Brown and Happy: Recent Episodes
Dr. Payal Patel Ghayal
Brown women work so hard and invest decades to do all the right things. Despite following the perfect checklist to do everything the way she should, she's still not happy. I have been down that path of doctor, wife, daughter and mother- and totally get it! I am a certified life and parent coach after a career change from an exhausted, overwhelmed, unfulfilled four decades. In this podcast we discuss how South Asian women look happy on the outside but are suffering on the inside. These women feel ashamed to admit it because they think they should just be grateful.
I bring forward topics that exist but have been brushed underneath the rug for centuries. Some of the topics include the over-involvement of our families in our personal lives and the constant habit of doubt ourselves before making decisions to avoid making a mistake. It's time to change the trajectory of your life now and generations to come with the coaching tools I share and teach.
I coach South Asian women in my private coaching program and currently accepting new clients. Book a call to connect and inquire about availability.
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You can be the boss of your own life too!
It is in reach for all of but most of us just don't know it's possible. Embracing the parts of you that you love and letting go of the heavy, critical, unhealthy parts of you is 100% doable and I can help.
I share my own journey and the shifts that my clients have made too.
You don't have to burn down everything you have built thus far, just stop and learn tools that give you permission to say no to the expectations and yes to your dreams.
Book a time to meet with me and explore your next steps. https://calendly.com/payalmd/consultation
Ever been called an alpha woman?
I was because I have opinions, I speak up and advocate for what I believe in.
Men call women aggressive, bossy, opinionated and loud when they don't know how to react to women who no longer stay within the boundaries that they have created.
The added layer of a Brown woman weighs down in a unique way. Humility is a virtue keeps you from self promoting. Who wins in this situation?- They do.
Join me as we discuss how we can support other women in the professional spaces.
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Have you ever been judged by your appearance?
I remember being told that since my skin was darker that I should wear more muted colors to compliment my skin tone. Sounds nice- right?? Nope- that comment made me avoid wearing bright colors for three decades.
What subtle messages are you believing that aren't true? In this episode we dive deeper into colorism in the brown community and how it applies to more than skin color.
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What does being BROWN mean?
Let's start the conversation. I'm celebrating everything brown this month. I identify as a brown woman, and that's not just about the my skin color. I dive deep into my own assimilation and coconut story. Listen so I can explain what that means to me.
I'd love to hear you thoughts, even if we don't agree.
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The only way to get results, be consistent.
Especially when it doesn't feel "good" or comfortable, follow through.
In this episode I discuss why we rather opt out but being an adult involves doing things when you're not 100% bought in.
Where have you been consistent in your life? What results would you like to create in your life? What will it take to get where you want?
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Generational Trauma and Healing with Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang. We met while we were on our own healing journeys in paradise and friends ever since. She is inspiring is more than one way and I can't wait to have you listen to her genius.
Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang is a mother, cancer survivor, mindfulness teacher, and award-winning pulmonologist. She is a leader and international speaker on physician wellness, mindfulness, anti-racism, integrative and pulmonary medicine who has taught courses, led retreats, and designed wellness curricula for over a decade. She empowers healers to be the change they want to see through co-hosting the Mindful Healers Podcast, and founding the Mindful Healthcare Collective, providing free online mindfulness and other well-being programming to help reduce suffering. She was named one of Mindful Magazine's Ten Powerful Women of the Mindfulness Movement 2021.
FB Group- Mindful Healthcare Collective
Podcast- The Mindful Healers
In this episode we explore Marie Kondo's method of decluttering but instead we apply it to beliefs, experiences, coping methods, and habits. Allowing yourself to thank the beliefs of the past AND choosing not to include it in the next chapter of your life is a choice.
I help my clients create awareness around their subconscious beliefs that have driven the way the've showed up in their lives AND process all the emotions around it. Once you have awareness, making conscious decisions becomes a lot easier, not necessarily easy. Finally, you get to be intentional about creating joy in your life, the one you worked so hard to create.
Join me on this beautiful journey.
We are usually pretty good at showing gratitude to others. But how often do you stop and thank yourself?
It's so easy to skip over appreciating all that you do and create but there are so many benefits to pausing and being grateful.
In this episode, I share all the ways we already care for ourselves but may not acknowledge it.
Start a new habit to vocalize or write down what you're grateful for in a daily basis and see how you experience more positivity in your own life without doing anything new or different..
Double standards exist because of culture, tradition and habit. The patriarchy lives on despite modernization and education. The root cause is expectation by others, expectation of others and the expectations we put on ourselves.
In this episode we will dive deeper into what we can do to create change.
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So many times we find ourselves trying to tough and it out and "doing it on our own" because we are so strong, smart and independent. Maybe this idea was helpful at some point or you had no other option but I'm here to tell you that's a choice.
Doing it yourself doesn't get you where you want to go always and more importantly what does it cost you?
Listen to this episode on why we do it and more importantly why it's not helpful or true. Asking for help or choosing you will feel uncomfortable in the beginning but it will get you where you want to go faster and with more ease.
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How do you celebrate you on your special day?
Do you wait for someone to plan it for you?
How do you want to feel on your special days?
October is my birthday month and for the last year I threw myself a 40th birthday bash. Planning ahead of time how you want to spend your day is empowering. It is not shameful, sad or disappointing. You get to decide.
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Wonder why you would rather take care of the kids, make dinner and do the laundry instead of asking your husband to help? Dealing with the discussion, reaction and tantrum is more annoying than just doing it all yourself. This is doable for now but not sustainable. He's accustomed to this because you've been walking on eggshells your entire relationship.
Your response only builds resentment towards him and your family.
Guess what?? All of it is optional and can actually improve your relationships in the long run.
Book your free consultation so we can discover how you've been contributing to you feeling miserable. Then we can learn to show up from a place of self love.
Can't wait to meet you!
Sneaky thoughts are the things we tell ourselves that are suppose to feel good but in reality not helpful at all. In this episode we uncover how sneaky thoughts turn up and why they aren't actually helpful.
Do you hate it when someone breaks the rules? Cut you off when you're driving, take a short cut, or not honor their word. Well this episode is for you.
I explore with you what this looks like in your life and how it's possible to change for your own growth. You might even have fun or allow yourself to do what you REALLY want for a change.
I share my process and give examples of how it's helped me. Let me know what you thought and leave a review if you enjoyed it!
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Ever heard of the theory- Men are like waffles and women are like spaghetti? The theory originates from authors Bill and Pam Farrel in their book Men are like waffles- Women are like Spaghetti.
Listen to see how that plays out in your relationships and interactions with the opposite gender.
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Holding on to the past is a place where we feel belonging and comfort.
But what is it costing you now?
We also choose to live in the future to avoid dealing with the present.
What would happen if we let go of all that makes us feel comfortable?
I love to explore what we can learn from, process and experience right now- in this very moment.
Ready to start living a life of intentionality. Ask yourself what it’s costing you to not ask for help or see what’s possible.
Book a free consult for my 1:1 private coaching program.
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The stories we tell ourselves create all that we have today. Some we love and others not is much.
In this episode we talk about how to identify if we are telling ourselves stories and decide if they are ones we would like to keep.
Want to learn how to stop telling stories that no longer help you, reach out today.
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Hiding. Where in life do you feel you are hiding and what is it costing you?
In this episode I share why we hide and how to choose to overcome that urge. It's time for you to stop hiding and start being seen for who you really are inside.
Book your consultation today. Make hiding a story of your past.
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Reinvention- I just got back from a live reinvention event and my mind was blown. I had a little box tucked away with stuff I thought I didn't need coaching on and low and behold, Brooke Castillo, the founder of The Life Coach School went straight there.
What have you been keeping tucked away? What is it costing you?
Ready to reinvent yourself? It's time to book your free consult.
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The Art of Pivoting has been one of my own personal transformative tools and its something I teach my clients too. The ability to pivot can reduce your own suffering, however many of us find it difficult to steer away from the "right" path. Listen to how I use it and introspect on your own possibility.
Overdeliver means to deliver in excess of a norm, standard or requirement. We were brought up thinking more is more but at what cost. As women, daughters, mothers, wives and professionals we tend do overdeliver but build resentment overtime unknowingly. Tune in to find out why we do it and the importance of overdelivering for yourself.
Ready to start your journey of self transformation?
Reach out and ask how we can get started. www.payalghayal.com
All or None Phenomena.......it hold us back from taking chances and trying now things. It's never what we're doing that holds us back, instead it's the stuff we tell ourselves.
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Being the first one to do something is definitely scary, no doubt, but should it hold you back? I share about speaking in front of 1800 Life coaches LIVE on stage with all my mentors and coaches in the audience. I was the first Asian Life Coach to speak on stage and it was so worth all the anxiety, fear and uncertainty. Check out why!
Why now? Why is the best time for you to choose to invest in you?
What will it cost you if you don't prioritize you?
Let's go deeper into figuring out what hold you back and how to overcome it.
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In this episode I share about my personal transformation.
Coaching vs Therapy and the role they played in my life.
What will it cost you if you don't change your old ways?
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What does hitting rock bottom mean to you? I'll share how that happened in my life and how I got there without realizing it. There are different ways many of us reach this place and that could look like burnout at work, lack or work-life balance, health crisis, and relational suffering. Come listen to part 3 of how I got to where I am and why so many of you can relate. www.payalghayal.com
The to-do list is not what you think it is. In this episode we will touch upon the list that was apparent or unapparent to many of us in our years of growth. I will talk about how the imaginary list drove many of us to lose ourselves and become pillars of sacrifice and service to others. We will also discover where that lead us. Part 2
How I got here?
The foundation is the most important part of anything. It can affect all that comes afterwards. Listen to how it all started and how it's similar to many of you. Part 1
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Anything Is Possible!! I made history by being the the st South Asian life coach to be featured on the largest coaching podcast- The Life Coach School with Brooke Castillo!! Listen to how we made it happen by persisting. Frankly, all it took was to just ASK!
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-life-coach-school-podcast/id870239631?i=1000552803566
Ready to create he life that you've always wanted? Book free consult with me.
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Community is necessary for women to thrive. The support we give and receive is extremely valuable. But we can come up with millions of excuses of why there's no time. What if it wasn't optional?
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Why do you love filling your schedules with all the things? What is it that your avoiding? The reason most women over schedule is to avoid the empty space. Maybe because if they're not doing then what's their purpose. Doing is attached to self worth. Listen to find out why we do it and how to move forward. www.payalghayal.com
Tired of making Decisions? Me too! My least favorite question.... What's for dinner? Listen in on how to make it easier and more meaningful to decide ahead of time. Have you decided to create change by controlling what you can? Reach out to book a free consult to start this journey with me. Best decision you could make- invest in you. www.payalghayal.com
What does investing in yourself look like. When I think about investments- it includes time, money and energy. It's easier to justify investing in certain things than others. That comes from your money story. I will go deeper into why and how that happens.
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When's the last time you've taken a chance on you? I explore in this episode what that means and looks like in real time.
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What happens when you force a transition coming? Do you hide or tackle it straight on?
So many of us feel overwhelmed and anxious, and that's normal. But is it possible to still move forward AND feel anxious. You bet!
Listen to barriers we face and how to overcome the "negative" emotions.
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Do you have a name that requires explaining sometimes? I do! The way you say my name is not the way you pronounce it. "My name is Payal, like a PILE of books" is what I usually say.
I never corrected anyone before because I didn't want to make it a "big deal". But what if we were all big deals?
Listen to why we don't correct others and why it's time to change that.
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The Ripple Effect!
Don't you love when women empower other women? the actions of one person can leave an affect on many. All you have to do is allow yourself to leave your comfort zone.
Allowing yourself to experience new things even though you may feel uncomfortable is the best gift of managing your mind.
Reach out if you're ready to start the journey within.
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Gifts. So easy to give but sometimes hard to receive. You don't need to earn a gift. What if you didn't have to feel guilty when you wanted something for you?
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Feeling guilty many times can feel like a badge of honor. This is a sneaky feeling that pops up in doctoring and relationships. What if no one cared? How would that make you feel? Letting go of guilt can allow you to live in freedom. Despite the culture and home you grew up in, guilt doesn't make you stronger or better. It holds you back from moving forward. But guilt doesn't have to be the driving force in your life. You can choose to no longer pass this legacy down to the next generation. More importantly, you can stop living in guilt today.
Interested in private 1:1 coaching, reach out.
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Hope. Without hoe we have nothing. It is our driving force. The reason we have any forward movement in our lives. Find out what holds us back and what we can do to change it.
If you feel stuck in life, there's hope to change that. I can help if you're ready.
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If you look for episode in the past to create new results in your future, it won't work. Looking back will recreate the same results. Is it possible to create something without any evidence to support it? Listen to why it won't work and how you can change the ways of your past. All you need is a BELIEF that it's possible.
Need help. Want accountability. I'm here to help.
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How many times do you tell yourself that just if I go with the flow, it will make the other person happy? Just if I stay quiet or play small, maybe I can avoid confrontation. When you do that, a little part of you dies inside. Eventually, you won't be able to recognize yourself. In this episode I will explain why we do it and how it will never work. Ready to stop walking on eggshells? I can help, please reach out. www.payalghayal.com
What will people think? This is thought that plays as a constant loop in the background. It was introduced in many of our homes at a young and and we gladly cried that torch into our adult personal and professional lives. We spend so much of our time caring what others think that we forget what we think. But it doesn't have to be like that anymore.
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Should are rules you inherited from others- your family, culture anD society. Because they feel like rules, when you break them, you feel guilty.
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It's time to Live Awakened now!
Why do we need a podcast for women of color in medicine? In this episode we will discuss what's unique about us and how it's time to start living awakened. Sharing and aknowledging our stories will only take us and those around us to a higher understanding of who we are and why we do what we do. Let's start this journey together.
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