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Managing your thoughts and emotions can be a struggle. Focus on your thoughts and emotions and improve the quality of your life. Discover how to improve your well-being. Experience a challenging, thought provoking, self reflecting, meditative state. Ready to find your inside treasures?
You've been told to let go, to detach, to not care so much. But what if the problem isn't attachment itself?
What if it's that you don't know how to move between attachment and detachment?
This episode takes you through a dance of both. You'll discover how clinging too tight or pulling too far away both keep you from living fully.
When you learn to shift through the phases, you get to feel everything. The passion, the joy and the aliveness.
All that while keeping your sanity and perspective.
It's not about choosing one or the other. It's about the rhythm. Go out to come back. Come back to go out.
That's where life happens.
00:00 - Teaser00:37 - Intro01:05 - Attachment in your life02:02 - Let the pendulumn swing02:38 - Is being attached bad?03:22 - When attachment gets in the way05:22 - Detachment is attachment06:03 - Escaping attachment06:32 - Key: Create space07:09 - Key: New attachments creates detachment08:14 - Key: Observe the shift09:29 - Avoid this pitafall with detachment10:59 - Key: Cutivate attachment13:34 - Bond with the world, become one14:40 - Non-attached giving16:10 - Attachment of service17:30 - Spiritual Bypassing18:16 - Let it touch your heart19:41 - Conclusion
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Episode SummaryYou know that feeling when your mind won't stop jumping from one thing to the next, and you're frozen in overwhelm instead of moving forward? That's what I call chasing your tail. And here's the thing - when everything feels like it's falling apart around you, it's because you're falling apart from within. This episode is about finding your way back to center, to that place of stillness where you can actually engage with life instead of being pulled in a thousand directions at once.
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Main Points:
- When your mind skips from one idea to the next without landing, you lose touch with yourself - and that disconnection shows up in everything you do
- The quality of your life isn't about what you achieve, but about your inner state - you could have the best meal in the world and not taste it if you're not present
- Finding stillness isn't about avoiding action, it's about coming home to yourself so that whatever you choose to do comes from a centered, aligned place
Episode NotesEver find yourself stuck in indecision with too many things pulling at your attention? This episode explores the dynamic of scattered thinking, how it keeps you frozen in fear and overwhelm, and why finding your center is the key to moving through the world with clarity and purpose. Learn to recognize when you're chasing your tail and discover how to come back to stillness.
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Episode SummaryFind your balance between stillness and expression. Which do you think holds more power? Expression or Stillness. Let's find out.
- Inner peace as the means to connection and expression
- Explore the duality of expression and repression
- Uncover the hidden power of stillness
- Find peace within you despite life's demands
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Episode NotesLet's dance between stillness, expression and repression. Can you find calm in the storm? Let’s explore it together.
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- 00:00 - Intro
- 00:24 - Cycles of life
- 01:32 - Impressing, Expressing, Repressing
- 02:15 - Center of Being
- 03:49 - Avoid this trap
- 05:02 - From doing to Being
- 06:09 - Stillness for connection
- 06:42 - Stillness as a means to expressing
- 08:12 - Join me into Stillness
- 09:07 - Goodbyes!
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Episode SummaryHave you ever wonder what your life would look like if you had more options and made more choices?
Today we explore the difference between choice and option. You will discover how clarity can unlock the paths in your life. Learn to avigate from feeling stuck to embracing infinite possibilities. That is having powerful. Making a choice is about agency and exercising your power.
Points we will cover:* How would your life be different if you had more options and you made more choices? * What is the difference between having a choice and having an option? * Unpack the difference between choices and options and how they shape your journey. * Empower yourself by creating options and recognizing opportunities in life. * Challenge inertia and make conscious decisions to transform your path.
Episode NotesIn this episode, we delve into the intriguing dynamic of choices versus options. Learn how your ability to make conscious decisions creates opportunities for growth and empowers you to take control of your life's direction. Embrace your agency and unveil new horizons that once seemed invisible.
Reflect:Where do you feel in your life that you lack options? What are your unconscious choices that you could do with changing? If you're feeling stuck,message me at inside treasures. com and let's get together talking. The option is there, the choice is yours to make.
- 00:00 - How would your life be different if your had more options
- 00:23 - Intro
- 00:55 - Choices
- 02:05 - Lacking options, think again
- 03:04 - Passive choices
- 03:39 - You always have a choice
- 04:36 - Reassess the possibilities
- 05:01 - Lacking options or choices?
- 05:49 - Taking ownership
- 06:40 - Two way door
- 07:51 - See what you never saw before
- 09:24 - Trust in your choice
- 10:32 - You can change your mind
- 11:18 - Conclusion
- 12:39 - Reflective questions
- 13:35 - Invitation
- 16:14 - Outro
Topics: choices, options, empowerment, self-awareness, possibilities, agency
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In this episode, let's uncover the true value of taking a pause, making conscious choices, and prioritizing what's genuinely important to you. Dive into the power of connecting with loved ones and the journey of aligning with your core values amidst the storm of daily demands.
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Explore the importance of conscious connection and core values.
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Learn how to carve space for what's truly important in your life.
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Discover the balance between urgent demands and personal priorities.
Join me as we delve into the art of finding stillness and the importance of intentional living. We'll explore how making space for relationships and core values not only nourishes the soul but also enhances daily life. This episode is all about aligning your actions with what truly matters to you!
00:00 - Coffee Morning with my Wife
01:37 - Intro
01:52 - What's important to you?
02:48 - Pause your life
03:17 - Finding Stillness
04:58 - Flexibility is key
05:59 - Make a choice
06:39 - Dealing with tension
07:11 - Take a stand
08:14 - It can wait
08:59 - Know your values
09:16 - Where are you out of integrity
10:32 - Act on your values
12:03 - Outro
Themes: conscious choices, core values, personal priorities, stillness, connection, intentional living
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Ever felt like the world is reflecting your innermost thoughts and feelings right back at you? Discover why the world acts as a mirror, illuminating both the light and shadows within. Let's dive into how our perceptions shape our reality and explore the transformative potential of self-awareness in our relationships and interactions.
Episode Notes
In this episode of Inside Treasures, we unravel the profound concept of the world as a mirror reflecting our inner desires, emotions, and beliefs. Learn how to recognize the patterns around you and use them as tools for personal growth and healing. It’s time to look within and transform the way you perceive and interact with the world.
00:00 - The world is your mirror
00:30 - Intro
00:43 - Lens of perception
01:32 - There is something in you
02:08 - The mirror of relationships
03:18 - Your environment affects you
04:17 - Finding Stillness
05:58 - Emotion is a sign
07:10 - Practice
08:44 - What shows up for you?
09:48 - Practice 2
11:59 - Notice what gets impressed into you
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In this episode, we explore how the past can act as an anchor, holding you back and affecting how you live today. It’s easy to fall into old patterns, but the real challenge is learning to be fully present and let go of those weights. By finding stillness and increasing your awareness, you can move forward with clarity and intention.
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Understand how past experiences might be weighing you down.
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Learn how to cultivate greater presence and awareness in your life.
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Discover the power of stillness and how it can deepen your connection with yourself and others.
Episode Notes
This episode focuses on how the weight of the past can impact your ability to live fully in the present moment. We dive into how unresolved emotions can shape your actions and how finding stillness can help you break free from those anchors. When you embrace presence, life becomes richer, more meaningful, and you can move forward without being held back by what’s behind you.
00:00 - The Anchor
01:07 - Intro
01:27 - Finding reasons
02:09 - You are creating everything
02:57 - Cultivating awareness
03:54 - Wounds and Traumas
05:01 - Unresolved and Unprocessed Emotions
05:43 - Presence yourself
06:38 - You are still living!
07:20 - How you recreate the past
09:12 - Practice: Reflection
09:36 - Finding Stillness
10:46 - Outro
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In this episode of Inside Treasures, Phoebus shares personal stories about unexpected challenges and the power of resilience. From a cancelled trip to a painful bike fall, he explores how resilience allows us to navigate adversity and continue moving forward, no matter what life throws our way. This episode offers insight into how we can stay present, learn from setbacks, and embrace life's ups and downs.- Learn how to cultivate resilience and adapt to unexpected challenges.- Discover the importance of staying present and moving forward despite adversity.- Explore how life’s small moments and lessons shape your personal growth.
In this episode of Inside Treasures, Phoebus takes a deep dive into the concept of consistency—why it's so difficult to maintain, and how it can both help and hinder your progress. He explores the mindset behind consistency, shares actionable strategies for overcoming inconsistency, and highlights the importance of focusing on progress rather than perfection. Tune in to discover how to create meaningful change in your life without letting the pressure of consistency weigh you down.- Understand why consistency feels elusive and how to overcome that.- Learn how to focus on progress rather than obsessing over gaps.- Explore practical tips for creating a consistency plan that works for you.
Phoebus discusses the importance of aligning your words with your actions to create true transformation in your life. He dives into the challenges of maintaining integrity, exploring why we sometimes resist doing what we say we will, and how to address that misalignment for personal growth. Listen in to discover practical strategies to enhance your self-awareness and live with more authenticity.
00:00 - Finding Stillness
01:41 - Actions speak louder than words
02:04 - Intro
02:17 - Take charge of the meaning
02:40 - Look for the gems
03:03 - Devotive action
03:47 - Reflective action
04:45 - Are your actions out of alignment?
05:59 - Action has gravitas
06:58 - Aligned action is effortless
07:54 - Contrast is an invitaiton
09:05 - Practice
10:02 - Outro
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Phoebus dives into the concept of emergence, emphasising the power of presence and conscious choice. He explains how being open to the unfolding of life can lead to unexpected growth, new opportunities, and deeper connection with yourself. Listen as he shares practical insights on how to cultivate stillness and embrace the natural flow of life.
00:00 - Power of emergence
00:30 - Intro
00:43 - Emergence in nature
01:32 - How is emergence useful to you?
01:49 - Open up possibilities
02:25 - The Law of Emergence
03:14 - Enjoy the process
03:57 - Key: Conscious choice and action
04:33 - Use emergence for growth and change
05:04 - Form your own trail
05:53 - Power of presence
07:25 - Don't miss out
07:38 - Insert finding stillness ad
09:43 - Be devoted to the process
10:21 - Being humble
11:00 - Accept and Respond
12:04 - Practice witnessing
12:52 - Notice the change
13:36 - Be graceful in your practice
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Dive deeper into the concept of devotion and its impact on personal growth. Phoebus shares insights on how being fully committed to a single focus can create mastery, create clarity, and lead to fulfillment.
Learn how to identify distractions, cultivate devotion, and surrender to what truly matters in your life.
Devotion is a guiding force helping you to align with your purpose and navigate life's challenges with intention.
00:00 - Intro to Devotion
00:31 - Crate and Surrender
00:51 - Why is it important to be devoted
01:12 - Intro
01:25 - Your one thing
01:41 - Distractions & Competing Demands
02:31 - Cost of Shinny Object Syndrome
05:07 - Does it turn you on?
05:15 - Keeping up with the Jones
06:37 - Devotion = Surrender
06:54 - The end of motivation pursuit
07:48 - Exercise: Where am I half in, half out?
09:16 - In what ways can you be devoted?
10:59 - The wind beneath your wings
11:58 - Follow your North Star
12:59 - The Dark side of commitment
13:50 - Conclusion
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Self belief come hand in hand with the ability to trust ourselves.
When you lack trust, we lack connection with ourselves and the world. You shirnk, become more fearful and stop taking risks. You become stuck
Reclaiming your trust is about healing and becoming whole again by removing beliefs, attitudes and behaviours that damage our self belief.
Believing in yourself is about reclaiming your inheritance.
00:00 - Self belief is your nature
00:57 - Intro
01:39 - What is self belief?
03:09 - Give permission to belief in yourself
03:59 - Breaking the trust
04:52 - Elements of Trust
06:01 - What breaks trust?
06:48 - Shame the enemy of trust
07:19 - Self Belief is a Belief
09:31 - The problem of no self belief
12:11 - How do build self belief
13:47 - Powerful Question 1
14:08 - Powerful Question 2
15:07 - Powerful Question 3
15:19 - Powerful Question 4
15:51 - Won't I be arrogant?
17:45 - Everything is a skill
20:31 - Outro
Changing beliefs can be a difficult thing. I am sharing with you a few processes so that you can work with yourself.
The first thing you need for this episode is a bit of time. A lot of honesty and plenty of courage.
When working with yourself it will be very easy and tempting to slip away from your own grip. Stay firm and determined in your work and you will succeed in your effort to free yourself from your own limitations.
- 0:08 But I can't
- 2:47 Intro
- 3:05 Recap previous episodes
- 5:52 Why should i work on my beliefs
- 8:55 The self help guide to overcoming limiting beliefs.
- 9:54 A word of warning on changing your beliefs
- 11:50 What to do when you can't spot the belief
- 13:24 Essential elements for creating beliefs
- 16:57 Exercises fro transforming beliefs
- 20:31 Identify the rules in your beliefs
- 23:14 Fill in the belief
- 28:04 Conclusion
- 29:28 Let go, accept and forgive
- 30:35 An invitation
- 34:37 Invite
- 37:07 Outro
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On our path to freedom we stumble upon an invisible limiting force. That force is often an irrational belief. A limiting belief, a negative belief.
That is the thing that is keeping you from moving forward. Like the hand break in the car it can keep showing up. It can keep tripping you in ways that leave you feeling baffled. And with zero progress.
This invisible force, you feel it, yet so often you are unable to understand what it is.
Would you like to uncover what is lurking in the shadows. Which beliefs keep you from being you?
- 0:07 But daddy, I can't
- 1:51 Intro
- 2:08 Recap
- 3:02 Limiting and Irrational beliefs
- 4:17 We all have limiting beliefs within us
- 5:18 Limiting beliefs lurk in the shadows
- 6:29 List of limiting beliefs
- 7:15 Common irrational beliefs
- 8:18 Uncovering irrational beliefs
- 10:41 Uncovering an activating event
- 16:13 Albert Elis Quote on Irrational Beliefs
- 16:24 Conclusion
- 20:13 Outro
- This part of the year tends to be one of my favorite. Usually the time that I really enjoy is the yearend and during the summer. Starting now, starting a little bit earlier,
this is about being intentional. It’s about being ready. - What was the thing that happened again and again that really held you back? What was the main challenge that stopped you from creating 2022 to be the year that you wanted it?
It’s the time that we’re turning the page from what happened this year and moving you to the next year. - What I want you to do is think about your life. In coaching, we have the wheel of life that has different areas of our lives. Which one do you feel that needs the most work
for you? - values are an important aspect of setting our goals along with our purpose and vision. The places that we are out of alignment usually causes pain. The best way to take a
temperature gauge of where you’re standing is to have a look into your values. - Before you set any goals, I want you to think of a theme for your year. Next year my theme is play bigger, create more, be there, more, amplify. For me, goals in the end come
out of a necessity. Choose the ones that are meaningful. - This year, celebrate the good things and acknowledge the ones that drag you down. Work on your weaknesses and even progress with your strengths. Keep your goals simple and
loose. This is a process that I really enjoy doing for myself and taking other people along.
Chapters* 0:08. Fav part of the year * 1:22. Intro * 1:44. Create space * 3:00. Mini Meditation * 5:36. Gratitude * 7:20. Celebrate your wins * 8:40. Main challenge * 9:55. What did you learn from this * 10:20 Goal Setting, Problem solving * 11:08 Wheel of life * 14:20 Values * 15:44 Goals: Setting yourself up to succeed * 17:51 Theme your year * 20:14 Power of one goal * 21:03 Accomplishing your one goal * 21:50 Why is your goal so important to you? * 22:56 Breath life into your goals * 25:16 Who do you need to be? * 27:20 Next steps * 29:28 Conclusion * 33:51 One to One Opportunity * 35:16 Outro
Rational beliefs are the type of beliefs that enable us to operate in an empowered way. We all have them.
Would you like to find out:
- How you can identify them?
- How to reawaken them?
- How you can strengthen them?
- How to apply them in a different area of your life?
Then this episode is definitely for you.
- 0:07 How empowering beliefs help me in life
- 2:27 Intro
- 2:57 Recap
- 4:20 Empowering beliefs exist within you
- 5:12 Your beliefs might be dormant
- 7:43 Examples of empowering beliefs
- 8:23 Creating empowering beliefs
- 12:54 Rational Beliefs brings good results
- 13:02 Conclusion
- 16:40 Outro
Beliefs are part of our operating system. Understanding where they come from, how they are created and how they affect us is a crucial element to our work.
In this episode you will find out the difference between Facts and Beliefs. You will get empowered to create change and growth in your life. Where there were obstacles you will now see the way through.
This episode will show you how beliefs get in the way of your journey or how they are the wind in your sail. It will help you to navigate the waters of life. with more certainty and understanding of yourself.
After awareness, comes ownership. And then choice emerges. With choice there is power!
- 0:07 How beliefs show up
- 0:48 Intro
- 1:08 Facts, vs Beliefs: What are beliefs
- 2:45 Examples of Beliefs
- 3:47 Beliefs are everywhere!
- 5:04 Beliefs shape your life and reality
- 8:03 How are beliefs created?
- 9:03 We adopt the beliefs of others
- 9:38 Strong emotions create beliefs
- 9:54 The ABC Model
- 11:09 Taking ownership of our beliefs and letting go
- 13:23 Positive beliefs (Empowering beliefs), Negative, Limiting (Irrational beliefs)
- 14:36 Self judgement
- 16:30 In Conclusion
- 18:21 Outro
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The importance of stillness can not be underrated. Stillness can help you to feel more connected with yourself, the world and those around you.
Through this episode we will explore together some ways in which I help others to find the stillness within.
Show notes:
- 0:07 Story Intro
- 1:50 Story
- 3:20 Stillness is always within your reach
- 4:15 Reaching Stillness through meditation and coaching
- 7:46 Mind-Body Connection
- 9:46 How I help others to find stillness
- 12:26 Create your world from a place of stillness and presence
- 14:37 Outro
All the theory around our human needs has been amazing to share. The truth is, if we stay on that level of theory, then it won't be of much use to you.
I dedicate this whole episode to you. To help you find which needs are important to you. To find the needs that light you up. The ones that make you come alive. And also the ones that make you feel "dead" inside.
As we discussed before, it is about understanding ourselves, catering for our well being. Understanding the reason we often behave the way that we do.
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0:07 Opening
0:42 Intro
1:03 Which human needs are important for you?
1:49 Understand yourself
2:31 List of human needs
4:13 What are your top 3 needs?
5:13 Question 2
5:13 Prioritise your needs
6:35 Why are these needs so important?
7:51 How do you usually fulfil these needs?
8:34 What happens when your needs go unattended?
9:30 Which one of your main needs requires your attention?
12:48 What do you need to do specifically to meet your need?
13:28 Discovering ourselves in a deeper level
14:05 What need does this positive behaviour fulfil?
14:21 What need does this unhelpful behaviour fulfil?
14:33 Flipping unhelpful behaviours
15:59 What did you learn from this?
16:41 Find fulfilment in everything that you do
17:03 Make the unconscious, conscious
17:56 Outro
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If there is one thing I want you to take out of this episode, it is that:
No one is here to fulfil your own needs apart from your own self. It is your duty to do that. That duty will pay dividends into how good you feel about yourself.
0:07 Number one rule
1:03 Intro
1:23 1 rule when it comes to needs
3:01 Your Human Needs in summary
5:25 Why it is important to meet your needs?
6:18 Why its your responsibility to look after your needs?
10:34 Become proactive and aware with your needs
14:20 Your ego lurking in the dark – and the law of reciprocation
16:18 How to feel fulfilled
18:58 Conclusion
25:23 Outro
The Human Givens model has been the most thorough model on needs that I have found. It is certainly not the last one. The model has been build upon researching and thoroughly understanding what it is that makes us humans.
According to the Human Givens approach we have needs and innate resources that we are constantly utilising in order to adapt in an ever changing world.
1:44 Emotional needs and well being
3:18 Human Givens Needs
3:36 Safety
3:56 Attention
5:25 Sense of autonomy and control
8:51 Emotional Intimacy
9:38 Part of wider community
10:23 Privacy
11:45 Status within a social group
12:05 Sense of competence and achievement
12:41 Meaning & Purpose
14:05 Summary of Human Givens needs
14:32 Closing thoughts
15:44 Quote
16:38 Your chance to create your personal vision for next year
19:30 Outro
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In this episode you will have a different view into our fundamental needs.
We don’t always fulfill our needs in a positive way but we are always looking for ways to fulfill them.
In this episode we will explore different perspective into needs. Notice the similarities into Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs and develop a deeper understanding in what makes us tick.
0:08 Intro Story
1:03 Intro
1:21 Perspectives give insights
1:55 Our motive to fulfil our needs
2:15 6 Human needs
2:26 Certainty
2:54 Uncertainty/Variety
3:23 Significance
4:04 Connection and Love
4:49 Growth
5:25 Contribution
6:20 Summary
7:39 How can you benefit from this episode?
9:11 Quote and ending
9:25 Eudaimonia
10:22 Outro
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In the next few episode we will be going over a few different models of primary Needs.
These episodes will guide you through your own needs and help you to pinpoint which one of these needs are important for you.
In this episode we will focus on Abraham Malslow’s model, called the Hierarchy of Needs. A triangle representing different variations of needs that lead us to the need to self-actualise.
0:08 The first time I saw Abraham Maslow’s pyramid of needs
0:48 Intro
1:00 Welcome to Season 3
2:05 Why are needs important?
3:07 Context into Maslow and the Humanistic Approach
3:52 What does it mean to be self-actualised?
5:14 A high level view of Maslow’s Pyramid of Needs
6:20 The Physiological needs
7:04 The need for Safety
8:38 The need for Love
9:58 The need for Esteem
11:06 Need to Self-actualize
12:18 Summary
14:22 Maslow’s Quote: What a man can be, he must be.
14:30 Apply this episode to your life
14:53 Outro
Closing a door is a simple notion, it is about leaving things behind and moving on. Many times in life though, things don’t work that way.
In this episode we will explore what is it that creates this lack of movement on our part. What is keeping us stuck?
Make sure you stick with the episode as I will give you a powerful strategy to make decisions and stick with them.
Now, you can listen to this episode and close the doors that you need to in order to be free from the past.
When that other door opens you will be ready!
0:07 Closing a door
0:35 Stuck between worlds
3:09 Lucky Luke & the Daltons
4:09 Where does indecision stem from?
6:02 Connecting with our intuition
10:29 A strategy to make decisions
15:43 Napoleon Hill Quote
16:26 Closing thoughts
19:18 What door must you close?
20:18 End of season 2
20:3 Outro
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It’s not the thought that counts! It’s how we react to the thought that we just had.
As humans we have the tendency to attach to certain thoughts more so than others. While our automatic thinking goes about in our day to day we end up with some thoughts that get our attention.
After we hear them or see them in our mind, we often create a label for it. We judge it! We add meaning to it. We say, that was a bad thought!
That’s where the dance begins, but how can you end the dance with grace?
To find out, listen to this episode.
0:08 Story about Leo Tolstoy
0:44 Intro
0:57 Proverb: Idle man’s mind is the devils workshop
1:19 What are intrusive thoughts
1:55 How thoughts work
2:33 Thoughts are real to us
3:28 Where do intrusive thoughts show up?
3:58 What matters is how you react to a thought
4:31 Controlled vs automatic thinking
6:00 How not to deal with intrusive thoughts
8:22 How to manage intrusive thoughts
9:48 Mindfulness: Learn to observe without judgement
10:13 No such thing as a bad thought – let go of labeling
10:54 Summarise dealing with intrusive thoughts
11:27 Fall in love with Giraffes
12:04 Giraffes reflection
13:00 Outro
In the “Always On” culture of grinding and making sure things get done, we lose touch with reality. We lose touch with ourselves and the things that our important.
We run out of juice and become unable to do even the most basic tasks.
Burn out is a real thing and it is affecting you more that you know. Being consistent is a way to move things forward but without the use of breaks we soon start to slow down and become dull.
We have been taught to keep a focus mind in order to be able to achieve things in life. But what if there was something more, something different that could actually give our zest back.
Join me on this episode and get an insight into the ups and downs of productivity.
0:08 Consistency and productivity are great but not the only thing
0:35 Intro
0:47 A story about finding solutions
1:52 Do this to be more productive
1:52 Subconscious mind
3:05 Mind: Expansive vs Focus
3:53 “Always on” culture
4:12 Burn out effect
4:38 Combat burn out by creating intentional space in your day and as part of your life
5:28 Get back your zest
5:44 Polarity (Productivity vs Breaks)
7:18 Cement your growth by taking breaks
7:36 Reflect on your breaks
8:07 In Summary
9:09 Outro
0:08 Intro
2:33 Authority figures & Locus of control
3:21 Stop looking for authority figures
3:42 You are the authority in your life
3:53 Beauty of owning our own decisions
4:30 In life there are no guarantees
5:02 Why start if there are no guarantees?
5:12 Attached to results
5:27 Looking for reassurance
5:54 Why doesn’t it need to work out?
6:09 We grow by experience
6:25 Build certainty in yourself
7:16 With experience there is challenge
7:46 You still succeed in a personal level
8:01 Risk creates fear and thrill
8:27 Get feedback but also hold ownership
8:38 Build character and confidence
8:57 Circle of growth
9:11 Kill procrastination
9:46 The faster you act the sooner you ll learn
9:54 How our emotions and thoughts get in the way
10:24 Illustrating thoughts descending to materialise in action
10:40 Forget why
11:41 Leap to the in unknown
11:45 Two basic beliefs that will propel you
11:53 You can figure it out
12:25 I can handle what comes my way
13:32 Leap forward into the unknown with these 2 beliefs
13:44 Find certainty from within
13:52 You are able and capable to do what it is that you want to be doing
14:03 Seth Godin Quote
14:17 Thank you
In this episode, we are focusing on judging a message vs the messenger who delivered it. There are times that great messages come from people that we don’t think highly off.
The reason at times is because this person might have a specific weakness which we don’t agree with. under that light we stigmatise this person and define them to be that bad behaviour.
The problem with that is that it reflects backwards in us. It shows that we don’t have much tolerance for others and that means we don’t have much tolerance for ourselves.
We define others by a certain behaviour, that means that we define ourselves by certain behaviours as well. That can create great limits on how we perceive ourselves and others.
0:06 Story about Alan Watts Interview
1:10 Intro
1:23 Does this message work for you
2:25 Acceptance vs Agreement
3:18 Judgement and Self-perception
5:05 There are many sides to us that make us complex
6:08 Hypocrisy, Honesty, Double standards and Authenticity
7:43 Summary
8:35 Quote
8:41 Outro
Becoming time rich is about creating space intentionally in order to taste life. In this episode we will cover a few basic things that we can all do to be more in control of our life.
0:07 Welcome
0:20 How can you become time rich
0:36 Take breaks
0:55 By being present we create time
1:13 Choose space, create intentional space
1:55 Let go of things
2:24 Be assertive with your time
3:36 Be mindful, be still, you will be time rich
4:25 What’s the point if we never have the time
4:34 Here and now boys, Aldous Huxley
4:44 Outro
What is our life other than a collection of events in life. Moments stacked up together forming our past, all coming together in the now.
Time is a concept that has captured the imagination of many. Discussed to a great length both philosophically and scientifically. How often do we actually though speak about how we experience time.
Our perception of time is not static, it is changing throughout the day depending on what we are doing but most importantly on how we are feeling.
0:07 Carl Jung Quote
0:29 Welcome
0:47 My story with time
2:50 How I started being better with time
3:04 Make it important to be on time
3:33 Tip: Rush early
4:35 Our perception of time
6:49 Mind can compress time
7:20 Emotion is linked with time
9:10 There is only the now
9:56 Our thoughts and emotions move us out of the now
10:40 Push your urges aside
10:56 The past and the future
11:28 The future
12:29 Conclusion
13:17 Jim Rohn Quote
13:27 Stop selling the now in favour of yesterday or tomorrow
13:35 Outro
There are three main elements in achieving any goal. Tune into this episode and figure out:
- How to build belief in yourself and your goals.
- How to break the spell of procrastination
- Where you need to be spending most of your time in order to succeed with your goal
- Why you need to be looking at yourself in the mirror? (metaphorically speaking)
0:07 Intro
0:29 In the previous episode
0:54 In this episode
1:00 Belief, Action and feedback
1:39 Belief
1:45 How do you perceive yourself? Do you believe in yourself and your abilities?
2:28 Limiting beliefs will affect your performance
2:44 You can’t run with an iron ball chained to your leg
3:01 We can cultivate belief
3:42 What are some ways that we can build belief
3:49 Auto suggestions
4:31 What are auto suggestions, the effects in ourselves
4:53 Develop affirmations
5:37 What’s your belief balance? How many beliefs in your piggy bank?
5:48 Visualisation for building beliefs
7:00 Visualise the process not just the result
7:26 Use the systems in place. How we experience the world
7:50 Action
8:00 Just start now
8:33 Break the spell of avoidance and fear by starting
8:58 Action feed into belief
9:06 Build belief by acting
9:32 Cumulative consistency
9:41 Action feeds into belief
10:22 Carve time and make things important enough
11:14 Create boundaries and deadlines
11:54 Make a plan and schedule
12:08 What are the key activities that help us with our goal
12:37 Building a process and a habit
13:56 Feedback
15:11 Your torch can only light as far
15:48 Feedback with Accountability
16:11 What are your obstacles and challenges, resistance, friction
16:39 Keeping track of your progress
18:01 To summarise
18:43 Outro
For many years, I failed at my goals. I kept setting them up but nothing was happening for me.
In this episode, I will take you over some of my personal struggles and blind spots. The aim is to help you achieve your goals without having to go through these hardships.
These have been blind spots in my progress. Avoid making the same mistakes like I did and move forward with your goals.
0:07 Opening
0:30 Intro
0:46 In this episode
0:56 Fallacy #1: Bucket list
1:54 Go on a goal diet
2:03 Fallacy #2 Goal competition
3:27 Fallacy #3: Wishful thinking
4:11 Goals have a price to pay
4:52 Fallacy #4: Lack of belief
5:34 Am I worth to have this, self-sabotage
6:14 Power of small action
6:48 Fallacy #5 when
7:21 Fallacy #6 over planning
8:24 Travelling between two cities
9:17 Focus on the next step
9:30 Fallacy #7 Lack of feedback
10:09 Working in silos doesn’t work
11:49 Fallacy #8: Comfort
12:22 What you don’t want to do is what you do need to do
12:59 Fallacy #9: Vagueness
13:34 Fallacy #10: Ego
13:54 Be satisfied with where you are
14:30 I accept and I am very grateful of where I am today
14:36 Summary
15:06 You have enough in your life
15:21 Outro
Have you ever thought why goals matter for your growth?Goals will without a doubt create more clarity in your life. They will help you focus on what you want and lead you to change.
Whether we like it or not we are actually always setting goal. Whether we want to travel or whether we are planning our day we are setting goals.
This is not what this episode is all about. Join me in this episode and discover how you can better understand yourself with the use of goals.
0:08 Intro
0:38 Why do goals matter
1:26 When can you set your goals?
2:09 Goals guide us through life with clarity
3:28 Goals reveal your character
4:18 Goals will bring up emotions and fears
4:42 Growth mindset
5:03 What kind of beliefs do I have about my goals?
5:23 Two keys to your succeed with your goals: Boundaries and Accountability
5:40 Self-worth
6:27 Locus of control
7:08 Cause and Effect
7:20 Create some new causes
7:43 Create goals form a space of love, flexibility and acceptance
8:17 Deep down we remain the same
8:59 Life is a raging bull
9:19 Create life or life will create you
9:40 Goals homework
10:11 Outro
Over the holidays I had the opportunity to spend time with my family. In one of those moments a thought came to my mind that changes how I look at life.
Join me in this episode to find out why being present in life is important for you.
0:07 Intro
1:20 Life will never be the same again
2:00 The eternal now
2:23 What happens when we are present
2:59 Focus
3:53 Take hold of your focus
4:07 Process of thought and fleeting mind
4:32 The mind is like water
4:46 Mindfulness
5:18 How can I be present?
6:03 Vanishing reality
6:53 Taking time for gratitude
7:11 What are your highlights?
8:09 But aren’t I avoid the present>?
9:04 Cultivate the will to be present, it’s a skill
9:49 Guard your focus and attention
10:03 Outro
Have you ever wondered how you look at things? How these things that you look at actually make you behave in a certain way?
In this episode we will talk about perspective. What it is and how it affects the way that we live.
Perspective is malleable it is a choice, more often than not an unconscious one that drives our life.
Listen to this episode and discover the one question that can help shift things around for you.
0:06 Intro
1:31 Wayne Dyer quote
1:37 Windsurfing
2:43 What is perspective
3:14 We have to change our perspective
3:41 Logic in perspective
4:57 Skewed and adjusting perspectives
5:42 Let go of perspective
6:00 How else could I see this?
6:36 Allow a new reality to take place
7:18 The reason this works
8:16 Anais Quote
9:04 In conclusion, become more aware of the narratives
9:20 Why am I telling you this again?
10:09 As Marcus Aurelius said
10:28 Outro
Resilience is more than the ability to bounce back. It is also our capacity to adapt in the face of challenging circumstances, whilst having a stable mental well being. Resilience isn't a personality trait – it's something that we can all cultivate.
Discover the fundamental belief that can guide your resilience and perseverance. Listen to this episode today.
0:06 Intro
1:04 Childhood story
1:50 Story lesson
2:15 Starting over
2:35 Be stupid and humble
2:50 How kids learn to walk and what you can learn from that
3:10 Be careful of your ego
3:38 Learn from the process
4:25 Notice the feedback and use it to your advantage
5:03 Recruit help
5:19 Are you stubbing your toe every night?
6:00 Develop a thick skin
6:11 Cultivate foundational belief for growth
7:05 Teach this one thing to your children
8:01 All problems have a solution
8:12 Self esteem and worth will grow
8:25 You can withstand anything that comes your way
8:57 Pretend everything is an experiment
9:05 Confucius
9:16 Post summary conclusion, take away
9:45 Cultivate resiliency
10:16 Outro
Making plans is part of our human nature, whether we are into productivity skills or not. We make plans. Plans that we hope will work out. When they don’t we get trapped in our ego. We begin to get tormented by our own expectations, by our own thoughts and emotions.
The problem arises from our expectations and how we think that everything will work out in our way. This is true even from the most pessimistic people amongst us.
When we have this skewed idea that things will either work or not work we enter the black and white thinking. The kind of thinking that keeps our emotional brain engaged and keeps us from moving forward.
The process of changing our attitude and perspective starts with understanding what is going on. It starts with noticing the shades of grey.
Join me in this episode and learn what you can do to move past the rut and into your power.
00:06 Intro
00:33 Welcome
00:46 Simon Sinek quote
01:09 My week and how I came up with this story
01:36 Perfectionistic view of the present
02:04 Black and white thinking
02:11 Start to reflect
02:17 Why is reflection so important
02:40 Change meaning and attitude
02:55 1. Acknowledge it
03:52 Is this realistic or Perfectionistic
04:25 2. Accept it
05:47 3. Learn from it
07:05 4. Be grateful
07:19 5. How do we get out of this?
07:39 Summary
08:40 Be understanding and compassionate
09:07 Everything in life is an opportunity to learn
09:51 Take a step back and see things from afar
10:18 Start riding the waves of life
10:35 Michael Jordan Quote
10:44 Outro
Do you find yourself consuming self-help materials but never getting to achieve any change in your life? Then this episode is for you!
In this episode we are going to talk about:
- Why self-help appears to be useful but most often isn't.
- When and how self-help can help you
- The trap to avoid when consuming self-help
- How the ego tricks you in believing you are progressing
- The benefits of getting help
- What are some solid foundations of healing, changing and growing
- Listen to the episode (10 min)
This is the first episode of season 2! The intention for this season it to have short actionable episodes that give more value to you while they take less of your time.
0:08 Intro
1:32 Self-help appears to be useful
1:38 When did self-help books help me
2:04 Fallacies of self-help books
2:07 Getting lost in the knowledge
2:36 How can you apply this knowledge?
3:29 Pride of the ego
4:02 Most successful have coaches, mentors
4:29 What are the benefits of getting help?
4:49 3rd Perspective
5:44 Accountable
6:12 Lean against your weak spots
6:54 Through friction and pain we get growth
7:06 Going to the dentist
7:16 Reddit story
7:38 Solid foundations of change, healing and growing
7:52 Be responsible
8:12 Good old work
8:34 Self-help is first aid, getting help is open heart surgery
8:54 In this episode we talked about?
9:05 Zig Ziglar Quote
9:28 Outro
What’s the one thing that is constantly taking place within our mind and is affecting our emotions?
Our thoughts…
We voice our thoughts through talking to ourselves. That voice has certain qualities, that voice carries certain messages. That conversation, we call it self-talk or inner dialogue.
When it comes to our emotions, we need to understand that we have a choice. Yes, emotions and thoughts can pass through our mind very quickly. There is not much we can do about that event. But there is plenty that we can do afterwards.
In this episode we are going to talk about:
- The effects of negative self-talk in your psychology
- The 2 elements that affect the quality of our emotions and thoughts
- What you need to give to yourself in order to look after your well-being
- How to control your consciousness and direct it towards a more positive dialogue
Our inner self at times is like a kid that fell and scraped its knees. Let’s give ourselves the gift of warmth, love and support. Encourage our self to move on, to forget, to smile. And finally to go out and play once again.
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0:07 How you use your voice and what you tell yourself
0:35 Intro
1:16 How we experience the world,
1:42 NLP and Auditory Sub-modalities (Pace, Tone)
3:04 Tone carries meaning
3:07 Message and Tone
3:19 Change the message or the tone and change your emotions
4:17 Spiral of negative self-talk
5:10 Cause & Effect
5:23 The Kettle analogy
5:53 Thoughts and emotions are chains
7:01 The Roller Coaster effect
7:55 Become more aware of your internal voice
8:58 Thank yourself
9:15 Give yourself a new direction
9:37 Smashing windows
11:25 Start somewhere
12:20 What is the message this thing is trying to tell me?
12:54 Thanking yourself for being aware
13:12 What emotions do you rather have?
13:24 Give yourself what you need, look after your well-being
13:49 How would you speak to someone you are supporting?
13:56 Identify what is but focus on what you want
15:14 To summarise the process (Awareness, Thanks, New direction)
16:18 In conclusion
18:15 Confucius Quote
18:25 Need help?
18:39 End of season 1
19:07 Outro
Do you find yourself starting and stopping? Does it feel like you are chasing you tail? Do you feel that every time you have some progress you end up where you started?
In this episode you will learn:
How to break the cycle of starting over
What to do when you fail in your effort to change
How to use your failure as fuel to your progress
How your compass of why and where can help you start over faster
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0:25 In this episode
0:38 Intro
0:52 What it takes to move forward
1:20 Stop chasing your tail and moving in circles
1:43 Learn to break the cycle by starting
2:44 Are you demoralising yourself when you fail?
3:01 Learn to be consistent and positive even in failure
3:11 Get back on the bike
5:28 Break and create consistency
6:10 Change comes with resistance
6:50 Replace old behaviours with new ones
7:16 What is your why? Why are you moving forward and why are you stopping?
7:50 Pain and fear can be a motivator or a deterrent
8:11 What are your obstacles?
10:21 Life isn’t perfect (Perfectionism)
11:03 Positive self talk
11:24 Avoid focusing on the drawbacks too much
11:46 Focus on where you are heading and your progress
12:42 Use your self-talk to your advantage and benefit
12:48 What do babies and learning how to walk have to do with your growth?
13:34 Don’t focus on the falling, focus on the walking!
13:43 Admire your progress because without the forward you would have made it through
14:13 Learn to be content with where you are
14:56 In summary
16:15 Keep pushing forward
16:45 This too shall pass
17:15 Churchill quote
17:48 Sign off
Do you remember the last time you were watching a movie? An action movie, or a horror movies. The music leads you into deeper into the scene. Heightening your attention, the scenes begin to change swiftly. You are sitting at the edge of your seat waiting. Your heart begins to race. Your breathing changes, it becomes more rapid. You are tensing your muscles.
Then suddenly…
Have you ever noticed what happens to your body and your mind when you watch a movie?
Our thoughts, emotions and beliefs are affecting our body and our well-being all the time. The mind-body connection a 100% real. We often hear about the mind-body connection in psychosomatic illnesses. But does it all have to be dark and gloomy?
Is there any benefit to the mind-body connection? Is there anything you can do to benefit your well-being? Can we actually get better quicker by using the mind?
Listen and find out how to use your body and your mind to your benefit.
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00:10 Intro
00:27 Healthy Mind, Healthy Body
00:34 The link between the mind and the body
00:56 What is the mind body connection?
01:10 Mind and body is a two way street
01:24 Our thoughts, emotions and beliefs are affecting our body
02:09 Why is the mind body connection important?
02:16 Increase your awareness in our emotions and thoughts
03:03 We can use body to relax the mind and mind to relax the body
03:32 How we experience emotions and thoughts in our body
04:26 Having awareness of our own tensions
05:44 How can the mind-body affect our life in a negative way?
07:56 Stress affects our entire body
09:33 How can we benefit from the mind-body connection
09:49 Learn to relax your body
11:24 Breathing affects our heart and cardiovascular activity
11:51 When we relax we go to rest and digest, healing takes place
12:45 Find the space to call home
14:53 In Conclusion
15:34 What other healthy ways can you find to change the way you feel - when you need to
17:15 Be firm, alert and aware
17:41 Doing the things that put us in balance
18:03 Don't expect to be in balance to get in balance, do the things and you ll get balance
18:48 Nietzsche Quote
19:10 Outro
Our body is a complex system. It tries to maintain balance. One of the primary systems is the Automatic Nervous System (ANS).
Why talk about the ANS? Our ANS has control over the flight or fight response (The sympathetic system). The way we live, the kind of stimulus we have, activates the fight or flight far more often than any other time in the history. We run our system to the ground by living in a fast pace world full of demands and stressors. As a result our mind and body wear down.
We lose our well-being.
There is another system in place as a balancing factor to the fight or flight response. We call it the parasympathetic system where we get to rest, digest and heal. The keyword here for us is to heal.
If we want to improve our mental and physical health. Improve our well-being we got to find ways to switch off the alarms and allow ourselves to be.
What we need is to help ourselves find that space in time. That space to reflect to be calm and peaceful.
It's never been more crucial for us to make that time to calm our mind and body down. The healing then takes place automatically in all levels.
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0:09 Intro
0:22 The Emotional Brain
0:30 The Automatic Nervous System
0:48 Why talk about the Automatic Nervous System (ANS)
0:59 We live an unbalanced life
1:11 We need to calm and relax more (Entering the parasympathetic system more)
1:26 ANS: Primary control Fight or flight and regulating the body
2:05 ANS: Sympathetic system and Parasympathetic
2:09 Sympathetic: fight or flight
2:19 Parasympathetic: Rest, Digest & Heal
2:29 Dance and balance of 2 systems
3:14 Characteristics of sympathetic system
4:03 When we are calm we heal
5:06 Both system are there for balance
5:10 Running our systems to the ground
5:26 There is no difference between real imminent danger vs imaginary danger
5:35 Driving the car to the edge
5:59 From physical threat to mental threat
6:54 Fight or flight is meant to be short lived
8:53 Mind body connection
9:07 How we experience the world
9:36 Allow healing to take place
9:45 You are safe
10:00 Emotional brain can fire from within
10:34 Breathing is key
12:12 Allowing ourselves to heal
12:42 Outro
Imagine a life without emotions, a cold, dull and logical life. How boring would that be? Now imagine a life where emotions run your every action without any logic. How dangerous could that be?
In this episode we will talk about the emotional brain. We will understand the power of emotion. Emotion can help us experience and come in contact with the world. Emotions are a great blessing but they can also prove to be a threat. A threat to whom?
To ourselves and others – the ones you deeply love and care so much about.
Getting highly emotional inhibits our thinking brain, we stop being rational. We all have seen ourselves and others act with emotion. Doing things they wouldn’t normally do, saying things they never meant. There is a physiological reason behind this.
Next time you get too emotional remember to:
-Become Aware (yup, awareness shows up here again)
- Experience your experience, feel it, embrace it, notice it, notice your thoughts. Don’t fight, don’t run, don’t try to figure out why – just be. By experiencing it and being aware you will find a sense of calm. Once you are calm do something that puts you in balance.
- Now that your brain is fully functioning again, self reflect.
When I get too emotional, I rather wait and not react. I rather leave things and think them over when my brain is working. It is not because I am running away from things, it’s a conscious choice. I don’t like damaging myself or others in the process of emotional arousal. I am not always successful by the way…
Yes there will be times we need to be assertive and set our boundaries in the moment. There will be times that emotions get the best of us. But don’t allow the heat of the moment carry you away.
Remember to use emotion… but don’t let your emotions use you. Use emotion constructively and many doors will open for you.
0:08 Intro
0:21 The Emotional Brain
1:29 Emotion can be a great ally but also an enemy
1:43 Simple anatomy of the brain
3:04 How we experience the world (link)
3:54 Emotion precedes thought
4:17 Powers of amygdala
5:02 Higher the emotional arousal the more closed the brain gets
5:45 Black and White Thinking
8:18 Emotions stops us from thinking
8:34 Why me, spiral down
9:03 Identify emotional brain by the catastrophic thinking
9:21 How can I calm myself down
10:06 Awareness
11:18 Experience it go into it
11:38 Remember the things that put you in balance
12:31 Post event reflection
13:20 Speak to emotion with emotion
13:44 Use your senses to achieve peace
15:10 Summary
15:59 In Conclusion
16:45 Avoid acting when emotional
17:01 Leave things for a while
17:34 We can be spontaneous but not to our expense
18:37 Emotions are great
19:59 Outro
Change and adaptability are crucial to our survival. Learning how to change on purpose can do wonders in your life.
When we talk about change work we often find ourselves getting excited and wanting to change. As our excitement deflates and our motivation gets drained we get the yo-yo effect. Back to square one where it all started.
Or you might enter the zone of fear, insecurity and doubt. Finding yourself avoiding the change you crave so badly. These emotions can keep you stuck for years.
Sounds familiar?
By listening to this episode you will learn about the power of acting small while being consistent.
Long lasting change starts a day at a time, by taking small actions that can propel us forward. When we do small changes we build that confidence in ourselves. We feel more supported and safe.
Waiting for the perfect moment is another way to avoid change. Only when X happens and only when the planets align then and only then I will be able to change.
The fallacy of postponing our happiness to a future event that never comes. It never comes because we haven’t learned to experience it today as a reality.
Acting small is about finding something very little that you can do towards the change that you want.
Find something small to do, get competent with it and then raise the bar.
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0:10 Intro
0:27 What is acting small
0:57 Make small and consistent changes
1:31 Long lasting change
2:04 Resistance of ego
2:17 The ego’s role is to keep the homoeostasis
3:08 Mind fear and insecurity
5:26 Build confidence and competence by acting small
6:04 Doubt creates Fear, Fear creates insecurity
9:02 Acting big stops us dead on our tracks
9:41 Refreshing your pond
13:33 Small changes are achievable today
15:44 The size of change is relative to your psychology
16:21 Put self in uncomfortable situation
16:36 Repetition is key to change
17:33 In Summary
18:35 Yoyo-effect
19:20 Internal Thermostat
20:25 Dealing with Addiction a step at a time like Russel Brand
21:35 Pick something today taht you want to change in your life
22:55 Outro
The growth mindset is a concept that we can fit into many different areas of our lives. Listening to ideas is great but most importantly we need to integrate ideas into our daily life.
On this episode we get to use our knowledge from the last episode with an exercise.
From the exercise we will get to:
- Find proof that things in our life have always changed
- Identify what are 3 things that you want to change
- Write down 3 small actions that we can do to accomplish the change
You will also find a Bonus affirmation that you can use daily for your personal growth.
By finding references of change, we give birth to the belief that change is possible. Pair belief with Awareness and consistent action you get to experience change. You will feel more in control of your life. From there you can allow your potential to unfold.
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0:10 Intro
0:32 Last Episode
0:55 In this episode
0:57 Exercise
1:17 Part 1 (3 things that have changed)
1:45 Get convinced change is possible
1:56 Look at others if you can't
2:05 Part 2
2:32 Things can change
3:52 Building Awareness of when
4:46 There must be a way
4:51 Change to what? Moving to vision and goals
5:26 Act small
6:06 Is the pain I endure worth it?
6:30 Feel the pain, rise up to it and deal with it
6:47 Inevitability of change
7:07 Use faith
7:16 Notice your life change
7:36 James Allen Quote
7:56 Outro
In this episode we will dive into Carol Dweck's concept from her psychological research at Stanford University. It ties in nicely with the last episode on locus of control (Controlling what we can)
Fixed vs Growth Mindset
- Fixed: You are who you are, and there isn’t much you can do about it
- Growth: Belief you can cultivate your qualities through effort, everyone can change and grow through application and experience
Depending on the task at hand we favour one mindset over the other. Our work will be about uncovering when we operate from a fixed mindset. How we can challenge that and use the growth mindset to our advantage.
Our beliefs and mindset can dictate our life. They are powerful. By challenging them we can build hope and reclaim our control to stir our life to a better direction.
Do a change ever so slightly and see how your confidence changes. See yourself grow before your very eyes. Do it once and then repeat it again and again. You build an avalanche of small tiny changes. When you add things up they have power. A grain of sand has tiny weight, but if you keep adding grains of sand you will soon have something very heavy.
0:09 Intro
0:31 In the last episode
0:49 In this episode
0:59 Henry ford quote
1:07 Growth Mindset
1:20 What is the fixed mindset
2:01 What is growth mindset
3:49 Why Should we care about growth mindset
4:54 Excusing our narrative and living by it
5:52 Heraclitus & Inevitability of Change
7:24 Change reaction and attachment
7:34 Post hypnotic suggestions
8:42 Being in the back seat
9:49 This too shall change
10:30 Building hope
10:49 It will stop when we die
12:23 Identifying and attaching to a fake self
13:24 Hate the sin not the sinner
16:03 How can I change this idea that I am no good
16:19 Mindfulness helps us see emotions and thoughts as events
17:00 To Summarise: Attitude, belief and hope
18:09 Move to growth mindset with deliberate change
19:01 Will it be hard?
19:20 Make tiny minute changes
20:20 Avalanche effect
20:25 Grains of sand
21:02 Help your mind grow by the way you use it
21:09 Outro
Life comes with its ups and downs. When we begin to notice our day to day life, we see that there are moments that we feel in control and there are moments that we don't feel we have control. Our life can easily spiral down and get out of hand.
Controlling your life comes with the understanding of a basic truth. A truth that was taught by Epictetus almost 2000 years ago.
Some things are within our control, and some things are not.
An easy concept to grasp but harder to practice. The reason is that there are a lot of grey areas that we think we can't control but we actually can. There are also things we are trying to control that are beyond our control.
Join me on this episode and discover how you can unmask your ego. Find the truth behind the things you can truly control. Why?
To regain control of yourself and your life every single day. Remember to ask yourself, "What can I control?"
0:09 Intro
0:33 Heart of stoicism
0:45 Epictetus Quote
1:11 How can you take control of your life
1:13 Locus of Control
2:27 Perception of control (Grey areas)
2:58 Why is locus of control important
3:07 Results and Expectations
4:02 What can we control?
4:52 Our Approach (Meaning & Intention)
5:04 Rippling lake
6:10 Can we control the way we react?
6:38 Attaching meaning
7:12 How to reframe a situation
9:58 Different angle
10:17 Regaining control
11:17 Acceptance and non-judgement
12:24 Self-Efficacy
13:50 Being aware
15:18 How is this showing up in your life
16:34 Accept what you can't change
17:18 Outro
In this episode, we will go over some of the questions that arise when we want to practice being present.
We will cover one of the obstacles that we face whenever we want to make any kind of change. That obstacle is the ego, the rebel inside every single one of us.
Instead of picking a fight, we will learn to allow our ego to revolt while we stay grounded. Notice the rebel come and go. By allowing ourselves to rebel without rebelling we remove the influence of the ego.
The key is to observe what happens within, and to continue acting as we intended. That way our brain gets mixed messages. We scramble the rebel while allowing it to express itself but not allowing it to stop us from progressing.
Rebellion is not an enemy, it is an ally. The friction that gets created is a stepping stone to our progress. Without it we can't move forward.
The fact that we think and feel doesn't mean we have to obey. This is how we slowly begin to understand that we are not our thoughts nor emotions. A fundamental key to mindfulness. Emotions and thoughts are transient, they come and go.
It's like observing cars passing outside of your window. We are in the house, watching cars passing by. Our fallacy is that we tend to believe we are the cars.
Next time you want to meditate and you meet the rebel within you, say "Hi" from me, then act as quickly as you can.
00:08 Intro
01:01 How long should we meditate
01:24 Consistency is key
03:32 Use a timer
04:56 What will you discover by practising mindfulness?
05:00 Ego the Rebel
06:05 Stop discussing it, get on with meditating
07:03 Rebellion while meditating
07:41 Drifting mind
08:30 Muddy waters metaphor
10:03 Build awareness in the present moment
11:09 4 steps and awareness
12:14 Managing your internal dialogue
12:47 Conclusion
13:21 Spider web analogy
14:41 Allow yourself to rebel freely
16:01 Be present
16:09 Outro
Practicing mindfulness is one habit that can change your life significantly. The reason is that it helps us get a clearer and sharper mind. It helps us become more sensitive to our internal and external world.
If meditating has been on your mind for a while, this is definitely the episode to listen to. Jump on and learn how simple it is to practice mindfulness.
0:08 Intro
1:08 Happiest man in the world
1:53 Forget about special meditations
2:41 Why should you meditate?
3:20 Seeing what's there
3:41 Water meter story
5:35 Pressing leg
6:41 When to meditate
8:08 How to meditate
12:55 Passing clouds analogy
13:13 Waves Analogy
13:54 Conclusion
14:56 Moving beyond obstacles
15:05 Calling home
15:56 Plant the seed
16:07 Outro
In the previous two episodes we talked about the model of how we experience the world. The centre of those concentric circles was us. The person which we called the observer. In our experiential bubble of the world that is where everything takes place.
In this episode we can learn to use mindfulness and come in contact with the world. Mindfulness is about bringing our attention to the present moment without any judgement.
You may wonder, how does that help us come in contact with ourselves?
By looking outside we can learn a lot form nature. We shift our attention outside of ourselves. When we do so, all the noise within tends to slow down. All the internal chatter and emotions tend to ease off. Allowing us to be free from any internal interference. Learn to look at the world with curiosity and its wisdom will shine within you.
In the last episode, we talked about swapping unpleasant to pleasant experiences. One of my 3-5 things that put me in balance is to be mindful in nature – fully aware and curious.
In this episode we explore the importance of a mindfulness practice. You will get to listen a mini meditation. Practising allows us to be in touch with our environment. Despite focusing out there, we get to come in contact with ourselves.
The observer (You) begins to see the world more clearly, undistorted from emotions and thoughts. The lens that we view the world becomes clearer.
As we reclaim our inner balance, we get beauty, harmony, love. We get to be one with the world out there.
Take these learnings and head over to nature. In there find your connection with the world. Observe and notice what happens as you find a connection with yourself.
This is the external practice of mindfulness. Focusing outwards. In a different episode we will talk about being mindful of what happens within.
Episode Notes00:10 Welcome
00:30 Previous episode
00:53 In This episode
01:02 Mindfulness
01:31 Focusing on the outside world
01:49 Disco/Club Analogy
04:58 Mindfulness exercise
09:12 Our inner world reflects on the outer world
10:12 Conclusion
11:38 Outro
Understanding how we experience the world is not enough for us to be able to navigate it successfully. We have to use the model to our benefit.
Can we change how we experience the world? Is there a deliberate way of doing this. A way that doesn’t leave things to chance.
Yes, there is. With questions.
Questions are powerful. Questions help us shift our attention and direct our mind. We get a compass that we can use to navigate our world.
By following the questions we start to be deliberate on how we experience the world. We begin to design pleasurable thoughts and emotions. As an effect how we feel about others and ourselves changes. How we view the world changes.
Download the questions pdf before listening to the new episode.
It lists the question in a clear way making it easier for you to craft your experience of the world.
Outline
- 01:48 Before we start
- 02:12 In short
- 02:37 Why work on the negative
- 04:18 What are 3-5 things put me out of balance
- 05:45 What are 3-5 things put me in balance
- 11:19 Summarise 4 step formula
- 11:27 In conclusion
- 11:47 If you can remember only one thing
Discover the model of reality that we use on our daily life. By understanding the model of how we experience the world we are more able to change. Find out how we experience the world around us and within us.
One of the biggest anchor is life is when we hold a grudge to someone. When someone did something at sometime and we don't seem to be able to rub it off. Follow me in a journey of self discovery and self reflection. Find out today how you can let go of those negative emotions. Then you can fly freely in the present and the future.
Love and let go.
Topics* Why would I need to forgive someone? * What happens when we're bitter towards others? * How did I come to this forgiveness stuff? * The Big Great Guard * How does this great guard operate? * Ego Trip * How do I want to experience my life? * Why do we feel stuck and the need to forgive someone? * How can I stop blaming other people? * Keep your boundaries
Things to remember:* It's time to move on with your life, don't just listen to this, do the work. * How am I feeling now? * What would I like to feel instead? * How can I change how I am feeling now? * If you can't love yourself then whom can you love?
Bonus: A free guided meditation that will help you to forgive others.
Buy the downloadable version at https://www.insidetreasures.com/the-art-of-forgiveness/