type of woman you want to meet.

References:

The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It (2018). Farrell Warren and John Gray

No More Mr. Nice Guy (2003). Robert Glover.

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