A term that we've used many times in our lessons is Reframing , which means to look at things in a different way; to put a new frame around the picture and give it a different look. Some people use the term put on another pair of glasses, with a different tinge or color to what you see. Rabbi Bension Kay, Rabbi Diamond’s son in law, who we mentioned on Friday, called me to share his family’s reframing story, after reading the new book Daily Dose of Bitachon, which speaks about reframing, at his Friday night table. His great- grandparents had moved from Lithuania to South Africa, but when they got off the boat, all religion was dropped, and Rabbi Kay’s grandparents were raised without any religion- to the point that he said they ate on Yom Kippur. His paternal grandfather would take his paycheck and go to the bar and drink. And his grandmother would save a few dollars from that for the family. They were, in his terms, as poor as church mice. That was the way they lived until tragedy struck the family. His grandmother was diagnosed with a dreaded disease at age 36 and she realized that her time was short. There was a Jewish hostel that actually served kosher food, and for whatever reason, she decided to introduce a little kashrut to the family. So she moved into that hostel with her husband and children. And then she passed away. Her husband was a drunk and the older brother and older sister moved out. And Rabbi Bension’s father, whose name was Eric, was left as an orphan, at age 12, in this hostel. The man that ran the hostel was an Orthodox Rabbi who had come from Europe and had learned in the Telz Yeshiva. One day, he asked the young orphan, “ Why don't you come to a class ?” He joined a Gemara class and he was intrigued. He was a smart boy and he really felt challenged by it. This Rabbi offered to send him to America, to the Telz Yeshiva in Cleveland. With nothing else really going for him, he decided to go. This young boy, 13 years old, joined this prestigious Yeshiva run by Rabbi Bloch and Rabbi Katz, both survivors of the Telz Yeshiva in Europe. He spent the next seven years there, developing, and then going on to Eretz Yisrael, learning in Chevron. He then went back to South Africa and married Rabbi Bension’s mother. They had three wonderful children. One lives in Eretz Yisrael, another lives in Lakewood, and of course, Rabbi Bension who lives in Deal, New Jersey and runs Rabbi Diamond’s Yeshiva. So three brothers survived from this family. Rabbi Bension said his father's older brother never had any children, and his father’s sister had one daughter who married out of the faith. So all that is left of his family is he and his two brothers. That's the whole family. And then he added the reframe, using the following words: What would have happened if, has v’Shalom/ Heaven forbid, my grandmother would not have gotten sick? What if she would have lived to a ripe old age with my grandfather? My entire family be wiped off the face of the Jewish map . We are only religious because my grandfather was an orphan. He was sent to Cleveland.. he went to Eretz Yisrael….he eventually went back to South Africa, married his wife, became a rabbi and raised a wonderful family . That's a powerful way of looking back. Of course, hindsight is 20/20. We can all look back and see things, and, as the saying goes, connect the dots backwards. But to me, this is a very powerful reframe. He looked back and saw that a difficult tragedy really was necessary to keep his family's lineage alive. As we said, reframing is a very basic concept in our religion. Rabbi Akiva said the statement, Kol d’Avid Rahmana Letav Avid Whatever God does is for the good, And the question is asked, why do we say this in Aramaic? It's an Aramaic statement, Whatever the merciful One does, for good , He does. Why is it Aramaic and not in Hebrew, which is actually Gam Zu LeTova translated. One of the commentaries, (perhaps the Ben Ish Chai) says that we say Kaddish in Aramaic, because the angels would be jealous if we said it in Hebrew, because it’s such a powerful praise, that the Jewish people have. Similarly, if the angels heard us saying that everything is for the good, they'd be jealous as well, of the power of the Jew, to reframe every situation. So therefore, in order that the angels shouldn't be jealous of us, we say it Aramaic, which the angels don’t understand. Kol d’Avid Rahmana Whatever God does, Letav Avid Is for the good. Rabbi Bension’s story is just one of those many cases. Have a wonderful day.