Nobody else’s! DO NOT tell someone else how to heal, or how to shift, when it comes to certain seasons of their life. YOU DO NOT have the right to tell someone how long it should take them to get over trauma that you never even taught them how to heal from, when you had parental rights. Maybe the child in them blames you, and maybe you should take some RESPONSIBILITY, then maybe they’ll hear you, and understanding can be had! FOR ONCE IN YOUR LIFE, own YOUR SHI*! Maybe they took it personal, the fact that you didn’t do your job at home, but chose the 9-5 instead, and maybe that’s OK! LET THEM LIVE THEIR LIFE, AND MAYBE YOU SHOULD LEARN TO LIVE YOURS TOO! we all have the right to heal in PEACE .. smiley face :)