in this episode we get some of background on the genesis of Donna's therapeutic practice (1978-present) & what led her down the path she's followed for the last 40+ years. we explore the concept of programmed belief systems & begin unpacking their impact on our behaviors & relationships individually & societally.

some of what we touch on includes:

• 4 internalized fear based beliefs:

  • "i am not enough"
  • "there is not enough"
  • "control will keep me safe"
  • "rejection is inevitable

• the skill of moving toward feeling/being enough

  • i care
  • i forgive
  • i love

• energetic boundaries

  • the wetsuit
  • the forcefield

• the important role of curiosity & compassion when engaging with reactivity in ourselves & our relations.

  • a curiosity cultivation process of:
    • noticing
    • pausing
    • working with vagal tone
    • inquiring within
    • sharing reflection & connecting with curiosity

• the splitting of masculine & feminine values:

  • masculine (societally emphasized):
    • achievement
    • logic
    • competition
    • independence
    • doing
  • feminine (societally demoted):
    • relationship
    • emotion
    • cooperation
    • interdependence
    • being

Links:

"What Happened to You" - Dr. Perry + Oprah

Internal Family Systems - Richard Schwartz

Dr Joe Dispenza

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