Untangled: Recent Episodes
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Hi there! My name is Simran Goyal and welcome to Untangled, the weekly podcast where me and a guest will take a deep dive into topics to try and gain a better understanding of ourselves and the world. These are the topics we think about but don't often talk about.
Simran is a psychology graduate and medical student at the University of Cambridge.
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This topic is based on the legendary AviTV's youtube video, "Is there enough success for us all?"
We talk about the scarcity and abundance mindset. Mital and Simran talk about their experiences growing up and thinking about success, and their differing experiences in finance vs. medicine. We talk about living true to our values and the influence of social media on how we view success.
Resources:
AviTV video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7twkWMGwoMY
Book: The Third Door by Alex Banayan
My first solo episode! I talk about what exactly is the internal dialogue? What are the different approaches that we can take - what do the books say?
4 key takeaways:
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The science behind practicing gratitude
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Optimising your environment- physical and virtual
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Improve the quality of the questions you ask yourself.
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Create your own troubleshooting algorithm
Neat little ideas:
Rose-bud-thorn
Write letters to people you are grateful for
Quotes on the wall to prime your mind
Clearing your virtual space might clear your head
Catch the questions you ask yourself, how can I change it?
Create the energy matrix
Today, I am joined by Selina Goyal who sadly experienced baby loss 6 months ago. She has come on the podcast to break the silence on talking about baby loss- an experience that is more commonly experienced than we like to acknowledge.
We cover why baby loss is different from other losses. Why is it difficult to talk about? Helpful and unhelpful things to say to bereaved parents. Selina shares advice she has for other bereaved parents and healthcare professionals when breaking bad news.
SANDS charity: https://www.sands.org.uk/
Timestamps:
00:00 : Introduction + Selina's story
02:25 : The medical perspective, advice for healthcare professionals
7:35 : Why is baby loss different to other losses? Why is it difficult to talk about?
10:10: Helpful support for bereaved parents
13:33: Unhelpful things to say to bereaved parents
16:54: How to reach out to a bereaved parent that you are close to
18:10: Advice to other bereaved parents
20:15: How the SANDS charity helps parents
22:58: Final message and poem
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This week i was delighted to be joined by coorporate professional and artist Prit Aggarwal. We discuss our creative journeys and what it means to us. We discuss whether fears of expressing our creativity and whether we should express it or keep it to ourselves. We touch on whether everyone can be creative and the different approaches to it. We end on an unplanned treat.
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In this episode I am joined by two of my best friends from University. None of us are ready to have kids yet, but despite this decided to explore the list that Sony has written, "Lessons to my future child". Anoop and I chip in with our honest take on the lessons, drawing from our own life experiences covering themes of kindness, success and failures, and love. We deep dive into some of our "failures" and talk about what our definition of love might be.
Anoop and Sony both study medicine with me at Cambridge University. Sony studied psychology with me in her third year and hopes to perfect latté art in the near future. Anoop has aspirations to be a cardiothoracic surgeon.
Timestamps:
00:00 Introductions to my friends
5:00 Why did Sony write this?
8:35 Kindness
17:05 Success and failures
21:00 Times where we have failed
30:00 Recognising privilege
31:50 Change
32:50 Speak up
33:27 Love
37:00 Reaching out
39:00 Enjoyment
Resources mentioned
- CS50 Havard course: https://www.edx.org/course/cs50s-introduction-to-computer-science
- Open access university physics degree, cause why not? http://www.open.ac.uk/courses/physics
Key lessons
- Be kind and don't expect anything back
- Be kind and be happy because they are happy, not because you are the one that has helped them.
- Be kind and when someone is unkind, understand that they might not have had the same privileged upbringing that might motivate them be kind.
- Celebrate the successes of others as if they were your own
- Take pride in your failures, as well as your success. [write a failure CV]
- When you succeed, remember that whilst you worked hard you started with privilege denied to other people. Take pride in your achievements, but not arrogance. Be humble.
- Change is important: nostalgia is comforting but change is stimulating and energising so accept it with an open mind.
- Speak up when things don't sit right: you're never small enough to make a difference.
- Love people not things.
- Love without wanting to be loved back. Love people for who they are and not what they want them to be.
- Reach out to people: appreciate people's work, their presence and give meaningful compliments.
- Don't take life too seriously and take each day as it comes.
- Listening: react and judge the words not source of the words because good advice can come from anywhere.
- Experience the masterpieces that life has to offer but don't pretend to enjoy them just to fit in.
- Life is a pie: diversify and have many different slices.
In this episode we talk about disagreements and hesitations that we might have when voicing them to family, friends or authority figures. We discuss when it might be important to voice your opinion, different methods to do this and alternative ways we can approach thinking about different points of view.
Alisha is interested in philosophy and is looking to study law at university. On the side she likes to sing and do illustrations. Follow @alishagarwalofficial on instagram to check it out
Books mentioned:
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Rebel Ideas by Matthew Syed
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Black box thinking by Matthew Syed
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The Subtle Art of not giving a F**** by Mark Manson
In this episode we discover the world from the lens of a brainy 10-year-old covering lockdown, hobbies, politics and school.
Get in touch! via email: untangled@simmygee.com
There is a lot happening in the world right now. We are also in lock-down with more time to pay attention to issues that matter. In this episode we figure out how to get out of our own bubbles, navigate the news and Simran expresses her journey in the struggle to minimise her own biases.
This episode is joined by Anand Goyal (brother), who has been heavily engaged in politics and world issues since the age of 18.
Resources:
- Book: How to be anti-racist
- Concept of echo chamber and bubbles: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Bx-rDhlmzo
In this episode we think about "going first" and what this means in different contexts. We begin by talking about going first in the context of a big seminar or in class, followed by networking and parties, going on to conclude on the topic of going first with those close to us.
This episode is joined by Avnish Goyal, who gives us some valuable insights into how he developed his public speaking career as someone with a naturally shy disposition.
In the first episode of this podcast we think about the topic of indulgence. What exactly is it? The discussion led us to think about how the concept of flow ties in. By the end we conclude to think about indulgence in a very different way from when we began.
This episode is joined by Reece Chowdhry, Founder and CEO of RLC Ventures.
Notes
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Book: The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
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If you are interested in learning more about the concept of Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8h6IMYRoCZw&feature=youtu.be
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Spotify playlist I use to get into a flow state: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5RtIoZHMy9nfJ8mCNGceFy?si=Rp17mfXKRoy-pIV4jWDvNA