Dannelle speaks with @MomOfMyMom creator, Jacquelyn Revere. In this episode, Jacquelyn shares about the recent and sudden loss of her mother and how she is learning to grieve while still engaging with her social media community. Dannelle and Jacquelyn discuss the importance of creating communities for care partners, the “in flux” period we experience after our loved one passes, and finding opportunities for joy in difficult moments.
“I am saying harsh things to people that I love. I'm not showing up sometimes as the person that I wanna be. And I know it's coming from a place of hurt, but I also am like trying to say, “look, you caused harm and it's because you’re feeling harmed and/or in pain and/or hurt. Do what you can to rectify that, but also don't continue shaming yourself also. That's been like really important for me lately. Just like, giving myself as much grace as I can.” - Jacquelyn Revere
Timestamps* 03:29 Jacquelyn’s recent decision about her stutter and showing up more authentically * 7:42 Jacquelyn’s 3 core values * 11:26 Giving yourself grace during periods of grief * 15:49 Jacquelyn’s experience connecting with caregivers through creating social media content * 22:16 The juxtaposition between grief and relief after a loved one dies * 26:16 Figuring out what’s next after losing a loved one you were caring for * 28:58 What Jacquelyn is passionate about outside of caregiving
Actionable Tips1) How we respond to the difficulties and obstacles in our lives is a choice that takes time to master. Try to focus on the love and the laughter that helps us find our way forward through uncertainty.
2) There is no singular expression of grief. Grief is complex. We can simultaneously feel a desperate heartbreak, relief, and hopefulness about what might be next. Be kind to yourself, however you are in that moment. It allows us to stay present and intentional with the emotions we're experiencing.
3) We are changed by the experience of caregiving in a way that can enrich our lives when our loved one is no longer here. Continue to reflect on what was learned from caregiving to honor ourselves and our loved ones in a way that can help others on their journey.
4) Grieving requires a different kind of support. Find others who understand what it's like to lose a loved one, whether that's someone you already know, a support group, or faith-based organization. Mom of My Mom has an amazing chronicle of what it's like when we lose our person after caregiving that helps us feel not so alone in grief.
5) When you're ready, consider reaching out to friends to connect and hold space for you as you need it. Know that it's okay to also make time for joy as we grieve and begin a new phase of life.
About Jacquelyn Revere Jacquelyn Joyce Revere is a television writer, director, and producer. She was born and raised in Inglewood, California. A professed theatre nerd, she studied Shakespeare at Oxford University before receiving her Bachelors and Masters in Fine Arts. After graduate school, Jacquelyn became the ambassador for AIS (The American Institute for Stuttering).
As their Ambassador, she has traveled to 3 continents connecting with other stutterers and facilitating week long improv courses. Her speaking engagements garnered her a following which quickly grew her YouTube channel dedicated to visibility and advocacy for the stuttering community.
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