Hey everyone! If there’s one key takeaway from this episode, it’s that communication is a skill that requires consistent work and refinement! Today We chatted about Attachment Theory- if you are curious about your own attachment style, we have provided a link to an online quiz in the shownotes. Also, If you’d like to try out some of the communication approaches we discussed in your own relationships, Dragan recommends looking into the ‘Imago dialogue’’. This is a communication strategy which assigns each person either the role of ‘sender’ or ‘receiver’. The parties take turns to follow the three steps of mirroring, validating and empathising. We have linked a step-by-step guide to the Imago dialogue in the show notes so you can test it out in your own relationships. Finally, you’ll also find a Youtube video on Polyvgal Theory if you want to gain a deeper understanding of the way that trauma shapes our physiological responses.

Links:

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-SVdQ-CHkA (Polyvagal Theory Video)
• http://www.integralpsychology.org/uploads/1/5/3/0/15300482/the_imago_dialogue_101.pdf (The Imago Dialogue)
• https://quiz.attachmentproject.com (Attachment Theory Quiz)
• https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 (Attached Book)

This episode of mates and dates was hosted by Edward Giles and Genevieve Triemstra.

Producers are Sarah Siu and Dona Sirimanne

Executive producer is Stephanie Aceglav

Additional Production and mixing by me, Nina Longfellow

Special thanks to Natalie Patterson, Lily Giles and Dragun Zan Wright

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Thanks for listening!