People say they’re afraid of change, but it’s not change that scares us, we love change. We are afraid of transition. We’re afraid of the space in between where we are and where we want to be.

If you wanted to be a fit, lean, strong father. The idea of having that only sounds positive. We picture ourselves looking in the mirror, and liking what we see, we think about not being insecure about our bodies. We think about feeling attractive to our partners. We think about feeling confident in our own skin and the ability of our bodies to perform day to day.

It’s only when we begin to think about everything we have to do to accomplish that do we start to doubt ourselves, because right now we can’t picture ourselves doing all of the things that that version of ourselves must do in order to have those results.

The no man’s land between your current self, and the guy you want to be is what you’re afraid of. That space is filled with things you may have never done before, it’s probably filled with people that you’ve never met before, people who are much better than you are, and potential new judges of your current self.

The hardest thing you’re going to have to do if you want to change the way your life looks is going to be the letting go of your current life.

In all honesty there are people and things in your current life that you cannot take with you into the one you want, and that’s ok. It’s going to take some guts to leave them behind for the people and things that are waiting for you in your new life.