Turn it Up! Faith Based Marriage Tips Podcast: Recent Episodes
by Kelly DuPée
Turn it Up! Faith Based Marriage Tips Podcast provides practical and easy to learn tools and tips so you can have the lifelong marriage that you really want. Each episode offers suggestions that address the various challenges all marriages face. If your marriage is struggling, if you're engaged, or newly married, this podcast will help you learn how to be married and avoid making the mistakes a lot of couples make. If you've been married for a while, it also will help you grow closer to each other and address issues that could be causing you problems.
What your Marriage Needs is Self Control. Here's how you can strengthen your marriage through self-control.
In this episode of the 'Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show,' viewers and listeners are encouraged to live a life marked by self-control to enhance their marriage and honor God. You'll learn what self control helps us do and how to cultivate it in your life.
To get a free digital copy of my book, Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want, just go to www.turnitup.coach/75
What your Marriage Needs is Gentleness - Here's How. Gentleness or being gentle with each other can be a game changer in strengthening your marriage. But do you know how to cultivate gentleness? In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, Coach Kelly DuPée explores the essential role of gentleness in marriage. Drawing on faith-based principles from the Bible, particularly the fruit of the Holy Spirit, Kelly explains how gentleness can transform your relationship. He offers practical tips such as growing closer to Jesus, listening to understand, responding gently, prioritizing your spouse, and the importance of apologizing. Join Kelly in learning how to bring more gentleness into your life and strengthen your marriage.00:00 Introduction and Importance of Gentleness00:39 Understanding Gentleness in Marriage01:14 Biblical Perspective on Gentleness03:03 Practical Ways to Cultivate Gentleness07:13 Encouragement and Final Thoughts07:31 Engage and ConnectFor a free digital copy of Kelly's book, Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want, go to www.turnitup.coach/75
What your Marriage Needs is Faithfulness! Listen and learn how to cultivate faithfulness in your marriage.Here's the link to get a free digital copy of Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want, just go to www.turnitup.coach/75In this episode of the 'Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show,' Coach Kelly DuPée explores the importance of faithfulness in marital relationships. He discusses the broad definition of faithfulness beyond just avoiding infidelity, emphasizing trustworthiness, commitment, and reliability. The episode examines the biblical principle of the Fruit of the Spirit found in Galatians 5:22-23 and includes practical tips such as investing time, open communication, emotional support, and forgiveness. Coach Kelly encourages listeners to deepen their relationship with Jesus to naturally cultivate faithfulness in their marriage.00:00 Introduction and Defining Faithfulness01:17 Biblical Perspective on Faithfulness02:17 Trustworthiness and Commitment in Marriage03:34 Betrayal and Its Forms05:05 Cultivating Faithfulness in Marriage05:56 Practical Steps to Build Faithfulness08:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts08:52 Call to Action and Farewell
What your Marriage Needs is Goodness. In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, Coach Kelly DuPée explores the importance of 'goodness' in strengthening marital relationships. Looking at Galatians 5:22-23, Coach Kelly outlines how goodness, a fruit of the Spirit, can transform your marriage through integrity, honesty, and acts of kindness. He emphasizes growing closer to Jesus and practical steps to enhance goodness in daily life. The episode also addresses handling situations where your spouse may not reciprocate goodness and offers actionable advice for maintaining a loving, supportive relationship grounded in faith.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:32 Understanding Goodness in Marriage01:59 The Importance of Integrity02:28 Honesty in Marriage03:16 Doing Good Deeds04:00 Growing Closer to Jesus04:23 Admitting Our Limitations04:58 Practical Steps to Show Goodness06:05 Handling Mistakes and Apologies06:53 Encouragement to Keep Doing Good08:11 Conclusion and Call to ActionHere's the link to the recording on how to apologize using the Four R's: https://youtu.be/kDM6971AhVgTo get a free digital copy of Kelly's book, go to www.turnitup.coach/75
What your marriage needs is kindness. Here's what it is and how to cultivate it in your life and marriage.In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, Coach Kelly DuPée, a pastor, police chaplain, and Christian marriage coach, delves into the importance of kindness in marriages, describing it as a critical and essential element. Citing Galatians 5:20-23, Kelly identifies kindness as a fruit of the Spirit and offers practical advice on how to cultivate it within a marriage. Methods include growing closer to Jesus Christ, actively choosing to be kind through actions such as expressing gratitude, listening to understand, and giving generously of one's time, talents, and treasures. Kelly emphasizes the significance of supporting one's spouse during difficult times, publicly praising them, and continuing to show kindness even if it's not reciprocated. The episode also touches on the power of forgiveness and asking for forgiveness as expressions of kindness. Additionally, Kelly offers a free digital copy of his book, 'Turn it up. How to have the lifelong marriage that you really want,' as a resource for listeners wishing to strengthen their marriages further.00:00 Welcome to Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show00:30 Introducing Kindness in Marriage01:48 Exploring Kindness with Personal Stories02:18 How to Cultivate More Kindness in Your Marriage03:20 Expressing Kindness Through Actions08:04 The Power of Forgiveness and Kindness09:03 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesTo get a free digital copy of Kelly's book, Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want, just go to www.turnitup.coach/75
What your Marriage Needs is Patience. Have you ever wondered if having more patience would help strengthen your marriage?In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, Coach Kelly DuPée, a pastor, police chaplain, Christian marriage coach, and author, explores the critical role of patience in strengthening marriages. Highlighting patience as a fruit of the Spirit detailed in Galatians 5:22-23, the episode delves into understanding patience, its importance in relationships, and practical suggestions for cultivating it in marriage. Kelly provides insights on patience, its necessity for enduring difficult circumstances without annoyance, and its role in emotional intelligence and perseverance. The episode offers several tips for developing patience, including growing closer to Jesus, self-awareness of triggers, setting realistic expectations, rejoicing in trials, having faith, understanding and empathizing with one's spouse, and choosing patience in challenging situations. Finally, Kelly encourages celebrating small victories in patience and offers a free digital copy of his book to help listeners achieve a lifelong, flourishing marriage.00:00 Welcome to Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show00:39 The Importance of Patience in Marriage01:49 Understanding Patience: A Deep Dive04:03 Practical Tips for Cultivating Patience08:30 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesTo get a free digital copy of Kelly's book Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want, just go to www.turnitup.coach/75
What your marriage needs is peace. This episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, hosted by Coach Kelly DuPée, delves into the transformative power of peace as a fruit of the spirit, found in Galatians 5:22. It underscores the significance of peace as essential for emotional safety, effective communication, greater intimacy, and spiritual harmony. Coach Kelly provides faith-based tools and seven practical suggestions for cultivating peace, such as improving communication, forgiveness, praying together, and dealing with anxieties by leaning into one's faith. The aim is to strengthen marriages by encouraging couples to practice peace daily, thereby enhancing their relationship and providing a positive example for their children. Viewers are encouraged to take tangible steps towards integrating these tips into their marriage.00:00 Welcome to Turn It Up: Marriage Tips & Tools Show00:26 Exploring Peace in Marriage: A Biblical Perspective00:58 Meet Coach Kelly DuPée: Your Guide to a Peaceful Marriage01:54 Why Peace is Essential for a Healthy Marriage03:14 Overcoming Barriers to Peace in Your Marriage03:52 Seven Steps to Cultivate Peace in Your Marriage09:31 Taking Action: Apply These Tips for a Peaceful Marriage09:45 Closing Thoughts and Resources10:26 Enhancing Your Transcript with VisualsTo get a free digital copy of Kelly's book, Turn it Up!- how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want, go to www.turnitup.coach/75
What your marriage needs is joy!In this episode of the 'Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show,' Coach Kelly Dupee, a pastor, police chaplain, professional marriage coach, and author, explores the essence of joy in Christian marriages and differentiates it from happiness. Highlighting joy as a fruit of the Holy Spirit, Coach Kelly emphasizes that true joy is enduring and comes from within, anchored in God's love. Through a practical JOY acronym - Jesus, Others, and You - he provides actionable advice on how to cultivate joy in marriage by growing closer to Jesus, serving and appreciating your spouse, resolving conflicts with grace, creating joyful experiences together, and acknowledging one's own needs politely. He also adds that joy in marriage not only strengthens the union but also serves as a witness of God's love to others. The episode ends with encouragement to seek the complete joy of the Holy Spirit for a fulfilling and resilient marriage.00:00 Welcome to the Joyful Marriage Journey01:01 Introducing Coach Kelly Dupee and the Series Focus01:37 Defining Joy in Marriage02:25 Cultivating Joy: The J.O.Y. Acronym Explained05:33 Creating Joyful Experiences and Maintaining Politeness07:15 The Transformative Power of Joy in Marriage08:47 Concluding Thoughts and Invitation to EngageBe sure to like, comment and follow!
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What your marriage needs is - Love! Here's how to have more of it in your relationship. In this episode of the 'Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show,' Coach Kelly discusses the importance of going beyond human love to enrich marriages through the fruit of the Spirit, as mentioned in Galatians 5:22-23. He highlights the limitations of human love and proposes that God's perfect love, characterized by attributes such as joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, can profoundly impact and strengthen marriages. Coach Kelly outlines five essential aspects for nurturing the fruit of the Spirit in one's life, including being planted in good soil by loving God with a surrendered heart, gaining nutrition through prayer and Bible reading, seeking support from church communities, maintaining faith that God will produce the fruit in their lives, and taking actionable steps to showcase love. He also advises on practicing the five love languages to demonstrate love effectively. Ending with an invitation to his book 'Turn It Up,' Coach Kelly aims to provide listeners with practical insights for achieving a lifelong, fulfilling marriage.00:00 Introduction: The Challenge of Showing Love00:35 The Need for Divine Love in Marriage00:50 Exploring the Fruit of the Spirit03:37 Practical Steps to Cultivate the Fruit of the Spirit07:21 Applying Love in Marriage Through Actions and Love Languages09:21 Conclusion and Invitation to Further ResourcesHere's the link to get a free digital copy of Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you want: www.turnitup.coach/75
Don't "should" on yourself. We all struggle with putting a should on ourselves when we fail. Instead of putting a should on yourself, this recording will give you several tips so that you can stop this destructive cycle and start becoming the spouse you want to be. In this episode of the 'Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show,' Coach Kelly discusses the common issue of self-criticism in marriage, specifically the tendency to focus on what we should have done better, known as 'shoulding' on ourselves. He emphasizes the negative impact this can have on personal well-being and marital relationships, distinguishing between shame and guilt, and advocating for a shift from self-blame to constructive action. Kelly provides practical advice for overcoming self-criticism, including listening to self-talk, setting realistic expectations, seeking forgiveness from God, apologizing, forgiving oneself, making a plan for change, and seeking help from others. He encourages listeners to learn from mistakes and to strive for growth in their marriage, promoting a message of grace, compassion, and continuous improvement.00:00 Welcome to the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show00:51 Understanding the Harm of 'Shoulding' on Yourself01:10 Introducing Coach Kelly and the Focus of Today's Episode02:05 The Difference Between Shame and Guilt04:07 Practical Steps to Overcome 'Shoulding' on Yourself07:24 Making a Plan for Positive Change in Your Marriage10:25 Conclusion and Invitation to Strengthen Your MarriageHere's the link for the Four R's of an Apology recording: https://youtu.be/kDM6971AhVgTo get a Free Digital Copy of Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want, go to https://turnitup.coach/75Please like, comment and follow!
Here are some tips for daily check ins with your husband/wife. If you want to have a great marriage, a daily check in conversation is a must. But you can maximize the effectiveness of these daily check ins by following a few simple suggestions.In this episode of the 'Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show', host Kelly, a marriage coach, discusses the significance of daily check-ins in strengthening marital relationships. Kelly emphasizes the importance of asking open-ended questions, sharing feelings, and listening to understand as key strategies to make these check-ins more effective. Tips include transforming closed questions into invitations for deeper conversation, practicing empathy, and engaging in active listening. The episode also highlights the importance of creating a safe space for open communication to build intimacy and understanding. The overarching message is that intentional daily interactions can significantly enhance the connection and understanding between spouses.00:00 Welcome to the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show00:39 The Importance of Daily Check-Ins02:03 Effective Communication Tips: Open-Ended Questions03:18 Deepening Connection Through Sharing Feelings06:04 Mastering the Art of Listening09:46 Applying These Tips Beyond Your Marriage10:32 Closing Thoughts and Resources📘 Special Offer: For more insights on problem solving and strengthening your marriage, grab your FREE digital copy of my book, "Turn It Up: How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want." Simply visit www.turnitup.coach/75 to claim yours today!
Would you like to improve problem solving with your spouse? Problem solving can be challenging in a marriage. When you both have different points of view, how do you blend those together?🔥 Hey, amazing community! Coach Kelly here - your go-to for all things marriage transformation. In today's power-packed episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, we're diving deep into a topic that hits home for so many couples: Problem Solving within Your Marriage. 🌟Ever felt like you and your spouse are on opposing teams, fighting each other instead of the problem at hand? What if I shared a simple, yet groundbreaking technique that could flip the script on how you tackle challenges together? That's right, all it takes is a piece of paper, a pen, and a shift in perspective to start solving problems in a way that strengthens your bond rather than straining it.As a seasoned coach, pastor, police chaplain, and the author of "Turn It Up: How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," I've seen firsthand the transformative power of unity in marriage. Today, I'm unpacking a strategy that not only addresses the issue but also brings you and your spouse closer in the process.💡 In this episode, you'll learn:- How to externalize the problem to tackle it as a team- The critical role of communication in problem-solving- Tips for active listening and empathy to truly understand each other- Why inviting God into your problem-solving process can make all the difference- The power of brainstorming and coming up with a practical action planDon't let problems turn into conflicts. Discover a method rooted in biblical wisdom, practical tips, and my personal observations to revolutionize how you and your loved one face challenges. This episode is not just about finding solutions; it's about how to come together to find them.📘 Special Offer: For more insights on problem solving and strengthening your marriage, grab your FREE digital copy of my book, "Turn It Up: How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want." Simply visit www.turnitup.coach/75 to claim yours today!Remember, it's not about facing challenges alone but how you come together with your spouse, with God's grace, to overcome them.
Great things happen in your marriage when you focus on understanding each other. Understanding is the key to knowing each other, avoiding conflict, solving problems and so much more. Feeling disconnected in your marriage? Miscommunication and misunderstandings can lead to unnecessary arguments and distance between you and your spouse. In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips & Tools show, Coach Kelly shares his insights on the importance of understanding each other in building a thriving, God-centered marriage.Join Kelly, pastor, police chaplain, marriage coach, and author of "Turn it Up: How to Have the Lifelong Marriage that You Really Want," as he compassionately walks you through the power of understanding each other based on Genesis 11:6. In this inspiring video, you'll learn:1. The deeper meaning of speaking the same language in your marriage2. The significance of understanding each other's needs, desires, fears, and joys3. How to improve mutual understanding with 7 practical tips, including: a. Instituting daily check-ins b. Practicing active listening c. Diving into each other's worlds d. Apologizing and forgiving quickly e. Speaking your partner's love language f. Resolving conflicts with understanding g. Praying, reading the Bible, and attending church togetherBy adopting these daily habits and incorporating them into your lives, you'll create a marriage where mutual understanding leads to shared victories and endless possibilities. As Coach Kelly reminds us, with God at the center and a commitment to understanding each other, nothing is impossible for your marriage.To get a free digital copy of Coach Kelly's book go to www.turnitup.coach/75Or get a paperback copy for only $4.99 (75% off) while supplies last. Turn up the understanding in your marriage and unlock the potential that unity and mutual understanding can bring!
Do you struggle with pleasing your spouse?In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, Coach Kelly, a pastor, police chaplain, marriage coach, and author, addresses the common struggle of not being able to please one’s spouse and offers insightful solutions. Drawing from personal experiences and biblical teachings, specifically Psalm 4:5, Kelly emphasizes the importance of learning one's spouse's likes and love languages to offer 'right sacrifices'. Through a humorous story about a husband's missing wife, Kelly illustrates the profound lack of knowledge some partners have about each other compared to material possessions. He underlines the significance of giving, serving, and prioritizing your spouse's needs over your own, suggesting practical ways to demonstrate love and make sacrifices. Additionally, Kelly encourages inviting God into the relationship and trusting His guidance to foster a lifelong, fulfilling marriage. He concludes by offering a free digital copy of his book and a free clarity session for couples looking to enrich their marriage.00:00 Welcome to the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show00:04 Understanding the Art of Pleasing Your Spouse01:12 The Biblical Perspective on Pleasing Your Partner01:57 Learning Your Spouse's Likes Through Observation05:04 The Importance of Sacrifice in Marriage07:37 Incorporating God into Your Marriage10:37 Seeking External Help for a Stronger Marriage11:22 Final Thoughts and ResourcesTo get a free digital copy of Kelly's book, Turn it up, go to www.turnitup.coach/75To book a free 60 minute call with Kelly, just go to www.turnitup.coach
Is your spouse mad at you? Here's what to do so that you don't make the situation worse. In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, join me as I share my insights on how to manage confrontations effectively, focusing on responding rather than reacting to ensure constructive dialogue. Drawing from personal experience and the wisdom of leadership author John Maxwell, I introduce the metaphor of carrying two buckets - one with gasoline and the other with water - to illustrate how our reactions can either exacerbate or calm confrontational situations. I delve into practical strategies for de-escalation, including active listening, validation, and apologizing when necessary. I also outline steps to create an action plan to avoid future conflicts, emphasize the value of patience, and discuss the importance of understanding the root of the confrontation. I wrap up by highlighting biblical advice on communication and offering a free digital copy of my book, 'Turn It Up', to assist viewers in building resilient, lifelong marriages.Here's the link to the video on the Four R's of an Apology: https://youtu.be/kDM6971AhVg00:00 Introduction: The Power of Handling Confrontations00:46 Meet Coach Kelly: Your Guide to Better Relationships01:09 The Golden Tip: Respond, Don't React03:01 Practical Steps to Responding Effectively05:23 The Importance of Apology and Action Plans06:42 Navigating Unresolvable Anger and ConclusionTo get a free digital copy of his book, go to www.turnitup.coach/75
10 warning signs your marriage needs help. Do you know what they are? These 10 signs are like the lights on the dashboard of your car. They tell you something is wrong and you need to do something about it. In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, Coach Kelly, a pastor, police chaplain, marriage coach, and author, discusses 10 warning signs indicating a marriage might be in trouble, including frequent arguments, lack of communication, and a nonexistent sex life. Kelly emphasizes the importance of recognizing these signs early and taking proactive steps to address them. He offers practical advice for struggling couples, such as admitting the problem, seeking help from professionals or mentors, taking action to make positive changes, and inviting God into the process for strength and guidance. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:42 Meet Coach Kelly00:58 10 Warning Signs Your Marriage Needs Help01:47 Understanding the Importance of Warning Signs02:28 Practical Steps to Get Your Marriage Back on Track04:32 Inviting God into Your Marriage05:26 Special Offers and How to Reach Out06:24 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsTo book your free Clarity Call, go to https://turnitup.coach or call 626-804-1731.To get a free digital copy of Turn it Up!, go to https://turnitup.coach/75
When your spouse says "I don't want coaching" for our marriage, what do you do? Do you just give up or try to pressure them into getting help?In this episode of 'Turn it Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show', join me as I provide guidance on how to address marriage difficulties when your spouse is reluctant to seek professional help. I make a clear distinction between coaching and counseling, explaining how the former focuses more on developing skills rather than delving into past traumas. I emphasize the importance of respecting your spouse's feelings, enlightening them about what coaching involves, and considering getting coaching by yourself if your spouse remains resistant. Throughout the episode, I highlight several coaching skills like learning to respond instead of reacting, setting boundaries, and active listening. My approach as a faith-based coach also involves inviting God to come heal the relationship. Lastly, I invite listeners to get in touch with me for a free, no-obligation clarity call to begin improving their marriages.00:00 Introduction and the Problem at Hand02:33 Understanding the Difference Between Coaching and Counseling04:36 The Power of Individual Growth in a Relationship07:04 Inviting Your Spouse to Join the Coaching Journey08:07 Taking the First Step Towards a Better Marriage09:41 Conclusion and Invitation for a Free Clarity CallTo book your free Clarity Call, go to https://turnitup.coach or call 626-804-1731.
Healing the hurt in your marriage - do you know how? If you are feeling pain in your marriage, there is a reason for your pain. The pain is telling you something is wrong that needs to be addressed. Coach Kelly, a pastor, police chaplain, and marriage coach discusses emotional hurt in marriages and how to heal it. The episode highlights five main steps; acknowledging the pain, confronting the person who caused the hurt, seeking external assistance if necessary, forgiving the person, and choosing to rebuild the relationship. Coach Kelly also takes a faith-based approach, encouraging couples to pray and ask for God's wisdom. Beyond this, he emphasizes the importance of understanding that healing from emotional pain in a marriage does not mean returning to the way things were before the hurt occurred. Instead, it's about letting go of the pain and moving forward in the relationship.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:48 Understanding the Pain in Your Marriage02:07 The Role of Pain in Relationships03:23 Steps to Heal the Hurt in Your Marriage05:44 The Power of Forgiveness in Healing06:50 Choosing to Rebuild and Restore Trust07:59 The Importance of Seeking Professional Help08:47 Conclusion and Final Thoughts09:11 Closing Remarks and ResourcesTo get a free digital copy of his book, go to www.turnitup.coach/75
Marriage in trouble? Marriage coaching could be the answer you need.This episode of the Turn it Up Marriage Tips and Tools show focuses on marriage coaching as a possible solution for couples who are struggling in their marriage. Join me as I compare counseling with coaching, outlining that while the former involves a healthcare approach by diagnosing and treating mental health issues, the latter operates by assessing the current state of the marriage and formulating strategies to get where you want your marriage to be. I also emphasize the future-oriented focus of marriage coaching, describing its techniques and benefits, such as effective communication and rediscovery of joy in relationships. As a pastor, I also encourage couples to incorporate faith into their marriage and believe God to do a miracle in their relationship.00:00 Introduction and the Struggles of Marriage00:59 Understanding the Drift, Disagreement, Damage and Division Cycle02:52 The Alternative to Marriage Counseling: Marriage Coaching03:42 How Marriage Coaching Works06:39 The Role of God in Marriage Coaching07:13 The Importance of Seeking Help08:05 Invitation to Experience Marriage Coaching08:50 Conclusion and Call to ActionTo book your free Clarity Call, go to https://turnitup.coach or call 626-804-1731.
The Bible says that love never fails. What do you think about that? Perhaps you have failed at love. Do these words make you feel like God is condemning you? Join me Coach Kelly, a pastor, police chaplain, marriage coach, and author as we look to understand the true essence of love as depicted in 1 Corinthians 13. This is the final part of 15 recordings that look at each aspect of love found in 1 Corinthians 13, the famous love chapter.I'll talk about the meaning of 'Love never fails', explaining that it pertains to 'Agape' - the unselfish, sacrificial, and godly kind of love. This reminds us to respect our human limitations and to give ourselves grace, especially when struggling with failed or challenging relationships. The episode ends with four steps to grow closer to God and activate 'Agape' love in our lives, creating transformation and increasing our ability to love others in the process. A powerful exploration for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of love from the Biblical perspective.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:02 Understanding the Concept of Love in the Bible01:38 Exploring Different Types of Love in Greek02:41 Attributes of Love as Described in 1 Corinthians 1304:34 The Challenge of Emulating God's Love05:03 Growing in Relationship with God06:07 The Fruit of the Spirit and Transformation07:45 Understanding Human Imperfection in Love09:43 Steps to Grow Closer to God and Activate Agape Love12:01 Conclusion: Love Never FailsNeed help putting this into practice, call me at 626-804-1731 to schedule a free Clarity Call. Or you can book one at www.turnitup.coachAlso, if you'd like a free digital copy of my book, go to www.turnitup.coach/75
God's word tells us that Love Always Perseveres. This is much more than just not quitting when things get hard. In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, I discuss the concept of perseverance in marriage. I unpack the meaning as not just merely not quitting, but about persisting through difficulties, maintaining a resilient attitude and having determination to overcome obstacles.
Join me as I share four practical steps to help you if feel like giving up on your marriage. These steps include admitting the struggle, surrendering to God, seeking help from others, and taking action based on divine guidance.
I also encourage you to thank God in advance for the miracles that are sure to come. In this episode you'll gain some life-changing insights on how to face trials and difficulties in your marriage.00:01 Introduction and the Importance of Perseverance in Marriage01:20 Understanding the Concept of Perseverance02:53 Challenges and Struggles in Marriage04:55 The Temptation to Quit and the Role of the Devil05:39 The Power of Hope and Restoration07:18 Steps to Persevere in Your Struggling Marriage12:33 Conclusion and OfferTo get a copy of my book, Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want, go to www.turnitup.coach/75. I'm offering it at an unbeatable 75% discount. $3.75 for digital, $4.99 for paperback.
In this episode of the 'Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show', Coach Kelly discusses the critical role hope plays in sustaining marriages and relationships. He outlines three situations in which hope is needed in a marriage: when drifting apart, when dealing with challenges outside the marriage, and when looking into the future. Sharing his own experiences and scriptures from the Bible, Kelly explains the importance of viewing your problems as opportunities for growth and how surrendering them to God can be beneficial. He strongly advocates to always maintaining hope, even in tough times. He also addresses the resources available for those possibly contemplating suicide.
00:00 Introduction and Overview
00:56 Understanding the Concept of Hope
01:30 The Importance of Hope in Marriage
02:47 Challenges in Marriage and the Role of Hope
03:29 Hope for the Future of Your Marriage
04:44 Strategies to Strengthen Hope in Your Marriage
05:59 The Power of Seeking Help and Trusting God
08:15 Remembering Past Victories to Strengthen Hope
09:20 The Role of Others in Strengthening Hope
11:43 Resources for Immediate Help
12:49 Conclusion: Love Always Hopes
To get a copy of Coach Kelly's book, Turn it Up! how to have the lifelong marriage that your really want for only $3.75 for a digital copy or $4.99 for paperback (that's a 75% discount) go to www.turnitup.coach/75 Also to book a free Clarity Call, go to www.turnitup.coach
Trust, without it love won't last. God's word tells us that love always trusts. What is trust and how can it be developed so that you can have the marriage and relationships you really want?In this episode, Coach Kelly, a pastor, police chaplain, marriage coach, and author of the book 'Turn It Up', discusses the concept of trust in a marriage inspired by 1 Corinthians 13. He shares four key points on how to build, develop, repair, and trust in God for a healthier relationship. He also shares tips from his book and ways to handle trust withdrawals and deposits in your 'trust account'. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome01:18 Understanding the Concept of Trust in Relationships01:33 Reading from the Book 'Turn It Up'02:13 The Importance of Trustworthiness in a Partner02:49 Four Key Points to Remember about Trust02:55 How to Evaluate Trust in a Relationship04:17 Choosing to Trust and Developing it Over Time04:52 Repairing Trust When it is Damaged10:50 Trusting God in Your Relationship11:31 Conclusion and Final Thoughts11:54 Invitation to Subscribe, Comment, and Share12:01 Offer for Personal Coaching and Book Promotion12:41 Closing Remarks and GoodbyeTo get a copy of Coach Kelly's book, Turn it Up! how to have the lifelong marriage that your really want for only $3.75 for a digital copy or $4.99 for paperback (that's a 75% discount) go to www.turnitup.coach/75 Also to book a free Clarity Call, go to www.turnitup.coach
Love Always Protects - do you know what that means? This is part 11 of the series entitled "Love Is..." In this informative and spiritual video, Coach Kelly deep dives into the meaning of Corinthians 13: 7, explaining why 'Love Always Protects'. He tackles real issues that threaten marriages, such as harmful content and inappropriate emotional intimacy, and provides concrete advice on how to combat these threats. Coach Kelly offers practical ways on how to protect your relationship and achieve a thriving marriage. If you aspire to attain a lifelong marriage by safeguarding it against external destructive factors, this video is for you!00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:03 Understanding Love and Protection in Relationships01:21 Why Love Needs Protection02:11 What We Need to Protect Our Love From02:41 The Dangers of Harmful Sexual Content04:39 The Threat of Inappropriate Emotional Intimacy06:28 How to Protect Your Love08:33 Getting Help from God and Others09:09 Admitting and Addressing the Problem09:52 Conclusion and Additional ResourcesTo get a copy of Coach Kelly's book, Turn it Up! how to have the lifelong marriage that your really want for only $3.75 for a digital copy or $4.99 for paperback (that's a 75% discount) go to www.turnitup.coach/75 Also to book a free Clarity Call, go to www.turnitup.coach
What do you think of this - love doesn't delight in evil?This is part 10 of a series called "Love Is..." studying 1 Corinthians 13, the famous love chapter of the Bible. Join me as I offer important insights and practical steps on how to build a marriage based on truth and real love. As we look at 1 Corinthians 13:6, you'll be encouraged to walk in truth, to be transparent, and to assume responsibility in your relationships. You'll learn the harm of dishonesty, even subtle lies, and how to move towards absolute truthfulness. 00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:45 Understanding Love and Truth in Marriage01:16 The Consequences of Dishonesty in Marriage02:30 The Importance of Truth in Love03:40 Steps to Stop Delighting in Evil and Start Rejoicing in Truth04:58 Building Trust in Marriage05:59 Conclusion: The Power of Truth in Love06:13 Call to Action and Closing RemarksTo get a copy of my book, Turn it Up! how to have the lifelong marriage that your really want for only $3.75 for a digital copy or $4.99 for paperback (that's a 75% discount) go to www.turnitup.coach/75 Also to book a free Clarity Call, go to www.turnitup.coach
Did you know that love doesn't keep score? In this recording I discuss the harmful effects of keeping score in a relationship. This is part 9 of a series entitled "Love Is..." from 1 Corinthians 13, the famous love chapter in the Bible.
1 Corinthians 13:5 says that love does not keep a record of wrongs. Join me as I explain how resentment can build over time, and as I provide four suggestions for curbing the habit of holding onto past hurts. These include confronting issues calmly, allowing for effective apologies, seeking God's assistance for forgiveness, and going through the process of forgiveness. Alongside these, I discuss the four R's of an effective apology - Responsibility, Remorse, Repentance, and Request forgiveness. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:02 Understanding the Problem: Keeping Score in Relationships01:13 Biblical Perspective on Love and Forgiveness01:45 The Damaging Effects of Keeping Score02:29 Four Suggestions to Stop Keeping Records of Wrongs05:16 The Process of Forgiveness06:26 Rebuilding Trust in Relationships06:55 Conclusion: Letting Go of Past Hurts07:53 Promotion of the Book and Personal Coaching08:38 Final Blessings and FarewellTo get a copy of my book, Turn it Up! how to have the lifelong marriage that your really want for only $3.75 for a digital copy or $4.99 for paperback (that's a 75% discount) go to www.turnitup.coach/75 Also to book a free Clarity Call, go to www.calendly.com/kellydupee
Ever wondered why Christmas is a big deal?
In this episode, Pastor and marriage coach Kelly discusses the significance of Christmas and how it can influence and heal your marriage. He expresses why Christmas stands out amongst other holidays and its ability to bring hope and meaning in a world filled with violence, pain, and suffering. Highlighting the key biblical verse Matthew 1:23, he emphasizes on the importance of God's arrival to earth through Jesus - symbolizing hope in our lives. Furthermore, he elucidates how the manifestation of this love and hope can positively impact marriage and family life. The video ends with an encouraging statement to cherish the true essence of Christmas and its implication on personal life and relationships.For more marriage resources, check out this link: https://linktr.ee/turnitupmarriagecoachingTo get Kelly's book, Turn it Up! at a 75% discount go to https://turnitup.coach/75
The Bible says that love isn't easily angered. Do you know what that means?In this podcast, Coach Kelly, a pastor, police chaplain, marriage coach, and author discusses how to manage and control our anger in the context of marriage. Analyzing 1st Corinthians 13:5, the video presents strategies for confronting anger including admission, repentance, forgiveness, support from others, and establishing boundaries, aiming to aid viewers in maintaining loving, long-lasting marital relationships. 00:00 Introduction and Topic Presentation00:45 Welcome to the Show and Host Introduction01:17 Understanding the Concept of 'Easily Angered'02:39 The Impact of Uncontrolled Anger in Relationships02:56 How to Not Be Easily Angered04:20 Steps to Overcome Anger Issues06:36 Practical Tips for Anger Management07:29 Setting Boundaries and Dealing with Consequences08:17 Admitting Mistakes and Seeking Forgiveness09:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts09:07 Promotion and Closing RemarksTo get a copy of the book, Turn it Up! how to have the lifelong marriage that your really want for only $3.75 for a digital copy or $4.99 for paperback (that's a 75% discount) go to www.turnitup.coach/75 Also to book a free Clarity Call, go to www.calendly.com/kellydupee
Did you know that love isn't self seeking? This is part 7 of a series entitled "Love Is..." taken from 1 Corinthians 13.1 Corinthians 13:5 says love is not self-seeking. In this recording we're diving deep into the myth that prioritizing oneself leads to a successful marriage. As an experienced pastor, police chaplain, and author of 'Turn It Up, How to Have The Lifelong Marriage that You Really Want,' I share relatable examples of self-seeking behavior that could be hindering your marital growth. Throughout the episode, I advocate for a shift from selfish conduct to love, underlining the significant impact of focusing on 'we' rather than 'me' on marital bliss.Stay tuned for actionable steps to effectively curb selfish habits, ensuring a fulfilling and lifelong marriage. Our roadmap includes understanding the essence of love in marriage, identifying self-seeking behaviors, recognizing their impact, and practical tips to refocus on your spouse.Here's a sneak peek into the episode:00:00 - Introduction and Welcome00:40 - Understanding Love in Marriage01:14 - Examples of Self-Seeking Behavior02:42 - The Impact of Self-Seeking Behavior on Marriage04:03 - Steps to Overcome Self-Seeking Behavior04:53 - Practical Tips to Focus on Your Spouse05:59 - Seeking Help and Final Thoughts06:13 - Conclusion and Call to ActionJoin me as we unveil the secret to a fulfilling marriage - where love is not self-seeking but a transformative force that strengthens the foundation of your lifelong commitment. Don't miss out on insights that can turn your marriage journey into a truly blissful adventure!To get a copy of my book, Turn it Up! how to have the lifelong marriage that your really want for only $3.75 for a digital copy or $4.99 for paperback (that's a 75% discount) go to www.turnitup.coach/75 Also to book a free Clarity Call, go to www.calendly.com/kellydupee
What do you think the Bible means when it says "love doesn't dishonor"? This is part 6 of a series entitled "Love Is..." taken from 1 Corinthians 13. In this episode, I share insight into how to honor and respect your spouse, based on 1 Corinthians 13:5. You'll learn what it means to dishonor your spouse and the negative impact of such behavior. Then we will cover what honor looks like and I'll give you three ways to practice it including speaking words of appreciation, listening actively, and serving or helping your spouse. To get a copy of my book, Turn it Up! how to have the lifelong marriage that your really want for only $3.75 for a digital copy or $4.99 for paperback (that's a 75% discount) go to www.turnitup.coach/75 Also to book a free Clarity Call, go to www.calendly.com/kellydupee00:01 Introduction and Welcome01:14 Understanding Dishonor in Relationships01:32 Examples of Dishonoring Actions03:39 Defining Honor in Relationships03:49 Ways to Show Honor in Your Relationship05:35 Conclusion and Special Offers
Do you know how to be thankful for your marriage, even if you don't want to? In this episode, we will discuss the importance of gratitude in marriage. You’ll learn the benefits of focusing on the positive aspects of a relationship rather than the negatives. You’ll also discover how to cultivate thankfulness, such as recognizing the good traits in your spouse, asking for divine assistance, expressing gratitude to your spouse directly, and adopting a general attitude of gratitude.
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Also to book a free Clarity Call, go to www.calendly.com/kellydupee00:11 Introduction and Importance of Being Thankful for Your Marriage01:04 Why Being Thankful is Beneficial for Your Marriage02:25 Practical Steps on How to Be Thankful in Your Marriage04:08 Expressing Your Thankfulness to Your Spouse05:00 Conclusion and Additional Resources
Did you know that love isn't proud? Pastor Kelly DuPee explores what pride and humility entail and how they impact relationships, particularly marriages. He asserts that excessive pride can damage relationships and advocates for humility as a secret ingredient for fostering lasting love. Kelly explains the pitfalls of pride, such as it leading to self-sufficiency, overconfidence, difficulty listening, and inability to admit mistakes. He suggests four steps to overcome pride: admitting to having an issue, seeking forgiveness, changing behavior (repenting), and focusing on humility. Kelly encourages listeners to seek help in overcoming their prideful tendencies and advises they practice empathy and grace, both towards themselves and their partners.To get a copy of his book, Turn it Up! how to have the lifelong marriage that your really want for only $3.75 for a digital copy or $4.99 for paperback (that's a 75% discount) go to www.turnitup.coach/75 Also to book a free Clarity Call, go to www.calendly.com/kellydupee00:10 Introduction and Welcome01:15 Understanding the Concept of Pride02:15 The Dangers of Pride in Relationships04:04 The Negative Effects of Pride08:07 The Solution: Overcoming Pride10:43 Promotion and Conclusion
Did you know that love doesn't boast? 1 Corinthians 13:4 says Love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy and love does not boast.We boast out of insecurity and a desire to make ourselves look good to others. This comes from a heart of insecurity, arrogance and excessive pride and can be very damaging to a marriage or relationship. In this recording you'll learn what boasting looks like along with what true love looks like. You'll also get a four point plan on how to overcome this challenge in your life.Please take a moment to subscribe to my channel so you can get all my marriage tip videos.If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at an amazing 75% discount, only $3.75 for a digital copy or $4.99 for paperback. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Also, I'd love to talk to you about helping your marriage. Click this link to book a free Clarity Call with me. This 60 minute call will give you a clear roadmap on how to strengthen your marriage. Don't wait. Take advantage of this offer now! Here's the link: https://kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
Did you know that love doesn't envy? Envy is wanting something that someone else has or wishing they didn't have it. It is the opposite of love.This recording is the third in a series looking at 1 Corinthians 13, the love chapter. If you want to learn what love is and isn't, check this out. If you struggle with envy and jealousy, in this recording I share seven steps to overcome this and truly love the way God wants you to. Please take a moment to subscribe to my channel so you can get all my marriage tip videos.If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at an amazing 75% discount. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Also, I'd love to talk to you about helping your marriage. Click this link to book a free Clarity Call with me. This 60 minute call will give you a clear roadmap on how to strengthen your marriage. Don't wait. Take advantage of this offer now! Here's the link: https://kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
Do you know how to bring kindness into your marriage? 1 Corinthians 13:4 says love is kind. But what is kindness and how do you do that in your marriage? This recording will give you ten practical ways to express your kindness and be kind to your husband or wife. Trust me, this will strengthen your marriage and make it what you want it to be.This is part two of a series called Love Is... Here's the link for part one:https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/KXnoFouxdEb If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at an amazing 75% discount. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Also, I'd love to talk to you about helping your marriage. Click this link to book a free Clarity Call with me. This 60 minute call will give you a clear roadmap on how to strengthen your marriage. Don't wait. Take advantage of this offer now! Here's the link: https://kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
Do you know the power of patience in love? 1 Corinthians 13:4 says Love is patient. This is a powerful marriage tip that can strengthen your marriage.In this recording you'll learn what patience is, how to express it in your marriage and how to grow in your ability to be patient.Please take a moment to subscribe to my channel so you can get all my marriage tip videos.If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at an amazing 75% discount. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Also, I'd love to talk to you about helping your marriage. Click this link to book a free Clarity Call with me. This 60 minute call will give you a clear roadmap on how to strengthen your marriage. Don't wait. Take advantage of this offer now! Here's the link: https://kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
Do you love in word and deed? Jesus taught a lot directly about marriage but he also gave several hidden marriage tips. This recording looks at the story of the two sons in Matthew 21. One said no and later did what his father asked. The other said yes but didn't do it.This recording will make a huge difference in your marriage as you will learn why your words and deeds must match. If you want to have a great marriage, put this into practice immediately.Please take a moment to subscribe to my channel so you can get all my marriage tip videos.If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at an amazing 75% discount. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Also, I'd love to talk to you about helping your marriage. Click this link to book a free Clarity Call with me. This 60 minute call will give you a clear roadmap on how to strengthen your marriage. Don't wait. Take advantage of this offer now! Here's the link: https://kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
Here's a tip, let your yes be yes in your marriage. Matthew 5:37 Jesus said let your yes be yes and your no be no. This recording is going to show you how following this principle can strengthen your marriage significantly. Please take a moment to subscribe to my channel so you can get all my marriage tip videos.If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at an amazing 75% discount. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Also, I'd love to talk to you about helping your marriage. Click this link to book a free Clarity Call with me. This 60 minute call will give you a clear roadmap on how to strengthen your marriage. Don't wait. Take advantage of this offer now! Here's the link: https://kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
Does your husband or wife lie to you? Would you like your spouse to tell you the truth? This recording will help you confront your him or her about lying and create an atmosphere of honesty in your marriage and relationship. Trust is an essential ingredient in a healthy marriage. Without it, you'll be insecure and find it difficult if not impossible to be intimate emotionally or physically with your husband or wife. In order for trust to thrive, you must be honest with each other. That means telling the truth no matter the consequences. If you want to be close and build a trusting relationship, lying, even innocent white lies must stop. The answer is to create an atmosphere of honesty. This recording will teach you how to do that.Please take a moment to subscribe to my channel so you can get all my marriage tip videos.If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at an amazing 75% discount. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Also, I'd love to talk to you about helping your marriage. Click this link to book a free Clarity Call with me. This 60 minute call will give you a clear roadmap on how to strengthen your marriage. Don't wait. Take advantage of this offer now! Here's the link: https://kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
Here's a marriage tip - give truth lovingly. Along with giving grace to your spouse, to have a healthy marriage you also need to give truth. You need to let them know how their behavior is impacting you. Don't blindside your spouse by asking for a divorce, let them know they are doing something that is damaging your relationship and hurting you.This recording will teach you how to do that in a loving way.If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at $3.75, an amazing 75% discount. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Also, I'd love to talk to you about helping your marriage. Click this link to book a free Clarity Call with me. This 60 minute call will give you a clear roadmap on how to strengthen your marriage. Don't wait. Take advantage of this offer now! Here's the link: https://kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
Here's a tip - give grace to your spouse if you want to have a great marriage! Grace is understanding, forgiveness and acceptance instead of judgement and condemnation. We all want people to treat us with grace when we make a mistake, but we don't want to give grace to others when they mess up. We want to teach them a lesson to not do that again, right?Well the way to have your spouse give you grace is to give him/her grace. This recording tells you how.Please take a moment to subscribe to my channel so you can get all my marriage tip videos.If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at an amazing 75% discount. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Also, I'd love to talk to you about helping your marriage. Click this link to book a free Clarity Call with me. This 60 minute call will give you a clear roadmap on how to strengthen your marriage. Don't wait. Take advantage of this offer now! Here's the link: https://kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacall
Here are 12 ways to show respect to your husband. Respect is another word for honor and appreciation. When you show respect, your husband will be encouraged and inspired to be the husband you would like him to be. Ephesians 5:33 in the Bible tells husbands to love their wives and wives to respect their husband. When you follow that, your marriage will grow stronger and each of you will be happier.
Gentlemen, if you'd like some ways to make your wife feel special, check out this recording: https://youtu.be/H7rg83yCt8U?si=FNMATsuAQbbFZF2D
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Do you know how to ask for help when you need it? All of us face challenges and need help from others. But most of us struggle with asking for help. We want to be self sufficient. We want to be the one others come to for help. Our pride also makes it difficult to ask for help.But when you need help, you need help! This recording will show you how to ask for it and overcome your reluctance to do so. You will get the help you need and successfully face the challenge you are dealing with when you put this into practice.If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at an amazing 75% discount. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Also, let me help your marriage. Click this link to book a free Clarity Call with me. This 60 minute call will give you a clear roadmap on how to strengthen your marriage. Don't wait. Take advantage of this offer now! Here's the link: https://kdupee1.systeme.io/bookacallSubscribe to our channel for more valuable insights and practical tools to enhance your marriage. Remember to hit the like button, share this video with others, and leave your comments and questions below. Let's create strong foundations and thriving marriages together. May God bless you and your marriage!
Do you know what the biggest mistake husbands make when their wives are upset? We go into fix it mode! Fix it mode is listening in order to provide a solution to the problem your wife is facing. It is the biggest mistake I hear husbands make. The problem is that she might not want your help or your advice. There's a better way. This recording will give you practical tips on how to do that. You really can help your wife, but it's not by fixing her problem or giving her advice.If you're looking for more guidance and inspiration, make sure to check out my book, "Turn It Up - How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," available at an amazing 75% discount. Visit turnitup.coach/75 to take advantage of this limited-time offer and transform your marriage today.Subscribe to our channel for more valuable insights and practical tools to enhance your marriage. Remember to hit the like button, share this video with others, and leave your comments and questions below. Let's create strong foundations and thriving marriages together. May God bless you and your marriage!
White lies in a marriage - good or bad? I've learned in my marriage coaching that giving yourself permission to lie to your spouse is a huge mistake and can be very damaging.
To break this habit, this recording gives you several action steps that will transform your life and your marriage.
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Follow our channel for more valuable insights and practical tools to enhance your marriage. Remember to hit the like button, share this with others, and leave your comments and questions below. Let's create strong foundations and thriving marriages together. May God bless you and your marriage!
Do you want something in your marriage? If so, ask for it. For some this is hard to do but you can learn how to do it. This is one of the common mistakes I see couples make that can easily be fixed. Instead of trying to be self sufficient, learn to ask for what you need. This recording will teach you how.
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Subscribe to our channel for more valuable insights and practical tools to enhance your marriage. Remember to hit the like button, share this video with others, and leave your comments and questions below. Let's create strong foundations and thriving marriages together. May God bless you and your marriage!
Do you need anger management for your marriage? Everyone gets angry but some of us struggle with explosive anger. In this episode, we look at a crucial topic that can either make or break a relationship – explosive anger in marriage. Discover practical advice from God's word to help you navigate this challenging terrain.
Learn how to handle intense anger without causing damage and strengthen your bond with love and understanding. Tune in for valuable insights on resolving conflicts constructively and building a happier, healthier marriage. Let's turn up the love together!
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Subscribe to our channel for more valuable insights and practical tools to enhance your marriage. Remember to hit the like button, share this video with others, and leave your comments and questions below. Let's create strong foundations and thriving marriages together. May God bless you and your marriage!
Do you listen to understand and not to reply? Do you ever feel like your spouse just doesn't understand you? Is communication a challenge in your marriage? This episode of the Turn it Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, addresses a common issue in relationships: feeling unheard by your partner. Discover practical strategies to strengthen your marriage and improve communication without needing a degree in psychology. Learn how self-centered communication can harm your relationship and explore effective solutions to break free from this detrimental habit. From active listening to validating your partner's feelings, these simple techniques will foster understanding and create a deeper connection. You'll gain valuable insights and practical advice to help you turn up the volume on your marriage.
Plus, don't miss out on my book, "Turn it Up – how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want," available at an incredible 75% discount. Just go to https://turnitup.coach/75 Transform your marriage for less than the cost of a cup of coffee. Tune in now and start building a harmonious and fulfilling marriage.
Prioritizing the wrong things in your marriage is one of the most common mistakes couples make. Instead of prioritizing their marriage, many people prioritize their career or their kids or their hobbies over their marriage. This leads to a gradual drifting apart and the weakening of their marriage. If this trend continues, the marriage will slowly die. But you can turn this around and recover from this mistake. This brief recording will teach you how to do that.
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Do you know how to create a strong foundation for your marriage? Welcome to the Turn it Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show where we explore timeless wisdom from the teachings of Jesus to strengthen your marriage. In this recording we will look at Matthew 7: 24-27 where you will learn practical steps to apply this hidden marriage tip from Jesus in your own marriage.
Building a strong foundation is crucial for a house to withstand storms, and the same applies to your marriage. By actively listening to the wisdom and guidance offered in the Word of God, you can lay a solid foundation for your relationship. Discover the importance of truly hearing and understanding your partner's needs, desires, and concerns, and learn how effective communication, empathy, and connection play a vital role in strengthening your marital bond.
In this recording I provide practical steps inspired by Jesus' teachings, including applying love, respect, and forgiveness in your daily interactions, committing to personal growth and self-improvement, and creating a shared vision and purpose for your marriage. I emphasize the significance of seeking support and guidance when needed, and the transformative impact it can have on your relationship.
Don't miss out on this transformative episode that will inspire you to create a strong foundation for your marriage. Join me as I share powerful insights and actionable steps to apply this hidden marriage tip from Jesus. Strengthen your connection, weather the storms of life together, and build a lifelong, fulfilling partnership.
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Do you treat your spouse like Jesus would? Discover the secrets to building a strong and fulfilling marriage by treating your spouse the way you want to be treated. In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools show, we will explore the hidden marriage advice from Jesus and dive deeper into the significance of the golden rule in marriage. By embodying love, respect, and understanding, you can create an atmosphere where both of you feel seen, heard, and loved. Join me as I discuss the transformative power of selflessness, communication, and unwavering commitment in nurturing a lifelong partnership. Don't miss out on valuable insights to turn up the heat in your relationship! Tune in now!
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Check out this awesome podcast episode called "Give Good Gifts to Your Spouse - A Hidden Marriage Tip from Jesus." It's all about how showing love through thoughtful gifts can really make a difference in your marriage.
Jesus had some wise words on this in Matthew 7:11 when he said, "If you who are evil know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him."
This episode is packed with some valuable insights on how to give amazing gifts to your spouse. Trust me, it'll help you strengthen your bond and make your marriage even stronger. Give it a listen and see for yourself!
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Ask for what you want, that is the key to getting what you want in your marriage. Sounds simple and it is, but many couple struggle with this. Some are afraid to ask because they don't want to be rejected. Others don't want to be needy or to bother their spouse. They want to be self sufficient. But God created us with needs and wants us to ask others and him to meet those needs. This recording gives you a hidden marriage tip from Jesus from Matthew 7:7-8, "Ask and it shall be given to you..." I think you'll find this helpful.
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Did you know that before you correct your spouse, you need to examine yourself first?
Welcome to "Turn it Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show," where we uncover hidden gems of wisdom from the teachings of Jesus to elevate your marriage. In this episode, we explore Matthew 7:3-5, where Jesus challenges us to address our own flaws before pointing out those of our spouse. Join us as we discuss the impact of focusing on personal growth and humility within our marriages. Discover practical steps to create a healthier and more fulfilling relationship. Tune in now and turn up the love in your marriage!
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Be a servant in your marriage. Do you know how to be a servant in your marriage? This recording will help you discover how to do that in very practical ways.
Jesus gives us a great marriage tip in Mark 10:45 "For the Son of Man came not to be served, but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many." As we reflect on what this verse means, we will learn more about how to put it into practice so that we can have the lifelong marriages God wants us to have.
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Do you know how to create a peaceful marriage? One that isn't filled with strife or conflict. A marriage that is enjoyable and filled with love and harmony. Your marriage can transform from one of anger to one of peace.
Jesus gave us many marriage tips in his teachings. Some are direct and some are indirect. Many of them are found in Matthew Chapter 5, in the Beatitudes, the "blessed are..." statements. In this recording we will look at Matthew 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.
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Do you know how to keep your marriage pure? There are a lot of things that can come in and defile our marriages. This is another hidden marriage tip from Jesus found in the "blessed are..." statements in Matthew Chapter 5. Jesus said "Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God." Matthew 5:8. This recording will help you identify the possible things that can creep in gradually and keep you from enjoying the marriage God has for you. You'll also learn how to keep your marriage pure so that you can have the lifelong marriage that you really want.I think you will find this helpful and encouraging. Please comment and share and subscribe.For more marriage tips and resources:1. Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.2. Watch my marriage tip videos at my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@turnitupmarriagetipsor listen to them on my podcast at: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/fv1GYdf6Zsb3. Join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
Do you show mercy to your spouse? Would you like your spouse to show mercy to you? All of us want the people we love to show us mercy, but sometimes we don't want to show them mercy. Right?This is part of a series of recordings called The Hidden Marriage Tips from Jesus. In this one we look at Matthew 5:7, "Blessed are the merciful for they will be shown mercy." You'll learn what mercy is and how to show it to your spouse. I think you will find this helpful and encouraging. Please comment and share and subscribe.For more marriage tips and resources:1. Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.2. Watch my marriage tip videos at my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@turnitupmarriagetipsor listen to them on my podcast at: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/fv1GYdf6Zsb3. Join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
If your marriage is empty, be filled. Does your marriage feel empty at times, like something is missing? If that's you, the answer is God. He wants to fill your life and your marriage with love. He wants your marriage to be great and to last. This recording will give you several keys that will help you invite God into your marriage and it will help you be the spouse your husband/wife needs you to be.This is part of a series I call the Hidden Marriage Tips of Jesus. It looks at the Blessed are statements of the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew Chapter 5. The verse we are looking at in this recording is Matthew 5:6, "Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be filled."I think you will find this helpful and encouraging. Please comment and share and subscribe.For more marriage tips and resources:1. Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.2. Watch my marriage tip videos at my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@turnitupmarriagetipsor listen to them on my podcast at: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/fv1GYdf6Zsb3. Join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
Did you know that gentle is strong? Jesus gave a lot of marriage tips in his teachings. In Matthew 5:5, he says Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth. We confuse meek with weak. But a better understanding of the term is that it is someone who is gentle. And being gentle means you are strong. When you know you are strong, you can choose to be gentle and care effectively for your family and spouse.This recording explains how this verse is a hidden marriage tip from Jesus. You'll learn how to apply it and be blessed when you put it into practice. I think you will find this helpful and encouraging. Please comment and share and subscribe. I'd also really appreciate it if you leave a review on Itunes.
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What? Mourn and receive comfort. How is that a marriage tip? Are you overwhelmed with grief because you’ve lost someone close to you and you don’t know what to do with the pain? Are you making the mistake of doing things that help you feel better temporarily but are really helping?
Or is there someone you love that is grieving because of a significant loss and you don’t know how to help? Are you making the mistake of trying to cheer them up or distract them, but that just causes them to withdraw from you, which makes you feel even more helpless?
Life is painful and all of us experience loss in life.
What is the healthy thing to do when that happens? Mourn or another word for that is grieve. In Matthew 5:4, Jesus says, "Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted." A big part of being married and demonstrating your love for each other is comforted each other during times of grief and loss. In this recording you'll learn how to mourn and comfort a mourning spouse effectively so that you can be there for each other.I think you will find this helpful and encouraging. Please comment and share and follow.For more marriage tips and resources:1. Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.2. Watch my marriage tip videos at my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@turnitupmarriagetips3. Join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
Be teachable. Jesus wants your marriage to be great and to last. He tells us how in the Beatitudes in Matthew chapter 5. In this recording we are going to look at one of his tips and apply it to our lives and marriages. Here's the tip - Blessed are the poor in spirit for theirs in the kingdom of heaven, Matthew 5:3. What does this mean and how can it help us have better marriages? This recording answers that question. I think you will find this helpful and encouraging. Please comment and share and subscribe.For more marriage tips and resources:1. Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.2. Watch my marriage tip videos at my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@turnitupmarriagetips3. Join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
There are at least ten warning signs your marriage needs help. This recording is going to help you face the reality of your situation and will give you some practical options to get the help you might need.If your marriage is good, the warning signs in this recording are going to confirm that you are on the right track.
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Jesus is God's role model for loving others, especially your husband or wife. If you want to have a great marriage, love your spouse like Jesus loves us. This brief recording looks at some of the ways Jesus loves us. By following his example, God will bless your marriage and strengthen your relationship. Jesus really is God's role model for how to love others and have the kind of relationships he wants us to have. Please help me get the word out about this podcast by following and sharing. For more marriage strengthening tips 1. Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.2. Watch my other marriage tip videos at my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@turnitupmarriagetips3. Join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
Does your wife feel special to you? Here are some of the things I do to make my wife feel special. If I can do this, you can too. Feeling special is all about making her feel loved, cherished, valued and that she is your top priority in life. This recording will give you some practical ideas you can start doing today to accomplish this. I hope you found this helpful.For the full version of this recording go to https://youtu.be/Mj0Qq0u3ROUPlease help me get the word out about this channel by subscribing and commenting. For more marriage strengthening tips 1. Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.2. Watch my other marriage tip videos at my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@turnitupmarriagetips3. Join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
I'll never forget how this conversation saved our marriage. We were married about 5 years and had two kids. I thought everything was great, but my wife wasn't happy. She wanted something more. In this recording I tell the story of this conversation and how I responded. I think you'll find it helpful and that it will inspire you to have these kinds of conversations yourself.Please subscribe, and comment below if you found this helpful.For more marriage strengthening tips 1. Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.2. Watch my other marriage tip videos at my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@turnitupmarriagetips3. Join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
Prioritizing your marriage means balancing hobbies and spouse time. This short recording offers five practical steps to achieve that balance. While hobbies can be enjoyable and fulfilling, they can also become all-consuming and take time away from what truly matters - a strong and healthy marriage. Join me, a pastor, police chaplain, and marriage coach, as I share my insights on how to maintain a healthy balance between hobbies and marriage. By following these five steps, you can ensure that your hobbies enhance your life, rather than detract from your most important relationship.And if you want to dive deeper into this topic, be sure to check out the longer version of this teaching by clicking this link: https://youtu.be/-rgHVU7wWUkFor more marriage strengthening tips 1. Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.2. Watch my other marriage tip videos at my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@turnitupmarriagetips3. Join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
Would you like to improve your marriage? You can by using these marriage tips that I have applied from the 7 habits that Steven Covey taught us in his book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.
Here are the 7 habits: 1. Be proactive 2. Begin with the end in mind 3. Put first things first 4. Think win-win 5. Seek first to understand then to be understood 6. Synergize 7. Sharpen the saw
In this short recording I'll apply these seven habits to the challenge that all of us have who want to make our marriages great. I think you'll really find this helpful. I recorded a longer version of this teaching. Here is the link: https://youtu.be/wdD__mRT3R0
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Do you know the do's and don'ts of helping someone grieve? It's natural to want to support those we love during difficult times, but how can we ensure we're doing it in the right way? Grief is a universal experience that touches us all at some point, and it can be especially challenging to assist our spouse in coping with the loss of a parent or sibling. Fortunately, this recording will equip you with the dos and don'ts of grief support, helping you navigate this delicate situation with confidence and compassion.
Do you know there are three huge common mistakes when grieving? These three things will prolong your grief and pain when you've lost a loved one. When you avoid doing these things you can grieve in a healthy way. This recording will teach you the three things not to do and the one thing you need to do to deal with the death of someone close to you. If you found this helpful, please hit the subscribe button, like, comment and share.
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Would you rather share information or talk? Some people think that sharing information is talking. Of course to share information you must open your mouth and talk. But have you ever been frustrated because your spouse wants something different from what you want? He might be looking for information, you might be looking to connect and have a conversation that will strengthen your relationship. There is a need for both and both of these desires are valid. The key is balance. This recording will help you balance both of these needs and end the frustration. Please subscribe, like, share and comment if you found this helpful. For more marriage strengthening tips
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Do you struggle with time management in your marriage? I think most if not all marriages struggle with finding time for your relationship. There are a lot of demands on our time: work, kids, hobbies, friends. Often our marriages fall to the bottom of the list and even though you don't mean to, they get neglected. Here's a simple question to see if this is your struggle. When was the last time you went out on a date with your spouse? If it's been awhile, then this recording is for you! This recording will give you an easy to follow tip that will help you manage your time more effectively so that your marriage will have the time it needs to get stronger and better.
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Remember this when apologizing. We all make mistakes and need to apologize to someone. This happens a lot when you are married. You say or do something that offends your spouse and they let you know about it. To mend your relationship and keep from damaging your relationship, you need to apologize. There are four critical elements to a sincere apology and they all start with R: Responsibility, Regret, Repentance, and Request forgiveness.
This short recording is going to teach you how to share these four R's so that your marriage can heal and you can receive forgiveness.
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Do you know how to see your spouse's perspective? Each of us have an outlook or perspective on things. Often we see things differently than our spouse. When this happens to you, the natural reaction is to say that he/she is wrong. They might be wrong but they might just be looking at it from a different point of view. There really are things in life and marriage that are simply a matter of perspective. The first step towards an agreement is to see thing from your spouse's point of view. This short recording will help you learn how to see things from your spouse's perspective so that agree on things instead of fight and have a great marriage. Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.
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When you drift apart from your spouse, don't give up. Look for a solution. This recording will give you the ABC's that will help you to start reconnecting again and healing the damage that has been done.
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Trust is essential to all relationships. Do you know how to build and maintain it? This recording will teach you why trust is so essential, what betrayal really is and how to build trust again after it has been damaged. You'll also learn how to keep strengthening the trust bond in your marriage or relationship.
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If your marriage could speak what would it ask for? Do you know what your marriage needs and wants? If you want your marriage to get better, put yourself in it's shoes and listen to it. Your marriage is alive and has needs and wants just like you do. This recording gives you 10 suggestions as to what it might ask you for.
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Think about it. What's the single biggest challenge or frustration in your marriage? Perhaps its poor communication, or the lack of communication. Perhaps you’re arguing all the time about things that don’t really matter. Perhaps you’re on two separate pages on most issues and can’t agree what to do. Perhaps you’re so hurt that you are finding it hard to trust and be vulnerable again. Maybe there’s so many things wrong in your marriage that you can’t narrow it down. It seems like everything needs to be fixed…
This short recording will help you narrow that down and then it will help you create an action plan to address it. Please let me know what your single biggest challenge or frustration in your marriage is by commenting below. Here's my coaching phone number if you'd like some help addressing that challenge: 626-804-1731
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Why do you think Christmas is a big deal? Did you know it can help your marriage? Christmas resonates with us as no other holiday. We decorate our houses, exchange gifts, gather with family and everywhere you go there is Christmas music! This recording shares why Christmas is such a big deal and how it really can help your marriage. Christmas is so special is because deep down inside, all of us are looking for hope and meaning in this broken world with all of its pain, violence, crime, death, war and loss. Unfortunately, bad things do happen to good people, but God did something about it. He became one of us. Christmas is about God becoming a man who grew up to be the savior on the cross who died and rose again. Now we can have a relationship with God, be forgiven of our sin and receive the gift of eternal life. Because God is with us, he is also there to help our marriages.
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Christmas can be both wonderful and challenging. Here are 10 Christmas relationship tips that will help you have a great Christmas. This 5 minute recording will really help you have the Christmas that you really want. What are your suggestions to have a great Christmas?
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Responding to an angry person is challenging but this recording will teach you how! Our natural inclination is to either run away for fight back. But when you remain calm and use the tips in this 5 minute recording, you will learn how to turn the conversation around so that you can resolve the issue.
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Do you know how to have unity in your marriage? This 5 minute recording will show you why unity is critical to the health of your marriage and why it's important to learn how to get there. God wants you to be united in your marriage and he wants to help you and guide you so that you can walk in unity with each other. The opposite of unity is division and there are many things that try to divide couples, including your kids. In this recording, I've got seven points that will teach you how to have unity in your marriage. I know this will bless and help you.
For the full version of this recording, go to https://youtu.be/FDULqbxRYpg
Here are the links to more helpful videos on this topic:
How to create Win/Win agreements - https://youtu.be/DFXJUXVoU80
How to resolve conflict - https://youtu.be/qVw1cFuqQXw
Five ways to bring Jesus into your marriage - https://youtu.be/hIZh5xMGYQg
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How to be thankful for your marriage. This may be a struggle for some who's marriages are having problems. But even if things aren't what you want them to be in your marriage, being thankful can help make things better. This 5 min. video will help you be thankful for your marriage. Please engage with this post. I'd love to hear your comments and please let me know how this works for you.
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Are your words helping or hurting your marriage? The way you talk to your spouse can either hurt or help your marriage. This 5 minute video will give you 10 words that help and 10 words that hurt. When you change the way you speak to each other, your marriage will get better. Guaranteed!
Proverbs 18:21 says Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.
For the full version of this teaching, go to https://youtu.be/Dt72eRxoqbM
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Is losing your temper hurting your marriage? Have a calm conversation. This 5 minute recording will give you 7 steps to follow once you've calmed down and want to have a productive conversation with your husband/wife. Don't explode with anger or instead just ignore the things that hurt or bother you. Instead talk about them in a healthy way.
For the full version of this teaching go to https://youtu.be/X460W6wsi1U
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Is losing your temper damaging your marriage? You can learn how to master your anger and calm down. This 5 minute video will give you a powerful and effective tip that really works.
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Is losing your temper hurting your marriage? This 5 minute episode can change that. You will learn why explosive anger directed at your spouse is so hurtful and I will give you a tip that can change everything.
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Is losing your temper hurting your marriage? Yes, it probably is. The cure for that is to have a calm, confrontational conversation. This recording will teach you the seven steps you need to take so that you can have a productive conversation that will bring healing and help you grow closer to each other. Most of us don't like to confront, but by using these steps, you'll see how important it is and how it will strengthen your marriage.
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Do you know how to calm down when you lose your temper? Angry explosions can be very hurtful to your spouse and extremely damaging to your marriage. In this recording we will look at Ephesians 4;26-27 to learn how God can help us calm down and manage our anger in a healthy and not hurtful way. You will also learn a tip that I that learned from my police friends that will immediately help you calm down.
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Is losing your temper hurting your marriage? All of us have gotten angry at our husbands/wives. What do you do with that anger? Do you explode, yell and attack your spouse? Have you considered that losing your temper might be hurting your marriage and causing significant damage to your relationship? This recording will give you a practical tool that will help you express your anger in a way that won't hurt your marriage or your spouse.
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Is there a failure to complete requests in your marriage? You asked nicely and even said please, but he or she just doesn't do what you requested. What can you do about this? I suggest you start by understanding why your spouse failed to complete your request. Maybe there's a good reason! When you understand why, then you can respond effectively. This recording looks at the most common reason why your spouse fails to complete your requests and what you can do about it.
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Requests. Do you know how to respond when your husband or wife asks you to do something? If you want to have a great marriage that lasts, this is a key skill to learn. This recording will give you three ways to respond to a request. Mastering this skill will really help you avoid arguments and disagreements.
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Do you know how to get what you need in your marriage? You ask for it. But do you know how to ask for what you need in a way that will get the results you want from your husband or wife? Your spouse is not a mind reader and he/she won't know or be able to meet your need until you ask. This recording will teach you the SMART way to make a request.
Here's the link to the video on using the word "should" with your spouse: https://youtu.be/ijngMXDUCTI
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The like factor in your marriage is how much you like your husband or wife. Do you enjoy their company? Do you have things in common or do you have different interests that keep you apart? A great way to have the lifelong marriage that you really want is to increase your like factor. This recording will show you how to do that.
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Did you know that God wants to do a miracle in your marriage? But you need to receive it. He is waiting for you to do something that then allows him to bring his miraculous power into your marriage.
God has a plan and a will for you and your marriage. This recording will teach you how to invite God to do a miracle in your marriage.
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Would you like to improve your marriage? You can by using these marriage tips that I have applied from the 7 habits that Steven Covey taught us in his book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Here are the 7 habits: 1. Be proactive 2. Begin with the end in mind 3. Put first things first 4. Think win-win 5. Seek first to understand then to be understood 6. Synergize 7. Sharpen the saw In this recording I'll apply these seven habits to the challenge that all of us have who want to make our marriages great. I'll also provide Bible verses that support the seven habits. I think you'll really find this helpful. Please like, comment, subscribe, share, review or rate this recording so that others can hear about this. For more free marriage resources, go to my website, https://turnitup.coach. While you are there, You can book a call, email me your questions, and get my book. You are also invited to join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup May God bless you and may God bless your marriage!
What do you think? Do you use the word should in your marriage? In this recording you'll see all the ways we put shoulds on those we love. You'll learn why doing this is so damaging to your marriage and relationships and you'll learn what to say instead!
How do you "should" on your spouse? Please comment below with your favorite way.
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Do you know how to have unity in your marriage? Unity is critical to the health of your marriage and it's important to learn how to get there. God also wants you to be united in your marriage and he wants to help you and guide you so that you can walk in unity with each other. The opposite of unity is division and there are many things that try to divide couples, including your kids. In this recording, I've got seven points that will teach you how to have unity in your marriage. I know this will bless and help you.
Check out my other podcast episodes for more recordings that will help you have unity in your marriage!
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Would you like to learn how to get what you need in your marriage? All of us have needs that we are looking to our spouse to meet. These are things like belonging, respect, intimacy, love, and being made to feel special. But sometimes those needs and wants are not being met. If that's the case in your marriage, how do you get those those things? In this recording I will share with you the secrets I've learned to get what you need and want in your marriage.
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Your marriage can be awesome but it's not now and perhaps you're discouraged and want to give up. Let me encourage you with some of the lyrics from the song at the end of Lego Movie 2 entitled "Everything's Not Awesome."
Everything's not awesome But that doesn't mean that it's hopeless and bleak
Everything's not awesome But in my heart, I believe (I believe)
We can make things better if we stick together (If we stick together)
Side by side, you and I, we will build it together.
Everything's not awesome Things can't be awesome all of the time
It's an unrealistic expectation But that doesn't mean we shouldn't try
To make everything awesome In a less idealistic kind of way
We should maybe aim for not bad 'Cause not bad, well that would be real great
Here's the link if you want to listen to this song: https://youtu.be/xlHSBx6F6ZQ
In this recording I'll explain why these words are so powerful and encouraging. I'll give you practical steps to take so that you can move your marriage from not awesome to not bad and beyond.
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Would you like a roadmap, a guide that will tell you how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want? I wrote a book that will give you practical and easy to understand tools that will help you. It's called Turn it Up! - How to have the lifelong marriage that you really want.
If you’d like some coaching, give me a call. Let’s take 15 minutes and I’ll let you know how I can help you. All you need to do is go to my website, https://turnitup.coach. While you are there, You can book a call, email me your questions, and buy my book.
You are also invited to join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup May God bless you and may God bless your marriage!
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Are white lies destroying your marriage? One of the things I’ve observed that can be very damaging to a marriage is the habit some have of giving themselves permission to tell “white lies” to their spouse. Perhaps you have fallen into this trap. I’m not talking about being tactful, polite or choosing your words carefully to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, but about deliberately misleading or saying something is true that you know is not true. Because they are not about something important or critical, we justify these lies and say they are no big deal. But these seemingly harmless white lies can do significant harm to your marriage because they can injure the trust in your relationship. Let me remind you that trust is foundational to a healthy and strong marriage. You can’t really be close to someone you don’t trust. In addition to eroding trust, lying is damaging because one lie usually leads to another. If this is your marriage, this can stop and things can change.
This recording will give you five steps to turn around this destructive pattern and start rebuilding trust again.
What suggestions would you give someone who is struggling with lying?
If you found this helpful, please check out this video/podcast episode - How to create an atmosphere of honesty in your marriage. Youtube - https://youtu.be/5K4Lg_COrpo Podcast - https://anchor.fm/turnituppodcast/episodes/Creating-an-atmosphere-of-honesty-in-your-marriage-e1kd84r
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Would you like a roadmap, a guide that will tell you how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want? I wrote a book that will give you practical and easy to understand tools that will help you do this. It's called Turn it Up! - How to have the lifelong marriage that you really want. If you’d like some marriage coaching, please give me a call. Let’s take 15 minutes and I’ll let you know how I can help you. All you need to do is go to my website, https://turnitup.coach. While you are there, You can book a call, email me your questions, and buy my book.
You are also invited to join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup May God bless you and may God bless your marriage!
Do you know how to grieve and how to help someone who is grieving? If you have lost a loved one, this will give you a roadmap on how to navigate through your grief. The emotions are overwhelming at times and most people I talk to do not know how to deal with them. So instead of processing the sadness and anger in a healthy way, most people either deny, avoid or self medicate. None of these will help you. This recording will teach you the healthy way to deal with those feelings.
The second half is about how to be there to love and support someone who is grieving. If your husband or wife has lost a parent, friend or sibling, he or she needs your help. But I've also seen that most of us don't know what to do when someone we love is grieving. So we try to fix it or try to help them avoid the pain. By listening to this, you'll learn the best way to help your loved ones get through their grief.
Even if you heard this when I first published it, I would encourage you to listen to it again, then share it with others. I would love to hear your comments too.
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Do you feel like you and your husband or wife are going in two different directions? The way to change this is to stop and then turn towards your spouse. I know this sounds easy to say, but hard to do. This recording will give you some ideas on how to stop moving away from each other and start moving towards each other.
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Would you like a roadmap, a guide that will tell you how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want? I wrote a book that will give you practical and easy to understand tools that will help you. It's called Turn it Up! - How to have the lifelong marriage that you really want.
If you’d like some coaching, give me a call. Let’s take 15 minutes and I’ll let you know how I can help you. All you need to do is go to my website, https://turnitup.coach. While you are there, You can book a call, email me your questions, and buy my book.
You are also invited to join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup May God bless you and may God bless your marriage!
Do you know how to create a healthy marriage? In this recording I want to teach you what I think is the best way to do that. It starts with realizing that your marriage is a living entity. Like all living things, it has needs. It needs to be cared for. It needs to be protected. It needs to be fed. It needs to be prioritized. When you care for your marriage it will grow and be healthy. If you neglect it, it will die.
Did you know that the emotions someone struggles with when they get a divorce are the same emotions that someone has when someone they love has died? That's because they are grieving the death of their marriage. In this recording you will learn seven ways to create and have a healthy marriage.
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Would you like a roadmap, a guide that will tell you how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want? I wrote a book that will give you practical and easy to understand tools that will help you. It's called Turn it Up! - How to have the lifelong marriage that you really want. If you’d like some coaching, give me a call. Let’s take 15 minutes and I’ll let you know how I can help you. All you need to do is go to my website, https://turnitup.coach. While you are there, You can book a call, email me your questions, and buy my book.
You are also invited to join my free facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup May God bless you and may God bless your marriage!
Does your husband or wife lie to you? Would you like your spouse to tell you the truth? This recording will help you confront him or her about their lying and create an atmosphere of honesty in your marriage and relationship. Trust is an essential ingredient in a healthy marriage. Without it, you'll be insecure and find it difficult if not impossible to be intimate emotionally or physically with your husband or wife. In order for trust to thrive, you must be honest with each other. That means telling the truth no matter the consequences. If you want to be close and build a trusting relationship, lying, even innocent white lies must stop. The answer is to create an atmosphere of honesty. This recording will teach you how to do that.
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For more information about my marriage coaching ministry, please take a look at https://turnitup.coach.
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Would you like to have a strong marriage that will withstand the storms of life? God tells us how. Husbands are to love their wives and wives are to respect your husbands, See Ephesians 5:33 But what does it mean to respect your husband? What is respect and how do you do that? This recording will give you 12 ways to show respect to your husband that can change the dynamic in your marriage dramatically. If you struggle with knowing what your husband needs and wants, this recording will give you some great ideas.
If you'd like to know how to make your wife feel special, check out this episode: https://anchor.fm/turnituppodcast/episodes/How-to-make-your-wife-feel-special---heres-7-simple-ways-e1jpjsg
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If you'd like a roadmap on how to have the lifelong marriage that you want, I wrote a book that will show you how. You can get it at www.turnitup.coach. On the same site you can also donate to this ministry and book a free marriage coaching call with me.
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Did you know that one of the main things your wife wants is to feel special? Do you know how to make your wife feel special? She wants to feel that she is the most important person in your life. She wants to feel needed and wanted and appreciated. She wants to feel loved. This recording will give you 7 ways to make her feel special.
If this is helpful, please like, comment, subscribe or share.
For more information about my marriage coaching ministry, please take a look at https://turnitup.coach.
Also, to book a free discovery call with me so that I can help you have the lifelong marriage that you really want, use this link: https://calendly.com/kellydupee
You are also invited to join my free Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
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Do you know how to avoid unnecessary conflict in your marriage? Couples often fight over things that are not important. Once the conflict begins, we don't want to lose or back down or let the other person win. So we fight and argue about things that don't matter. You can break this damaging habit with one simple question. Ask yourself, "Would I rather be right or would I rather be happy?"
This recording will help you learn how to let go of taking and defending a position and how to gracefully respond in a way that honors the suggestion of your spouse. You really can be happier in your marriage or relationship by putting this one tip into practice.
I hope you found this helpful. If you have questions about dating, relationships, and marriage, you can book a free call with me on my website: www.turnitup.coach. While you are there you can also order a copy of my book: Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want. You are also invited to join my free Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
It really is possible to date without getting hurt. This recording will teach you how. I used to think that dating was like running through a minefield trying to reach the other side without getting blown up too many times. The steps you will learn will keep that from happening and instead you'll be able to find God's best for your life.
Here are other episodes on this topic:
https://anchor.fm/turnituppodcast/episodes/How-to-start-a-lifelong-marriage-e1hrsg6
https://anchor.fm/turnituppodcast/episodes/Ten-questions-to-ask-yourself-BEFORE-you-get-married-e1g8fou
I hope you found this helpful. If you have questions about dating, relationships, and marriage, you can book a free call with me on my website: www.turnitup.coach. While you are there you can also order a copy of my book: Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want.
You are also invited to join my free Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
Creating win win in your marriage happens when you both want different things but then put those desires aside and seek to create a situation or agreement that both you and your spouse are happy with. If you and the love of your life find yourself on two different pages and can't seem to come to a consensus, this recording will help. You will learn the steps that will stop you from the win/lose arrangements that are slowly damaging your relationship. Instead you'll learn how to create agreements where both of you get what you want and are able to move forward in unison, instead of division.
If you need help confronting your spouse when they have done something to hurt or upset you, this video will help: https://youtu.be/n_3gh9LyPFQ
For more information about my marriage coaching ministry and free marriage resources, please take a look at https://turnitup.coach.
Also, to book a free discovery call with me so that I can help you have the lifelong marriage that you really want, use this link: https://calendly.com/kellydupee
You are also invited to join my free Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
To order a copy of my book click on https://turnitup.coach/book
Has anyone ever said to you, "You just don't get it!"? You may have been listening but you failed to show that you understand what they are saying and what you think they might be feeling. In this short video, I explain there are three steps to showing someone you understand.
Here are the points I cover:
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Listen and empathize - Pay attention, focus and think about what the person is saying to you. As you do that, imagine how you would feel if that happened to you. Would you feel frustrated, angry, happy, sad?
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Repeat back to the person in your own words what you think they said and how they are feeling. This is why you have to pay attention. You need to verbalize what you heard and then what you think they are feeling. Don't worry about getting it absolutely correct, just do you best. Something is better than nothing.
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Ask - "Is that it?" or "Did I get it right?" You want the person speaking to expound or clarify what they are saying to you or you want them to let you know you got it. Either way, they will feel that you are trying to understand what they are trying to say to you. If they bring up something that isn't clear, it's also ok to ask questions, then repeat that back to them and ask again if that's it.
This continues until you hear the person say yes, you got it. Now you know the person feels understood. This will greatly improve the quality of your communication and the strength of your relationship. I hope you enjoyed this and found it helpful. I'd love to read your comments.
For more free marriage resources, go to www.turnitup.coach
Would you like to know how to manage your finances without ruining your marriage? This recording will give you seven easy to follow steps so that you and your spouse can stop fighting about money, agree on your priorities and set up a system that will help you reach your financial goals.
If you need help getting on the same page with your spouse, this video will help: https://youtu.be/AxDxDuSn91s or listen to this podcast episode: https://anchor.fm/turnituppodcast/episodes/How-to-resolve-conflict-without-losing-your-temper-e1hg90n
For more information about my marriage coaching ministry, please take a look at https://turnitup.coach.
Also, to book a free discovery call with me so that I can help you have the lifelong marriage that you really want, use this link: https://calendly.com/kellydupee
You are also invited to join my free Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
To order a copy of my book click on https://turnitup.coach/book
Every marriage needs this. What do you think your marriage needs? Does it need better communication, more affection, more time with each other? While all of these are good things, let me suggest that every marriage needs a lifeguard!
Recently I signed up to do a triathlon which consisted of a 1100 yard swim in a lake, a 22 mile bike ride and a 6 mile run. On the day of the race, when I got in the water for the swim, something happened that changed my life. I learned a lesson that day that can be applied to your marriage. This recording will help you have the lifelong marriage that you really want. Every marriage needs this and I hope you will be inspired and encouraged by it.
For more information about my marriage coaching ministry, please take a look at www.turnitup.coach.
Also, to book a free discovery call with me so that I can help you get the help you need, use this link: https://calendly.com/kellydupee
You are also invited to join my free Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
You can get my book at www.turnitup.coach/book
Would you like to have a lifelong marriage? I'm sure you are looking for love that lasts so that you can have a lifelong marriage. It starts with making a good choice of who to marry. Here's my story of dating and then trusting God to bring me his best for my wife.
I hope this recording will inspire and help you. If it does, please comment, share, like, subscribe or review.
If you'd like to know how to HAVE a lifelong marriage, get a copy of my book, Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want. Here's where you can get it: www.turnitup.coach/book
Also, you're invited to join my free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
For more free marriage resources and to book a free call with me, go to my website: www.turnitup.coach
Would you like to have a lifelong marriage? I'm sure you are looking for love that lasts so that you can have a lifelong marriage. It starts with making a good choice of who to marry. Here's my story of dating and then trusting God to bring me his best for my wife.
I hope this recording will inspire and help you. If it does, please comment, share, like, subscribe or review.
If you'd like to know how to HAVE a lifelong marriage, get a copy of my book, Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want. Here's where you can get it: www.turnitup.coach/book
Also, you're invited to join my free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
For more free marriage resources and to book a free call with me, go to my website: www.turnitup.coach
Another very common mistake couples makes is using "You" instead of "I" statements. This short recording will show you how to change that and have productive and healthy conversations that will strengthen you marriage. I look forward to seeing your comments, reviews, likes and shares. Enjoy! For more free marriage resources, go to www.turnitup.coach
How to resolve conflict in your marriage without losing your temper. All marriages have conflicts and challenges. Do you know how to resolve those conflicts? This recording will give you practical tools to resolve your conflicts without losing your temper and damaging your marriage. You will learn how to set the groundwork first with your husband or wife and then how to bring up an issue in a way that will be productive so that you can resolve conflicts and grow closer together.
If you found this helpful, please subscribe, like, share, comment, or review. Here's my number if you'd like some help: 626-804-1731
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Jesus is waiting for you to bring him into your marriage. This recording will give you five ways to do that. As you bring Jesus into your marriage, he will bless it and help you be the best husband or wife you can be. If you want to see a good marriage get better or to help a marriage that is struggling, invite Jesus to be in it and to heal and strengthen it. This recording will tell you how and give you a clear action plan to take. If you have any questions or want some prayer, please call me at 626-804-1731. If you found this helpful, please share, subscribe, comment, review or rate. You're invited to join my free Facebook group at https://turnitup.coach/facebookgroup
More free marriage resources are available at www.turnitup.coach
Do you feel like giving up on your marriage? Or if you know someone who feels like giving up and ending their marriage, please share this with them.
If you feel like giving up, I understand that things are bad in your marriage and you just can't see how they could possibly get better. Before you walk away and get a divorce, ask yourself two questions:
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What does God want me to do?
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What miracle does God want to do in my marriage?
What does god want you to do – He wants you to make your marriage work.
Here’s how:
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Get help! Some things are not DIY
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Focus on changing yourself, not your spouse.
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Learn how and change the things you can
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Accept the things you can’t change
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Act like you love them, even if you don’t feel like it
Instead of giving up, trust God to bless you as you honor your marriage vow. Believe that God will do a miracle in your marriage as you get the help you need. Please share this with someone you might know whose marriage is struggling and thinking that divorce is their only option.
If you or someone you know have any questions or want some help, call me at 626-804-1731. If I don't answer, I promise I'll call you back!
For more marriage resources, check out my website: www.turnitup.coach.
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Is there something in your life or marriage that needs to change? Perhaps there is something that isn't working or could be better. This recording will give you the Four D's of change that will help you figure out where you want to go and how to get there. I learned this from my pastor, Dr. Jim Reeve, Senior Pastor of Faith Church in West Covina California.
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Why give grace to others? How would you like to be treated when you make a mistake? Would you like others to give grace to you? Would you like them to treat you with judgment and condemnation? Would you like them to speak to you harshly and ask "Why did you do that?" If you're like me you would like them to give you grace, right? What is grace? It is understanding, forgiveness and acceptance.
God gives us grace through Jesus and he calls us to give grace to others. Jesus taught us in Matthew 7:12 to "do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Our problem is that when others make mistakes we don't want to give them grace. Instead we want to teach them a lesson, hold them accountable and make sure they don't do that again. So instead of giving grace, we treat them exactly the way we don't want to be treated when we mess up. If you want others to give you grace, then give grace to them.
Let them off the hook, don't make a big deal about their mistakes, forgive and accept that person with all of their flaws. In other words, give them grace! You may be saying - "I give grace to my spouse all the time and he/she still hurts me and makes mistakes. What do I do about that?" The Bible also tells us to "speak the truth with love." and that Jesus came full of grace and truth. In my next video I'll teach on how to do that. For now, let's give grace to others.
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Are you or someone you know getting married? Here are ten questions to ask yourself BEFORE you get married so that you can avoid making one of the biggest mistakes in your life and instead make one of the best decisions of your life. When you ask yourself these questions, you will make a more rational, well thought out decision to marry rather than an emotional one. It really is true that Love is Blind, but you can minimize that by asking these questions. I hope you found this helpful.
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Marriage gone cold? Here's how to turn up the H.E.A.T. There are lots of things in life that can cause a marriage that was once hot to go cold. Has your marriage gone cold? Could it be better? Are you not as close as you once were? This recording will teach you how to turn up the HEAT again. Here's what HEAT stands for: H- Admit you need help E - Education. You need information and to learn how to be married. A - Apply what you learned. Knowledge without application is useless. T - Transform. When you put into practice the new things you learned, your marriage will transform.
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Are your hobbies damaging your marriage? This recording will give you 5 steps to fix this. Hobbies like playing golf, going shopping, riding dirt bikes, are not bad but they can take over your life and become more important to you than your marriage. There are many things that can damage a marriage - working too much, focusing too much on the kids even spending too much time serving at your church. Hobbies can be one of those things that start out good and can grow into something harmful if you're not careful. Time is valuable and it is also limited. When you say yes to something, you automatically are saying no to something else. How do you balance your life so you can enjoy your hobby and still have a great marriage? 1. Think about and prioritize what you really want 2. Talk about this with your spouse 3. Hold your hobby with an open hand, let go of it if you need to 4. Decide together how to fit your hobby into your life or if you need to stop doing it while you are in this season of life. 5. Find a hobby you and your spouse can enjoy together. I hope you found this helpful. For more tips and resources, go to www.turnitup.coach. You are also invited to join my free Facebook group at https://turnitup.coach/facebookgroup If you'd like some marriage coaching, you are welcome to schedule a free session with me at www.turnitup.coach Thanks!
Here's a great marriage tip - Accept your spouse's influence. Do you ever feel that you and your spouse are on different pages? You see things differently, have different ideas about what to do to solve a problem, have different needs, desires and wants. HOW DO YOU GET ON THE SAME PAGE? One tip is to accept his or her influence.
God’s plan for your marriage is found in Genesis 2:24. It says that two will become one. This means his will is that you work together to solve the challenges in life. That your marriage is one of we not me.
Unfortunately, this is generally a problem for husbands. We don’t want to accept our spouse’s influence. Why?
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You think your way is better
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You think they don’t understand
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You think they don’t have the training or education or experience that you’ve had in this area so their opinion isn’t valid
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It feels like you are giving up your power and influence and leadership in your home
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You want to win
If you want a great marriage that is fulfilling and satisfying, be open to listening to and implementing the input from your spouse. You show honor and respect for your spouse by listening and accepting their ideas and advice. Acknowledge they had a good idea. Thank him or her for suggesting that. When you accept your spouse's influence, perhaps her or she will treat you differently!
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Consider your perspective. How you view things determines how you do things. Another way to say that is: Your perspective affects your performance. If your spouse asks you to take out the trash or mow the lawn or go to the store for something, or help the kids with their homework, how do you view that request? If you view the requests from your spouse as a chore, a task, or an interruption, if you do the task at all, you will do it reluctantly, half-heartedly, and without giving it your best. But if you see his or her requests as an opportunity to show someone you love that you care about them and want to lighten their load, that changes the way you fulfill the request doesn't it? It works the same way with a problem. Your problem is usually not your problem, how you see your problem is your problem. In this recording you'll learn how to adjust the way you think about the requests and problems that come your way. As you change your perspective on them you will be much more successful in your personal and professional life, especially in your marriage. If you liked this, please share. You're invited to join my free Facebook group called Turn it Up! a group about relationships and marriage. Here's the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup For more free marriage resources, check out my website www.turnitup.coach
The first step to improving your marriage is to admit you need help.
What do you want your marriage to be like? If you want to get on the same page as your spouse, communicate better, solve problems and stop arguing, then you probably need help.
We don't want to get help generally. We instead deny we need help or we think that our self effort will fix things. Sometimes we just fake it and pretend everything is ok even though we know it's not.
In this recording you will learn why it's important to admit you need help.
You will also learn that help can be both direct and indirect. Indirect help can come from books, videos and podcasts where you will learn new ideas and strategies. Direct help comes from a coach, therapist, pastor or mentor who will speak directly into your lives and help you apply what you have learned.
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Here's Valentines day tip: demonstrate your love. Do you demonstrate your love for your spouse? Most of us feel love towards the person we are married to. But do you consistently demonstrate that love? How do you know if someone means what they say? It's when they follow up their words with their actions.
God did that for us. Romans 5:8 says that God demonstrated his own love for us in this, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. He didn't just say it, he demonstrated his love for us by his actions. We need to do the same for our spouses.
One of the problems I help couples solve in my marriage coaching is the wife not feeling loved or special. Her husband loves her but he doesn't know how to express that or demonstrate that. Because he doesn't know how, most of the time he doesn't do anything. And when he does do something, it usually fails.
How do you demonstrate your love? Here's a suggestion - spend a few moments thinking about what your spouse likes and then get him/her that. It's not rocket science! But we often wait until the last minute and then scramble to do something that will send the right message. My suggestion is to think about it beforehand, make a plan and then execute the plan.
Recently my wife and I went away for a few days to celebrate our anniversary. In addition to getting her a card and a gift, I also bought her flowers, bought a special scented candle and packed our bluetooth speaker so we could have some music. She loved these extra things and I could tell that my demonstration of love for her made her feel special.
For more suggestions, I wrote an entire chapter about this in my book, Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage you really want. You can get a copy at turnitup.coach/book. Also check out the free video course and other marriage resources at https://turnitup.coach/helpful-tools/
Do you know how to respond instead of react? This is one of the most common mistakes we all make in relationships, we react instead of respond. When your spouse is upset at you for something and tells you about it, chances are you feel he/she is attacking you and your react. When you react you get defensive, start explaining, excusing yourself and perhaps blaming someone else. When you choose to respond you stop and think for a moment and then respond with something that will be helpful. John Maxwell teaches that all of us carry two buckets with us, one with water and the other with gasoline. When you react and get defensive, it's like pouring gas on a fire. But when you respond instead of react, you pour water on the fire. Following this suggestion will save you a lot of problems in your marriage. This video will not only tell you what to do, it will equip you to do it. You will learn how to respond instead of react. Let me know what you think by leaving a comment, share and subscribe. You are also invited to join my free Facebook group. It's called Turn it Up! - a group about relationships and marriage. Here's the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup
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Here's a relationship suggestion that will remove a common mistake couples make. Instead of asking for what you need or want in your marriage, you assume your spouse will provide that. When they don't, you get offended and say, "You should have..." You just put a should all over your spouse. The answer is to turn your should statement into a wish. "I wish you wouldn't do that..." This then is clear and it is not an attack. You can then make a request. "Would you please...?" This tool will really help your marriage and all your relationships. Check out my website, www.turnitup.coach for more free marriage resources.
Have you ever felt hopeless, helpless and powerless when facing a problem? I've felt that way. I found three powerful problem solving questions that helped me solve some problems and deal with the challenges of life more effectively.
Here are the three questions:
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What can you do?
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What would you like to do?
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What will you do?
In this teaching I'll explain how to use these three questions to seek God's help and come up with a plan that you can use to solve the problem you're facing.
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Are your words helping or hurting your marriage? Here's 20 words to use/not use that will help you have the marriage you really want. The way you talk to your spouse can either hurt or help your marriage. Proverbs 18:21 says Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.
This episode gives 10 words/phrases that are helpful and 10 words/phrases that are harmful. Here they are:
Words that help – unify, strengthen, build up:
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We – what are we going to do about this? We need help.
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Our – our kids, our house, our money,
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Let’s – let’s figure this out, let’s work on our communication. Let us…
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Us – I think it would help us if we…
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I feel –
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Thank you
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Would you please
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I apologize
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I take responsibility
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May I - may I help you.
Words that hurt – critical, defensive, blame, judge, tear down, accusing
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Always – you always
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Never – you never
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If you
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It’s your fault
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You’re the reason
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Why – as in why did you do that?
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You are
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How could you?
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What were you thinking?
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Did you – did you do that?
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Do you know how to grieve or how to help someone going through grief? There are a lot of people in our community grieving today. If you are grieving the loss of someone you loved or if you love someone who is going through grief, this episode will really help you.
First I will teach you the common ways I've seen people grieve. Only one of these ways is helpful. The other ways only make the pain last longer. You will learn how to grieve in a healthy way.
Then I teach on how to help someone going through grief. Many of us are at a loss on how to help someone who is grieving. This podcast will help you to help them.
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Do you want to have a great marriage? One way to have that is to regularly ask yourself and then ask you spouse the "connection question." Hi, I'm Kelly, pastor, police chaplain and marriage coach with another tool that will help you have the lifelong marriage you really want. The connection question is basically, "how's our connection?"
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How are we doing as a couple?
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Is there anything you want to see different or changed in our relationship?
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What do you like about our marriage?
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Is there something you would like to see more of in our marriage?
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Is there something that you would like to see less of or stop that’s occurring in our marriage?
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What adjustments can we make to improve our marriage?
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Is there anything you would like to talk to me about?
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Are you satisfied with the quality of our connection?
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What ideas do you have about strengthening our marriage?
Asking the connection question places your marriage in reality and not fantasy. It's looking at how things are really going, not how do you hope or wish they were. Asking this question is not an act of fear or paranoia, rather a desire to look honestly at what is going on. Then when you see the reality of your marriage, you can take action: repair the damage, get help from a coach, reconnect, etc. Asking the connection question keeps you from being overconfident and assuming things are great when they might not be. I hope this helps.
If you'd like some help with your marriage, comment below or email me at kelly@turnitup.coach
Do you know how to help someone you love share their feelings? It could be your spouse, your kids or a friend. Everyone needs a safe place to process and share how they feel about things in life. This skill will help you become closer and be the supportive person your loved one needs. Emotions need motion and you can be a catalyst that helps someone get out what is in their heart instead of just stuffing it inside. It’s hard to share our feelings. Some of us just don’t know how. Perhaps we were raised in a home where it was not ok to have, let alone share your feelings, especially the negative ones. Many of us don’t know how we are feeling because we are not in touch with them. Others don’t have the vocabulary that adequately describes them.
Here’s how to help someone share their feelings:
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Ask an open ended question to start the conversation. A great one is “Tell me about your day.”
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Listen carefully and pay attention. Put away or turn off anything that might distract you so you can focus on what they are saying. Remember, you asked for this!
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Clarify by either asking follow up questions or repeating back in your own words what they just said to you.
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Ask the magic question – “How did that make you feel?” This will invite them to move beyond reporting on the events to the realm of their feelings.
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Suggest feeling words if they are struggling to describe their emotions to you. Be patient and let them try first, but if they don’t have the right word, you could suggest one. Try to imagine how you would feel if the same thing happened to you? Then suggest that to see if that’s what they are feeling.
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Thank them for sharing. This is a privilege you need to appreciate and show your gratitude.
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Model sharing your feelings for them. You can do this by saying, “Let me tell you about my day.” Then follow that up with “Here’s how that made me feel…” I hope you found this helpful.
If you’d like more help with this, I wrote an entire chapter on this subject in my book, Turn it Up! – how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want. You can get it at www.turnitup.coach/book.
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I've discovered a big mistake wives make. Have you ever been frustrated when you've asked your husband to do something and he didn't do it? Listen to this episode to find out what the big mistake is and the simple fix that will change everything.
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Do you know what the simplest and best way to strengthen your marriage or relationship is? You may laugh when I give you the answer because it's common sense, but I talk to couples all the time who have let this slip from their lives and their marriage suffers because of it. Here’s the answer – spend time together. Just like the phone you have, you’ve got to charge it up for it to work. If you don’t, it will eventually weaken and then die. The same thing is true in a marriage. Even if you are busy and have kids to take care of, if you don’t spend time with each other alone, your relationship is going to run out of power and stop working.
Here’s four keys to spending time with each other:
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Prioritize - There are things you want to do and things you need to do. Spending time with each other is a need to do type of thing. Yes, there are obstacles that must be overcome to make this happen but when you realize how important it is, you will come up with creative ways to conquer the challenges that are keeping you from spending time together. Some couples feel guilty or selfish spending time with each other. If you want your marriage to be strong and to last. This is essential!
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Plan – The saying is true that if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Get your calendar out and decide when you are going to go on a date. Keep things fresh by adding variety to your plans. Guys like to do side by side activities like watching a game or playing golf. Women usually prefer face to face things like having dinner. Do both. If you can afford it, it’s also helpful to plan big things like going away for a night or two a few times a year along with your weekly date. The key is to consistently get these things on your calendar, then you won’t be swept along by the demands of a busy schedule. When you plan your time together, think too about what will make the event special for your spouse. Doing something he prefers or buying her roses adds a lot to the time you are spending together. Your goal is to make your spouse feel loved.
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Prepare – get a baby sitter, make the dinner reservation, and look up the location so you know how long it will take you to get there. All of these things make the date go smoothly. Think of what needs to happen before you leave the house and take care of those things.
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Proceed – get out of the house and have fun together, just the two of you. I hope this is helpful. If you liked it, please subscribe to my channel.
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