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In this episode of The Relationship Success Podcast brought to you by Family Matters First we replay a very popular interview with Matt McGue from One Church. Matt moved to Jackson, MS with a goal of planting a church that by design would intentionally invite every ethnic group.
In this episode of The Relationship Success University Podcast brought to you by The Family Matters First Podcast. We bring our 2 youngest Jeremy and Elizabeth Adams back in the studio to share 7 Tips To Make This the Best Christmas Ever
In today's episode we are joined by our two youngest Jeremy and Elizabeth as we discuss the importance of starting family traditions, how your family can start your own traditions and some of the traditions we started as a family that still continue.
In today's episode of The Relationship Success brought to you by Family Matters First we share what the Christian walk is about and the importance of having a relationship with Jesus Christ. We explore how we can be transformed and not conformed to the world.
In this episode of The Relationship Success University Podcast brought to you by Family Matters First we replay an interview Aleisha McCormack from The Save the Date Podcast. We discuss the emphasis that is put on the weddings vs. the emphasis put on marriage. On average people spend $25,000 on the wedding but nothing on preparing for their marriage.
In this episode of The Relationship Success University Podcast brought to you by Family Matters First we ask the question: What's Wrong with the Family? We walk through statistics taken from a Baptist Convention survey and share how we can work together to make things right.
In this episode of The Relationship Success University Podcast brought to you by Family Matters First we continue sharing the 10 Ingredients for A Healthy Family.
In this episode of The Relationship Success University Podcast brought to you by Family Matters First we share the 10 Ingredients for A Healthy Family.
In this episode of The Relationship Success Podcast brought to you by Family Matters First we continue to discuss how you can teach your children about sex so that they will stay pure until they are married.
In this episode of The Relationship Success Podcast brought to you by Family Matters First we are going to discuss how you can teach your children about sex so that they will stay pure until they are married.
In this episode of The Family Matters First Podcast we are going to discuss what is permissible in the marriage bed. Did you know that God's instruction on sex can be found in the Bible?
In this episode of The Relationship Success University Podcast brought to you by Family Matters First we are going to continue on the discussion on improving and enhancing married sex. How to properly approach your wife in the arousal stage of sex and what is the female Viagra
In this episode of The Family Matters First brought to you by Relationship Success University we continue the discussion on the best married sex ever between a husband and wife. We discuss things every husband wishes his wife understood about sex.
In this episode of TThe Family Matters First brought to you by Relationship Success University we are going to talk about the best married sex ever between a husband and wife. We discuss things every husband wishes his wife understood about sex.
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast, Jim and Teresa pick up on their discussion of God Is Not Keeping Sex From You, He Is Keeping It For You Pt 2
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we talk about how great marriages have couples who are having great sex. Sex is a great indicator of how well things are going or not going in other areas of your marriage.
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we share what happens when men are not doing their jobs. We dive into how men have failed. The man is the leader, the head, the authority but is also very much responsible. God holds the man accountable, even when the man tries to run from his responsibilities.
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we pick up from last episode where we spoke about how If the Father Fails, the Family Has No Future. Today we share The 6 Areas Where the Feminization Can Be Seen in the Family. We discuss what feminism says and what the Bible teaches.
6 Areas Where the Feminization Can Be Seen in the Family: 1. Feminization: Marriage has been destabilized and divorce is socially and psychologically more acceptable
What the Bible says: Marriage is a divine and covenantial institution that binds a man and a woman together for life as a sacrate vow
Genesis 2:18-24
Matthew 19:3-9
2. Male headship in the family has been replaced by an egalitarian arrangement
The servant leader is submitted to God and it should be an honor to submit
Hupotasso– to voluntary place yourself under one’s authority
3. Feminism- The man is just as responsible as the woman to provide for the financial needs of the family
What the Bible says:
4. The woman as a full-time homemaker is scorned while the working woman is now a cultural norm
Titus 2:4-5
5. The responsibility of motherhood is seen in different terms than in the past.
What the Bible says: 1 Timothy 2:15, 1 Timothy 5:14
6. A large family is despised instead being known that it comes as a blessing and sovereignty
Psalms 1:27-28
The Influence of a Man
In the family, if a child comes to Christ there is a 25% that the rest of the family will come to Christ
In the family, if the woman comes to Christ there is a 29% that the rest of the family will come to Christ
In the family, if a man comes to Christ there is a 95% that the rest of the family will come to Christ
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we interview Derek and Carrie Olsen authors of 'One Bed One Bank Account'. Derek and Carrie teach and train couples on marriage and money. The are co-host of Better Conversations on Money & Marriage Podcast where they share how amazing it can be to have tough conversations that most people to avoid.
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we continue our interview with Janice Love author of "One Plus One Equals Ten: A First Lady’s Survival Guide for Stepmoms". Janice is a divorced mother of two, Janice tossed aside her ideas of marital bliss and became content with being on her own . . . that was until her also recently divorced pastor made it his mission to take her his new bride. Falling in love with Rev. Bobby Love was easy, but no one prepared the couple for what came after saying, “I do,” when blending two homes equated to a stepfamily of ten! With honesty, humor, and compassion, Janice R. Love recounts her experiences as a mom, stepmom, and pastor’s wife in One Plus One Equals Ten: A First Lady’s Survival Guide for Stepmoms. Tackling tough questions, One Plus One Equals Ten offers real life examples, faith-based inspiration, and practical tips and strategies for both new and struggling stepparents. If you are thinking about dating or planning to marry someone with children, or have already married and are having difficulty adjusting to “living-in-step,” this book is for you!
Includes Useful Tips and Resources:
• Certified Stepfamily Coach and experience-based suggestions and strategies
• Relevant and inspiring Bible verses
• Over a dozen recommended references for stepparents
• Additional pages for journaling and notes • And much, much more!
RESOURCES
BUY One Plus One Equals Ten
www.StepWithLove.com
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we interview Janice Love author of One Plus One Equals Ten: A First Lady’s Survival Guide for Stepmoms'. Janice is a divorced mother of two, Janice tossed aside her ideas of marital bliss and became content with being on her own . . . that was until her also recently divorced pastor made it his mission to take her his new bride. Falling in love with Rev. Bobby Love was easy, but no one prepared the couple for what came after saying, “I do,” when blending two homes equated to a stepfamily of ten! With honesty, humor, and compassion, Janice R. Love recounts her experiences as a mom, stepmom, and pastor’s wife in One Plus One Equals Ten: A First Lady’s Survival Guide for Stepmoms. Tackling tough questions, One Plus One Equals Ten offers real life examples, faith-based inspiration, and practical tips and strategies for both new and struggling stepparents. If you are thinking about dating or planning to marry someone with children, or have already married and are having difficulty adjusting to “living-in-step,” this book is for you!
Includes Useful Tips and Resources:
• Certified Stepfamily Coach and experience-based suggestions and strategies
• Relevant and inspiring Bible verses
• Over a dozen recommended references for stepparents
• Additional pages for journaling and notes • And much, much more!
RESOURCES
BUY One Plus One Equals Ten
www.StepWithLove.com
In this episode of The Family Matters First Podcast we interview Janice Love author of ‘One Plus One Equals Ten: A First Lady’s Survival Guide for Stepmoms’. Janice is a divorced mother of two, Janice tossed aside her ideas of marital bliss and became content with being on her own . . . that was until her also recently divorced pastor made it his mission to take her his new bride. Falling in love with Rev. Bobby Love was easy, but no one prepared the couple for what came after saying, “I do,” when blending two homes equated to a stepfamily of ten! With honesty, humor, and compassion, Janice R. Love recounts her experiences as a mom, stepmom, and pastor’s wife in One Plus One Equals Ten: A First Lady’s Survival Guide for Stepmoms. Tackling tough questions, One Plus One Equals Ten offers real life examples, faith-based inspiration, and practical tips and strategies for both new and struggling stepparents. If you are thinking about dating or planning to marry someone with children, or have already married and are having difficulty adjusting to “living-in-step,” this book is for you!
Includes Useful Tips and Resources:
• Certified Stepfamily Coach and experience-based suggestions and strategies
• Relevant and inspiring Bible verses
• Over a dozen recommended references for stepparents
• Additional pages for journaling and notes • And much, much more!
RESOURCES
BUY One Plus One Equals Ten
www.StepWithLove.com
- See more at: http://familymattersfirst.org/podcast/110/#sthash.oAm32Qwp.dpuf
In this episode of The Family Matters First Podcast we interview Janice Love author of ‘One Plus One Equals Ten: A First Lady’s Survival Guide for Stepmoms’. Janice is a divorced mother of two, Janice tossed aside her ideas of marital bliss and became content with being on her own . . . that was until her also recently divorced pastor made it his mission to take her his new bride. Falling in love with Rev. Bobby Love was easy, but no one prepared the couple for what came after saying, “I do,” when blending two homes equated to a stepfamily of ten! With honesty, humor, and compassion, Janice R. Love recounts her experiences as a mom, stepmom, and pastor’s wife in One Plus One Equals Ten: A First Lady’s Survival Guide for Stepmoms. Tackling tough questions, One Plus One Equals Ten offers real life examples, faith-based inspiration, and practical tips and strategies for both new and struggling stepparents. If you are thinking about dating or planning to marry someone with children, or have already married and are having difficulty adjusting to “living-in-step,” this book is for you!
Includes Useful Tips and Resources:
• Certified Stepfamily Coach and experience-based suggestions and strategies
• Relevant and inspiring Bible verses
• Over a dozen recommended references for stepparents
• Additional pages for journaling and notes • And much, much more!
RESOURCES
BUY One Plus One Equals Ten
www.StepWithLove.com
- See more at: http://familymattersfirst.org/podcast/110/#sthash.oAm32Qwp.dpuf
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we will discuss how to deal with unmet expectations and marriage fairytales. This episode will be extremely helpful to the couple who hasn’t got married yet and for those that are already married you will learn how to deal with unmet expectations and grow your marriage at the same time. Discover 4 Ways of Dealing with Unmet Expectations in Marriage and some Ridiculous Fairytales about Marriage.
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we discuss how communication is made difficult and maybe impossible if you are not speaking the same language. Everyone agrees that communication is essential to a healthy marriage but how do we communicate?
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we continue to discuss Husbands/Wives biblical roles and responsibilities from the inventor of marriage himself! We talk about what happened after ‘the fall’ and the punishment that came with it taken from Genesis 3:14-16.
Adam’s sin unleashed the clash of female disobedience and the destructive curse of male domination. Your “desire” shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” Genesis 3:16. This has nothing to do with your wife physically desiring you. This is not a good thing!
The “fall” or “curse” unleashes the woman’s rebellion to the headship of man, and man instead of leading, now has a “bent” to dominate. The woman’s desire will be to usurp her husband’s authority or another way to look at it “you will desire your husband’s position”! Because of the fall/curse there will be a clash between husband and wife, a clash for “control”, but even in the midst of the clash the God ordained order will not be dismissed, the husband will still remain in authority- he will rule over you, albeit in a fallen sense, not as God had originally designed. The fall “perverted” God’s original design.
Only where true Christianity flourishes is there any real easing of this curse. Ephesians 5:22-33 teaches how we can decrease its effects within our marriages—by emulating the virtues of Christ's relationship with the church. Thus, wives are told to submit rather than contend, and husbands are commanded to love rather than dominate. It takes conscious effort to overcome the effort to overcome evil, ingrained habits of 6,000 years of misguided practice.
This is the illustration part. Just like Jesus and God are one. We are called to be one in our marriages: Genesis 2:24
There is to be obedience in marriage. Women are to follow their husband’s leadership with respect, choosing to submit to that leadership (Titus 2:5, 1 Pet. 3:1-4). 1 Peter states that when wives submit to their husband’s leadership, they are doing it as service to God (1 Pet. 3:1-4).
Husbands are to follow God’s instruction and Christ’s example to be a servant leader, not passive as Adam was in Genesis 3:6 and not domineering as men have a tendency to do, but as a service unto God. So what happens in a marriage?- THREE become ONE.
A great marriage is only great if the husband is submitting to the leadership of God, the wife is submitting to the leadership of the husband. You have a submitted husband, a submitted wife, and a Supreme God! Men and women were created with distinct abilities to fulfill these biblical roles, and when husbands and wives follow the biblical pattern within the home, they bring glory to God as a picture of Christ and His church, thus the illustration.
Helpful Resource on the Biblical Roles from Marnatha Life by Deborah Murphy
THE BELIEVING WIFE
1. Sex - Sexual Intimacy / One Flesh Relationship - Cor 7:2-5; Eph 5:31; Gen 2:24-25
- Without sex, a couple co-exist as room-mates, not lovers.
- Leave her father and her mother
- Sexually please her husband - 1 Cor 7:33
- Meditate sexually on her husband - SoS 5:10-16; SoS 7:10
- Desire him, respond sexually to him without embarrassment
2 Submission - submit to his authority and leadership as her covering, with heartfelt obedience
- In everything - not only in what she chooses - Eph 5:24
- As to the Lord - Eph 5:21; Col 3:18
- Rebellion towards your husband is equal to rebellion against God who gave him the responsibility to be your covering
- Demonstrate your love through obedience from her heart
- Remain under his "covering of authority" by submitting to him
- Accept and respond to his evaluations and his correction
- Be responsible towards her husband
- Not dominate, manipulate, control, boss or scold him, nag, argue... against his delegated God given authority
3. Reverence - give respect and honor to her husband - Eph 5:33
- Do him good and not evil all the days of her life - Pro 31:11-12
- Honor him by accepting his leadership
- Use words that honor him, not insult or depreciate him
- Listen attentively to him, and remember what he said. It is important because he said it.
- Make his priorities her own priorities
- Not speak negatively about him to family members, friends or people at church
- Ask for and value his opinions
4. Godly behavior - chaste and respectful speech - 1 Pt 3:1-6
- Use words that are helpful, and without reproach, along with good behavior - Tit 2:3-5
- Always rejoice in the Lord, and in the husband that he gave her
- Not be fearful of anything nor anyone - (this is mentioned in the bible over 365 times)
- Think on things which are good, true, holy... - Phil 4: 8
- Not gossip, not complain
- Avoid sinning
5. Support - a helpmeet - Gen 2:18
- Helpmeet is a technical word used in the construction of buildings. The substance which is added around a column to strengthen it so it can support additional weight/stress.
- Strengthen him by praising and thanking him for what he does for her
- Encourage him through her actions and her words
- Uphold him in ways that show her confidence in him
- Raise her husband's self-esteem by delighting to spend time with him
- Surround him with her haceed love - with all her being: body, emotions, mind, spirit
- Fulfill well her other own responsibilities in the home (children, kitchen, housework...)
THE BELIEVING HUSBAND
1. Sex - Nurture their sexual relationship / Their Oneness - 1 Cor 7:2-5; Eph 5:31; Gen 2:24
- Leave his father and mother
- Enjoy and Rejoice with his wife's body - Pr 5:15-19
- Please his wife - 1 Cor 7:33
- Console (emotionally comfort ) his wife by lovemaking.- 2 Sam 12:24
- Maintain the frequency and passion within their sexual relationship
- Protect them both from sexual temptations
- Faithfulness / fidelity to her in both his thoughts and his actions
- Value and cherish sexual intimacy with his wife
- Priorities - God is #!, Wife is #2, then come children, ministry, secular work...
2. Headship / Covering / Leadership / Authority delegated by God - Eph 5:23-24
- Set aside his own wisdom in order to use God's wisdom
- Be a responsible husband - passivity is sin
- Teach his wife to be submitted in her actions, reactions, and choices she makes
- Take the responsibility and right to instruct and correct her
- Provide positive and negative consequences
- Not tolerate rebellion, manipulation , control... against his authority
3. Haceed Love - Love her with Haceed/Agape Love - Eph 5:25-33
- Help her grow and mature in her walk with the Lord/teach her His Word
- Not be bitter towards her, forgive her - Col 3:19
- Be best friends and lovers
- Motivate her to become more godly
- Have daily chats with her about issues before they can become large problems. Deal with these things - don't passively ignore them
- Encourage her, praise her
4. Honor - Give honor to her, ask God for wisdom to understand her, pray with her- 1 Pet 3:7
- Respect her as a gift and a treasure from God
- Not look sexually at other women
- Use good words towards her in agreement with the Bible
- Ask for her opinions, ideas and thoughts
5. Provide for her and your children (financially, emotionally, and spiritually)
- Be the priest within your home - 1 Tim 5:8
- Be responsible for her and the children
- Know that what she wants is not always what she needs
- Allow her to talk with you, and listen attentively to her. She needs to share her feelings with you - not bottle them up.
- Provide whatever is needed in order to attend church services and activities, along with Christian fellowship with other believers
- Initiate prayer and Bible study in his home
- Protection
Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Genesis 3:14-16
14 So the Lord God said to the serpent, “Because you have done this, “Cursed are you above all livestock and all wild animals! You will crawl on your belly and you will eat dust all the days of your life. 15 And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring[a] and hers; he will crush[b] your head, and you will strike his heel.” 16 To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”
The punishment is because of the fall did not dictate their roles; it simply complicated the already existing roles.
Genesis 4:7
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we continue to discuss Husbands/Wives biblical roles and responsibilities from the inventor of marriage himself! We tell you where conflict comes from and how at creation, everything was good. These roles were assigned before the FALL. Before the FALL Male leadership was NOBLE, it was HONORABLE and as far as the Woman was concerned it was personally Gratifying not Terrifying.
But after the fall (in the book of Genesis, Adam and Eve decided to listen to Satan instead of listening to what God told them to do)- everything changed!
In Genesis 3:6 tells the conversation between Eve and Satan
Satan told 4 lies to Eve:
- God is not good- Satan said to think negatively about God
- God is not truthful- Satan said to think skeptically about God
- God is not righteous- Satan said that God will not punish sin
- God is not gracious- Satan said to that God does not love you
Questions we like to ask:
Where was Adam??!!- 6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.
Who was the first person to eat the fruit?
Who did God hold responsible primarily responsible for the sin?
Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Stewart Scott
John 8:44
John 10:10
Isiah 14:12-15
Ezekiel 28:12-18
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we continue to discuss Husbands/Wives biblical roles and responsibilities from the inventor of marriage himself! We talk about the roles ‘head’ and ‘submissive’, which society has deemed as negative connotation.
The Greek word (this is important because this passage was written in Greek and later translated to English) for submission is “hupotasso”, which means “to place or arrange under”. Submission is not blind obedience, neither is it silent suffering. Instead the word defines a voluntary subordination to a recognized authority, in this case the divinely appointed authority of the husband.
Although the wife is responsible for her submission, it is the husband’s responsibility to lead in such a way that makes it reasonable and enjoyable for her to follow.
The Creator of Marriage has a clear order of your relationship:
God is a God of order and has said that man is the head of the house, the woman is to submit to the man, as the man submits to Christ.
Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
William Hendriksen points out that God "... placed ultimate responsibility with respect to the household on the shoulders of the husband . . . The Lord has assigned the wife the duty of obeying her husband yet . . . this obedience must be a voluntary submission on her part, and that only to her own husband, not to every man."
Ephesians 5: 22-33
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Tony Evans defined submitting as “ducking, so God can hit your husband”.
Read Genesis 2: 18-20
18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam[f] no suitable helper was found.
Your wife is to be your completer, not your competitor!
Matthew 26:39- 39 Going a little farther, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.”
A great example of Jesus Christ submitting to the will of the Father (placing himself under the authority of) is in this verse. The human side of Christ (remember when Jesus Christ came to earth he took on the form of a man) would have preferred not go through the ordeal of being nailed to and hung on a cross until he died (crucifixion), but even with the horrendous death facing Him, Jesus recognized the position of God the Father and subjected himself to God the Father’s will.
So when it comes to equality, value, and self-worth being at odds with headship and submission, case closed.
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we discuss Husbands/Wives biblical roles and responsibilities from the inventor of marriage himself! We are going to examine, what the original plan, was, what went wrong with it, and how we operate today in an environment where the original plan has distorted and demonized.
God’s plan and design for specific roles and specific order are not restrictive but liberating.
You can’t hear a message over and over and not be affected and infected by that message (if that wasn’t true Super Bowl commercials wouldn’t cost 4 million dollars for a 30 second spot- the price for an ad in the 2013 Super Bowl).
God created man and woman with the same value but different roles. God is a God of order and in his design of social order, God created man as the head. "Head" does not mean male dominance, where a man lords it over a woman and demands her total obedience to his every wish and command. God never viewed women as second-class citizens. His Word clearly states that we are all equally His children and are of equal value and worth before Him. As Galatians 3:28 tells us, "There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus" (Galatians 3:28).
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we continue talking about dating with a purpose. We discuss our personal relationship with Christ and our relationship with one another, with our special guest an engaged couple, Analise and Jerome.
Why do people pretend in relationships? - Don’t practice appeasement!
Take away from today’s episode:
- It is important committed relationship with Christ
- Having male/female role models
- Having a desire to grow
Focus on relationships more than religion
Teresa asks Jerome, “How can we help men be men?”
Seek out better role models
Jerome’s advice on how we can help me be men: ROLE MODELS
Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Proverbs 27:17
Ephesians 6:10
A Titus woman
WE’RE JUST A NOBODY TRYING TO TELL EVERYBODY, ABOUT SOMEBODY, ABOUT SOMEBODY THAT WILL SAVE ANYBODY
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we continue our conversation about dating with a purpose, today’s culture, and their views on dating and marriage with our special guest an engaged couple, Analise and Jerome.
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we talk about dating with a purpose, today’s culture, and their views on dating and marriage with our special guest an engaged couple, Analise and Jerome.
Jim and Teresa continue the discussion from Episode 21- Caring Enough to Embrace Conflict
Episode 21 discussed:
3 Things not to do in the midst of conflict
Do Not practice AVOIDANCE
Do Not practice APPEASEMENT
Do Not practice AGGRESSION
The importance of Time, Tone, and Turf when dealing with conflict
And so much more….
More Specifically, In This Episode You’ll Learn About:
3 Things To Do minimize conflict:
Learn to practice ACCOMMODATION
Learn to practice ACCEPTANCE
Learn to make ADJUSTMENTS
Common Areas of Conflict
Finances
Friends
Time
Parents/In-laws
Career decisions
How decisions get made
How conflict is handled
Off Limit Responses & Unacceptable Behavior in the midst of Conflict:
Using words and phrases that work
How accusing words only lead to negative behaviors
Must have guidelines for conflict resolution
Be specific when you introduce an issue
Keep it to one issue at a time
Don’t simply complain, search for solutions and ask for reasonable changes
Consider compromise
Never assume you know what the other is thinking
Never predict how the other will react or what they will reject
Don’t overload your spouse with issues
Avoid taking ‘jabs’
How your ‘baggage’ can affect the way you respond to conflict
Jim shares the ‘historical story’……. again
Plus a whole lot more
This episode of The Relationship Success University Podcast is about caring enough to embrace conflict. Join us as we uncover ways to minimize conflict in your relationship that can be implemented today.
One of the greatest predictors of divorce is the habitual avoidance of conflict.
Successful couples know how to contain their disagreements – how to keep them from
spilling over and contaminating the rest of their relationship.
Couples need to know what the research has found: that every happy, successful couple has
approximately ten areas of "incompatibility" or disagreement that they will never resolve.
Instead, the successful couples learn how to manage the disagreements and live life "around" them – to love in spite of their areas of difference, and to at least develop understanding and empathy for their partner's positions.
One thing is certain, there will be conflict. A marriage relationship places two sinful people in a close relationship and asks them to do what is unnatural (which is why your mind must be transformed) and that is to operate in a selfless manner when your natural state is to be selfish.
Disagreements are not necessarily bad. Disagreements handled properly offer a great opportunity for growth.
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we discuss how if you do not communicate, your relationship will disintegrate. We are going to pick up where we left off on the LUV talk and we will discuss validation.
In this episode of The Relationship Success University Podcast we discuss how if you do not communicate, your relationship will disintegrate. We discuss the Five Standards for Successful/Effective Communication from Jimmy Evans of www.MarriageToday.tv
In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we discuss how if you do not communicate, your relationship will disintegrate. COMMUNICATION IS THE PRIMARY VEHICLE BY WHICH TWO BECOME ONE IN THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP”………Gary Chapman
In this episode of The Relationship Success Podcast we continue our discussion on forgiveness. We discuss the 2 kinds of forgiveness found in the Bible and the 6 steps in the process of forgiveness. Please visit www.RelationshipSuccessUniversity.com
Podcast we discuss forgiveness. We explore the different definitions and myths associated with forgiveness.
In this episode of the Family Matters First Podcast we interview Talaat and Tai from www.HisandHerMoney.com about finances in a marriage. On if you should marry someone with bad credit and why they have 13 bank accounts!
In this episode of the Family Matters First Podcast we interview Talaat and Tai from www.HisandHerMoney.com about finances in a marriage. On if you should marry someone with bad credit and why they have 13 bank accounts!
In this episode of Relationship Success U Podcast we continue our interview with an engaged couple named Jeremy and Kendra. They share what prompted them to get premarital counseling and dating with a purpose.
In this episode of Relationship Success U Podcast we interview an engaged couple named Jeremy and Kendra. They share what prompted them to get premarital counseling and dating with a purpose.
In today's show Jim and I talk about our new book- Preparing For Marriage: What to Do Before (and After) You Say I Do. On the first day of the book release, we gave away over 12,000 copies of the ebook and we went to a #1 Amazon Best Seller in the Category of Marriage.
We tell the story of how we decided to write a book , who the book is for, and why a person should purchase this resource. Dating, Engaged, Married (Happily 0r Unhappily) Remarried, this si the book for you!
In today's episode of The Family Matters First Podcast we talk about Love and Respect from Ephesians 5:33
We offer a multi-pronged approach to transform and reform the way marriage and family is done. On this week's show we discuss the various ways you can join with us in the fight. From the podcast, to the membership site, to our new book being released on May 17, 2015, to the live seminars and counseling/coaching, we share with you all the different ways you can unite with us in your local community to be a part of making a difference for the good of the community and the glory of God!
How comfortable are you in being completely honest and transparent in your relationship? Many a marriage is filled with a pattern of relational dishonesty and pretending. How honest are you about your feelings, desires, and wants? How honest do you want your spouse, fiance, boyfriend/girlfiend to be? Can you really handle complete relational truth? Let's discuss.
There are some very unique challenges (real and/or imagined) that men face as it relates to getting relationship help. Conferences, seminars, podcasts, counseling and coaching on relationship issues are resources that many a man chooses not to use. Why? In this episode we discuss.
How can you know if the person you are dating is the person God has for you to marry? There are certain steps you can take during the dating process to ensure you are heading in the right direction and to secure a lifetime of success in your relationship. In this episode we share those steps. Part 2 of 2
How can you know if the person you are dating is the person God has for you to marry? There are certain steps you can take during the dating process to ensure you are heading in the right direction and to secure a lifetime of success in your relationship. In this episode we share those steps.
RSU founders Jim and Teresa Adams the were owners of a successful real estate investment agency, with a staff of 20 employees. Their 1st real estate transaction was the purchase of 70 houses. From there they went on to buy and sell hundreds of homes. Then they lost everything, their personal home, cars, the business, but they didn't lose their love for each other and their committment to the marriage. Hear Pt 3 of their story.
RSU founders Jim and Teresa Adams were owners of a successful real estate investment agency, with a staff of 20 employees. Their 1st real estate transaction was the purchase of 70 houses. From there they went on to buy and sell hundreds of homes. Then they lost everything, their personal home, cars, the business, but they didn't lose their love for each other and their committment to the marriage. Hear Pt 2 of their story.
RSU founders Jim and Teresa Adams were owners of a successful real estate investment agency, with a staff of 20 employees. Their 1st real estate transaction was the purchase of 70 houses. From there they went on to buy and sell hundreds of homes. Then they lost everything, their personal home, cars, the business, but they didn't lose their love for each other and their committment to the marriage. Hear Pt 1 of their story.
Married for 30 years and the parents of 4 children this Licensed Professional Counselor with a Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy and this Smalley Certifed Marriage Intensive Coach share their story of how they took a passion for their own marriage and moved to a passion to impact relationships all over the world!