The Honey Be Podcast: Recent Episodes
Vena M. Wilson, LCSW
Vena M. Wilson, LCSW- along her guests, will identify strategies, share insights, and provide guidance on ways to enhance harmony, peace, and healing in the relationships we have with our friends, our family members, as well as the relationship that we have with ourselves.
Mia Reid, MA, LCMHC, LLPC is the founder of "Change Happens Today", a private practice agency located in Southfield, Michigan. Mia has over 25 years of experience working in higher education, where she assists students with problems solving conflicts and crafting helpful resolutions to the matters that impact their daily functioning. In her practice, she provides support to clients who experience various concerns related to stress, anxiety, depression, grief, ADHD, mood disorders, and PTSD. In addition to her work with adolescents and adults, Mia is a proponent of group therapy as an extremely beneficial way for group members to reduce their sense of isolation by connecting with their peers.
- How the loss of her child informed her drive to work with individuals suffering from grief and trauma
- How she is able to help clients navigate the grief process
- The difference between acute grief and complicated grief
- The importance of therapy when dealing with the grieving process
- How combining her faith with her therapy allowed her to enter a growth mindset and move forward
Resources:
https://changehappenstoday.com/
https://www.facebook.com/MiaRReid
https://twitter.com/@LlcHappens
https://www.instagram.com/change_happenstoday
Dr. Angela Roman Clack is a licensed psychotherapist, doctorly-trained clinician, and owner of Clack Associates LLC, a private practice outpatient counseling center in Southern New Jersey. She has over 25 years of experience working in the mental health field. In 2002, she earned her doctorate in clinical psychology from Argosy University in Washington, D.C.
Dr. Clack is known for her ability to teach, supervise, coach and provide training in various areas pertaining to children, adolescents and their families. She provides treatment for individuals dealing with depression, anxiety, grief and loss, as well as general emotional distress and to those who experience difficulties in their relationships with others.
In this episode, we discuss:
- What lead her to becoming a psychologist with the focus of working with women of color dealing with trauma and depression
- The importance of being able to connect and gain trust with clients
- The prevalence of generational trauma with women of color
- How trauma affects your physical health as well as your mental health
- Areas non-minority clinicians should be mindful of when working with women of color who've experienced trauma or depression
- Her new book, Women of Color Talk: Psychological Narratives on Trauma and Depression
Resources:
https://www.clackassociates.com/
https://www.facebook.com/angela.clack.7
https://www.linkedin.com/in/angela-clack-96700812
https://www.instagram.com/clackangela/
Laterria Patton is a writer, healer, and activist who produces content about nutrition that promotes reproductive health as well as hormonal balance specifically for black women.
In this episode, we discuss:
- What is emotional eating?
- How women's hormones affect their emotions and how what we eat affects our hormones
- Recommendations on how to keep your hormones balanced on a consistent basis
- How food deserts disproportionately affect black and Latin women
Resources:
https://medium.com/@laterriapatton
https://twitter.com/laterriapatton_
Vena M. Wilson, LCSW shares valuable information about how resilience is developed in a child and
ways that adults can promote/enhance a youth’s innate resilience after adversity.
The Science of
Resilience
–
Center on The Developing Child at Harvard
University
Erica Fryenberg. ‘Coping and The Challenge of Resistance’
Sarah Hudson, Ph.D. ‘Overcoming Adversity’ As Written in Policy, Vol. 32, No.3, Spring 2016
Vena M. Wilson, LCSW responds to a letter from a curious listener who wants to know whether spanking a child, (corporal punishment) is a beneficial approach to get children to follow rules. Vena offers ideas and strategies to reduce the possibility of long-term, negative consequences due to ineffective discipline approaches.
https://www.healthychildren.org: What’s the Best Way To Discipline My Child and
https://www.healthychildren.org: How to Give A Time Out
Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University: Toxic Stress (Video)
The American Academy of Pediatrics: Spanking and Child Development Across the First Decade of Life
This episode was recorded during the holiday season but the tips on how to heal and establish support outside of your biological family are solid all year ‘round.
Vena Wilson, LCSW is joined by author Anita Washington as they discuss different ways you can protect yourself from dysfunctional and toxic family members. The conversation covers how to set a personal baseline, stay in control and how to transform the negative energy you may encounter during this time of year.
Resources:
Anita Washington’s Book Family Is Not Everything: How to Minimize Their Mess, Maximize Your Happiness and Enjoy Emotional Baggage Breakthroughs
Can be purchased at:
Amazon: AnitaTheAuthor.com/FINEamazon
Barnes & Noble: AnitaTheAuthor.com/FINEbn
On Social Media You Can Follow or Like:
YouTube Channel: ThatAnitaLive.com/youtube
Instagram: @ThatAnitaLive
Facebook Page: @thatAnitaLive
Many if not most people have had a nightmare, but what to do if they occur so often you dread going to sleep? Vena Wilson, LCSW discuses how to manage this type of anxiety and fear by sharing tip from Dr. Barry Krakow’s nightmare protocol. She explains what image rehearsal therapy is and how it works.
Please be advised this work is best done in conjunction with a licensed mental health therapist. If you do decide to do so alone it is very important to start with the nightmare that is least traumatic to you.
Resources:
The Cognitive Behavioral Coping Skills Workbook for PTSD: Overcome Fear and Anxiety and Reclaim Your Life (Chapter Nine: Taking Control Back From Your Nightmares)
Brief Guide to Image Rehearsal Therapy for Nightmare Disorders
https://psychcentral.com/blog/a-brief-guide-to-imagery-rehearsal-therapy-irt-for-nightmare-disorders-for-clinicians-and-patients/
Vena Wilson, LCSW, reflects upon a recent study about self injurious behavior in adolescent girls.
She reminds the listener that self harm is not usually to attention seek or manipulate those around them. She discusses some reasons why this behavior might occur and the importance of early intervention from a licensed professional.
Resources:
https://myfox28columbus.com/news/local/new-osu-study-finds-brain-changes-found-in-self-injuring-teen-girls
Vena Wilson, LCSW fields a question from a father who is concerned about his 15 year old son’s romantic relationship. She has some recommendations for how to frame the messages we are sharing with our child about love outside of the familial context.
Ernesto Segismundo, LMFT joins the #TheHoneyBePodcast to talk about ways to cope if you are encountering the downsides of success. He and Vena Wilson, LCSW our host discuss the cultural attitudes that can act to shame individuals who achieve their goals-be it professional, educational or spiritual. The conversation hopes to be inspirational and informative for those who are struggling for support despite doing all the “right” things.
Ernesto Segismundo is a licensed marriage and family therapist practicing in Fullerton CA
Website: Fylmit.com
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bhVqNRdH80&feature=youtu.be
Twitter: https://twitter.com/ernestolmft?lang=en
October is Bullying Prevention month and even though the month is coming to an end, strategies to support youth who are the target of mistreatment should be implemented all year round. Vena Wilson, LCSW uses this episode of #TheHoneyBe Podcast to discuss how technology has changed peer relations and ways to recognize when a young person you love might be at risk of suicide as a result of bullying.
In this episode of #TheHoneyBePodcast, Vena Wilson, LCSW speaks with Dr. Whitney Owens about the benefits that yoga has on the mind, one’s sense of awareness, as well as ideas to allow one to incorporate the practice in their daily lives. To learn more about Dr. Owens, check out her social media pages:
Instagram: @yog_e_motion
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YogEMotion/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Owens-Psychological-Services-100261180034855/
Paying attention on purpose does not come easily to everyone. Starting something new such as mindfulness can be challenging so Vena Wilson, LCSW offers some support. During this episode she reads two scripts for your listening pleasure.
They are best listened to in a space and place in which you have no distractions.
Exercise #1 starts at 3:28
Exercise #2 starts at 7:43
Resources for this episode are: DBT Training Manual, Second Edition - Mindfulness Module
https://www.amazon.com/DBT%C2%AE-Skills-Training-Manual-Second/dp/1462516998
If you’d like to learn about the three states of mind and ways to explore mindfulness this episode of #TheHoneyBePodcast is for you. Vena Wilson, LCSW gives seven concrete ways to pay more attention on purpose. These tips can benefit you both in your daily routine and long term as it can help each of us find the inherent wisdom we have within.
Mindfulness is the topic Vena Wilson, LCSW talks about today on #TheHoneyBe Podcast. It is a word frequently used but Vena explores what it means both on a personal and professional level as a Dialectal Behavior Therapist. She talks about the mind body connection and how we can make wise and effective choices regarding our emotions in both in the long & short term. Join her and learn ways mindfulness can become a beneficial part of your everyday life.
On this episode of #TheHoneyBePodcast, Vena Wilson, LCSW discusses the issues that face siblings of children who have physical or emotional special needs. This topic is particularly close to home because of Vena’s own life experiences. The complex emotions that both parents and typically abled siblings face can impact the growth and wellness of the family as a whole. Vena talks about the validity of grief and loss while suggesting ways for support and empowerment.
Resources for this show
Sibling Support Project at siblingsupport.org.
Please be warned this episode of #TheHoneyBePodcast deals with highly sensitive subject matter.
Vena Wilson, LCSW hears from a panicked parent whose young teen daughter has become involved with an older man who is trying to lure her away from home with promises of material gains in exchange for sex. She is honored to be joined in this conversation with Karen Diers, director of Refuge for Women Las Vegas, an organization providing specialized long-term care for women who have escaped human trafficking or sexual exploitation. The information Karen has to share is sobering but important to know to protect children you know and love.
Karen Diers can be reached by email karen.diers@refugeforewomen.org or by phone at 702-518-4451.
REFUGE FOR WOMEN LAS VEGAS MEDIA KIT:
http://www.rfwlasvegas.org/contact-us/
REFUGE TRAFFICKING 101 VIDEO:
https://www.facebook.com/refugeforwomenlv/videos/1279312348788652/
Arizona State University School of Social Work- Teen Sex Trafficking Intervention Research
https://socialwork.asu.edu/stir/training
The Honey Be Podcast tackles Parentification or what happens when there is a significant role reversal within the parent/child relationship. This can take the form of the oldest child in the home having to take on responsibility for both themselves and younger children in the household. Vena Wilson, LCSW talks about the different forms this dynamic can take and ways to both avoid and halt it if you believe it may be an issue for a child you care about.
Further Information about this topic can be found from the works of
Dr. Lisa M. Hooper from The University of Louisville. http://guru.louisville.edu/parentification/index.html
and
Leslie Kolb, MSW of RecoveryHelpNow.Com
In this week’s episode of #TheHoneyBePodcast Vena Wilson, LCSW is joined by Dr. JaNae Taylor of Taylor Counseling and Consulting Services based in Virginia Beach, Virginia. Dr. Taylor is a psychologist who specializes in helping Black people process and cope with experiences and trauma perpetuated by racism.
Join them as they explore the definition of “micro aggressions”, their impact on a person’s humanity and advice on how to navigate a world full of them. The conversation also includes tips for parents and other caregivers on how to advocate for the children in their lives.
For more about Dr. Taylor please visit her website:
http://www.taylorcounselingconsultingservices.com/
and follow her on
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drjanaetaylor/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjanaetaylor/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Mindingmyblkbiz
Vena Wilson, LCSW talks with Dr. Laura Louis about how to navigate co parenting after a divorce or separation. This episode of the #HoneyBePodcast explores how to set your children up for success within this dynamic and avoid putting them in psychologically damaging situations.
Visit Dr. Laura at her website: www.AtlantaCoupleTherapy.com
And be sure to like her on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/giftedcounseling/
Follow Dr. Laura on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrLauraSpeaks
Follow Dr. Laura on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/bettertogetherrelationship/
Pin Dr. Laura on Pinterest:https://www.pinterest.com/bettertoget0144/pins/
Connect with Dr. Laura on LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/drlauralouis/
On this episode of #TheHoneyBePodcast , Vena Wilson, LCSW has a conversation with life coach, Elena Perella. Having lived around the world, Elena found her calling: enabling people from all walks of life to be receptive of their own emotions as well as of those around them. The conversation delves into Elena’s awakening and recovery from the toxic emotional baggage of her childhood and how that has informed her work to help others do the same.
Elena Perella, Life Coach http://www.sentidu.com/elena-perella.html
Twitter: https://twitter.com/ElenaPerella?lang=e
Adoption and Attachment is the topic of this week’s Honey Be Podcast with Vena Davis, LCSW.
Please note the focus of this episode are issues related to children who have experienced severed contact with their biological parent and/or chaotic or neglectful parenting while in their care.
Vena talks about approaches that may help an adoptive parent develop and sustain a healthy and loving relationship with their child.
Child Trauma Academy - http://childtrauma.org/ - Dr. Bruce Perry
Inward Bound, LLC - Jennifer Winkelmann, LPC, NCC - inwardboundco.com
Cornerstone Counseling - Ray Kinney, LPC - http://www.cornerstonecounseling.com/index.htm
AdoptionWorld.net
The recent deaths of two high profile people has brought the topic of suicide to the forefront of our national conversation.
This episode explores a topic many adults find uncomfortable, signs that a child you love may be contemplating suicide.
Vena Davis, LCSW, talks about some of the challenges children today face and how the adults in their lives can be of help.
Resources
Society for the Prevention of Teen Suicide
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1.800.273.8255
Crisis Text Line
Text TALK to 741741
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
https://afsp.org/
Vena Davis, LCSW is joined by Dr. Ana Olivares as they continue to discuss mental health issues faced by people who are undocumented. Dr. Olivares stresses the importance of being informed and nonjudgmental and ways you can be of support to this vulnerable population.
Please learn more about Dr. Olivares work at eatingdisordertx.com.
Vena Davis, LCSW is joined by Dr. Ana Olivares as they discuss some of the psychological ramifications people who are undocumented immigrants experience. The conversation will primarily focus on children who have a parent facing deportation.
Please learn more about Dr. Olivares work at eatingdisordertx.com.
Vena Davis, LCSW, continues the tough discussion of intrafamilial sexual abuse commonly known as incest. She discusses some suggestions on how parents can cope and begin to heal both their children and themselves in the aftermath of this type of trauma.
For further resources and information please visit The National Child Traumatic Stress Network at nctsn.org
Discretion is advised as in this episode, Vena Davis, LCSW discusses the sexual abuse of children by family members or close relations. She explores some warning signs that parents should be mindful of as well as some of the fears and concerns that young people may have after they experience this kind of trauma. This a difficult topic but one that must be addressed as incest impacts many children from all walks of life.
Resources for this Episode:
The Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network at RAINN.org
The National Child Traumatic Stress Network, which can be found at nctsn.org
Host Vena Davis, LCSW talks to A. Raymond Johnson, a Licensed Massage and Body Work Therapist based in Asheville, North Carolina.
Raymond explains what shiatsu is, how it can help with many challenges including insomnia and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and some tips if you don’t have access to a shiatsu practitioner.
Website: MountainZenShiatsu.com
Email: mountainzenshiatsu@gmail.com
Twitter: @raymondj & @mtnzenshiatsu
Instagram: @araymondj & @mountainzenshiatsu
Facebook.com/MountainZenShiatsu
Music: Purplefluorite.bandcamp.com (or find me on: Spotify, Tidal, iTunes/Apple Music, GooglePlay, Amazon, Deezer)
To find a shiatsu worker near you, they can check out the AOBTA website http://www.aobta.org/find-a-practitioner
Our host Vena Davis is joined by Nina Perales, a fellow LCSW, practicing in Las Vegas.
They discuss what Integrated Behavioral Health is, how it differs from traditional outpatient therapy and how this approach can have improved long term outcomes.
To find out more about Nina Perales and her practice Strategies for Conscious Change please visit
http://sfcchange.com
Vena Davis, LCSW is joined by licensed psychologist Dr. Adrianna Zimring a specialist in pediatric neuropsychology. Dr. Zimring brings her substantial experience and education to help answer a question from a listener who wonders what steps she should take to best help her 13 year old son with his struggles in school.
Find out more about neurological psychological testing, what it means and how the findings can benefit a child you care about.
Resources Adrianna Wechsler Zimring is a licensed psychologist who specializes in pediatric neuropsychological evaluation and evidence-based treatment with children and adolescents. Dr. Zimring holds a Masters degree in education from Harvard University and a Ph.D in psychology from UNLV. In 2014, she returned to the greater Las Vegas area and established a private practice. In addition, Dr. Zimring currently serves as an adjunct associate professor in the Department of Psychology at UNLV and as president of the Nevada Psychological Association.
Vena Davis, LCSW is joined by fellow LCSW, Denise Rice
as they discuss a listener question from a an uncle who recently became the legal guardian to his 11 year old nephew. Even if you are not trying to integrate a child into your family you may still benefit from learning ways to support young people who are suffering grief, trauma or neglect. Resources For This EpisodeDenise Rice, LCSW, ACSW, LAC has been collaborating, training, supporting, and partnering with those in Child Welfare and Mental Health for over 18 years. Whether as a local and national trainer, therapist, consultant, crisis assessment specialist, or front line worker, Denise’s mission is to share the message Have Hope! Honor Healing! Practice Peace! Denise currently works as a Crisis Assessment Specialist in the emergency department for Penrose-St. Francis Hospital, is an adjunct faculty at the University of Denver Graduate School of Social Work, and is a contract trainer for The Adoption Exchange and AspenPointe. Denise conveys the passion to inspire those who are caring for and supporting children and youth by transitioning into a more regulated life! Denise lives in Colorado Springs with her kitty, Chloe. You can reach Denise at DeniseRice@Hotmail.com
In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Lindsay Ricciardi, a psychologist in the field of eating disorders and related concerns. We discuss an email from the mother of a teenage athlete concerned about some new behaviors she's observing from her child. Dr. Ricciardi educates us on anorexia, bulimia and dispels some common myths about disordered eating.
Helpful Resources
"I'm, Like, SO Fat!": Helping Your Teen Make Healthy Choices About Eating and Exercise in a Weight-Obsessed World by Dianne Neumark-Sztainer
For more about Dr. Ricciardi please visit:
lasvegaseatingdisorders.com and on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=%40drlindseylasvegas
Please Note: This podcast is for self-help purposes only and any information contained within it is not meant to replace or be in lieu of therapy with a licensed professional.
This week on The Honey Be Podcast, Vena Davis, LCSW, speaks with Michelle Costigan, a licensed clinical professional counselor, licensed clinical alcohol & drug counselor, and registered art therapist. Michelle talks with us about the effects that substance abuse has on family dynamics and shares self-care strategies for family members who are dealing with a loved one struggling with addiction.
Resources:
Website: www.unchartedterritorycounseling.com/
Facebook: unchARTedTerritoryCounseling
Instagram: uncharted_territory_counseling
Dr. Courtney Haight joins us as we explore how to get your child to demonstrate desired behaviors. An email from a parent who is in a battle of wills over the state of his preteen son's bedroom give us a chance to discuss parenting strategies and how to adapt and revise them as your child ages to create a balanced and harmonious household.
Helpful Resources
- The Everyday Parenting Toolkit: The Kazdin Method for East, Step-by-Step, Lasting Change for You and Your Child by Alan Kazdin
- Your Defiant Child: 8 Steps to Better Behavior by Russell A. Barkley and Christine M. Benton
- Your Defiant Teen: 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship by Russell A. Barkley and Arthur L. Robin
- Effective Child Therapy (http://effectivechildtherapy.org). A website that details evidenced-based mental health treatment for children and adolescents.
- APA Psychology Help Center (www.apa.org/helpcenter ). The American Psychological Associations Help Center that details a variety of information on psychological well-being.
Please Note: This podcast is for informational purposes only and not to be used to replace of be in lieu of therapy with a licensed professional. In addition, Dr. Haight is not responsible for the content, claims or representations of the listed sites and providers.
Join Vena Davis, LCSW, on this episode of The Honey Be Podcast as she discusses ways parents and care givers can help children who have sustained complex trauma.
Vena reminds listeners that the goal is not perfection but consistent and compassionate support to young people who have experienced prolonged or a repetitive series of painful events.
Resources
Complex Trauma written by Dr. Matthew Kliethermes, Dr. Megan Schacht, and Kate Drewry, LCSW
Parenting a Child Who Has Experienced Trauma from the Child Welfare Information Gateway (childwelfare.gov)
Juli Alvarado, LPC, NCC with Alvarado Consulting and Treatment Group (https://alvaradoconsultinggroup.com/)
During a recent segment on the 60 Minutes television program, Oprah Winfrey helped put a spotlight on all the ways childhood trauma can impact a person's entire life span.
Join Honey Be Podcast host, Vena Davis, LCSW for the first of two episodes in which she explores complex childhood trauma. She discusses the physical and emotional repercussions that can happen when you experience a series of events that are disturbing, neglectful or detrimental. Resources The National Child Traumatic Stress Network
Mercedes Samudio, LCSW and Amazon best-selling author of Shameproof Parenting, joins us as we discuss a listener's question on how to parent a defiant teenager.
Mercedes talks about the enormous societal pressure to 'always have things figured out' while raising children who are displaying strong emotions-especially when so often adults have learned to stifle or mute their own feelings.
You can find more of Mercedes' work here:
The Family Couch Show
Shame-Proof Parenting: Find your unique parenting voice, feel empowered, and raise whole, healthy children
In this episode of The Honey Be Podcast, Dr. Robyn Donaldson – licensed clinical psychologist, certified yoga instructor, and co-founder of SolaceClub, LLC shares strategies and insights on ways that parents can discuss grief subsequent to death and dying with their children.
Resources:
SolaceClub, LLC
The Dinner Party
Dr. Robyn Donaldson’s WebTV Show
Solace Club Facebook Page
Solace Club Twitter Page
Solace Club Instagram Page
Self Injury Awareness Day is March 1st. A large number of young people engage in cutting, extreme scratching, skin carving, self medicating and other detrimental behaviors. Faced with a daughter who is cutting, a listener asks Vena Davis, LCSW the best way forward to help and support her child. Vena discusses the role of the brain in relation to self harm and the biological and emotional impact of heightened tolerances to pain. Resources Cornell University Injury & Self Harm Resources Self Abuse Finally Ends http://myhoneybeetherapy.com
This episode explores a topic many adults find uncomfortable, signs that a child you love may be contemplating suicide.
Vena Davis, LCSW, talks about some of the challenges children today face and how the adults in their lives can be of help.
Resources
Society for the Prevention of Teen Suicide
Vena hears from a person whose emotions are causing major disruptions in their life. This episode discusses brain chemistry and strategies on how to skillfully cope if your emotional range leaves you feeling overwhelmed.
Resources
mindfulness.org
DBT Skills Training Manual by Marsha M. Linehan
Child Trauma Academy founded by Dr. Bruce Perry
Welcome to the Honey Be Podcast.
I'm your host, therapist Vena Davis, a LCSW practicing in Las Vegas, Nevada, helping people deal with strong emotions including suicidal ideation.
My specialty is using Dialectical Behavior Therapy with people of all ages but especially tweens and teens.
For more about DBT, please check out:
What is Borderline Personality Disorder?
The High Conflict Couple (It's not just for couples, it is helpful for all relationships)
Don't Let Emotions Run Your Life For Teens (A great workbook for teens)
Helping Teens Who Cut (A great book for parents of teens who self-injure)
