Stitching The Mind: Recent Episodes
Grace del Pino
Hi, my name is Grace! On this series of podcasts, I discuss topics such as healing, mindfulness, the importance of our breath, patience when it comes to our relationship with self and others, (and so much more) by referencing some of my favorite books, quotes, and lessons that I’ve learned from others. By sharing key takeaways that I have learned through my journey I hope that this will help you in some way :)
Topics:
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Basing moods and feelings on the environment
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Emotions come and go like the weather, if you don't like them wait 15 mins and see what comes next
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Focusing on yourself, and forgetting everything else
Just some bullets
Internalization
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Being honest when that happens
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If you act on those internalizations think about the consequences of how you are responding
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Decisions that you can trust yourself with
Practicing radical acceptance - that some things are out of your control
There Is a certain aspect of life we are in control of and not control of
Navigating the space of the things you can not control
⁃ Think about it (not ruminate) before you act
⁃ Practice the acceptance to let it go, so you dont become caught up or overwhelmed with it
⁃ Which of the paths am I able to choose -I know I cant spiral (fork in the road kind of analogy)
What is it that I want in this situation
⁃ How to not use outside things as an excuse for the things that I do and say and my own actions
⁃ Were self reflection comes in
Think about consequences -> be ready to deal with the consequences
-> How do we change the culture that surrounds the discussion of mental health and going deeper
-> The impact that one person can have on a community (to watch the video of the story mentioned in this podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aXA_Np0-RV0 -sober hour in Zanzibar)
-> What its like working towards something for yourself
Ask yourself, how can I be the best version of myself taking into account the knowledge I HAVE in this moment, what I’ve HAD, and most importantly what I LEARNED from the past
Textbook definition of intuition: the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.
My little take on intuition: sometimes that doesn't come right away, but through practice it’s our intuition that leads us outside our comfort zone (or beyond our mind's false beliefs) towards the next stepping stone.
Todays topics: learning, stepping back to go, finding your way, and why, and transitions
PART ONE (8/15/2022) https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/gracedelpino/episodes/NO-EMPTY-SEATS-FT--MICHAEL-OUYANG-e1mhn5v
Some topics discussed in todays episode:
- Why it so important to share the stories of others
- Imposter syndrome that comes with big life transitions
- How to not abandoning yourself – figuring out your core values when you don’t know where to start
- How to change the way that you see yourself and shift the perspective and mindset to knowing that this transformation is painful, but you’re not falling apart, you’re just falling into something different with a new capacity to be beautiful
- Embodying emotions- how this can help us learn about the emotions we have, and what they mean, not only in relation to the present, but also in relation to our past
- Pushing past your limits and expanding past your emotional threshold of discomfort
- And lastly gaining acceptance and confidence in yourself
Things I would tell my younger self if I could: Don’t drown in comparing yourself to others, you are beautiful and valuable, and no one can take that away. Loving yourself can make life a lot easier. Be gentle with your words because hearts are fragile. It is hard to move forward when you refuse to let go. Your first reaction to a difficult situation is usually not the wisest- pausing to think before acting is empowering. Giving others kindness will be soothing to your mind into your future. Pain doesn’t last forever. -Yung Pueblo
Cheryl Strayed Quotes:
There are some things you can’t understand yet. Your life will be great and continuous unfolding but understand that what you resolve will need to be resolved again. And again. We will come to know things that can only be known with the wisdom of age and the grace of yours. Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Sometimes you’ll put up a good fight and lose. Sometimes you’ll hold on really hard and realize there is no choice but to let go. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.
Many years ago, when I was in graduate school, a few poet friends of mine told me about an assignment they had that require them to listen repeatedly to a poem in a language, they didn’t understand, and then translate it into English. Their mission wasn’t to know what the words meant, but rather to hear them, to feel them, to imagine them, and then to conjure something from within themselves to translate the impossible mystery of those words into a poem of their own creation in a language they know. It seems audacious and nonsensical as it first seems, the task is ultimately what poetry- and life- asks us to do: attempt to make clarity and meaning out of the incomprehensible. In some ways, what we’re all being asked to do right now is to create something beautiful from the unknown languages we’ve suddenly found ourselves forced to comprehend. We’ve had to translate the sentence I don’t know how I’m going to do this into the opposite of its meaning, and do this, as you have time, and time again.
Link to Tiny Beautiful Things Book https://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Beautiful-Things-audiobook/dp/B008J9GE3G/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3EXXVVHI64RN8&keywords=tiny+beautiful+things+by+cheryl+strayed&qid=1690504075&sprefix=tiny+be%2Caps%2C127&sr=8-1
As well as Hulu Show based on the book https://www.hulu.com/series/tiny-beautiful-things-0ee8a395-3270-46ef-9ab0-c200f5f9f89d
Are experiences are there to get us through the storm. Starting having the mindset that decisions are no right or wrong, but that they both can be right.
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1 year later, how do you hope you will different --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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Stop comparing your experiences to others because there are so many bumps in the road that you don’t see to the camel ride (listen to the end to get it)
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Finding your anchor
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Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life if life, fight for it.
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Authenticity part 2
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What to do if you work in a toxic work environment...
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Dealing with losses in relationships with friends, family, teammates, and boyfriends
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The best way to cope with losses when people come in and out
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How to stand up for yourself and not allow others to walk all over you
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Going inward and reconnecting with ourselves before connecting with others
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Take accountability when you need to
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Don't let life lessons break you
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Change is necessary for survival, but the way we view those changes will depict the quality of our lives
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Every morning you rise I want you to remember this: there are amazing things to be a part of, and fight for, and feel, because the world will unlock hundreds of doors when you give this day all the courage, love, and intensity you can
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Things I would tell my younger self if I could:
Don't drown in comparing yourself to others, you are beautiful and valuable and no one can take that away. Loving yourself can make life a lot easier. Be gentle with your words because hearts are fragile. It is hard to move forward when you refuse to let go. Your first reaction to a difficult situation is usually not the wisest- pausing to think before acting as empowering. Giving others kindness will be soothing to your mind into your future. Pain doesn't last forever. -Yung Pueblo
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Butterfly see colors that are invisible to us. I imagine hope to be like these colors. But we cannot often see it, and even if we are free, Hope still exist, just like those colors.
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All you can do is the best you can do with today
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It's not going to rain forever
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You are your own best healer
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There will always be another mountain to climb
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Breakdowns & breakthroughs
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Trust ourselves over other people
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Creating conciousness
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Radical acceptance
"As long as you're not doing what you're meant to do, you'll feel like you're always walking around with a tiny rock inside your shoe"
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-Owning mistakes
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Honestly with ourselves first
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Perspective and taking steps back
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Goals
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Cycles of life
"The only way to experience truth directly is to look within, to serve oneself. All our lives we have been accustomed to look outward. We have always been interested in what is happening outside, what others are doing. We have rarely if ever try to examine ourselves, our mental and physical structure, our own actions, our own reality. Therefore we remain unknown to ourselves."
⁃ Every struggle is feedback for us and is essential for us to get to the next place
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Creating a life that you chose with relationships that you chose
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Rest is an integral part of the healing process
⁃ Celebrate yourself
⁃ Your body needs to stop and take in the moments
⁃ Ritual of restfulness
⁃ Energy to expand and grow
⁃ Don’t live a life on autopilot
⁃ You are responsible for your mess but forgive yourself
⁃ We become resentful if we do not fill our cup
⁃ Being aware of the expectations that we have
⁃ Expectations are ways that we want things to go -> when they don’t go that way we get frustrated or disappointed because we expect something to be a different way than it is
⁃ Wanting reality to be different from how it is
⁃ Radically accept that reality is what it is
⁃ It was not meant to be that way
⁃ See when we are limiting ourselves
⁃ Reality is not flying over those challenges
⁃ Have the expectation that there is struggle
⁃ Move forward to the next phase, its a process
⁃ Your past is what is ruling to preset if you are not being conscious*
⁃ Finding a life that is more and more aligned with us
⁃ Be gentle with yourself, celebrate your wins, and give yourself love
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Things aren’t always going to be comfortable at first, but if you push through it I promise it will be worth it
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Having the goal to enjoy an experience despite it being something new and uncomfortable at first
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How powerful doing things on your own can really be
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The importance of being your own pilot
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Self-love is a journey it won’t happen overnight and is an ongoing practice
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Making your mind a priority
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Mental health isn’t tangible and fluctuates over time it’s not always a steady incline in learning and falling that’s the cycle of life
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Experiencing life as it happens to shift focus to the world around you
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I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right. You believe lies so you'll eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
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Doing the uncomfortable
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Reaching towards your goals
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Doing to best that we can, having faith in yourself
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There are things in your life that you can't control
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Be patient! Empires are not built in a day :)
Some of the many topics discussed include:
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How our mental and physical health are perfectly parallel
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Consistency day in and day out, and winning those small battles
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Connecting mental dots in a positive way
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Self talk
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It is counterintuitive to think
that whatever causes a wound
can be the same thing which heals it.
so why do we believe this is possible in love?
why do we think that our breaker can be our fixer?
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Relationships almost never stay the same because life always changes and looks different as people go through different stages of their lives.
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“I poured months of planning, energy, preparation, and love into each class (and everything that I do). Although all undoubtedly make mistakes I am showing up as my best self”
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Nobody knows you better than you, so rely and trust in YOU
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Hurt will stay as long as you keep giving it your energy. When it appears, feel it, but don’t feed it. When you can sit with it without letting it control you, you find a new sense of balance. From there, hurt will lose its power because you are reacting to it less.
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Things that are truly important in life are not going to disappear after 24 hours :)
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Sometimes holding on to attachment does more harm than letting go.
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You will build your home time and time again. In every facet, corner, moment of your life, you are always building and always shaping yourself. There will be another storm one day; it could be worse, it could be better, it could be somewhere in between- but the storm will come again. The way we survive is by knowing such times will always arrive but they do not mean the end. Instead, we look for courage to start again, for Grace and how we hold ourselves, for support and those around us, and strength and resilience in the way we carry on. And we take all these things we surround them in love and faith, and together we build ourselves once more, for the key to life is remembering there's always purpose in despite of the storm.
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"Ultimately, your habits matter because they help you become the type of person you wish to be. They are the channel through which you develop your deepest beliefs about yourself. Quite literally, you become your habits."
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Feeling proud of those wins, and moving on from the losses :)
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Our quality of life depends on the quality of our habits so "when nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away it is raw, perhaps hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. You're at the 101st blow it was split into, and I know it was not that last blow that did it- but all that has gone before."
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If you are not grateful for the blessings you currently have, what makes you think you're going to receive more? So a little challenge for you... pretend like every day is thanksgiving and be grateful for what you have right now. Even when you feel like it's not enough, when we focus on what we don't have, we forget all the good that exists in our life.
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How to forgive yourself
By taking responsibility—
So, you hurt someone, or maybe they hurt you, and you haven't decided what to do with all the pain. But the only way for the river to run again is for the sky to open and let it rain.
By speaking the mistake into the universe
Let the universe bear witness that despite the mistake you have made, it does not change your place on this earth. Your healing begins when you speak of your journey to forgiveness and all its worth.
By making amends—
Forgiveness starts with an apology, sometimes to yourself, sometimes to others, always to your heart.
By not blaming yourself
The blame isn't going to help you move on or learn to let go.
Forgiveness is about navigating away from all the guilt and learning of all the hope in the things that can be rebuilt.
By renewing—
Life always regrows from the dust and the ashes, and so too will you. There is more to this life than holding on to all the mistakes that in the end shouldn't ever control you.
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"Each new day brings the sun back to us and we can leave our troubles on the windowsill as the night takes them with her. So I wanted to remind you if you feel that you can't go on know that you are needed."
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"When you are down and you rise up, you feel more powerful than you ever did. On the other side of adversity is strength" -Russ
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Life's a process so love where you are now and know that things will turn out better than we initially planned.
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You are beautiful at every turn :) and always remember the best thing about mistakes (or making the wrong turn in life) is that we get to correct them.
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Radical acceptance- recovering from our past pain is our responsibility. With change comes acceptance, so accept in order to change!
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Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind, always, and remember words will always have a greater effect on people than we might know. #doitfordrayke
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THERE'S ALWAYS TURBULENCE
"The best thing we can do is stay in the light, because it reassures others that there is a better place. And if others ever do decide to cross the bridge we will be there to cheer them on...
We will learn. We will learn by listening, trusting, and following through. What is it time to do?... What do I need to do to take care of myself?... What am I being led to do?... What do I know? Listen, and we willknow. Listen to the voice within."
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Always remember that our actions and words will have so much of a grater impacts on others than we may think.
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What ever problems you are facing in your life right now, ask yourself are they really as important as I think? Will they matter in 30 years from now?
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"Without the pain, the loss, the heartbreak- I wouldn't be where I am today. How could I not be grateful for that?"
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"Writing is not a McDonald's hamburger, the cooking is slow, and in the beginning, you are not sure whether a roast or banquet or a lamb chop will be the result."
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Sometimes it doesn't matter what the facts of situations are, but our reactions to it and the way we let those facts affect us.
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"You need to develop a strong opinion of yourself so you don't internalize the beliefs that others have of you"
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Continue to sit no matter the discomfort that you feel inside you because growth comes from being uncomfortable.
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“Life is too short to not do what you love.”
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Do you ever have those "family weekends" where all you do is spend time with your family?
Well, that's exactly what this weekend was for me. I spent Friday-Sunday with my cousin and sister in the Adirondacks and then once I was back, made a homemade dinner for my family to eat together before having a zoom call with the rest of my extended family because today was my Abuela's birthday (in between all that craziness, my sister pierced my cartilage ahah). I think that zoom call was the best possible way that I could have ended my weekend. Just sharing a chair with my sister talking to my 20 other family members talking about funny memories in between sharing our goals for the new year was absolutely the best.
Honestly, this weekend was such a great reset and a reminder of the importance of spending time with my family members. I could not agree more that when you have lived your life, it will be the small moments that matter. Those small moments you spend with those people that will love you unconditionally no matter what.
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How the past can affect us
"I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost... I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. I walked on the same sheet. There's a deep on the sidewalk. I pretended I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in the same place. But, it isn't my fault. It still takes me a long time to get out. I walk down the same street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in. It's a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. I walk down another street" - Portia Nelson
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What are things that you are TRULY grateful for?
Asking yourself this question daily can help give you so much perspective because it is so important to always be grateful for what we have.
When we focus on what we don't have, we forget all the good that we have around us.
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"What I have learned from taking a moment to breathe:
i. Acceptance is a state of being.
ii. Listening isn't only hearing what you want to hear. Listening is acknowledging not all things. will make sense, feel good, or be free from pain, but it is important to listen anyways. Listening leads to healing.
iii. Inhaling and exhaling is the soul's way of renewing. Each moment we take to stop and to breathe is healing.
iv. Spending time doing nothing is the best gift you can give yourself.
v. Small details often give us reason to love harder, work harder, and be at one with ourselves. By rushing, we often don't see those small details."
- Courtney Peppernell
Think is a link to a different breathing technique that I mentioned in the podcast called Box Breathe that I learned during my Yoga Teacher Training which I also find really helpful: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPYmZOhJF5Q
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Thank you for checking out my podcast!
This is a quick intro about who I am, why I am here, and a short story about the inspiration behind starting this podcast.
This podcast comes from such a place of love, big shoutout to my best friend Liv Zoeckler for the amazing art sculpture that's the cover of this podcast.