Do you identify as a fixer? I sure did. This episode explores why fixing other people is a response to our own internal discomfort, and how much our desire (and ability) to serve another person can be amplified once we address our fixing/rescuing/helping behaviours. I touch on:
Why doing the work for someone else is not a strategy.
The purpose of venting and why we need to allow others to navigate those murky waters by simply holding space.
Allowing others to make mistakes and absorb their own unique lessons … even when it hurts.
Why the belief of “I can do hard things” must be learned internally versus taught.
Understanding what your internal motivators are to fixing or rescuing others: how can you seek validation or to demonstrate your value outside of fixing.
This simple truth: that fixing is selfish. And when you fix, you remove the ability for someone else to grow.
The flip-side of fixing: you’re not bad, you’re not
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