The Personal Image System Podcast: Recent Episodes
Antonio Centeno
Antonio Centeno has been helping men dress better for years. Through Real Men Real Style, YouTube videos, blogs, and podcasts, he has been bringing his expertise to the world, and helping men understand the importance of style, and dressing well. On The Personal Image System Podcast, Antonio is digging into the very reason why dressing well is so important, as well practical tips on how to dress better, stand out from the crowd, and see more success in your life. Get ready to learn and improve your personal image with Antonio Centeno.
For notes, infographics, and other great information go to: https://www.realmenrealstyle.com/113
For this episode, I’m going to be giving you some big help. Sometimes you need to save some extra time when grooming.
One example is that you may not have the time to take a blazer to the dry cleaners - but you might find out that it smells. To help you get through your day you can spray some vodka on it and it will remove the smell.
Some of the tips on this episode may seem a bit crazy, but honestly, I tested these and they work.
20 Grooming Hacks: 1. Vodka get rids of body odor. 2. Baking soda can be a great toothpaste. 3. Cut your nails and file before a shower. 4. Use scissors on your nails after a shower. 5. Cool to cold showers are best for you. 6. Wash your hair less. 7. Shave after you shower. 8. You can shave IN the shower as well. 9. Brush your teeth in the shower. 10. Shave your neck weekly. 11. Use hair conditioner as a shaving cream. 12. Use Lip Balm if you cut yourself shaving. 13. If you have a beard, use conditioner. 14. Hair gel can be used on your eyebrows or beard. 15. Coffee filters can help get rid of an oily face. 16. Olive oil is a good option for dry lips. 17. Use nail clippers to cut stray hairs. 18. Keep a bar of soap in your gym bag. 19. Don’t use your fingers to pop a pimple. 20. Use deodorant on hot spots on the back of your foot.
Highlights:
- If you have a jacket you don’t want to take to the dry cleaner, spray vodka on it.
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- Test the fabric first.
- Make sure use clean the jacket at some point, as it’s a temporary fix.
- Baking soda is a safer way to get rid of smells.
- If you run out of toothpaste, use baking soda instead.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, I bring you 7 simple steps to increase your salary and be a high paid expert than people seek out to work with.
Download this episode today and start climbing the social and financial ladder.
I’m going to give you ten tricks on how to eliminate bad breath that won’t take more time in your day: and are super effective.
Download this episode today to learn how you can stop being offensive with your breath and be someone people want to be close to.
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast, Antonio discusses how most people screw up a first impression and 10 things you can do to make sure you have a perfect one every time. Check out the full show notes at: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode110
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast, Antonio discusses 10 common eye contact mistakes people make that can give off the wrong impression, and make people think less of of you.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio discusses a simple question with a complicated answer: Should you buy brown or black shoes? He discusses everything you need to consider, from how formal the events you attend are, to which option is easier to maintain.
For the full show notes go to RealMenRealStyle.com/episode108
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, I break down 5 reasons you should buy a watch.
Whether it’s to stop being rude by looking at your phone, have an heirloom to pass down, or just to show off who you are a bit more.
Download this episode now to learn how important a watch can be in you life.
Check out the full show notes and resources at RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode107
Check out the resources and full show notes at: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode106
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio goes over the 7 key things you can start adding to your wardrobe to start being more attractive to women.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio discusses 5 habits that may seem small, but over time has lead to big problems in your style and how people perceive you.
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast, I answer all of these questions and more.
I want to make sure you look the best you can for every situation, and dive into what colors can say about you. For example, do you know what to wear to show a sign of respect?
Find out all of that and more by downloading this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast now
There’s a lot to consider when buying leather. The first is what you’re going to use it for. Is it something that is just going to be for show, or is it something that’s going to get a lot of use?
Download this episode now to learn how to identify the right leather for your needs, and how to know if you’re getting a good deal or not.
View the full show notes, infographics, and more at RealMenRealStyle.com/episode103
Do you match everything with the same pattern? Do you even know what all of your pattern options are? Don’t worry! I’m going to guide you through all of this simply, and quickly, so you can get out there and really start upping your style game in new ways. But remember, you don’t want to just dive right in. You’re going to want to experiment and explore your options first. Download this episode now to learn how you can master patterns to stand out and leave a positive visual impact on those arou
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast, I look at the various items that will never go out of style.
I break down their history, and what you should be looking for when deciding to invest in something that will make you best dressed guy in the room for decades.
Download this episode now before you purchase something you’ll regret in the next few years.
What if you could transform your brand into more than just products or services? Whether it’s your marketing agency or dropshipping business, can you turn your business into an experience or even a multi-day event? The answer is yes.
Download this episode of Real Men Real Style and hear the reality of what happens when you decide to change up your style game.
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast, we look at what women really think of tattoos. Do they find it attractive? What do they find attractive? Where do they find it attractive? Download now to find out.
For this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast I’ve decided to go into detail on 25 of my style pet peeves. Some of these things even I used to break because I didn’t know.
Today, when I see people break these rules, I don’t get angry or try to publicly shame them. I nicely, privately and respectfully explain to them what they are doing wrong, so they can up their game in the future.
Download this episode now to learn some of the most common style mistakes people make.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, I’ll give you 10 tips to create a smile that will change your life.
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast, we are joined by the maker of the best Shirt Stay on the market - Johan Ekelund.
In this interview, we discuss the importance of shirt stays, and how they are literally changing people’s lives. It such a simple, and inexpensive, think to add to your wardrobe, yet is one of the best investments you can make.
Download this episode today to hear how this can boost your confidence, and change the way people look at you.
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast, I explore reason why one would invest in a luxury watch. I’d love to hear your feedback, so send me an e-mail or post a comment letting me know what you think.
Download this episode now to hear the benefits of a luxury watch.
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast, I’m going to do in depth on the three main reasons the ladies probably aren’t responding to you.
Download this episode today to see how you can up your game with the ladies.
Download this episode today to hear how you can get out of problems that dressing to sharp can cause.
Download this episode today to learn how you can rock a suit without a tie, and still look like the sharpest dressed guy in the room with confidence.
Take the time to analyze these 5 resolutions, and you’ll find they are a real game changer in all areas.
Download this episode today to learn how you can make 2018 the best year of your life.
Download this episode today to hear all about these two jackets and decide which you think is the best for you.
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast we take these two show types toe to toe in a battle of the best.
Download this episode now to hear all the areas where one is better than the other and finally decide which is right for you.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio looks into what makes someone average and what makes someone amazing.
Download this episode today to learn how you can start changing yourself to become the person you want, and achieve the success you deserve.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio breaks down 10 items you should have multiples of. It’s not just clothing, but even practical items you’ll need - whether it’s every day or when you’re in a pinch.
Download this episode today and start learning how to build your collection of the perfect items.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio explains the fashionable aspect of layering. He explains ten rules you can use to make sure you look like the sharpest guy in the room.
Download this episode today and learn how you can avoid layering mistakes and really up your fashion game.
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast, Antonio discusses the 7 skin care mistakes that most men make. Download this episode now to learn what you can do to start taking care of yourself and stay the best looking guy in the room.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style Antonio takes out the confusion of what dress shoes you should wear by ranking 10 of the most common types of dress shoes. Download this episode today to learn what shoes you should be investing in, and what to wear to your next event.
Many men grab a dress shirt off the rack without looking at how it’s made, or making sure it’s flattering to their figure. Different brands cater to different body types, so if you do decide to buy one off the rack make sure you know what you’re looking for so you don’t look like a slob, or a kid in dad’s old shirt.
Our education system doesn’t teach you how to be successful in life - it teaches you how to get by.
You are by teachers that failing is bad, that you have to follow the rules, and that there are solid equations to solve problems. In the real world all of this is false.
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode80 We are constantly involved in meetings. Whether it’s a sales meeting, an interview, or hanging out with coworkers at the bar we are constantly meeting with other people. In these situations, appearance really matters - especially if you want to make a good impression.
You wouldn’t wear swim trunks and a tank top to your sister’s wedding in Alaska, would you? Of course not.
It’s important to know the proper way to dress, and sometimes the answer may not be so obvious. You may not want to wear a suit and tie to an interview with a startup in Silicon Valley. When you’re hanging out with coworkers you probably don’t want to wear torn up jeans and a paint splattered tee shirt.
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast, Antonio discusses the five ways we meet with people all the time and how to dress for the occasion.
Download this episode today so you know how to dress for in the best possible pay for your next meeting or interview.
5 Types of Meetings 1. Selling 2. Buying 3. Support 4. Casual 5. Formal
Highlights:
- Even if you aren’t a salesman, you are always trying to sell.
- The goal of a selling meeting is to persuade.
- The worst thing you can do is betray their expectations.
- In order to persuade, dress as sharp as the situation allows.
- Don’t overdress or underdress on an interview.
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- There is always a dress code, even if it’s not written.
- Companies are looking for someone that fits into their mould.
- Bring clothing that gives you options.
- At a buying meeting, try to convey power.
- Find ways to make personal connections with someone.
- Support meetings aren’t about you.
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- Dress to fit in.
- Casual meetings are to get to know each other outside of business.
- Casual does not mean sloppy.
- In most situations you can wear nice shorts.
- Being casual is about being approachable.
- Formal is about setting the right mood.<!--
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Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode79 Many people ask why the Real Men Real Style Podcast was started. In fact Antonio was asked to complete an interview asking just that question, so he decided to complete the questions right on the show.
He explains what purpose this podcast serves for his business model. He also goes into how it helps the production flow for his YouTube episodes, and who it was that convinced him to start the show.
Download this episode of Real Men Real Style today to here all about the podcasting process, how it works, and if it’s the right project for you to take on as well.
Highlights:
- Antonio created the podcast because he dislikes typing.
- The podcast is a starting point for the Real Men Real Style YouTube videos.
- Real Men Real Style started as a way to help customers and consumers.
- Most men don’t present themselves well.
- Society says it doesn’t matter how you look, but it really does.
- Not all content Antonio’s team creates is produced.
- Recording a podcast is a less complicated and more relaxed process than a video.
- Things need to be simple or they won’t get done.
- The podcast is more about personal enjoyment than financial gain.
- Antonio finds it important to find a separation between work and family.
- If you don’t enjoy podcasting, you probably shouldn’t do it.
- People who want to get into podcasting need to know their end game.
Mindset Takeaway: A successful podcast should be something you enjoy doing, and serves a purpose for your end game.
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode79
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode78 Finding a good brand can be very difficult. When we purchase a product we are making an investment, and we want to know that investment is supported by the company.
In order for me to find a brand I stand behind I need to know that it is not just a great product, but also that there is a customer support behind it. When things go wrong, and they always do, I want to know the company cares enough to resolve the situation.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style I reveal the 5 brands I’ve been using for over 5 years, which says a lot. These products range from shirt stays, to belt buckles, to leather conditioner.
Download this episode today to hear what brands you can count on, and that will have your back.
5 Brands I’ve Been Using For Over 5 Years: 1. Sharp and Dapper 2. Paul Evans 3. Anson Belt and Buckle 4. Ribbed Tee 5. Leather Honey
Honorable mention:
Pete and Pedro
Highlights:
- Shirt stays connects your shirt to your socks to keep your shirt tucked in and your socks held up.
- Good companies will support the customer, and Amazon doesn’t.
- Paul Evans sells great entry level shoes.
- Anson is a father and son company with micro adjustment belts.
- Ribbed Tee undershirts go lower and last a long time.
- Leather honey works on anything leather and make it look great.
- Don’t over use leather honey.
- Pete and Pedro has a variety of hair products that work great.
Mindset Takeaway: A good brand is about a great products and great customer service.
Resources: Sharp and Dapper
Paul Evans shoes or products (Use promo code RMRS100 for a $100 discount
Anson Belt and Buckle
Ribbed Tee
Leather Honey
Pete & Pedro
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode78
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode77 Confidence is one of the most important things people can have. If you doubt yourself and become self conscious it can really hold you back. You’ll never nail that interview, land that sale, or get that date if you don’t have to confidence to even try.
There are a number of small things you can do throughout your day to really boost your confidence. Most importantly, you don’t need a lot of time to do them. Even in the busiest of schedules you can find a few moments to do at least one thing that will help increase your confidence for the dat.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio talks you through ten ways you can quickly increase your confidence. The more you practice them, and the more they will become a part of your routine and the less you will doubt yourself.
Download this episode today to see how you can boost your confidence and be as successful as possible every day.
10 Ways to Increase Your Confidence: 1. Get a great haircut. 2. Stand up straight. 3. Keep your socks up. 4. Keep your shirt tucked in. 5. Shine your shoes. 6. Make time for a great shave. 7. Start using fragrance in the morning. 8. Take care of your nails. 9. Get in a quick workout. 10. Start to wear a pocket square.
Highlights:
- Find a “go to” person to cut your hair.
- Only go somewhere new if you get a good recommendation.
- Getting the right haircut will make you feel good when you walk out the door.
- It feels good to stand up straight, and look good.
- They way we stand and look at ourselves has a big impact on our confidence.
- If you feel uncomfortable, it will make you feel self conscious.
- Have somewhere safe to keep your shoes at night.
- Give your shoes a quick buff after you wear your shoes.
- Make sure you have a good shine box.
- Shaving shouldn’t be a necessary evil.
- Improve your shaving lotion.
- Experiment and explore, everyone has to start somewhere.
- Don’t care about not smelling bad, care about smelling good.
- Nail clippers damage the nail, and don’t give as clean of a cut.
- Even short exercises can make you feel better in ten minutes.
- Don’t be afraid to stand out.
- Pocket squares can be great conversations starters, and give you compliments that will boost your confidence
Mindset Takeaway: Without the confidence you need you will never achieve your goals.
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode77
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode76 Have you put much thought into how you sit? What you do with your legs can actually affect your mentality, as well as the signals you are giving off to other people.
Believe it or not, when you sit with your legs crossed this can send off negative signals to people. It makes you appear closed off, and like you aren’t listening. This can cause problems in business - especially if you are trying to negotiate.
In fact there was even a study by Gerard I. Nierenberg and Henry H. Calero that showed out of 2,000 negotiations that were recorded, not a single one ended with legs being crossed. That’s a pretty definitive conclusion.
Download this episode of Real Men Real Style to hear more about what signals your legs may be unintentionally sending off.
5 Sitting Positions:
- Legs out front with the knees together.
- Legs out front with the knees spread.
- Leg over leg cross position.
- Figure 4 leg cross position position.
- Ankle-lock position.
Highlights:
- The way you placed your legs when you sit sends a message.
- It indicates where you are from.
- If someone sits with their legs crossed that normally don’t, it can be a signal that something is wrong.
- The further something is from your body, the less you think about the action it takes.
- You have to have observed someone’s normal behavior to get an idea about their verbal behavior.
- Be respectful with how wide you have your legs spread.
- Wider spread legs shows dominance.
- Someone bouncing their legs shows that they are nervous.
- Leg over leg is more common in Europe.
- Figure 4 leg shows a higher status and is more common in America.
- When making decisions or negotiations, you shouldn’t have your legs crossed.
- If you are a natural leg crosser, you may be sending a negative signal.
Mindset Takeaway: Understand that your leg position has an affect on you and others.
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode76
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode75 It’s natural for human beings to measure things. Even as children we measure our happiness based on what other children have. As adults it makes less sense to continue this mindset, as my income isn’t what makes me happy. It’s how you use your finances that will make you depressed, not the number of zeros at the end of your paycheck.
It’s not just finances that we miss measure. In fact there are many aspects of life that most people aren’t seeing get the whole picture of, and it can lead to emotional problems. Some people don’t realize what’s important when it comes to weight, work, and a good night’s rest.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style Antonio looks at things people commonly measure incorrectly. He looks at ways you can adjust your perspective, and begin measuring the right way. You’d be amazed at how shifting your measurements can make a huge difference in your health, happiness, and workplace.
Download this episode today to hear how you can start changing you life for the better, starting now!
5 Things You Shouldn’t Be Measuring: 1. Income 2. Weight 3. Sleep 4. Hours worked 5. Social Media/Vanity Metrics
Highlights:
- We measure a lot of things that don’t matter.
- Comparing yourself to someone else can lead to depression and negative emotions.
- Don’t measure how much you make, measure what you do with it.
- People who make more commonly end up more in debt.
- Don’t measure your happiness based on your weight.
- It's common to have natural weight fluctuations.
- Measure your neck, midsection, and other parts, not just your weight.
- Quality sleep is more important that the quantity of sleep you get.
- 35-40 hour work weeks is ideal for health and happiness.
- Measure your work based on progress, not hours.
- Know what’s important, not what’s urgent.
- Look at the number of people that are true friends.
- Go out of your way to build this relationships
- Consider how many people on your Facebook or Twitter would actually attend your funeral.
Mindset Takeaway: Make sure you’re measuring the right things or you’ll end up with the wrong results.
Resources: Beautyrest Sleep Tracker
Priority Matrix
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode75
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode74 Style rules are really just guidelines. They are meant to help put you on the right track to finding your own style.
If everyone were to follow the rules exactly, we would all look the same. No one would stand out, and it would be a very boring world. That’s why we are bringing you this unusual episode of Real Men Real Style.
We explain ways you can go against the grain to find your own personal style. We’ll discuss rules you can “break” in order to not only be the best dressed guy in the room, but also the most eye catching.
Try these 10 unconventional style tips out for yourself and see if they work for you. Maybe they will work for you, maybe they won’t. The important thing is to make mistakes and try new things, that’s the only way to find what really fits you.
Download this episode today to get unique tips on creating a style all your own.
10 Unconventional Style Tips: 1. Go make style mistakes. 2. Don’t take your clothing to a tailor. 3. Wear white or black whenever you want. 4. Long sleeve shirts in the summer. 5. Short sleeve polos with a jacket. 6. Using electric, disposable, and cartridge razors. 7. Dress for yourself. 8. Formal with informal matching. 9. Create a uniform. 10. Have the courage to be the best dressed man in the room.
Highlights:
- It’s possible for you to write the rules yourself and create your own game.
- If you always stay in the lines you’ll never find the real boundaries for you.
- You can learn to adjust your clothes yourself.
- Find the right brand for your body type.
- Wearing white sends the signal that you have the money to let your clothing be trashed.
- If you have the confidence to pull off a bold color, go for it.
- Less clothes doesn’t mean you are cooler.
- Lighter colored breathable fabrics will help reflect and protect.
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If it’s hot, wear and unlined jacket with a polo shirt to keep cool.
- This will give you a more casual look.
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A high quality polo can even work with a casual suit.
- Try each razor to find what you personally need.
- Think about what you represent, and dress for that man.
- You can mix and create interesting combinations with formal and casual clothing.
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When you find what look is right for you, repeat the style again and again.
- Get different variations, not exact duplicates.
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You want to stand out, but not be a cartoon character.
- Don’t let the environment you are in dictate the way you dress.
- If you have to wear a specific uniform, pay attention to its fit and presentation.
Mindset Takeaway: If you aren’t making mistakes, you aren’t trying.
Resources: Ministry of Supply
Original Grain Watches
Style System VIP
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode74
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode73 We know that what you wear can affect your career. Having a nice suit made from quality fabric will make people see you as a true professional. We also know that dressing nice will give you more confidence, and have a positive effect on your mental state.
But can what you wear really make a physical difference in your performance? Can the right pants make you run faster? Can the right shirt keep you cooler when you’re running a marathon? Can the right swimsuit really make you swim faster?
On this episode of Real Men Real Style Antonio takes a look at studies and analyzes what kind of an effect your clothes can and can’t have on you.
Download this episode today to see what your wardrobe can do to improve your performance, and what you may have in your closet that’s just giving you a placebo effect.
5 Ways Clothing Affects Athletic Performance: 1. Compression fit 2. Heat retention 3. Full body suits 4. Wearing black 5. Synthetic materials
Highlights: * It’s important to use style to get what you want out of life. * Compression can help with recovery time. * Sometimes results are a placebo effect, but was shown to work. * After exercising for a while, moisture-responsive fabrics will help cool you down. * Full body swimming suits reduces drag in swimming. * Teams wearing black had increased penalties. * People are intimidated by other athletes who wear black. * Synthetics today are made to allow moisture to escape. * Synthetic weaves can block rays from the sun and allow air flow.
Mindset Takeaway: Whether it’s mentally or physically, the clothing you wear can affect your athletic performance.
Resources: Style System VIP
RealMenRealStyle.com
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode73
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode72 We legally become men when we turn 18 years old, but that doesn’t mean you are actually a man. What makes a man, in my opinion, is how much responsibility you have - not just for yourself but also for others. When you start taking responsibility for yourself, you should show it.
We all like to think that we don’t, or shouldn’t, judge people based on their appearance. Unfortunately, that’s just not true. People will always judge you based on how you look. How you look can instantly establish the amount of respect you’ll get from clients and potential bosses. If you dress like a boy, with cheap ripped up jeans and ratty old t-shirts they aren’t likely to appreciate you. If you dress in clean nice fabrics, and accessories that complement each other they’ll know you made the time and effort to take care of yourself and that you’ll be willing to take care of them.
On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast, Antonio looks at 7 ways you can start dressing like a man, and start letting your appearance put you on track for success.
Download this episode today to hear how simple it is to appear respectable and see how much more people appreciate you.
7 Ways to Dress Like a Man: 1. Dress with intention 2. Have the courage to lead 3. Practice what you wear 4. Experiment and measure 5. Have a core wardrobe 6. Buy the best you can afford 7. Own less
Highlights: * Responsibility brings forth what it really means to be a man. * Don’t fall into current fashion trends. * You don’t have to wear a suit to dress like a man. * Make sure your clothes send the message you want them to send. * Don’t worry if you dress different than others. * Have the courage to be the best dressed man in the room. * People trust those who are willing to take the lead. * When we first start wearing something new we may feel uncomfortable. * Practice and try different combinations. * Changing your wardrobe can make a measurable difference. * Your attire will affect your mindset. * Your core items are the items you will wear the most. * If you have to be budget friend, concentrate on your fit. * Consider how much you are spending on things you don’
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/MakeMoneyWithClothing We all know that the way we dress can have an impression on people. If you always wear sweatpants and a raggedy old t-shirt, people will think of you differently than if you wear a suit. To be honest, what people think of you isn’t the most important reason to improve your attire.
The way you dress can have a direct impact on how much money you make. That’s right, your outfits could be holding you back from your true income potential. If you want to get the part, you have to look the part. You’ll never see a real estate agent constantly selling million dollar homes wearing ripped jeans and a tank top.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio looks at 10- that’s right TEN- ways in which what you wear can translate into making more money. You’d be surprised at how much you can increase your wealth by putting a little extra time and money into your image.
Download this episode today to see how you can improve your financial situation through your clothing today! And make sure to check out Style System VIP if you're a professional interested in receiving personal style coaching.
10 Ways Image Translates Into Higher Income: 1. Enclothed Cognition 2. Affects abstract thinking 3. First impressions matter 4. Stand out from the crowd 5. Status 6. Expectation match 7. Intelligence and competence 8. Sends signals of authority and trust 9. Negotiations 10. Retention
Highlights: * Money is something that can cause good in the world. * Certain clothing can give you mental strength. * You can become self conscious if you’re in the wrong attire. * When people wear formal clothing their abstract thinking goes up. * Dress up for a test. * It’s hard to disrupt someone’s first impression of you. * Looking good will make you grab people’s attention. * Setting yourself apart from the rest will give you a leg up. * If you sell million dollars items, shouldn’t you dress like a million dollars? * Status is given to you by your peers. * Make sure your look matches what you are doing and the expectations that come along with that. * Your appearance can give off the impression that you are intelligent and competent. * Dark framed glasses make people seem more intelligent. * How you dress affects how you can persuade people. * Red can convey more power. * Your attire can validate what you are asking for. * Fancier clothing can significantly increase closing rates. * Wearing casual clothing against someone in a suit in negotiations means you will be dominated. * A sharp image will form a lasting impression that will out live a short conversation. * Style System VIP
Mindset Takeaway: Improve your wardrobe and you’ll improve your income.
Resources: Style System VIP
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/MakeMoneyWithClothing
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode71 Have you ever wondered how you should approach partnering with someone? Whether it’s a traditional business partnership, or a sponsorship, it can be a big deal. Your business reflects you, and what your family thinks of you. Would your mother approve of the things you're involved in? Would you want your daughter to buy the products you are selling? These are just a few of the questions you should ask yourself before you begin a partnership.
In the end, all we have are our reputations. It’s important to protect it, and it’s certainly an easy thing to tarnish. When you enter into a project you need to know if it’s something you’re really an expert on. You also need to consider if your following will appreciate what you are supporting or not. If not, your partnership could do you and your other enterprises more harm than good.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style we explore the things you should be looking for in a partnership and analyze the reasons why Antonio turned down an easy $10,000.
Download this episode of Real Men Real Style today to hear what you need to look for when you meet your next partner.
5 Things To Look For In A Partner: 1. Have to solve a problem. 2. Quality. 3. Innovation. 4. Customer Service. 5. Transparency.
Highlights: * Would you want your child using the products you talk about? * Are you really knowledgeable about the items? * It’s important to see products improve and grow. * Make sure your partner treats customers the same way you would. * Treat people the way you want to be treated. * Check reviews about your potential partners and their companies. * Make sure both of your principals align. * Sheath Underwear * Sheath testimonials
Mindset Takeaway: You have to stick to your morals.
Resources: RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode71
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode71
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode70 One of the most common questions I get is, “How do I match my clothing?” It’s sounds like a simple subject, but it’s not something we are taught in school. In fact most people are never properly instructed on how to match their clothing, and they are really doing themselves a disservice by not putting thought into their attire.
Let me ask you, when you walk into a room do you want people to think you look like a clown? Do you want to spend your entire time at an interview, or meeting with someone and they just can’t get past what you’re wearing or do you want them to acknowledge you look good and then move on to focus on you and your skills? To do this you really need to know the basic rules of matching and really think about what you are going to wear each morning.
Download this episode of Real Men Real Style today and start putting more effort into yourself instead of hoping to get lucky with your looks.
5 Matching Rules: 1. Complement, don’t match 2. Imitate the masters. 3. Levels of formality. 4. Match leathers. 5. Match metals.
Highlights: * Style is simplicity. * It allows people to move on from your clothes and look at your skills. * Think through your outfit, don’t get lucky. * Matching is when fabrics are the same. * Complementing is when items work together and play off each other. * Look at people in the spotlight that you like their look. * If you imitate the masters you will pick up on their techniques. * Some pieces are made to go with certain clothing. * Know the difference between casual and formal. * You can’t throw a leather jacket over a suit, you’ll bring down the outfit. * The three main leathers are black, brown and oxblood. * Don’t have a harsh contrast between shades of leather. * Decide what colors you gravitate toward and pick a belt that fits. * Keep your metals the same. * Wedding bands don’t follow this rule. * These rules are all basic rules, and are not set in stone. * Matching Clothing Made Easy Video
Society was built on refining things, seeing what works and what doesn’t. Menswear is no different. There are items that have survived centuries, or more, that are still popular today and are definitely worth you looking more into. Do you know what you would find in your bathroom that you would also find in an ancient Egyptian’s, or a Roman soldier’s?
On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio takes a close look at 7 menswear items that have held up over the centuries. He looks at what has kept these trends alive and well, and why you should still be using them. You might be surprised to find that some of the ancient items- that are readily available in most stores- are actually superior to some of our more modern inventions.
Download this episode of Real Men Real Style to open your mind to the past, and get in touch with Menswear items that will keep you classy.
7 Menswear Items That Have Been Around for 100 Years: 1. Single-blade razors 2. After shave 3. Pomades 4. Vest 5. Bowtie 6. Suspenders 7. Hats, pinned collars, club collar, hidden button collars, boutonnieres, ascots, pocket watches, casual silk scarves
Highlights: * If an item has been around for 100 years, it’s doing something right. * The two single blade razors out there are the straight razor and the safety razor. * One straight razor can last you the rest of your life. * Even the Egyptians used straight razors. * Hair is associated with not being clean. * Most men think cartridge razors are the only option. * Cartridge razors lift hairs on the face, which can cause ingrown hairs. * It can be hard to get to smaller areas with a cartridge razor. * A shaving brush helps lift hairs and get a closer shave. * The reason aftershaves were important was because they prevented infections. * Aftershave also helps with irritations caused from shaving. * Most after shaves don’t sting anymore. * Romans used pomades as a soap. * Pomade has shine, and strength for hold. * Look for a water based pomade. * Vest originally developed to add more warmth while allowing movement. Eventually they were developed to hide the waist area.
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode68 We all know that first impressions are everything. It’s important to know what others first think of you, especially women. Know the first things that a woman will notice about you, and try to make sure you’re ready to make each engagement the best it can be because you don’t know where it will lead.
Women are highly in-tune with their surrounding and, whether they realize it or not, they are quick to judge. You only have a few seconds to land the right first impression, and there are ten very important things to be aware of. On this episode of Real Men Real style we will be looking at the first 10 things a woman will notice about you, before you even realize an interaction has begun.
Download this episode of Real Men Real Style to know what you need to concentrate on to really improve your game and be the kind of a guy that attracts women, not scares them away.
10 Things Women Notice: 1. Your silhouette 2. Your body language 3. Your hands 4. Your face 5. Your smile 6. Clothing 7. Your greeting 8. Style details 9. Your fragrance 10. Your voice
Highlights: * The first thing a woman will notice is your shape. * Show off your wider shoulders, and narrower midsection. + A leather jacket will help make a stronger silhouette * Make sure you look approachable. * People watch where your hands are going out of safety. * She’s going to notice if you are looking at her or not. * If she is interested in you, she will look right at you. * Women check out men just as much as men do women, but women are better at using their peripheral vision. * Your smile is in your control, and you need to learn to use it. * Don’t be afraid to give a quick smile. * Your tone, and how you acknowledge them is very important. * Don’t be afraid to be the first person to say hello. * Women will notice details of your hair, watch, and the subtler accessories you have. * Don’t overpower people with your cologne (one spray only!) * How you speak and your genuine knowledge will stand out. * People will often forget what you say, but not how you make them feel. * Make sure you have a positive energy people want to be around.
Mindset Takeaway: If you want to be more attractive to women, be more aware of how you look and the signals you give off.
Resources: RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode68
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode68
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/EpisodeJamesBond Have you ever watched a James Bond film and thought about how his style still holds up? He doesn’t look cheesy like a lot of trendy films throughout the decades. Bond had an elegance that is timeless. He always looked great, and the ladies loved him for it. You could take almost any Bond outfit and it would still work today.
You might be asking yourself how this is possible. It’s pretty simple. Trends change, but being classy doesn’t. It’s easier to find styles that last when it comes to formal clothing, but it gets trickier when you are dealing with casual attire. Each season you see styles come and go, and that shirt you bought five years ago seems like a bad joke.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style we turn to James Bond to show us how to look out best even in the hottest months. Download this special bonus episode to see how you can by clothes for the summer that will look great now and ten years from now.
10 items you need to dress like Bond this summer: 1. Polo Shirt 2. Casual button down 3. Long sleeve dress shirt. 4. Light colored suit or jacket. 5. Summer trousers. 6. Shorts. 7. Loafers. 8. Socks. 9. Sunglasses. 10. Quarter zip sweater.
Highlights: * It’s not about the newest trends, keep it simple. * Wear solid colors. * Avoid what’s “in style” and stick with the classics. * Your fit is incredibly important. * Find a brand that fits your body type, and personal style. * We are exposed to disposable clothing in this country. * Spend the extra to get better quality clothing. * Expensive clothing costs more for a reason. * When you dress sharp, you want to look like a million dollars. * White or light blue polos are safe bets. * Get a performance fabric. * You can wear a patterned button down. * Have plain, stiffer collar dress shirts. * Beware of linens, as they may wrinkle. * Jackets without lining can help keep the sun off your skin. * If you wear shorts make sure they fit well. * Don’t wear cargo shorts! * Make sure your shorts aren’t too long. * You can wear no-show socks. * Go with aviators or Wayfarers. * Avoid sport wrap-arounds. * At night it gets cool, and you should have a sweater. * If someone else gets cold, having a sweater will make you the hero. * Wear a straw hat.
Mindset Takeaway: If you want to have confidence, sophistication, and own your style you can’t go cheap.
Resources: Ministry of supply
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/EpisodeJamesBond
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode67 Have you ever gone into a shoe store and had someone tell you a bunch of terms you didn’t understand about the shoes? Did they tell you a Goodyear Welt is the best or that a Blake Stitch will irritate your feet? Well, these may not be true. The best thing you can do is arm yourself with knowledge before you start looking for a shoe.
Everyone wants to protect their feet while looking good. When it comes down to how shoes are made there are 3 types of construction. None of them are better than they others, but they all certainly have their own advantages and disadvantages. If you are the kind of person that goes through soles faster than most people you may want one type. If you need something more waterproof you’ll probably want a different style.
Download this episode of Real Men Real Style to learn how footwear is made, and find the type that will suit your lifestyle.
The 3 Types of Show Construction: 1. Cementing 2. Goodyear Welt 3. Blake Stitch
Highlights: * Upper is the section that is the leather portion covering the foot. * The insole is the material inside the shoe that touches your foot. * Outsole is on the exterior of the shoe, that touches the ground. * Welt is found on higher end shoes. It's the strip of leather that runs around the border of outsole. * Last is a 3D model of a foot used to maintain shape of shoe during construction. * Cementing is the most common construction. + Uses an adhesive to connect the sole to the upper. + Best used with a rubber sole, not leather. + Advantage: Inexpensive. + Disadvantages: Will fall apart and generally not worth getting resoled.
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Goodyear Welt is a stitching along the outside of the upper.
- Bottom of the upper is shaped over the last and stitched on the outside.
- Makes resoling much easier.
- Advantages: Considerably waterproof, most cobblers can resole, and the shoe can be sewn yourself.
- Disadvantage: Much more expensive, and don’t have much flexibility
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Blake stitch is stitched on the inside of the shoe.
- Requires specialized machines to resole.
- Advantages: Get advantages of Goodyear Welt at a lower price, can get resoled, upper and lower connect looks better, and much more flexible.
- Disadvantage: Is not as water resistant as Goodyear Welt, it has to be sent to special shops to be resoled which is more expensive, and the interior stitching can irritate some people’s feet.
Mindset Takeaway: It’s important to know the shoe construction for your particular needs and wants.
Resources: Shoe Construction Infographic
How to Spot Quality Shoes
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode67
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode66 Dating today is very complicated. It can be tough just to find a woman. Once you finally get a girl to say yes then you’re put into a whole new awkward situation: who should pay for the date? Some women get upset if you don’t pay, others get insulted if you do pay. So what’s the right answer?
Unfortunately, it’s not as clear cut as it was for my father’s generation. It used to be that if you were a man, you paid. End of story. We are seeing a shift in our society’s mindset on the issue. More and more women are feeling that a man shouldn’t pay, or at least shouldn’t feel obligated to. In fact a study showed that 3 out of 10 women think a man shouldn’t pay.
On this episode of Real Men Real Style we discuss the response to this question from 10 women at the top of their field. From journalists, to comedians, to academic scholars you’ll hear the wide range of answers. You’ll be surprised at how similar, yet different, all of their answers were.
Listen to this episode today to hear how you can avoid the awkward and frustrating moment of what to do when the check comes.
10 Opinions About Who Should Pay: 1. A dating coach said a man should take the old school approach and pay. 2. A journalist feels the person who asks for the date should pay. 3. A sex blogger felt each date should be paid 50/50. 4. A comedienne thinks you should consider who makes an average of 19.7% more money. 5. A model/actress thinks a man has to spend money to impress a girl. 6. An academic feminist feels a man shouldn’t try to buy a woman. 7. A weightlifter feels that it’s up to the guy to make the gesture. 8. A reporter feels you should pay for the right reasons. 9. A feminist writer feels that it shouldn’t matter who pays. 10. A porn star insists a man should be willing to go all the way.
Highlights: * Figure out pretty quick how a woman you are dating feels about who pays. * Think about who invited who. * Is it personal or is it business? * Paying can also be a way to thank someone for their time. * Try to settle the payment before ordering the food. * Consider who is drinking and how much. * 7 out of 10 women think a man should pay. * A man needs to have table manners, and shouldn’t talk about himself too much. * Just because you spent money doesn’t mean you are entitled to the woman.
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode65 Skinny jeans are a huge style right now. Rock stars wear them, movie stars wear them, and the skinny jeans section is taking over the men’s department. You shouldn’t buy into the trend for several reasons. The first is that you probably don’t look good wearing them. Skinny jeans are designed for men with a VERY particular body type. Believe it or not the way you look in them is the least of your worries.
A study in English showed that half of the men wearing these trousers are developing health problems. There is a huge increase in discomforts, urinary tract infections, bladder infections, and even twisted testicles!
When picking your jeans you should consider the function of your pants as well as your health. Jeans were designed for cowboys, to move and ride freely while taking a beating. Skinny jeans go against this design making it almost impossible to run in. If you can’t fit a wallet into the pocket, how are you supposed to make a proper stride?
7 Reasons to Hate Skinny Jeans: 1. Skinny jeans can cause low sperm count. 2. They can increase the chances of urinary tract infection. 3. They literally twist your testicles. 4. Many men wearing them have the wrong body type. 5. The low rise of the inseam makes your torso look odd. 6. You can’t use your pockets. 7. Skinny jeans are an image of attraction, not an image of power.
Highlights:
- Most men don’t look good in skinny jeans.
- A study with 2,000 british men in tight jeans showed a lot of urinary tract infections, a lot of twisted testicls, and a lot of bladder weaknesses.
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- 50% of men had a growing discomfort.
- 25% suffered from bladder problems.
- 20% had a twisted testicle.
- 25% wear them to prove they can still fit into them.
- 40% wear them to be stylish instead of being comfortable.
- Tight jeans lead to over activity of the bladder, resulting in infections.
- Dr’s suggest you leave room for comfort so you aren’t being restricted in any way.
- Function comes before fashion.
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- Skinny jeans make it harder to walk and run in.
- Don’t put fashion and style above health.
- Choose slim fit or straight instead
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode64 Are you tired of your favorite clothing getting ruined or falling apart? There’s a good chance you are washing your clothes far too often. Every time you put an article of clothing through a wash cycle it takes time off it’s life. Some clothes shouldn’t be washed every single time you wear them or they’ll turn into rags far sooner than they should.
The less you wash your clothes the better, but that can enter into dangerous territory as well. If you don’t wash often enough, your clothes will begin to smell and you’ll offend those around you. It’s difficult to find the right balance, but there are some clues that will help you know often to toss your laundry into a machine. How much skin does ensemble touch? What kind of material is it made out of? How soiled is it?
This episode of Real Men Real Style looks at the number of times an article of clothing should be washed based on several factors. For example, you may be able to wear your suit up to 50 times without washing it? Download now to find out more.
5 ways to increase clothing lifespan: 1. Spot clean often. 2. Avoid putting clothes in the dryer. 3. Wear undershirts. 4. Don’t wear nice clothes when heavily exercising. 5. Clean clothes at the end of their seasons.
Highlights:
- Your clothes have a number of lives.
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- You can only wash articles so many times before they are too old.
- Treat noticeable stains as soon as possible.
- When an article of clothing comes into contact with a large area of skin, change it daily.
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- Underwear, socks, undershirts.
- You may need to change more if heavily exercising.
- T-shirts and polos can be worn 2 times if you don’t sweat in them heavily.
- Hoodies and dress shirts can be warn up to 3 times.
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- You typically wear clothing under these articles.
- If you don’t wear an undershirt under your dress shirt, only wear it once.
- Jeans and sweaters can be worn up to 10-15 times between washings.
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- When you do wash, wash gently and let them air dry.
- Wool can be reshaped in the wash. +
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode63 Do you ever feel stuck in the world? Are you feeling stressed out about life? Is anxiety starting to take over your life? Believe it or not there are six simple steps you can take to help you have a much more fulfilling life. On this episode of Real Men Real Style I’ll lay out what’s known as the pyramid of fulfillment, and help you get on the right track to living a happy life.
6 Steps to a Fulfilling Life: 1. Focus on basic safety and security. 2. Mental strength. 3. Human connection. 4. Keep learning and growing. 5. Confidence. 6. Self-extension.
Mindset Takeaway: You need to take action and ensure you’re truly living a life of fulfillment.
Resources: https://www.communicationfornerds.com
RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode63
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode63
Show Notes: RealMeanRealStyle.com/Episode62 A dog is known as man’s best friend. They are loyal, caring, and all around great animals to have. But did you know having an animal can also help your personal life? People love people with dogs. It’s a fact. Animal owners are looked at as being much more caring and far more attractive.
This is something we can see in several studies from various reputable sources taken over the span of many years. These studies show that people are much more likely to interact with you if you have a canine friend. A dog can make people much more likely to help you when you are in need. Most importantly, a pooch will increase the chances that you’ll get the number of a woman you just met.
5 Reasons to own a pet: 1. Makes you more approachable. 2. People are more willing to help you. 3. Increases your chances of friendly interactions. 4. Can make even a bad boy seem dateable. 5. Will increase your chances of getting a girl’s number.
Studies: Studies show having dogs and being a pet owner makes you more attractive.
- 2015 Study shows women love pet people.
- Women who are dog people will judge you based on your dog.
- 2000 British Journal Study shows pet dogs enhance smart fashion.
- Being well dressed and having a dog increases interactions.
- 2008 Study about a man asking for money and numbers.
- 3 times more likely to be successful with a dog.
- Amount of money given also went up around 30%.
- Asking for a number with a dog triples your chances of success.
- 2013 Journal Of Evolutionary Psychology Study shows dogs increases a man’s long-term attractiveness.
- Being a nice guy with a dog didn’t increase attractiveness.
- Bad boys became much more attractive with a dog.
Mindset Takeaway: Dogs make you more attractive and approachable!
Resources: RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode62
Show Notes: RealMeanRealStyle.com/Episode62
Show Notes: RealMeanRealStyle.com/Episode61 Flowers make people feel happy. It’s proven! Flowers aren’t limited to just women, who would have thought? Men can give flowers to other men as well, or even accept them from women! It’s really just a nice gift to show you care. So why is there so much conversation happening around this topic? Flowers symbolize life after all, it doesn’t have to be strictly a romantic gesture. Tune in to change the way you view giving flowers!
3 Reasons Why Men Buy Flowers 1. It’s a great way to show you care. 2. Flowers are shown scientifically to make people feel great. 3. People of all ages demonstrate gratitude when given flowers.
Mindset Takeaway: Flowers make people happy! No matter who gives them or receives them.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
http://1800flowers.com/RMRS
Show Notes: RealMeanRealStyle.com/Episode61
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode60 We all talk on the phone. Did you know there are ways to actually look better on the phone? Maybe stronger? More masculine? It’s completely possible! Sometimes you don’t even realize you are making yourself look smaller with your posing. You could be hurting your neck, annoying others around you, or hey, even your future wife could be watching! Make sure you look your best.
7 Better Ways to Hold Your Phone 1. Don’t have it on! 2. Think power poses when holding your phone. 3. Don’t look down. 4. Get your phone further away from your face. 5. Lay on your back when you’re checking your phone in bed. 6. Get a phone that sizes properly to your thumb size. 7. Hold your phone with your right hand, up to your right ear.
Mindset Takeaway: Everyone talks on the phone. Now you can talk on the phone and look like a badass by keeping your head up, holding your phone further away, and of course, just turning it off.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode60
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode59 What would happen if you ONLY had your clothes to survive on? I know, you think, “how could that ever happen to me?” All I have to say is, you never know! There are multiple ways your clothing may be able to save your life in situations that call for it. I don’t recommend putting yourself in a position where you only have clothes to survive on, but just in case, I have all the tips and tricks you’d need to make it happen.
13 Ways to Survive With Just Your Clothes 1. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you have to survive on your clothes! 2. Carry a pen. This can be used to create puncture wounds/kill. 3. Long sleeve shirts can be used to filter water, a knapsack, as bandages. 4. A belt can be used as a weapon. 5. Pocket Squares act as face protection. 6. Jackets keep you warm! Use it as a blanket, or as a protective layer from bugs. 7. Pants. These can be used as a flotation device! 8. Zipper. This can be used as a makeshift sawblade. 9. Shoes. These create smoke as a signal if thrown into the fire. 10. Shoe laces can be used for fishing wire. 11. Glasses can be used as a magnifying glass to start a fire. 12. Socks can be used as a makeshift package. (carry food!) 13. Condoms can be used as a canteen.
Mindset Takeaway: The number one purpose of your clothing is to protect you from elements. This will come in handy if you find yourself in a situation where survival relies on only your clothing!
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
http://www.creekstewart.com/
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode59
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode58 Kick Social Media to the curb. Quit Facebook. Quit Instagram. Say goodbye to Twitter. But why? It’s built to be addictive. You might not even realize you are addicted. Yeah maybe it’s a fun outlet, but at what cost? Well, a lot more than you think.
Sitting on social media all the time may have taken more from you than you’ve noticed at this point. Feeling drained? Getting angry at friends or family members based on their very public opinions? Maybe your eyesight's been a bit worse. It’s no coincidence in this case. Let’s take a look at the negative impact Social Media can have...
8 Reasons Social Media is Bad For You 1. Forced comparison. We are forced to view the top 1% of what others are doing. 2. Division of people. Social media divides us. 3. Impacts sleep. 4. Impacts your immune system. 5. Inhibits growth hormones. 6. Limited thinking and kills creativity. 7. Impairs digestion. 8. If you are not paying for the product, you are the product.
7 Ways to Break Those Bad Social Media Habits 1. Disable notifications. 2. Get rid of useless people that you are following. (unfollow) 3. Don’t follow useless information. 4. Delete the app from your phone. 5. Change your passwords frequently. 6. Delete your account. 7. Increase your privacy settings.
Mindset Takeaway: Everything isn’t what it seems on Social Media. You don’t have to delete your social media accounts, but use them in moderation. Use them effectively.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
www.facebook.com/help/delete_account
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode58
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode57 The goal is almost always to make more money while working less. Everyone has this overall goal in mind, yet few people understand how to effectively accomplish it, or at least consistently move the direction of more money through less work.
In this episode, I’m teaching you my 10 tips for making more money while working less. These have been developed and refined through running my own business, and are the pillars that, when applied to your life and your efforts, will allow you to accomplish more and more as you get better at implementing.
So change your mindset to one of continually adjusting your parameters, measuring your life, looking for places that waste time and energy, and continually educating yourself to better your life!
P.S. Get Zero to Launch, a course by Ramit Sethi, which I talk about in this video, here.
General Takeaways: * If everything that you’re doing is important, then nothing is important * Unless you put in an incentive to cut down features and extra work, they will fill all the time and energy you allow them to * Prioritize tasks according to their real importance
10 Tips to Make More Money While Working Less: 1. Solve a burning problem 2. Sell to customers capable of buying the product 3. Let EVERYONE know what you do, and the problem that you solve 4. Make the exchange of money easy 5. Develop your expertise and become the superstar 6. Set boundaries on your work, hours, etc 7. Hire someone to do all the things that it doesn’t make sense for you to do 8. Measure everything 9. Pay for detailed training to solve a specific problem 10. Hire a mentor
Mindset Takeaway: Adjust your mindset towards money and it’s acquisition, using the 10 tips above, to one of abundance and a drive to tweak your systems and process to earn more.
Resources: Zero to Launch - Ramit Sethi
Mixergy
Entrepreneur on Fire
The Art of Charm
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode56 Can you imagine, as a business owner or simply someone who understands the value of customers through the door, turning down 100 customers a month?! Believe it or not, there is a tailor who does exactly this, and I’m telling his story on today’s episode.
While people like this, who are deeply, passionately and artistically specialized in the work, are very expensive to work with, it can be worth it if the product is something you are deeply passionate about and have the money to invest in the experience of working with someone like this.
In general, though, his approach to his work teaches us a lot about what will cause you to stand out from the crowd in any industry: Passion, extreme craftsmanship, and a dedication to creating the best product possible.
General Takeaways: 1. Know who your customer is, what you can give, what you can do, and what you can not. 2. A lot of businesses promise the world. But honing in on your speciality, and knowing what you can and cannot do, is key. 3. Most people are focused on purely making money. But there is a level that transcends that; one of art and extreme care. 4. Look for artists who deeply specialize in what they do, if it really means alot to you, and enjoy the experience of working with them.
Mindset Takeaway: If there’s one specific category or item you feel extremely passionate, consider tracking down a real artist in that field, someone who deeply specializes, and appreciate the experience of working with them.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode56
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode55 Six months on the road. One outfit that ruled them all. How did I do it? That’s a great question. You could say I have a few tricks up my sleeve. You won’t want to spend a lot of time shopping while traveling around the world. Some of you might, but it comes with a hefty price tag (import taxes!)
Lighten up your load and start emptying that suitcase! Pack only the essentials necessary to get you around the world in the perfect, all encompassing, go-to outfit.
10 Ways to Travel the World on One Outfit 1. Make sure everything you take is interchangeable. 2. Bring simple luggage. 3. Take a watch! 4. Take a go-to overcoat. 5. Take a light sweater. 6. Pack some great underwear and undershirts. 7. Pack light-weight jeans. 8. Slip-on boots are a must. 9. If you bring shorts, have them be swimsuit bottoms or gym shorts. 10. Sunglasses!
Mindset Takeaway: When you travel, the more lightweight items you have, the less you will have to pack. Ensure all your clothing is interchangeable, to mix and match the perfect go-to outfits!
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode55
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode54 There's a million ways to build your confidence. However, sometimes the steps we take to get there can be unexpected or “weird”. Hey, there’s nothing wrong with weird! It’s a relative term. Who knew cologne could give you liquid confidence? That’s not the only thing though. We might even talk about the impact duct tape can have on you...
In this episode, I tell you some “strange” ways to build your confidence. Okay, maybe not too strange, but these small tips touch on the activities that you might not even realize affect how you feel about yourself, and in some situations, how you carry yourself.
7 Weird Ways to Build Your Confidence 1. Get rid of body odor. 2. Use a fragrance. 3. Focus in on your breathing. 4. Duct tape your back. 5. Talk to yourself in the mirror. 6. Take care of your face/body. 7. Shock the system.
Mindset Takeaway: Sometimes we forget the small tasks we can do in order to build our confidence. So what if some of these aren’t the norm? They boost your self-confidence!
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode54
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode53 Style should be a habit you create; something you do without thinking. Sometimes we don’t even realize the impacts made by the small changes we implement. Some of us put so much thought into our styles, it begins to become a hassle rather than an effortless set of actions to be the suave men we are naturally!
Being aware can change the way you look and feel. Take my word for it! Check out these 10 tips that will turn your style routine from hassle to habit.
10 Habits of Stylish Men 1. Let go of worn out favorites. 2. Have a grooming routine. 3. Don’t be afraid to break the rules. 4. When buying new clothing, ask yourself “is it interchangeable?” 5. Know your measurements. 6. Be careful of workout clothing. 7. Make sure your casual clothing is not sloppy. 8. Get into the habit of using color effectively. 9. Find the brands that work best for you. 10. Don’t be afraid to take, and give compliments.
Mindset Takeaway: You can use clothing to get what you want out of life. Especially by using these 10 stylish habits!
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode53
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode52 So you want to stand out, without really standing out. You might be surprised to know that it may not always be your clothing that separates you from the rest. No one wants to stick out like a sore thumb, or look and sound as if they don’t belong! You want to get others’ attention by looking good, not by looking silly. So how do you get there? How can you truly master the art of standing out, but not going too far?
That’s why we’re here today! I have the best tips and tricks you need to hear, in order to achieve just that. It may not be as hard as you think!
7 Ways To Stand Out, Without Really Standing Out 1. Know your message, and dress accordingly. 2. Take a classic twist on key items in your wardrobe. 3. Make casual look amazing. 4. Have good manners. 5. Use your eyes and your ears. 6. Be a positive person. 7. Say no to most things.
Mindset Takeaway: Small changes to your wardrobe or the way you speak to others can have a great impact on your ability to stand out in a crowd. Pay attention to the little things!
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode52
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode51 What does it really mean to be cool? The definition has changed throughout history as styles have developed from decade to decade, but there are a few factors we can associate with “cool” that are completely timeless. Admit it, we all want to be cool in our own way!
When we think cool, we sometimes think James Dean...or James Bond.. or.. Has anyone else noticed a lot of James’ are cool? Whether it’s your posture, your sunglasses, or the way you dress, here are some quick tips on changing your look from fool, to cool!
7 Quick Tips: How to be Cool 1. Stand up straight. 2. Don’t try too hard. 3. Wear sunglasses! 4. Wear a leather jacket. 5. Jeans. 6. Add a bit of stubble. 7. Don’t be afraid to go up and talk to people.
Mindset Takeaway: Being cool looks effortless, but is far from actually being effortless! If you follow these tips, you will feel much better about yourself in a short matter of time. Be confident, be positive, and be yourself!
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode51
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode50 Most of the time you see a man wearing a ring, it’s usually his wedding rings, class rings, or family crest rings. Why not wear rings just for the hell of it, though? What if you see a ring at the mall, and you like it, but you’re worried how it might look? Well, what if I told you that wearing rings is actually a stylish decision to make?
If a man is confident, he will bring in a ring. With the four general rules I am about to share with you, you’ll be able to have the confidence to bring them into your wardrobe too. Let’s get started!
4 General Rules to Wearing Rings 1. Pay attention to the traditions of your country or culture. 2. Pay attention to proportion. 3. Try to match metals with metals. 4. If you’re going to wear multiple rings, ensure you balance them out.
Mindset Takeaway: A lot of men think they can’t pull off rings, it’s just not true! Follow these 4 general rules to get you started wearing rings with style and class.
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode50
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode49 It’s hard to have good style when you don’t have the budget to match, right? WRONG! This week I let you in on a few secrets. In fact, I let you in on SEVEN. It’s completely possible to be stylish without spending a TON of money.
Don’t let the fashion industry convince you that expensive = stylish. It’s just not true! It’s time you really OWN your wardrobe simply by putting in a bit of effort. You’d be surprised how much a tailored pair of pants or a watch can improve your style.
Listen up, as I tell you seven quick and easy tips on upgrading your style.
7 Ways to Improve Your Style: 1. Fit. 2. Pay attention to your accessories. 3. Experiment with your habits. 4. Incorporate a rarely used item. 5. Your hairstyle. 6. Remove clothing that you don’t love from your wardrobe. 7. Smile!
Mindset Takeaway: Even if you think you don’t have the time or money to improve your style, you do! Use your resources and make some small changes that have a BIG impact on your wardrobe.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode49
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode48 I bet you didn’t know that you drive me crazy sometimes. That’s right, you drive me crazy. Wait though, it might not be such a bad thing. Things that you do, make me reflect on who I am, and why I do the things I do. Some information may or may not be applicable to you, but I need to focus in on an audience that I can relate with.
So what if I contradict myself? Opinions evolve! I probably shouldn’t have taken such a hardened stance on some subjects, but it’s all a learning process. I’m not perfect, and I’m sure these kind of things drive you crazy about me. Maybe it’s my hand gestures, maybe it’s some old videos of mine contradicting things I’ve recently said. Who can really tell?
Alright, I’ll get to the point. Whether or not you realized it, here are the 7 ways that you drive me crazy.
7 Things You Do That Drive me Crazy: 1. You are right. 2. You are wrong. 3. You remember everything. 4. You don’t watch my videos. 5. You hate me. 6. You love me. 7. You demand better of me.
Mindset Takeaway: If you couldn’t tell, I meant you drive me crazy in a good way. Take the things that drive you crazy, and use them for self improvement!
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode48
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode47 Having put out hundreds of videos over many years, it seems like I’ve covered almost everything fashion and personal impression-related. And yet, somehow I was able to find a list of several hacks that I’ve never talked about, and that’s what this episode is about.
Among the hacks covered is the value of shaving your sweaters, how to use layers to create the perfect fit, how to buy clothes that fit perfectly, and how to stretch out shoes that are just a little bit tight.
So whether you’ve been following me for a long time, or are brand new to Real Men Real Style, this episode is packed with style hacks that will take your fashion to the next level, and allow you to make a great impression on those around you.
The Hacks: 1. Know your stretch, and look for clothes with the correct amount of stretch 2. Shave your sweaters 3. Use layers to create the perfect fit 4. Wear your best fitted clothing when you go out to get clothes to compare it with what you want to get 5. Look at the inside of a piece of clothing as a tiebreaker for what is the highest quality 6. Always take one item that pushes the boundaries into the dressing room, just to see if you like it 7. Whenever you’re buying a nice pair of shoes, try to buy a matching belt as well 8. Buy some extra laces for your shoes 9. Get into the habit of taking care of your footwear 10. To stretch out a pair of shoes, take a ziplock bag, fill it with water, put it in the shoe, and freeze it to stretch it out just a little bit 11. Use a salt solution to soften your T-shirt
Mindset Takeaway: Go through all of the above hacks that I’ve never shared before, so see if there’s anything specific that you can takeaway to improve the impression that you make on others.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode47
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode46 A lot of people are their own worst enemies when it comes to accomplishing what they want in life, and today I am talking about the 10 mistakes that many people are making everyday that are making success, however they define it, more difficult for them.
If you look at the 10 mistakes listed below and identify any that tend to come up in your life over and over again, you can be reasonably sure that it is holding you back. So be aggressive about cutting it out! If you truly want to succeed in life, there are enough external things that make it difficult without you making it harder on yourself through your habits, your thought-processes, or your preconceived notions.
These are the 10 ways I see pop up in people over and over again, and if you can get rid of them, you will be miles ahead of most of the world.
The 10 Mistakes That Will Screw You Over: 1. Making excuses for your habits and life 2. Lacking the ability or discipline to focus 3. Multitasking 4. Ignoring discipline 5. Waiting for the “perfect time” 6. Trying to make things perfect 7. Not preparing 8. Saying yes to everything 9. Choosing to stop learning 10. Being a “lone wolf”
Mindset Takeaway: Learn from the above 10-mistakes, and keep a lookout for where they may be trying to pop up in your life, to cut them out.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode46
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode45 Most of us are taught from an early age not to be judgemental of others, and to let everyone live their own lives without our judgement. But the truth is that we all make split-second judgements about everyone we meet, the second we lay eyes on them. It’s simply human nature, and this immediate judgement is necessary in order for us to make sense of the world around us.
But knowing this trait about humans, it’s important that we realize this, and consciously make an effort to optimize that initial judgement being made of us, through our look, our mannerisms, our language, speech patterns, and more.
This episode is about the 5 ways I (and most people) make split-second judgements about people I see, and, as a consequence, what you can do to make that initial impression of you stronger, and what you want it to be.
Key Takeaways: * Everyone makes split-second judgments about you. They can’t help it * With this in-mind, your appearance and initial impression is incredibly important * People need to know that they are a priority to you * Open doors for people * Everyone will judge you based on their own shortcomings. The way we see other people is expression of ourselves
The 5-Ways I Judge You: 1. Punctuality 2. Preparation 3. Manners 4. Language 5. My own shortcomings
Mindset Takeaway: Because people will always make split-second judgements about you, be careful to think about and engineer what that split-second judgement will be
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode45
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode44 In the modern world, technology, especially in communications, has made it less and less necessary to actually meet people in-person for any reason. We can do anything we need to through skype, facetime, google hangouts, or another app, and we can even use these same apps to keep up with our friends and family.
But today’s episode is about why that is simply not enough! While practically speaking you can accomplish a lot of the same thing virtually, there are so many other aspects of what an in-person meeting does for a relationship that will be completely lost if we move further and further towards all-virtual meetings.
So make a habit of attending live events, meeting people in-person, and developing relationships in this way, to create more impact, speed up the process of learning about others, and forge deeper relationships.
Key Takeaways: * When your business is online, it’s easy to to let yourself spend more and more time alone. Resist it! * A local event builds a trusted network, and often a deeper relationship * Go to networking events, because it’s often easier to get time from a busy person when you meet them in person * When you put in the effort to show up to events, it will often lead to things you never would have guessed * When you meet people face-to-face, you can often accelerate the conversation by weeks or months, as compared to continuing an email conversation * Shared experiences with people go a long way in developing a relationship
Mindset Takeaway: Make an effort to go to live, in-person events on a regular basis, to develop new and deeper relationships.
Resources: StyleCon 2017
The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode44
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode43 A lot of people feel like, now more than over, manners are dead. But the truth this is actually the time that manners mean the most! In a world dominated by social media, phones, and skype, manners will set you apart from the rest, and help you make an impression.
Below are the 14 mistakes that I see people around me making all the time. If you can avoid these, you will already be well on your way to giving an impression that will set you apart from the crowd.
But most importantly, focus on making other people feel good through the use of good manners. People will forget many things about you, but never the way you make them feel, so always focus on making other people feel great in every encounter you have with them.
The 14 Mistakes: 1. Make your phone more important than the people around you 2. Don’t say something online that you wouldn’t say in person 3. Practice good manners at home, not just when you’re out and about 4. Be on time! If you’re going to be late, let people know 5. Always have situational awareness. Know what’s going on around you 6. Always show respect at work 7. Keep yourself from constantly interrupting others. When others are talking, actually listen, don’t just wait for your turn to speak 8. Do not overuse foul language. Understand how it portrays you to other people 9. Have patience and empathy for others, where they are in their life, and what they might be struggling with 10. Be purposeful about making introductions. Always be the one who makes the introduction 11. Do not ignore party manners. Maybe bring a gift, and always RSVP 12. Don’t ask nosey questions. Be careful about questions that could be considered rude or intrusive 13. Do not ask for special treatment 14. Do not argue over the check at the restaurant
Mindset Takeaway: Focus on always making other people feel great by using good manners, everyday and in every situation.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode43
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode42 Money is a tricky topic, and you will find that a lot of people are not at all comfortable with discussing it. This was certainly the case for me, to the point where I was too embarrassed to ask many of the questions about money that would have set me up to be more financially stable throughout my life.
So on this episode, I am answering the 10 questions that I should have asked about money when I was younger, so that you can avoid some of the mistakes and pitfalls that a lot of people make around what they do with their money.
It’s important to get these issues squared away while you’re young, to set yourself up for success through the rest of your life! Too many young people put off thinking about money until they’re older, and cause themselves a lot of extra pain through this decision than they needed to have. Don’t make that mistake! Listen to this episode to learn what you need to be doing to be financially stable in your life!
Key Takeaways: * A lot of people don’t talk nearly enough about money to fully understand it, but it’s essential to understand * When you’re younger, it’s often a very good idea to invest in yourself through education, books, self development, etc * No one should feel guilty for wanting to build wealth * I always bet on myself
The 10 Questions I Should Have Asked: 1. Is it wrong to want to be rich? To have the money to do what you want 2. How do I know if I can afford something? Ask yourself: Does it affect your lifestyle? 3. How Many credit cards should I have? You should make sure you have credit cards before you need them. As many as you can personally manage responsibly 4. What should you do with an unexpected windfall of money? Put it toward an emergency fund, and define an emergency strictly. For me, it’s about 3 months worth of expenses 5. Should you have an emergency fund, or invest, etc? For me, emergency fund first, everything else after 6. Where’s the best place to learn about money? Books. Listen to people who have gotten where you want to be 7. How do I get rich? There are an unlimited number of ways. Educate yourself 8. Should I pay off all of my debt? No, low interest loans are often not worth paying off, and having cash gives you options 9. What is good debt? Should you carry any debt? Good debt is usually real estate that is earning you value, or education that is going to earn you more money 10. Do I really need to save for retirement? As you get closer to retiring, you need to progressively think about it more seriously, but not when you’re too young
Mindset Takeaway: Don’t be embarra
$100k is definitely a milestone. Compared with large scale businesses, it may not be a lot, but when it comes to building from 0 to something that can support you as well as other people, it is a huge milestone, and very worth striving for.
This episode goes through the details of exactly how I was able to attain this very important first milestone. I’m breaking down where the money came from, what it took to get it, some of the obstacles that stood in the way, and how I was able to overcome them to create an online business that supports many people.
Owning a business is a dream for a lot of people, and so I want to help to show you how I got started, to both inspire and educate you on your way. Enjoy!
Key Takeaways: * Often it is a good idea to think about monetization before audience. If you plan to monetize, it’s important to understand what audience you want * Physical product sales can go a long way early on * Informational products have much higher profit margins. You don’t have to sell as much informational products to make the same amount of money * If you have a large following, look at sponsorships, and be creative about the different things you can offer sponsors * Affiliate sales can be good, but also depend heavily on your affiliate’s ability to convert * A lot of people think that they will be able to make a living off of adsense, but often even the top youtubers can’t do this * Membership websites can be a powerful revenue generator for influencers
Books Mentioned: * Competitive Strategy * How to Win Friends and Influence People * Influence * Dan S. Kennedy * The Personal MBA * Lean Startup * Traction
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode40 If you’re like most guys, the idea of being able to walk into a room and instantly be considered highly attractive by those in the room is extremely compelling, and worth striving for. But attractiveness and what causes it is a tricky thing to try to understand. In this episode I’m sharing 5 surprising ways that you can be considered more attractive.
The standard answers to the question are things like dress sharp, be confident, smile, etc. But this episode is all about the surprising things that can make a difference in your perceived level of attractiveness. And the good news is that you may already have some of these, or could have some if you decided to, so raising your level of attractiveness may be just a tweak away!
So listen to this episode, take notes, and read carefully through the 5 ways listed below, to find out exactly what you should be doing to look more attractive to everyone around you!
5-Ways to Be More Attractive: 1. Extreme grooming (bald heads or big beards) will attract attention, and sometimes a surprising amount of female attention. Something that shows that you have a healthy dose of testosterone 2. Practice regularly to become a great storyteller. Bring in humor and a little sarcasm 3. Walk into a room with a group of people, rather than alone. Walking in with 2 guys is good, walking in with 2 women is best 4. Wear textured clothing 5. Grey hair is attractive on older men as long as they have a youthful look to them
Mindset Takeaway: Think about the ways you can use the above 5 methods to up your attractiveness, using your natural tendencies in your favor.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode40
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode39 In your style choices, you are either be playing defense or offense. Defense means playing it safe. Dressing the way that you normally dress. Wearing muted colors, wearing simpler accessories, and in general taking the route that you know will be very safe, but also not make any statements. While defense is important and powerful to your overall style strategy, a football team never won a game without putting at least a couple points on the board, right?
In this episode, we’re looking at what offense means for the stylish man. How can you do something that is just a little bit out of the ordinary in order to make a specific statement, and portray the image that you really want to portray. It could be in your accessories, whether it’s a pinky ring, or earrings, or perhaps it’s in the careful use of bright colors, rather than all muted tones. Perhaps it’s times to start regularly wearing a fragrance rather than just deodorant.
In general, defense means dressing to fit in, while offense means dressing to stand out. A careful understanding of how to do both will allow you to leverage each strategy when it is most advantageous. Don’t neglect offensive thinking in your overall style strategy!
Key Takeaways: * Most men are defensive when it comes to style, and think that defense will get them where they want to go in style * If you know how to strategically employ offense when it comes to style, you will be able to use it to your advantage * Too often, men dress to fit in, rather than dressing to impress with a specific message * Dress like the person that you want to be in the future. If you want to be a CEO maybe dress like a CEO * Most men only where deodorant, when an offensive strategy would be to wear a fragrance that sets you apart * Look at the ways that you can use color to actually draw strategic attention to yourself, and not just detract attention through all the normal colors * Wedding rings, conservative watches, and simple watches are all defensive style. Look into something that is a bit more headed toward personal adornment. Pinky ring, earrings, necklaces. All carefully * Understand that offensive style has the potential to offend very occasionally. Be cautious, but understand that it is part of the game * Simple patterns are defensive. You can pretty much wear as many patterns as you want, as long as they are not the same and right next to each other * Patterns allow you to use common colors, but in a unique way
Mindset Takeaway: Think about the ways that you are playing defense with your style currently, and the ways that you could be playing a bit of offensive in your choices.
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode38 Do you know the history of footwear? Do you think it’s important? Do you know why it’s important?
This episode is all about the difference between curved and straight shoes. I’m talking about the history of how these two shoes came to be, and what that means for the decisions you make. The shoes you wear definitely affect the way you are perceived, which means it’s very important to understand.
Today, I’m getting into the history of these two type of shoes, which I believe should normally be worn, and why. Listen up and take notes on this episode of the Personal Image System!
Key Takeaways: * Lots of classically minded men stay away from square toed shoes * From a functional point of view, there really isn’t a right answer * From a style perspective, curve toed shoes are almost always preferred * From the earliest times, shoes would be one of the main ways people would convey their status * Up to about 200 years ago there was no distinction between shoes for the left and right foot * Then over time, the people who could afford it would get shoes custom built for each foot - distinguishing those shoes as higher quality
Mindset Takeaway: Understand the history of the shoe, why it is the way it is today, and what that means for the decisions you should make in footwear.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode38
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode37 Everyone is going to encounter criticism at one time or another in their lives. In fact, encounter criticism is one of the ways that you know you are a leader, because every leader in history has been criticized and ridiculed to one extent or another during their lifetime, so you are in good company.
But the way you deal with the criticism you are handed is very important. It’s easy to let it get you down, to be pulled down by the weight of the criticism, and to let it demoralize you. That is why this episode outlines the 5 specific tips that will help you effectively deal with criticism, to learn what you should learn from it, and to come out stronger.
So if you want to be a leader in your life and in the world, understand that the criticism is coming, if it is not already here. Listen up, take notes, and read carefully through the steps outlined below to be able to handle it and come out on top!
The 5 Tips: 1. Criticisms are a reflection of the critic, not of you 2. Take the criticism, and ask yourself if it is legitimate, and there is something you can take away from it 3. Congratulate yourself, because you are a leaders, and leaders have never been universally congratulated 4. Meditate. It can be as simple as focusing on your breathing, but take time to calm yourself 5. Connect yourself with people that can help you work through everything, allowing you to be open and to share what you are going through
Mindset Takeaway: When you are criticised, don’t let it affect you emotionally. Rather take a deep breath, calm yourself, know that it means more about the critic than you, and then try to learn what you should from the criticism.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode37
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode36 Most people subconsciously define their success and fulfillment by what other people think of them. They think that they need to achieve certain social norms in lifestyle or success in order to achieve validation from other people, and thereby be happy. But the truth is that achieving happiness in life is different for everyone, and it is far more important for you to understand what it means for you and then go after that, than to spend all your time working towards somebody else’s version of a happy and fulfilled life!
But it’s not always easy. We are wired and conditioned to seek approval from others, and to even be paranoid about what others might think of us. In order to be able to really focus on what makes use happy, we need to get beyond all of that, understand that most people hardly care at all for anyone but themselves, and move on with building the best life possible!
And that is what this episode is all about. It is about how to truly stop giving a damn about what other people think about you. Because once you can do that, you can start to define and then build the exact life that will bring you personally the most happiness.
Key Takeaways: * Too much focus on what other people will think can be completely paralyzing * The side of our brain that worries about what others will think tends to be completely paranoid * Understand that you have to keep the side of your brain that is trying to make sense of social interactions in check * Most importantly, remember that most people don’t care about you as much as you probably think * Understanding that people are not thinking about you at all until you are in direct interaction will free you up to behave in a way that is truly and authentically you * When you compare yourself with others, you will always think you are less than them, because they only choose to show the best of themselves. You never see under the hood * So focus on yourself, and work to continually improve on who you were a year ago, a month ago, a week ago, or even yesterday * Define your own happiness, outside of any other expectations or social norms, and be as specific as possible with it
Mindset Takeaway: Remember that what is more important than anything is your ability to achieve what makes you really happy. So don’t worry about the social norms or what is expected of you, and instead focus exclusively on what will bring you personally the most happiness.
Resources: The Personal Image S
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode35 A lot of people are held back by worries about how they think that their friends will perceive them if they upgrade their style. People want to upgrade themselves, to look better, and to be perceived as better by the way they dress and present themselves, but they are worried about what other people will say.
But it is important to understand that most people are obsessing over themselves, to the extent that they are unlikely to notice or care about the way that you are upgrading yourself. This frees you in a lot of ways to do whatever you want, without fearing other people’s opinions.
But once you have made the decision to start upgrading, how do you go about it? What are the first steps? Today, I am walking through the exact steps that you need to take to get started on the path to an upgraded look and presentation, without shocking your friends.
Key Takeaways * A lot of people are held back by how they think people will react when they see them * When you understand that most people are fixated on themselves, it takes the pressure off of you * Some people won’t like the fact that you have upgraded your style, but that is a reflection on their problems, not yours * But if you upgrade your style, you can be perceived as more valuable than another employee or job candidate, when you may be close to equals, but your style suggests something about you as a person * Just because something is unfamiliar, doesn’t mean it is bad
5 Ways to Level Up Your Style Without Shocking Your Friends 1. Step up key clothing pieces, one piece at a time. Look at what you’re wearing right now, and ask yourself what key item you could upgrade that would level up your entire outfit without being a drastic change 2. Upgrade your accessories. If you don’t wear a watch, maybe start. If you do, look into a way to upgrade it. Same with other accessories 3. Start wearing a fragrance, used in moderation, instead of just deodorant. Think of it as an “invisible style accessory.” 4. Upgrade your shoes. Look into dress boots, maybe rugged. Just look into small steps that will upgrade your style without making a huge splash in your overall look 5. Get everything, including the clothes you already have, tailored to fit you personally
Mindset Takea
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode34 A lot can be said for advice given after the fact. After those involved have had some times to think about what happened, reflect on it in all it’s details, and understand key takeaways. This episode is all about the top 10 pieces of advice I would give my younger self right now.
This is important, because I think that hindsight can help others avoid similar mistakes in similar situations. My goal is to give you the tools to make the best impression possible, and thereby to live the best life possible, and this episode details 10 ways in which you can do that.
So grab a pen and paper if you’re taking notes, and pay careful attention to these 10 pieces of advice. They could save you a lot of time, energy, and effort, but only if you really take them to heart! Enjoy!
10 Pieces of Advice I Would Give My Younger Self 1. Pursue your dreams, not somebody else’s 2. Be present and enjoy the moment 3. Lose the guilt about being successful 4. Pay yourself first, and systemize self-improvement and self-investment 5. Find great mentors, and then eventually be a great mentor 6. Learn to use money effectively. If you don’t know how to use money, it will use you 7. Surround yourself with amazing relationships and people who love you 8. Tell yourself that you’re responsible for your own situation, and that you have the power to change it 9. Read the classics, and in general become a voracious reader and learner 10. Start now! The best time to plant a year is 10 years ago, and the second best time is right now
Mindset Takeaway: Don’t wait to become the person that you want to be! Do it now, and become the person you want to be, right now!
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode34
Show notes at: Realmenrealstyle.com/Episode33 Do you know what the biggest organ in your body is? It’s your skin! As the largest organ in your entire body, don’t you think that you should put some time and effort into making sure that it is taken care of? Simple processes put into place now can add up to big results and improvement in your skin down the road.
That’s the main point of this episode: Make sure that you have processes! Without them, you relying on remembering to do things occasionally, and with that much human error involved, a lot of it simply will not get done. This is the power of process - it takes the human error out of actually getting stuff done!
So if you’re wondering what specific processes you should be putting into place to make sure that your skin stays healthy and vibrant as you age, listen to this episode! Remember, your skin affects your entire life, and your entire life affects your skin! It’s a whole ecosystem, to make sure you prioritize taking care of it!
The 5-Mistakes 1. Not starting early. There’s no better time to take care of your skin than right now, regardless of your age 2. Not developing routines and systems to make sure skin care happens every day 3. Not having a shaving routine. See also Shave Map Infographic 4. Not scheduling haircuts 5. Not understanding the overall body system, and how your skin is related closely to the food you eat
Mindset Takeaway: As the biggest organ in your body, you skin is important! Put processes in place to make sure you take care of it every day.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Shave Map Infographic
Show notes at: Realmenrealstyle.com/Episode33
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode32 A lot of men don’t look quite a muscular and masculine as they would like. Some have a naturally skinny built, and it’s difficult to do much of anything about it. But you actually can change your perceived musculature and masculinity through a few basic tweaks in what you wear.
There are five specific tips, outlined below, that will go a long way. But through them all, one of the most important things to keep in mind is fit. Some people think that if you’re skinny, you should get looser fitting clothes to make you look bigger, but this is actually not the case! Looser fitting clothes accentuate the way the clothing drapes on you, causing you to look thinner and heading the wrong direction!
When a sports jacket or other clothing fits right, it gives the wearer the intended shape and look for the clothing, causing a much more masculine and well-built look in general. Use the below outlined five steps if you’ve always wanted to look bigger, but couldn’t seem to put on the muscle mass! There are ways to achieve a more masculine look, and that’s what I’m going over today!
General Takeaways: * Clothing can change the look and the silhouette of your body, and how muscular and masculine you are perceived * When you change your habits, it feels a bit strange at first, but work through it for the perception you want to give others
The 5-Tips: 1. Learn to love the long-sleeved shirt. If it’s hot out, roll your sleeves up to the elbow. Look for a strong collar to add a little weight to your neck 2. Blazers, sportcoats, and suit jackets. Jackets build up the shoulder, making you look stronger, and give you the V-shape 3. Learn to layer. More layers, done correctly and that fit you correctly, will give you a more built look 4. Use the horizontal line trick. Horizontal stripes make you look a bit stronger and bigger 5. Wear size enhancing textiles or fabrics, like flannels, tweeds, corduroys, and denim.
Mindset Takeaway: Use clothing and the 5-tips above to build up your perceived musculature and give you a stronger and bigger look.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode32
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode31 A lot of people think that in order to look good, you need to spend a small fortune on clothing, accessories, and toiletries. They think they’d love to look good, but they have to wait until they’re rich to get started. Gentleman, this is not the case! In this episode, I’m giving you tips on how to make a $100 budget go as far as possible to make you look the best you can!
One of the most important things to remember is to absolutely never compromise on fit. A lot of things are ok to compromise on, but the fit is something that you will really regret if you compromise on. This means you may need to take your clothing to a tailor, or learn how to make alterations yourself! But the time that you spend doing this will be well worth while, when all of your clothing fits appropriately, and makes you feel like $1 million!
So take a close look at the steps below to learn how you can look your best on a budget! Make sure the way you look and your presentation is part of your overall vision for who you want to turn into over time, and then be smart with your budget to look as much like that vision as you can!
5 Steps to Look Your Best for $100: 1. Never compromise on fit. Fit is of paramount importance. Learn how to make basic alterations 2. Key body accessories. The one thing you wear that is your key body accessory. Have fun with it, and own it! 3. Shoes: Set your expectations for your price range. You will get what you pay for. 4. Grooming: Have a regular haircut. Get the best you can afford, and get it on a regular basis. Pay attention to skin care. Go to the dentist regularly 5. Secondary accessories: Leather bags, portfolio, shades, hats
General Takeaways: * The vision of who you want to be should include what you look like, and your overall presentation * Take clothing to a tailor if it doesn’t fit right, or just learn to make alterations yourself! * Imitate someone that you want to look like * Look into thrift shops, garage sales, etc, if the budget is really tight * Educate yourself to look your best * Look into new brands of shoes to get better deals * Know what you’re looking for
Mindset Takeaways: Know that you don’t need a huge budget to look really good. Make the most of the money you have by being smart with it, to make the best impression you can!
Resources: The 5th (watches)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode30 There are a lot of stigmas surrounding jewelry, and whether or not men can or should wear it. The conversation can get heated on both sides, but today I want to walk you through the 7 mistakes around jewelry that men often make, to help you avoid them.
The history of jewelry and men shows that for many years it was considered a signal of status to wear jewelry. It was a way to show people the status you possessed, and your importance, and there is certainly still some of this idea ingrained in humans. If worn with confidence, jewelry can still be a strong signal of status and importance.
But jewelry must still be approached with caution, and a full awareness of the situation, and the impression that you would like to make on those around you. There are certainly circumstances where wearing jewelry is appropriate, but there are also times when it would be a detriment to the impression that you would like to make. Listen to this episode to understand the difference, and avoid the 7 mistakes men make with jewelry!
7-Mistakes Men Make with Jewelry 1. They assume that jewelry is feminine 2. Not wearing it with confidence 3. Not paying attention to the situation. Understand your environment and whether it’s appropriate or not 4. Not taking the jewelry in for maintenance or doing it yourself correctly. Fix loose stones, etc 5. Over accessorizing. Either wearing too much, or not enough. Understand the situation, and what it calls for. Go for a clean balance 6. Showering or swimming with jewelry 7. Not choosing the best piece for you. Look at your skin tone, and proportion correctly for your overall body size
Mindset Takeaway: Understand that jewelry can be manly, and can show status and confidence if worn correctly. But always be careful of your setting and aware of the impression that you want to give, and whether jewelry is helping or hindering.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode30
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode29 Watches can be an intimidating subject. Not only are nice ones often very expensive, but people who really know about watches are passionate and often very knowledgeable on the subject. If you feel overwhelmed, don’t worry, I was right there with you not that long ago. But I took the leap into the world of watches, and am so glad I did.
Watches represent a person’s connection with time in a way that a phone does not. The watch is always on your wrist as a reminder of the limited time you have to live your life, and a reminder to make the most of it. In addition, it’s far easier to check the time in a way that isn’t nearly as rude as pulling out a phone, and simply having a watch on your wrist really separates you from the crowd in today’s smart-phone driven world.
In this episode, I get into the 5-steps to remember when purchasing a watch. This is especially important for the novice or first-time watch buyer, as there is a plethora of options when it comes to watches, and it is easy to feel overwhelmed. So save this show notes page so you can reference it whenever you decide to take the plunge into the exciting world of watches!
Key Takeaways: * Watches are as much jewelry as functionality * Watches aren’t about telling time, but a man’s relationship with time * The best watches are the ones that you actually wear
5 Things to Look at When Buying a Watch: 1. Frequency of wear 2. Your personal needs and requirements 3. Your professional needs 4. The signal that you desire to send 5. Resale value
Mindset Takeaway: Use the above 5-step method to purchase a watch you really love and will wear for a long time, and wear it regularly to stand out from the crowd.
Resources: The Ultimate Guide to Watches: Free E-Book
The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode29
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode28 For a lot of people, shaving is simply something that has to be done. It’s a pure utility. But what if you were to experiment with creating a zen-like experience around this routine that men have done through the ages?
On this episode, I am outlining the 7 specific steps that will lead to the perfect shave. There is a lot of depth to what constitutes a truly great shave, and worth putting effort and time into. When you look good and sharp, you feel confident and give off the impression that you want to, and a really great shave will go a long way in getting you to that place.
So study the 7 steps, and put them into action! Experiment on a regular basis with the steps and the options available to you, knowing that everyone is unique, and what works for each person will be different. Take some time to find out what that is for you specifically, so that you can have a truly great shave every time.
Key Takeaways: * Try to transform shaving into an experience, almost a zen-like experience * Develop a routine around shaving * Don’t do any experiments of you have something important coming up that you need to look good for
The 7 Steps: 1. Prepare the shaving surface, by shaving as soon as you come out of the shower. Go over the shower with a warm towel 2. Up your shaving cream, know what’s available including soaps, and experiment with a variety. Apply with a shaving brush 3. Apply the cream, and then wait. Give it some time to enter the stubble. Maybe brush your teeth at this time, then, apply more shaving cream 4. Experiment with different types razors, including safety razors. Cartridges aren’t the only option, and will often cause ingrown hair. Really know what you’re doing before trying to use a straight razor. Look at one blade 5. Shave with the grain, only one pass, with small short strokes, light pressure, rinsing off every time. 6. Shave twice to get an amazing shave. The second time is when you can go against the grain if you have to. 7. Post shave care. Make sure you use an aftershave to replenish the skin
Video: 7 Steps to the Best Shave of Your Life
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Mindset Takeaway: Shaving can and sh
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode27 Today I have a very special episode for you. You’re about to listen to a conversation with Colonel Littleton of ColonelLittleton.com. This is an incredible brand for rugged accessories full of character. As we discuss, Colonel Littleton takes a lot of his inspiration from the military, past and present, and this results in pieces that have strong functionality and durability, but also a lot of character.
As Colonel Littleton says, clothing and especially accessories that will be with you for a long time become an essential part of the story of your life. Not only do they become props in the story of your life, but in some ways they even tell the story. Maybe it’s a small ding from a memorable trip, chew-marks from a favorite pet, or other remnants left behind on the item, when you buy something with quality and durability, the pieces can stand up to use, and live to tell the story.
This is what makes Colonel Littleton accessories so special: The stories they bear, as they go through life with you. We talk about this, as well as how Colonel Littleton runs his business with the golden rule in mind, and how he handles customers who are being ridiculous (hint: it’s not what you think). So listen all the way to the end and please enjoy this very special conversation with Colonel Littleton.
Key Takeaways: * Articles of clothing and especially accessories with character are fantastic conversation starters * The military is often a fantastic source of inspiration for rugged fashion, designed to get the job done! * In quality design and quality material, it just gets better with use and age * Accessories with character, that stay with you for a long time, fit into your story, and hold a special place in the story of your life * When businesses simply treat people they way that they would like to be treated, they will have success * In business, focus on the simplicity of creating something you would like and treating others the way you would like to be treated * When designing products, you often don’t know what will end up being a hit. You just have to do your best, and take advantage of the ones that do well, and learn from them
Mindset Takeaway: Make sure that you purchase quality items that can be with you a long time, because they will help you tell the story of your life, and will serve is props in that story.
Resources: The Personal Image System
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode26 When it comes to making a great impression on a regular basis, it’s important to have a formula. Anything that can be distilled into a simple, short, step-by-step formula can be followed over time, providing you with results.
That’s what I'm giving you in this episode: The 5 steps to the best presentation of yourself possible. This simplification will go a long ways in making it easier for you to know the correct next step to reach your goals in personal presentation. Follow these steps, and you’re well on your way to making a great impression everywhere you go!
Just 5 steps! Anyone can implement 5 steps! So get out a pen and paper, take some notes, put it on your fridge, or as the background on your phone, or anywhere that will remind you, and put these into practice every day if you want to see real results!
Key Takeaways: * A lot of times your personal presentation is what’s going to make the difference when you’re being compared with others with similar skills * Give compliments. When you start to give compliments, people compliment you back, and it feeds your process of improving your presentation * Find and refine your signature style over time
The First 5 Steps to Presenting the Best You 1. Know your emotional ‘why?’ Why do you want to dress better? Use that to motivate you 2. Seek and find inspiration. Find somebody, whether celebrity or other, who inspires you. Steal from those who inspire you 3. Purge your wardrobe. Take out any clothing you’re unlikely to want to wear 4. Develop outfits that are your go-to looks. There’s nothing wrong with men having uniforms 5. Start to find the key pieces of your wardrobe that you want to invest in, even getting multiples of items
Mindset Takeaway: Memorize the 5 steps in this episode! Put them somewhere you’ll remember them. Implement them daily for results.
Resources: The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode26
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode25 Words do not express everything. In fact, often far more is communicated during a conversation through body language than through speech. But men tend to be poor readers of body language, and that’s what this episode is all about: To teach you how to understand what is being silently communicated to you.
One practical step is to start to understanding that everyone has a baseline of posture and body-movement. Observe this in the people you hang around with, to start to understand what is normal for them. Then, when something is a bit off, or different, you will be able to spot it quickly, and work to understand what is really going on.
Understanding body language is extremely important to your ability to communicate with anyone better. So much is communicated through body language, and if you’re bad at reading it, you will simply end up missing out on a lot of what is communicated! So learn how to read body language effectively and quickly on this episode of The Personal Image System Podcast!
Key Takeaways: * People don’t express everything through words. A lot is expressed through body language * Men tend, in general, to be worse at reading body language effectively * Try to understand not only what is being said, but what is not being said yet still communicate, so that you can ask the right questions * Practice looking for and understanding body language * Start by looking at posture and stance. In control? Aggressive? Laid-back? * Maintain eye contact to show strength and dominance. Don’t look down * Changing your stance and posture not only affects others, but also the way you feel and act * Do NOT look at your phone during conversation * Try to understand a baseline of what is common body language for someone, so that you can understand when something unusual is going on
Mindset Takeaway: Pay careful attention to body language. Understand what someone’s baseline is, and when they are deviating from it in a way where you can understand that something could be silently being communicated.
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode25
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode24 Not everyone knows that the dress-code for a night on the town, whether clubs or other places, is actually quite different than that for business activities. The set of requirements for clothing, and the functions that it serves, are quite different, and those differences are what this episode is all about, to ensure that you are well prepared to make a good impression in your off hours on the town.
One of the key points to take away from this episode is to have a full understanding of where you’re going, the type of venue, the people you’re going with, and the impression that you want to make on them. Knowing this, you can select an outfit that fits the needs, whether your shoes need extra traction for the dance floor, you need to be able to peel off layers of your outfit for the heat of the club, or any other set of circumstances you will often encounter in different types of settings.
In addition, understanding the impression you want to make is also important. While this is officially relaxing time, you should understand that you’re always making an impression on your peers and others, and your time off is no exception. Consider setting up bottle service beforehand to make a really stunning impression on your friends and those with you, if you are willing to invest in the experience.
Knowing how to dress and handle yourself for a night on the town is essential to making a good impression, and that’s what you’ll learn on this episode. So grab a pencil and paper (or pull up your notes app on your phone…) and get ready to learn on this episode of The Personal Image System!
Key Takeaways: * The dress codes for clubs and nights out is quite different from the dress code for business * Know where you’re going, and what the code is * If you can get on the VIP list, you can actually break a lot of the dress code rules without a problem. Otherwise, you need to follow the dress code rules * Clubs want to create a certain ambience, so they are going to enforce the dress code * Know what type of club you’re going to (hip hop, gay, disco-tech, novelty, etc), and what is expected * Dress for the heat of a club. Regardless of outside temperature, clubs will probably be quite warm. Consider being able to take off layers inside * Dark colors work better at night, and draws you into the natural environment and makes you look better * Where shoes with a bit of traction, especially if a dance floor is involved
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode22 Many men often don’t put very much thought into their hair style. Their style is simply what they’ve always worn, perhaps how their parents did it for them, or how they’ve always done it. This a massive mistake, as their is a huge range of different stylistic and fashion statements that can be made with your hair, and your hair can have a real influence on the way you are perceived by others. To simply wear your hair a certain way because you always have is a waste of what could be a powerful influencing factor on your presentation.
Instead, take time to experiment with your hair! Find a good stylists who can try out some new looks, and allow yourself the freedom to do things you never have before! While experimenting and searching for new hair styles, use pictures of hairstyles that you like and would like to emulate to guide you on the path to the right one for you.
This episode is all about how you can use your hairstyle to positively impact the effect your personal presentation has on others. Don’t allow yourself to simply fall into your hairstyle, but rather make a conscious choice about your style, and use it to your advantage! Learn how you can do this and more on this episode of The Personal Image System Podcast!
Key Takeaways: * Hair is something that a lot of men don’t put a lot of thought into, but just keep with what they’ve always had * Instead of that, you should be purposeful about what you decide to do with your hair * Take time to experiment, find stylists who know what they’re doing, and try different things! * Look at pictures of men that are wearing their hair the way you want to, and model them. Having an end-goal helps a lot * If your hair is thinning, you probably want to at least consider shaving your head. Thinning hair is one of the weakest signals you can send * If you’re trying something radically different, spend time around people you don’t know as well, and you’ll probably find that they don’t think it’s extreme * Experiment with a lot of different products to find what you want. Focus on hold and shine * Hold is more important for longer hair, where they want it to do something specific * Shine tends to give your hair more of a formal look, no-shine is more natural
Mindset Takeaway: Don’t just do what you’ve always done with your hair. Take time to experiment and try new hairstyles, and while you experiment, have an end goa
Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode21 Habit is one of the most powerful tools that humans have at their disposal. When it comes to effecting real change, and accomplishing large goals, there is nothing as powerful or effective as steady progress toward those goals, and that is what a habit can accomplish. Habits have the almost magical power of breaking up very long-term processes into steps, and giving you consistency in reaching them. This is the secret of really stylish men: They have made good fashion a habit.
Small activities that are accomplished every day without fail give you not only consistent progress toward accomplishing your goals but, in essence, they fool-proof your style to help you dress well every single day even if other things go wrong. For example, if you make the habit, every single day, of laying out your outfit for the following day the night before, then when you accidentally sleep in, your outfit will not suffer, because it’s actually easier to put on the clothes you careful choose and laid out the night before.
This is just one of many examples of the ways in which habits are a powerful tool to help you dress better and come across as more accomplished and confident. Listen to this episode to get the rest of the habits you should be making a part of your everyday, such as shoe care and clothing repair. Learn how to leverage habits to be your best self through good style on this episode of The Personal Image System!
Key Takeaways: * There’s no one big change that will make you better able to leverage the power of style. It’s small changes, consistently over time. It’s habits * When you employ habits to help you be more stylish, you are using one of the most powerful tools humans have * Small changes, things that you do daily, are what is going to help you really become a better dressed and more stylish man * One of the key habits is taking care of your shoes. Clean, condition, and polish your shoes. Get a simple shoe shine box. Just having the box, and everything you need to clean and shine your shoes in one place, will make you far more likely to do it * Clean your shoes daily, and condition them weekly. * Polishing will help prevent salt and other things get on and in your shoes. It protects the material * When you have good footwear, and you take care of it, it only looks better with time * Make a habit of taking care of your clothing. For instance, if you see a button about to fall off, don’t put it off until later. Fix it right then * Brush your suit after you wear it * Lay out your clothing the night before * Consider using a subscription service * Schedule your barber visits beforehand
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Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode20 How are your shopping skills? If you’re like most guys, you’ve probably never even considered the notion that shopping was a skill worth improving. Chances are, when you really, desperately need something (often the day or even just hours before), you find yourself at the store, frantically searching for the right outfit for that special occasion. Retailers understand that at this moment, you are easy prey, and will absolutely take advantage of you.
Don’t fall for the trap! You’re better than that! When you buy things out of necessity, in the moment, you almost never walk away with a good deal, and more often than not, you end up paying far more than you should. Instead, be prepared for the events that you know that life is going to throw at you. Save money and buy higher quality than you would otherwise be able to, by keeping your eyes open, knowing what quality looks/feels like, and jumping on good deals when you find them.
That is what this episode of The Personal Image System is all about - give you the tools that you need to become an expert shopper, especially for clothing and style related products. Spending your money wisely, on good quality clothing, is an art, and one that not nearly enough men have taken the time to perfect. But you can! Listen up, pay careful attention and maybe even take notes on this episode of The Personal Image System!
Key Takeaways: * A lot of guys get taken advantage of by retailers, because they’re clueless when it comes to shopping * Buy what you need before you need it. Be prepared! Otherwise, you will end up paying far too much, the day before you really need something * Don’t buy something just for one occasion. * Don’t fall for deals if the clothing isn’t exactly what you want, fits you perfectly, and is the right look. The most expensive clothing is the clothing that you never wear * Understand what good quality looks/feels like. Experience good quality, so that you know it when you see it, and you know if you’re getting a good deal or not * Go to luxury clothing stores, not to necessarily buy, but to become familiar with quality * Only buy items that you are going to use
Mindset Takeaway: Prepare for the events in your life that you know
Shownotes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode19 Did you know that shoes are the foundation your wardrobe? When asked, women will often cite the shoes as one of the first aspects of a man that they will notice. Good, high quality shoes are absolutely essential to bringing together an outfit, and poor quality, cheap shoes will definitely ruin your look. So be prepared to invest in them! This is where many men can be tripped up. You should expect to invest between $300-$400 in a good pair of dress shoes, making them one of the most expensive single items in your wardrobe.
Why are quality shoes important enough to warrant that kind of investment? Throughout history, shoes have been a sign of power. In fact, medieval times and even later, shoes were considered a luxury, and not something that everyone could afford.Therefore, wearing shoes was a way to show your standing in society, and the make and quality would contribute to that standing.
It seems that we are still influenced by the history of the shoe, as study after study shows that shoes make an extremely pronounced difference on how someone is perceived. With this understanding, and the historical knowledge of why society is this way, and why it is so important, hopefully you will take the time to really learn about what you should be looking for in a good pair of shoes, what variety of types are essential for your wardrobe, and how to find the best deal that will fit your unique needs. Learn all that and more on this episode of The Personal Image System Podcast!
Key Takeaways: * Shoes are one of the items that you can and should spend a fair of money on * Having shoes at all used to be sign of wealth. They were a luxury * When asked, women they will often say that shoes are one of the first things that they will notice about a man * Shoes have a long history of giving us an idea of someone’s position in society * Expect to pay $300 - $400 for quality shoes * Look for stitching. Lower quality will have glue, higher will be stitched together * Look for a shoe company that has a good after-sale process and assurance policy * All of the signs of good dress shoes also applies to boots * Get on good vendor’s email lists and watch for discount codes! * When yo
While manners are cross-cultural, and apply to all people groups and mindsets, etiquette refers to specific rules, set by societies and groups, for standard behavior under certain circumstances. Etiquette is extremely important in making a good impression, and the fact that you took the time to research and become good at etiquette actually shows another level of investment and may mean even more to those you want to make a good impression on.
So research is essential if you want to be good at etiquette. If you’re going to a party or gathering, know what is expected of you, and the environment that you’re going into, and make sure you meet those expectations. Do your homework! You may be surprised at how good the impression that you make can be if you just do some simple research.
That’s what this entire podcast is all about. Giving you the tools, helping you with your research, so that you can come across as a more accomplished, thoughtful, likeable person. If you want to be successful in your efforts in like life, regardless of what those efforts are, making a good impression on those around you will be one of the most important aspects of what you do, and that’s what this episode is all about. So learn how to make the best impression possible on this episode of The Personal Image System.
Key Takeaways: + Etiquette: The sum of your behaviors and how they measure up to other people’s expectations + These are the rigid rules in a society, and it’s going to be very different in different cultures + Because of this, research on etiquette is essential, and very worthwhile if you want to create a good impression + Always be aware of the situation and the expectations of other people + Be thoughtful of what the guest has requested, and what would make them the most happy and at rest + Confidence is not about aggression over assertiveness, it’s about you doing your homework, knowing what is expected of you, and making a good impression + Always look for ways that you can add value, and make other’s lives easier. Think of others + Always attempt to be a positive presence, and that your presence is changing the dynamic of the room of the better + Make a habit of thoughtful gestures. Look for things that need to be d
Manners are one of the most underrated aspects of what can make someone successful. People make snap judgements about you based on how you greet them, where you look, what you say, how you stand, and a myriad of other things. Most of these things that people notice right away can be improved through your learning good manners.
Details about how and if you greet people walking by them on the street, where you sit at a table, when you start eating, if you can lean on your elbows, if you should raise your voice, if you should tuck your dress shirt in, if you should get the door for women, and so much more. On this episode, we’re digging into the nitty gritty and giving you lots of information on how to skyrocket your manners, and through them, your impact.
What is most important is that you take the advice in this episode to heart, and practice consistently at home. Some will tend to save their good manners and behavior for those times when they really need them, when they’re meeting with an important person. But if you take that tactic, your manners will come off as stiff and unnatural. If you make good manners a habit at home, you will seem like a natural, creating a good impression everywhere you go. So make a habit of implementing the advice in this episode everyday, with everyone you interact with, both at home and abroad.
Key Takeaways: * Manners are one of the most underrated aspects of being successful * People make very quick decisions about you based on your manners * Manners are all about making other people’s lives easier and more enjoyable * Manners travel quite well across cultures * Etiquette is much more specific to the culture, and require a bit more research * If you want to have good manners, it all starts at home with forming habits * When you go somewhere, assume there will be a set place for you to sit, and ask. If there isn’t, just sit with who you came with * As far as when to eat, follow other’s lead. Don’t jump in, but act after others * If everyone is being served, a general rule is that if 3 out of 4 peopl
Beards have made a tremendous resurgence of late. Out of style for most of the 90’s and 2000’s, they’re comeback is apparent everywhere you look. But the question of whether they’re the right decision for you personally still depends on several factors, and that’s what this episode of The Personal Image System is all about.
This episode goes through the studies that have been done regarding facial hair, and its effect on the those who interact with the person who touts it. Men with beards tend to come off as more aggressive, older, and more commanding than those without. Contrarily, those with completely shaven faces will be considered younger, and kinder. The question is what message you want to send. If you are reaching an older age, and are attempting to display a younger version of yourself, perhaps completely shaven look is the right one for you. Conversely, if your goal is to look a bit older than you are, perhaps more mature, a well-groomed beard might be a smart decision.
We dig into all of this and more, including questions about whether it may be a good idea to shave your head at some point, when hair starts to thin,and what effect that will have on people who interact with you. If you want to learn about the right circumstances and reasons to grow or shave both facial hair and hair on the top of your head, then this episode is for you! Get ready to learn and grow on this episode of The Personal Image System.
Key Takeaways: * A study showed that professional baseball players with beards outperformed those without in the previous decade of all-star games * Beard care and maintenance is essential, if you decide that facial hair is the right thing for you * Beards send a strong message of masculinity * Research shows that aggressive men with beards come off as more scary than those without * Beards will make you look older and more mature * Not all beards are created equal. Not all men can grow a good beard * Contrarily, if you want to come off as more youthful, consider shaving your beard * Completely shaven faces are sometimes considered more attractive and social * A shaved head will often come across as more dominant, confident, masculine, older, taller and stronger. unshaved: more attractive
Mindset Takeaway: Understand the effect that facial hair, or a bald head, will have on your presentation. As always, know your audience and the role you wa