Ian and Diana discuss deal breakers in their new marriage based on questions they found online. The questions are as follows:
- What are some things we would never come back from? Deal breakers?
- What are some things you would be open to with discussion?
- What is considered infidelity to you? Discuss your definitions of an emotional affair, sexual integrity issues including physical and sexual affair, and more. Be very honest and open here in terms of your expectations and fear.
- What is your opinion on birth control?
- What could make you lose your trust in me? Discuss red lights and green lights from each perspective. What will you not put up with and what is OK with you.
- When do you feel most supported? Least supported? How do you like to be supported?
- In what ways should I show you that I love you?
- What Do You Appreciate Most About Your Partner and Your Relationship?
- How can we better Handle Relationships With our Families?
- How Will we Resolve Future Conflicts?
- How do you handle arguments?
- Would you want us to get couples therapy if we were having problems?
- Is career more important than family?
- Do you discuss issues as they arise or deal with them later?
- If I have a disagreement with your family, which side would you choose?
- What does spirituality mean to you?
- What are your religious/ beliefs about marriage? If you don’t share the same faith or views on faith, you will certainly have future struggles, especially in parenting. Be specific here about what is important to you when it comes to practicing your faith etc.
- What does sex mean to you?
- How many times a week would you want to have sex?
- What is your best sexual fantasy?
- What is the most reliable way to achieve satisfaction?
- What turns you off?
- What gets you in the mood?
- Do you have any fears about sex? Is there anything you are holding back?
- Do you have any feelings or thoughts about each other’s sexual history prior to knowing them?
- How do your trust issues show up in sex and your partner’s interactions with the opposite sex?
- How do you look at spending vs saving? How much do you value money? What should our monthly budget look like?
- How should we handle finances now that we are married? (Joined or separate?) If separate, what are the reasons for not willing to share our assets? Is it trust or something else?
- What role would you want to play in the marriage? What do you mean by role here clarify it?
- What role would you expect me to play? Clarify it with your partner here: in which aspects of your marriage or home life etc.
- How should we divide household chores?
- Who will make the biggest decisions in the family? Be clear and specific about what type of decisions.
- What do you think is the most difficult thing or issue about marriage?
- Do you have a health issue that I should know of?
- How would you like to spend or how would we decide to spend our Holiday breaks with our parents or extended family? Discuss expectations here.
Outro credit belongs to Jeroen -WAVE- Tel at https://modarchive.org/index.php?request=view_profile&query=83766
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