Rest In Peace: Recent Episodes
Edward Tay
To the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure.
Learn to die. Learn to live. Stories and wisdom for our final destination.
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Margaret Meloni is a businessperson, Buddhist practitioner, and advocate for what she calls Death Dhamma. The practice of inviting the awareness of death into your life. She has seen how Buddhism, combined with a healthy respect for the Grim Reaper, has helped her create a life with more peace and less suffering. She is also a podcaster and author.
In this episode we discussed:
- Accepting death as an essential part of life
- The Buddhist's outlook on suffering
- Margaret's new book Sitting With Death: Buddhist Insights to Help You Face Your Fears and Live a Peaceful Life
"I'm not saying don't believe in miracles, but I'm also saying accept the reality of what you're being told. Because if you want to keep thinking that some miracle will come and that your loved one is not going to die...that's a form of aversion and you're going to suffer more if you keep waiting for something to happen to save them from their death." - Margaret Meloni
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Roseanne Collison is the author of My Children in Heaven: A Story of Grief, Hope and Love, She has triumphed over multiple miscarriages and the death of my son. Roseanne shares her story to give hope to all.
In this episode we discussed:
- Surviving 4 pregnancy losses
- Book resources: A Gift of Time and Experiencing Grief
- Role of faith in seasons of grief
"In hard times you can draw near God, and to reach out to others. By putting one foot in front of the other you can get through the struggles we face here on Earth." - Roseanne Collison
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Kristen Elliott is an End of Life Doula who guides both the living and dying back home to themselves. Helping people truly live every moment - even their last.
In this episode we discussed:
- Rewriting life's prescription
- Holding space for the dying
- New forms of funeral practices
"Talking about death doesn't bring death upon you. It's a really great way to learn how to live a more fulfilled life." - Kristen Elliott
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Jerry Zehr is an ordained minister and has been a leader in Interfaith ministries for over 35 years. He has helped create four interfaith organizations, including the Carmel Interfaith Alliance and the Indiana Multifaith Network. Before Jerry went into the ministry, he was a professional actor performing in over 50 musicals and dramas. His book "The Peacemaker's Path: Multifaith Reflections to Deepen Your Spirituality" is designed with 40 days of devotion and reflection. There are six themes, with one week given for each topic. People can read the 40 entries one day at a time or read one week if they are in a small group or read the whole book in their time frame.
In this episode we discussed:
- Develop peace within, advocate for others, offer mercy
- Walking the Enlightened Path
- The importance of being true to ourselves, learn to trust, and forgive
"Live in grace and goodness. Don't let guilt and shame hold you. You're forgiven. Love yourself and love others. Help bring peace to our world." - Jerry Zehr
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After losing his son 10+ years ago. Justin Caffrey turned to Eastern Psychology and Neuroscience. Justin has become a recognized expert on the Vagus Nerve, the autonomic nervous system, and how Eastern traditions have recognized the importance of these key physiological repossess for thousands of years.
In this episode we discussed:
- Post-traumatic growth
- Vagus Nerve Massage and cold showers
- Shugendo, training with Yamabushi
"Focus on you. Start with you. And the recovery is already beginning." - Justin Caffrey
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Dr Marissa Pei is an edu-tainer and extremely #postivelyopinionated in helping people feel better about themselves, those around them and life overall. She is the #1 bestselling author of 8 Ways to Happiness from Wherever You Are, and a celebrity host/producer. Dr. Marissa was introduced to Oprah as the Asian Oprah, has been interviewed on NBC, CBS, ABC and FOX.
In this episode we discussed:
- Why does Marissa say 88% Happy and not 100% Happy?
- Why is there nothing wrong with people who have had abuse in their past
- Her daily practice in mindfulness gratefulness
"The friendly universe is always saying, come over here, it's ok, everything is going to work out. I call my friendly universe my UPS man, my universal power source man. He delivers when I pray and meditate in the morning." - Marissa Pei
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Jason Zuk is an Attorney, Intuitive Psychic Medium, and a Podcaster. For many years, he has witnessed a world full of amazing spirituality! When his grandfather passed away from a stroke it opened his intuitive abilities. Jason believes that we are all capable of major change and paradigm shifts in our lives…but we must be open and possess the courage and fortitude to leave our comfort zones to experience them.
In this episode we discussed:
- How Jason utilizes crystals to read energy and get intuition
- Psychic readings
- 1% is body, 99% is spirit
"Dying is just another process like breathing, and that when you actually die its like falling asleep on the couch without realizing it." - Jason Zuk
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Sarah Ticho is a serial founder, curator, researcher and international speaker specialising in arts, health and immersive technology. She is the founder of Hatsumi (which means to see for the first time). They develop work at the intersection of immersive technology, participatory art, and storytelling to improve physical and mental health. They're the creators behind BodyMap, a creative participatory tool created to help people communicate and understand the embodied experience of pain and emotion using 3D drawing and sound.
In this episode we discussed:
- How virtual reality can be used in end of life
- Forest of Serenity by Sir David Attenborough
- Using embodied technologies to tell stories through art
"We've been looking at using VR to communicate pain with clinicians, for patients to use in the waiting room before they see the doctor. Its a better way of communicating what's going on for them." - Sarah Ticho
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Sherrie Dunlevy never knew her background in TV would lead to a book How Can I Help?: Your Go-To Guide for Helping Loved Ones through Life's Difficulties, just as she never believed a book would lead to an entire new life path as a professional speaker and self proclaimed “Inspirationista”
In this episode we discussed:
- How it took years to heal from the pain of her grief as a bereaved mom
- Relationship building in the age of technology
- Graduating Grief
"I want to provide hope. Because a lot of times when you enter support groups, grievers were led to believe they're prisoners of their pain and I don't believe it has to be that way." - Sherrie Dunlevy
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Edy Nathan is the foremost expert In grief, trauma, and sexuality. She's a keynote speaker at healthcare & corporate workshops, and author of the book It's Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and Loss
In this episode we discussed:
- What Edy learnt from David Schnarch, and Brain Talk
- ACISTE (American Center for the Integration of Spiritually Transformative Experiences)
- How we can use our 2 allies: the brain and breath, to conquer anxiety
"The breath can be the most centering part of our lives than you can even imagine." - Edy Nathan
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Peggy Green is a health and wellness enthusiast who helps mothers process the loss of a child so they can enjoy time with family and find happiness. After the loss of her second child, she discovered she was helping others in their grief. Peggy started as a grief coach utilizing the tools and resources she gained over a lifetime in overcoming adversity, trauma and loss. Peggy is a mother of 4 children, 2 in heaven and 2 grown girls. She is the author of Life after Child Loss: The Mother's Survival Guide to Cope and Find Joy
In this episode we discussed:
- How Peggy experienced the loss of both children, 20+ years apart.
- Role of a grief coach vs grief counselor
- The way to heal and be on a suicide loss survivor journey
"It's so important to be able to focus on the things moving forward versus the past. Because that which we focus on is where we go." - Peggy Green
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Mira Sai is the founder of Sai Global Foundation. She has gained a wealth of experience in many varied areas, replete with the many trials and tribulations, the highs and the lows, gains and losses, along with fame, fortune and wealth, which brought forth monumental courage and hidden strengths, culminating in the death accident, bringing with it… Realization of the non-permanence of it all… and the Truth of her own reality and the reality of all of Existence: which she sums up in one word… LOVE.
In this episode we discuss:
- How Mira made the transformation from a successful financial advisor to embarking on this spiritual path
- What her near-death experience thought her and why death can be something to be looked forward to
- Enstasy
"When I was on the other side, my DNA was being transmuted and transformed. I came back as a totally different person. To be here for the people. I have no attachment to anything or anyone." - Mira Sai
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Jill Johnson-Young is a grief therapist, author, speaker and educator. She spent more than a decade with hospice. She is also twice widowed, now I’m now married to a funeral director who is also a member of DMORT and has been deployed twice in the pandemic. She teaches school staff how to help with grief and cope with their own losses, and therapists how to approach grief in a way that doesn’t suggest grief has to last forever. She provides grief support groups online, as well as a dementia support group. Jill has written books for children about grief and a workbook for adults, as well as “The Rebellious Widow.”
In this episode we discuss:
- How Jill coped with the passing of her wives, and breaking the "widow rule"
- The way hospice care is viewed by society and how the terminally ill can benefit
- How to say goodbye to a loved one, go through grief and recover
"The research says that we tend to be done with our toughest grief in the first 3-4 months. We've grieved with our spouse, and reorganized our lives in our heads before they die. So were done with our grief when others are just starting." - Jill Johnson-Young
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Rick Ornelas is an author and "Positive Change Expert" who teaches others to unlock their amazing potential to create an incredible future and change the world around them. He's the author of 12 Hours of Heaven; Lessons for a Better World and founder of I Spark Change, a global movement and online community of those who seek to make the world a better place one act at a time.
In this episode we discuss:
- Why we need to move toward the direction of light and focus on the good in our hearts.
- What inspired him to write a book in the midst of the pandemic
- How Rick is mobilizing a community for positive impact in the world.
"Live like there's no tomorrow because you never know when your time in this world will end" - Rick Ornelas
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Sharon Greenwald is an advocate for mental health and has written a book, "Sixty-ninth Street Suicide." It's written from the angle of explaining her "why" through the thoughts and feelings she endured for many years. Her purpose is to help erase the stigma of mental illness.
In this episode we discuss:
- What society doesn't understand about mental illness
- Does technology exacerbate loneliness
- Signs and symptoms of depression that usually go unnoticed
"If someone you know has successfully committed suicide, please do not feel guilty. Its not your fault. It's the demon's fault." - Sharon Greenwald
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Highlights:
- Nesreen's journey to being a grief coach
- Book recommendations for grief support and overcoming loss
- A step by step process to resolving hurt
"I'm a true believer that grief is our superpower, that we are superheroes." - Nesreen Ahmed
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Highlights:
- What happened in a span of 4 months for Carole, and how she is helping people getting through the fog of traumatic events
- Will time heal all wounds?
- How grief recovery is a messy process and that's ok
"While your past may shape you, it does not have to to define you." - Carole Brody Fleet
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Highlights:
- Overcoming fear of spiders while volunteering at the London zoo.
- Dr Karl Albrecht's 5 types of fears
- How the everyday person can learn to understand and have a healthy relationship with his/her phobias.
"A lot of people assume that the opposite of death is life. But actually the opposite of death is birth, and life is what happens in the middle." - Michelle Thole
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Highlights:
- Psychic services her team offer at Spirit & Spark
- Supernatural dreams and visions that she personally experienced
- Tips for increasing wellness and methods for improving energy levels
"Meditation is like that low hanging fruit, even if you can start meditating 5, 10 minutes a day you will pick up more information, more subtleties, be more connected to nature." - Dallisa Hocking
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Highlights:
- The experience she had at very young age of 2 that left an impact in her life
- Shadow beings
- Why you choose to go to the dark instead of the light after death
"The only way I could describe it was a paper cut out doll, but it ran around and clung to every corner of the wall." - Marianne Coleman
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Highlights:
- Past life regression and do regression therapy work?
- What Johnny learned from interviewing scholars, afterlife researchers, parapsychology professionals and mediums
- Existential questions such as why are we here, what is our purpose and where are we going when this life ends
"If you do the work, you will ascend. Once you reached nirvana, you don't have to come back anymore." - Johnny Burke
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Highlights:
- What is intermittent silence?
- Body vs Mind vs Flame of Consciousness
- How eastern wisdom and western discoveries embrace each other to make the world a better place
"If we live a higher energy life, the more peaceful we are. If we live at a lower energy level, we are more irritable and reactive." - Krishna Bhatta
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Highlights:
- Advice and tips on managing digital assets to preserve sentimental value.
- How we can approach death in our culture with better conversations.
- Transformation from paper & pen to digital and how we can embrace this shift.
"For most people, the arrangements for leaving this world are not taken care of. The problem comes, unfortunately when someone passes away unexpectedly without leaving any instructions." - Charles Aram
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Highlights:
- What he learned having survived a near-death car accident in 2008.
- The message he heard from God and changes made to live his life to the fullest.
- Reflecting of the technologies we have today that has played a huge role in healthcare.
"Life is freedom and today I'm alive. It is something to recognize and that's why I say life is sublime." - Carlos Acosta
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Highlights:
- Death Café and Death Literacy groups, facilitating conversations around death.
- Gina's life as a funeral services pre-planner and what got her interested in this line of work
- A unique perspective on what it takes to navigate the uncomfortable and the unexpected
"Be kind to one another and acknowledge your mortality. It's the one universal truth you can count on. We're all gonna die." - Gina Vliet
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Highlights:
- Misdiagnosis of stroke as migraine by doctors lead him to a divine encounter
- His search for personal significance while being aligned with the will of God
- How being of service to others and the greater good will give life massive meaning
"All things work together for your good. Doesn't say all things are good. Doesn't say all things are easy. But it's for your own good, if you take it as that." - Scott Shilling
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Highlights:
- I have started a Patreon page. Join the private community for exclusive digital downloads, database of death products & services, early access and fan requests. Appreciate the support!
- Meaning and significance of 11:11
- Features and benefits of online memorial websites
Online Memorials mentioned:
- Beautiful Tribute
- Ever Loved
- Forever Missed
- GatheringUs
- Keeper
- Memories
- Never Gone
- Remembered
- Tributes
- Your Tribute
Highlights:
- How Iain got diagnosed with glioblastoma through MRI scan during a medical trial
- What can be done to contribute to cancer research and support the cause
- The inspiration to beat the World Record, for the fastest man to run a marathon dressed as a video game character
"When I wasn't depressed with my diagnosis, everyone was shocked that I wasn't like rolling on the floor crying my eyes out. I don't think anyone who has a diagnosis that's not good does that. It's just not a human thing to do." - Iain Ward
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Highlights:
- The meaning of bucket list and how we can draw inspiration by having one
- Trav's experience at Everest Base Camp with his dad
- Alternative to prescription medicine that worked for him when having depression
"Life really, really, really is too short not to live your bucket list." - Trav Bell
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Highlights:
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Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End
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It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand
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Signs From Pets In The Afterlife: Identifying Messages From Pets in Heaven
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The Denial of Death
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The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully
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Grief & Loss: Will the pain ever end?
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The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life
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Highlights:
- The inspiration and features of the WeCroak app
- How contemplating mortality helps us accept what we must
- The art of curating great quotes about our own impermanence
"I like this quote from Friedrich Nietzsche, as you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back at you." - Hansa Bergwall
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Highlights:
- The impetus for starting Remembered.com
- Rise of online memorial accounts post COVID-19
- Catharsis by lighting a virtual candle
"I'd like to be remembered for the number of friends I've made and photographs taken. If there's no other accomplishments for measuring a person's life, I think these are the best we can ask for." - Andy Jorgensen
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Highlights:
- Jews and Zionism
- Coping with the loss of a grandparent and miscarriage
- How the Joker is the antihero of our time
"My last meal on Earth...I've got favorite food but it doesn't really matter. If I were to have my favorite food in a box alone it wouldn't be as good as having a sandwich with my wife, kids, parents, grandparents and good friends. I'd care with who I was eating at the table with." - Daniel M. Rosenberg
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Highlights:
- Maslow's hierarchy of needs
- Mythology and dark fiction
- Russell living past his perceived age of death
"Money is not the only thing. Things are not the only thing. Hug your loved ones. Play. Never forget that playing is one of the great joys in life whether that is playing music or playing with words. Keeping your creative spirit alive. You will never get more time." - Russell Nohelty
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Highlights:
- How we all have a spirit, soul and body
- What does the Bible says about the end of days
- Description of heaven based on scriptures
"Through dying and giving in to the will of Jesus, I've come out as a better person, and this is what God promises." - Pastor Moses Tay
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