Wellbeing Practitioner Poonam Dhuffer of YSM8 talks self-compassion and being kind to yourself, in the first part of this 'Blue Monday' special. IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS: [00:17] Introduction to Poonam Dhuffer [01:20] What actually is self-compassion? [05:05] The research behind the theory [06:10] The danger of negative self-talk - the 'Hag'! [07:40] Poonam's own experience - anxiety and panic attacks [09:50] Words have power and energy [11:37] Comparison culture - competitive parenting / striving for perfection [13:21] We're not taught about emotional regulation [16:44] Reframing - opportunities for growth and learning [19:31] It's an ongoing process, let the feelings flow [21:00] The 3 core components of self-compassion (Dr Kristin Neff) [23:44] Cultivating Mindfulness [25:13] The affect on our body [30:52] How 'being in the now' helps anxiety [32:48] Control [34:20] Focus on the good stuff [36:07] Being true to what's right for you [40:18] YOU ARE ENOUGH KEY TAKEAWAYS: Looking after yourself is not an act of selfishness or weakness. If we can't take care of ourselves, how can we take care of others? Dr. Kristin Neff - https://self-compassion.org/ (https://self-compassion.org/) / TED talk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvtZBUSplr4 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvtZBUSplr4) The 3 core components of self-compassion: Self Kindness over Self Judgement, Common Humanity vs. Isolation and Mindfulness over Identification. Thoughts are like passing clouds, we are not defined by them or our emotions. Words are powerful - they can have a profound affect on your body. Make sure yours are positive and kind. The more you practice self-compassion, the more habitual it becomes. Get in touch with Poonam Dhuffer here - https://www.ysm8.co.uk/ (https://www.ysm8.co.uk/)
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